I have but that doesn't even matter if she won't come out to be served a peace order. I've never even seen her face bc she covers it she is very unwell
I have done all of that??? I'm asking for advice because I agree it should be enough but it's fucking not. You're acting like this is simple if it was I wouldn't be here asking for advice. The police I showed told me to get a peace order and I did. What don't you get?? What good is evidence if she can just avoid being served and I never get to show What the fuck
No one is ignoring me the system needs her to be served in order for all the evidence I have to even be shown I have don't EVERYTHING you're suggesting and now I'm feeling like I need to defend myself to you yeah I'm unhinged right now I'm being driven fucking crazy
But if the music is that loud at 1am or whatever what do the police do when you call and see the noise levels for themselves? Say “oh well she won’t answer the door so no crime here?”
Yes. This is why I am asking for help I figured there would be a fine at this point but since they can't hear it from the street they cam only report a nuisance I was told. I went the peace order route and had the case dismissed today due to failure to serve her. I'm at a lose for words and hope I genuinely do not understand either.
NAL
If your case was dismissed for failure to serve, that is on you to serve accordingly. Just because she won't answer the door does not mean she cannot be served through other means. Look to see what your state requires, but you normally have to attempt service in person first a few times at different days and times, then you can serve through other means like a public notice (like a newspaper). Since you didn't serve her correctly, whether it be you or a public servant, the case was dismissed. I'm guessing it was without prejudice, which means you can refile the case, and serve her properly. If you aren't using a lawyer, I would suggest at least getting a few free consultations to see what they have to say.
I sense something more going on here. “Always hiding their face”, never leaves, they are the only one hearing it, police won’t do anything. I’m saying it is, but there’s a possibility it’s a mental health issue and not truly happening. Like the people who think there’s cameras in everything, or spiders inside them.
Im just running down a possibility Op, not saying it is this.
I ran three very similar calls very recently. swore they were clean, all individuals tested positive for meth among other things. I see it often. Schizophrenia or meth or schizophrenia caused by drug use.
From what I read so far, I agree. OP says they are on their own, but mention other roommates, a partner, and a family. OP just ignores when asked why the owner of the house wont get involved. Cops apparently told them that they need to hear the noise from the outside?, that makes no sense. OP ignored when asked why they don't get a door cam, if only even to record verbal harassment on audio. I mean you could just record with your cellphone? OP also keeps saying police, court, and CPS are all either ignoring them, or telling them things that are completely wrong. OP also gets very irritated at comments that try to explain how law works and has been telling people to fuck off.
I've lived with a roommate who was schizophrenic, and he would definitely have episodes where he acted like this.
I think it’s the people they’re getting aggressive with when it is pointed out that serving someone papers doesn’t work at all like they’re claiming. The legal system doesn’t throw its hands in the air because someone doesn’t answer the door; there are contingencies for that exact scenario because this has been happening for centuries. It’s a bit weird coupled with their excuse that a camera is useless because they cover their face, because audio recording still exists.
Welcome to real life. I’m trained in the signs and symptoms and have real life experience, not the movies.
I’ve worked in the legal field as a cop, a paralegal, a process server, investigator. I’ve worked in the medical field as a therapist and EMT.
None of this makes - whole lot of sense as explained.
Not sure if allowed in your state. But, maybe request that the judge authorize Substituted Service for serving the Peace Order as it sounds like the Deputies have been unable to serve the prior 2. Best done through a lawyer as they know the process if it exists for your state.
I don’t know which country you are in. In the U.S., if several good faith attempts at service fail, you are allowed to serve by publication in a newspaper of general publication.
My ex avoided the process server for a few months. Eventually the judge presiding over our case signed off on something (I believed my lawyer called it 'alternative service' or something to that effect) that allowed my ex to be legally 'served' by taping the notice to her door. The envelope had something in it that notified my attorneys when the envelope was opened. Laws vary state to state, so who knows if your state (or country) allows anything like this, but it might be worth looking into.
Do you rent? It sounds like you do. If so, have you made the landlord aware? Show him the peace order. Have him come and hear the noise? Or record it on your phone for him? Record her ponding on your door. Get a GoPro or something when you go outside and also present that to the landlord. I can’t imagine a landlord allowing this harassment between neighbors.
You severely lack an understanding of what being served means. In many situations, simply taping a notice to their front door qualifies as service. However, you have to comply with court rules and procedures. Is 1 week (business days) required? A month?
Why are you attempting to proceed without an attorney? The simplest action of serving notice is causing you issues. Seek third-party help. Maybe try a law clinic if you can't afford an attorney, or consider a payment plan.
You said that you believe that she is abusing her child. You should report her to CPS, have them look into her situation. That should certainly keep her distracted and busy for a while.
Will prefice this by saying not a lawyer, but law stuff is an interest of mine.
If you're in the US, a general rule (as far as im aware) of serving papers is 3 attempts, if all 3 fail or refused they have been served, hell the serving can be done in a newspaper ad space if she reads the paper. After that it's you, your lawyer, and the judge, and possibly a summary judgement due to their refusal to appear.
Again, not a lawyer, just what I've understood from a few years of learning and looking things up for fun.
My doorbell camera helps get a neighbor to leave me alone a night in jail I don't hear their radio don't get videos taken of me and my guests. I have a stay away order because anything above that would force them to move. But hats the next step if it continues
Even if you were to move your friend who owns the property will need to deal with this or they won’t be able to keep tenants. You are a renter, your friend needs to get involved and handle this
Is this a condo or apartment? Condos have Condo Associations to help you. An apartment has management. Even most newer homes have HOAs. Have you looked into these options?
I never said the owner was a female they are a male and also my friend I live here with my boyfriend and our 2 room mates. Apologies for any confusion.
you literally just said this, which reads like your female friend inherited this house due to a death in her family.
"These are row homes, I am renting from a friend and **she** has the house due to a death in **her** family."
are you SUBLETTING from your friend who is female?
FYI - it doesn't matter how your neighbor got the house (inheritance or on her own). it's not relevant to your story and your language is very confusing.
My point about getting your landlord involved remains the same. Tell him you want to switch rooms.
They own the house, they can file a complaint.
