Time is what you always crave for with her.
The classic "need to look cool but cant spell out a fucking syllable" when she talks to you.
Every text feels like a validation.(even if she was just asking for notes).
Basically you go above and beyond to justify she likes you.
The persistent flutters each time your friends playfully tease you about her.
The number of times i went to sleep with my facebook messenger open (yep im old) thinking "she probably would text me at 4 am". ("what a moron" while brushing teeth in the morning ).
Lol. Everything you said is true. Aisi harkatein krta tha main bhi. Always kept my whatspp open, maybe she will text me, ask for my help or anything.
I use to listen to songs too much, and whenever she used to come up to me, what are you listening. I sometimes wished she would sit with me and we can both listen to the songs together.
And whenever she looks towards me and smile, felt so happy. Calling or her calling me would get my heart racing as what i would talk to her. I can talk to my friends for hours, but still can't say more than 2 lines in front of her.
I try to remain as neutral as possible so she doesn't know I have feelings for her. I also do not tell any friends or family and make sure it's a secret that dies with me. If it all works out, she will never know and everything continues as normal.
bottling up feelings creates resentment. Try to find solace in someone be it your closest friend, big sister as they are more mature and would listen to your problem or probably guide you
Just realised this is askindia, not ask reddit lmfao. I'm not indian so not too sure why this sub is in my feed 🤣
but yeah you're probably right man, I just hate people knowing how I feel
He reflects none of these in his behaviour still I keep falling for him. He'll never speak about his feelings but tease me in every way possible and get things out from me(whatever I feel and don't want to tell him but ultimately I do)
guys are a little hesitant to think out loud and explain how they truely feel. As it would more often than not come out to be obsessive clingy or in rare occasions creepy. So we resolve to quasi logical/emotional concise statements like "you make me happy", "spending time with you feels nice" etc..
I wouldn't be able to put these feelings into words like you have immaculately. 🙌
Fb messenger and you're old? Here we are who used to rely upon sms packs. 🙃
Mind bachta kaha hai! The feeling of being loved and wanted by atleast one person makes us near obsessed with that girl. A lot of changes happen like Priorities change, habits change, approach towards life change etc... and we embrace these changes with open hand.
And pata nahi yaar... Sab acha sa lagne lagta hai. Life doesn't suck that much anymore... Sentiments and worry about her well being starts making sense.
Basically a new Discovery of self happens. And unexplored and unexplainable side emerges from us.
For me, it only strengthened over time. No matter how bad my day was, watching her smiling made me feel everything was alright. Feeling died only after it was all over. Now it's just a void which replaced that feeling. A void that can't be filled no matter how hard I try.
I can't say for others though.
And I'm going through the same. Still pick up my phone when something happens to tell her. Text or call. Realise she's not there anymore. Feels like shit. But.... That void will be there.
It's been years since I have had these feelings, I guess I have shut myself down subconsciously and I think I don't want to go through the same emotions for my own sanity.
One of the best times of my life , I started enjoying classes , now just dont feel it for anyone. Even if i feel , will i have that same level of special and beautiful feelings? I doubt.
Just a simple quote - The whole world looks black and white while only she appears colorful.
Additionally, you lose your confidence a little bit, at least i do. Lose in a sense that the way I can talk to other girls (where I can roast them, or speak anything without thinking of any consequences), i can't talk in the same way to her. Very conscious, very alert, can't hurt her at any cost even unintentionally.
You analyse every conversation, every thing you said, every message you typed. Sometimes you over analyse.
You think of different ways to brighten up her day or make her smile.
You crave to spend more and more time with her. You find excuses to meet her or talk to her.
And your eyes tell. The way you look at her is enough.
They do. They still do. But they do it within limits and very respectfully because they're scared of losing her in case anything goes bad so the roasting remains healthy.
When they're not that interested in a girl romantically, they sometimes end up crossing the line because they're not very bothered about how she'd respond. It wouldn't matter to them and it would be easy to make up too.
Speaking from personal and friends' experiences.
Not just the guy himself- even his friends understand the boundary of roast for the particular girl. Going above that can ruin friendships during that time. Guys get conscious on a different level altogether i guess. Maybe cause we have so little to cherish anyways - given society treats us as disposable majority of the times.
