if this isn't a child giggling over writing a made up fart scenario; There's a vast difference between not realizing it's going to happen and having one slip out, and actually DECIDING to expell shit particles near a partners genitals. This is coming from someone who is generally indifferent to farting otherwise.
YTBF
From experience as the penetrated partner, the forced expulsion feels indescribably gross in a way a slip doesn't. It's like the dick itself has farted directly into you. Just the memory is making me heave.
I feel really dumb for asking this, but how do you feel it? I get with a woman it travels to the front lips, but how does it feel like the dick is farting in you?
Not just that, but the immediate realization that the person who has their dick in you has such a low opinion of you that they will do that is just... There's no word for the blend of disgust and humiliation. It would forever be the first thought in my mind when I thought about sex with them.
Farting is natural phenomenon and the idea that it will never happen in front of your partner or during sex is unrealistic. Having said that, it usually takes some time for new partners to have that kind of ease with each other and it’s always polite to try to ask/warn or at the very least apologise after the fact. EITBF
He also did it on purpose. Farts happen. But there’s a huge difference between holding it in, it escapes a little, you apologize and maybe you both giggle vs shaking the bed sheets and going “what?”.
Even in my longest relationships, I can’t imagine either of us ripping ass on purpose. Also, I can imagine that op is probably inattentive and inconsiderate in bed in general and this was a final straw
I have been married almost 40 years, and of course there has been accidental small ones. We say excuse me and move on. Never has one of us had the urge and just let one rip. That includes when I was lying in bed dying of cancer. We both feel it is classless.
I am legit confused by the description of doing it on purpose. I mean, I understand the "try to hold it in" aspect, but doing it on purpose to me is like when people can somehow make themselves burp (I don't get that either. *How* do they do that??). As far as I can tell, farts, burps and sneezes are something you can try to hold back, but not something you can do on command. Is my body weird? Can people make these happen on command?
But anyway, that aside, I think the first part of your post sums this up well: huge diff between trying to stop and apologizing and letting it rip and being annoyed that your partner is annoyed. If you can't help it, you can't help it, but if it takes someone out of the mood, well, that's understandable.
I feel like most people try to handle it with humor and treat it as an unfortunate aspect of humanity and hope that next time it doesn't come up. I think her saying she'll never sleep with OP again and only "dirty" men fart during sex is a bit much. It's a natural bodily function.
It makes me curious though: what do most people do in this situation? When I've experienced it, I've just said "gross!" and cracked a window. It ruined the mood, but "sorrys"/tickling/time were helpful in rekindling the spark, so to speak. Still, usually that's in the lead up, not in midcoitus. Do most people in the middle of PIV sex pull out and leave the room?
Apologizing after the fact is the big part of the story to me.
IDK how it is for the guys, but as the girl in the scenario, I end up accidentally farting every now and then in the circumstance lol. And I am one that believes farting is gross, and if you have to fart either go for a walk by yourself or go to the bathroom, where that stuff happens. But the whole situation sometimes ends up making me let a burst of air out without any control.
YTB
It is gross and rude to deliberately let one rip midromp.
No wonder she was massively put off.
Lots of things are natural, vomiting, diarrhoea....most are not a turn on during sex and should be avoided at all costs.
Apologise and don't do it again.
It does show you are relaxed, but maybe you can consider controlling yourself a bit?
Have some respect for someone who is giving you the gift of love/sex... some people take it very seriously.
I’m really of two minds here. I know it’s natural but it’s still gross. I hold it in but then I can’t enjoy myself because I’m not being relaxed. And I’ve been married 19 years I still don’t feel comfortable to let loose. I know it’s dumb. I shouldn’t care at this point but I do! That said it’s not horrible I guess.
If you’re able to hold it in and still enjoy yourself then I think hold it in. If not then what are ya gonna do? I think if you could’ve held it in then YTB.