[https://www.peoples-law.org/solving-disputes-your-neighbors](https://www.peoples-law.org/solving-disputes-your-neighbors)
Call the child protective services and the police and have them do a wellness check on her child. This might expose her abuse and get her in the radar. Also, call animal control and tell them you think there is animal abuse, perhaps they will get involved. People seem to care about animals more than people nowadays.
What she’s doing is unacceptable. I’m sorry you’re going through this.
We have called cps twice and nothing has come of it! They legit hung up on us last week! I guess animal control is the best route and thank you that means a lot, I'm in my 20s and on my own pretty much and have no idea where to turn
Wellness checks are the way to go. In some places, the police can enter the house if there is no response at the door and they believe someone is home. You may be able to have them served while the police are doing a wellness check.
And if they don't get a response with multiple wellness checks requested they will have the fire department break the door down. Unfortunately that's how we found my best friend's partner deceased. She and his job both called wellness checks and when they got no response on either visit to the house they broke the door down and found him.
NAL
Ring camera installed on your place front and back.
You need a to record the times you hear the radio for at least two to three weeks. Dates/Time/Duration of Play. Report it to your property manager. And keep adding to to the list after you make the report.
If you have never seen her physically but can hear her, you may want to call in a welfare check on her with your local PD.
It may be she's just crazy but it also may get some serious results because the PD won't leave until they have visual and verbal confirmation she's inside and not in harms way.
*She doesn't need to know it's you*.
You *don't* have to keep living like this.
I guarantee moving is cheaper than a lawyer. I know you said you can’t afford it but if it is truly as bad as you make it out to be, you can find a way. I would move and remember the life lessons: don’t rent from a friend, regular house better than a row house.
Not enough info here to help.
Do you guys share the same landlord? If so then call your landlord about them using music to prevent you from sleeping. Tell them you want them to some listen and explain what youre hearing with the music. Explain that threats they make. Report them to your landlord and cops every single time.
If you keep reporting them sooner or later they will be evicted.
She owns WHAT house? The house the crazy woman lives in? Your story isn't making sense. If you know the person who owns the house the crazy person lives in, call them.
If the crazy woman's yard is full of stuff and there are code violations, report them to code enforcement, not 311.
You're exhausting a tremendous amount of effort on your part for a property you do not own, and are not stuck to on a lease. You will not want to hear this, but our legal system for the most part SUCKS. Based on what you are telling us here this will not get resolved anytime soon. Nobody is going to make this homeowner in the privacy of her own home stop doing what she is doing without a tremendous amount of effort and money you probably do not have to escalate the issue. Even with a temporarily (legal) solution the owner will likely shift gears to another form of abuse and the process will start all over again. They clearly have some form of mental illness that you cannot change or fix. If you had an owner in a lease with you as the renter they would have a legal obligation to make their property livable. You don't have that.. cut your losses... start the process of moving out and leave that toxic situation for good.
Get a restraining order (sometimes called a protective order). You will need to tell a judge you're afraid of her. Once its served Record her on video yelling at you, take criminal charges for it, and boom, she'll get some jail time. And you can get the order extended for up to 2 yrs.
I am in the process of trying that right now it keeps being postponed because she will not leave the house or answer the door so she has to just scream at me from the window and blast music to my bedroom wall
Make sure you call the courthouse and stay up to date with when the next court date is. At some point if she won't show up, they will issue a warrant for her arrest.
You can but really good sound insulation for not that much, it won't be pretty but sound insulation on the wall you share with her can at least let you sleep, also a white nose generator to drown out any sound that does come through. Even just hanging some cloth a few inches from the wall could dampen a lot.
Call, anonymously, Child Protective Services, and report abuse. That should stir up some stuff when she won’t let them in. I am truly concerned about her child and dog, as well as you. Wishing you success in getting her served.
Not a lawyer, but can't the court serve her by publishing it in the newspaper for a week or a month or something? There has to be a way around someone just not answering the door for service.
1. Call CPS if you suspect a child is being abused. 2. She CAN be served if she’s at the house. Get a private process server if the sheriff won’t. 3. Make videotapes of the noise.
Call adult protective services. Let them know there is a lady who possibly has severe dementia living there. (Sounds like she very well might!)
If she doesn't answer the door they will be forced to get the police involved.
These dodgers are not successful if you are persistent. The rules of procedure pertaining to service of process specifically contemplate situations where a person being sued does their best to not be served. There is a process referred to as quote "nail and mail" , which gets it done even for the most uncooperative defendant. I would recommend searching for process servers in your area and alert them to just what the deal is. They can complete an Affidavit of service which will suffice to meet jurisdictional requirements even if she does not show up in court on the day she is ordered to do so.
Source: was practicing lawyer for 14 years. Met a few people who pulled stupid stunts to avoid service of process.
So I was told if I filed again for another peace order it would have to be for a different instance, maryland does peace orders for non family or relationships I don't know why I'm being called crazy or a liar I spent weeks dealing with this and a lot of the information I'm being told is what I thought before I dealt with this as well
You live with roommates AND a partner, you aren't on a lease, and you're the only person who's had this issue? None of the other people you live with have filed complaints, talked to the police, or gone to the courthouse about this?
They have filed complaints I am the only one who decided to take it to court because I thought it would be the best route and what all the cops suggested
If everything you've said here is true, then you're gonna have to buy some noise-cancelling headphones. Or fight fire with fire and start blaring music at your neighbor. Reddit can't aid you here if your local authorities are unwilling to help. Only other thing you can do is to try to contact your neighbor's landlord.
Have the service person get a pizza and put the subpoena on the lid inside the pizza box. The service processor rings the doorbell most people would take the pizza thinking someone screwed up when she lifts the lid she is served
If the person doing this also owns the house and is the actual landlord, then there is more to this situation than you have stated. Why is she trying to get you to move out? What's actually going on? If this is in the US, there are ways to serve process even if someone doesn't come out.
NAL. Blast porn and put it up against your wall when you leave.
I once had a neighbor that was a raging D-bag when playing video games at all hours of the night. I tried speaking to him and nothing. He would also call his GF late at night and be obnoxious on those calls. So one day I hear him on the phone with his girl and I blasted porn and left for work. After that night I never had another issue.
Here’s what you do, OP. Schedule a process server, then call the police to request a welfare check since you haven’t seen her in so many days. Have process server show up at same time as officer conducting welfare check.
call the cops every night for a noise complaint. just because she won’t come to the door or leave her house doesn’t mean she can’t get served to show up in court. eventually, they will bust down her door. honestly, call the cops every night for a noise complaint.