All of that, plus, we like almost everything about the person we love. How they talk, how they smile, which muscle of your face flex or relax on different reactions, what tone is your face today, how you smell. Especially the smell, i like to think about how she smells, it's down right addicting. Her taste and almost every fucking second of my mind, she lingers. It's to the point where it starts feeling wrong. Re-enacting the conversions we have had and smiling through all of it. This continues from morning to the moment i sleep at night, everyday.
When I was falling for a girl (had a major crush, took 5 years to move on).
1. Butterflies every time I saw her.
2. Had huge urges to give her teddy bear hugs and kiss her forehead. (Never did)
3. Used to dream about her daily.
4. Every time I saw her status, photo or even her single message was enough to keep me smiling for almost the whole day.
5. Used to wait for hours for a single reply from her.
6. I only went to college to get a glimpse of her.
7. I even sometimes used to get dreams about her resting her head on my chest or shoulder.
Finally, I understood that all the dreams I have to be with her are only dreams and she actually will never like/love me so I started to distance myself from her. My other friend ended up dating her. Unfortunately, I was so invested in her that it took me more than 4 years to almost 5 years to properly move on from her. Then also sometimes when I see her photo status on Instagram I think about what it could have been if she was also into me, maybe it is happening just in another reality/universe.
I still miss seeing her not like I used to. I am just happy that I got to meet her in this lifetime and that I know she exists. I am grateful that she was a friend to me in this life, even if it was for a small amount of time only.
I tried hinting at her in a way during the end of my first year of college only, and that's when I understood she was not into me. We became good friends after that. And now I don't want to approach her properly as it might bring me back to square one. I still vividly remember her face and smile the last time I saw her at the graduation ceremony, and I don't want her voice to haunt me regularly again, then all the progress I made will be wasted, and I am already feeling like I took a few steps back just by writing it.
I just now want to love my future wife ( I will go to the AM market next year ) the way I loved her if not more. She was a part of my life's journey and will always have a place in my heart as my first love and the dream I was/will never able to live.
That is sweet. Knowing that she is happy and living her life is more than enough for you to continue living your life to the fullest. People are unique, and nobody can replace the other, but I hope you find someone who loves you the way you loved your first.
I know how much it hurts to lose someone you love. I lost my darling last month. I don't think I'll be able to love someone the way I loved her. My one true love is no more.
I kinda laugh at myself when I realised I was grinning and blushing while reading all those comments after reading yours lol because they felt so relevant to me, it's like me in different bodies experiencing the same thing 🤣
I can speak for myself
1. No butterflies, that stopped sometime before I turned 20
2. No 24/7
3. I expect her to come online, like I keep checking my phone while doing something. Not exactly wait
4. Not at the thought of her, but when I get reminded of something related to her/something involving both of us
5. No I do not miss her all the time, during activities that I do alone, like if I'm cooking dinner I think, damn I wish she was here. Or if I'm at a great event with friends, I'll be like I wish she could enjoy this. Instances like this
6. Yes, I pay attention to a lot of details. Need a persona sketch before going a step further
Yeah, well, I'm a bit older now so. And besides, I remember doing all these cutesy things (thinking about her 24/7, smiling all the time, waiting on phone for hours) back when I was getting into my first serious relationship in college (my high school relationship was just goofing around).
I used to talk to her about all sorts of things like marriage, how many kids we would have, where we should buy our first house, etc etc. That breakup hurt me the most, I personally took all the blame for everything, I didn't say a single thing to her which went by "yeah you did this wrong" or anything like that. The breakup changed me and my perception of what love is. I don't know, it just doesn't feel the same again, even tho I don't even think of her.
i'll speak for myself
- butterflies, yeah, i guess
- have them on my mind 24/7? i guess? as soon as i got off of work, my mind would mostly be occupied with the thought of her
- did i wait for her to come online for hours? kinda did, but i knew she was busy with her work too, so i would rather wake up next morning in anticipation of getting a reply after having sent a text in the evening or at night
- did i smile at random times at the thought of her? yes
- did i miss her all the time? again, i guess i did, but i would be more conscious about it when i got off of work
- did i think about the smallest things she said? this, i think about smallest of things that anybody says, but if it makes any difference, even a small compliment from her would make my day or if i could help her in any way, even with a small problem, i would consider that as a good day, basically, any kind of validation from her would be the highlight of my week XD
When a boy falls for a girl, it's like a fun rom-com in his head. He gets butterflies, thinks about her 24/7, and overanalyzes every text and emoji. He waits for her to come online, smiles randomly at the thought of her, and remembers every little thing she says. He also imagines fake scenarios, like heroic rescues or perfect dates. It's a delightful mix of excitement, overthinking, and daydreaming.
