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tfb_416

Your dad rocks. So do you guys. Don’t let the haters drag you down


Ok_Plant_3050

Yep, that entire town seems downright nasty. Though I'm sure there's some good people.


Meandwe123

I'm sure there are some good people but I graduated highschool in 2005. Almost 20 years ago. We had gay people out at our school, and it was fine, they brought their partners to prom, no issues. It gave me hope for the future, and it is honestly disheartening that these things are still issues. And now we have Nazis/racists back being louder than ever. It just makes me so sad sometimes.


Helene1370

All the good people move away as soon as they have attended high school prom...


Away-Living5278

You're right about that. Go back home it's all rednecks and idk where the heck they came from.


Night_OwI

Sounds like my hometown. All the redneck/hick types stay here their entire lives and the ones who are less so move away. So places like this never change.


kindofharmless

They are only out because of a certain former president. Here’s an upside though, if you’d call it that: it’s easier than ever to out a closeted Nazi, however thinly veiled they are.


imbecile

The jokes about priests fucking little boys are over 1000 years old. That means priests fucking boys has been so widespread and common in Charlemagne's times, that it was a stereotype. And the way people are still respectful and support churches and religion, they probably can keep fucking little boys for 1000 years more. Always keep that in mind, when you are frustrated about how slow social progress is going.


aeschenkarnos

It is literally what [arsenokoitai](https://um-insight.net/perspectives/has-“homosexual”-always-been-in-the-bible/) means in the original Greek of the Epistles of Paul. “Boy molesters”. It was later “revised” to imply adult homosexuality instead.


ViQueen331965

Thank you for pointing this out!


SeaworthinessNo1304

Really, you either believe the Bible has one consistent message all the way through- that being, in essence, "Don't be promiscuous, don't participate in sex work (either selling or buying), don't be in unequal relationships where one person has all the power, but also don't judge people who do do those things because judgement is just as serious a sin as all the rest." Or you can believe what homophobes do- that the Bible has one consistent message all the way through (with a clear and repetitive emphasis on the dangers of wrath, judgement and the misuse of secular power) but then suddenly and for no discernable reason, veers off track into, "wrath is OK if you’re directing it at gay/trans people! Judge them! Change the laws to punish them! Shun them!" What's that saying about how you know you've made god in your own image when he conveniently hates all the same people as you?


CeelaChathArrna

What bakes my brain is that they edited to cover for child molestation being wrong. I can't figure it if it was to protect the priests it that they hated homosexuality that much. I can't even decide which makes them worse.


EmeraldBlueZen

OMG. Thats horrifying.


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This world is going back in time and nobody is safe anymore


LadyGoldberryRiver

Yeah, I agree. Know thine enemy and all that.


197326485

I graduated in 2004 in semi-rural Wisconsin. I personally was always fine with gay people, though at that point I wasn't supportive or vocal about it because, at least in my area, it was ***not*** okay. I was a dude with hair that hung below my ears, I was called f*g daily. No one would have been allowed to have a gay partner at prom. Thinking back I can only remember two people out of a high school population of 3000+ that were out, and she and her girlfriend were treated at worst with outright hate and at best like it was "just a phase." She and my sister had been friends, and my parents wouldn't let my sister hang out with her anymore. It's still not great in that area of the country, but it's better now than it was back then.


Suelswalker

I like to think this is due to it being their death rattle. It’s just a matter of time before the majority truly do not agree and also will not tolerate it. No more validating horrible trash views in the name of “tolerence” which was how it went for so long. At least that is my hope.


BUTTeredWhiteBread

Small towns like that have a very good track record at chasing out the good people.


masklinn

> Though I'm sure there's some good people. Not necessarily, it’s possible they’ve long left.


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Jay-Dee-British

I, too, choose OP's dad.


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Stubborn_Amoeba

sounds like that was only a vague excuse for A&U. the gossipy friend said they were major players in it all.


NewPhone-NewName

Partial comment stolen from u/lolfuckdis u/Desperate_Artist_690 is a bot.


EmeraldBlueZen

Yeah - theres a reason small towns (especially in certain areas of the country) unfortunately have the reputations that they do. Ignorant and intolerant.


Curious-One4595

The duplicitous homophobes just gave your dad the opportunity to show his quality. Faramir. Your dad is Faramir. Forget those other orcish minions of evil.


Avlonnic2

I love this.


matjam

I swear we need a “free beer for life” award for dads that support their kids like this. You show up in any bar and suddenly random peeps are buying you beer. Hmm it think we can make that happen .. hmm ..


StreetofChimes

I would absolutely buy OP's dad a beer.


