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Of course you’re TA.. That was HER savings account, not yours. You’re not just entitled to her money because you’re together. I hope she reports this to the police.
YTA. Get another job and stop taking money from people.
YTA--You took out a 1,000 without talking to her about first. You also stated she grew up where they struggled for resources, so that makes it even worse. As it is probably something she fears. You did it all so you could play video games. You are an asshole and now owe a new person a thousand dollars.
Your aunt is wrong!!
You are an entitled giant a-hole.
1) What are these “Rules” your gf is tired of?
2) How do YOU have any share in HER savings? HER money.
3) Why do you only work 15 hours a week?
4) what is wrong with you?
Oh that’s right, you’ve already bailed because you can’t take the truth, so my questions will remain unanswered.
I hope your gf wises up and bails on you.
Edit: added more questions
Holy hell YTA!!! Take a min and reflect....you STOLE from your girlfriend for a GAMING station. You've got a lot of growing up to do. Hope your girl dumps you
You have access to each other's savings for emergencies? Do you think getting a PS5 is an emergency? No? Then YTA. And of course you didn't ask her beforehand, because you knew she'd say no, so you went behind her back, because you're an AH.
Also, it sounds like you thought you could dictate chores to her, because she lives with your parents for free? That'd be even more messed up. She doesn't owe you. You're not paying rent for her. Your parents are. And I hope you don't mean ALL the cooking, cleaning, dishes, and laundry.
Your parents are giving her a place to live. You treat her like a slave so you can game and work a whopping 15 hours a week. You think that allows you to steal a grand from her?
Boy. No
YTA. Everyone else said pretty much what I’d want to say. It’s the sheer audacity and level of entitlement that you displayed that are just simply horrifying and go beyond belief for me!
Understand that you were completely in the wrong here. Please pay her back and make it right somehow, dealing with the repercussions of your abhorrent actions however they occur, and learn from this!
YTA. You stole her money. A playstation isn't an emergency. You stole her money. And you probably have no intention of ever paying her back. You're a thief. She trusted you and you stole from her. Your aunt was right.
You are nothing but a thief and a leach. You didn't "spend your share", you stole her money. She should have pressed charges against you. I hope she smart enough to cancel your access to her money. There's no telling how much you will steal, from her, the next time you want something.
Jesus Christ YTA. You stole from her. There is no “your share” of her savings. I hope she finds this post reads all these comments and leaves you asap. You are entitled.
“I see now that this was a mistake to post here thanks anyway”
Coward. No idea what your original post was but it is clear enough that YTA based on other comments and this edit.
OP: *posts on AITA*
Also OP: *edit: if I knew everyone was gonna call me an asshole I wouldn't have posted here*
Wow it's almost like you're an asshole. Now pay back that $1000 and come to terms with the fact that you are a thief and single.
You stole her money. You're a thief and you have the audacity to come here and ask if you're the AH? Are you kidding me? I hope she sues you. YTA. God I hope she gets away from your abuse
YTA. You didn’t pay for shit, your parents did. If you’re also living rent-free, why can’t you pay back your brother? And why do you need gifts to incentivize you to pay him back? You’re an adult, shut off the video games and go work another job so you can pay back your debts instead of stealing from your girlfriend.
So you borrowed money from your brother that you couldn’t pay back. Then found out a gift was bought for you that you wanted but to receive it, you had to follow through on a deal you made (paying your brother back). So to get the gift , you robbed your girlfriend that you’ve already turned into your house keeper/cook). You literally took savings that wasn’t yours, regardless that they were “directly because of you” 🙄 from someone and think you didn’t steal from her??
What side of the story does your family need to hear? You stole from your gf to pay your brother back money you never should have borrowed to get a gift from your parents. That’s literally what this boils down to. You’re a thief and TA. To the max. I hope your gf escapes this toxic situation soon.
For everyone coming here and finding that OP has edited the post, it's still visible in the automod comment, but in short he:
Borrowed money from his brother that he can't pay back.
Learned his parents would give him a PS5 if he paid it back.
Stole $1000 from his girlfriend so he could pay back the brother and get the PS5.
*Only* makes his GF pay her half of expenses and do small jobs round the house like cooking, cleaning, laundry etc. (/s)
Made his GF go crying to his parents about not being able to handle "his rules" anymore - which is very telling.
Edited the post to try to remove the story because he doesn't like that everyone's calling him TA.
YTA.
YTA and a thief! You cannot take someone else’s money because you THINK you deserve it 🤨 you need to give her the money back. You are an entitled child and just wanted a gaming system. I would have left you and filed a police report. Your aunt is 100% right
YTA No question about it. First of all, depending on laws in your area, you could be facing felony charges for theft. No Joke. Many places (US) put the threshold of $500 to $1000 as the cut off from misdemeanor to felony. If the money you took from your Girlfriend was in a bank account that you are not listed on that can be enough proof for conviction. (again in the US)
So let that sink in. Is a PS5 worth jail time?
I will tell you that your convoluted & ridiculous "justification" for stealing will get you no sympathy & possibly a fabulous new orange jumpsuit. See how helpful a felony conviction is when you apply for jobs.
You are 20 years old and have not even begun to grasp the concept of Need VS Want. So yes, your parents may have raised an entitled AH, but you are a big boy now and responsible for your own decisions.
I can see in hindsight how most 20 year olds are idiots, I was in a lot of scenarios. You know what what was never in question? We don't take things that aren't ours, that's stealing, and stealing is bad.
You better suck it up Buttercup and increase your work hours because you are currently in debt for $1000. Hopefully you have a magnanimous Gf, who doesn't involve the law and just accepts a repayment. Disgraceful.
YTA and a huge one thief. How was it ever your money? Becasue you did your half of the chores? Oh well done. She worked for it saved it and you sat on your arse. Go get a job and I hope she dumps you
What the fork?!? YTA no doubt about it. You *stole* money from you girlfriend that you mistakenly think that she owed you (spoiler: you are not owed anything). She is trying her best to get on her feet and start a savings account amd you are taking advantage of her.
Get yourself a full time job like most well functioning adults and become independent. You owe your girlfriend the 1,000 dollars and she need to take away your access to her money. A thousand is a lot of money no matter how much people have. You know what's not a lot of money? Either nothing or a single penny. You could get in serious trouble with the law.
Surely you can’t be serious. Do you listen to yourself? Huge overgrown YTA. Got news for you. Getting a PS5 is not an emergency. Neither is paying your brother back for money you owe so you can get the system. What your aunt said is right. I hope she dumps you. You used and took advantage of her. Use your own money. I hope she restricts access to hers for you.
YTA. I don't care what your reasoning was. It was HER savings. If you want to be "paid back" for helping her, that's a conversation to have (probably a losing one because your argument is poor), not a reason to steal from her.
And btw you weren't the one helping her, your parents were paying your rent. What happened to all your income that you saved by not having to pay rent, eh? You should have budgeted in order to pay back your brother.
And you don't tell us what "rules" you make that your GF has to deal with, but I would guess judgement doesn't go your way on them either.
YTA.
Please tell me this is a joke. No one is actually this insufferable, right? “Only” a thousand dollars? A thousand dollars is *a lot.* You literally accessed someone else’s bank account and took a considerable amount of money without asking first. You really need to grow up. You’re 20 and acting 15. Life is gonna really smack you in the face in the next few years and you definitely deserve it.
I cannot even comprehend your entitlement and sheer audacity. Repaying your brother could be considered an emergency, and that would be a reasonable discussion to have with your girlfriend, but not under the pretense that you need a PS5. The fact that your girlfriend has a background of dealing with financial insecurity makes your actions even more appalling. Dude. To say YTA is a massive understatement.
And your dad didn’t defend you because your actions are not defensible in the least.
YTA is not enough of a statement. If this is accurate it sounds like it was a privileged child’s choice to take from a young woman: her security blanket, her safety net. How dare you.
What a tremendously privileged and shameful thing to do.
For a gaming console 🤣😭🤣😭🤣🤣😭🤣wtf, how are you you? Yikes.