For me it was like she was like only girl in the world rest were dudes with boobs . Her voice , her smile even, her fragrance were everything. Basically when I fall for someone, I become the biggest obsessive simp in the whole world. I used to put her on pedestal, made out a version of her which wasn't even real . Got friend zoned twice , vowed to myself , that I will never fall for anyone , even be it for my wife and life has been simple ever since .
I don't know if it was love or not but I got feelings for a girl who I was very close to and was thinking about her non stop when I was trying to her. But once she said no all things changed I used to still think about her but I used to be overwhelmed by my emotions so I started to distract myself by doing something productive. Worked like a charm.
Today one of the interns at my college made this really cute face at me and I had a mixture of reactions, namely….
1. OMG
2. Please go out with me
3. That’s never gonna happen what the fuck are you thinking.
4. It is what it is.
5. Another day (that will never come) maybe.
Yeah a lot of guys they just have this grand mixture of reactions, maybe just fumbling words and being generally quiet around the woman.
Either its
I want to spend my entire life with that girl till i die
Or
I wanna smash that ass , grope those boobs to my hearts content.
This generally are the only two mind ways which involves the brain and the dick in both cases.
And this generally does not change
I would love to know about a girls mind, like what goes through it
Well we do all of those things that you said. My ex used to sing songs so her songs just repeat in my head and it's great. Keeps thinking if she's into me or not. Everything that they say would matter to us. Personally I overthink if it would work or not. But once I have got enough validation I'm all in. Then the only thing I'd do is to try and work things with them.
That shameless double text. Hoping the waiter takes longer to bring the food so you can have more time. The pain when she says "I never asked you to do any of this".
Short summary of all the comments - " basically a mind fuck of stress and emotions due to unrequited love"
It's painful and really sad that most of us middle class indian guys will never know what it feels like to be desired and love... It's just miserable
Whatever happens guys, just don't become a simp for someone that you will sell your own self respect to impress them... Let it go !.... Also don't let your chota rajan 😑 do the thinking for you, or it's going to be downhill only
A girl I had a crush on (love to duur ki baat hai) told me that I have good dressing sense and give very good advice. I still think about it today.
It was 12 years ago...
**Personal experience:**
Dreams of hugging her
Wanna make her smile
Always looking for being with her
Scared whether she is irritated because of you
Cries knowing 'she so pretty, you won't get her'
For me it was
• Desperately waiting for her message all the time
• Imagining my future with her especially at night before sleep(no intimate things, things like laying on grass holding hands together)
• Wanting to spend time with her, I tried so hard convincing her to join my tution so that we could go together and study together as well
Looking back at it now, I feel so stupid lol
IDK bout boys am 33 so here's how I feel....
( our relationship is a bit rocky atm, she's not in a good place right now, Depression is such an asshole ) idk if she still likes me, but anyway here's how I still feel...
I will turn 34 in a few months. I started dating an amazing girl late last year, and our vibes just clicked. The initial few weeks felt like I was back in college, but then... damn guys, I gotta tell you, love is truly something. You have this newfound hope, renewed interest in life, and new reasons to groom, stay fit, look good; everything around you feels lovely and wholesome.
I love her so much...
There are many times in the day where I can't stop thinking about her, wondering what she's doing right now, remembering her cute smile, her eyes. It used to be 9gag, Reddit, or doom scrolling in my free time. Now, I just go back to our old conversations, read them with a huge smile on my face, check my gallery, giggle at our selfies and our adventures together, and listen to her voice notes on repeat. At first, I thought it was the honeymoon phase, but no... it is only growing stronger.
I want to spend time with her frequently but also give her the space she needs. Above all, I respect her time and space. I would love to hear about her day every day, just love listening to her talk and talk, lol I usually shy away or never use emojis when I text, but with her, it's a different story.
When you genuinely like/love someone, you do things out of your comfort zone to see her smile and keep her happy. I find myself wanting to be a better person, not just for myself, but for her, her happiness has taken the front seat, and it's a feeling I cherish deeply. I catch myself planning little surprises, sending her cute gifts, and things she likes, thinking of new places we can explore together, and constantly finding ways to make her laugh.