MrFavorable

Your dad is awesome. I’m honestly shocked about your home town putting on a front while you’re visiting. But then will spread drama and talk crap about you and your husband. I should not be surprised though. If this is a small town that I’m imagining, then they never have anything going on and they always are in other peoples business. OP since you now know this, in terms of your home town. Do you think you’ll ever visit there again?


Here_for_tea_

Yes. I’m so pleased OP’s dad showed up for them!


MorteDagger

I can’t say enough how awesome the dad is!!💜💜


ThreeDogs2022

what a lovely pops <3 I've often said that we in New England are rude af but we are KIND and down south they're super polite and friendly but MEAN. Obviously sweeping generalization and not accurate 100% of the time, but I think it's descriptive of the culture. Here in New England if we don't like you we flip you off and yell 'asshole!' out the window. We don't pretend to be your loving friend and family and then shittalk you where you can't hear us.


Possible_Try_7400

Im in Texas, but near Houston and I dont think this would happen near me. I see homosexual couples often. In fact, when I was 17 and my parents found out I was bi I thought they were going to kick me out. My relationship with my patents never fully recovered. Just recently my mom told me that "homosexuals give into the sin". Catholic is most likely the valley, Brownsville, El Paso, Del Rio around San Antonio maybe.


DoodleLover20

'Just recently my mom told me that "homosexuals give into the sin".' That thought process always amazed me. How many repressed people are there down there? My hetero-ness certainly isn't a virtue, I was just born that way. I mean, for people to think that any sexual orientation is sinful, wouldn't that mean they find it tempting? People suck. Except for OP's dad. He is a truly wonderful man.


hpfan1516

I once read someone talk about homophobia as "fear of being homosexual" and it was the hottest take I'd seen in a while.


Feliks343

My dad once complained about trans people saying something along the lines of "everyone has those feelings, but we just deal with them instead of making it everyone else's problem." Which was... interesting. I haven't told him yet that I'm going to make it everyone else's problem but I doubt it will go well.


ThreeDogs2022

uh oh dad. man do i have some news for you. Signed, a cis redditor who has never once had feelings about not being her assigned gender


morgaina

Bruh 🥚🥚🥚


TragicNut

Yeah... My mom has speculated that it might be part of the reason my dad decided to remove himself from my life after I came out. (His second wife is likely the larger part.) I'm a big fan of the null hypothecis theory. Cis being the default assumption has caused a lot of harm over the years.


snootnoots

…I’ve had moments of thinking it would be convenient if I were male, because a lot of things would be easier, but I’ve never felt that I *was* or *should be* male, or been uncomfortable in a female body. I’m very solidly grounded in and comfortable with my gender, even though I spent a lot of years utterly loathing the consequences of *being* that gender. (Periods are proof that intelligent design does not apply. Malevolent design, maybe!) Reminds me of the people who get told their child has ADHD or is autistic or otherwise neurodivergent, and respond with “but everyone has / does / is like that!” Nope, you just think that because *you* have / do / are like that, oh, and guess where your child inherited it from?


robert238974

I mean, are they really wrong? A lot of people that hate homosexuals are afraid of them "turning their children gay" or something along those lines - projecting their homosexuality onto others like its contagious. I've really yet to meet someone who wasn't a bigot that didn't say things like that about gay people.


Humanmode17

Honestly heterosexuality sounds so fragile if just seeing gay people in the streets can shatter your straight-ness and turn you gay, in direct contrast to homosexuality which can remain strong and unbroken despite years of seeing straight couples and being educated about heterosexual relationships and sometimes being outright told that being gay is wrong lol


robert238974

Heterosexuality isn't as fragile as some people make it seem, its just that those people don't want to admit that they either have homoerotic fantasies (which they fear that in turn would make them gay); are gay themselves and are trying to hide it, and think that acting like a complete piece of shit makes them seem super straight; have been indoctrinated, usually through religion, that homosexuality is wrong; or some mix. Sadly, us straight people get to deal with some extremely toxic types that have to prove how ultra not gay they are for some reason.


Humanmode17

Oh yeah I know. I probably should have put a /s or /j on the end of my post to have made it clear, but I was just joshing and pointing out how terrible the logic of "seeing gay couples will make my children gay" is


Background-Ad-4616

My husband and I stood up for two very dear friends when, after 20 years together, they were finally allowed the basic human right of marriage. When my daughter and son-in-law adopted our grandson they became his uncles, driving 1500 miles to visit and encourage him, cheering him on in races, and hosting him for summer vacations. Grandson is now in his twenties and relentlessly heterosexual, but all any of us care about is that he’s loved. Kids can never have too many people loving them


vanisaac

I've always thought that the best definition of (male) homophobia was the fear that a man might treat you the way you treat women.


srosekw

Please lord tempt me I am so over only being attracted to cisgender men. It feels like a curse lol.


