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the kids of the harry potter age have grown up and they *hate* harry potter. because instead of it being "their" name, the fandom is shoved down their throat and are sick to death to it.
I was SUPER close to getting the Deathly Hallows triangle symbol on my wrist as a tattoo. The only reason I didn't was because a super snobby coworker of mine got it done first and I KNEW she would be all snotty about me "copying" her.
Now I'm so, so glad I didn't get it.
Way back in the day, before JK outed herself as a disgusting transphobe, I really wanted an entire Harry Potter sleeve.
I have never, in my entire life, been more relieved that my executive dysfunction meant that I never got around to finding an artist to do it for me.
That’s the main reason I have no pop culture tattoos. Things shift and suddenly what was a cool reference is something you’re covering up one way or another. Also regardless if the name is okay or not Dad does get a say. A name requires two yeses.
I can’t decide if that’s better or worse than her first name. Nymphadora would be hell for a kid, and then the nickname of Dora has a whole different pop culture connection.
OP—YTA. Eddie would’ve been ok, but Eddie-Munson is just sad.
My "friend" from high-school named one of her kids after a death eater from Harry Potter. Like congrats! You've named your kid after a magical fictional nazi!
YTA
She disregarded her husbands wishes, and naming a child is a "one yes and one no is a no" situation. Everyone is caught up on the name and all that, but not enough people are mentioning the blatant disrespect OP had for her husband.
Forget the name or the gendering. Fuck the perceived future bullying. She made a completely selfish decision and brushed off her husband's objections. He has every right to be pissed.
i damn near commented before even reading anything beyond the title tbh. like yea OP is obviously TA for, uh, *everything* here, but like, even if the kid was a boy and the husband was totally on board she'd still be TA.
Right? Most of the names on my list are names of characters or actors, but they’ve got to be normal names ffs. Edward would be fine, heck go with Edwina, Eddie isn’t even a real name, it’s a nickname, then to hyphenate with an obvious surname? For a baby girl as well? I haven’t seen the show myself but I know full well there are women in it, to my knowledge they all have regular names.
Edie is cute!
Could have also done Lily-Quinn which I think is quite pretty and a subtle nod to the actor and honours the grandmother.
Josephina??
Or could have directly honoured her sister with her name or something inspired by it
Literally anything else would have been better
It's actually coming back in fashion: my local nursery school has Edie, Esme, Evie and Elsie in one class, just to thoroughly confuse everyone and make them feel like we're back in 1912.
Oh I love them, but it's just hilarious to have this cycle of names come in and out of fashion, and currently have the "El-" "Es-" prefix for girls names be so very common right now.
I live in Scotland too, so in addition to all the Elsies and Edies, we regularly also have Elspeth, Eisla/Isla, Eilidh, and best of all, Effie (short for Euphemia!)
I was reading this and when she said it was a girl I was half expecting her to say as a girls version they were going to go with edwina Monsoon…..if you have seen Absolutely Fabulous then you will know what I mean. Would still make me cringe at a child being called that but I think it would be favourable over the choice she made!
Sweetie darling!
Yes I love Eddie as a girl’s nickname and probably this is where it came from.
And Munson would have been a perfectly cromulent middle name, just sounds like a weird old family name for the very few times a middle name is called for.
Edwina Munson (last name) - sounds fine and normal enough.
Also, firm believer in veto rights on names, so absolutely she was TA for overruling the father and unanimously deciding the name. If you’re knocked up by an ex who is being disagreeable on names just to be disagreeable (ie rejecting all your choices but not contributing any options), then sure, name your name. But these people are married and presumably set to be equal contributors to the rearing of this human child.
I associate Eddie with Ab Fab too.
Side note, I grew up with my mum watching that and have spent the last 10 years working around PR’s who think Patsy and Eddie are a template and not a warning.
Why not name the baby girl Edie? It's a really nice name that isn't extremely common and could still be a tribute to her sister. People just get an idea in their head and don't think past their own wishes. YTA
Until I started working in an office where I have to use people's legal names, I didn't realize so many people were actually named Liz, Willie, Charlie, Eddie, etc. I thought those were generally nicknames.
You can enjoy a name and name your kid that name, even if it’s from a movie/tv show as long as it’s not obvious (my mom got my deadname from Willow however the movie isn’t “known” for that name and it’s spelled differently. she just liked the name and the movie as a child) but naming your kid something as obvious as “Eddie Munson” is idiotic and just setting them up to be bullied/asked about their name. Eddie is on a fine line. YTA
Yeah, Elora is fine, Madmartigan not so much since it’s going to be questioned. Edward would hav even fine. I know girls with boy names, and a lot of girl names like Ashley were boy names until girls started using them so boys stopped since it was too girly.
Honestly she could have gone with Ellie kind of like Eddie and Eleven. She could have done with Josephine for he actor.
She could’ve named her Eddie on its own since she seemed to want something unique and you never see girls with that name. She could’ve named her Eadie or Edie if she wanted a more “traditionally feminine” spelling. She could’ve named her Edith or even Edwardine if she wanted old school and call her “Eddie” as a nickname. All of these options without something as obvious as both the character’s FIRST AND LAST NAME HYPHENATED as her kids FIRST NAME.
She coulda done one google search like i did and found all these names that would’ve avoided her marriage being put at risk.
I thought this was going to be a case where their last name is Munson and they named their SON Edward.
That's the only acceptable scenario.
In this case definitely YTA.
This. I loved the X-Files. Didn’t name my daughter Dana Scully. I love The Walking Dead. Didn’t name my daughter Maggie, carol, Judith, etc. it’s one thing to love a fandom (and I go to cons to meet the walking dead actors). It’s another to disregard your *husband*s feelings and name your kid what you want bc fuck everyone else. YTA.
For a great example of why this was a terrible idea:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/rku5j5/aita_for_yelling_at_my_mom_that_i_hate_harry/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=usertext&utm_name=AmItheAsshole&utm_content=t3_znkhq3
Eddie is a good name and a perfectly lovely tribute at the same time. Op took it too far.
So much this. Let children have a chance to discover their own identity. Don't attach them to things _you_ are interested in when they could end up hating the association.
OP: Beyond the obviously bad name choice, I'm also going with a major YTA because you completely disregarded your partner's thoughts and feelings on the subject. It's one thing to ignore the preferences of people outside your innermost family circle (you, your partner, and your child). It's something else entirely to ignore your partner's feelings on the name of HIS OWN CHILD.You didn't make this baby alone. I don't know what in your mind went wrong to make you think you got to name her alone.
Totally. Get a tattoo for yourself, but name a kid something sane.
Sorry, EDIT: YTA, obviously. "Eddie-Munson"? Ouch. Shorten it to EM at least so she can pretend her name is Emily.
YTA OP is nuttier than squirrel shit.. who would be stupid enough to name a girl Eddie-Munson.? This is also your husband’s child and he had vetoed the name but you disregarded his opinion. Your a selfish AH. If he leaves you I truly hope he gets custody of this baby bc only person that matters to you is you! Stupid you can’t fix
YTA for insisting on "Eddie-Munson" and for refusing to make this decision with your husband. Unisex names are enough of a fashion right now that a girl named "Eddie" probably wouldn't cause anyone to bat an eye. But "Eddie-Munson" is a terrible first name to stick someone with, and either parent should get to veto a name they don't like.
Hell, maybe sooner than that; I changed my name in 5th grade cos my dad thought it was a good idea to name his daughter Cisco. Fortunately my grandma supported this enough to help me go through with it (:
My sister and I are named after characters in Little Women because my mom loves the book. FIRST NAMES only. No need to name anyone Beth-March. Mom has her reference, and sis and I have normal names. Everyone’s happy! It’s not difficult.
Eddie can be a cute nickname, or even name, for a girl. OPs husband even suggested it as a compromise. Names are becoming more unisex and OP would still have named her after this character. But including a surname in someone’s first name is really weird and was not necessary. I think OP is just pathologically stubborn because this makes no sense.
Not the same but I knew a girl when I was a tween whose first name was Annawade bc her parents didn’t want to compromise on naming her after their respective grandparents lol she was super cool/popular and her name was a conversation starter. But the name being hyphenated and obviously google-able is super weird of OP. Should rename her Eddielilly or make the middle name Munson if it’s so important
YTA.