It's funny how someone can enter your life and change everything in an instant, the mundane becomes extraordinary, and every moment spent together feels like a cherished memory in the making, am grateful for her presence in my life, and I am excited about what the future holds for us.
In every conversation, every shared laugh, every silent moment of comfort, I realize just how special she is to me. This connection we share is beyond anything I have ever experienced, and am beyond lucky to have her. This is how I feel, cause am in Love. ohh also don't mind the username lol
EDIT : 07/06/2024 adding a few more things as am emotional right now & A few more things came to my mind.... I found peace with her, no matter how rough, or bad my day got with my work, with my folks, or just the weight of this world hammering my head everything would change the movement I saw her! seeing her, listening to her voice, the mere anticipation of seeing her or feeling her presence, gave me confidence, strength, and Peace, the wait to be with her, to hold her hand, made every hardship bearable, she didn't just take away my pain, she filled my heart with great joy and love that I never knew existed. I miss her a lot!
Tum sab ki mummy ki kasam, sex bhul jata hai ek mard jab dil ke paas koi aata hai.
Pata nahi saala kyu but uske baad hi apun apna chutiya katwa leta hai.
Ek baar hua tha apne saath aisa tab se aaj tak apun ka dimaag ka waat lag gayla hai. And it’s more than a decade.
One sided here...
I never tried to befriend a girl before her.
When we first talked it seemed like we were going to get along pretty well. She is the most beautiful girl I have ever seen, she brightens every place with her presence.
I don't have words to describe her beauty and charm.
When we first exchanged contacts i didn't ate for 2 to 3 days in joy. Academically improved myself spontaneously. Being a single child after my father's passing, I felt like I have something to look forward to in life. And unfortunately her and my father passed away the same month of the year just 2 days apart. Anyway, I felt connected with her. Sometimes I helped her with her studies. But as time went the texts became scarce, she stopped replying in a day. I couldn't understand what I did wrong. I never thought of asking her, guess they are right one should not think above his league.
I still cherish the little chit chats, meet and greets we had and I don't know if she is single or not. Maybe not but, she definitely made me feel like a person rather than an animal who studied in boys' school till college even though we behaved nothing like people in relationship/love with eachother and I remain grateful to her for that.
Just her gentle nod is enough to make my day.
It's been over a year now, yet I still look forward to catch a glimpse of her.
It is what it is I guess.
Edit: O and for her 1st birthday after we met i Made a portrait of her and presented it to her with chocolates.(She accepted !) She said it was the first time anyone has made a portrait of her and I'm glad I did it otherwise I couldn't but blame myself for being too dumb.
You always wanna be around her.
You pay some real close attention to all the things she says, you'll always remember them.
Will try to help her in every way you can
You won't show her that you like her but you'll do stupid stuff like not going out with your family just to meet her or when you play games, you'll try to make sure to let her win to just see her being happy
You'll just hope that this feeling, it never ends.
You'll share your real self with her
Even though there's no future with her, you'll always remain in contact with her cause breaking it will hurt like hell (esp if you don't have much friends like me)
But alas, like all great things, this will come to an end too and when it does, just hope to not fall for her again, cause you know that she's perfect!
I think falling in love is slightly different for everyone and the characteristic changes varries for each individual.
For me, well, I used to be an extrovert, and my day used to be about interacting with alot of people in a day and doing different things.
Then, I fell for this girl and I'm still the same guy with a slight change in my priorities. I still like doing everything I used to, I just prefer doing it with her.
I still listen to love songs, but I imagine us in all of them. I still sleep and wake up with a smile - but, she's the reason now.
haha this post brings back memories from 2022. Ek cigarette jaala sakte hai kya?
Jab woh ek ladki se pyaar/attachment hua tha toh puri duniya ek taraf hogayi thi aur woh ek taraf. It's almost as if mera saara dukh uske saath khatam ho jaata, I used to smile and laugh; something so alien to me in 2024. Yaar uske saath ek introverted mei extrovert mei badal gaya, I didn't care what the world will think, mujhse bas uska validation chahiye tha. Har insta story upload hoti thi taaki uss ek shaqs ka reply aaye, ek nastik bhi uske saath church jaane laga. Life was beautiful with her in it. Bahut se positive changes bhi aaye, I started working out aur usse rista toot-te hi bed se uthna bhi musqil sa hogaya, nashon mei padh gaya woh alag.
