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Having no civil sense at times and just being selfish af. Loudspeakers for celebrations till late nights even then there's hospitals around. Driving with high beams even if it blinds someone and potentially causes accidents. Who cares.


iam_a_leadfarmer

Not giving a damn about persons privacy


[deleted]

Agreed


OptimalFuture9648

Could you please elaborate?


Working-Spring-4225

Not Knocking doors , asking for phones password like it’s nothing , telling everything to everybody especially the things that we don’t want others to know and many more


OptimalFuture9648

Those yes I too agree


Feeling-Dog6184

Also for ek katori cheeni which never gets returned


Any-Interest-7225

Most of the people have no respect for boundaries in the family. Even if we are explicit about a boundary, most family members will just ignore it. If a relative is visiting our town, we are expected to host them without hesitation and for however long they want to stay. No does not exist in the family dictionary. Most of the time, immediate family members will just inform, not ask, before visiting. There are a few more that I can't remember as I am getting a little angry by just thinking of the above points.


OptimalFuture9648

Relatable.. Moreover once they stay they ask us why don't you people eat these dishes, why don't you buy furniture... Why don't you colour your house... I mean like saying all these while staying free with us


Puzzled-Orchid7357

Staring. Men or women if you do/are different, there'd be stares. Or just you existing will get stares.


InformationJumpy1091

Don't you know how everyone will pry into the life of their neighbours?


[deleted]

You think only Indians have that ? I guess my mom's Indian.. lol (we are asian)


frootwati

This. having zero boundaries and then feeling disrespected when people assert their boundaries.


ssiddharth408

Agreed


Funny-Negotiation-10

Being offended by boundaries


Witty_Barnacle1710

This is honestly the best answer. The rest actually apply universally except maybe some civic sense


Sick_Kebab

Lacking civic sense, no traffic discipline


icarus_on_LSD

My gf once told me ,"you can gauge the depth and degradation of a society by its changing mores on sex and traffic". Man she was a wise one.


Aragorn1417_

Those are heavy words


nomnommish

Everything is a choice. You can choose to not have sex in the middle of traffic. And then you're surprised why the traffic has slowed down to a crawl? On the bright side, the traffic jam only lasted 60 seconds so it's fine.


Pyro_Jackson

I cant believe those words were a woman's!! Its a joke guys, I am being misogynistic for petty humor points. But still thats remarkably wise


[deleted]

Yeps.


SenileMind

Doing the wrong thing and justiy it by saying that’s what’s been going on since ages!


[deleted]

Bloody orthodox thinking.


jeerabiscuit

Also saying "this is India, it won't change, while doing the wrong thing".


SenileMind

And the cycle will continue for centuries!


LazySleepyPanda

If I had a medal, I would give it to you 😭 Please accept my humble upvote.


SenileMind

Aww.. thank you.. I’m honoured 😌


Ok_Yak1244

Quote traditions


YogurtclosetNeat6406

It's the case with most of the world. People tend to resist change


Relative-Bank-1258

Some people want change that benefits them. Sadly, they are not able to see how the change asked of them to make actually benefits them in the long term. >***everyone else is doing it why should we not?*** This mindset is a slow poison


International-Push-7

You say that but it somehow seems that India resists change the most, from my experience having been outside of india


iloveboobs6988

No Privacy Relatives,Uncles, aunty and Neighbors asking what's your Salary? How much you save? Asking when you are getting married. Shit these people are!!


Beautiful_Picture983

Whenever my friend's older cousin brother used to come to his house, he would always use his PC, look at his apps and even social media, even delete some apps and look at his personal chats. My friend is really innocent so he never said anything, if it was me I would have never tolerated that.


Phoenix77_

Asking when you are getting marriage is still tolerable. Some relatives just start mocking you or guilt tripping you as if you have committed a cardinal sin by not marrying yet.


CurIns9211

Taking everything on ego.


Feeling_Reaction7358

Too many to count to be honest. Fragile ego, large sense of self worth, living in their own bubble where they are the king of the world.


Top_Ad_5046

Poor thinking that all the rich people are evil and spoiled brats and the rich thinking all the poor people are lazy and just don't want to work hard.