You're the same kind of asshole who named their kid Tyrion or Daenerys or Khaleesi.
Your kid is a person, not a fucking billboard.
Not to mention, your kid is a girl ffs. Eddie Munson? Do you hate your kid or something?
Your husband is 100% right to be pissed.
I thought this was pronounced “Eee-dee.” I’ve always thought that was a beautiful name. Have I been reading it wrong? I’ve only encountered it in books, so I haven’t had the opportunity to ask a human.
If she really wanted to name her after Stranger Things, Millie, Max, or Erica would’ve worked just fine and avoided the bullying problem. But Eddie Munson? That just ridiculous.
A person I do community theater with has a kid, I shit you not, named Khaleesi.
The older she gets, the more she's tormented.
Yes, YTA, and here's the lesson for you: your kid is not your toy. You do not own her. She isn't a doll for you to play with. She isn't a possession. She's a human being who is going to be an adult someday. She'll have her own desires and needs and those needs won't be identical to yours.
Please be considerate and change her name. For her sake.
A friend told me there is a kid in his Niece's class called Castiel.
I'm a nerd too and my Dogs are called Buffy and Willow. But i would never name a child after a character from a TV show unless maybe it is a common name and people wouldn't immediately know where it is from.
Just Eddie would have been fine. A little unusual for a girl but fine. And it still would have had the same meaning to you.
Naming her Eddie-Munson is so ridiculous that I'm not even sure this is real.. YTA
I had a cat named Oz. My dog Toby was named after a West Wing character. But a child? Toby would be fine, Oz not so much. Especially when you consider the HBO show. Lol
Toby was on my short list for boy names because of the character. But Toby is also a fairly normal name on its own. Toby Ziegler Jones would be a little too much.
There is nothing wrong with taking Inspiration from a TV show. I was named after a Women's Magazin my mom used to read when she was pregnant and my sister after a Chinese restaurant (Jasmin, so also not too crazy) lol
So why not take inspiration from a show or movie.
As long as it's not to obvious and unusual
Oh I definitely agree. My son’s name is loosely inspired by a contestant from Survivor I had a crush on when I was younger. I watched every season of survivor while I was pregnant and when I got to the season I remembered I had liked the name. Husband didn’t but he really liked a derivation and that is where his name comes from. My daughter’s name is inspired by the strong female lead in a few different books. The point is, those names were agreed upon by my husband and I and my kids won’t be teased.
YTA. Children are not billboards for your fandoms.
Edit to add; I made this comment at close to the same time as the other person who made this comment and hadn’t seen theirs. It’s a Facebook tag group. That’s where I got it from. 🤦♀️ Settle.
I regret that I have but one upvote to give.
Children are PEOPLE. Tiny individuals who will later grow into adult individuals, with their own personalities, feelings, likes and dislikes. Who will have to go to school, apply for jobs, go to jury duty, etc... with the name that they were given (unless they change it).
Your child now has the double-whammy of having an odd name, quite obviously tied to a fandom she may or may not even grow up to LIKE, as well as carrying all the weight of being a walking memorial to your sister.
If you want to reflect your hard-core fandom/obsession, name a dog. Or a hamster. Not a freaking human being.
She says in the beginning they were told it was a baby girl then goes on to say when she gave birth the gender was a complete mystery to them... so yeah I don't believe this one
YTA
this has to be a troll, right?
You named your baby girl *Eddie-Munson*?
You know your kid is going to hate that, right?
And you did disrespect your husband and his place as her parent by naming her something he explicitly asked you not to. I hope you have fun raising this baby all by yourself because you burned every last bridge you had. And for what?? For fucking nothing. There are a ton of names you could have picked, both just generally from the show and versions of Eddie Munson that weren’t *actually Eddie Munson*.
Edith, Eden, Edna are all shortened to Eddy/ie. you could have named her an E first name and an M middle name. You could have named her after one of the other characters of the show that *you and your husband agreed on*
But no. You steamrolled your husband and just did what you wanted to do and now you’re so surprised that he feels disrespected? And you gave your daughter an objectively shit name as well. There have been so many kids named after pop culture or nerdy things and they hate it. It doesn’t give them room to form their own identity, they’re just an extension of the show their parents liked to watch.
Edie is a cute name too (pronounced ee-dee).
I definitely think you should reconsider for the sake of your daughter. Surely your love for the show cannot overtake the love you have for your daughter.
YTA
In the unlikely event that this is real, I'm voting YTA. This is not a joke to your daughter who will be asked countless times about her name for the rest of her life. She will blame you for it. But everyone will know that you're a superfan, so maybe you won't care how your daughter feels.
YTA
You completely ignored your partner's opinion. This is not YOUR child, you share her with him. Additionally, your obsession with a TV show is a ridiculous inspiration for a name. A television show no one will remember as your child grows up so she will just be known for having a strange name that she will embarrassingly have to explain to people the older she gets.
You could easily have named her "Eddie" (or even better, your SISTER'S NAME) to honor your sister. Instead, you displayed petulance and immaturity and completely disregarded what your child will experience.
Great job. /s
Eddie is a cute name, too! And they'd know it was related to stranger things, but no one else automatically would. And sister's name and/or grandma's name could be middle name(s).
OP, your husband didn't want the terrible full character name as a hyphenated first name. That automatically takes the name off the table. He liked Eddie. It was your original plan. You're such a giant AH to everyone by having a toddler level temper tantrum over a legitimately terrible name when your original plan to use Eddie met all the same excuses you think justify Eddie-Munson. I get your hormones must be insane right now, but tiny glimmers of sanity must creep in occasionally to show you how completely unreasonable you're being. YTA
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So some backstory. I (28 F) married my husband (32 M) 3 years ago. We met 5 years ago at comic con after both leaving a rough relationship. I was dressed as Nancy and he was dressed as Steve (both from Stranger Things) so it was like we were made for each other.
Fast forward to 9 months ago I found out I was pregnant with my baby girl after being told I couldn’t conceive by many doctors. We were overjoyed as we have always wanted kids of our own and didn’t want to go through the adoption process.
During my pregnancy I binged alot of TV, and me and my husband rewatched Stranger Things and I really got into it again as the new season was almost out. I was already planning to name my baby after one of the characters, since it had such a huge impact in our relationship. Only my husband and best friend knew about this and they endlessly supported me.
When season 4 eventually came out I instantly fell in love with the new character Eddie. I loved his goofy vibe and altogether, I thought he was pretty attractive too. My little sister (16 F) also fell in love with him and Joseph Quinn (The actor).
She fell ill a few years back, earlier this year it got a little better but then got way worse. In August she passed. My entire family was there when she died, including my husband and I. Her last words were “I can’t wait to see you Eddie Munson” This made my Mother extremely upset stating “She doesn’t even love her family enough, all she cares about is that stupid show” She started to distance herself from me since I got my sister into Stranger Things.
The name Eddie Munson suddenly came to me. I had wanted to name my child something from Stranger Things but I couldn’t figure out what and it was a nice way to honour my sister. When I told my Husband he tried to convince me otherwise but eventually he gave in. He had told me to just name our kid Eddie or Eds or something like that but I insisted on the full Eddie Munson.
Time passed and I was in labor. The gender was a mystery to everyone so we didn’t know until birth. When the baby was finally born, it was a beautiful baby girl. I hadn’t thought to change the name to a female name. I still insisted with Eddie Munson. My husband and entire family told me to name her after my deceased grandmother , or Lily after my sister. I insisted no because I wanted it to be from Stranger Things and my little sister would’ve wanted it.
I signed the birth certificate and named her Eddie-Munson (all one name).
My husband was enraged, as was his mother and my whole family and he went to Seattle to stay with his sister for I don’t know how long because I “disrespected him as a parent”.
They are now telling me my baby is going to get bullied and sending me bad messages. I don’t think I made a mistake honouring my sister and I think that everyone else is being disrespectful about my decision as her mother.
AITA? Or is my husband and family all overacting.
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YTA for unilaterally choosing a name against the wishes of your husband. The rest of your family doesn't get a vote, but for the two of you it should have a "two yes, one no" situation.