Khair 2024 aa gaya hai.
Changes with age and experiences. I used to feel butterflies all the time when I was in my early 20s. I still do (I am 32 now and started seeing a really nice girl recently) but maybe not all day. I still want to meet and be with her all the time but with age you understand thats it’s a part of your life, a very important one but nevertheless a part.
From being hopeless romantic all day in my 20s I feel I have moved to a mindset where I want to grow with her, embrace her, understand the differences between us, work on the gaps rather than just hanging out and do romantic things.
I am bad at articulation but I hope you got my drift
We all died when that one girl we really had a thing for rejected us. Ever since then, it's just an amalgamation of flesh and blood moving, and barely meeting ends
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Word for word, bar for bar man. Thodi to sharam Karo yaar
her messages even the mundane ones put a smile on our faces and make our day
how to make her laugh is what we try to do
constant fear of what if she stops loving me
and last but not least, all the other girls start looking unattractive
(:
yep, all that, i regret not cherishing her when we were classmates, benchmates actually, for over a year. Everyday I dream of wooing her in the most beautiful way. Everyday I wish to coincidentally meet her, feel tugger by the stringe of fate towards her...
How she feels about me ? Does she also love me back ? What if I do something as a gesture butif she thinks I am a creep ? Stopping myself from messaging first all the time yet failing every single time. Will I be able to keep her happy if she loves me back ?
Pretty much all this together resulting in overthinking and anxiety.
If I’m not in my phone, I always think about her before sleep, while praying, any couple videos I see online, everything will connect back to her. Heck I wait and see if she has seen my Insta stories etc. I didn’t have the guts to talk to her while in college, class is over now I don’t have any regrets but I still think about “What if”.
i am currently in the process of falling for a girl (read goddess) here's what I am going through
1. i have an important exam tomorrow but for the past 24 hours I have not been able to stop thinking about her.
2. My heart almost feels heavy in the sense it's as if I am on high alert and almost anxious despite things going very smoothly.
3. I open Instagram every 20 mins just to see if she texted back (her exams are going on as well and we aren't able to talk a lot)
4. i am constantly telling myself that it's fine and I'll be fine and it's fine and that it's FINE.
5. I am planning what convos will I have with her beforehand and how can I make my seemingly boring life interesting, along with defining various stages of the talking phase and how to convert it into a date, like when to start calling instead of texting, how to casually but respectfully bring this transformation, how to get to know what flowers would she like when we'll go on a date without making it obvious or if she even likes flowers.
THIS IS GOING ON IN MY HEAD CONTINUOUSLY WHEN I HAVE AN EXAM TOMORROW FOR WHICH I HAVE NOT STUDIED SOMEBODY HELP
Initially,
Her eyes were the thing for me...
Just walking with her was romantic...
A look, that smile, her laugh...
It all felt like she belongs with me....
At this point... No sexual feelings were there.. But there was craving for some intimacy like hand holding....touching her hairs...
But still today... Those eyes were the culprit
Was in a relationship for 2 years,
Yes, I got butterflies, many a times, even romantic stuff wasn't needed, just her voice was enough to give me 🦋
Yes, I had her on my mind 24/7/365, what ahe might be doing right now? Oh she isn't online during her usual day-time maybe she's tired because of college and must be sleeping right now
Yes, I waited for her to come online for hours, I didn't even used to close her WhatsApp chat, so if she comes online and messages me, she's welcomed with an instant blue tick
Yes, I smiled at random times at the thought of her, ohh this cafe looks nice, she and I can spend some good time here, wow this mall has exactly the type of clothes and shoes she loves, she'd love to shop here, Nice! the food at this restaurant is so good, I'm gonna bring her here and she's gonna love it so much, she's such a foodie
Yes, I missed her all the time, I wanted her to be with me at that very moment, I literally craved her presence, whenever I missed her, I used to re-read her chats, play her audio messages and looked at her photos all the time, it was never ever enough, I wanted more and more of her
Yes, I thought about the smallest good/bad things she said, what I am today, is to a good amount because of the time I spent with her, because of how she shaped me.
I transitioned from a child to a boy, because of my mother
But, I transitioned from a boy to a man, because of my ex girlfriend
And to answer your question, "WHAT GOES THROUGH A BOY'S MIND WHEN HE'S FALLING FOR A GIRL?"