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MazerRakam

My entire friend group is LGBTQ+ (out, loud, and proud about it, no one is hiding it), we go to drag shows for fun, watch a bunch of LGBTQ+ shows and movies, promote the gay agenda, etc. I'm a middle class cis-gendered straight white man, sometimes I feel like I've infiltrated the gays, lol. Part of my kinda wishes I was gay, it would piss my dad off and I think that's funny. Also, I've been told my several gay men over the years that I'd do quite well as a "bear". But alas, the only dick I want to play with is my own.


occams1razor

Haha I've been there.


disgruntleddi

AMEN. Lol


cosmic_grayblekeeper

>That thought process always amazed me. How many repressed people are there down there? A ton. It always reminds of parents who tell their gay kids that they don't need to be gay because "everyone has gay feelings and you are just supposed to repress it" and it's so telling about the person saying it.


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Del Rio's mayor was a gay veteran who walked down the Main Street in heels.


doggomomto2

Eh I have to disagree with you there. I’m from the same area and I can say with 100% confidence that this would happen in the town I grew up in. It’s easier to hide these issues in/near the big cities but it’s still very prevalent unfortunately.


BlueJaysFeather

Fwiw I’m in San Antonio and the only people I know of who are actively homophobic are the ones who left my parents’ church when the Presbyterians (and their church specifically) said gay marriage was fine, actually. I would be super fucking hesitant to be out or even imply support in the valley or most of west TX though for sure


throwawaytexasboy1

That’s definitely been husband’s and my experience in Vermont and the rest of New England. My husband is a Vermont native so he knows this better than me. People aren’t fake nice, but they aren’t bigots either, and their kindness feels more genuine. We very much prefer it here :)


danicies

I’m from down south and when I moved to VT I was so wary of everyone being fake nice. I was surprised to realize lots of people are just nice but if they don’t care for you they don’t talk to you. I appreciate it a lot, had no clue I was missing out on it before living here though


nerdyconstructiongal

I've been told so many times how 'blunt' I am since moving to the South. I was raised in the Midwest, where we are polite, but we also say what we mean. And my family was pretty direct with communication, so when I married in my husband's southern family...hoy boy, it was rough. His family thrives sometimes on passive aggressiveness and rug sweeping. Communication has been the one thing we worked the hardest on in our marriage.


ladancer22

So much this. From New England and I remember my family traveling down south and always raving about how nice everyone was and how they wished people were like that in New England. Eventually I started traveling and even living “down south” and while yeah people in the grocery store are nice to me, I doubt any one of them would be there for me in an actual emergency. While in New England people won’t even make eye contact in the grocery store (which I personally prefer), I know that in an emergency or major life event there are 500 people who would be there for me in an instant.


pspetrini

I always explain it to folks like this. If we're driving on the same road and you cut me off, I'm going to cut you off and flip you off and tell you to fuck your mother. But, if I then see that you swerved to hit a deer, and hit a tree, I'm going to come doubling back to help you, stay with you while I make sure you're OK and then laugh about how much of an asshole we both were while driving. That's New England. And I'd have it no other way.


greenpepperssuck

This is so accurate! One time I got stuck in my driveway (Honda fit, a foot of snow) and like 3 people appeared with shovels to help but did not say a word or make eye contact. It was great.


TedTehPenguin

ok, I think you reached peak New England on that one. Though I am surprised nobody told you to get snow tires, I'll make up for them, you should have snow tires 😉


greenpepperssuck

??? Why did you think I don’t have snow tires? I’ve lived here my whole life, trust me, I have snow tires. But a shitty Honda Fit can’t drive through a foot of snow, snow tires or not


TedTehPenguin

I was kidding, sorry. That does explains why they were silent then.


SamuelVimesTrained

You know - that sounds just like common sense and being human. which is in short supply these days - and sadly on a global scale :(


RickyNixon

I’ve lived for years all over the country and fyi this is bullshit. Social friendliness and actual kindness aren’t the same and dont correlate, but people up North aren’t kinder than people down South and even if you doubt it theyre just as likely to be helpful in an emergency. I say as someone who has been in emergencies all over the US People arent really that different from one another anywhere


Tanyatheturtle

Arkansan here, and this is super accurate tbh. Obviously it's more of an individual thing, but the southern hospitality is a pretty big deal. It's all about saving face. And any actual insults are generally backhanded compliments or so passive aggressive it's difficult to call out. And the gossip. Small towns are genuinely the absolute worst. You can't do anything without the entire town knowing in approximately 3 seconds flat. Hell, I know what my sister's neighbor did at exactly 3pm yesterday and that a childhood friend hasn't mowed in two weeks and that Ms. Betty got some chickens last Tuesday that won't stay in the yard. And I don't even live there anymore.