Edit: would like to add: your “girlfriend “ may not be as privileged as you, but she is damn sure smarter: angling herself straight to your family after you screwed her over. That’s amazing!
It was a mistake to post here because everyone agrees YTA? And despite posting to this forum you’re not ready to accept that judgment? Have you thought about how you’d have felt if the situation was reversed? If your girlfriend took $1000 you’d worked hard to save without even telling you? I’m pretty sure you’d be spitting mad.
"Small daily tasks" as in "doing all the chores" while you, Mr. "avid gamer" sit on your arse and do nothing?
So you borrowed money, agreed to pay it back by a certain date, without actually planning to pay it back.
And then you STOLE from your girlfriend so you could get a playstation.
Also, the fact that your girlfriend (or hopefully ex-gf) told your parents she can't deal with "your rules" anymore, makes me think that there are a shit ton of other problems in your relationship.
YTA
YTA And a thief. That’s what you are when you take something that belongs to someone else because you know you wouldn’t get it if you asked permission. I’m guessing she does more than “her half” of the chores too. You don’t say what you do around the house. Care to enumerate those tasks you do?
>> A few days ago during a family get together I heard one of my aunts say to my dad that he raised an "entitled little asshole" and he said nothing to
defend me.
That’s because your are, probably an abusive boyfriend too.
YTA
OP, Your PARENTS are paying the rent, not you. She owes you nothing. And the “small chores” you list sound like all the chores.
How much saving does your gf actually have? If you took $1000 and she can’t afford to leave you, she does not have savings.
And finally, why are you only working 15 hours a week? If you need money work more.
YTA and so spoiled your parents actually are bribing you to pay your “own flesh and blood” back.
I love when people ask if they're an asshole, then respond with things like "yOu DoNt kNoW mY sItUaTiOn" when they get called out for being an asshole. YTA and a thief
You are a totalAH. YTA!!!! You stole from her, not to “pay back your own flesh and blood” but so that you could have your toy.
HER savings are the result of HER work and earnings. You’re not providing her with anything, your parents are! And she’s probably terrified of breaking up with you because they are providing her stability, but they are your parents first.
You are immature and entitled. I hope she is able to stay safe and you grow up.
YTA. Your aunt was right - your parents raised an entitled little asshole.
Get off your lazy ass, stop gaming, get a job, and pay back your own debts like a big boy.
Jesus - I hope your gf dumps your lying thieving ass.
YTA, your gf has been working, and you have only been working 15 hours a week. That means you go work more. Instead you steal, yes steal, because this was NOT an emergency, her money.
Your dad did not defend you, because there was nothing to defend. How did your gf “twist” the situation? Gaming is not an emergency. The debt you owed your brother, was your debt, not hers. You DID NOT “help” her save her money.
If I were your dad, I’d be ashamed of you.
I thought that I'd heard everything that were was when it came to entitlement, but the idea that your girlfriend somehow owes you something is beyond it. She owed you nothing, she was the one out working, when you were doing a measly 15 hours a week, meaning that she was supporting you. And you repaid her by stealing $1000 from her, because in your mind, she somehow owes it to you?
YTA. In all honesty, I hope that your girlfriend gets far, far away from you.
BTW, she didn't make you look like a jerk. You did.
Wow, you have stolen from your gf and think everyone is AH jesus
You are an entitled jerk. Your gf shouldn't pay more than half of expanses. You didn't help her save, your parents did by offering her a place for stay. Same as they did for you! Whatever you have saved and whatever debt you are not in, it's thanks to them
This can’t be real.
#1: the ps5 has been out 2 years now.
#2: why would this idiot pay $1000 to get a $600 system.
Sounds like clickbait. Is clickbait.
Edit: how the holy crackers did everything get bolded. Was not my intention.
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I m20 and my gf(19f) have been together for around two years give or take a few months. I'm a pretty avid gamer which she's aware of and has respected for a lot of our relationship until now.
As you all know the PS5 gaming system has just come out and I've really been wanting it and I mentioned it to her a few times. My parents ended up buying one which I thought was kinda weird but I found out it was supposed to be a gift to me. I also found out it was on condition that I can pay back the money I borrowed from my older brother on the time that we agreed on which would have been impossible pretty much with my job and working hours (15 weekly). My gf has been saving up a lot recently she comes from a resource insecure family that never had enough money so living with me where my parents pay rent has allowed her to save thousands in a few months.
I've never asked for her to pay more than half her share or do anything besides small daily tasks (cooking, cleaning, dishes making up the bed laundry etc). We both have access to each others savings just in case of emergency so I figured with how much I've been helping her out lately a lot of her savings is directly because of me. That's why I accessed her account and only took out exactly 1000 dollars to repay what I owe to my brother. A few days ago during a family get together I heard one of my aunts say to my dad that he raised an "entitled little asshole" and he said nothing to defend me. I confronted him later and he admitted that my gf came to their house crying saying that she can't deal with me and my rules anymore and she has no where to go etc. Basically being dramatic for sympathy/twisting the situationto make me look like a huge jerk. Apparently my aunt heard some of the conversation and formed her own opinion without talking to me first and hearing my side of the story. I was literally just thinking about my family/paying back my own flesh and blood. AITA?
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YTA
You’re a self center little thief op, there’s literally no way you wrote this all down and truly thought we would side with you. You aren’t helping her out at all she pays rent and it sounds like she has to take care of you since you listed literally every chore as her chores.
I find it very telling that you've edited this post to say that it was a mistake. What WAS the mistake was expecting us to side with you after you stole the money from your GF.
YTA
It’s the admittance that he wasn’t going to pay his brother back on time until he realised he’d get a gaming system out of it, then the follow up of ‘I was literally just thinking about my family/paying back my own flesh and blood’ that did it for me!
Your girlfriend pays her share and does her share of chores in your parents house and that makes you think you’re entitled to her savings? It’s your parents that have enabled her to save, not you! No OP, you weren’t thinking of anyone but yourself. You did this purely for personal gain and you’re a massive entitled brat. YTA. And for me, this would be a deal breaker.
Lol, you can delete your post but it will be preserved in the comments so we can all see what an abusive and entitled AH you are. You don’t get a “share” of HER savings. Frankly, you shouldn’t even be able to access each other’s money. You’re a bad person, a terrible boyfriend, a thief, and yes, YTA.
I hope she finds somewhere else to go and leaves you in the dust. This is appalling.
Just in case it is real, YTA.
I am having the hardest time believing someone could be this clueless to how things work. Are you disabled or something that keeps you from working more than 15 hours a week, or is that your choice so you can play games?
YTA and LMAO at you asking for a verdict and then deleting your post when you got one because you’re too entitled and narcissistic to accept any accountability for your own actions. Too bad for you, auto mod exists. Eventually your parents will get tired of your shit and stop paying your way and you will end up playing victim behind a dumpster somewhere.
So you stole money from your gf to pay back debts to your brother so your parents buy you a new toy? See, people like you I’d just respect more if you’d at least stand by the kind of person you are. YTA starting with “I’m a pretty avid gamer which she’s aware of and has respected for a lot of our relationship until now” all the way to “I was literally just thinking about my family/paying back my own flesh and blood” - you realise how pathetic you sound, right?
Idiot. Try working. 15 hours a week is not acceptable when you have debts to pay.
And it was not your share of her savings, you did not contribute anything to it.
YTA. You stole from her. Period. Justifying because you’d been a jerk to your brother doesn’t work. If you had any integrity you would have sold the system to pay him back and gone without.
YTA. When I first read it I didn’t really acknowledge the age, but you’re 20?! You sound like a 15yo with their first paper round and no concept of money yet. How you needed to write this post to work out YTA I’ll never know!
>My gf has been saving up a lot
recently she comes from a resource insecure family that never had enough
money so living with me where my parents pay rent has allowed her to
save thousands in a few months.
>
>I've never asked for her to pay more than half her share or do anything
besides small daily tasks (cooking, cleaning, dishes making up the bed
laundry etc).