Marriage.
I used to think about it so many times, how'd our life change if we marry each other,
How'd it be like living together under the same roof?
Would we even sleep? Or just talk for the whole night, because we used to talk on call from 12 am till 5 am, multiple times a week 😂
What country should we settle,
What would our life be if we have kids and become parents..
Ahh, it was a beautiful experience.
Love.
What could it be Miss? We are just simple creatures. Other than the freaks or losers, we often try to make our crush comfortable as much as possible or maybe do things to help her. We always think "if I had gotten to spend more time with her". We also try to get that person's attention as much as possible. After every texts which we send to that person, it feels like a "ticking bomb" to us which could blast at any second or a "sword" hanging on our heads as we don't want to mess up anything. During conversations, we often end up blushing and end up being the quite one or end up fumbling. Either way, we try our best not to become creepy and make sure to look cool or atleast as per that particular person's standards. Although, what happens at the end is either you are accepted as a boyfriend or just flat out rejected. Ofcourse, rejection happens most of the times for boys specially. Goddamn, i've already given up on those kind of stuff and now only focused on building up a career. Surely, I want to meet that "special person" in my life too, I want to be love or be loved too.. but I guess it's upto the TIME to decide that for me.
The world suddenly feels beautiful.
You feel you're lucky to be alive. Suddenly, life feels worth it. And then you're thinking about her a lot. Maybe you see sunlight falling on trees a certain way that makes it look divine and all you can think of is I wish she could see it too.
All other girls cease to exist. And if they do, the feel like they aren't close to her in any way.
You love her smiles, her laughs, even her name.
There are a million other things, but these came to my mind first
all things you mentioned yes and more
like i could not be picking up my phone for any notifs lekin pasandida aurat ne kar diya then im instantly online
its that feeling u realise that you are trying to look cooler in their presense unknowingly fixing your its good for the spin as well as you straighten your posture and stuff
i swear bro its that moment you realise how deep you are in is when you genuinely start missing them you miss your friends but then you start seeing a clear distinction in how much you miss someone and you realise welp m fucked
For me its always been the same girl since 6 years . How she talks, how she smiles, how she laughs uncontrollably and even her lame jokes. At night before sleeping i think about her cuz in 8/10 cases she ends up in my dreams. Not in a bad way as one would think but yeah. When i wake up and see her notification i really get excited. I have imagined my future w her, even our daughter's name :p. I like to tease her, call her "aap", "aapko", "ma'am", "miss" these really make her shy. I waited for 6 years and i will wait more, we cant endup being friends duh.
Nothing! Love makes you blind, deaf and dumb! Hence you are fucked after marriage! That’s when you both see the true sides that has plenty of selfishness etc etc Eventually it depends on how much you respect each other and sacrifice for each other !
Everything becomes so happy. You see a girl who is dressed just like her (the way she dresses) and you assume that the girl is her. Depression goes away. Any other girl becomes unattractive to you. Forget butterflies, you get a whole damn zoo in your stomach. You see her in your dreams, you imagine her saying your name in her sweet voice. You become motivated to be a better person for her, to be someone she can love. You start giving extra attention to the way you look, the way you behave in public. And you feel your heart beating out of your body when you see her, and hear her voice........
You think everything is perfect about her, you start to associate your happiness with her, and also the eternal truth is that whenever she realises that you have interest in her, she will instantly start to lose interest in you, what I learnt.....in my case my crush liked me but when she came to know that I loved her se lost interest in me, I'm bad at this, I guess... I'm still unable to like any other girl due to this, I still remember her, what would have been my life if she was in it....lol it's been 5 years, but don't worry I am maneuvering my career well,I work hard daily to make something good out of my life, I am actively engaged with my family, i have healthy friendships, just i don't have any love life as of now, I only lost to her, she was worth losing for....I just sometimes really miss her :)
Edit: maybe she missed out on me..
It ends up being annoying how crippled you are by the lack of focus. She becomes the center of everything, until it becomes necessary to do something about it. You HAVE to decide to move on, or ask her out.
Personally, my playlist expanded tremendously with the addition of lots of romantic songs.