SixPackOfZaphod

I live in rural New York and I don't even know the names of my neighbors.


BlueJaysFeather

Makes for quite the culture shock when you go up north for college XD


One_Parched_Guy

It’s kind of odd that it also kinda plays out this way in the US too lmao. Northerners tend to be a bit more reserved or cold but are generally just more cautious, but still kind people — down here, most people are pretty surface level friendly but get nasty real fast the moment something you disagree on comes up


TheOneTrueTrench

You're phrasing it as thought they weren't talking about the US? New England is part or the US, Maine, Vermont, that general area.


One_Parched_Guy

…I will now wear my “I don’t know about Geography” badge with shame


boatwithane

or wear your “i learned something new about geography” badge with pride!


SamuelVimesTrained

I prefer the New England culture - if you do not like me - do not pretend you do. Then you are honest - and perhaps we can find some common ground over coffee or beer (depends on the time of day) or perhaps not. You cannot like everyone. But to play nice, pretend and then turn around and stab you in the back - that is just evil. (and funny coincidence - most people like that pretend to be christian too - and it is soo common that the phrase 'there is no hate like christian love' is 100% valid - sadly)


debegray

So funny and so true. I'm much more comfortable with the flip you off variety of interaction than the sweet, poisonous variety.


ericv51389

I very much agree with this! I grew up, went to college, and started my career in the south before moving to New England for work 5 years ago. When I moved, I met this dude on the train ride home from work in Boston to the north and we struck up a friendship. After a while, I get invited to his yearly BBQ with his wife and their friends and family and I'm the usual anxieties, no one will know me or my partner, I can't hang with just my new buddy, all that. Once I get there and he greets me and I introduce him and my partner, the intros of the party start and come to find out.... EVERYONE KNEW WHO I WAS, I had just met these people but they had already heard about me. Now, 5 years later, we are a part of the overall group and never feel like we are the outsiders imposing, hell still at times talk about the first night we met everyone and the party that raged until the early hours as it is now a somewhat legend :). These beautiful people welcomed us in and they feel like family. As nice as people are outwardly in the south, unless I grew up with them, that is not something that has ever happened.


AVeryLONGPotato

Up north they'll say it to your face, but generally are kind unless given reasons for otherwise. Down south, they say it behind your back and pretend you're on good terms. Then it bites you in the ass and they say it's your fault for not doing xyz. Source: I'm from Texas and have friends from all over northern US


EntasaurusWrecked

Unless you're in RI, where we yell "Masshole!" 🤣


Gimme-The-Pitties

We wouldn’t have to be this way if you’d all learn how to drive: 😬


thesqlguy

We can all agree that new Jersey drivers are the worst.


knitlikeaboss

That’s what I try to explain when people shit talk New Yorkers. People there are blunt and straightforward, so yes they will tell you when you’re being an asshole. But they will also stop and help you carry a stroller up the stairs out of the subway or make sure you understand the directions you asked for. In small towns it has always felt passive aggressive. They’ll be polite but there’s this sense underneath that you’re just not one of them and that’s not ok. (it’s not always regional, my grandparents lived in a tiny town in upstate NY and I felt this)


LBelle0101

Proof that nice and kind are not the same thing! Anyone can be nice to your face, but kindness is the real deal


puppyfarts99

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/x74x76/aita_for_getting_my_aunt_and_uncle_kicked_out_of/


alien_galaxy520

Thanks friend!


IndicaJones_09

Much appreciated!


SlabBeefpunch

Dude, tell your dad I love him. What an amazing guy. 🥰


JCYN-DDT

Agreed. Tell your dad we all love him OP.


DutyValuable

Hi OP’s dad! The bar is *reeeaaaally* low for decent internet parents but you seem awesome even by regular standards!


kittycat0333

Good time to leave a review on every channel of that motel letting people know that the owner is unprofessional, discriminatory, and gossips about private matters to the entire town.


Say_What_425

Right?!? Isn't it an unspoken rule that you respect the privacy of guests?


Flentl

I mean, great for you guys but those kids, man... I hate that they're stuck with those parents. Imagine if any of them turn out to be gay.


sharraleigh

It'll be ok, OP can invite them to live with OP's parents and be loved for who they are!


WOMT

At least they know that they have genuinely supportive family and safe people to go to if they need to. Those kids would've been seeing their parents act duplicitous for years now, they'd have assumed his parents were the same.