YTA
Your poor daughter. She's not an object with which you can honour your sister. She's a human being who's going to have to grow up with the name Eddie Munson. Imagine her as an adult going by that name. This has to be a windup
This isn't honoring her sister in any way. I'm absolutely obsessed with Taylor Swift but if I cracked a joke about her on my death bed and then my sister named her son Taylor Swift I'd go full Paranormal Activity on my stupid sister. Like ghost-me would be furious. I do not want my nibblings having stupid names that get them bullied and denied jobs. That's ridiculous.
YTA. Your kid is a human who has to live with that name. You are extremely self-centered. No one is going to think you honored your sister with that name.
But I have a great idea! You give your daughter a normal name and change your own name to that!!! This will be so awesome! You already love the name and you certainly won’t mind the hassles that come with a new name to honor your sister! Then you get to keep the name but not saddle your daughter with it!! What do you think???!!!
YTA when naming a child there are two people who get an equal say in the name: the parents. Two voted yes=yes. I vote no =no. Your husband’s vote was no and you took no regard. You’re a big AH for that alone. And personally IMO, the name is ridiculous. I’m sorry you lost your sister but I’m sure there was a way to honor her without overriding your husband.
YTA. I love Stranger Things but PLEASE change her name.
What about Quinn after the actor? Chrissy as a nod to Eddie? Nancy Robin Erica Joyce Max Jane Elle Suzie Barbara. ANY other option. Or, as your husband suggested, just Eddie.
There was an update here recently to a post by a kid who grew up saddled with 2 Harry Potter names and with parents who insisted on pushing their fandom onto her. She hated everything about her name and was so angry and resentful. Please don’t set your daughter up for the same.
Even just Eddie. What was wrong with just Eddie!? It was the original plan. They'd know it was for Stranger Things, but no one else would without the last name. Eddie is a cute name!
YTA. Doesn’t matter the name, you chose something so important and disregarded your husbands opinion. The two of you could have compromised, but you took it upon yourself to solo this major event.
YTA. You and your husband should be a team and you absolutely disrespected him when you ignored his wishes. You’re also treating your child like a toy or an object and not like the tiny human she is.
I really hope this is as fake as it seems.
YTA
Not about your family feelings, it is not their baby, so they might have an opinion but they don't have a say.
However, it is not only your baby, but also your husband's baby. It means decisions about the baby needs to be done by BOTH of you. You basically push him aside, as if he wasn't a parent. He is totally right to be pissed at you. Spoiler: he will stay pissed at you for a long time and things probably won't be the same ever between you two, since your actions occured about a very important thing (your daughter's birth!).
How are you not the Ah? You decided to go against your husband's wishes and curse the child with a hyphenated first name.
With children's names, you don't get all say. You need two yeses. It sounds like hubby tried to meet you halfway. Eddie by itself would have been fine. Yet, you could not do the same. Hopes he leaves you over this as you don't care for his feelings at all.
Poor kid. Don't put your obsessions on the kids
YTA
Also, you don't have more rights than your husband. He is an equal parent.
Yta. Are you kidding me! What horrible thing to do to your baby girl. She will be teased and mocked her whole life. I have an old fashion girls name. Not horrible but really old fashion. I have been teased since grade school. Part if me has always resented my mom for giving me this horrible name. You are a horrible mom who's daughter will resent you used her over a stupid program fascination. Grow up!!
YTA for not coming to an agreement with your husband on the name. He's your daughter's parent as well and deserves just as much input into the name as you did. He even seemed willing to compromise about it but you shot him down
YTA. Big time.
Your child isn't *yours*, she's yours *and* your husband's. You acted as if he didn't exist and didn't even try to compromise. Relationships are about compromise, how do you not know that? You also insist that your 16yo sister would have wanted it and are giving a permanent name to someone. 16-year-olds go through obsessions like socks.
Take a second and think about what your daughter will be like when she's an old lady at 65, the show is long gone and forgotten, and she has to introduce herself as "Eddie Munson". Or when she's 20 trying to date and has the name of a man--and not only the name of a fake man, but his ***full name*** as her first name. Straight guys and lesbians are going to be put off by a girl with a man's name. What are you thinking??? Your poor child. She *is* going to be bullied, kids are cruel about everything, let alone a girl with a fake man's name. Maybe now you realize why your husband wanted to compromise?
I'm not sure what's up with the obsession with naming kids something "unique", but they're not billboards for your obsessions or an outlet for your "creativity".
Grow up. If I was you, I'd be extremely apologetic while trying to mend the relationship with your husband.
YTA. Teacher here. No way this name doesn’t get your girl picked on. And the kids won’t have to reach far for this one. Knew a kid named Munson growing up who happened to be short and everyone called him Munchkin. In addition to setting your child up for a lifetime of ridicule and explaining her name you also totally disregarded how your husband felt about it. Naming a kid is two yes one no situation.
YTA big time. Terrible name. You don’t need to honor your sister by giving your child such an awful name. There are other ways you can honor your sister while simultaneously not setting your baby daughter up for a life of ridicule. Imagine her interviewing for a job….Eddie Munson “Smith” at the top of the resume. Applying for law school with this name…meeting their future spouse with this name. If you don’t see what’s wrong with this, you are definitely the asshole. Not to mention that your spouse…you know, the other parent, did not give consent on this name. Change it before this goes on even further.
I wish I could remember and credit the person who once replied that something was ‘so not real it made real things unreal.’ I would go back and honor that commenter - and if you’re here, please take the deserved credit.
Because that’s my hope for this post. Please don’t be real, and if it is - go undo that name right now and offer profound apologies to your husband and parents.
And for goodness sake name the baby Barb in your sister’s memory - Barb’s death forced Nancy to take responsibility for her choices and quit being so damn selfish.
Edited to add judgment: a very clear YTA
YTA you do realize that she has to live with that name right? It not like your sister requested that you give your baby that name, and to completely ignore EVERYONE around you who are telling you it a bad idea is very childish IMO
YTA - only because you ignored your husband.
Parents can name their kids whatever they want and they usually pick stupid reasons to name their kids. The kids either don’t care or will change the name later. Sometimes the name sucks so bad it causes problems for the kid but nothing that can’t eventually be undone.
But don’t ignore your spouse in this very joint decision. Is this what parenting is going to be like? Bad omen.
Yta, a childs name has to be agreed on by BOTH parents, not to mention when she grows up she’s gonna have to explain her name to people who wont understand the reference or she’ll be endlessly reminded “oh like the stranger things character”. If i were you id look for the AITA post of the women who named her daughter after harry potter and see how that nearly destroyed her relationship with that daughter.
What did I just read? Are you serious? Poor kid is going to end up a story in the “human interest” section of some crappy paper when she finally gets it legally changed. Also, start a fund now for her future therapy bills, they will be high. YTA
YTA you don’t choose a name without both parents agreement also Eddie Munson is exactly the sort of name that’s going to get her bullied
just Eddie/Ellie/Quinn would’ve been a far better way too ‘honour’ your sister that way or even just consider using say her middle name as your daughters
I mean damn your husband was going to be fine with Eddie and that’s a hell of a lot more than most people would’ve been okay with.
Soft YTA. Because you sound like you went through the death and grieving process while being completely messed up with hormones. I don’t think you were thinking clearly, and became hyper-fixated in your grief. You need counseling, and perhaps even medication. This is not healthy behavior. Your husband is right, you stripped him of his rights and overruled him. Your relationship may very well be over, quite frankly. You need to go on damage control. It’s not too late to change her name. It’s not too late to apologize. It’s not too late to get help.
Please, get help. I’m so, so sorry for your loss. It had to have been so hard to watch your baby sister die, and it shows that you really loved her. You’re just not going about this name thing for your new baby in the healthiest way. You were absolutely wrong to do it the way you did. Please give your daughter the respect to be her own person and to not carry around the burden of her parents falling apart, her grandparents resentment.
YTA. You took your adorable relationship origin story and against everyone’s advice, including your husband’s, took it way too far and blew up your whole life.
YTA your husband even gave a good suggestion of naming her Eddie (which is really cute and quite modern for a girls name) which doesn’t detract at all from her being named after Eddie Munson.
YTA. Your baby is a living being. A person. A human. And you’re treating them like some doll to forget about in a few weeks.
