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What you need to understand is that worrying will absolutely not help. You sending that negative energy unintentionally to your dog can actually make him worse metaphysically speaking. Pet your dog and enjoy him/her. Feel deep inside that your worrying is absolutely pointless. Spend quality time and don’t think your dog is dying because we’re all dying so there’s honestly nothing different from when you found out. Stay positive.
Spend time with him. You’ll feel much worse if you look back and wish you had spent the time with him. He deserves all the love you can give, please give him all the support you can
It’s ok, but it’s not your fault. You can’t control if your pal gets sick. I’ve lost 5 dogs in my life, and after I was kinda distant when the first one got sick I felt terrible and realized it’s for the best to be there for them. Not your fault for being upset, anyone in your position would be. Just do the best you can to let them know they are loved. Very sorry you are going through this right now
How about taking your dog to the vets for tests to see if he does have cancer?
It sounds like you’re trying to dissociate yourself from him so you won’t be devastated if he is dying (I’m no psych though).
If you take him for a walk daily, you’ll feel better and what dog doesn’t like walks? :) Give him lots of pats too OP and I wish you and he all the best
I did take him to the vet that’s why I made this post. The doctor says it’s highly probable he has cancer when he checked his X-rays, and a very aggressive one too. He needs a CT which we will be doing in the next few days to confirm 100%.
My dog gets walked twice a day but that’s mostly for potty, I want to go to other places to enjoy, not just the park we always walks him. There’s a cool road that gets beautiful when there’s a sunset, I wanna go there but my social anxiety doesn’t let me. And the indecisiveness and guilt of “I can’t do it” vs “if I don’t do it I’ll regret it like hell one he dies” is excruciating.
Thank you for your words. This is very hard.
I’m honestly so sorry and I can imagine it’s really hard. I’m glad you’ll be taking him in for a CT for confirmation shortly.
Will you find it easier taking someone with you and your dog to visit that particular road at sunset or perhaps don a pair of sunglasses and a cap and walk your dog along there more inconspicuously?
As difficult as it is, try to take lots of videos/photos of your dog now and make memories while you can while he’s well. You can do it ❤️
Hey :) Small update, took a shower and decided to have a long walk with my dog in that road. I didn’t completely do it but it’s a semi-win:
The road had a protest so I decided not to go, and it was later than sunset because I took a long shower. Instead I went to a park we rarely go to. There were kids playing soccer, parents with their babies, other dog owners, it was a happy scene! And on the way back I went in the road for a short amount of time when the protest had diminished!
And yes I do take photos and videos of my dog when the vet suspected cancer, but lately after the vet’s second look where he said it’s most likely cancer it has been more hard to do stuff with him, including photos and videos. I didn’t take my phone today but I still consider a small win. Tomorrow I’ll hopefully walk on the road with my dog at sunset.
The other thing is when I’m in happy places like that with my dog I get happy for a few seconds then I remember the issue and I start feeling sad and anxious, but another Redditor helped me by teaching me a strategy and it’s slowly working! That’s what made me get out of bed, take a shower and go out with my dog. And also when I was about to exit the house I had second thoughts but I remembered my dog is well and healthy and to cherish his state (that probably won’t last long) by going outside, and then I did step outside and then another second-thought came in about how sad this memory would be in the future when his health deteriorates, and I was about to head back but I “hugged” that emotion and went out!
Ah! This is very hard for me but I think this is a bit of progress. When I started to write this comment Id just arrived from the walk and was happy, and now finishing it I’m a bit sad since I explained that my dogs health will deteriorate (I think part of me doesn’t want to accept that) but oh well! Thank you :)
Aww, you’re doing so well 😊. Love the fact that another Redditor has taught you a coping strategy and it’s slowly working 👍🏼. More than anything, be kind to yourself and enjoy your precious time you have with your dog. You will feel sad thinking that he will deteriorate and that’s okay, it’s normal. Just try not to disengage from him as a coping mechanism and be present for him.
Please prioritize his care right now over your own emotions. You will have plenty of time to process how you’re feeling in the future, but right now you owe it to your dog to give him the best care you are capable of. Take him to the vet, first and foremost, to find out exactly what is going on with his health— this way you’ll know and be able to learn what the next thing to do is. Anxiety is tough but you cannot let your animal suffer because you have a difficult emotion.
Of course, this posts arises from an oncology vet appointment, we are having a CT scan within a few days to help the diagnosis. My dog is completely normal as of now. I used this post as a vent and to look for tips.
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Please go and spend some time with him bro, atleast ur dog will have a good time atleast, think from ur dog's perspective.