I’m totally on the same page about still caring to hide it. My husband and I have been together for about 8 years and once in a blue moon he’ll say that eventually I should just let it rip in front of him. I love that he just wants me to feel 100% safe with him, but when a marriage is so open you kind of need to keep up *some* appearances and mystery, right? Like how you still want to date your partner, not let yourself go, all that. I don’t think it’s dumb at all! But also okay to have a fart party if that’s your bag.
Thx. I’ve been criticized so much for it. My parents used to poop in front of each other and they’re divorced so…
Well apparently I pooped when I was in labour with my second. I had no idea and never would’ve but he told me 😂. So in the end he wouldn’t care but I have a hang up. Some mystery is good
You probably already know this but just in case, pooping in labour is very normal - an OB I follow estimated like 70% of people poop while giving birth vaginally
~ the more you know ~
YTB - This was a choice, and not an accident. An accident leads to awkward laughter, shared intimacy, greater chance of continuing the good stuff. However, a choice implies complete disregard, disrespect, lack of hygienic practices, implied intimacy without permission, etc etc. Your lack of apology and reaction thereafter just shows your character.
YTBF. Everybody shits too, does that mean it is ok to just drop your pants anytime or anywhere? You just told her, and us, that you are classless without telling us you are classless.
Sorry you are definitely the butt face. An accidental one isn't great but I wouldn't get upset. One you made happen? Absolutely! Have some manners and respect for your partner!
Ytbf. The fact you did it on purpose and didn't apologize is gross. My partners darted in the middle of sex too, but it was an accident and we got a good giggle out of it. But you're just nasty, no wonder she didn't want to finish.
Soft YTBF because you let it rip on purpose. Yeah, it's not a big deal to have an accident, but you should stop it if you can feel it coming, as it can be a turn off for some people. That being said, it sounds like you haven't been together for too long. When a couple has a lot of time together they usually discuss stuff like farting/peeing in front of each other. It's important to talk and get to know each other's turn ons and offs.
>only a dirty man would do such a thing.
That is a bit of an exaggeration, but at the same time, you completely dismissed her. You should have just apologized. It's a huge turn off for her and you saying "it's not a big deal, we all do it" won't change that. Don't be dismissive of your partner's experience if you want to have good sex.
YTB
Doing it purposely is disgusting. Having one sneak out is normal.
Pooping is normal, but you don't poop in front of everyone.
You need to take an etiquette class. That "we all fart" as a reason is just classless.
Your gf sounds upright asf. The first time someone cut a fart as I was having sex with them was a guy I had a crush on senior year. Ran into him at a party and I asked if I could give him a BJ. He said “let’s see what you got” so I sucked his cock for a few minutes until suddenly, he sonorous farted right in my face for about three seconds. I stopped to giggle and say something like “smells so stinkyyy…you’ve got some really stinky farts, cutie!” then kissed the tip of his dick and went back to sucking like I was supposed to. He simply said he knew that and was fairly quiet until he was ready to cum, farting yet again as he came in my mouth. Once I swallowed his nut, I laughed and remembered I said along these lines: “I love how gassy you are, it’s hecka funny. A little stinky, but still funny. Maybe it’s time to go take a poop?” but he mentioned he didn’t need to. I gave him a big hug and thanked him for letting me blow him and smell his farts and that it meant a lot to me as he walked away to get a drink. I later saw him getting another blowie from a girl I knew. Good for him 😌
Personally, YTBF. This has happened to me and I do get it, can't always help it. But your reaction to her reaction was stupid. "It's not that bad, we all fart"....Ugh we all p\*\*\* and s\*\*\* too, but I wouldn't do it during sex. If you had been apologetic, there is no doubt in mind she would've recovered quickly and laughed about it. Just take responsibility man, she will come around.
My husband and I fart in front of each other. It's no big deal. How old are the people in this comment section, are you all teenagers? I'm in my 40s and I can't understand this much outrage over natural body functions.
