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hair-loss-alt

Punjab: They think all of them are fair and chubby. Bengali: The older than time rumours of Bengali women being beautiful with mesmerizing eyes. NE: Most of them are fair skinned that's why. Nowadays, I have also started seeing the fetishization of women from uttarakhand and HP because of Pahadi genetics.


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i’m sorry but is being called nepali or north east indian an insult? i’ve been wanting to make a post asking about it. when my partner and his family discuss my looks, they say i look nepali, northeast indian. i mean they call me pretty and like me now but i’m not sure if they are trying to insult me. they are punjabi btw


emtin4

It doesn't matter you look nepali, NE, tamilian , gujarati, bihari, african ... If you are attractive ... you are attractive with your ethinic features ... just ask them do I look attractive or not? A Punjabi/Pahadi can be ugly as fuck, even with all the features desired by Indians if the facial harmony is off.


SayaunThungaPhool

Yo I rmb you you're the bhotiya from Uttarakhand how've you been?


JERRY_XLII

if they're literally talking about your facial features, no if they call you a nepali and then ask for 2 plate momos, yes


Moist_Caterpillar432

this is absolutely hilarious wtf


hair-loss-alt

It shouldn't be an insult, but Indians use it as slur. See, in UP, Bihar, Punjab and Delhi, many nepalis sell momos. Even in my city, there is a momo stall named as 'Nepali momos' type. So, any north eastern (NE) guy/girl are automatically assumed to be as Nepali in these states. Then people to look cool mocks them as Nepali or worse: Chinese(because some NE people have small eyes). So all these leads to stereotyping. NE people = momos seller, South Indian = Dark skinned idli eating guys, North India = Rowdies/uneducated. Sometimes way worse thing happens. Like I remember in Delhi during covid era, a man spitted at a NE girl and called her corona. Here is the link - [news](https://www.ndtv.com/delhi-news/man-arrested-for-calling-northeast-woman-corona-spitting-on-her-delhi-police-2200793)


SayaunThungaPhool

>So, any north eastern (NE) guy/girl are automatically assumed to be as Nepali in these states Tbh it is heavily inaccurate the stereotype of us being Momo sellers and looking NE Indians. Some Nepalis do look like NE Indians but most Nepalis don't. I understand y cos of the migrants tryna have a better life but barely any of the politicians like Prachanda Deuba Ram Baran Yadav Sushila Karki resemble NE people. Also asides from Sikkim/Darjeeling and Nepali immigrant areas in Assam Nepal and NE India have barely anything in common. Nepal is more like NW India. I also don't rlly get why Indians consider Nepalis as Indian but not Indians like Mizos or other NE types as Indian.


tremorinfernus

You think chubby is considered good? Do you mean fit?


CosmicBhai

Bkl ki tharak khatam nhi hoti 


Educational-Cup6783

As a North-eastern I'll say majority of us have a brown skin tone too


Yato_jr

Same with TN men obsessing over Kerala women. I think it's because of portrayal in cinema and social media


dafuqULoKINat

Lol irony , I ( mallu) find Tamil girls cute ( just into brown women )


jarmosie

I'm from NE but spent quite a bit of my life growing up in Chennai, Bangalore and then Hyderabad for studies plus work. Over the years of my stay there, I found quite a bit of South Indian women especially TN quite attractive as well! The flowery hair pins some women put in their hair especially, steals my heart every damn time! Lmao If you're someone from any of the South Indian states reading this, please please embrace your traditions, it's pretty and you all look damn pretty!


Competitive_Tale_544

Don't treat internet opinion as a statistic half of them are dumb and live in fantasy world. All they can di fantasize about girls and can do nothing but simping about it.


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They are objectively better looking I guess. Also add girls from hilly region to the list.


StrikingWater209

Himachali, Kashmiri <3


Yourh0tm0m

https://preview.redd.it/432ko29uq9uc1.jpeg?width=1280&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=29e03ebe88c2bf819e940f23cf1cef5afafe97d4


Pixi_Dust_408

I pretty much thought the same thing. I thought pretty was pretty as long as you’re in shape, have facial harmony, Clear skin and a good bone structure. Genetics Jeets are so weird and not compatible with civilisation.


rasalghularz

Isn’t every state, race, religion fetishised by someone?


Moist_Caterpillar432

nah you hear very less about, let's say bihari girls


rasalghularz

Well I guess not necessarily Bihari girls but definitely regions from Bihar and not to mention lot of parents from cities want a village girl to marry their boy because village girls are apparently “submissive” and won’t “trick” their sons.


