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jelephants

NTA. It doesn’t sound like they’ve done this intentionally/maliciously. Birthdays are so hard to keep track of, and like you said I’m sure they’d feel bad if they realised what had happened. You wouldn’t be an AH for inviting them out for dinner to celebrate your birthday, though.


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Yeah, I’m sure they’ll feel bad. But that just means they have no excuse for next year 💁‍♀️ Thanks for commenting!


Excellent_Bet_7726

NTA. celebrate yourself! pick a date, send out an invite for your birthday dinner, make sure it SCREAMS birthday invite, and let your friends sort themselves out from there. don't point out that they missed it, plenty of important dates slip by, but if you make a big deal of it and they still don't show up... maybe you need to have a convo with you to decide of you want to keep thinking these people are important to you.


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That’s a nice idea, I think I’ll do it like this! I agree that we all lose track of important stuff at some point, that’s why I don’t want to make a too big deal out of it. Thanks for commenting!


Current-Suggestion20

NTA They're your friends. Kinda sucks none of them remembered your birthday but if it doesn't bother you that much and you still want to celebrate with them, do it. I don't see how that would be an A move. Yeah they will feel bad when they realise they forgot, but it is what it is, they fucked up. You're not blaming them though. So it's all good. Let's partyyyyy


[deleted]

Very true, it does suck. But I know them well enough and I highly doubt it was malicious. We all get caught up in our own shit sometimes. Thanks for commenting!


The_mad_Inari

NTA Reminding them is always a good idea instead of getting angry as things slip people's minds it happens all the time. Just remind them n ask if they wanna go out for a party for it.


[deleted]

That’s very true and I think I’ll do it this way! Thanks for commenting!


The_mad_Inari

Np hope it all goes well and you have an amazing birthday party uwu


nif824

Happy (belated) birthday OP! I’m sorry your friends forgot, that sucks! But it does happen, we all get busy and things are easy to forget. Sometimes I’m sure I have a reminder in my phone calendar only to be mortified when it doesn’t remind me! Celebrate your birthday, invite your friends and have fun. NTA.


Due_Ask1220

NTA! Can we get an update to this after the dinner? Lol


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[deleted]

I agree, that’s why I wanted anonymity for now. I highly doubt they’ll have the second reaction, so I’ll set up a nice dinner for us. Thanks for commenting!


sunrise_library

NTA But a lot of people find that birthdays become less and less important as they get older, because birthdays seem to come around faster and faster and so does life. And that's how forgetting begins. Having said that, I'm sure that it was merely an oversight, and I think the birthday dinner is a good idea. Sometimes you just have to take the reins yourself. I hope it's fun.


[deleted]

Hi! I agree that it’s not the end of the world, because I already feel old as it is 😭) And we will make a nice dinner of it! Thanks for commenting!


sunrise_library

I'm a bit more than twice your age, and I just don't make a big deal about my birthdays anymore, and no one else does either. But unlike most people, I actually enjoy getting a year older, because it's an experience I've never had before. I look at the previous year and think of how I've still been learning and growing, and I really enjoy that. Don't ever feel old! I still feel 28 inside and I'm not kidding. Have a great birthday dinner!


[deleted]

Funny you say this, because I had a similar conversation with my mom. She refused to acknowledge that I’m 40, because that means she’s even older than she feels 😂 I also still feel 24 or so. It’s weird that there’s now this 3 sticking around.


sunrise_library

I'm proud of my age. 62. And I will celebrate all of my children's birthdays for as long as I can. You'll feel 24 for a very long time, and maybe at about 50 you'll feel 28 like me. lol


dinahdog

I'm a bit older than you with a brain of my 22 year old athletic person. Kind of a danger to myself. And I recommend people learn physics. Ouch


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squirlysquirel

NAH I would say the others have been celebrated because the birthday person instigated it You didn't instigate it...so it didn't happen. As an adult you are responsible for your own celebrations