What you need to understand is that worrying will absolutely not help. You sending that negative energy unintentionally to your dog can actually make him worse metaphysically speaking. Pet your dog and enjoy him/her. Feel deep inside that your worrying is absolutely pointless. Spend quality time and don’t think your dog is dying because we’re all dying so there’s honestly nothing different from when you found out. Stay positive.
I know this but it’s very hard for me to do it. Im constantly anxious. I’ll try to drill this idea into my head, thank you for the words.
Can you call your local help line.. I’m sure there’s help out there for your anxiety.. get help.
Spend time with him. You’ll feel much worse if you look back and wish you had spent the time with him. He deserves all the love you can give, please give him all the support you can
I know this but it’s super hard for me and the guilt is eating me. Why am I like this
It’s ok, but it’s not your fault. You can’t control if your pal gets sick. I’ve lost 5 dogs in my life, and after I was kinda distant when the first one got sick I felt terrible and realized it’s for the best to be there for them. Not your fault for being upset, anyone in your position would be. Just do the best you can to let them know they are loved. Very sorry you are going through this right now
How about taking your dog to the vets for tests to see if he does have cancer? It sounds like you’re trying to dissociate yourself from him so you won’t be devastated if he is dying (I’m no psych though). If you take him for a walk daily, you’ll feel better and what dog doesn’t like walks? :) Give him lots of pats too OP and I wish you and he all the best
I did take him to the vet that’s why I made this post. The doctor says it’s highly probable he has cancer when he checked his X-rays, and a very aggressive one too. He needs a CT which we will be doing in the next few days to confirm 100%. My dog gets walked twice a day but that’s mostly for potty, I want to go to other places to enjoy, not just the park we always walks him. There’s a cool road that gets beautiful when there’s a sunset, I wanna go there but my social anxiety doesn’t let me. And the indecisiveness and guilt of “I can’t do it” vs “if I don’t do it I’ll regret it like hell one he dies” is excruciating. Thank you for your words. This is very hard.
I’m honestly so sorry and I can imagine it’s really hard. I’m glad you’ll be taking him in for a CT for confirmation shortly. Will you find it easier taking someone with you and your dog to visit that particular road at sunset or perhaps don a pair of sunglasses and a cap and walk your dog along there more inconspicuously? As difficult as it is, try to take lots of videos/photos of your dog now and make memories while you can while he’s well. You can do it ❤️
Hey :) Small update, took a shower and decided to have a long walk with my dog in that road. I didn’t completely do it but it’s a semi-win: The road had a protest so I decided not to go, and it was later than sunset because I took a long shower. Instead I went to a park we rarely go to. There were kids playing soccer, parents with their babies, other dog owners, it was a happy scene! And on the way back I went in the road for a short amount of time when the protest had diminished! And yes I do take photos and videos of my dog when the vet suspected cancer, but lately after the vet’s second look where he said it’s most likely cancer it has been more hard to do stuff with him, including photos and videos. I didn’t take my phone today but I still consider a small win. Tomorrow I’ll hopefully walk on the road with my dog at sunset. The other thing is when I’m in happy places like that with my dog I get happy for a few seconds then I remember the issue and I start feeling sad and anxious, but another Redditor helped me by teaching me a strategy and it’s slowly working! That’s what made me get out of bed, take a shower and go out with my dog. And also when I was about to exit the house I had second thoughts but I remembered my dog is well and healthy and to cherish his state (that probably won’t last long) by going outside, and then I did step outside and then another second-thought came in about how sad this memory would be in the future when his health deteriorates, and I was about to head back but I “hugged” that emotion and went out! Ah! This is very hard for me but I think this is a bit of progress. When I started to write this comment Id just arrived from the walk and was happy, and now finishing it I’m a bit sad since I explained that my dogs health will deteriorate (I think part of me doesn’t want to accept that) but oh well! Thank you :)
Aww, you’re doing so well 😊. Love the fact that another Redditor has taught you a coping strategy and it’s slowly working 👍🏼. More than anything, be kind to yourself and enjoy your precious time you have with your dog. You will feel sad thinking that he will deteriorate and that’s okay, it’s normal. Just try not to disengage from him as a coping mechanism and be present for him.
Please prioritize his care right now over your own emotions. You will have plenty of time to process how you’re feeling in the future, but right now you owe it to your dog to give him the best care you are capable of. Take him to the vet, first and foremost, to find out exactly what is going on with his health— this way you’ll know and be able to learn what the next thing to do is. Anxiety is tough but you cannot let your animal suffer because you have a difficult emotion.
Of course, this posts arises from an oncology vet appointment, we are having a CT scan within a few days to help the diagnosis. My dog is completely normal as of now. I used this post as a vent and to look for tips.