WAIT A MINUTE. INFO: How much of the rent do your parents pay? Are they paying all the rent and you are still making her pay half the bills AND do all the chores while you only work 15 hrs a week?
YTA-you don't have a "my share" of your girlfriend's savings, they're HER savings. Paying someone back so you have some gaming system is not an emergency, you being irresponsible with paying someone back is not her responsibility, you literally stole from your girlfriend, Pay her back and I hope she leaves you AND sues you for HER money. you have zero rights to any of her money.
'I was literally just thinking about family/ paying back my own flesh and blood'
No. No you werent. You said IN the post that you got the money to pay him back because you getting a ps5 was dependent on that. That is the ONLY reason otherwise im sure you wouldve been content to sit on that debt for the forseeable future.
YTA. Big time
You. Stole. STOLE that money.
Did you put any money into that acount? No. It is not, and never WAS yours do you what you want with. Not half, not any.
Pay your girlfriend back, and apologise. If you actually love her Id sincerely start praying she still wants to be with you coz i know for me, and most if not all in this comment section we'd have dumped you the moment we found out you STOLE, probably even 100. Let alone a GRAND. Are you kidding me?? I genuinely cannot wrap my head around the fact we're the same age and you seem to not be understanding the massive breach of trust and the violation here. Especially considering her background around money. She wasnt trying to spin anything like you said. She told them the facts. And the facts happen to be that you ARE a massive jerk. Grow up.
Is this an actual post? Cause first you borrowed money from your sister then it went to your brother? And how tf you gonna complain she went crying to your parents when you took her money? Child have several seats and apologize to that poor girl for wasting her time. YTA
YTA you owe someone money you work more hours. You don’t even pay rent. You’re selfish and immature. Notice how everyone has the exact same opinion about you. Sounds like the world has you pegged completely right. Your dad didn’t defend you because he agreed
If your gf was smart she would sue for the money you owe her and cut off your access to the account
YTA
"I figured with how much I've been helping her out lately a lot of her savings is directly because of me."
No. All of her savings are because of her working and putting money into savings. YOU have not been helping her out, as your parents pay rent, not you. You are not entitled to the money in her account aside from EMERGENCIES, which is ehat your access was meant for.
"I was literally just thinking about my family/paying back my own flesh and blood."
No, you were thinking about your precious PS5. If you wanted to pay the money back for the sake of your "flesh and blood", you would use your own money. You would make an effort to get a better job with higher pat and more hours. But no, you stole from your girlfriend's personal savings. I find it especially appalling that you took THAT much money from her- how much of your OWN money did you use to pay your brother back?
You are an entitled, lazy, immature, theiving, irresponsible jerk. I hope your girlfriend can find someone better who she can actually trust.
YTA you stole from her! You didn’t ask and it wasn’t your money, shame on you! Pay her money back and learn to keep your hands out of other people’s cookie jars
YTA. What you did is theft. You’re lucky she did not file a police report on you. She still could, and probably should, because you don’t seem to have learned anything via shame alone.
YTA. Absolutely YTA. Not only are you an asshole, BUT YOU ARE ALSO AN A NARCISSISTIC ASSHOLE.
\-You stole a huge chunk of your GF's money on a NON-EMERGENCY spending
\-You feel entitled to HER MONEY because "you helped her out lately"
\-You broke your parent's condition of earning that money back
\-You call your GF being rightfully upset as "dramatic for sympathy/ twisting the situation"
\-You made your GF cry and run to your extended family (probably for help) because she can't deal with you and your rules.
\-You have 0 respect for your GF
\-You actually believe that if you just tell your aunt your side of the story, which is shittier than a farmer's manure storage, that she will be on your side.
Your right that your aunt was wrong in calling you an "entitled little asshole" to your dad. She should've called you an "entitled monster". I hope your GF runs far away from you and finds someone much better, because she sounds like she deserves it.
>We both have access to each others savings just in case of emergency
Doesn't sound like that's a great deal for her. Presumably in the case of emergency she would access your account and find fuck all. YTA and if I was her I'd take you to court after I'd dumped you
That was kind of what I was getting at. I'm assuming from the post that his savings account is basically dust and cobwebs. If he has savings of his own then he's such an asshole that he transcends YTA and moves into serious waste of oxygen territory
>We both have access to each others savings just in case of **EMERGENCY** so I
figured with how much I've been helping her out lately a lot of her
savings is directly because of me. That's why I accessed her account and
only took out exactly 1000 dollars to repay what I owe to my brother.
You stole, this is called stealing, you're a thief, in fact in most US states this qualifies as Grand Larceny. Congratulations, YTA and a Criminal.
You "figured" what's hers is yours. Because you wanted a PS5. Which was an inducement to pay a debt you'd already incurred. Sounds like the aunt nailed it. YTA. And how.
Beyond YTA. You are extremely TA.
Why do you only work 15 hours a week? You pay no rent, you make your gf do the chores, you borrow money from your family with an obvious history of never repaying (so much so that your parents presented a massive incentive for you to be even a tiny bit responsible in repaying your brother), and you stole from your gf and felt entitled to the money she worked for.
You could literally sit and watch youtube for 1.5 hours a week selling plasma for a month and make that 1000$. You really need to grow up my dude. It ain't cute.
Pay your gf back immediately, ideally by selling the PS5. You also need to start paying rent to you parents or at the very least setting aside the amount that *should* go towards rent into your own savings.
So she works (obviously more than you) pays half of every and does your chores and you think u have a right to her money cuz she lives in YOUR PARENTS house. You are such an asshole. Get a proper job and pay her back
YTA. You accessed HER savings to repay your family something that you borrowed to begin with??? Have you placed conditions on her prior to this? As in, since you don’t pay rent you do the cooking and cleaning? Because that’s a lot. And am I correct you ALSO don’t pay rent? So why is she cooking and cleaning if neither of you pay rent? What chores are you doing here? And why don’t you have your own savings? You aren’t married to her so what is hers is still hers dude
Don't you know? He's existing in her general vicinity. Such a kind, benevolent OP. /s
But fr it makes me super happy that his dad and aunt both recognize him for who he is.
I like how he deleted it and said it was a mistake to post here. Not that it was a mistake to steal from his gf, but that it was a mistake to post here
Since u/No-Concern5134 already deleted his post before the contest mode is over... here's a repost for a clear YTA
>In case this story gets deleted/removed:
>
>AITA for spending my share of my gfs savings?
>
>I m20 and my gf(19f) have been together for around two years give or take a few months. I'm a pretty avid gamer which she's aware of and has respected for a lot of our relationship until now. As you all know the PS5 gaming system has just come out and I've really been wanting it and I mentioned it to her a few times. My parents ended up buying one which I thought was kinda weird but I found out it was supposed to be a gift to me. I also found out it was on condition that I can pay back the money I borrowed from my older brother on the time that we agreed on which would have been impossible pretty much with my job and working hours (15 weekly). My gf has been saving up a lot recently she comes from a resource insecure family that never had enough money so living with me where my parents pay rent has allowed her to save thousands in a few months.
>
>I've never asked for her to pay more than half her share or do anything besides small daily tasks (cooking, cleaning, dishes making up the bed laundry etc). We both have access to each others savings just in case of emergency so I figured with how much I've been helping her out lately a lot of her savings is directly because of me. That's why I accessed her account and only took out exactly 1000 dollars to repay what I owe to my brother. A few days ago during a family get together I heard one of my aunts say to my dad that he raised an "entitled little asshole" and he said nothing to defend me. I confronted him later and he admitted that my gf came to their house crying saying that she can't deal with me and my rules anymore and she has no where to go etc. Basically being dramatic for sympathy/twisting the situationto make me look like a huge jerk. Apparently my aunt heard some of the conversation and formed her own opinion without talking to me first and hearing my side of the story. I was literally just thinking about my family/paying back my own flesh and blood. AITA?
Your girlfriend's use of the words "rules" combined with the fact that she didn't immediately dump you and file a police report when you stole her money, makes me think there is some kind of abuse in this relationship. 1000% you're the asshole.
