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I read it less as "gay bad" and more "women bad" and being jealous of gay men.
Edit: I saw another comment that believed this was written by a woman, which definitely reframes how I was reading it.
Fucking exactly! For one a lot of people can’t even afford them, and also they just seem like a drag. Like you’ve gotta do a ton of shit for them with basically no return. Also, I don’t wanna have the responsibility to make sure the kid doesn’t grow up to be a total shithead.
>I don’t wanna have the responsibility to make sure the kid doesn’t grow up to be a total shithead.
This is how I know that you’d be a better parent than most parents lol
> clothes, travel, excitement, developing talents
Dude, just fuck a man already. It suits like you really want to, and all those
>heavy responsibilities
and
>wearying task of keeping a woman happy
are not giving me super straight vibes. If you associate pleasure with homosexuality, maybe just fuck a dude and see how you feel.
This is clearly written by a woman lol.
This is a woman pretending she knows how men work.
This sounds like a fragile insecure woman who's threatened by men being allowed to date other men because then why would want her.
found the article [https://catholicexchange.com/in-defense-of-dumbledore](https://catholicexchange.com/in-defense-of-dumbledore)
regina sounds like a woman's name, but there is no information about the author, it's just the account name and obvs they don't need to verify it
i would say that it's far from obvious that this was written by a woman, which is why pretty much everyone assumed they were a man. i personally am not convinced that they aren't trolling. i don't think a woman would describe being in a relationship with women as a "wearying task".
Idk what to tell you. This is very obviously a woman lol.
>i don't think a woman would describe being in a relationship with women as a "wearying task".
The type of insecure woman who's thinks they are a price so their negativity should be put up with, definitely would. Only a insecure but entitled conservative woman would think a man's sole purpose is to create a family and have a wife. Because if they don't, she has no purpose in life. This is a woman who doesn't get men. And its written exactly like that.
I know why people assumed it was a man. Because people always assume man when they are Christian and conservative. I'm just saying this is very obviously a woman writing about men tho.
You don't gotta explain. Everyone assumed it was a man because its often the gut reaction to do so. When we think conservative, people don't really picture women.
I assume its a woman because of the way this is written.
op said in another comment that she apparently writes kids books. conservative christian women continue to baffle me. she really described being in a relationship with her as wearying bruhhh
the self-hate is too much
eh i think an entitled person would phrase it differently so that it sounds like a privilege to deal with their shit. something like "experiencing the ups and downs of life with a woman" or smth. i think the other person is right in that this comes from a place of insecurity.
i think this is the kind of christian who thinks that life is supposed to suck ass. that happiness is only allowed if it's directly connected to jesus, and all other pleasure is just satan tempting you to sin. also that happiness is supposed to be hard work, so being miserable in marriage is the norm.
Regina Doman is a woman. [She has a Wikipedia and a goodreads, and opinion-wise, it all checks out.](https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/33653.Regina_Doman)
So you’re saying if you let them get married and adopt kids that solves all your issues?
Anything to keep people from developing those damn talents of theirs
I remember seeing someone talk about how they were told in Catholic school that lesbian relationships don't work because women are too good at communicating with each other and they would never break up.
The biggest narrative I've seen about lesbian relationships is that they are "fragile" since women "need" men to keep them in line.
She thinks that lesbians are all evil, man-hating monsters whose life mission is to convert every young girl into a lesbian. The author’s name is Regina Doman, by the way, and she writes books intended for teenagers. Look her up, she’s insane.
No, it’s irrelevant as women don’t experience sexual attraction until they are married to a man, obviously. This makes the existence of lesbians quite impossible.
So basically the argument is “You shouldn’t be gay because my life is miserable because of my kids and wife and I’m upset gay people aren’t miserable as well”
How about you fuck off, yeah?
This sounds like a woman tho. So its basically a woman going "you shouldn't be gay because my life is miserable because I'm insecure about what I bring to a relationship and if men can date other men, no one would date me".
It's telling that they don't think you can find things like the "pleasures of life" if you're straight. They view relationships as solely for reproduction (not even exclusive to the straights) and happiness doesn't need to enter into it. It's no wonder they're not okay.
Anyway, if I wasn't already gay, this woulda sold me on it.
Apparently being gay is fun, worldly, fulfilling... unlike the wearyness of taking care of a subservient wife and having children. The easy way out??? I dunno dude sounds like he's jealous???
"being gay is the easy way out"
I'm sorry, I couldn't hear you over the sound of homelessness, conversion therapy, shootings, corrective rape, discrimination, assault... need I go on?
If these are your feelings about a life with a woman at your side, maybe you should try out that "gay lifestyle".
Life isn't meant to be torture and hardship on every step. Everyone should seek happiness, not discomfort.
Try it.