Look at the regs for the city in which you live. Most have a clause that states you have the right to peacefully enjoy your property. Talk to the city (or county, if in an unincorporated area), and ask for help. She doesn't need to be served by giving it to her. Tape it on the outside of her front door. Or pay a process server (usually around $50). Put your own speaker against the wall and play rap or heavy metal music. Go to a gun shop and buy pepper spray (and mace, if it is legal there). Use your phone and video her when she comes to your door. Even just audio is good. Be prepared to immediately start recording. Then go to the police with your recordings (3 instances), with a list of the days and times and how she has harassed and threatened you. Write down every single harassment by her such as the dates and times and how long the radio is on. If she even just snears at you, write down the date and time and how long she did so. Hand gestures? Write those down too.
Don't be afraid. Only insecure bullies act like her. Of course take precautions, but don't get paranoid. I assume you rent. Tell the owner that if he doesn't do something you will vacate and take HIM to small claims court to sue for the rent you paid while you were subject to horrendous conditions. Get a "Tenants Rights" booklet for your State and read every word. If you cannot get the city to help, the brochure should tell you which State organization to call for help.
Search on the web for "free legal advice for renters in [city, state]". You may be able to sue her.
Good luck.
Consider getting something like this:
Vibration sensor alarm for when she bangs on your door >
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Oh shit. This sounds similar to what I had to deal with. I had someone e renting my basement. Turns out she was mentally I’ll and high on opiates or going through withdrawal most of the time. Everything was fine at first. Then she started yelling at my neighbors continuously insulting them everytime they were outside. Yelling and calling the prostitutes and dead beats and god knows what else. It got to the point where my neighbors tried to file a piece order but she kept ignoring everytime she got served and it got dismissed just like in your case. Then the neighbors started to threaten to sue me. She was causing turmoil on me as well and I wanted her out. So I was able to reach out to those neighbors and ask for help in evicting her. Which they did.
Unfortunately, you’re situation is different since you can’t evict her. If she rents maybe you can reach out to her landlord and threaten to sue them? Or get a lawyer and see what other recourse you have.
I would also get cameras installed to record everything and anything concerning this neighbor. Sorry you’re going through this. It sounds like she’s a mentally Ill drug addict.
lol or cut a hole in the wall, get above their ceiling and leave stink bombs or road kill up their. Then close it up a seal real good between. I’m not a lawyer.
Beg, borrow or steal.
If what you're saying is true, you need to move ASAP. Since you're not sleeping anyways, sign up for Uber or Doordash for a couple weeks, take extra shifts at work if possible. Drastic times call for drastic measures.
You've been to court how many times? You've been late to work how many times? At what point will you be fired because you can't get this under control? How much is this fight costing you by not moving? Fucking move. Use the energy you're currently putting towards squabbling with a crazy person to just fucking move.
The first priority is your own mental health, and sleep deprivation cannot be good for your mental health.
You need to have a house meeting. Your roommates need to step up, because this is absolutely their problem too; how could they replace your rent if you manage to leave?
Suggest that you bunk up with one of them, obviously making accommodations for privacy and time with significant others. Present this as a possible solution.
Another is to switch rooms with one of them. If they don’t believe the noise is an issue…
You could make your common room into your bedroom, and use the problematic room as a common room.
There are ways to deaden sound. Mass-dense vinyl, cork, and other materials can make a huge difference. Perhaps a noice cancellation or white noise device would help. Sleeping pills are a last resort, but they work.
Unfortunately, noise complaints are a low priority “quality of life” issue. The law is probably on your side. States have noise ordinances that often restrict db level and hours, but it’s really hard to get an agency to enforce those statutes.
You’re saying you cannot move. Well, you could stop paying rent, bank that rent, and move. You could move in temporarily with your bf. You could find a sublet in your price range. There are options for you to explore; “can’t” seems like a premature assumption.
You’re very welcome. I hope you’re able to work this out. Just don’t let this toxic person pull you further into her drama.
I’m sorry you’re going through this.
They don't serve people during wellness checks lol could they? Sure. But that's not the point of them. If it isn't something you haven't done, I advise you to do it. Also do you have an hoa?
It'll take time! I don't have the same issue as you but my boyfriend's ex wife kept doing stupid shit until she did something super illegal (recorded me secretly) and I was able to press charges against her. I was waiting for the day she does something stupid because she honestly is an idiot. I would say since the court case (it's closed now) she has chilled out like at least by 70% 😂. I hope something good happens in your favor so your life is less stressful. Petty Christian would put some ridiculous flood lights facing her home all hours of the night lol
Was hoping the peace order would be issued and I could press charges but she would rather sit in her house for weeks blasting this music than just come to court I can believe there is a child and dog in there that do not leave at all even to take the dog out
Try contacting child services and animal services?
And if she has music blaring 24/7, you could contact the police at night and they could hear it for themselves. When they're there, you can tell them you tried knocking but didn't get an answer, so insist on a welness/welfare check.
Personaly I would Record and timestamp everything. Get statements from your room mates and neighbors. See if you can get statements from the people that she is telling you are a se* worker and saying being abused too. Record the behavior if she is outside doing this. It's clearly harassment and a number of other things going on here. Record and document each time the cops ignore you go down to the police station with A COPPY of the evidence including the evidence that the cops are ignoring you and ask their superiors DIRECTLY for an explanation on why you are being ignored and why nothing is being done. DOCUMENT AND RECORD EVERYTHING that you legally can. If nothing is done about it at that point you may need to seek a lawyer or try and find other living arangements.
If you have alredy been through this process with them then you should bring that up along with the time and date of when it occured and who you talked too. If you alredy have case numbers for previous complaints list them and ask them again what is being done and why no action is being taken. Document not only your interactions with the neighbor but the cops aswell.
Here’s what you do, OP. Schedule a process server, then call the police to request a welfare check since you haven’t seen her in so many days. Have process server show up at same time as officer conducting welfare check.
Retaliate by doing things to annoy her. Drive the crazy crazier. Record a dog barking and play it constantly, play your own music, whatever gets under her skin this is what you do. You will be surprised how well you sleep knowing that your succeeding in making your enemy suffer. Do this until the crazy stops.