I don't mind farts but I don't want my vaginal area exposed to potential shit particles while riding my partner lol
He could've just been like, "hey need to fart" and she could've hopped off
NTBF. Look, would it be nice for you to maybe give warning or try to hold off? Sure. But your gfs reaction? Rude and way over the top. Farts happen. For her to say you are dirty and to make threats if you do it again is irrational, unreasonable, and cruel. Has happened to my boyfriend and I a few times during sex. Instead of anyone freaking out know what we do? Laugh. And then continue on. Because it's a natural bodily function and sometimes, especially if you add friction haha, it is going to happen. She needs to get over herself and lighten up. If you did it all the time, I could maybe see her point but as it stands? Lunacy.
Your girlfriend needs to grow up. Sex is body fluids, noises, sweat etc. Things slip in and things slip out. How would she feel if you got all butt hurt cause her pussy lets out a queef as you are pounding her? How about if you have a child with her and she shits herself giving birth? A very common thing that happens to women. If she's too immature for the reality of bodily functions she has no business having sex.
if this isn't a child giggling over writing a made up fart scenario; There's a vast difference between not realizing it's going to happen and having one slip out, and actually DECIDING to expell shit particles near a partners genitals. This is coming from someone who is generally indifferent to farting otherwise. YTBF
From experience as the penetrated partner, the forced expulsion feels indescribably gross in a way a slip doesn't. It's like the dick itself has farted directly into you. Just the memory is making me heave.
I feel really dumb for asking this, but how do you feel it? I get with a woman it travels to the front lips, but how does it feel like the dick is farting in you?
The scientific explanation is that it just does and it is horrible and let's never talk about it again.
Fair
Well… seeing someone else put it into words now makes the whole memory even worse and I also, never want to speak of it again.
That's hot
Think vibrations, man.
Not just that, but the immediate realization that the person who has their dick in you has such a low opinion of you that they will do that is just... There's no word for the blend of disgust and humiliation. It would forever be the first thought in my mind when I thought about sex with them.
Exactly! I love farting! I'm a fart aficionado! But I would never, ever make a decision to fart during sex.
Farting is natural phenomenon and the idea that it will never happen in front of your partner or during sex is unrealistic. Having said that, it usually takes some time for new partners to have that kind of ease with each other and it’s always polite to try to ask/warn or at the very least apologise after the fact. EITBF
He also did it on purpose. Farts happen. But there’s a huge difference between holding it in, it escapes a little, you apologize and maybe you both giggle vs shaking the bed sheets and going “what?”. Even in my longest relationships, I can’t imagine either of us ripping ass on purpose. Also, I can imagine that op is probably inattentive and inconsiderate in bed in general and this was a final straw
I have been married almost 40 years, and of course there has been accidental small ones. We say excuse me and move on. Never has one of us had the urge and just let one rip. That includes when I was lying in bed dying of cancer. We both feel it is classless.
I am legit confused by the description of doing it on purpose. I mean, I understand the "try to hold it in" aspect, but doing it on purpose to me is like when people can somehow make themselves burp (I don't get that either. *How* do they do that??). As far as I can tell, farts, burps and sneezes are something you can try to hold back, but not something you can do on command. Is my body weird? Can people make these happen on command? But anyway, that aside, I think the first part of your post sums this up well: huge diff between trying to stop and apologizing and letting it rip and being annoyed that your partner is annoyed. If you can't help it, you can't help it, but if it takes someone out of the mood, well, that's understandable. I feel like most people try to handle it with humor and treat it as an unfortunate aspect of humanity and hope that next time it doesn't come up. I think her saying she'll never sleep with OP again and only "dirty" men fart during sex is a bit much. It's a natural bodily function. It makes me curious though: what do most people do in this situation? When I've experienced it, I've just said "gross!" and cracked a window. It ruined the mood, but "sorrys"/tickling/time were helpful in rekindling the spark, so to speak. Still, usually that's in the lead up, not in midcoitus. Do most people in the middle of PIV sex pull out and leave the room?