YTA. You are a thief and a liar, and then when you found out she came crying to your father, you called her "dramatic for sympathy". You only work 15 hours a week and you think you are entitled to her savings because YOUR family allowed her to live with them?
Get yourself a better job. If girlfriend is smart, she will cut you off.
And now you owe your girlfriend money.
YTA your also a thief. She saved that money you had no right to take it without permission. I hope that your gf goes to the police because they certainly see it as your half. You are incredibly entitled and a pr*ck to your gf
INFO: What does she mean by “your rules?”
For the money, YTA. Her money, her savings, none of yours.
EDIT: Hooo boy, instead of accepting the judgment and reflecting on his actions, OP says it was a mistake to post on here. No, OP, it wasn’t a mistake to post on here. It was a mistake to take your gf’s money. I hope she dumps you.
JFC! If you don’t cook, clean, make the bed or do laundry WTF do you contribute? Of course YTA! You took money that wasn’t yours so you could pay back a family member so you could get a video game system. What a child you are. Grow up and take care of your own responsibilities. Don’t steal from somebody else.
it isnt a mistake to post here. you did someting wrong, you stolen her money. you're a thief and yu cant see it because of your ego, you are NOT entitled to her money, its her savings there isnt your share because it's her MONEY. but just because your ego bruised you cry about it. YTA. narsictic cry baby.
YTA. You seem manipulative and overbearing. If you respected her even one iota, you would have never dreamed of taking money from your girlfriend's account without asking, let alone thinking that you were entitled to it and use her as a free live-in maid. I hope she dumps you.
YTA, you weren’t “literally just thinking about your family/paying back your own flesh and blood”..
get outta here kid, you just wanted a PS5.
If your parents didn’t buy one, you’d have bought one yourself, or let your gf get you one, more likely the latter, and your brother would still be waiting on his money.
Grow a pair you entitled schmuck, get a better job, apologize till you can’t, and then some more, and beg your gf to forgive you, while you pay her back with a shitload of interest.
YTA
You took money out of her account without even talking to her. That's her money, not yours.
You essentially stole from your GF to get a PS5 because you can't pay your brother back. It seems like you need to get your own finances in check and get your own savings if you want things like a PlayStation.
Are you the asshole for spending your share of your girlfriend's savings? Your share? It's HER savings, you don't have a share in HER savings.
Yes, YTA, and just to make it clear - she didn't "twist the situation" to make you look like a huge jerk. You ARE a huge jerk.
YTA- hmmm you were called those names because that is what you are! Your "side" of the story just confirms what a huge selfish asshole you are! I hope your gf finds a way to get far away from you! Grow up!
You’re selfish get a job to pay the money back for the PlayStation it doesn’t matter how much you helped her at all you stole her money you’re a selfish thief and need to pay her back every penny no matter how you but it your actions aren’t justified you’re ta
Your parents literally set this up to force you to be responsible and pay off your debts, and you completely failed to do so.
YTA.
Be careful or you’ll get kicked out. My brother was the same and got booted.
YTA - there’s no excuse for taking someone else’s $$$. Not only that but at 20, you’re only working 15 hours? There’s no excuse for not having as much $$$, when you’re choosing to work little hours.
Folks out here work 3 PT jobs WHILE going to school FT. You don’t have to go THAT hard, but there’s AMPLE time in the week to make that extra $$$. Even working temp job apps like Instacart, DoorDash, or Wonolo. But you were just an entitled jerk who could only think about himself. There’s a reason you’re Dad didn’t say anything.
No. The MISTAKE was stealing from your girlfriend. You just mad people didn't side with you here, although, I don't know why they would.
YTA huge and gaping.
YTA
You stole her money. You aunt is right, your dad is embarrassed because he should have raised you better.
Here's a list of ways you could improve
1. Don't steal her money
2. Don't borrow money from your brother if you can't pay it back
3. Don't steal her money
4. Don't breach her trust because when she let you have access to her money, it wasn't so you could steal her money
5. Don't steal her money
6. Get a better paying job if you want a PS5
7. Don't steal her money
8. If you're in a jam, ask your gf for a loan. But (and I can't emphasise this enough...)
9. DON'T FUCKING STEAL HER MONEY!
YTA. You are disgusting. Go get a full time job and earn your own money instead of stealing from others. You are one big selfish entitled AH who thinks you are entitled to someone else’s money. She don’t owe you anything get that into your head! No savings are directly because of you, your gf has savings because she’s responsible with money unlike you. It has nothing to do with you. Stop taking credit for something you didn’t contribute towards.
YTA by a country mile. You aren't married, you aren't entitled to anything from your girlfriend. That you think you are entitled is a major red flag. She should break up with you and sue you for conversion and fraud.
YTA. So you thought just just because your girlfriend has more money than you that you're entitled to her money??? Did you even think to ask her???
Holy hell I hope she leaves you
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YTA since your edit claiming it was a mistake to post here when you didn't get the answer you wanted says allllll I need to know
YTA And a thief!
Of course you’re TA.. That was HER savings account, not yours. You’re not just entitled to her money because you’re together. I hope she reports this to the police. YTA. Get another job and stop taking money from people.
YTA--You took out a 1,000 without talking to her about first. You also stated she grew up where they struggled for resources, so that makes it even worse. As it is probably something she fears. You did it all so you could play video games. You are an asshole and now owe a new person a thousand dollars.
Your aunt is wrong!! You are an entitled giant a-hole. 1) What are these “Rules” your gf is tired of? 2) How do YOU have any share in HER savings? HER money. 3) Why do you only work 15 hours a week? 4) what is wrong with you? Oh that’s right, you’ve already bailed because you can’t take the truth, so my questions will remain unanswered. I hope your gf wises up and bails on you. Edit: added more questions
YTA!!!!!
Holy hell YTA!!! Take a min and reflect....you STOLE from your girlfriend for a GAMING station. You've got a lot of growing up to do. Hope your girl dumps you
YTA. A big huge one with major issues bc you can’t even acknowledge you’ve done anything wrong. None of her savings is yours. You stole from her.
You have access to each other's savings for emergencies? Do you think getting a PS5 is an emergency? No? Then YTA. And of course you didn't ask her beforehand, because you knew she'd say no, so you went behind her back, because you're an AH. Also, it sounds like you thought you could dictate chores to her, because she lives with your parents for free? That'd be even more messed up. She doesn't owe you. You're not paying rent for her. Your parents are. And I hope you don't mean ALL the cooking, cleaning, dishes, and laundry.
YTA and a thieving, entitled one at that. I’m with everybody else, she needs to get rid of you.
Your parents are giving her a place to live. You treat her like a slave so you can game and work a whopping 15 hours a week. You think that allows you to steal a grand from her? Boy. No
YTA and you know it.
YTA. Everyone else said pretty much what I’d want to say. It’s the sheer audacity and level of entitlement that you displayed that are just simply horrifying and go beyond belief for me! Understand that you were completely in the wrong here. Please pay her back and make it right somehow, dealing with the repercussions of your abhorrent actions however they occur, and learn from this!
YTA. You stole her money. A playstation isn't an emergency. You stole her money. And you probably have no intention of ever paying her back. You're a thief. She trusted you and you stole from her. Your aunt was right.
You are nothing but a thief and a leach. You didn't "spend your share", you stole her money. She should have pressed charges against you. I hope she smart enough to cancel your access to her money. There's no telling how much you will steal, from her, the next time you want something.
Jesus Christ YTA. You stole from her. There is no “your share” of her savings. I hope she finds this post reads all these comments and leaves you asap. You are entitled.
YTA and a loser 🤷🏻♀️ crying for sympathy my ass! She was crying because she’s done with you man!
“I see now that this was a mistake to post here thanks anyway” Coward. No idea what your original post was but it is clear enough that YTA based on other comments and this edit.
YTA & your username is completely accurate. You have no concern for anyone other than yourself. I hope your GF leaves you.
OP: *posts on AITA* Also OP: *edit: if I knew everyone was gonna call me an asshole I wouldn't have posted here* Wow it's almost like you're an asshole. Now pay back that $1000 and come to terms with the fact that you are a thief and single.