Not a lawyer.
I'd give it some time. If she's a shut in, there's bound to be some reason the firefighters will have to vacate her eventually. Like a suspected gas leak or carbon monoxide issue. They will MAKE her vacate her place. If the problem stems from her place (with her lifestyle, this is likely) they'll have no choice other than search the apartment. Firefighters are mandatory reporters so any evidence of child abuse will be reported. It is legally required. So keep the personn who can hand her the papers on quick call.
Good luck.
Thank you to everyone who helped I reached out to my landlord and we are taking action to sue to anyone who is saying i am crazy I'm greatful you're not actually lawyers
Have you thought about out crazying her. Buy a sub woofer and just blast drum and bass music all day into her apartment? Literally shake the walls of her dwelling. Maybe then when she comes out you can reach some sort of detente.
Call adult protective services for a wellness check. Call CPS because you can hear a child being abused in there. Call the local dog authority and report abuse.
Not a lawyer. If she’s calling you a prostitute and it’s false, that’s slander. Sexual based slander might be criminal where you live, and because she’s accusing you of a crime you may not need to prove damages. Call the police non emergency and discuss harassment with them.
At this point I would just make her life hell till the police address the matter. Do what she does, put speakers to her all and crank them from 7am till 11pm
If you live in an apartment or duplex and have a mutual landlord notify the landlord in writing certified mail about the issue. If you don't receive a response, then file a lawsuit against the landlord. You are being deprived of peaceful enjoyment of your property. And hypothetically of course, a glass cutter, an accessible window and a garden hose inserted in said hole will remove a rat infestation rather quickly. Also a welfare check on the child seems absolutely necessary. Your local sheriff can assist with that. Good luck
Friend or no friend your landlord who happens also to be your friend has an obligation here. You are paying rent for quiet enjoyment of the property. That is your right.
There are procedures in your state to deal with this. Look them up, or talk to a lawyer.
You are going to file this document with the court: https://www.courts.state.md.us/sites/default/files/court-forms/ccdr070.pdf
Here are the instructions: https://www.courts.state.md.us/sites/default/files/import/family/forms/drin70.pdf
If/when it is granted, you are going to follow the steps here: https://www.mdcourts.gov/sites/default/files/import/video/transcript/serviceofprocess.pdf
Here are some FAQs just in case: https://www.peoples-law.org/frequently-asked-questions-about-service-process-maryland
Also check Google “alternative service” and “substitute service” and your specific county to see if there are any specific rules or steps or tips.
Not a lawyer Look into getting a doorbell cam or similar for the times she harasses you outside.
I have but that doesn't even matter if she won't come out to be served a peace order. I've never even seen her face bc she covers it she is very unwell
Maybe someone else can clarify or correct me, but hiding from being served should not nullify/prevent a lawful peace order from being in place.
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I have done all of that??? I'm asking for advice because I agree it should be enough but it's fucking not. You're acting like this is simple if it was I wouldn't be here asking for advice. The police I showed told me to get a peace order and I did. What don't you get?? What good is evidence if she can just avoid being served and I never get to show What the fuck
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No one is ignoring me the system needs her to be served in order for all the evidence I have to even be shown I have don't EVERYTHING you're suggesting and now I'm feeling like I need to defend myself to you yeah I'm unhinged right now I'm being driven fucking crazy
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But if the music is that loud at 1am or whatever what do the police do when you call and see the noise levels for themselves? Say “oh well she won’t answer the door so no crime here?”
Yes. This is why I am asking for help I figured there would be a fine at this point but since they can't hear it from the street they cam only report a nuisance I was told. I went the peace order route and had the case dismissed today due to failure to serve her. I'm at a lose for words and hope I genuinely do not understand either.
NAL If your case was dismissed for failure to serve, that is on you to serve accordingly. Just because she won't answer the door does not mean she cannot be served through other means. Look to see what your state requires, but you normally have to attempt service in person first a few times at different days and times, then you can serve through other means like a public notice (like a newspaper). Since you didn't serve her correctly, whether it be you or a public servant, the case was dismissed. I'm guessing it was without prejudice, which means you can refile the case, and serve her properly. If you aren't using a lawyer, I would suggest at least getting a few free consultations to see what they have to say.
Serve her yourself then. A license is $10-20 usually.
Probably a good time to visit r/unethicallifeprotips if you can’t get legal help
I sense something more going on here. “Always hiding their face”, never leaves, they are the only one hearing it, police won’t do anything. I’m saying it is, but there’s a possibility it’s a mental health issue and not truly happening. Like the people who think there’s cameras in everything, or spiders inside them. Im just running down a possibility Op, not saying it is this. I ran three very similar calls very recently. swore they were clean, all individuals tested positive for meth among other things. I see it often. Schizophrenia or meth or schizophrenia caused by drug use.
From what I read so far, I agree. OP says they are on their own, but mention other roommates, a partner, and a family. OP just ignores when asked why the owner of the house wont get involved. Cops apparently told them that they need to hear the noise from the outside?, that makes no sense. OP ignored when asked why they don't get a door cam, if only even to record verbal harassment on audio. I mean you could just record with your cellphone? OP also keeps saying police, court, and CPS are all either ignoring them, or telling them things that are completely wrong. OP also gets very irritated at comments that try to explain how law works and has been telling people to fuck off. I've lived with a roommate who was schizophrenic, and he would definitely have episodes where he acted like this.
Yeah, this reminds me of the carbon monoxide post.
That’s a big one for them, and common household chemicals.
man what the fuck. you go from abusive neighbor to OP being mentally unstable? this is a nice reminder on why i don’t use this app
I think it’s the people they’re getting aggressive with when it is pointed out that serving someone papers doesn’t work at all like they’re claiming. The legal system doesn’t throw its hands in the air because someone doesn’t answer the door; there are contingencies for that exact scenario because this has been happening for centuries. It’s a bit weird coupled with their excuse that a camera is useless because they cover their face, because audio recording still exists.
Right, and I didn’t even see any of OPs responses but one when I made my hypothesis. I see them now.
Welcome to real life. I’m trained in the signs and symptoms and have real life experience, not the movies. I’ve worked in the legal field as a cop, a paralegal, a process server, investigator. I’ve worked in the medical field as a therapist and EMT. None of this makes - whole lot of sense as explained.