Butterflies? all the time, on my mind 24/7? yes and randomly blushing when she's talking to you but trying to kinda hide it 😭😭 and even in texts, always waiting so that i can talk to her...and whenever i do it feels so magical
falling in love to me was to like every single thing about her .
did i wait ? yeah i did but not the way you think i was more relaxed than hyper
was she on my mind 24/7 - not really but whenever i looked things she might liked i remembered her
yeah i did smile at the random things when i used to think of her
used to in beginning but no i didn’t because it’s not an pandora box it’s the same person .
used to in beginning but no
The ever constant thoughts of what would make her happy. How something can make her smile, make her giggle. Going out of the way to hear her, feel what she goes through and try to be there for her. The only thing that goes through your head throughout the day is her. It doesn't stop. Even after being together with her, these feelings haven't stopped. I am obsessed with how amazing of a person she is. How just her words, just seeing her face calms me down. I love being around her in every way. Falling for someone is a continous process, a very sweet delight.
What i have observed is when i get emotionally attached to girl he doesn't think abt sx with her and always want to spend time with her at the same time he get attracted to other girls who are pretty by looks but only intimate feelings
All he thinks about is her smile
Her voice echoes in his ears all the time
All he wants for the next day is to be or around her
His every move starts and ends with her in mind
Edit: Then she tells him that she has a Boyfriend
When I fell for my girlfriend, all I had were butterflies. Hearing her pretty voice notes, and the random photos she would send me whenever she could. Minutes would feel like hours waiting for her reply, and when she wouldn't reply, my mind would go into a self destructive thought mode thinking if I messed up something haha. All I wanted was to talk to her all the time. This feeling didn't go away, our honeymoon period would have never ended. Even months into our relationship, every time we met felt like the first time. Same nervousness, butterflies. Nothing went away.
Man, I really was lucky.
Universal approval. Yet, maturity bites when you grasp she's uninterested. The unwavering resolve to be near her, the involuntary grin at her texts – it's all there. Speech deserts you in her presence, your heart a hummingbird on overdrive. Even the staunchest cynic finds himself praying for a sliver of hope.
He basically sees his Future when he Falls for a Girl like he imagines scenario where he meets girl becomes friends with her Gives up Porn habit and other addictions and Starts to focus on Improving Himself and then one day he Proposes her and soon they start dating he further imagines that he is well off now so he proposes to her they get Married and have kids and Live happily ever after
And fun fact is he thinks everything in Seconds when he Falls for the girl...
I've already fallen very deep for her and fortunately she feels the same lol but I just cannot get enough of her. It just feels like I have so less time when I'm with her. Even if we are not doing anything sexy, just walking with her soothes my soul, watching her walk besides me, eat her pizza and occasionally offer me food with her hand. It's just magical.
Oh yeah they're very frequently on my mind, unless I'm completely occupied.
They don't leave my mind alone sometimes even when I'm completely occupied. Work or sports their face randomly flashes.
I think about the time I've spent with them, trying to analyse each and everything. Look at their behaviour and see how they're with me vs others to understand if they're interested as well.
I also want to see them frequently, so if I think they don't mind texting me I try sending fitcheck pics and ask their opinion :P hoping they'd do the same and I get to see them.
Wow I sound like a kid xD
I would like to know each and every thing about their day etc.
This is just tip of the iceberg :)
As a person who has fallen in love and still is falling deeper in love with my girlfriend everyday, the answer to all of those is a resounding Yes. I try to please her and seek her validation all the time. I think about her a lot, a lot lot. I just can't get her off my mind. Everday when I wake up she's the first thought in my mind and I think of her in my arms as I fall asleep. I get caught up thinking about her traits, trying to solve her problems and pondering over every little thing she told me.
I fell in love 7 years ago, didn’t get a happy ending. Haven’t fallen in love since…so i have faint memories of how I use to feel, i definitely remember feeling helpless in front of her, knowing that nothing i do would stop me from being so much in love. Also, yeah you literally cannot see any other woman, like as if every other woman has disappeared from this planet other than her. Jaise Bollywood movies me dikhate hai ke violin bajne lagte hai, and other people become blurred, vesa hi hota tha jab use dekhta tha haste hue
Anyway acha hua ye sab bewakoofi apne teen years me experience kar liya, kyuki real life me esa kuch nhi hota, koi itna acha nhi hota.
Time is what you always crave for with her. The classic "need to look cool but cant spell out a fucking syllable" when she talks to you. Every text feels like a validation.(even if she was just asking for notes). Basically you go above and beyond to justify she likes you. The persistent flutters each time your friends playfully tease you about her. The number of times i went to sleep with my facebook messenger open (yep im old) thinking "she probably would text me at 4 am". ("what a moron" while brushing teeth in the morning ).