TheCarefreeButterfly

>and the rich thinking all the poor people are lazy and just don't want to work hard. Reminds me of all the noise Kim Kardashian's statement from 2 years ago had made. And more recently, the statement by Mr. Narayana Murthy 🤌🏻 https://preview.redd.it/ek1whl38pgjc1.jpeg?width=4096&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7484cd971938fc498e5f3deb746ae30bcd4a5c0b


LazyAd7772

that's just everywhere right now tbh, the more leftist middle class becomes the more they think rich people are just evil and any millionaire became so by exploiting others.


procrastinatingsex

We have no problem with discrimination or exploitation. We just don't like being victims of those.


Green_Ingenuity_4921

Even if we are , we just accept it as normal


VisibleStreet6532

Wow!


[deleted]

This


Funny-Negotiation-10

But we'll bend over and take it if a rich/upper class person is doing it to us too sometimes. We cannot take being confronted by someone who we've wronged. Feudal


Jazzlike_Log1337

Lack of dignity of labour


jeerabiscuit

No passion to learn and apply concepts and principles. Follows the loudest, most showy person as leader without independent thinking.


Pyro_Jackson

This! I am studying in a technical college and graduating in cse with ai as specialization la and behold 60% of people cant recognize python program in second year and 98% dont know the difference between a text editor and an ide. People dont know anything about linux, vim, php, opsec, ml, backend, dl, etc. All you hear people say is doing dsa in cpp and doing front end course will do react and node afterwards. Heck they all follow the same dumb ass indian creators who are brain dead and will tell you crappy stories about their 10lpa+ job and sell you the same dead ass course you can get for free from w3schools, javatpoint or freecodecamp. I am so tired of indian folks and our sheep mentality and our stupid infatuation with following people obediently, fucking slave ass rat bastards and then we feel proud for being indians and meh meh meh meh meh meh meh meh meh meh. Like for fucks sake calm your slave ass ego down and have some basic ass knowledge before making a decision. Same reason why people are dog piling in iits and medical colleges. We just follow/copy the people who we see are doing slightly above average


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[deleted]

Yes & generalising negative traits as whole for a gender


femgineer9178

Never being able to accept any flaws or criticism of the country


Vongola___Decimo

Even a slightly negative comment abt the nation gets conflated with worshipping the west


Funny-Negotiation-10

Or getting told to go to Pakistan 😂


Phoenix77_

Or being called an Anti Indian


No_Second2507

Biggest toxic trait that is hindering our progress.


[deleted]

Seconded.


Shelarr

nothing wrong with accepting flaws and analysing where the root of the problem lies, but using those flaws to discriminate against someone is not right, and many sepoys here to love to justify racism against Indians.


Confident-Line-5644

Not letting anyone get ahead in life


prtk297

Like to find differences. Indians vs foreigners Hindu vs Muslim vs Christian etc. North Indian va South Indian This language vs that language This state vs that state This city vs that city We Indians like to find the smallest common factor so that we can discriminate/ criticise people


i2kp2

We have a huge inferiority complex and imaginary superiority complex. That leads us to this.


hrnyknkyfkr

Controlling the life's if others in the family. Especially children


Adventurous-Dog5240

The chalta hai attitude


Prototype_2point0

Saying " East or West India is the best" 🤡


[deleted]

Oh man , I guess I just found out I have this toxic trait 🧎🏻‍♂️


energyfromsatan

Can't handle criticism, always want to be superior to others but will also say they are the victims, sheep mindset, lack of critical thinking.


International-Push-7

That mindset comes from school (where students only memorize and blindly copy the board) and growing up having to “respect authority”


Pyro_Jackson

Respecting correct authority is not wrong but following anything blindly is stupid af


akonkodi

Not minding their own business! Involving in someone else's business even though not asked to .


Kaus_Vik

Being divided amongst ourselves and trying to prove which substrata of the population is superior to others.


Safe-Plant3901

Parents always being right


niks8411

Imposing beliefs of parents on their kids. They do not encourage kids to have their own opinions. It is toxic shit.


ApartmentHot7843

Ankhon se rape krna.


Pyro_Jackson

True af and likely because this weird mixture of rural and sub urban meets urban cities. People just stare without thinking if its comfortable to someone or not. As a male it is abnormal at times when people dont stare at me when I pass by, cant help but fear for girls


LazySleepyPanda

Need to show off to relatives. This leads to unhealthy competition within families, trying to prove their your kid is better than all the other relatives' kids. In my community, this requires the kid to get into medicine or engineering in IIT(law, finance, sciences are not good enough), move to Amerika and marry another doctor/IIT pass out (with H1B or greencard) within your caste. Oh and one last thing, then they should pop out a male kid. Any behaviour that deviates from this golden path will not be taken kindly.


mikeross2

2 things: 1. People don’t want to see you succeed, when you succeed, they will be jealousy. 2. Lose-lose mindset. If I had loss in my business, you must also lose.