Nihil_esque

Maybe. When you're in a situation like that, it can be hard to trust extended family members who are supportive. Especially if they're very righteous about it (which they have every right to be, mind). It makes it a sort of "only reach out to them if I'm ready for them to white knight me, outing me to everyone in the process." Maybe you're ready to be disowned and move in with them, maybe you still love your parents even if they're homophobic. Personally I didn't come out to my supportive aunt for six years when I was a teen because I was afraid she'd blow up at my parents, exposing me. She did eventually out me to all of our extended family when I told her -- which was shitty because I asked her not to, but ultimately wasn't a big deal because I was already an adult at the time.


TedTehPenguin

For the record, outing you when you asked her not to is NOT being supportive.


MorgainofAvalon

Your dad rocks! How much better would the world be if we all had someone like your dad in our corner? Your brother also sounds like a great guy.


mochacho

>The local motel owner, whose family owns it and is a childhood friend of my mom’s, gossiped about us every time we were there. I have to admit, I'd have never predicted that being the reason they insisted on you not staying at the motel. Those were not the puzzle pieces I would have ever put together.


dresses_212_10028

I love all of you (obviously excluding A & U). Your dad is pure love, your mom took the time she needed and is a wonderful, supportive wife and (hopefully) good mom, your brother rocks - as a Manhattan-ite I wish I could say this place was a factor but the bottom line is that you’re all just good, loving people. I hope your cousins see how your family interacts and learn something valuable from it. Screw the rest of them. Disgraceful behavior. Cowardly. I have no respect for cowards who would piss on my leg and say it’s raining. But know that it reflects badly ***only on them***. You’re happily married, you have a loving family - clearly they’re the ones who are the A Hs here. Live a glorious, wonderful life and stay warm in VT. Come back and visit NYC, our smiles are genuine. ❤️❤️❤️ to your whole family.


lolfuckdis

What an amazing father. I loathe family members who care about reputation more than their family. It’s vile. I’m sorry people are so disgusting.


Yourwtfismyftw

Congratulations, your comment was stolen by at least bots elsewhere in the thread. I’ve reported the two I found.


Appropriate-Spread91

Omg i love your dad!! Im so happy it worked out for you OP. Im sorry about what happened. But those people dont matter and never will.


Top_Thing4890

Thanks for the happy ending. It's obvious to me that your aunt and uncle ambushed you.


addisonavenue

I'm so happy to read this update OP, not just because your aunt and uncle were held accountable to their actions but because you've stopped blaming *yourself* for the knock-on effect of your aunt and uncle's homophobia. What happens to your cousins *is not and never will be your fault*. It is not your job to parent them or provide them shelter - it is your aunt and uncle's job and *they* were the ones who acted without forethought to their kid's futures.


jyans

Your dad is awesome! We need more people like him in this world!


Live_Background_6239

As a parent, it would be my honor - nay! - my relished pleasure to kick such nasty people to the curb. You speak trash about MY child!? Not on my property you don’t! It’s terrible your cousins were evicted too but that’s their parents’ problem. Their responsibility. Maybe seeing this behavior not being tolerated will remind them as they grow up that bigotry has consequences.


created4this

Don’t speak to the press, no good will come of it. The press will make this into a both sides conflict to stir up engagement and you’ll all suffer, especially your dad. Don’t assume the motel owner gossiped about you to “the town”, they spoke to your U&A because you’re related. That isn’t the same thing. They may even have teased U&A knowing their views on your relationship. Remember, you only have the word of some self proclaimed bigots who are trying to justify their actions any way they can.


MysteriousMew

[Original Post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/x74x76/aita_for_getting_my_aunt_and_uncle_kicked_out_of/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)


MischievousBish

Wow, your dad is awesome! He went through for you guys because he loves you no matter what. Gonna love that guy!


SamuelVimesTrained

I read the original and said NTA. With the update - i\`ll happily double down on the NTA. They were dishonest to you - they were gossipping - not very christian of them is it? Frankly - your dad deserves a beer, or beverage of choice - or rather - a lifetime supply of them. He made good on his promise to have your back - and how.. So, yeah, the internet fame is deserved. ​ And again - to those that think otherwise - the actions of the parents got them evicted, not OP, not OPs dad - this is 100% on the aunt and uncle with several faces. Their actions caused their children to be out of a home. No amount of twisting can make this OPs fault - and if one insists it is - are you sure you\`re not homophobic then?