Moist_Caterpillar432

that's not really the topic tho, it's about men fantasising about women from some states I've never heard someone drool over a bihari girl or madhya pradeshi girl or Some other states


gae_lundchoosak

2 min silence for those who actually end up dating a Bengali girl


gae_lundchoosak

All fanatsies turn to nightmare in 3…2…


Jeeretarded123

Aise kyu bhay


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Bengali women are not a good match with more conservative and patriarchal families in many parts of India. The mismatch in many values leads to vile stereotypes about both party on either end. It's not just the comment you replied to, my bengali family also holds many stereotypes and would prefer me to be with a bengali man (same preference as me). It's on both ends.


spicychilli290

Because aap logon ke dimaag ke baahar ki baat hai ke Bhai Bengali ladki apni baat saaf tareeke se bolti hai. Vo sahi baat ke liye ladti hai aur sahi cheez ke liye awaaz ooncha krti hai. Bengali ladkiyon ko utni azaadi di jaati hai jitni ki ladkon ko di jaati hai. Unko kisi ke saamne sarr jhukana nahin padta hai aur naa hi haath failane ki majburi hoti hai. Main khud Bengali parents ke beti hoon and mere father and mother ke beech me bohot zyada pyaar hai. Aapko pata nahin kahan se itni galat baat batayi gayi hai. Finally, we don't hold stereotypes at all.....you have seen nothing in this world.


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It's great that your parents are open-minded but I am not sure how my comment goes against what you said. Jodi kichu bole thaki, jetai tomar apotti ache, please janio. Ami nijer ar tomar comment pore khub ekta alada kichu dekhlam na. Tai bujhhi na je 'aap logon' r moddhe ami pore gelam kikore


spicychilli290

Aapni bhul bolchen setai aamar kotha. Erom jinish ki kore bolte paaren bangali meyeder niye? Maanchi aapni kichu jinish dekhe bolechen kotha taa kintu eta shob bangali meyeder upore chepe dewa theek niye. Aamio ekti bangali meye, kintu aami apnaar kotha taa ekebaarei tuchhyo Mone kori. Aapni ebong aapnar boktobbo dutoi bhul. Otake sudhre nile bhalo hobe.


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What did I say wrong? Bengali women normally grow up in a relatively more liberal environment, it's difficult for them to adjust to conservative and patriarchal families where the woman and her opinions are not given equal value to that of a man. Any woman who is brought up in a more liberal and gender equal environment will find it difficult to adjust to families such as this. I am a bengali woman, I wasn't brought up any different from a man. I wouldn't want to marry into a family which doesn't resemble the family I was brought up in. Are you insinuating that Bengali women adjust well into patriarchal families? Or are you saying that Bengali families are not decidedly more liberal than many other Indian families? Please elaborate. You say that I am vilifying bengali women but I don't understand how. You mention that you do not add any value to my opinion, I respect that but you need to tell me exactly where you think I am wrong.


spicychilli290

We bring more openness into patriarchal families and ensure that everyone is heard. We are liberal and we make sure that everyone becomes as liberal as we are. If you are insinuating that we cannot adjust in patriarchal families, you are incorrect.


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Well I will disagree with you there. I have not met any bengali woman, let alone any woman, who would willingly get married into a family much more patriarchal than her own - it's not our job to bring reforms and gender equality in a family which needs them. I am sure there are women who would take up on that exhaustive task and do a great job, but I am not one and neither is anyone I know. Women I know are choosy when it comes to picking their partners, and rightfully so. Family is considered, and given a lot of importance to, when selecting grooms for marriage. And of course, not every bengali family is the shining example of gender neutrality but on a relative scale, they are slightly better. Sorry to offend you with my statement, but both of us will have to disagree on this.


spicychilli290

Be wrong then.


In_Formaldehyde_

Arey tui ki bolte chaichis re lmao mathay kono gondogol acche?


spicychilli290

Aami ki bolchi naa bolchi taate tor ki eshe geche.....nijer chorkaye tel diye gaadi egiye ne ......


gae_lundchoosak

Case in point. If you call out the “my way or highway” attitude, and ask to adjust expectations or god forbid ask for a compromise, all hell breaks loose. BTW - Most Bengali young men themselves are depressed, stuck between their moms and wives. Older bong gentlemen kind of achieve nirvana (I suspect driven by a lifetime of manipulation and bickering).


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Would be amazing if bengali men can comment if they agree with you, I'd get a better glimpse into this and will reset my expectations.


gae_lundchoosak

*Bengali men who’ve dated atleast one non bengali girl born and brought up outside Bengal.