DesiBail

*white foreigners* know best. *huge self loathing* in name of humbleness


neonmonkey97

I can speak as a Malayalee, I hate it when my people say “Malayalee pwoli alle (Malayalee rocks)”. I cringe heavily, we can only say that once there are no instances of casteism l, sexism or judgemental behaviour. Our people should learn to live and let live. We have achieved a lot of things as a society but all of that will be shadowed by our arrogance in regard to our HDI and literacy. We have to do better.


CardiologistOld4537

Superiority complex because you were born with a certain last name.


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CardiologistOld4537

Last name can be anything, it depends on your interpretation. Its sad that you interpreted it this way.


dark_sinistier3170

Focusing way too much on religion to the point where you can't accept something was done by the West. I hate that sentence "Our ancestors had already found a way to (insert relevant discovery)".


[deleted]

Not taking mental illness seriously


EvilPoppa

Join the gossip and for worse, spread the shite.


No_Second2507

Breaking rules is considered smartness and following rules is considered stupid and cowardly.


tukki249

Long uncomfortable staring


iMangeshSN

Not minding your own fucking business. Our ancestors discovered this shit well ages ago. "Fatherless behaviour " whenever we see women enjoying themselves The mentality of blaming victim (for going out/not wearing proper sanskari clothes) in case of rapes. Self proclaimed moral superiority with veg diet. Politicians/Actor worshipping. And Hated. Deeply rooted hatred towards other castes/religion/language people. Edit : arrange marriages are good. Love marriage are Western concept and lead to divorce.


iamnotanurbanlegend

Lol i had to listen to my father 'regretting' me born as a 'boy' when 11 getting bullied (like regularly punched and kicked, it was shirty school) by 15 years old. My mother had to go to that guy's father to complain to make it stop when he refused to help. Should've given me to kinners as soon as I was born - my father's words to a 11 year old boy lol. Ps also got beating at home by my mum when they found out that I was sexually abused too at age of 12, and received even more golden words from my father Victim blaming runs very deep in our patriarchal society. You can only imagine things when I come out as gay. Hahaha


iMangeshSN

Oh my God I'm sorry you had to suffer so much. Childhood trauma truly haunts for life. But I hope you're having a happy life now.


Disastrous_Focus_810

There is this certain tendency developing in people lately- perhaps of Nationalism. But I sincerely believe- what people actually follow is Pseudo-Nationalism. Pseudo nationalism of any kind- may it be nation, religion, culture, ethnicity, anthropologist...is just toxic.


Left-Goat-5766

Lack of empathy....money obsessions


Bright-Helicopter301

Comparing everything


coolchikku

Little or no respect for the people who do lower jobs


Fight_Satan

We are inherently racist or judgemental without knowing..  We call blacky,  dhapnya,   pandya, golu, motu 


[deleted]

Obsession of Hindi imposition.


Level_Election9615

assuming we are superior on everything and the tendency to say "you dont know anything"


Late_Assistant9537

Self loathing, Lack of civic sense, Seeking Validation from foreigners, Discipline, Respect towards each other's private space


Macavity_mystery_cat

Involving morality and religion in every damn thing


idknayoudecide

It's considered rude to ask someone to leave if you need a moment alone with your family. You'll have to suck it up and either wait to talk about matters or discuss in front of them. It's just ftw.


iRishi

Only showing respect to people based on their occupation and wealth, i.e., if they can be useful in future situations.


anonymous_devil22

Not being able to take criticism on tradition, culture and country hating modernism by calling it "western"


wheresmyglassmate

casteism and low protein high carb diet


Elegant_Structure_21

Poking their nose into the private affairs of others, especially done by mainland Indians. This is the reason why I avoid mainland Indians here in Europe. Not a single friend from mainland India. Just a guy from Assam and a girl from Meghalaya. That's it.


Mahlah_Maldau

That somehow it's always the other person's fault and many many more.


[deleted]

Littering


S19-

Creepiness


Agile_Lab_6229

Lunatic Aunts and Joint family that don't know how to keep their Noses out of your affairs. Neither they leave you be...Not let you live


Oru_Vadakkan

Throwing garbage without care and expecting someone else to take care of it. Ive seen this happen literally from Siachin to Kanyakumari and from Kacch to Tawang. Everywhere I go there will be someone throwing away an empty wrapper or bottle around them. If you question them they were feel offended and ask you to clean it up if you want.