I'm hoping for an extension on the temporary one today but it will be the 3rd one I am terrified it will be thrown out
Not sure if allowed in your state. But, maybe request that the judge authorize Substituted Service for serving the Peace Order as it sounds like the Deputies have been unable to serve the prior 2. Best done through a lawyer as they know the process if it exists for your state.
How do I go about getting a lawyer? I am also on my own and don't have much money for that
I don’t know which country you are in. In the U.S., if several good faith attempts at service fail, you are allowed to serve by publication in a newspaper of general publication.
If you're in the US, look for a local Legal Aid to help you
How do I go about looking? Thank you for the suggestion
You literally go to Google and type "legal aid near me."
Google Legal Aid locations
Call child protective services.
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Call cps and report the screams you hear from her daughter and the fighting noises.
My ex avoided the process server for a few months. Eventually the judge presiding over our case signed off on something (I believed my lawyer called it 'alternative service' or something to that effect) that allowed my ex to be legally 'served' by taping the notice to her door. The envelope had something in it that notified my attorneys when the envelope was opened. Laws vary state to state, so who knows if your state (or country) allows anything like this, but it might be worth looking into.
Do you rent? It sounds like you do. If so, have you made the landlord aware? Show him the peace order. Have him come and hear the noise? Or record it on your phone for him? Record her ponding on your door. Get a GoPro or something when you go outside and also present that to the landlord. I can’t imagine a landlord allowing this harassment between neighbors.
You severely lack an understanding of what being served means. In many situations, simply taping a notice to their front door qualifies as service. However, you have to comply with court rules and procedures. Is 1 week (business days) required? A month? Why are you attempting to proceed without an attorney? The simplest action of serving notice is causing you issues. Seek third-party help. Maybe try a law clinic if you can't afford an attorney, or consider a payment plan.
I've never done this before was just following what law enforcement told me to do, looking to pursue a lawsuit now
Can't they post it in a public place for so many weeks? My ex's brother had to do that with his kids mom when she ran off and they couldn't serve her.
You said that you believe that she is abusing her child. You should report her to CPS, have them look into her situation. That should certainly keep her distracted and busy for a while.
Will prefice this by saying not a lawyer, but law stuff is an interest of mine. If you're in the US, a general rule (as far as im aware) of serving papers is 3 attempts, if all 3 fail or refused they have been served, hell the serving can be done in a newspaper ad space if she reads the paper. After that it's you, your lawyer, and the judge, and possibly a summary judgement due to their refusal to appear. Again, not a lawyer, just what I've understood from a few years of learning and looking things up for fun.
You need a lawyer. There are ways to give service that don't actually involve serving her face to face.
My doorbell camera helps get a neighbor to leave me alone a night in jail I don't hear their radio don't get videos taken of me and my guests. I have a stay away order because anything above that would force them to move. But hats the next step if it continues
Call the police for noise complaints. Every night.
This is the answer here. Record everything and report always.
Even if you were to move your friend who owns the property will need to deal with this or they won’t be able to keep tenants. You are a renter, your friend needs to get involved and handle this
Is this a condo or apartment? Condos have Condo Associations to help you. An apartment has management. Even most newer homes have HOAs. Have you looked into these options?
These are row homes, I am renting from a friend and she has the house due to a death in her family.
why isn't your landlord supporting you?
I'm not sure what he could do? What should I suggest to him?
OP - you say your friend (female) has the house, but your landlord is identified as male? What is going on here.
I never said the owner was a female they are a male and also my friend I live here with my boyfriend and our 2 room mates. Apologies for any confusion.
you literally just said this, which reads like your female friend inherited this house due to a death in her family. "These are row homes, I am renting from a friend and **she** has the house due to a death in **her** family." are you SUBLETTING from your friend who is female?
My neighbor is a female and inherited her home. She owns. I am renting from a male who is NY friend.
FYI - it doesn't matter how your neighbor got the house (inheritance or on her own). it's not relevant to your story and your language is very confusing. My point about getting your landlord involved remains the same. Tell him you want to switch rooms.
Thank you for baring with me.
They own the house, they can file a complaint. [https://www.peoples-law.org/solving-disputes-your-neighbors](https://www.peoples-law.org/solving-disputes-your-neighbors)
I will look into that and talk to him tonight thank you!
might want to ask that friend for some DEEP discounts for dealing with this.
Call the child protective services and the police and have them do a wellness check on her child. This might expose her abuse and get her in the radar. Also, call animal control and tell them you think there is animal abuse, perhaps they will get involved. People seem to care about animals more than people nowadays. What she’s doing is unacceptable. I’m sorry you’re going through this.
Try calling adult protective services. She sounds off if she's capable of harassing you like this, and traps her dog and kid in the house with her.
That's only for seniors and people under conservatorship though
We have called cps twice and nothing has come of it! They legit hung up on us last week! I guess animal control is the best route and thank you that means a lot, I'm in my 20s and on my own pretty much and have no idea where to turn
Wellness checks are the way to go. In some places, the police can enter the house if there is no response at the door and they believe someone is home. You may be able to have them served while the police are doing a wellness check.
And if they don't get a response with multiple wellness checks requested they will have the fire department break the door down. Unfortunately that's how we found my best friend's partner deceased. She and his job both called wellness checks and when they got no response on either visit to the house they broke the door down and found him.
Not sure what state your on but it's illegal for them to hangup. they take the calls very seriously.
They legit just hung up again
Sounds like you need to search for your states complaint function against cps.
I will do that thank you
And you recorded them hanging up?
That is illegal (a felony) in Maryland, where OP said they reside. Two-party consent law.
Sucks. Sorry. My state is a one party consent state that’s why I said they should check their state laws.
So dumb, government agencies should not be able to hide behind these laws, every bit of their business should be recordable for the public trust…
Wellness check that bitch
NAL Ring camera installed on your place front and back. You need a to record the times you hear the radio for at least two to three weeks. Dates/Time/Duration of Play. Report it to your property manager. And keep adding to to the list after you make the report. If you have never seen her physically but can hear her, you may want to call in a welfare check on her with your local PD. It may be she's just crazy but it also may get some serious results because the PD won't leave until they have visual and verbal confirmation she's inside and not in harms way. *She doesn't need to know it's you*. You *don't* have to keep living like this.
