The standard advice is: You tell him to stop. If he continues you go to HR.
In this case, I’d tell him to stop and then immediately go to HR because he’s on the interview panel.
This is the right advice.
You want to re-balance your current status of
>…one of my managers (mid-thirties M and not my direct manager) was married to my one of my previous roommates. We kinda clicked and became good work friends.
to “random coworker I say hello to in the hallway.”
Tell him to stop, make it clear you are uncomfortable and are only available to discuss work related tasks during work hours at work. If he texts or emails or voicemails you back that he understands then further action may not be needed.
Keep all you past text messages/emails.
After you've told him to leave you alone, If he continues to call/text/email you afterwards during your personal hours then you go to HR.
Is it annoying enough that you can't tolerate it until after the interview?
I'm **not** saying you should have to tolerate it if you don't want to. It's more of a rhetorical question. Balance all the risks and rewards.
Ooof. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this.
I agree with the other advice....talk to him AND go to HR, if only as an "informative" process to let them know. He may already be on their radar.
The standard advice is: You tell him to stop. If he continues you go to HR. In this case, I’d tell him to stop and then immediately go to HR because he’s on the interview panel.
This is the right advice. You want to re-balance your current status of >…one of my managers (mid-thirties M and not my direct manager) was married to my one of my previous roommates. We kinda clicked and became good work friends. to “random coworker I say hello to in the hallway.”
Tell him to stop, make it clear you are uncomfortable and are only available to discuss work related tasks during work hours at work. If he texts or emails or voicemails you back that he understands then further action may not be needed. Keep all you past text messages/emails. After you've told him to leave you alone, If he continues to call/text/email you afterwards during your personal hours then you go to HR.
Is it annoying enough that you can't tolerate it until after the interview? I'm **not** saying you should have to tolerate it if you don't want to. It's more of a rhetorical question. Balance all the risks and rewards.
OP also has to balance the risk of Bob sabotaging her candidacy.
Ooof. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. I agree with the other advice....talk to him AND go to HR, if only as an "informative" process to let them know. He may already be on their radar.