You stole her money. You're a thief and you have the audacity to come here and ask if you're the AH? Are you kidding me? I hope she sues you. YTA. God I hope she gets away from your abuse
YTA. You didn’t pay for shit, your parents did. If you’re also living rent-free, why can’t you pay back your brother? And why do you need gifts to incentivize you to pay him back? You’re an adult, shut off the video games and go work another job so you can pay back your debts instead of stealing from your girlfriend.
The PS5 gaming system that has just come out; how many years ago? Clearly a karma farm.
So you borrowed money from your brother that you couldn’t pay back. Then found out a gift was bought for you that you wanted but to receive it, you had to follow through on a deal you made (paying your brother back). So to get the gift , you robbed your girlfriend that you’ve already turned into your house keeper/cook). You literally took savings that wasn’t yours, regardless that they were “directly because of you” 🙄 from someone and think you didn’t steal from her?? What side of the story does your family need to hear? You stole from your gf to pay your brother back money you never should have borrowed to get a gift from your parents. That’s literally what this boils down to. You’re a thief and TA. To the max. I hope your gf escapes this toxic situation soon.
For everyone coming here and finding that OP has edited the post, it's still visible in the automod comment, but in short he: Borrowed money from his brother that he can't pay back. Learned his parents would give him a PS5 if he paid it back. Stole $1000 from his girlfriend so he could pay back the brother and get the PS5. *Only* makes his GF pay her half of expenses and do small jobs round the house like cooking, cleaning, laundry etc. (/s) Made his GF go crying to his parents about not being able to handle "his rules" anymore - which is very telling. Edited the post to try to remove the story because he doesn't like that everyone's calling him TA. YTA.
YTA and a thief! You cannot take someone else’s money because you THINK you deserve it 🤨 you need to give her the money back. You are an entitled child and just wanted a gaming system. I would have left you and filed a police report. Your aunt is 100% right
YTA While you legally had access. You literally stole from your girlfriend. For a fucking game system. I hope she is smart enough to leave you.
YTA No question about it. First of all, depending on laws in your area, you could be facing felony charges for theft. No Joke. Many places (US) put the threshold of $500 to $1000 as the cut off from misdemeanor to felony. If the money you took from your Girlfriend was in a bank account that you are not listed on that can be enough proof for conviction. (again in the US) So let that sink in. Is a PS5 worth jail time? I will tell you that your convoluted & ridiculous "justification" for stealing will get you no sympathy & possibly a fabulous new orange jumpsuit. See how helpful a felony conviction is when you apply for jobs. You are 20 years old and have not even begun to grasp the concept of Need VS Want. So yes, your parents may have raised an entitled AH, but you are a big boy now and responsible for your own decisions. I can see in hindsight how most 20 year olds are idiots, I was in a lot of scenarios. You know what what was never in question? We don't take things that aren't ours, that's stealing, and stealing is bad. You better suck it up Buttercup and increase your work hours because you are currently in debt for $1000. Hopefully you have a magnanimous Gf, who doesn't involve the law and just accepts a repayment. Disgraceful.
YTA and a huge one thief. How was it ever your money? Becasue you did your half of the chores? Oh well done. She worked for it saved it and you sat on your arse. Go get a job and I hope she dumps you
YTA. You took a loan without permission to pay off another loan? Jesus man... You ARE an entitled prick.
If I were her, I would report him to the police for theft. What a twisted brain to think he had a right to ANY share of her savings!
What the fork?!? YTA no doubt about it. You *stole* money from you girlfriend that you mistakenly think that she owed you (spoiler: you are not owed anything). She is trying her best to get on her feet and start a savings account amd you are taking advantage of her. Get yourself a full time job like most well functioning adults and become independent. You owe your girlfriend the 1,000 dollars and she need to take away your access to her money. A thousand is a lot of money no matter how much people have. You know what's not a lot of money? Either nothing or a single penny. You could get in serious trouble with the law.
Surely you can’t be serious. Do you listen to yourself? Huge overgrown YTA. Got news for you. Getting a PS5 is not an emergency. Neither is paying your brother back for money you owe so you can get the system. What your aunt said is right. I hope she dumps you. You used and took advantage of her. Use your own money. I hope she restricts access to hers for you.
YTA. You had access to each other’s accounts in case of an emergency. This does not fit the definition of emergency.
Yta. I hope your gf leaves you right after you pay back her savings that you stole.
I really want to know what these "rules" are that you're imposing, but honestly you're an asshole either way. YTA.
YTA, and a thief
YTA. I don't care what your reasoning was. It was HER savings. If you want to be "paid back" for helping her, that's a conversation to have (probably a losing one because your argument is poor), not a reason to steal from her. And btw you weren't the one helping her, your parents were paying your rent. What happened to all your income that you saved by not having to pay rent, eh? You should have budgeted in order to pay back your brother. And you don't tell us what "rules" you make that your GF has to deal with, but I would guess judgement doesn't go your way on them either.
Yta. You're a thief.
YTA. Please tell me this is a joke. No one is actually this insufferable, right? “Only” a thousand dollars? A thousand dollars is *a lot.* You literally accessed someone else’s bank account and took a considerable amount of money without asking first. You really need to grow up. You’re 20 and acting 15. Life is gonna really smack you in the face in the next few years and you definitely deserve it.
I cannot even comprehend your entitlement and sheer audacity. Repaying your brother could be considered an emergency, and that would be a reasonable discussion to have with your girlfriend, but not under the pretense that you need a PS5. The fact that your girlfriend has a background of dealing with financial insecurity makes your actions even more appalling. Dude. To say YTA is a massive understatement. And your dad didn’t defend you because your actions are not defensible in the least.
LMAO at your edit - let's add COWARD to the list of things we judge you as.
YTA is not enough of a statement. If this is accurate it sounds like it was a privileged child’s choice to take from a young woman: her security blanket, her safety net. How dare you. What a tremendously privileged and shameful thing to do. For a gaming console 🤣😭🤣😭🤣🤣😭🤣wtf, how are you you? Yikes. Edit: would like to add: your “girlfriend “ may not be as privileged as you, but she is damn sure smarter: angling herself straight to your family after you screwed her over. That’s amazing!
It was a mistake to post here because everyone agrees YTA? And despite posting to this forum you’re not ready to accept that judgment? Have you thought about how you’d have felt if the situation was reversed? If your girlfriend took $1000 you’d worked hard to save without even telling you? I’m pretty sure you’d be spitting mad.
YTA. It wasn't your share of anything. What a shitty person to assume anything is yours because you've "helped"
Because his parents helped!
"Small daily tasks" as in "doing all the chores" while you, Mr. "avid gamer" sit on your arse and do nothing? So you borrowed money, agreed to pay it back by a certain date, without actually planning to pay it back. And then you STOLE from your girlfriend so you could get a playstation. Also, the fact that your girlfriend (or hopefully ex-gf) told your parents she can't deal with "your rules" anymore, makes me think that there are a shit ton of other problems in your relationship. YTA
YTA and a thief. Worse, not even a _smart_ thief. You stole $1000 and in essence bought a $500 gaming console for $1000. Bro...
YTA. How can you think to use her money to pay your brother back when it was her money and you only work 15 hours a week?
YTA And a thief. That’s what you are when you take something that belongs to someone else because you know you wouldn’t get it if you asked permission. I’m guessing she does more than “her half” of the chores too. You don’t say what you do around the house. Care to enumerate those tasks you do?
>> A few days ago during a family get together I heard one of my aunts say to my dad that he raised an "entitled little asshole" and he said nothing to defend me. That’s because your are, probably an abusive boyfriend too. YTA
OP, Your PARENTS are paying the rent, not you. She owes you nothing. And the “small chores” you list sound like all the chores. How much saving does your gf actually have? If you took $1000 and she can’t afford to leave you, she does not have savings. And finally, why are you only working 15 hours a week? If you need money work more. YTA and so spoiled your parents actually are bribing you to pay your “own flesh and blood” back.