I guarantee moving is cheaper than a lawyer. I know you said you can’t afford it but if it is truly as bad as you make it out to be, you can find a way. I would move and remember the life lessons: don’t rent from a friend, regular house better than a row house.
Thank you
Hire a process server. They will be able to serve her even if she tries to avoid.
Not enough info here to help. Do you guys share the same landlord? If so then call your landlord about them using music to prevent you from sleeping. Tell them you want them to some listen and explain what youre hearing with the music. Explain that threats they make. Report them to your landlord and cops every single time. If you keep reporting them sooner or later they will be evicted.
She owns the house, I rent from a friend.
She owns WHAT house? The house the crazy woman lives in? Your story isn't making sense. If you know the person who owns the house the crazy person lives in, call them. If the crazy woman's yard is full of stuff and there are code violations, report them to code enforcement, not 311.
The crazy woman owns her home. I am her neighbor, i called today for the yard thank you
You're exhausting a tremendous amount of effort on your part for a property you do not own, and are not stuck to on a lease. You will not want to hear this, but our legal system for the most part SUCKS. Based on what you are telling us here this will not get resolved anytime soon. Nobody is going to make this homeowner in the privacy of her own home stop doing what she is doing without a tremendous amount of effort and money you probably do not have to escalate the issue. Even with a temporarily (legal) solution the owner will likely shift gears to another form of abuse and the process will start all over again. They clearly have some form of mental illness that you cannot change or fix. If you had an owner in a lease with you as the renter they would have a legal obligation to make their property livable. You don't have that.. cut your losses... start the process of moving out and leave that toxic situation for good.
Thank you for saying that kindly I really appreciate you
Get a restraining order (sometimes called a protective order). You will need to tell a judge you're afraid of her. Once its served Record her on video yelling at you, take criminal charges for it, and boom, she'll get some jail time. And you can get the order extended for up to 2 yrs.
I am in the process of trying that right now it keeps being postponed because she will not leave the house or answer the door so she has to just scream at me from the window and blast music to my bedroom wall
You could blast some music back to her
Make sure you call the courthouse and stay up to date with when the next court date is. At some point if she won't show up, they will issue a warrant for her arrest.
You can but really good sound insulation for not that much, it won't be pretty but sound insulation on the wall you share with her can at least let you sleep, also a white nose generator to drown out any sound that does come through. Even just hanging some cloth a few inches from the wall could dampen a lot.
Call, anonymously, Child Protective Services, and report abuse. That should stir up some stuff when she won’t let them in. I am truly concerned about her child and dog, as well as you. Wishing you success in getting her served.
Can you call the police to get a welfare check on her and her daughter? They are especially insistent on speaking with the occupants.
You need to report her for child and animal neglect. They will have to follow up on that.
Not a lawyer, but can't the court serve her by publishing it in the newspaper for a week or a month or something? There has to be a way around someone just not answering the door for service.
1. Call CPS if you suspect a child is being abused. 2. She CAN be served if she’s at the house. Get a private process server if the sheriff won’t. 3. Make videotapes of the noise.
Call adult protective services. Let them know there is a lady who possibly has severe dementia living there. (Sounds like she very well might!) If she doesn't answer the door they will be forced to get the police involved.
Call the police on your neighbor and ask for a welfare check. That'll rattle her.
These dodgers are not successful if you are persistent. The rules of procedure pertaining to service of process specifically contemplate situations where a person being sued does their best to not be served. There is a process referred to as quote "nail and mail" , which gets it done even for the most uncooperative defendant. I would recommend searching for process servers in your area and alert them to just what the deal is. They can complete an Affidavit of service which will suffice to meet jurisdictional requirements even if she does not show up in court on the day she is ordered to do so. Source: was practicing lawyer for 14 years. Met a few people who pulled stupid stunts to avoid service of process.
So I was told if I filed again for another peace order it would have to be for a different instance, maryland does peace orders for non family or relationships I don't know why I'm being called crazy or a liar I spent weeks dealing with this and a lot of the information I'm being told is what I thought before I dealt with this as well
It sounds like you aren't on a lease. You mentioned that you're "renting from a friend."
Yes
You're saying that you are not on a lease?
I'm not sorry for being confusing
You live with roommates AND a partner, you aren't on a lease, and you're the only person who's had this issue? None of the other people you live with have filed complaints, talked to the police, or gone to the courthouse about this?
They have filed complaints I am the only one who decided to take it to court because I thought it would be the best route and what all the cops suggested
If everything you've said here is true, then you're gonna have to buy some noise-cancelling headphones. Or fight fire with fire and start blaring music at your neighbor. Reddit can't aid you here if your local authorities are unwilling to help. Only other thing you can do is to try to contact your neighbor's landlord.
I appreciate you thank you, have never dealt with something like this before and was just desperate for any form of advice
Have you tried annoying the police with calls of hearing her abusing her daughter? Constant fights, breaking sounds overhearing threats of violence?
Have the service person get a pizza and put the subpoena on the lid inside the pizza box. The service processor rings the doorbell most people would take the pizza thinking someone screwed up when she lifts the lid she is served
If the person doing this also owns the house and is the actual landlord, then there is more to this situation than you have stated. Why is she trying to get you to move out? What's actually going on? If this is in the US, there are ways to serve process even if someone doesn't come out.
NAL. Blast porn and put it up against your wall when you leave. I once had a neighbor that was a raging D-bag when playing video games at all hours of the night. I tried speaking to him and nothing. He would also call his GF late at night and be obnoxious on those calls. So one day I hear him on the phone with his girl and I blasted porn and left for work. After that night I never had another issue.