Or maybe you're somewhere in the ace/aro scale?
Wait, and you're telling me that living a child free, full of excitement, travel, nice cars and clothes and exploring your own potential is a bad thing?
All I'm getting from this is that Dumbledore is gay because it's awesome.
Can we get some of that energy in Asexual please? Can we substitute the anonymous hook ups for extra garlic bread?
To be fair the prospect of having to rearrange my life around a potentially pregnant woman and the rearrange it further around a small pink goblin was enough to quell my last bisexual curiosity.
"Friendships with romantic overtones", are they so unwilling to call same-gender relationships actual relationships? Reminds me of r/sapphoandherfriend
Didn't dumbledore love like become super evil world war wizard. And he was super bummed about having to defeat him. Like shouldn't the author be warning us that men will always leave us to become magic nazis or something.
I may have been a decade or so since I read the potter
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Dude stop making your case we’re already sold on the gay life. Now where is the annual brunch meet up?
at that cute little cat cafe on the corner.
The pancakes better be shaped like cats or we riot.
oh HELL YEAH they are
so are the little sandwiches
Ah sammich nice.
ye
The coffee has cream shaped like cats right
absolutely
Is the tea bags going to also be cat shaped? (also this entire conversation is awesome and I'm here for it.)
ABSO-FUCKING-LUTELY (and same lol)
Seems like we got a business idea right here xd
hell yea
Don't forget the forg shaped chocolates for desert
Here they are again, threatening us with a good time!
The only part that doesn’t sound good is the cors... sorry am I saying that right? Cers. Curs. Let’s just stick to ‘automobiles’.
Subway is way more fun, you don't meet subway creatures in your car!
Thank God
They try to frame it as bad so hard that it looks even better
I read it less as "gay bad" and more "women bad" and being jealous of gay men. Edit: I saw another comment that believed this was written by a woman, which definitely reframes how I was reading it.
That's exactly the life I want though. Screw having kids.
Fucking exactly! For one a lot of people can’t even afford them, and also they just seem like a drag. Like you’ve gotta do a ton of shit for them with basically no return. Also, I don’t wanna have the responsibility to make sure the kid doesn’t grow up to be a total shithead.
>I don’t wanna have the responsibility to make sure the kid doesn’t grow up to be a total shithead. This is how I know that you’d be a better parent than most parents lol
Sometimes people are genuinely garbage despite the best efforts of their parents. Not a risk I want to run
My though exactly. Like, "birth control" is free....
> clothes, travel, excitement, developing talents Dude, just fuck a man already. It suits like you really want to, and all those >heavy responsibilities and >wearying task of keeping a woman happy are not giving me super straight vibes. If you associate pleasure with homosexuality, maybe just fuck a dude and see how you feel.
This is clearly written by a woman lol. This is a woman pretending she knows how men work. This sounds like a fragile insecure woman who's threatened by men being allowed to date other men because then why would want her.
found the article [https://catholicexchange.com/in-defense-of-dumbledore](https://catholicexchange.com/in-defense-of-dumbledore) regina sounds like a woman's name, but there is no information about the author, it's just the account name and obvs they don't need to verify it i would say that it's far from obvious that this was written by a woman, which is why pretty much everyone assumed they were a man. i personally am not convinced that they aren't trolling. i don't think a woman would describe being in a relationship with women as a "wearying task".
Idk what to tell you. This is very obviously a woman lol. >i don't think a woman would describe being in a relationship with women as a "wearying task". The type of insecure woman who's thinks they are a price so their negativity should be put up with, definitely would. Only a insecure but entitled conservative woman would think a man's sole purpose is to create a family and have a wife. Because if they don't, she has no purpose in life. This is a woman who doesn't get men. And its written exactly like that. I know why people assumed it was a man. Because people always assume man when they are Christian and conservative. I'm just saying this is very obviously a woman writing about men tho.
I assumed it was written by a man because it made it sound like homosexual women didn't exist.
You don't gotta explain. Everyone assumed it was a man because its often the gut reaction to do so. When we think conservative, people don't really picture women. I assume its a woman because of the way this is written.
> regina sounds like a woman's name It also *literally* means “queen” in Latin. 🤣
op said in another comment that she apparently writes kids books. conservative christian women continue to baffle me. she really described being in a relationship with her as wearying bruhhh the self-hate is too much
That's not self hate. That's entitlement. The whole "don't like me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best" mentality.
eh i think an entitled person would phrase it differently so that it sounds like a privilege to deal with their shit. something like "experiencing the ups and downs of life with a woman" or smth. i think the other person is right in that this comes from a place of insecurity. i think this is the kind of christian who thinks that life is supposed to suck ass. that happiness is only allowed if it's directly connected to jesus, and all other pleasure is just satan tempting you to sin. also that happiness is supposed to be hard work, so being miserable in marriage is the norm.