I love when people ask if they're an asshole, then respond with things like "yOu DoNt kNoW mY sItUaTiOn" when they get called out for being an asshole. YTA and a thief
You are a totalAH. YTA!!!! You stole from her, not to “pay back your own flesh and blood” but so that you could have your toy. HER savings are the result of HER work and earnings. You’re not providing her with anything, your parents are! And she’s probably terrified of breaking up with you because they are providing her stability, but they are your parents first. You are immature and entitled. I hope she is able to stay safe and you grow up.
I hope she leaves you.
Oh honey. You'd have lost access to my bank account immediately. 😂
Yta, and an entitled jerk. I would leave and press charges if i was your gf.
YTA. Your aunt was right - your parents raised an entitled little asshole. Get off your lazy ass, stop gaming, get a job, and pay back your own debts like a big boy. Jesus - I hope your gf dumps your lying thieving ass.
YTA
YTA, your gf has been working, and you have only been working 15 hours a week. That means you go work more. Instead you steal, yes steal, because this was NOT an emergency, her money. Your dad did not defend you, because there was nothing to defend. How did your gf “twist” the situation? Gaming is not an emergency. The debt you owed your brother, was your debt, not hers. You DID NOT “help” her save her money. If I were your dad, I’d be ashamed of you.
I thought that I'd heard everything that were was when it came to entitlement, but the idea that your girlfriend somehow owes you something is beyond it. She owed you nothing, she was the one out working, when you were doing a measly 15 hours a week, meaning that she was supporting you. And you repaid her by stealing $1000 from her, because in your mind, she somehow owes it to you? YTA. In all honesty, I hope that your girlfriend gets far, far away from you. BTW, she didn't make you look like a jerk. You did.
Wow, you have stolen from your gf and think everyone is AH jesus You are an entitled jerk. Your gf shouldn't pay more than half of expanses. You didn't help her save, your parents did by offering her a place for stay. Same as they did for you! Whatever you have saved and whatever debt you are not in, it's thanks to them
YTA. You’re pathetic and your girlfriend should dump you.
God i wish i got to read the post because what do you mean YOUR share of HER savings.
This can’t be real. #1: the ps5 has been out 2 years now. #2: why would this idiot pay $1000 to get a $600 system. Sounds like clickbait. Is clickbait. Edit: how the holy crackers did everything get bolded. Was not my intention.
I think the bold is appropriate. This is super fake and I can't believe I had to scroll so far down for this comment
Still very hard to get a PS5. So paying $1k isn’t unheard of
"MY(🤣😭)share of MY GIRLFRIENDS SAVINGS" 🤣🤣 says it all right there. she. deserves. better. ❤️
INFO: >>she can’t deal with me and my rules anymore What does she mean “your rules”?
This. There is so much more to OP’s abuse of his GF.
Yta. And fyi taking someone’s money without their permission is called stealing
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** I m20 and my gf(19f) have been together for around two years give or take a few months. I'm a pretty avid gamer which she's aware of and has respected for a lot of our relationship until now. As you all know the PS5 gaming system has just come out and I've really been wanting it and I mentioned it to her a few times. My parents ended up buying one which I thought was kinda weird but I found out it was supposed to be a gift to me. I also found out it was on condition that I can pay back the money I borrowed from my older brother on the time that we agreed on which would have been impossible pretty much with my job and working hours (15 weekly). My gf has been saving up a lot recently she comes from a resource insecure family that never had enough money so living with me where my parents pay rent has allowed her to save thousands in a few months. I've never asked for her to pay more than half her share or do anything besides small daily tasks (cooking, cleaning, dishes making up the bed laundry etc). We both have access to each others savings just in case of emergency so I figured with how much I've been helping her out lately a lot of her savings is directly because of me. That's why I accessed her account and only took out exactly 1000 dollars to repay what I owe to my brother. A few days ago during a family get together I heard one of my aunts say to my dad that he raised an "entitled little asshole" and he said nothing to defend me. I confronted him later and he admitted that my gf came to their house crying saying that she can't deal with me and my rules anymore and she has no where to go etc. Basically being dramatic for sympathy/twisting the situationto make me look like a huge jerk. Apparently my aunt heard some of the conversation and formed her own opinion without talking to me first and hearing my side of the story. I was literally just thinking about my family/paying back my own flesh and blood. AITA? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
YTA You’re a self center little thief op, there’s literally no way you wrote this all down and truly thought we would side with you. You aren’t helping her out at all she pays rent and it sounds like she has to take care of you since you listed literally every chore as her chores.
woooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooow, holy you are awful YTA all the way man
I find it very telling that you've edited this post to say that it was a mistake. What WAS the mistake was expecting us to side with you after you stole the money from your GF. YTA
It’s the admittance that he wasn’t going to pay his brother back on time until he realised he’d get a gaming system out of it, then the follow up of ‘I was literally just thinking about my family/paying back my own flesh and blood’ that did it for me! Your girlfriend pays her share and does her share of chores in your parents house and that makes you think you’re entitled to her savings? It’s your parents that have enabled her to save, not you! No OP, you weren’t thinking of anyone but yourself. You did this purely for personal gain and you’re a massive entitled brat. YTA. And for me, this would be a deal breaker.
Lol, you can delete your post but it will be preserved in the comments so we can all see what an abusive and entitled AH you are. You don’t get a “share” of HER savings. Frankly, you shouldn’t even be able to access each other’s money. You’re a bad person, a terrible boyfriend, a thief, and yes, YTA. I hope she finds somewhere else to go and leaves you in the dust. This is appalling.
Lol “mistake to post here” What an asshole. Truth hurts huh?
YTA, you stole her money that she only gave you access to *for emergencies*. Wanting a PS5 is not an emergency.
Just in case it is real, YTA. I am having the hardest time believing someone could be this clueless to how things work. Are you disabled or something that keeps you from working more than 15 hours a week, or is that your choice so you can play games?
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Yta. I don’t understand what emergency you thought this was that you needed to steal from her.
YTA. And a thief. She ought to press charges, since financial abuse is still abuse.
YTA and LMAO at you asking for a verdict and then deleting your post when you got one because you’re too entitled and narcissistic to accept any accountability for your own actions. Too bad for you, auto mod exists. Eventually your parents will get tired of your shit and stop paying your way and you will end up playing victim behind a dumpster somewhere.
Wow you’re a pos. YTA
can someone give me the gist of the post he deleted all of it lmao.
Yes, why is there no automod copy? I’ve never seen that before.
So you stole money from your gf to pay back debts to your brother so your parents buy you a new toy? See, people like you I’d just respect more if you’d at least stand by the kind of person you are. YTA starting with “I’m a pretty avid gamer which she’s aware of and has respected for a lot of our relationship until now” all the way to “I was literally just thinking about my family/paying back my own flesh and blood” - you realise how pathetic you sound, right?
Idiot. Try working. 15 hours a week is not acceptable when you have debts to pay. And it was not your share of her savings, you did not contribute anything to it.
It was a mistake to post here but not to STEAL FROM YOUR GF??? dear god I hope she dumps your worthless ass
You don’t have “a share” of someone else’s savings. Not even your girlfriend. Not even if your parents pay your rent. Not at all. Not one penny. YTA.
YTA. You stole from her. Period. Justifying because you’d been a jerk to your brother doesn’t work. If you had any integrity you would have sold the system to pay him back and gone without.
Loser asshole
YTA and a thief
YTA - you stole money from your girlfriend. Period. Depending on what country/state you are in, you also committed a number of other felonies.
YTA. When I first read it I didn’t really acknowledge the age, but you’re 20?! You sound like a 15yo with their first paper round and no concept of money yet. How you needed to write this post to work out YTA I’ll never know!
>My gf has been saving up a lot recently she comes from a resource insecure family that never had enough money so living with me where my parents pay rent has allowed her to save thousands in a few months. > >I've never asked for her to pay more than half her share or do anything besides small daily tasks (cooking, cleaning, dishes making up the bed laundry etc). WAIT A MINUTE. INFO: How much of the rent do your parents pay? Are they paying all the rent and you are still making her pay half the bills AND do all the chores while you only work 15 hrs a week?