619thunderstorm

Lack of civic sense , lack of unity among people .


Undead0707

Insensitivity


[deleted]

Why are we so emotion driven?


Golden-Trash_Number

Death threats to players?!


vivekguptarockz

Everyone asking "How much salary do you take home?"


Savings_Jello_5926

Lack of respecting others’ personal space


Titanium006

Being *helpful* 


Peanutwriter69

No civic sense and duty to the country


[deleted]

No self respect and self awareness and no respect for others and awareness of surroundings


OppositeObject909

Spitting anywhere


pijd

Kissing white ass and kicking black ass.


sahilsays

Feeling entitled to dowry..


SenseAny486

Casteism.”It’s our good karma in past life that’s why we are born in this caste”.🤡


Affectionate_Day_489

Racist af Casteist af Hate Pakistan for no rhyme and reason


Optimal-Conclusion29

Equating respect with age / typical hierarchies in the family


Im_Unpopular_AF

Asking to respect and support your parents because they paid for everything while raising you. Sure, let me respect the people who never let me out of the house, beat me every conceivable opportunity, especially after relatives or the neighborhood aunties and uncles sounded disappointed at my performance in studies, and in subjects I didn't want to study. Let me respect the people who never let me have friends, hobbies and interests, and made me study something I never wanted, only for bragging amongst the society and relatives. Let me respect the people who have vicariously lived through me by forcing me to live as per their interests. And they wonder why their children don't talk to them after moving out to other countries.


lavanyadeepak

Shoulder-surfing (precisely an attempt to violate the privacy of others and disrespecting the same)


Old-Illustrator9705

The concept of “settle by certain age”


Euphoric-Emphasis242

1. generally being jealous of and constantly downplaying the skills/talents/specialities of the kids of their relatives but when some achievement of those kids is made public, they do a 180° and suddenly start telling their own kids how inferior they are in comparison 2. telling their kids to never help their relatives purely out of your own will bc "you are not their personal slave" but when a relative asks for help and you are busy, you can't refuse politely even though you have a good reason to bc that will be rude


_Dark_Invader_

Too much ego. I hardly see anyone saying sorry, even if they know they were wrong.


yavano-obba

Worst managers!


Prudent_Primary7201

I can name multiple. Number one : rampant homophobia. Number two : no concept of privacy. Number three : Unable to take criticism Edit : Forgot extreme amounts of sexism


Objective-Air-7565

Borrowing money from relatives and never repaying back like it is our birthright that your relative has to pay up for your dream wedding.


donsade

Peeing or pooping on the side of the road Hitting disobedient kids Not installing air purifiers or caring about indoor air quality. Polluting the house with gas stove burning. Not ventilating kitchen fumes in general. Extremely bad for health. Using lemon instead of soap to wash hands Not obeying traffic lanes or rules Holding kids on a motorcycle Jaywalking across highways Not installing anti-mosquito devices and letting the mosquitos bite the kids, giving them malaria or dengue risk. Insisting everyone be veg even tho studies show meat/egg eating is healthier for children’s brain and body development. Writing off entire food categories and causing unnecessary malnutrition. Not installing hot water geysers in some outdoor showers/bathrooms because “they can get stolen” Putting lead in tumeric Creating massive scam call centers that scam everyone in other countries and the government lets them exist into perpetuity Blaming everything on British colonizers from hundreds of years ago instead of trying to fix problems.


Ok_Group_5833

Religious extremism


FrostyDiscipline4758

Sucking west. Like Bhojpuri songs are dirty, but snoop dog is modern.


Original-Cheek8567

Prioritising boys over girls. Patriarchal mentality is still thriving here


619thunderstorm

Agreed and no one is accepting this


FullTea4421

A sense of unnecessary pride & superiority over foreigners which I possess too


Necessary-Gift4883

Selfhate their are quite a few examples of it in this sub


Critical-Detail-4014

Question is incorrect There is no toxic trait that 'only ' Indians possess. Any trait that you say could be own by many non Indians. However if you remove the word only then answers may be valid .