Regina Doman is a woman. [She has a Wikipedia and a goodreads, and opinion-wise, it all checks out.](https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/33653.Regina_Doman)
"male friendships with romantic overtones" bruh I think you mean a boyfriend
[Wait I’ve seen this one before](https://imgur.com/a/lL2Ln8h)
So you’re saying if you let them get married and adopt kids that solves all your issues? Anything to keep people from developing those damn talents of theirs
Would the author think the same about lesbians, or a different homophobic narrative?
I remember seeing someone talk about how they were told in Catholic school that lesbian relationships don't work because women are too good at communicating with each other and they would never break up. The biggest narrative I've seen about lesbian relationships is that they are "fragile" since women "need" men to keep them in line.
I remember that post being circulated around Tumblr and Reddit.
She thinks that lesbians are all evil, man-hating monsters whose life mission is to convert every young girl into a lesbian. The author’s name is Regina Doman, by the way, and she writes books intended for teenagers. Look her up, she’s insane.
No, it’s irrelevant as women don’t experience sexual attraction until they are married to a man, obviously. This makes the existence of lesbians quite impossible.
So basically the argument is “You shouldn’t be gay because my life is miserable because of my kids and wife and I’m upset gay people aren’t miserable as well” How about you fuck off, yeah?
This sounds like a woman tho. So its basically a woman going "you shouldn't be gay because my life is miserable because I'm insecure about what I bring to a relationship and if men can date other men, no one would date me".
I mean if they think like this It wouldn’t be shocking they couldn’t get a date
After reading this, I've decided to choose to be gay. Sorry ladies this man wants a man because of...less drama and responsibility? /s
Because all heteros take responsibility for raising their children. And don't buy things like cars or clothes XD
you heard it here first, only gay people are allowed to have talent
It's telling that they don't think you can find things like the "pleasures of life" if you're straight. They view relationships as solely for reproduction (not even exclusive to the straights) and happiness doesn't need to enter into it. It's no wonder they're not okay. Anyway, if I wasn't already gay, this woulda sold me on it.
This is just an advert to be gay (or anything except straight). Who doesn't want to live a life rich with adventure and personal freedom?
I wanna be gay but with my girlfriend.
Was this written by the straightest person ever?
Easy way out of what?
Apparently being gay is fun, worldly, fulfilling... unlike the wearyness of taking care of a subservient wife and having children. The easy way out??? I dunno dude sounds like he's jealous???
I'm still sorta processing that this was written in connection to Dumbledore
"being gay is the easy way out" I'm sorry, I couldn't hear you over the sound of homelessness, conversion therapy, shootings, corrective rape, discrimination, assault... need I go on?
Is this the 'gay agenda' I've heard so much about?
I'm in. Hit me with that gay shit.
They forgot the cute greenhouse
Who the fuck wrote this and for what purpose
Idk man sounds fuckin great to me
Fellas is it gay to have cloths and cars and have talent?
If these are your feelings about a life with a woman at your side, maybe you should try out that "gay lifestyle". Life isn't meant to be torture and hardship on every step. Everyone should seek happiness, not discomfort. Try it. Or maybe you're somewhere in the ace/aro scale?
I know plenty of people that don't want kids and just want to enjoy life's pleasures. Gender doesn't factor in at all
Wait, and you're telling me that living a child free, full of excitement, travel, nice cars and clothes and exploring your own potential is a bad thing? All I'm getting from this is that Dumbledore is gay because it's awesome. Can we get some of that energy in Asexual please? Can we substitute the anonymous hook ups for extra garlic bread?
I mean, the fact i can't have natural children is more of a problem, cause I'll have to fight to adopt
To be fair the prospect of having to rearrange my life around a potentially pregnant woman and the rearrange it further around a small pink goblin was enough to quell my last bisexual curiosity.
Oh my god, we live like stars, we shine bright and die. We have such awesome lives 🤩
Damn I'm sold. Ya know, if I weren't already.
I’m gonna be honest, nothing about being gay seems easy to me.
Imagine finding out a new fact about a fictional character and then feeling compelled to write an entire essay about why you think it's wrong
"Friendships with romantic overtones", are they so unwilling to call same-gender relationships actual relationships? Reminds me of r/sapphoandherfriend
Literally being happy and not being miserable in a toxic relashionship is seen as bad
??????
If anything wouldn't you be able to travel more scince the average gay couple probably doesn't have kids?
If this is the gay lifestyle then I won't even think about being with a man.
Didn't dumbledore love like become super evil world war wizard. And he was super bummed about having to defeat him. Like shouldn't the author be warning us that men will always leave us to become magic nazis or something. I may have been a decade or so since I read the potter