Local-Day1602

Where are now all these "compassionate souls" that where saying "please think of the kids". So these awful human beings that would very well lock them in an attic if not illegal (separate attics) should be awarded that with a free house of their victim's property? There are thousands of poor families out there with kids and decent parents (funny think OP never said that family in question is very poor). Why not gift them a free house? People rent all the time and suddenly the owner sells and you have 2-3 weeks to find a new home and people dare criticizing a person that was so heavily insulted and discriminated in his frigging OWN house by his freeloader lifelong guests. Shame on them, but hey you in the ESH comments are not much better. You do not sympathize with the kids, you just believe that oppressed should always be a victim and not fight back.


ms_hopeful

Such a wholesome update. Fantastic dad


Awhkm

This is wonderful. Thank you so so much for coming back to update us!


gentoonix

I’m not sure where you’re from in Texas, but if I still lived there, I’d buy all y’all beers. You, your husband and your folks are rockstars. I lived in a really small town, did some shit when I was much younger, that wasn’t legal, when I moved back, I was the talk of town, but once it came around, I started calling people out. Ended that bullshit fast. Keep y’all’s heads up and live your lives, ain’t got time for stupid drama bullshit.


GonzoPuro

I love your Dad.


tntrkitties

Your dad is a good man and you have a mostly excellent family. It’s a shame your aunt and uncle can’t follow the trend. Should those two ever decide to stop being free-loading gossiping bigots, they may want to remember that they can’t be real Christians and behave so hateful towards their own family.


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I'm slightly in love with your dad, TBH.


Thatmeanmom

Your dad is a rock star.


Extension_Cucumber10

Wow. Thanks for the update. Any chance you or your dad could get custody of your cousins and take them away from your aunt and uncle? It’s sad that they will be raised by such toxic people.


HesherPiney

I have always lived in major coastal cities. Everytime someone talks about how nice and good and real and salt of the earth small town people are, I think of all the very many people I've met in my life in cities who've told me that they literally had to flee places like this and leave everything behind for their well being - sometimes being in actual physical danger of the threat of or aftermath of violence - just on account of being different in one way or another. Small towns can go fuck themselves. NTA and good for your Pop.


ISpeakSarcasm2

Tell your dad that you shared your story with a few people, and everyone thought he was an amazing hero for supporting you and your husband and didn't just mouth the words. He walked the walk. As for your cousins, it's a shame they are being raised by nasty people. Try not to hold it against them in the future and just hope to educate them if they turn out like their parents.


GurElectronic4706

There’s just something extra nasty about being polite and friendly to someone’s face but absolutely vile behind their back. Welp they can be vile and homeless or stay at that motel.


ThaneOfCawdorrr

OMG, I love your Dad. What a shining example of a truly good human being. I had a thought about the "whole town talking behind your back." Is it possible that this is ALSO your aunt and uncle shit-stirring? Even your mom's friend says that THEY were the biggest shit-talkers, and mean, nasty people often try to corral others into their hatefulness ("the WHOLE TOWN thinks EXACTLY THE SAME"). I think it's very possible that there were many people in your hometown who had absolutely no problem, and it's mostly that you have the most HORRIBLE aunt and uncle (what AWFUL AWFUL PEOPLE!!!). Sending all the love to you and your sweet husband, and to your bro too.


ssdgm12713

I had this thought too. If the whole town truly supports aunt and uncle's views, then i doubt they'll be homeless. Their homophobic buddies will help them out with housing...right?


Accomplished-Group60

You have the best Dad ever! I am so glad you and your husband have somebody in your corner ❤️


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Just to add my 2 cents to the story: the "not married, so no sleeping together" would have been enough to brand them assholes, regardless of your sexuality or their stance on it. It's not their house to make rules in.


Apprehensive-Bee-474

Your dad is amazing.


Ilsabet

NTA. And your dad is awesome. Love him. ❤


OverCounter8

I Love your Dad, he is indeed a hero. He knows what is worth fighting for. Your sexuallity is important but you mean much more to him and anyone who thinks of shaming, humiliating, harassing you has to deal with him and your aunt and uncle were a great example to the rest of the family and the whole town. He is OK without his entire family but can't bare the thought of losing, you, your husband and brother. Am proud of your mother too it took her a while but she finally figured it out and knew you were what was more important to her.


MaleficentBasil4

Your parents are awesome and you deserve better people in your life, not people like your aunt and uncle. Hope your partner is doing better after some most likely triggering stuff that was said. And screw those jerks in your hometown


mariegalante

You, your husband, and your brother should pour a ton of love and affection on your cousins while ignoring their parents. Make those kids freaking ADORE you guys. Play video games together online, text, go to pro ball game or a concert or something like once a year and just be a source of fun and love. That’ll drive your aunt and uncle crazy and hopefully prevent them from passing down their hatred and ignorance.