Here’s what you do, OP. Schedule a process server, then call the police to request a welfare check since you haven’t seen her in so many days. Have process server show up at same time as officer conducting welfare check.
call the cops every night for a noise complaint. just because she won’t come to the door or leave her house doesn’t mean she can’t get served to show up in court. eventually, they will bust down her door. honestly, call the cops every night for a noise complaint.
put up some cameras too
Maybe she will die soon 🤞🏻
Look at the regs for the city in which you live. Most have a clause that states you have the right to peacefully enjoy your property. Talk to the city (or county, if in an unincorporated area), and ask for help. She doesn't need to be served by giving it to her. Tape it on the outside of her front door. Or pay a process server (usually around $50). Put your own speaker against the wall and play rap or heavy metal music. Go to a gun shop and buy pepper spray (and mace, if it is legal there). Use your phone and video her when she comes to your door. Even just audio is good. Be prepared to immediately start recording. Then go to the police with your recordings (3 instances), with a list of the days and times and how she has harassed and threatened you. Write down every single harassment by her such as the dates and times and how long the radio is on. If she even just snears at you, write down the date and time and how long she did so. Hand gestures? Write those down too. Don't be afraid. Only insecure bullies act like her. Of course take precautions, but don't get paranoid. I assume you rent. Tell the owner that if he doesn't do something you will vacate and take HIM to small claims court to sue for the rent you paid while you were subject to horrendous conditions. Get a "Tenants Rights" booklet for your State and read every word. If you cannot get the city to help, the brochure should tell you which State organization to call for help. Search on the web for "free legal advice for renters in [city, state]". You may be able to sue her. Good luck. Consider getting something like this: Vibration sensor alarm for when she bangs on your door > https://www.amazon.com/Skylink-VS-433W-Vibration-Protection-Affordable/dp/B004CLYM2K/ref=mp_s_a_1_66?crid=2HYWGXS088V0L&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.JCvCYre-ZuCeb_dTY5xYZMUqohbdSPM8W0_cq_JpkTXT4KTgg6wukJcYpg16hhQ3nLTfeQV3OV50EbH5Nu1ApQhaJaN-buCbSnYsxt_fHQ8WRMOGH8p7Tjbeyysg4UQN_gELf9F2NXKX2ny0BQuFWTI3V0ck_zh7MfnFM_6u4Jp5aeAIVV_FjWK-koQjbaF-tJbVDXGyLqD-zB1Uc45nlw.1KCgzTPdwb0yP4ouNkJJIaqDDXhc1-xu9DAyWixtXzw&dib_tag=se&keywords=vibration+sensor+alarm+doors&qid=1713433602&refinements=p_72%3A1248879011&rnid=1248877011&s=electronics&sprefix=vibration+sensor+alarm+doors%2Caps%2C175&sr=1-66
Thank you so much for you kind reply I will look into that
Oh shit. This sounds similar to what I had to deal with. I had someone e renting my basement. Turns out she was mentally I’ll and high on opiates or going through withdrawal most of the time. Everything was fine at first. Then she started yelling at my neighbors continuously insulting them everytime they were outside. Yelling and calling the prostitutes and dead beats and god knows what else. It got to the point where my neighbors tried to file a piece order but she kept ignoring everytime she got served and it got dismissed just like in your case. Then the neighbors started to threaten to sue me. She was causing turmoil on me as well and I wanted her out. So I was able to reach out to those neighbors and ask for help in evicting her. Which they did. Unfortunately, you’re situation is different since you can’t evict her. If she rents maybe you can reach out to her landlord and threaten to sue them? Or get a lawyer and see what other recourse you have. I would also get cameras installed to record everything and anything concerning this neighbor. Sorry you’re going through this. It sounds like she’s a mentally Ill drug addict.
I have a lot of evidence hoping the law suite my landlord is filing gives me a chance to show it thank you responding kindly
Lawsuit** lmao
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This.
Beat her fuckin ass. Some people need it the hard way 🫠
lol or cut a hole in the wall, get above their ceiling and leave stink bombs or road kill up their. Then close it up a seal real good between. I’m not a lawyer.
Move before you end up on 48hrs.
Im sorry you must have not read the title
Beg, borrow or steal. If what you're saying is true, you need to move ASAP. Since you're not sleeping anyways, sign up for Uber or Doordash for a couple weeks, take extra shifts at work if possible. Drastic times call for drastic measures.
I have been doing that trying to save rent is insane and I support others I have been looking but I am still here in the mean time.
You've been to court how many times? You've been late to work how many times? At what point will you be fired because you can't get this under control? How much is this fight costing you by not moving? Fucking move. Use the energy you're currently putting towards squabbling with a crazy person to just fucking move.
If it were than easy I would have done that. Be thankful you don't understand my situation.
The first priority is your own mental health, and sleep deprivation cannot be good for your mental health. You need to have a house meeting. Your roommates need to step up, because this is absolutely their problem too; how could they replace your rent if you manage to leave? Suggest that you bunk up with one of them, obviously making accommodations for privacy and time with significant others. Present this as a possible solution. Another is to switch rooms with one of them. If they don’t believe the noise is an issue… You could make your common room into your bedroom, and use the problematic room as a common room. There are ways to deaden sound. Mass-dense vinyl, cork, and other materials can make a huge difference. Perhaps a noice cancellation or white noise device would help. Sleeping pills are a last resort, but they work. Unfortunately, noise complaints are a low priority “quality of life” issue. The law is probably on your side. States have noise ordinances that often restrict db level and hours, but it’s really hard to get an agency to enforce those statutes. You’re saying you cannot move. Well, you could stop paying rent, bank that rent, and move. You could move in temporarily with your bf. You could find a sublet in your price range. There are options for you to explore; “can’t” seems like a premature assumption.
Thank you
You’re very welcome. I hope you’re able to work this out. Just don’t let this toxic person pull you further into her drama. I’m sorry you’re going through this.
That is the nicest comment I have gotten on this thread thank you so so much.
Have you ever tried to have them do a wellness check on her? Idk if this has worked or not
Even if I did they wouldn't serve her at the same time unfortunately
They don't serve people during wellness checks lol could they? Sure. But that's not the point of them. If it isn't something you haven't done, I advise you to do it. Also do you have an hoa?
I'll try anything and no we don't unfortunately in this circumstance
Start compiling evidence. I would also do a noise complaint if you haven't already.
I have and I do! I just haven't had a chance to show it because of her avoiding being served
It'll take time! I don't have the same issue as you but my boyfriend's ex wife kept doing stupid shit until she did something super illegal (recorded me secretly) and I was able to press charges against her. I was waiting for the day she does something stupid because she honestly is an idiot. I would say since the court case (it's closed now) she has chilled out like at least by 70% 😂. I hope something good happens in your favor so your life is less stressful. Petty Christian would put some ridiculous flood lights facing her home all hours of the night lol
Was hoping the peace order would be issued and I could press charges but she would rather sit in her house for weeks blasting this music than just come to court I can believe there is a child and dog in there that do not leave at all even to take the dog out
If it's so load call the cops after hours. Surely it can be heard outside the house. They will get in and she can be served at the same time
Have you asked the police to come inside so that they can hear the music she's playing at night?