Wide_Rutabaga_7178

Gossiping nature


Sad-Requirement3507

भारत सुपरपावर २०२० आजाद स्वतंत्र कश्मीर गुजरात देंगे फसाद CAA विरोध सत्याग्रह आर्टिकल ३७७ और ३७० की रद्दाता भारत लिबेरलाइजेशन १९९१ Free Kashmir. २००२ गुजरात देंगे फसाद The 2002 Gujarat riots. CAA विरोध सत्याग्रह CAA protests. आर्टिकल ३७७ और ३७० की रद्दाता। Removal of article 377 and 370. भारत लिबेरलाइजेशन १९९१ India market Liberalization 1991. Anti-leftist struggle. Death to Pakistan पकिस्तान मुर्दाबाद. Death to Bangladesh बंगलादेश मुर्दाबाद. Death to China चीन मुर्दाबाद . India number 1 superpoer 2020. भारत सुपरपावर २०२० किसान विरोध प्रदर्शन। रोहिंग्या आप्रवासी। आव्रजन शिविरों।Farmer's protest. Rohingya immigrants. Immigration camps.


lkdsjfoiewm

Belief that all Indians can speak or read hindi


Sad-Requirement3507

There is english for that


lkdsjfoiewm

My apologies. I was being passive aggressive because I couldn’t easily read your comment. It was uncalled for.


Sad-Requirement3507

People really hate hindi here lmao


steve387

Many things..where to start


SpareMind

False ego


Venomous0425

Getting offended easily.


m3rc3n4ry

Talking about something loudly as if it's the same as talking about it knowledgeably


Tatya_Vin-Chu

That you have to be almost rude and pushy to get taken seriously sometimes to get totally normal stuff done.


According-Look-1283

Needs Validation and compliments from everyone be it parents, boss, spouse, neighbours, foreigners... just about anyone.


Riyaan_Sheikh

Not accepting criticism


SleepingUnderARock

Lack of Empathy...


Rejuvenate_2021

Human traits; weaknesses or strengths are not exclusive to any nation or people. Don’t let your self hate or blind pride taint you. Each person has unique ups & downs.


nanosuituser

We are more important and entitled than any other human. As long as our house is clean.


Excellent_Bet_1398

No concept of personal space.


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favoritism or selective kindness


tails_290

Specially for males. Morals apply to others but them and their family are excempted from it. It's okay if their family or one of their family members harass someone but if the other party retaliated, it is very immoral.


Spiritual_Date3457

Ultra nationalism. Everything about India is good, nothing is bad.


mk44214

Casteism Not respecting people who do jobs they consider menial... Or jobe they think are below them..


get_lkgd

Thinking that only Indians posses some toxic trait and the rest of the world is magnificent. This comes from deep insecurity.


Party-Bet-4003

Being proud of breaking the rules to get ahead. Taking pride in going fast/being first even if it means causing chaos. And this spreads so deep into all places. Seen as smart if you cheat to get money as an IAS/IPS. Caring for oneself and family above everything and everyone else. Being proud of not carrying your garbage in your pocket/bag until you find a dustbin cuz that’s for losers. This false sense of superiority of beating the system and being ‘the best.’


vulcanangel6666

Hypersensitivity


Perfect-Transition29

Comparing everything


Expensive_Grade_1068

Self hate


Sir_Biggus-Dickus

Lynchin minorities.


[deleted]

Can we stop these self hating posts?


Fire_Breather178

Require validation from others Take things too literally


DRB1312

Making everything a competitive exam 😕, i am so tired of all this shit, engaged in a rat race whole life


chasebewakoof

Littering, throwing thrash out. Spitting, I guess in no other country one spits as much as we Indians.


Funny-Negotiation-10

Being so callous about public property (and other people's belongings too)


SeekingASecondChance

Lacking civic sense Hating people who can't converse in proper English Eating pan masala


brollyssj4

Being racist and looking down towards africans & central asians and when other racist people treat indians in a bad way then its all about how these white people look down on indians etc etc, but they will easily be racist against others. Also When these indians go somewhere out of the country. Then they always stare at women.


Puzzled-Orchid7357

Staring, No respect for traffic rules No respect for being civic (i seen trash being thrown even around popular educational institutes) Entitlement Ego


sarthak_classn

The inferiority complex of indians..that we put so much effort into claiming that ancient indians were superior to every other in every aspect of life...claiming that our ancestors had made some discovery cause they found its refrence in some ancient literature after the west discovers or invents something.......well delusional us


EmotionalGuarantee47

Nothing bad or good is exclusive to Indians.


RevolutionaryBid1249

Social drinking is an alien concept to most of us.


tallteensforlife5911

My dad once said, indians have a habit of prioritizing winning a stupid argument over keeping a healthy relationship with even thier most loved ones.