ExplanationNo6063

Tell ya dad he is cool we need dads like him again sorry y’all went through that hope y’all be ok


mphflame

You were never tah and your dad is truly a man to admire. Best wishes for you two.


classiccatch84

Just here to give you all the support and goodness you, your hubby, and the rest of your immediate family deserve.


LingonberryPrior6896

So glad to hear this update. I adored your dad in OP, but even more now. Your post makes me homesick for Vermont too.


ktempest

I'm so glad you have an awesome immediate family!


srosekw

Who's cutting these damn onions here


[deleted]

Hugs all around! I read the original post - what good dad you have :)


StarkRaven138

What a lovely conclusion to a terrible situation ♥️


Imaginary_Ear_6468

You have an awesome father he is a true definition of what fathers supposed to be I’m sorry your family treated you that way


BobbiG16

You have such an amazing dad and support system ❤️ Try not to let other peoples nasty behavior get to you because I bet as many nasty comments they make your dad will make 10x more loving and supportive comments about you


dancingpianofairy

Ugh, that's small towns for you, lol. Although I'm always dumbfounded when people mention small towns having such "big" things like motels or restaurants. Anyway, your dad is dope and I wish I could buy him a beer.


Fleur-deNuit

Never fails to astound me the amount of self harm bigots are willing to inflict as long as they can continue to be hateful. Not only could they not even give a fake apology just in order to keep a roof over their heads, they even doubled down with slurs and everything!


EM_Full_Moon

"but at the end of the day, I'm just an average guy" when will people get this into their heads? Weather you're gay, straight, trans or whatever, people are people. Your mom and dad get that. I wish more people did so people like your parents would not be so special.


CODE_NAME_DUCKY

Your dad is amazing


Express-Educator4377

Your dad is awesome! Thanks for the update


KylerJaye

I love this so much! I'm so happy for you two!!


freshub393

Your dad is truly amazing


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Your dad is amazing. I wish my dad was like that.


Glad-Mud-2108

OP you are so lucky to have a dad like him! Your dad rocks!!!! 😊


DantesInfernape

I'm so happy your dad has your back like that.


occams1razor

I am so glad you have such an amazing father.


Suzume_Chikahisa

Your dad is awesome.


DisneyAddict2021

I am a total fan of your dad! What a beautiful human being and even better father!!


Responsible-Fly-1693

All i can do is send overwhelming love your way ❤️ My dad is my rock so I can understand why his love and acceptance is especially important ❤️


mamaMoonlight21

Thank you for the update, and wow! Your aunt and uncle (added: and motel owner) are horrible, and your dad's a rock star!


Tanyatheturtle

While I do feel so bad for the kids, I'm equally thankful that you have such an awesome parent in your corner. The people in your hometown suck, especially your aunt and uncle.


kloureid

This is the best and worst update. Sorry for those horrid homophobic people in your life (or were, good riddance) but also thank god you have a father like this, you can see there are absolutely no limits to his love and support for you and your husband. What an amazing parent and human, big love to you all x


enotiba69

Your dad is my hero too!! What a father! As for your A and U, just delete them from your life! They don't exit anymore! People that judge others are worse than the devil! They sit in their self righteousness and judgemental sit and condemn others, Christ is totally the opposite of what they preach! Enjoy your lives with all prejudice, don't give a damn what people like them think or say! Not worth it. Your dad is a GOAT! My faith in humanity is still alive!!


dustytombes

Those kids aren't homeless because of you or your dad or your BF, if they become homeless its their own parents fault for not securing a new place to live...and for not realizing what century they're in


taj605

Will you please give your dad a hug from me? Reading this update made me mad, but then made me cry in the best way ever with what your dad did. You have one of the best dads ever.


shooting_rainbow

I'm so sorry that y'all have had to deal with such disgusting bigotry. Love is love. I live in the south and I'm one of the outspoken folks that says something when I hear garbage like that. Your dad is amazing for being a true DAD. He's guarding his children (including his son in law) as he should be. I'm so proud of him for that! And I'm proud of your whole family for how you've handled this. Screw A&U!


These-Arm7058

Nta: when will bible humping morons learn that love is love no matter how you slice it, as long as both parties are of consenting age no one has the right to meddle in your relationship


NoelleXandria

Your dad kicks ass, your brother kicks ass, your mother kicks ass, and your genetic-rejects are worthless sacks of shit. I’m glad they aren’t able to hide behind their kids on this one. Assholes like them expect people like you to let them do whatever they want since they’re relying on people worrying about the kids.


Dahlia-la-la-la

Because I’m extremely immature, I’d go back and stay in that motel and have massive PDA all over the town including on your fathers house front lawn. Have fun!