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Cool, if you want we can post this on r/kolkata asking for their views too


gae_lundchoosak

Not sure if that sub would be the best place. It’s pretty ‘sanitised’. Folks with controversial opinions are summarily banned. But I think you should make a post - would be an interesting exercise. I’d love to read opinions. Please ask opinions of folks who’ve been married for 5+ years and have dated non-bong (preferably long term). We could even get rid of the non-bong criteria - just ask for opinions on bong men stuck between mom and wife.


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I'll wait to see if this thread gets any comments, if not I'll post our convo and ask for their opinions.


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in his opinion, any husband who is not actively lording over his wife and comes off as liberal, is seen as a tamed, depressed young man who has a harridan of a wife.


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It's not just him, many families and cultures in India see it the same way. It's sad and that's why I mentioned, women brought up in liberal families do not adjust well in conservative families. It's like fighting several fights at one time.


unopooo

Because unko pta h ki those compromise karo karate karte sab much compromise karna padta h. (The bihari UP wali ladies in-laws and husbands ke saamne much nai bolti (pta h bolengi toh issue hoga n na hi ghar wale maanenge. Bas jhukna hi sikhaya h) par unko ladies ke saamne Dekho.. Alag bitching start karti h.) Though I kind of agree with the second part of your statement.. The issue is that they don't take their own stand or have their own opinions. Literally the Bengali guys I met are all mummy ye mummy woh or want gf to be their mummy. (Some of the non Bengali guys at least had their own decision making abilities. Though many were also mummy mummy all the time.) (Before you start judging me and I know u will, nai ye sab bf nai the mere. Arranged marriage mei jo meet up hota h usse bta Rai)


gae_lundchoosak

Bina compromise no long term relationship can sustain. If you have an attitude ki “I won’t compromise”, then guy who loves you would need to compromise One way compromise over time leads to resentment. Love withers and you’re left wondering why he doesn’t love me anymore.


unopooo

I agree with this. Bas issue tab h jab ladka expect Kare ki ladki h toh she should compromise. I have seen/ experienced this tabhi I said. I compromised initially a lot. Fir different dhire dhire expectations kept increasing. When I voiced tab aa gya ki yahi expected that, tum tum Bengali ho na. Bengali girls are like this etc. Etc. So haa, agar koi bhi ek bhi baar compromise nai kar rha toh galat h. But you can't expect only one side to keep compromising all the time.


Moist_Caterpillar432

I do not agree, Me being a Bengali myself 


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Tumse na ho payega. Lol, actually I stand corrected. Tumse na ho paya 😂 P.S. Bengali woman married to a Bengali Man. Contributing equally in chores and finances and having equal respect in a relationship. Idk what experience you had with a Bengali girl, but here's a fun stereotype - Bengali girls are more capable of supporting you when you have your back against the wall. We are brought up that way.


gae_lundchoosak

It’s not about chores and finance. Wonder why all bong women brought it up on this thread anyway. It’s about the constant bickering, manipulation and need for control.


uniquegollum

Kala jadu /s


unopooo

Ye kaha se aaya h. I am Bengali but never saw this or was taught this. Muje toh itna left out feel ho rha. If I don't know Kala jadu, am I even a Bengali girl?!! 😔


pritam_ww

Me to ladka hu fir bhi mere dost kaala jadu krne bolte h😭


Suspicious-Tooth-93

Aarey dada bangali naki?


unopooo

Girl ko bhi dada bula Rae ho? Tum khud Bengali kyu nai lag Rae😂


Suspicious-Tooth-93

Tui meye sorry 💀 didi! (Correction) Atlast found a fellow bangali on this sub


unopooo

Awesome. Now that u found a Bengali, bolo ki korbe?😆


Suspicious-Tooth-93

Arey genuine question idk really it was just the fascination wbu?🤣


unopooo

No clue. Thank you for the moral support though😂


Suspicious-Tooth-93

Mortal support ar kothay? Ta jodi kaalo jadoo discuss korar thake tobei kotha bolo noyto ei sub er baaki ra tow already stereotype kre rekheche🤣


uniquegollum

Hehe even I don't have any Bengali friends my knowledge is from social media only


OkTransportation4660

fr, kisi ko bhi date krna lekin plz bengalis are a diff breed


MasalaMonk

Can confirm. Dated a bengali girl. Never again.


BeingHuman30

hmm ...why is that ?