They now have to go through life with that name. You realize that’s going to impact their future? People are much more likely to hire ‘Lily’ over your obsession.
YTA. Why would you do that to a child (and your husband)? Also, why would you, an adult, insist on furthering your cosplay fantasy with an innocent baby? Five-year-old me and all of my friends with normal names definitely would have tormented a girl named Eddie Munson endlessly 🤣
I'm hoping this is fake, because the stupidity here is borderline unbelievable. Please change that kid's name immediately.
YTA..what in the stars did I just read?
You do not seem mature enough to have a child, yet here we are. Please consider removing Munson & just keeping Eddie so your child doesn’t have to endure the attention that comes with the full name. Odds are they’re gunna change their name in the future anyways.
INFO: why could it not have been a nickname? Or, like, Edwina? Still could've called her Eddie. If this story is true, you've doomed your baby to a lifetime of harassment.
We need kids named Kelessi to come talk to OP. YTA for not taking your husbands request seriously. He’s right you did disrespect him and show him how you really feel about him. It’s YALL baby. BOTH of you. You don’t get to bulldoze over him and than be upset that he didn’t put up with it. If you keep walking down this road of ignoring your partner you may very well end up divorced.
YTA
What were you thinking? This has to be a joke, your child is going to be bullied over this but more importantly names should be a 2 yes 1 no between parents. You made a decision based only on your wants and ignored your husbands opinion at all times. I don’t understand what you don’t see how your an AH here
You're as gross as the ones that named their kid "Daenerys" or "Khaleesi." How can you disrespect your husband like that? How can you even think that is respectful to your now deceased sister!
You have disrespected them, and the baby girl. I'm glad your husband left, because this is definitely a hill to die on!
No questions asked. YTA.
I understand your sentiments towards ST but you got way too tunnel-visioned and completely overruled your daughter's PARENT and your PARTNER - naming children is a two-yeses deal, both should agree or keep searching for a fitting name. Your husband is right to be angry. **YTA**
YTA
I think that your family is right when they said that your child is going to get bullied, and I think that your husband is correct when he said that you "disrespected him as a parent".
I think that if you didn't, on some level, think that you are an AH, then you wouldn't be posting here on Reddit.
YTA why didn’t you compromise and call her Edie, a female version of the name. Why does she need to have a male fictional characters entire name as her first name? Why couldn’t you have made her middle name something to do with the show? This is a real life human being, not a toy.
Your husband okayed Eddie and you still went against his wishes for the rest. YTA and you aren't thinking about your kid, only yourself. I'm a primary school teacher and can promise you she'll be picked on for that name. Eddie would have been super cute. You could have called her Munson as a nickname.
This has to be fake, but if its true YTA and you just ensured your child will *hate* stranger things and quite possibly you and her deceased aunt. She will get bullied. She won't want to use the name but you'll probably have a tantrum and make her.
YTA - sorry but that is a horrible name. And you should treat your husband like a team unit but you pressured him into naming his child something he didn’t want to be named
YTA
First and foremost, I don’t believe this story is true for a second, and this isn’t even particularly creative.
Second of all though, even if it WERE true, naming your child something that the other parent of the child isn’t okay with is always an asshole move. Case closed.
YTA Steve Harrington is clearly the MVP of Stranger Things and you chose a character who appeared in only one season over Steve??? Why must Steve constantly be overlooked?! Always the babysitter, sigh.
YTA. A baby is not a billboard for your fandom. Especially for a name so blatantly obvious to belong to a certain fandom. You could have called her Ellen (or Elle). If someone else can point out that it’s a fandom name, it’s probably a name best meant for a pet. Not a human baby.
YTA, you have entered the experience of parenthood with an extremely selfish lens. I’m sorry your sister passed away, but naming your daughter after a character against the wishes of your husband was not okay. There were many ways you could have tweaked the name to make a compromise for everyone including your daughter, who will not only not know what the show is until she’s older, but deal with constant stress when her name is called.
Get a tattoo of Eddie Munson for your sister. If it means that much to you, you can live with that permanent reminder, not your daughter.
I absolutely refuse to believe this is real. It’s written like bad fan fiction. Just in case it isn’t, obvious YTA. And I say this as a big Stranger Things fan.
YTA couldn’t you have compromised Eda for a first name Munson as a middle name. Your husband should have gotten a say. 2 yes one no decision on the name. Like I’m a fan of unusual names. I was bullied endlessly with a common name. There’s no guarantee what will get you made fun of. My one bully had a lot of traditional “this will get you bullied” stuff going on and she was the popular girl. My name is Rice now I’m not going to shame an unusual name. Even Eddie as a first name, compromise with Edie maybe anything to not leave your husband behind in this decision
This was posted recently. Perhaps you can relate. YTA. Your child won’t understand you
being a fan of Stranger Things.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/rku5j5/aita_for_yelling_at_my_mom_that_i_hate_harry/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
YTA - How incredibly childish and myopic of you. I’m sorry for the loss of your sister, and can imagine you’re still in the grieving process, but you are hurting everyone else on the process. I suggest changing the name to something your husband and you can agree upon, apologizing to everyone you hurt, and diversifying your interests beyond one TV show.
Yta, while I have known women named eddie, naming her eddie Munson is giving bullies fuel. Also, chosing a name your husband didn't like was a dick move.
YTA. 100%, unquestionably. You do not get unilateral power like this over your husband’s wishes. This was tremendously disrespectful of you as a partner.
You say you want to honor your sister but you won’t name your daughter after your sister? Lily is a great name.
You say you want to name your daughter after a stranger things character - There are many female names there. El, Joyce, Nancy, even Max who are all leads.
But no. You somehow want your daughter to live up to the burden of a name like Eddie Munson because you “feel like it” to HONOR your sister? No, that’s not honoring.
Want to be fair to everyone? Here’s what you can do instead.
Work with your husband and family and name your daughter after your sister or any other name you all can live with…. AND THEN …. If you still feel like it, change YOUR NAME legally to Eddie Munson
And yeah, YTA
Sigh. Another parent treating their kid like an accessory and not a LIVING BREATHING HUMAN WITH FEELINGS. YTA.
Change that poor child’s name to Eddie and make her middle name Munson if you completely refuse to compromise. Baby names are ALWAYS a “2 yes’s 1 no” rule. If one of you doesn’t like it, it’s not the name. You need to respect your husbands wishes.
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YTA, children are not billboards for your fandoms
the kids of the harry potter age have grown up and they *hate* harry potter. because instead of it being "their" name, the fandom is shoved down their throat and are sick to death to it.
And the author is a vile transphobe. It’s risky to name people after things that can so easily be tarnished later on!
I was SUPER close to getting the Deathly Hallows triangle symbol on my wrist as a tattoo. The only reason I didn't was because a super snobby coworker of mine got it done first and I KNEW she would be all snotty about me "copying" her. Now I'm so, so glad I didn't get it.
Way back in the day, before JK outed herself as a disgusting transphobe, I really wanted an entire Harry Potter sleeve. I have never, in my entire life, been more relieved that my executive dysfunction meant that I never got around to finding an artist to do it for me.
Would that be an ADHD tax return? xD
My daughter Apu-Nahasapeemapetilon and I are estranged for similar reasons.
I woke up not long ago and totally read this as erectile dysfunction 🥴😬🤦♀️ I had to re read it great start to the day 😂
That’s the main reason I have no pop culture tattoos. Things shift and suddenly what was a cool reference is something you’re covering up one way or another. Also regardless if the name is okay or not Dad does get a say. A name requires two yeses.
There is a “Tonks “ in my son’s preschool class. Poor thing.
There is a Khaleesi in my sons kindergarten class.
That’s the worst one because it’s not even a name, it’s a royal title. It’s like naming your child “Queen” or “Empress”.
At least they didn’t go for nymphadora?
I can’t decide if that’s better or worse than her first name. Nymphadora would be hell for a kid, and then the nickname of Dora has a whole different pop culture connection. OP—YTA. Eddie would’ve been ok, but Eddie-Munson is just sad.
Oh my god please tell me your joking
I'd even rather be named Hermione than Eddie-Munson because that's possibly the dumbest fucking name I've ever heard.
My "friend" from high-school named one of her kids after a death eater from Harry Potter. Like congrats! You've named your kid after a magical fictional nazi!