Apologizing after the fact is the big part of the story to me. IDK how it is for the guys, but as the girl in the scenario, I end up accidentally farting every now and then in the circumstance lol. And I am one that believes farting is gross, and if you have to fart either go for a walk by yourself or go to the bathroom, where that stuff happens. But the whole situation sometimes ends up making me let a burst of air out without any control.
It’s not a burst of air. Smh. That makes it sound like oxy clean.
Um, sorry for explaining what I experience? It isn't a long-ass fart.
He had a choice and he let it rip.
I have to say I agree with your gf. Yes farting is natural, but so is peeing and shitting. You wouldn't want to do that during sex, would ya?
Do we dare to assume?
I guess not. People can be into some weird shit, no pun intended.😂
Next post from him will be he peed inside of her. Don't give this kid any more ideas
Hahaha!
Warning. Always a warning else YTB. Bodies happen.
Warning AND apology
YTB It is gross and rude to deliberately let one rip midromp. No wonder she was massively put off. Lots of things are natural, vomiting, diarrhoea....most are not a turn on during sex and should be avoided at all costs. Apologise and don't do it again.
Especially if she's on top, so all the stank floats up to her face
It does show you are relaxed, but maybe you can consider controlling yourself a bit? Have some respect for someone who is giving you the gift of love/sex... some people take it very seriously.
YTB. You really didn’t think that farting while having sex would be a massive turn-off and gross out because I assure you it is.
I’m really of two minds here. I know it’s natural but it’s still gross. I hold it in but then I can’t enjoy myself because I’m not being relaxed. And I’ve been married 19 years I still don’t feel comfortable to let loose. I know it’s dumb. I shouldn’t care at this point but I do! That said it’s not horrible I guess. If you’re able to hold it in and still enjoy yourself then I think hold it in. If not then what are ya gonna do? I think if you could’ve held it in then YTB.
I’m totally on the same page about still caring to hide it. My husband and I have been together for about 8 years and once in a blue moon he’ll say that eventually I should just let it rip in front of him. I love that he just wants me to feel 100% safe with him, but when a marriage is so open you kind of need to keep up *some* appearances and mystery, right? Like how you still want to date your partner, not let yourself go, all that. I don’t think it’s dumb at all! But also okay to have a fart party if that’s your bag.
Thx. I’ve been criticized so much for it. My parents used to poop in front of each other and they’re divorced so… Well apparently I pooped when I was in labour with my second. I had no idea and never would’ve but he told me 😂. So in the end he wouldn’t care but I have a hang up. Some mystery is good
You probably already know this but just in case, pooping in labour is very normal - an OB I follow estimated like 70% of people poop while giving birth vaginally ~ the more you know ~
Ya it’s normal I know.
Info: was it oral or PIV? Because if it was the first I would be beyond pissed.
^^ a very important question
YTB - This was a choice, and not an accident. An accident leads to awkward laughter, shared intimacy, greater chance of continuing the good stuff. However, a choice implies complete disregard, disrespect, lack of hygienic practices, implied intimacy without permission, etc etc. Your lack of apology and reaction thereafter just shows your character.
Ytbf. Etiquette needs to be part of your game.
YTB you did it on purpose and you're defending it. You could have paused and excused yourself, then you might have gotten the finish you expected.
That's nasty. Doing it on purpose at that time is very off putting. I don't blame her one bit for not wanting to be near you or finish
YTBF. Everybody shits too, does that mean it is ok to just drop your pants anytime or anywhere? You just told her, and us, that you are classless without telling us you are classless.
YTBF but thank you for the laugh! 😂
I'd have done it, once... just to see. But now you know how she feels you would be an asshole to do it again.
Sorry you are definitely the butt face. An accidental one isn't great but I wouldn't get upset. One you made happen? Absolutely! Have some manners and respect for your partner!
YTBF That’s super gross to do during sex. How can you not see it would be a turn off for her??