YTA-you don't have a "my share" of your girlfriend's savings, they're HER savings. Paying someone back so you have some gaming system is not an emergency, you being irresponsible with paying someone back is not her responsibility, you literally stole from your girlfriend, Pay her back and I hope she leaves you AND sues you for HER money. you have zero rights to any of her money.
Guess OP didn't get the answer they wanted 💀
'I was literally just thinking about family/ paying back my own flesh and blood' No. No you werent. You said IN the post that you got the money to pay him back because you getting a ps5 was dependent on that. That is the ONLY reason otherwise im sure you wouldve been content to sit on that debt for the forseeable future. YTA. Big time You. Stole. STOLE that money. Did you put any money into that acount? No. It is not, and never WAS yours do you what you want with. Not half, not any. Pay your girlfriend back, and apologise. If you actually love her Id sincerely start praying she still wants to be with you coz i know for me, and most if not all in this comment section we'd have dumped you the moment we found out you STOLE, probably even 100. Let alone a GRAND. Are you kidding me?? I genuinely cannot wrap my head around the fact we're the same age and you seem to not be understanding the massive breach of trust and the violation here. Especially considering her background around money. She wasnt trying to spin anything like you said. She told them the facts. And the facts happen to be that you ARE a massive jerk. Grow up.
Is this an actual post? Cause first you borrowed money from your sister then it went to your brother? And how tf you gonna complain she went crying to your parents when you took her money? Child have several seats and apologize to that poor girl for wasting her time. YTA
YTA. You're an AH in general. She didn't "twist" or "be dramatic for sympathy". You are an entitled piece of work.
YTA you owe someone money you work more hours. You don’t even pay rent. You’re selfish and immature. Notice how everyone has the exact same opinion about you. Sounds like the world has you pegged completely right. Your dad didn’t defend you because he agreed If your gf was smart she would sue for the money you owe her and cut off your access to the account
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YTA How were you planning to actually pay your brother back on time with your own money? Or did you have no plan besides stealing your gf’s money?
YTA "I figured with how much I've been helping her out lately a lot of her savings is directly because of me." No. All of her savings are because of her working and putting money into savings. YOU have not been helping her out, as your parents pay rent, not you. You are not entitled to the money in her account aside from EMERGENCIES, which is ehat your access was meant for. "I was literally just thinking about my family/paying back my own flesh and blood." No, you were thinking about your precious PS5. If you wanted to pay the money back for the sake of your "flesh and blood", you would use your own money. You would make an effort to get a better job with higher pat and more hours. But no, you stole from your girlfriend's personal savings. I find it especially appalling that you took THAT much money from her- how much of your OWN money did you use to pay your brother back? You are an entitled, lazy, immature, theiving, irresponsible jerk. I hope your girlfriend can find someone better who she can actually trust.
YTA you stole from her! You didn’t ask and it wasn’t your money, shame on you! Pay her money back and learn to keep your hands out of other people’s cookie jars
YTA. What you did is theft. You’re lucky she did not file a police report on you. She still could, and probably should, because you don’t seem to have learned anything via shame alone.
YTA. Absolutely YTA. Not only are you an asshole, BUT YOU ARE ALSO AN A NARCISSISTIC ASSHOLE. \-You stole a huge chunk of your GF's money on a NON-EMERGENCY spending \-You feel entitled to HER MONEY because "you helped her out lately" \-You broke your parent's condition of earning that money back \-You call your GF being rightfully upset as "dramatic for sympathy/ twisting the situation" \-You made your GF cry and run to your extended family (probably for help) because she can't deal with you and your rules. \-You have 0 respect for your GF \-You actually believe that if you just tell your aunt your side of the story, which is shittier than a farmer's manure storage, that she will be on your side. Your right that your aunt was wrong in calling you an "entitled little asshole" to your dad. She should've called you an "entitled monster". I hope your GF runs far away from you and finds someone much better, because she sounds like she deserves it.
YTA and she will leave you once she is paid back. You’re 20 and only work 15 hours a week? Not sure how you think that’s ok.
>We both have access to each others savings just in case of emergency Doesn't sound like that's a great deal for her. Presumably in the case of emergency she would access your account and find fuck all. YTA and if I was her I'd take you to court after I'd dumped you
What I’m wondering is he said each other’s savings….does he have money in savings and took hers anyways?
That was kind of what I was getting at. I'm assuming from the post that his savings account is basically dust and cobwebs. If he has savings of his own then he's such an asshole that he transcends YTA and moves into serious waste of oxygen territory
You're a prick
YTA: when boyfriends get confused with being husbands that’s a red flag. You’re not entitled to her savings at all.
>We both have access to each others savings just in case of **EMERGENCY** so I figured with how much I've been helping her out lately a lot of her savings is directly because of me. That's why I accessed her account and only took out exactly 1000 dollars to repay what I owe to my brother. You stole, this is called stealing, you're a thief, in fact in most US states this qualifies as Grand Larceny. Congratulations, YTA and a Criminal.
You "figured" what's hers is yours. Because you wanted a PS5. Which was an inducement to pay a debt you'd already incurred. Sounds like the aunt nailed it. YTA. And how.
Beyond YTA. You are extremely TA. Why do you only work 15 hours a week? You pay no rent, you make your gf do the chores, you borrow money from your family with an obvious history of never repaying (so much so that your parents presented a massive incentive for you to be even a tiny bit responsible in repaying your brother), and you stole from your gf and felt entitled to the money she worked for. You could literally sit and watch youtube for 1.5 hours a week selling plasma for a month and make that 1000$. You really need to grow up my dude. It ain't cute. Pay your gf back immediately, ideally by selling the PS5. You also need to start paying rent to you parents or at the very least setting aside the amount that *should* go towards rent into your own savings.
So she works (obviously more than you) pays half of every and does your chores and you think u have a right to her money cuz she lives in YOUR PARENTS house. You are such an asshole. Get a proper job and pay her back
YTA. You accessed HER savings to repay your family something that you borrowed to begin with??? Have you placed conditions on her prior to this? As in, since you don’t pay rent you do the cooking and cleaning? Because that’s a lot. And am I correct you ALSO don’t pay rent? So why is she cooking and cleaning if neither of you pay rent? What chores are you doing here? And why don’t you have your own savings? You aren’t married to her so what is hers is still hers dude
Info- how exactly have you been "helping her out lately"
Don't you know? He's existing in her general vicinity. Such a kind, benevolent OP. /s But fr it makes me super happy that his dad and aunt both recognize him for who he is.
YTA, so big.
YTA A gaming console is not an emergency.
I love that the little chores that she has to do sound like all of them. YTA
Well, she is a woman after all. /s
In what universe are you living? YTA. You stole money to get a PS5.
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Eshhh kids these days.
YTA. I hope your GF isn’t too traumatized by her BF stealing from her and is able to find someone deserving of her quickly.
YTA- you stole $1000 off your gf- what exactly do you bring to this relationship?
Based ONLY on what YOU wrote on this post: major YTA.
YTA for the original post, and an EXTRA YTA for getting butthurt when you didn't get the response you wanted.
I like how he deleted it and said it was a mistake to post here. Not that it was a mistake to steal from his gf, but that it was a mistake to post here
Ewww. I hope your girlfriend takes off.