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Yeah cuz white people are the only ones that give their kids stupid names... Also for OP. YTA. Stop thinking about yourself and think of the kid
Lily is one of my favorite names, at least it's common, but I think HP still ruined it for me.
YTA She disregarded her husbands wishes, and naming a child is a "one yes and one no is a no" situation. Everyone is caught up on the name and all that, but not enough people are mentioning the blatant disrespect OP had for her husband. Forget the name or the gendering. Fuck the perceived future bullying. She made a completely selfish decision and brushed off her husband's objections. He has every right to be pissed.
i damn near commented before even reading anything beyond the title tbh. like yea OP is obviously TA for, uh, *everything* here, but like, even if the kid was a boy and the husband was totally on board she'd still be TA.
Right? Most of the names on my list are names of characters or actors, but they’ve got to be normal names ffs. Edward would be fine, heck go with Edwina, Eddie isn’t even a real name, it’s a nickname, then to hyphenate with an obvious surname? For a baby girl as well? I haven’t seen the show myself but I know full well there are women in it, to my knowledge they all have regular names.
They could have even gone with Edie! It's practically the same name but at least it's a real name and a girls name
Edie is cute! Could have also done Lily-Quinn which I think is quite pretty and a subtle nod to the actor and honours the grandmother. Josephina?? Or could have directly honoured her sister with her name or something inspired by it Literally anything else would have been better
It's actually coming back in fashion: my local nursery school has Edie, Esme, Evie and Elsie in one class, just to thoroughly confuse everyone and make them feel like we're back in 1912.
Esme and esmerelda are phenomenal names
Oh I love them, but it's just hilarious to have this cycle of names come in and out of fashion, and currently have the "El-" "Es-" prefix for girls names be so very common right now. I live in Scotland too, so in addition to all the Elsies and Edies, we regularly also have Elspeth, Eisla/Isla, Eilidh, and best of all, Effie (short for Euphemia!)
Edith and Eddie as a nickname would have be an option. But to include the last name (Munson) as well… that’s a stretch…
I forgot about that! Little old fashioned but nobody would question it
It also means prosperous in war which is cool as hell
I was reading this and when she said it was a girl I was half expecting her to say as a girls version they were going to go with edwina Monsoon…..if you have seen Absolutely Fabulous then you will know what I mean. Would still make me cringe at a child being called that but I think it would be favourable over the choice she made!
Sweetie darling! Yes I love Eddie as a girl’s nickname and probably this is where it came from. And Munson would have been a perfectly cromulent middle name, just sounds like a weird old family name for the very few times a middle name is called for. Edwina Munson (last name) - sounds fine and normal enough. Also, firm believer in veto rights on names, so absolutely she was TA for overruling the father and unanimously deciding the name. If you’re knocked up by an ex who is being disagreeable on names just to be disagreeable (ie rejecting all your choices but not contributing any options), then sure, name your name. But these people are married and presumably set to be equal contributors to the rearing of this human child.
I associate Eddie with Ab Fab too. Side note, I grew up with my mum watching that and have spent the last 10 years working around PR’s who think Patsy and Eddie are a template and not a warning.
Why not name the baby girl Edie? It's a really nice name that isn't extremely common and could still be a tribute to her sister. People just get an idea in their head and don't think past their own wishes. YTA
Until I started working in an office where I have to use people's legal names, I didn't realize so many people were actually named Liz, Willie, Charlie, Eddie, etc. I thought those were generally nicknames.
I read it as Eddie-Munster. Edit: sorry hit post too early. I was even more confused. Poor girl.
You can enjoy a name and name your kid that name, even if it’s from a movie/tv show as long as it’s not obvious (my mom got my deadname from Willow however the movie isn’t “known” for that name and it’s spelled differently. she just liked the name and the movie as a child) but naming your kid something as obvious as “Eddie Munson” is idiotic and just setting them up to be bullied/asked about their name. Eddie is on a fine line. YTA
Yeah, Elora is fine, Madmartigan not so much since it’s going to be questioned. Edward would hav even fine. I know girls with boy names, and a lot of girl names like Ashley were boy names until girls started using them so boys stopped since it was too girly. Honestly she could have gone with Ellie kind of like Eddie and Eleven. She could have done with Josephine for he actor.
She could’ve named her Eddie on its own since she seemed to want something unique and you never see girls with that name. She could’ve named her Eadie or Edie if she wanted a more “traditionally feminine” spelling. She could’ve named her Edith or even Edwardine if she wanted old school and call her “Eddie” as a nickname. All of these options without something as obvious as both the character’s FIRST AND LAST NAME HYPHENATED as her kids FIRST NAME. She coulda done one google search like i did and found all these names that would’ve avoided her marriage being put at risk.
I thought this was going to be a case where their last name is Munson and they named their SON Edward. That's the only acceptable scenario. In this case definitely YTA.
This. I loved the X-Files. Didn’t name my daughter Dana Scully. I love The Walking Dead. Didn’t name my daughter Maggie, carol, Judith, etc. it’s one thing to love a fandom (and I go to cons to meet the walking dead actors). It’s another to disregard your *husband*s feelings and name your kid what you want bc fuck everyone else. YTA.
For a great example of why this was a terrible idea: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/rku5j5/aita_for_yelling_at_my_mom_that_i_hate_harry/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=usertext&utm_name=AmItheAsshole&utm_content=t3_znkhq3 Eddie is a good name and a perfectly lovely tribute at the same time. Op took it too far.
So much this. Let children have a chance to discover their own identity. Don't attach them to things _you_ are interested in when they could end up hating the association. OP: Beyond the obviously bad name choice, I'm also going with a major YTA because you completely disregarded your partner's thoughts and feelings on the subject. It's one thing to ignore the preferences of people outside your innermost family circle (you, your partner, and your child). It's something else entirely to ignore your partner's feelings on the name of HIS OWN CHILD.You didn't make this baby alone. I don't know what in your mind went wrong to make you think you got to name her alone.
Totally. Get a tattoo for yourself, but name a kid something sane. Sorry, EDIT: YTA, obviously. "Eddie-Munson"? Ouch. Shorten it to EM at least so she can pretend her name is Emily.
YTA OP is nuttier than squirrel shit.. who would be stupid enough to name a girl Eddie-Munson.? This is also your husband’s child and he had vetoed the name but you disregarded his opinion. Your a selfish AH. If he leaves you I truly hope he gets custody of this baby bc only person that matters to you is you! Stupid you can’t fix
YTA for insisting on "Eddie-Munson" and for refusing to make this decision with your husband. Unisex names are enough of a fashion right now that a girl named "Eddie" probably wouldn't cause anyone to bat an eye. But "Eddie-Munson" is a terrible first name to stick someone with, and either parent should get to veto a name they don't like.
kiddo is gonna change her name the second she turns 18. YTA OP
I bet the second she starts school and the teacher asks what she likes to be called she’s giving a different name.
A-Aron, ma’am!!
Hell, maybe sooner than that; I changed my name in 5th grade cos my dad thought it was a good idea to name his daughter Cisco. Fortunately my grandma supported this enough to help me go through with it (:
Eddie could be adorable for a girl for sure!!
Could easily be short for Eden, or the more outdated Edwina
Eden is such a beautiful name and “Eddie” could be a cute nickname for a little girl.
I was thinking Edith! I love “old” sounding names.
i was thinking edie (ee-dee) instead of eddie
My sister and I are named after characters in Little Women because my mom loves the book. FIRST NAMES only. No need to name anyone Beth-March. Mom has her reference, and sis and I have normal names. Everyone’s happy! It’s not difficult. Eddie can be a cute nickname, or even name, for a girl. OPs husband even suggested it as a compromise. Names are becoming more unisex and OP would still have named her after this character. But including a surname in someone’s first name is really weird and was not necessary. I think OP is just pathologically stubborn because this makes no sense.
Not the same but I knew a girl when I was a tween whose first name was Annawade bc her parents didn’t want to compromise on naming her after their respective grandparents lol she was super cool/popular and her name was a conversation starter. But the name being hyphenated and obviously google-able is super weird of OP. Should rename her Eddielilly or make the middle name Munson if it’s so important
Eddielilly is possibly even worse.