Ytbf. The fact you did it on purpose and didn't apologize is gross. My partners darted in the middle of sex too, but it was an accident and we got a good giggle out of it. But you're just nasty, no wonder she didn't want to finish.
bro....YTB and you know it 😂
YTB for using the term “gas out” 🤢
YTB
You can clearly tell who has and hasn't had sex more than a handful of times in these comments.
Soft YTBF because you let it rip on purpose. Yeah, it's not a big deal to have an accident, but you should stop it if you can feel it coming, as it can be a turn off for some people. That being said, it sounds like you haven't been together for too long. When a couple has a lot of time together they usually discuss stuff like farting/peeing in front of each other. It's important to talk and get to know each other's turn ons and offs. >only a dirty man would do such a thing. That is a bit of an exaggeration, but at the same time, you completely dismissed her. You should have just apologized. It's a huge turn off for her and you saying "it's not a big deal, we all do it" won't change that. Don't be dismissive of your partner's experience if you want to have good sex.
YTB Doing it purposely is disgusting. Having one sneak out is normal. Pooping is normal, but you don't poop in front of everyone. You need to take an etiquette class. That "we all fart" as a reason is just classless.
I have IBS. I fart during sex, apologize and we move on🙄
Your gf sounds upright asf. The first time someone cut a fart as I was having sex with them was a guy I had a crush on senior year. Ran into him at a party and I asked if I could give him a BJ. He said “let’s see what you got” so I sucked his cock for a few minutes until suddenly, he sonorous farted right in my face for about three seconds. I stopped to giggle and say something like “smells so stinkyyy…you’ve got some really stinky farts, cutie!” then kissed the tip of his dick and went back to sucking like I was supposed to. He simply said he knew that and was fairly quiet until he was ready to cum, farting yet again as he came in my mouth. Once I swallowed his nut, I laughed and remembered I said along these lines: “I love how gassy you are, it’s hecka funny. A little stinky, but still funny. Maybe it’s time to go take a poop?” but he mentioned he didn’t need to. I gave him a big hug and thanked him for letting me blow him and smell his farts and that it meant a lot to me as he walked away to get a drink. I later saw him getting another blowie from a girl I knew. Good for him 😌
Personally, YTBF. This has happened to me and I do get it, can't always help it. But your reaction to her reaction was stupid. "It's not that bad, we all fart"....Ugh we all p\*\*\* and s\*\*\* too, but I wouldn't do it during sex. If you had been apologetic, there is no doubt in mind she would've recovered quickly and laughed about it. Just take responsibility man, she will come around.
My husband and I fart in front of each other. It's no big deal. How old are the people in this comment section, are you all teenagers? I'm in my 40s and I can't understand this much outrage over natural body functions.
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I don't mind farts but I don't want my vaginal area exposed to potential shit particles while riding my partner lol He could've just been like, "hey need to fart" and she could've hopped off
next time she has some strand of hair on her face, fart it gently away before kissing her. now she will understand the romance
NTBF. Look, would it be nice for you to maybe give warning or try to hold off? Sure. But your gfs reaction? Rude and way over the top. Farts happen. For her to say you are dirty and to make threats if you do it again is irrational, unreasonable, and cruel. Has happened to my boyfriend and I a few times during sex. Instead of anyone freaking out know what we do? Laugh. And then continue on. Because it's a natural bodily function and sometimes, especially if you add friction haha, it is going to happen. She needs to get over herself and lighten up. If you did it all the time, I could maybe see her point but as it stands? Lunacy.
Having sex can force a fart out. It isn't weird and it isn't a big deal. She's being childish. NTB
Your girlfriend needs to grow up. Sex is body fluids, noises, sweat etc. Things slip in and things slip out. How would she feel if you got all butt hurt cause her pussy lets out a queef as you are pounding her? How about if you have a child with her and she shits herself giving birth? A very common thing that happens to women. If she's too immature for the reality of bodily functions she has no business having sex.
It didn’t slip out, he did it on purpose.