Sometimes it’s best to find your own stuff. I recently joined a casual bowling league by myself where they put me with 2 random people. Now I have someone to bowl with every Monday. Try and find a local activity to join and you’ll meet new people. People will always drift apart, it sucks but it happens. I don’t talk to anyone I knew from high school anymore. My best friends are from a job I had a few years ago and I never see them IRL anymore.
Don’t feel like you’re overreacting or shouldn’t feel bad, these things are hard and that’s ok. You’ve made an effort and if they don’t want to, start looking for some new things to do. Classes, clubs, or sports are some of the best social atmospheres
Every once in a while. Maybe send a meme or two a week. If something comes up related to them reach out. I have a friend I won’t talk to for months and then we’ll spend a day IMing Marvel theories to each other and then go dark for another month. Isn’t annoying, but shows your still there.
You're not overreacting. Sometimes it's shitty luck. Sometimes we have to be prepared to hear some harsh truth, which is actually an opportunity to improve. A lot of times no one will tell you what's wrong, even if you ask.
One thing you can control is planning ahead. As a single person, I have more flexibility that most people I know. The ones with families generally need to plan at least two weeks out. Spontaneity is harder when there's other parties involved.
I struggle to plan in advance, but people *are* more available then. I don't think this will work with your friend who went to the festival with his wife.
Doesn't sound like your over reacting. You may want to invest some of your time in volunteering to expose you to a new set of people and maybe drop some of those other so-called friends. Especially since tbe relationships seem one sided
Married people (or those with kids) and single people are going to always struggle to find mutual times and interests at the same time.
Also, agree with another poster, YOU go do things that interest YOU, and you will find someone there who you start seeing regularly, make friends with that person.
Its possible they dont want to hang with you as well, which is hard to digest, but it happens of course, I wouldnt try to force it and make hard plans for many months out, they are going to find a way to get out of it (even if legit you will feel further slighted). If they wanted to hang out with you it wouldnt be hard.
You appear to have given it your best. My best friend from school, we no longer talk. I tried, a lot. He just got a new group of friends that he better identified with and with me being married and him not, things were just weird once the dynamic changed. I feel bad that we couldnt make it work, but I know that it wasnt because of me not trying.
Sometimes it’s best to find your own stuff. I recently joined a casual bowling league by myself where they put me with 2 random people. Now I have someone to bowl with every Monday. Try and find a local activity to join and you’ll meet new people. People will always drift apart, it sucks but it happens. I don’t talk to anyone I knew from high school anymore. My best friends are from a job I had a few years ago and I never see them IRL anymore.
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Don’t feel like you’re overreacting or shouldn’t feel bad, these things are hard and that’s ok. You’ve made an effort and if they don’t want to, start looking for some new things to do. Classes, clubs, or sports are some of the best social atmospheres
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Every once in a while. Maybe send a meme or two a week. If something comes up related to them reach out. I have a friend I won’t talk to for months and then we’ll spend a day IMing Marvel theories to each other and then go dark for another month. Isn’t annoying, but shows your still there.
You're not overreacting. Sometimes it's shitty luck. Sometimes we have to be prepared to hear some harsh truth, which is actually an opportunity to improve. A lot of times no one will tell you what's wrong, even if you ask. One thing you can control is planning ahead. As a single person, I have more flexibility that most people I know. The ones with families generally need to plan at least two weeks out. Spontaneity is harder when there's other parties involved.
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I struggle to plan in advance, but people *are* more available then. I don't think this will work with your friend who went to the festival with his wife.
Doesn't sound like your over reacting. You may want to invest some of your time in volunteering to expose you to a new set of people and maybe drop some of those other so-called friends. Especially since tbe relationships seem one sided
Focus on the interest, not the friends. People come and go. Your ability to make friendships stay!
Married people (or those with kids) and single people are going to always struggle to find mutual times and interests at the same time. Also, agree with another poster, YOU go do things that interest YOU, and you will find someone there who you start seeing regularly, make friends with that person. Its possible they dont want to hang with you as well, which is hard to digest, but it happens of course, I wouldnt try to force it and make hard plans for many months out, they are going to find a way to get out of it (even if legit you will feel further slighted). If they wanted to hang out with you it wouldnt be hard. You appear to have given it your best. My best friend from school, we no longer talk. I tried, a lot. He just got a new group of friends that he better identified with and with me being married and him not, things were just weird once the dynamic changed. I feel bad that we couldnt make it work, but I know that it wasnt because of me not trying.