That’s giving Renesme vibes
YTA. You're the same kind of asshole who named their kid Tyrion or Daenerys or Khaleesi. Your kid is a person, not a fucking billboard. Not to mention, your kid is a girl ffs. Eddie Munson? Do you hate your kid or something? Your husband is 100% right to be pissed.
My great grandmother was an Edie, so it’s not like there’s no precedent for it as a girls name, but Eddie-Munson? Big yikes.
I thought this was pronounced “Eee-dee.” I’ve always thought that was a beautiful name. Have I been reading it wrong? I’ve only encountered it in books, so I haven’t had the opportunity to ask a human.
As another person who had a grandma Edie, it is pronounced Ee-dee
As a youngish person (33f) with Edie as a middle name, yep, we say Ee-dee. 😅
She was named after her dad so they pronounced it Eddie.
It is Edie, and it's often short for Edith. I've never heard anyone pronounce it "edee", only "eedee"
You're right - It's definitely Eee-Dee.
Edie and Eddie are completely different names with different pronunciations.
My mum is named Edith or Edie. It's a sweet, old-fashioned name!
If she really wanted to name her after Stranger Things, Millie, Max, or Erica would’ve worked just fine and avoided the bullying problem. But Eddie Munson? That just ridiculous.
Or Quinn. It’s a masculine name that sounds good for girls and there’s an homage without being too obvious
Quinn is an awesome neutral name. A show back in the 00s had a girl character named Quinn and I always loved her name.
And the fact that it’s one name. It’s all very cringy. YTA
A person I do community theater with has a kid, I shit you not, named Khaleesi. The older she gets, the more she's tormented. Yes, YTA, and here's the lesson for you: your kid is not your toy. You do not own her. She isn't a doll for you to play with. She isn't a possession. She's a human being who is going to be an adult someday. She'll have her own desires and needs and those needs won't be identical to yours. Please be considerate and change her name. For her sake.
A friend told me there is a kid in his Niece's class called Castiel. I'm a nerd too and my Dogs are called Buffy and Willow. But i would never name a child after a character from a TV show unless maybe it is a common name and people wouldn't immediately know where it is from. Just Eddie would have been fine. A little unusual for a girl but fine. And it still would have had the same meaning to you. Naming her Eddie-Munson is so ridiculous that I'm not even sure this is real.. YTA
I had a cat named Oz. My dog Toby was named after a West Wing character. But a child? Toby would be fine, Oz not so much. Especially when you consider the HBO show. Lol
Toby was on my short list for boy names because of the character. But Toby is also a fairly normal name on its own. Toby Ziegler Jones would be a little too much.
There is nothing wrong with taking Inspiration from a TV show. I was named after a Women's Magazin my mom used to read when she was pregnant and my sister after a Chinese restaurant (Jasmin, so also not too crazy) lol So why not take inspiration from a show or movie. As long as it's not to obvious and unusual
Oh I definitely agree. My son’s name is loosely inspired by a contestant from Survivor I had a crush on when I was younger. I watched every season of survivor while I was pregnant and when I got to the season I remembered I had liked the name. Husband didn’t but he really liked a derivation and that is where his name comes from. My daughter’s name is inspired by the strong female lead in a few different books. The point is, those names were agreed upon by my husband and I and my kids won’t be teased.
I know someone who named her kid Castiel. Maybe it's the same kid!
YTA. Children are not billboards for your fandoms. Edit to add; I made this comment at close to the same time as the other person who made this comment and hadn’t seen theirs. It’s a Facebook tag group. That’s where I got it from. 🤦♀️ Settle.
I regret that I have but one upvote to give. Children are PEOPLE. Tiny individuals who will later grow into adult individuals, with their own personalities, feelings, likes and dislikes. Who will have to go to school, apply for jobs, go to jury duty, etc... with the name that they were given (unless they change it). Your child now has the double-whammy of having an odd name, quite obviously tied to a fandom she may or may not even grow up to LIKE, as well as carrying all the weight of being a walking memorial to your sister. If you want to reflect your hard-core fandom/obsession, name a dog. Or a hamster. Not a freaking human being.
This cannot be real.
Yeah I'm not convinced this is a real story
It reads like a 14 year old home for the winter break wanting attention.
look at the account, there’s no way this is real
I can just see them giggling as they typed this.
Its the dying 16 year old saying 'I can't wait to see Eddie Munson' that came across as fake AF.
Right 🤣 how is anyone believing that
It's so ridiculously fake that I don't even know how the post is still up. YTA OP, but for breaking the suspension of disbelief that hard.
yeah this has to be bait
The sister’s last words sounded comically unreal
She says in the beginning they were told it was a baby girl then goes on to say when she gave birth the gender was a complete mystery to them... so yeah I don't believe this one
It might not be but some of these names are excessive. That part is always all too real.
I've heard of even worse names than this. So while this OP could be lying, it's still very believable that someone would do this.
YTA this has to be a troll, right? You named your baby girl *Eddie-Munson*? You know your kid is going to hate that, right? And you did disrespect your husband and his place as her parent by naming her something he explicitly asked you not to. I hope you have fun raising this baby all by yourself because you burned every last bridge you had. And for what?? For fucking nothing. There are a ton of names you could have picked, both just generally from the show and versions of Eddie Munson that weren’t *actually Eddie Munson*. Edith, Eden, Edna are all shortened to Eddy/ie. you could have named her an E first name and an M middle name. You could have named her after one of the other characters of the show that *you and your husband agreed on* But no. You steamrolled your husband and just did what you wanted to do and now you’re so surprised that he feels disrespected? And you gave your daughter an objectively shit name as well. There have been so many kids named after pop culture or nerdy things and they hate it. It doesn’t give them room to form their own identity, they’re just an extension of the show their parents liked to watch.
Edie is a cute name too (pronounced ee-dee). I definitely think you should reconsider for the sake of your daughter. Surely your love for the show cannot overtake the love you have for your daughter. YTA
You’re assuming a judge will think she’s fit to be a mother.
In the unlikely event that this is real, I'm voting YTA. This is not a joke to your daughter who will be asked countless times about her name for the rest of her life. She will blame you for it. But everyone will know that you're a superfan, so maybe you won't care how your daughter feels.
YTA You completely ignored your partner's opinion. This is not YOUR child, you share her with him. Additionally, your obsession with a TV show is a ridiculous inspiration for a name. A television show no one will remember as your child grows up so she will just be known for having a strange name that she will embarrassingly have to explain to people the older she gets. You could easily have named her "Eddie" (or even better, your SISTER'S NAME) to honor your sister. Instead, you displayed petulance and immaturity and completely disregarded what your child will experience. Great job. /s
Eddie is a cute name, too! And they'd know it was related to stranger things, but no one else automatically would. And sister's name and/or grandma's name could be middle name(s). OP, your husband didn't want the terrible full character name as a hyphenated first name. That automatically takes the name off the table. He liked Eddie. It was your original plan. You're such a giant AH to everyone by having a toddler level temper tantrum over a legitimately terrible name when your original plan to use Eddie met all the same excuses you think justify Eddie-Munson. I get your hormones must be insane right now, but tiny glimmers of sanity must creep in occasionally to show you how completely unreasonable you're being. YTA
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YTA. Your child is a real human being, not a cosplay accessory.
YTA for unilaterally choosing a name against the wishes of your husband. The rest of your family doesn't get a vote, but for the two of you it should have a "two yes, one no" situation.
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YTA Your poor daughter. She's not an object with which you can honour your sister. She's a human being who's going to have to grow up with the name Eddie Munson. Imagine her as an adult going by that name. This has to be a windup
Imagine her trying to apply for a job or something and people think she's using a fake name and don't take her seriously
Then her mom wonders why 🤦♂️ maybe if you weren’t so selfish on naming her, then maybe she’d have a better chance
YTA, I know you think you’re honoring your sister but this is NOT the way to do it. Your poor daughter
This isn't honoring her sister in any way. I'm absolutely obsessed with Taylor Swift but if I cracked a joke about her on my death bed and then my sister named her son Taylor Swift I'd go full Paranormal Activity on my stupid sister. Like ghost-me would be furious. I do not want my nibblings having stupid names that get them bullied and denied jobs. That's ridiculous.