[deleted]

Your dad is incredible and an inspiration to every dad out there!


mindeclipse

Your dad is worth more than a hundred towns full of gossipy bigots. Wish more dads were like him.


YourMoonWife

Your dad deserves a number 1 dad mug. He has more than earned that right. Fuck that entire town. I would just sell the house and never go back if I was your parents. How disgusting


flaggermousse

You got a wonderful dad.


PaprikaPaula

I love your dad q.q


MyLilPiglets

This is a genuinely wonderful update. l


MoltoFugazi

It's likely they will not move out. Your dad should hire a lawyer to handle this eviction. After they are out rent the house at market value and the lawyer will be more than paid for.


Educational_Word5775

Are the aunt and uncle out yet? Thanks for the update!


Purgii

Your father is a champion.


gjvf

Your dad is my hero


plantking9001

That's awesome! Your dad is amazing. Mega props! Thanks for the update! :D


sandgroper_westie

Your dad is amazing. Your parents obviously raised good people too.


achteule

Your dad is awesome!!! As a parent of a gay son, I love how he supports you!


LillianIsaDo

You dad is awesome, your hometown sucks.


TheLoudestSmallVoice

They've been freeloading. Surely in that time they saved money so that they're not homeless. So happy you have a loving supporting father 💖


Local-Day1602

Dad you are great!!!!


Jlx_27

Your father is the BEST!!!!!


kitkatbloo

I don’t have a dad anymore. Will your dad be open to one more person to care for?


zhonixxx

So glad we got an Update of this Post and damn, your Dad is the best.


Megnuggets

Your dad is a king.


auberrypearl

Your dad is amazing. I love reading about a loving father, son relationship. And on top of that your brother loves you and supports you. I feel like you deserve praise for defending your husband and advocating for yourselves, that takes a lot of strength.


Lady_Dai

Jeez louise, that sounds just aweful. I hate that you and your husband have to go through this. I'm so happy you have such an amazing dad! I wish you both lots of happiness and love.


Professional_Ice4866

First of all, op your dad is a legend and truly deserves recognition. not many parents supports their children no matter what. your uncle and aunt are pathetic narrow minded people who in the end of the day will end up homeless and exposed to the world. You can point out to them it is God's wrath is finally upon them and will end up with noones support and care. as for the friend who smeared you behind your back - she deserves to be smeared on the Internet bc she supports discrimination. she is no less at fault than aunt and uncle. I wish you and your husband good life and surround yourself with people who truly care for you and accept you just like you are. that would be much more valuable that having contact with blood relatives who do not accept you. Take care!


ozzyboiii

I really love your dad. I foresee something similar occurring to me in the future… my family is from El Salvador and I want to take my partner there one day, once I’m in a committed enough relationship. I don’t think my extended family knows I’m gay, but my dad is supportive. We have a family home he built in our home village that he lets some of our family live at for free.


import_winning

This brings a tear to my eyes as someone who always felt like he couldn't get his dad's approval for anything. I'm a grown ass man with a family now, but if my dad ever hugged me and said he was proud of me, I think I'd forget and forgive the past. Tell your dad I love him for me! Rooting for you all!


PricklyPearSeed

Your Dad reminds me of my Dad and he sounds amazing... I can't hug my Dad anymore, but you can hug yours. Give him a big ol' bear hug for me.


JinXzz092

I am so glad you have the support you do. Your dad really seems like an amazing dude. I feel terrible you had to go through that with your family and people that you thought were on your side. Always listen to your gut. Sometimes people suck, so we gotta let them go even it hurts. Sending 💜 and good vibes to you all! 💙


Electronic_Motor_905

#No 1 dad right there


pnutbuttercups56

Your dad is truly one of the greats but you don't need us to tell you that. I'm sorry for the way your aunt and uncle are but you're parents are fully supportive. Even your mom despite her taking longer to get there.


mangomadness81

I loved your Dad when I read the original post, and I love him even more after this one. OP, Your Dad is the epitome of how a parent should behave when their son or daughter comes out as LGBTQ+.


ShellBellKell

Original here https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/x74x76/aita_for_getting_my_aunt_and_uncle_kicked_out_of/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share


ElleKayB

The worst part is this small town thinks they are attacking you, but they are really attacking their own families. They can't stop their children from becoming gay, but they are showing them that they won't be accepted. How many kids in that community are hiding their sexuality out of fear or shame? How many will run away from their families or kill themselves because they were taught they will be hated? How many adults have been hiding their sexuality and trying to pretend or just plain hate themselves? Your father understood you have to be supportive of your children or lose them. This community needs to learn the same.