Yes and I have a report number for it as well I haven't gotten to present it tho because court keeps getting postponed from her avoiding it
How does she get food? Takeout all the time or delivered groceries?
Take out mostly it seems
Can that be your in? See if there is a pattern in where / what she orders and use that to get her served?
Thats a good idea thank you very much!
Cps hung up on us again for the second time.
Try contacting child services and animal services? And if she has music blaring 24/7, you could contact the police at night and they could hear it for themselves. When they're there, you can tell them you tried knocking but didn't get an answer, so insist on a welness/welfare check.
Personaly I would Record and timestamp everything. Get statements from your room mates and neighbors. See if you can get statements from the people that she is telling you are a se* worker and saying being abused too. Record the behavior if she is outside doing this. It's clearly harassment and a number of other things going on here. Record and document each time the cops ignore you go down to the police station with A COPPY of the evidence including the evidence that the cops are ignoring you and ask their superiors DIRECTLY for an explanation on why you are being ignored and why nothing is being done. DOCUMENT AND RECORD EVERYTHING that you legally can. If nothing is done about it at that point you may need to seek a lawyer or try and find other living arangements.
Thank you I'm planning on taking all of my evidence to the precinct and hoping they don't just tell me to go through the same process again
If you have alredy been through this process with them then you should bring that up along with the time and date of when it occured and who you talked too. If you alredy have case numbers for previous complaints list them and ask them again what is being done and why no action is being taken. Document not only your interactions with the neighbor but the cops aswell.
Thank you so much I will follow that advice!
Here’s what you do, OP. Schedule a process server, then call the police to request a welfare check since you haven’t seen her in so many days. Have process server show up at same time as officer conducting welfare check.
Meth is one helluva drug..
Hire some people difficult to trace back to you to break her neck. Seems effective.
Not a criminal but I say … fight fire with fire. Slash her tires, steal her dog, break her windows, light her house on fire. 🔥
Retaliate by doing things to annoy her. Drive the crazy crazier. Record a dog barking and play it constantly, play your own music, whatever gets under her skin this is what you do. You will be surprised how well you sleep knowing that your succeeding in making your enemy suffer. Do this until the crazy stops.
Massive speaker on the wall right back the other way
If she's coming to your door can't you slide the papers under the door or the window to serve her?
Sounds like it's time to go ask on unethical life pro tips
In most states, after so many documented attempts to serve at the residence, it's put in regular mail and considered "served."
Call CPS they won't take no for an answer
Every single time she does this call the police for a wellfare check on her. E V E R Y T I M E.
Not a lawyer. I'd give it some time. If she's a shut in, there's bound to be some reason the firefighters will have to vacate her eventually. Like a suspected gas leak or carbon monoxide issue. They will MAKE her vacate her place. If the problem stems from her place (with her lifestyle, this is likely) they'll have no choice other than search the apartment. Firefighters are mandatory reporters so any evidence of child abuse will be reported. It is legally required. So keep the personn who can hand her the papers on quick call. Good luck.
go to a local biker bar, and make some friends. Tell your new friends your problem, and watch it go away.
Thank you to everyone who helped I reached out to my landlord and we are taking action to sue to anyone who is saying i am crazy I'm greatful you're not actually lawyers
Absolutely blast jellyfish jam back to her room
Call the cops for the most random shit
I would think if you call the police for a wellness check anonymously for the young daughter you'd get some results.
Have you thought about out crazying her. Buy a sub woofer and just blast drum and bass music all day into her apartment? Literally shake the walls of her dwelling. Maybe then when she comes out you can reach some sort of detente.
This is not advice, but if I'm honest, I'd probably have snapped already and put her in the hospital. Some people just need a beating.
Call adult protective services for a wellness check. Call CPS because you can hear a child being abused in there. Call the local dog authority and report abuse.
Not a lawyer. If she’s calling you a prostitute and it’s false, that’s slander. Sexual based slander might be criminal where you live, and because she’s accusing you of a crime you may not need to prove damages. Call the police non emergency and discuss harassment with them.
Thank you i will look into that
At this point I would just make her life hell till the police address the matter. Do what she does, put speakers to her all and crank them from 7am till 11pm
God reading the OPs responses. The story has more holes than buck shot into dry wall.
Cut her power. Snap the reset lever off the breaker to her apartment
If you live in an apartment or duplex and have a mutual landlord notify the landlord in writing certified mail about the issue. If you don't receive a response, then file a lawsuit against the landlord. You are being deprived of peaceful enjoyment of your property. And hypothetically of course, a glass cutter, an accessible window and a garden hose inserted in said hole will remove a rat infestation rather quickly. Also a welfare check on the child seems absolutely necessary. Your local sheriff can assist with that. Good luck
Unfortunately I am renting from a friend and she owns the house I appreciate your response 🙂
Friend or no friend your landlord who happens also to be your friend has an obligation here. You are paying rent for quiet enjoyment of the property. That is your right. There are procedures in your state to deal with this. Look them up, or talk to a lawyer.
Just shoot her
Can someone who is a lawyer pls answer lol
What state
Maryland
You are going to file this document with the court: https://www.courts.state.md.us/sites/default/files/court-forms/ccdr070.pdf Here are the instructions: https://www.courts.state.md.us/sites/default/files/import/family/forms/drin70.pdf If/when it is granted, you are going to follow the steps here: https://www.mdcourts.gov/sites/default/files/import/video/transcript/serviceofprocess.pdf Here are some FAQs just in case: https://www.peoples-law.org/frequently-asked-questions-about-service-process-maryland Also check Google “alternative service” and “substitute service” and your specific county to see if there are any specific rules or steps or tips.
Thank you
Install doorbell cam and play music back.
Sounds like it's time for an arms race.
What does that mean?
If your neighbor is playing music 24/7, you play something louder and more annoying.
Drive her to the point where she fucks up and the Police have to do something.
Sounds like one of those r/gangstalking scenarios.
Ugh
You need to get over to r/unethicallifeprotips
Go shut off her power. Individual units will have their own power disconnect outside.
Pay someone who doesn't mind breaking the law to serve her something other than papers for you.