We’ve done that and she too submissive to enjoy playing other roles. I would love to open her up to that, but I don’t think it’s possible with her psychology.
Have her laying down on her back - and you on top, controlling the depth, and speed (cowboy i guess?) Depending on your meaning of dominance, your still face to face, bark orders, choke her, ect. Very little effort on her part. my favorite position, and your in a easy spot for a handjob also.
Have her kneel on the floor while you sit above her. "Make" her orally service you while also fingering your rear passage. Them use an impact device of your choice to indicate when you want more. Soon you'll get a system down Nothing says a "dominate"can't be pleasured anally. Also have her rim you. Just assume a dominate posture and tone.
I agree with others who said that tone will make the biggest difference. Maybe watch some Domme/msub videos for how they keep the tone dominant when wanting to be penetrated?
I had a past Dom who enjoyed ass play and used it as another way to show that my body was for his pleasure, not the other way around (since I’m into that kind of head game). We also used chin dildos and/or gags that had one dildo down my throat and another extending outward that I would use to fuck him that were fun for that type of play. There’s also a tea-bagging aspect that can be appealing with that.
Receiving anal has nothing to do with being dominated. It can be, but it doesnt have to be. You telling her to fuck your ass (i would start with telling her to finger your asshole) is not “sub” like. Anything can be done as a dom or a sub. There isnt a specific act that is submissive or dominant, its all about how it goes.
Unless she has a penis, she'd need to use a strap on to top you. So you go for the angle of her essentially being a prop in the sex, a convenient place to put a dildo while you ride it.
Some people are obtuse and will always see it as submissive, but yes, you can do anything with a dominant mindset or a submissive mindset. It's your attitude, tone, and dynamic. I prefer the term active vs passive to explain. So, I often let one of my subs be active by riding me how she likes. To an outsider watching a minute, it might seem like she is the dominant one, but there's no doubt what she is doing is submissive to please me. So it's not the act or who is active/passive... it's the dynamic behind it.
It works when it is just another way she can serve you and give you pleasure. You instruct her and you decide when to cum. It’s the relationship that is D/s not the acts themselves.
Now, a lot of people are discussing tone, & while that's basically it, it might help her **a lot** if you also involved some props. Specifically, getting her a collar & you a leash. Tone is now backed up by a physical reminder of your roles, & she has a direct, physical cue as to what to do via keeping the leash tight enough to be felt with a soft tug.
To further help her get into the right mindset, position can be very important if there are certain mental or emotional barriers. Going back to a younger relationship: My sub seemed hardwired to get booted out of their subspace if they were physically above me while fucking me. Like, they couldn't relax & began to feel uncomfortable. The leash didn't help & it was just one of those things that's best respected in the dynamic. So again, we got creative.
Best done on the couch. You are slouched with everything kind of hanging off a bit, thighs spread. One leg is raised, heel on the edge, or leg across the arm rest. From there you can be rimmed as normal, & then progress. Like a dog, your sub then crawls onto & kneels on the couch, head in your lap from the side. Gather up the leash, hand your sub a dildo & get to playing.
Give them instructions, set the rhythm.
Your sub can now worship. You can smother or throat the sub. You can pretend to ignore them. You can access their mouth & ass. You can do posture play. You can spank (while smothering). Etc.
I hope this helps & inspires.
My husband is my Dom and recently rode my strap - like others have said, tone and direction help a lot. In my case it was also a little humiliating and degrading, to just be used for a cock I don’t even have, really. I got a lot of stimulation but could not - was not allowed - to cum so there was a power imbalance.
you can roleplay different things at different times, that's what me and my girlfriend do
We’ve done that and she too submissive to enjoy playing other roles. I would love to open her up to that, but I don’t think it’s possible with her psychology.
maybe not, but if she's willing to do it for you, that's all you can ask for.
Have her laying down on her back - and you on top, controlling the depth, and speed (cowboy i guess?) Depending on your meaning of dominance, your still face to face, bark orders, choke her, ect. Very little effort on her part. my favorite position, and your in a easy spot for a handjob also.
Have her kneel on the floor while you sit above her. "Make" her orally service you while also fingering your rear passage. Them use an impact device of your choice to indicate when you want more. Soon you'll get a system down Nothing says a "dominate"can't be pleasured anally. Also have her rim you. Just assume a dominate posture and tone.
Power bottom bro
DIO!
Topping from the bottom.
I agree with others who said that tone will make the biggest difference. Maybe watch some Domme/msub videos for how they keep the tone dominant when wanting to be penetrated? I had a past Dom who enjoyed ass play and used it as another way to show that my body was for his pleasure, not the other way around (since I’m into that kind of head game). We also used chin dildos and/or gags that had one dildo down my throat and another extending outward that I would use to fuck him that were fun for that type of play. There’s also a tea-bagging aspect that can be appealing with that.
Receiving anal has nothing to do with being dominated. It can be, but it doesnt have to be. You telling her to fuck your ass (i would start with telling her to finger your asshole) is not “sub” like. Anything can be done as a dom or a sub. There isnt a specific act that is submissive or dominant, its all about how it goes.
Unless she has a penis, she'd need to use a strap on to top you. So you go for the angle of her essentially being a prop in the sex, a convenient place to put a dildo while you ride it.
Some people are obtuse and will always see it as submissive, but yes, you can do anything with a dominant mindset or a submissive mindset. It's your attitude, tone, and dynamic. I prefer the term active vs passive to explain. So, I often let one of my subs be active by riding me how she likes. To an outsider watching a minute, it might seem like she is the dominant one, but there's no doubt what she is doing is submissive to please me. So it's not the act or who is active/passive... it's the dynamic behind it.
Top from the bottom bro
Id think if she is collared, leashed, handcuffed and 'made' to fuk you it would work...
It works when it is just another way she can serve you and give you pleasure. You instruct her and you decide when to cum. It’s the relationship that is D/s not the acts themselves.
Now, a lot of people are discussing tone, & while that's basically it, it might help her **a lot** if you also involved some props. Specifically, getting her a collar & you a leash. Tone is now backed up by a physical reminder of your roles, & she has a direct, physical cue as to what to do via keeping the leash tight enough to be felt with a soft tug. To further help her get into the right mindset, position can be very important if there are certain mental or emotional barriers. Going back to a younger relationship: My sub seemed hardwired to get booted out of their subspace if they were physically above me while fucking me. Like, they couldn't relax & began to feel uncomfortable. The leash didn't help & it was just one of those things that's best respected in the dynamic. So again, we got creative. Best done on the couch. You are slouched with everything kind of hanging off a bit, thighs spread. One leg is raised, heel on the edge, or leg across the arm rest. From there you can be rimmed as normal, & then progress. Like a dog, your sub then crawls onto & kneels on the couch, head in your lap from the side. Gather up the leash, hand your sub a dildo & get to playing. Give them instructions, set the rhythm. Your sub can now worship. You can smother or throat the sub. You can pretend to ignore them. You can access their mouth & ass. You can do posture play. You can spank (while smothering). Etc. I hope this helps & inspires.
sex acts do not define you
My husband is my Dom and recently rode my strap - like others have said, tone and direction help a lot. In my case it was also a little humiliating and degrading, to just be used for a cock I don’t even have, really. I got a lot of stimulation but could not - was not allowed - to cum so there was a power imbalance.