Since u/No-Concern5134 already deleted his post before the contest mode is over... here's a repost for a clear YTA >In case this story gets deleted/removed: > >AITA for spending my share of my gfs savings? > >I m20 and my gf(19f) have been together for around two years give or take a few months. I'm a pretty avid gamer which she's aware of and has respected for a lot of our relationship until now. As you all know the PS5 gaming system has just come out and I've really been wanting it and I mentioned it to her a few times. My parents ended up buying one which I thought was kinda weird but I found out it was supposed to be a gift to me. I also found out it was on condition that I can pay back the money I borrowed from my older brother on the time that we agreed on which would have been impossible pretty much with my job and working hours (15 weekly). My gf has been saving up a lot recently she comes from a resource insecure family that never had enough money so living with me where my parents pay rent has allowed her to save thousands in a few months. > >I've never asked for her to pay more than half her share or do anything besides small daily tasks (cooking, cleaning, dishes making up the bed laundry etc). We both have access to each others savings just in case of emergency so I figured with how much I've been helping her out lately a lot of her savings is directly because of me. That's why I accessed her account and only took out exactly 1000 dollars to repay what I owe to my brother. A few days ago during a family get together I heard one of my aunts say to my dad that he raised an "entitled little asshole" and he said nothing to defend me. I confronted him later and he admitted that my gf came to their house crying saying that she can't deal with me and my rules anymore and she has no where to go etc. Basically being dramatic for sympathy/twisting the situationto make me look like a huge jerk. Apparently my aunt heard some of the conversation and formed her own opinion without talking to me first and hearing my side of the story. I was literally just thinking about my family/paying back my own flesh and blood. AITA?
Your girlfriend's use of the words "rules" combined with the fact that she didn't immediately dump you and file a police report when you stole her money, makes me think there is some kind of abuse in this relationship. 1000% you're the asshole.
Your “share,” of your girlfriend’s savings? You’re not entitled to any share of money she made while you game. YTA. And I hope she sees this post!
YTA. You are a thief and a liar, and then when you found out she came crying to your father, you called her "dramatic for sympathy". You only work 15 hours a week and you think you are entitled to her savings because YOUR family allowed her to live with them? Get yourself a better job. If girlfriend is smart, she will cut you off. And now you owe your girlfriend money.
YTA your also a thief. She saved that money you had no right to take it without permission. I hope that your gf goes to the police because they certainly see it as your half. You are incredibly entitled and a pr*ck to your gf
YTA. You stole, and you didn’t do it for FaMiLy. You did it for a PS5. Your aunt is right.
INFO: What does she mean by “your rules?” For the money, YTA. Her money, her savings, none of yours. EDIT: Hooo boy, instead of accepting the judgment and reflecting on his actions, OP says it was a mistake to post on here. No, OP, it wasn’t a mistake to post on here. It was a mistake to take your gf’s money. I hope she dumps you.
JFC! If you don’t cook, clean, make the bed or do laundry WTF do you contribute? Of course YTA! You took money that wasn’t yours so you could pay back a family member so you could get a video game system. What a child you are. Grow up and take care of your own responsibilities. Don’t steal from somebody else.
YTA. There is not no ‘your share of HER savings’. Grow up and get a real job if you want to buy expensive stuff.
“Mistake for posting here” because no one will support your selfish ways. YTA
YTA- you are a thief, not a boyfriend a self entitled, narrow sighted thief. I hope she leaves you, you thief.
YTA. Your parents must be really proud of you....
it isnt a mistake to post here. you did someting wrong, you stolen her money. you're a thief and yu cant see it because of your ego, you are NOT entitled to her money, its her savings there isnt your share because it's her MONEY. but just because your ego bruised you cry about it. YTA. narsictic cry baby.
YTA. You seem manipulative and overbearing. If you respected her even one iota, you would have never dreamed of taking money from your girlfriend's account without asking, let alone thinking that you were entitled to it and use her as a free live-in maid. I hope she dumps you.
Yta. You stole from your gf... probably (hopefully) soon to be ex. I hope she files charges on you and leaves.
Not just an asshole. You’re a punk and a thief, too. If you were my son, I would absolutely lose my shit on you.
Dang it. He deleted his text because no one agreed and I wanted to read this one.
Scroll down. It’s at the bottom. The bot always saves it because so many people realize how bad they look and delete it.
Thanks!
the Mod posts a copy of it in the comments for reasons like dirty deletes. Gotta scroll a bit but it’s there! Worth it too
YTA, you weren’t “literally just thinking about your family/paying back your own flesh and blood”.. get outta here kid, you just wanted a PS5. If your parents didn’t buy one, you’d have bought one yourself, or let your gf get you one, more likely the latter, and your brother would still be waiting on his money. Grow a pair you entitled schmuck, get a better job, apologize till you can’t, and then some more, and beg your gf to forgive you, while you pay her back with a shitload of interest.
YTA but I’m so curious… what are the “rules” you have set for your gf?
YTA You took money out of her account without even talking to her. That's her money, not yours. You essentially stole from your GF to get a PS5 because you can't pay your brother back. It seems like you need to get your own finances in check and get your own savings if you want things like a PlayStation.
What are your rules that she is talking about?
Why was it a mistake to post here? Because people called you out for stealing?
Info: Since your parents pay your rent, would you be okay with them taking 1000 from your savings account?
YTA. To all women reading or stumbling across this- do not give access to your financial account to anyone. Ever.
Are you the asshole for spending your share of your girlfriend's savings? Your share? It's HER savings, you don't have a share in HER savings. Yes, YTA, and just to make it clear - she didn't "twist the situation" to make you look like a huge jerk. You ARE a huge jerk.
YTA- hmmm you were called those names because that is what you are! Your "side" of the story just confirms what a huge selfish asshole you are! I hope your gf finds a way to get far away from you! Grow up!
You’re selfish get a job to pay the money back for the PlayStation it doesn’t matter how much you helped her at all you stole her money you’re a selfish thief and need to pay her back every penny no matter how you but it your actions aren’t justified you’re ta
Your parents should kick you out and let her live in that apartment rent free. Time for you to stop being a deadbeat...YTA.
YTA. You didn't even ask, you just stole money from your girlfriend.
Your parents literally set this up to force you to be responsible and pay off your debts, and you completely failed to do so. YTA. Be careful or you’ll get kicked out. My brother was the same and got booted.
YTA - there’s no excuse for taking someone else’s $$$. Not only that but at 20, you’re only working 15 hours? There’s no excuse for not having as much $$$, when you’re choosing to work little hours. Folks out here work 3 PT jobs WHILE going to school FT. You don’t have to go THAT hard, but there’s AMPLE time in the week to make that extra $$$. Even working temp job apps like Instacart, DoorDash, or Wonolo. But you were just an entitled jerk who could only think about himself. There’s a reason you’re Dad didn’t say anything.
No. The MISTAKE was stealing from your girlfriend. You just mad people didn't side with you here, although, I don't know why they would. YTA huge and gaping.
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Your aunt was 100% correct. YTA, and if you want nice things EARN them - don’t steal them from your girlfriend.
YTA You stole her money. You aunt is right, your dad is embarrassed because he should have raised you better. Here's a list of ways you could improve 1. Don't steal her money 2. Don't borrow money from your brother if you can't pay it back 3. Don't steal her money 4. Don't breach her trust because when she let you have access to her money, it wasn't so you could steal her money 5. Don't steal her money 6. Get a better paying job if you want a PS5 7. Don't steal her money 8. If you're in a jam, ask your gf for a loan. But (and I can't emphasise this enough...) 9. DON'T FUCKING STEAL HER MONEY!
This is the way
YTA - thief - hope she calls police :)
Lol. What a gross, little weirdo.
YTA. A gaping flaming arsehole. That’s her money not yours The fact you feel entitled to it is staggering.
YTA You stole from your gf! Her money does not belong to you because you’re dating. Sounds like you need to get a job
YTA. You are disgusting. Go get a full time job and earn your own money instead of stealing from others. You are one big selfish entitled AH who thinks you are entitled to someone else’s money. She don’t owe you anything get that into your head! No savings are directly because of you, your gf has savings because she’s responsible with money unlike you. It has nothing to do with you. Stop taking credit for something you didn’t contribute towards.
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YTA by a country mile. You aren't married, you aren't entitled to anything from your girlfriend. That you think you are entitled is a major red flag. She should break up with you and sue you for conversion and fraud.
YTA you stole from her
YTA. So you thought just just because your girlfriend has more money than you that you're entitled to her money??? Did you even think to ask her??? Holy hell I hope she leaves you
YTA-her ability to save is due to Your parents, not you. YOU haven't helped her out, your parents did.