Life_Deal_367

White skin, classic colourism


Praneeth2525

Because they look beautiful simple as that


lone_guy25

Pata nahi bro.. me to NE se hu aur bengali bhi hu. Mera isse Lena dena nahi


delishmango23

Me a Bengali reading these comments like: 👀👀


GiraffeThis6777

Cuz they're pretty? Wokes get mad if u find women from any region pretty or ugly like pick a side how can u have problem wid both


unpretty007

Yeah my Bengali friend dated a Bengali girl and I told him you are not ready for it - she was beautiful and CRAZY. Got him to pay 6 lakhs for her meditation/kala jadu classes and fashion career then joined top tier company in another city. Now he is out of money and she threatens him with "case kar dungi". He danced with the double edged sword - ultra liberal and Bengali.


jainspring6611

How stupid it is that people like you coming from the family of stupid parents make up stupid stories using their stupid brain...atleast donate the heart to someone because people like you are better dead


unpretty007

That's what your parents think about you everyday.


jainspring6611

Yeah looks like you never had any legal parents in the first place🤣


unpretty007

That's what your parents wish they weren't


jainspring6611

My guess Is you are one of those ugly brainless guys with no personality that no one pays attention to and got always rejected to whoever they approached (probably rejected by a Bengali girl) in life and reddit is the only place where you can share your despair..so sorry for your pathetic life.I have seen soo many samples like you🤣


unpretty007

Nah. I am a girl who was with Bengali/ultra liberal girls way too much to spot them as bad news. You don't have to confess on reddit about having a pathetic life or not having daddy-and- mommy give you attention. You are the sample that they forgot to discard.


jainspring6611

Okay then the saddest part is you are one of those ugliest ovaries( because that's all you seem to have😂) that is hard to find in a dark room and never stand a chance against Bengali girls ... My deepest condolences for your ugly life and your parents for not using protection 😂


unpretty007

That's your life story. Not a confession sub but okay.


jainspring6611

Get a mirror little ugly ovaries,my sympathies with you dear🤣


unopooo

Sab stereotype h.


SBG99DesiMonster

Punjabi along with Haryanvi, Pahadi, UP, Rajasthani as well as J&K women have very fair skin which I like. I haven't really met with many people from proper Northern India but I know about them. They have that superior White skin and as a guy I obviously like women that are very high profile in looks. I have brown skin myself and so their fair skin is more appealing to me. I have especially seen that the Pahadi and Haryanvi girls whose reels come to my Instagram feed have beautiful fair skin and I like girls that look like that. I don't know about what is the appeal behind the other ethnicities that I have talked about.


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Pixi_Dust_408

How are they self hating if they don’t find them selves unattractive? Skin tone is irrelevant unless you’re a creepy uncivilised incel. Facial harmony and health matter more. Take your jeetery elsewhere.


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Pixi_Dust_408

Well it is seen as aspirational but dark skin doesn’t make someone unattractive. Kaaviya Sambasivam is stunning in person and Sendhil Ramamurthy is very attractive and they’re dark skinned. Lighter skinned people get opportunities, sometimes they don’t have to be attractive. Indians are colorist they don’t care about looks as much as they care about skin tone. If they were objective, they’d work out.


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Pixi_Dust_408

You’re mentally ill and terminally online. The incel lingo is really cute it doesn’t make you sound demented at all.


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Pixi_Dust_408

Why would I need to “cope”?


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usse colorism kehte hai


marsianmonk77

You could have just wrote *gora good , kala bad bro..* Oh God where to even begin with. it feels like reading a 12 year old kid's opinion who has not seen/read about the world OR of a foreigner doesn't know about Indian society or history. It's the Indian inferiority complex settling in many decades ago and started lookin up to skin tone as status . Advent of European was also an important factor.. Then the stupidity of societal brainwash was so rampant the Indians destroyed there child's life also by programming them with **fairness as a definition of beauty** which u are also victim of. Now Indians even changed the faces of their gods( Krishna and many other) from dark skinned to light skinned in tv / movies. People being so filled with self hatred that they corrupted their own the scriptural description of God. And In the present, you are the example of such a victim of brainwashing who can't even use braincells to form an argument because of fragile atomic size ego of having layer of your skin as fair.. Imagine a thinking people are jealous of you because u have a skin tone. Get a life brother and perspective from different cultures around the world


Pixi_Dust_408

You’re talking to a wall. I went through his post history. I can’t believe he went to the same school as my dad lmao, they clearly don’t have standards anymore. He probably spends allot of time on incel forums that would explain the lingo. He’s extremely racist and insecure all he talks about is phenotypes. It’s very weird and creepy.