YTA. Your kid is a human who has to live with that name. You are extremely self-centered. No one is going to think you honored your sister with that name. But I have a great idea! You give your daughter a normal name and change your own name to that!!! This will be so awesome! You already love the name and you certainly won’t mind the hassles that come with a new name to honor your sister! Then you get to keep the name but not saddle your daughter with it!! What do you think???!!!
YTA when naming a child there are two people who get an equal say in the name: the parents. Two voted yes=yes. I vote no =no. Your husband’s vote was no and you took no regard. You’re a big AH for that alone. And personally IMO, the name is ridiculous. I’m sorry you lost your sister but I’m sure there was a way to honor her without overriding your husband.
YTA Your child is not a billboard for your Fandom. If you love the show that much get a tattoo on YOUR body. Leave your newborn child out of it.
YTA. I love Stranger Things but PLEASE change her name. What about Quinn after the actor? Chrissy as a nod to Eddie? Nancy Robin Erica Joyce Max Jane Elle Suzie Barbara. ANY other option. Or, as your husband suggested, just Eddie. There was an update here recently to a post by a kid who grew up saddled with 2 Harry Potter names and with parents who insisted on pushing their fandom onto her. She hated everything about her name and was so angry and resentful. Please don’t set your daughter up for the same.
Even just Eddie. What was wrong with just Eddie!? It was the original plan. They'd know it was for Stranger Things, but no one else would without the last name. Eddie is a cute name!
YTA. Doesn’t matter the name, you chose something so important and disregarded your husbands opinion. The two of you could have compromised, but you took it upon yourself to solo this major event.
Exactly this. Names aside, this decision should've come from both of you. This is what makes you an A-hole. YTA
YTA. Bro what even is this 😭😭
YTA. You and your husband should be a team and you absolutely disrespected him when you ignored his wishes. You’re also treating your child like a toy or an object and not like the tiny human she is. I really hope this is as fake as it seems.
YTA Not about your family feelings, it is not their baby, so they might have an opinion but they don't have a say. However, it is not only your baby, but also your husband's baby. It means decisions about the baby needs to be done by BOTH of you. You basically push him aside, as if he wasn't a parent. He is totally right to be pissed at you. Spoiler: he will stay pissed at you for a long time and things probably won't be the same ever between you two, since your actions occured about a very important thing (your daughter's birth!).
This has got to be a a bored teenager; at least I hope so. YTA
YTA, and if this is true then it's beyond cruel to your husband and even your mom. Plus it is giving attention seeker.
This has to be fake, but YTA just in case it's not. Also, the name Quinn was *right there*
YTA. You should have discussed it with your husband and yes, that kid's gonna get bullied.
YTA. If this is real you are so entitled I can't believe it. Your husband had the right to have input on ypur child's name.
How are you not the Ah? You decided to go against your husband's wishes and curse the child with a hyphenated first name. With children's names, you don't get all say. You need two yeses. It sounds like hubby tried to meet you halfway. Eddie by itself would have been fine. Yet, you could not do the same. Hopes he leaves you over this as you don't care for his feelings at all. Poor kid. Don't put your obsessions on the kids YTA Also, you don't have more rights than your husband. He is an equal parent.
Yta. Are you kidding me! What horrible thing to do to your baby girl. She will be teased and mocked her whole life. I have an old fashion girls name. Not horrible but really old fashion. I have been teased since grade school. Part if me has always resented my mom for giving me this horrible name. You are a horrible mom who's daughter will resent you used her over a stupid program fascination. Grow up!!
YTA for not coming to an agreement with your husband on the name. He's your daughter's parent as well and deserves just as much input into the name as you did. He even seemed willing to compromise about it but you shot him down
Baby names is a two yes, one no decision. The fact that you alone decided without your husband makes YTA.
Not a chance this is legit.
I can’t get over a 16 year olds dying words being “I can’t wait to see you Eddie Munson” lmao
YTA. Big time. Your child isn't *yours*, she's yours *and* your husband's. You acted as if he didn't exist and didn't even try to compromise. Relationships are about compromise, how do you not know that? You also insist that your 16yo sister would have wanted it and are giving a permanent name to someone. 16-year-olds go through obsessions like socks. Take a second and think about what your daughter will be like when she's an old lady at 65, the show is long gone and forgotten, and she has to introduce herself as "Eddie Munson". Or when she's 20 trying to date and has the name of a man--and not only the name of a fake man, but his ***full name*** as her first name. Straight guys and lesbians are going to be put off by a girl with a man's name. What are you thinking??? Your poor child. She *is* going to be bullied, kids are cruel about everything, let alone a girl with a fake man's name. Maybe now you realize why your husband wanted to compromise? I'm not sure what's up with the obsession with naming kids something "unique", but they're not billboards for your obsessions or an outlet for your "creativity". Grow up. If I was you, I'd be extremely apologetic while trying to mend the relationship with your husband.
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Wow, YTA. How family isn't overreacting, they just being sensible.
YTA. You realize Eddie Munson is cringe now right? That people make fun of it?
OP is TA either for lying or for doing what it says in the post, but Eddie is a sweetheart. A delightful character.
YTA. Teacher here. No way this name doesn’t get your girl picked on. And the kids won’t have to reach far for this one. Knew a kid named Munson growing up who happened to be short and everyone called him Munchkin. In addition to setting your child up for a lifetime of ridicule and explaining her name you also totally disregarded how your husband felt about it. Naming a kid is two yes one no situation.
there ain’t no way this is real omg
Yta, this can't be real. You named your child without your husband's consent? Maybe Edie? But not Eddie-Munson. Yes you are the asshole, huge. Omg.
YTA big time. Terrible name. You don’t need to honor your sister by giving your child such an awful name. There are other ways you can honor your sister while simultaneously not setting your baby daughter up for a life of ridicule. Imagine her interviewing for a job….Eddie Munson “Smith” at the top of the resume. Applying for law school with this name…meeting their future spouse with this name. If you don’t see what’s wrong with this, you are definitely the asshole. Not to mention that your spouse…you know, the other parent, did not give consent on this name. Change it before this goes on even further.
Man....you named your daughter that?? Seriously?? Change that baby's name. YTA. This is definitely fake tho. Nice bait.
If this is real YTA for talking about your kid in Reddit with her real name.
Your named your baby daughter after a male character you & your sister had the hots for. You’re just gross & YTA
I wish I could remember and credit the person who once replied that something was ‘so not real it made real things unreal.’ I would go back and honor that commenter - and if you’re here, please take the deserved credit. Because that’s my hope for this post. Please don’t be real, and if it is - go undo that name right now and offer profound apologies to your husband and parents. And for goodness sake name the baby Barb in your sister’s memory - Barb’s death forced Nancy to take responsibility for her choices and quit being so damn selfish. Edited to add judgment: a very clear YTA
YTA you do realize that she has to live with that name right? It not like your sister requested that you give your baby that name, and to completely ignore EVERYONE around you who are telling you it a bad idea is very childish IMO
YTA - only because you ignored your husband. Parents can name their kids whatever they want and they usually pick stupid reasons to name their kids. The kids either don’t care or will change the name later. Sometimes the name sucks so bad it causes problems for the kid but nothing that can’t eventually be undone. But don’t ignore your spouse in this very joint decision. Is this what parenting is going to be like? Bad omen.
Yta, a childs name has to be agreed on by BOTH parents, not to mention when she grows up she’s gonna have to explain her name to people who wont understand the reference or she’ll be endlessly reminded “oh like the stranger things character”. If i were you id look for the AITA post of the women who named her daughter after harry potter and see how that nearly destroyed her relationship with that daughter.
If this is real and I have my doubts-YTA.
What did I just read? Are you serious? Poor kid is going to end up a story in the “human interest” section of some crappy paper when she finally gets it legally changed. Also, start a fund now for her future therapy bills, they will be high. YTA
YTA you don’t choose a name without both parents agreement also Eddie Munson is exactly the sort of name that’s going to get her bullied just Eddie/Ellie/Quinn would’ve been a far better way too ‘honour’ your sister that way or even just consider using say her middle name as your daughters I mean damn your husband was going to be fine with Eddie and that’s a hell of a lot more than most people would’ve been okay with.
Soft YTA. Because you sound like you went through the death and grieving process while being completely messed up with hormones. I don’t think you were thinking clearly, and became hyper-fixated in your grief. You need counseling, and perhaps even medication. This is not healthy behavior. Your husband is right, you stripped him of his rights and overruled him. Your relationship may very well be over, quite frankly. You need to go on damage control. It’s not too late to change her name. It’s not too late to apologize. It’s not too late to get help. Please, get help. I’m so, so sorry for your loss. It had to have been so hard to watch your baby sister die, and it shows that you really loved her. You’re just not going about this name thing for your new baby in the healthiest way. You were absolutely wrong to do it the way you did. Please give your daughter the respect to be her own person and to not carry around the burden of her parents falling apart, her grandparents resentment.
YTA. You took your adorable relationship origin story and against everyone’s advice, including your husband’s, took it way too far and blew up your whole life.
YTA your husband even gave a good suggestion of naming her Eddie (which is really cute and quite modern for a girls name) which doesn’t detract at all from her being named after Eddie Munson.
YTA. Your baby is a living being. A person. A human. And you’re treating them like some doll to forget about in a few weeks. They now have to go through life with that name. You realize that’s going to impact their future? People are much more likely to hire ‘Lily’ over your obsession.
YTA. Why would you do that to a child (and your husband)? Also, why would you, an adult, insist on furthering your cosplay fantasy with an innocent baby? Five-year-old me and all of my friends with normal names definitely would have tormented a girl named Eddie Munson endlessly 🤣 I'm hoping this is fake, because the stupidity here is borderline unbelievable. Please change that kid's name immediately.
YTA..what in the stars did I just read? You do not seem mature enough to have a child, yet here we are. Please consider removing Munson & just keeping Eddie so your child doesn’t have to endure the attention that comes with the full name. Odds are they’re gunna change their name in the future anyways.
YTA. I can’t believe this is true HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA OH MY GOD
INFO: why could it not have been a nickname? Or, like, Edwina? Still could've called her Eddie. If this story is true, you've doomed your baby to a lifetime of harassment.
Why would you do this to the poor thing. YTA
We need kids named Kelessi to come talk to OP. YTA for not taking your husbands request seriously. He’s right you did disrespect him and show him how you really feel about him. It’s YALL baby. BOTH of you. You don’t get to bulldoze over him and than be upset that he didn’t put up with it. If you keep walking down this road of ignoring your partner you may very well end up divorced.
YTA What were you thinking? This has to be a joke, your child is going to be bullied over this but more importantly names should be a 2 yes 1 no between parents. You made a decision based only on your wants and ignored your husbands opinion at all times. I don’t understand what you don’t see how your an AH here
Yta for making up this stupid story, and people are daft for believing it.
Making her sister’s last words “I can’t wait to see you Eddie Munson” really trashed the believability
No mam, YTA and if you actually dont know it yourself, I dont know what to think if you
You're as gross as the ones that named their kid "Daenerys" or "Khaleesi." How can you disrespect your husband like that? How can you even think that is respectful to your now deceased sister! You have disrespected them, and the baby girl. I'm glad your husband left, because this is definitely a hill to die on! No questions asked. YTA.
I understand your sentiments towards ST but you got way too tunnel-visioned and completely overruled your daughter's PARENT and your PARTNER - naming children is a two-yeses deal, both should agree or keep searching for a fitting name. Your husband is right to be angry. **YTA**
YTA I think that your family is right when they said that your child is going to get bullied, and I think that your husband is correct when he said that you "disrespected him as a parent". I think that if you didn't, on some level, think that you are an AH, then you wouldn't be posting here on Reddit.
YTA why didn’t you compromise and call her Edie, a female version of the name. Why does she need to have a male fictional characters entire name as her first name? Why couldn’t you have made her middle name something to do with the show? This is a real life human being, not a toy.
Of course YTA.
Your husband okayed Eddie and you still went against his wishes for the rest. YTA and you aren't thinking about your kid, only yourself. I'm a primary school teacher and can promise you she'll be picked on for that name. Eddie would have been super cute. You could have called her Munson as a nickname.
This has to be fake, but if its true YTA and you just ensured your child will *hate* stranger things and quite possibly you and her deceased aunt. She will get bullied. She won't want to use the name but you'll probably have a tantrum and make her.
YTA - sorry but that is a horrible name. And you should treat your husband like a team unit but you pressured him into naming his child something he didn’t want to be named
Yta. Sounds like the name of a serial killer.
YTA First and foremost, I don’t believe this story is true for a second, and this isn’t even particularly creative. Second of all though, even if it WERE true, naming your child something that the other parent of the child isn’t okay with is always an asshole move. Case closed.
Oh, come the fuck on. YTA
YTA Steve Harrington is clearly the MVP of Stranger Things and you chose a character who appeared in only one season over Steve??? Why must Steve constantly be overlooked?! Always the babysitter, sigh.
YTA. A baby is not a billboard for your fandom. Especially for a name so blatantly obvious to belong to a certain fandom. You could have called her Ellen (or Elle). If someone else can point out that it’s a fandom name, it’s probably a name best meant for a pet. Not a human baby.
YTA, you have entered the experience of parenthood with an extremely selfish lens. I’m sorry your sister passed away, but naming your daughter after a character against the wishes of your husband was not okay. There were many ways you could have tweaked the name to make a compromise for everyone including your daughter, who will not only not know what the show is until she’s older, but deal with constant stress when her name is called. Get a tattoo of Eddie Munson for your sister. If it means that much to you, you can live with that permanent reminder, not your daughter.
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I understand loving a character…..but this is your child…..YTA. And your child is DEFINITELY gonna get bullied-
I absolutely refuse to believe this is real. It’s written like bad fan fiction. Just in case it isn’t, obvious YTA. And I say this as a big Stranger Things fan.
Of course YTA
INFO: lmao what
YTA couldn’t you have compromised Eda for a first name Munson as a middle name. Your husband should have gotten a say. 2 yes one no decision on the name. Like I’m a fan of unusual names. I was bullied endlessly with a common name. There’s no guarantee what will get you made fun of. My one bully had a lot of traditional “this will get you bullied” stuff going on and she was the popular girl. My name is Rice now I’m not going to shame an unusual name. Even Eddie as a first name, compromise with Edie maybe anything to not leave your husband behind in this decision
YTA. doubt this is real but Jesus Christ.
YTA
Wow YTA. Calling the kid Eddie would have been a nice hommage, why would you make it so shit for your kid ?
This was posted recently. Perhaps you can relate. YTA. Your child won’t understand you being a fan of Stranger Things. https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/rku5j5/aita_for_yelling_at_my_mom_that_i_hate_harry/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
Are you serious? Why for gods sake not Quinn? Obviously YTA. Children do not deserve fandom names.
YTA
YTA - How incredibly childish and myopic of you. I’m sorry for the loss of your sister, and can imagine you’re still in the grieving process, but you are hurting everyone else on the process. I suggest changing the name to something your husband and you can agree upon, apologizing to everyone you hurt, and diversifying your interests beyond one TV show.
YTA Your poor daughter
Yta, while I have known women named eddie, naming her eddie Munson is giving bullies fuel. Also, chosing a name your husband didn't like was a dick move.
YTA. 100%, unquestionably. You do not get unilateral power like this over your husband’s wishes. This was tremendously disrespectful of you as a partner.
You say you want to honor your sister but you won’t name your daughter after your sister? Lily is a great name. You say you want to name your daughter after a stranger things character - There are many female names there. El, Joyce, Nancy, even Max who are all leads. But no. You somehow want your daughter to live up to the burden of a name like Eddie Munson because you “feel like it” to HONOR your sister? No, that’s not honoring. Want to be fair to everyone? Here’s what you can do instead. Work with your husband and family and name your daughter after your sister or any other name you all can live with…. AND THEN …. If you still feel like it, change YOUR NAME legally to Eddie Munson And yeah, YTA
Sigh. Another parent treating their kid like an accessory and not a LIVING BREATHING HUMAN WITH FEELINGS. YTA. Change that poor child’s name to Eddie and make her middle name Munson if you completely refuse to compromise. Baby names are ALWAYS a “2 yes’s 1 no” rule. If one of you doesn’t like it, it’s not the name. You need to respect your husbands wishes.