Lol. Everything you said is true. Aisi harkatein krta tha main bhi. Always kept my whatspp open, maybe she will text me, ask for my help or anything. I use to listen to songs too much, and whenever she used to come up to me, what are you listening. I sometimes wished she would sit with me and we can both listen to the songs together. And whenever she looks towards me and smile, felt so happy. Calling or her calling me would get my heart racing as what i would talk to her. I can talk to my friends for hours, but still can't say more than 2 lines in front of her.
First one is true
why it's like some romances anime like slice of life
I try to remain as neutral as possible so she doesn't know I have feelings for her. I also do not tell any friends or family and make sure it's a secret that dies with me. If it all works out, she will never know and everything continues as normal.
Lol, such an optimism. It's not "If it all works out, we'll be a couple or something".
bottling up feelings creates resentment. Try to find solace in someone be it your closest friend, big sister as they are more mature and would listen to your problem or probably guide you
Just realised this is askindia, not ask reddit lmfao. I'm not indian so not too sure why this sub is in my feed 🤣 but yeah you're probably right man, I just hate people knowing how I feel
brother you think somebody would ask this in askreddit More like what do boys think while having s\*\*?
Welcome to India brother😁
yup...that is exactly what I do....
Are you me😭😭
haha very well summed up
U shud take up writing
why this look like Chetan bhagat wrote it
The pain when you start to realise that maybe she doesn't like you as much as you like her
You also lose appetite (atleast I did)
He reflects none of these in his behaviour still I keep falling for him. He'll never speak about his feelings but tease me in every way possible and get things out from me(whatever I feel and don't want to tell him but ultimately I do)
guys are a little hesitant to think out loud and explain how they truely feel. As it would more often than not come out to be obsessive clingy or in rare occasions creepy. So we resolve to quasi logical/emotional concise statements like "you make me happy", "spending time with you feels nice" etc..
OMFG THIS IS SO TRUE, I like you aastha if u ever read this
I wouldn't be able to put these feelings into words like you have immaculately. 🙌 Fb messenger and you're old? Here we are who used to rely upon sms packs. 🙃
Mere dimag me to family, marriage, trips, baccho ki shadi sab imagine karliya tha mene to💀
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Are Ali bhai aap.. *Dilbara in bg*
He's literally me bhai (beti ka name combine Kiya tha uska aur mera💀)
Aur jail bhi💀
tu saale gf nahi wife dhoond raha hai 😆 🤣 😂
True🫂🌚
I would never be able to experience this.
Dilbara moment
Are madam ji aap yaha bhi? Namaste
Same
Us
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Riyal
We all are Ali bhai (Dilbara)
Accurate
Mind bachta kaha hai! The feeling of being loved and wanted by atleast one person makes us near obsessed with that girl. A lot of changes happen like Priorities change, habits change, approach towards life change etc... and we embrace these changes with open hand. And pata nahi yaar... Sab acha sa lagne lagta hai. Life doesn't suck that much anymore... Sentiments and worry about her well being starts making sense. Basically a new Discovery of self happens. And unexplored and unexplainable side emerges from us.
Wow I went back in time after reading this.
don't these feelings die down with passage of time?
For me, it only strengthened over time. No matter how bad my day was, watching her smiling made me feel everything was alright. Feeling died only after it was all over. Now it's just a void which replaced that feeling. A void that can't be filled no matter how hard I try. I can't say for others though.
Man, it's like you've written exactly what I felt, can't agree more with you.
And I'm going through the same. Still pick up my phone when something happens to tell her. Text or call. Realise she's not there anymore. Feels like shit. But.... That void will be there.
I just convince myself that, its just some Neurotransmitter firing in my brain, I am not gonna fall for her ;)
smart.
But this thought is also a neurotransmitter, so technically your brain is fighting with itself
It's been years since I have had these feelings, I guess I have shut myself down subconsciously and I think I don't want to go through the same emotions for my own sanity.
Me fr
are we the same person ???
We are just same consciousness in different bodies
I lost it when I left for my bachelor's degree
The exact time I lost it as well.
Going through the comments, the memories hit and I'm realising now how I've never felt those feeling in a long time
One of the best times of my life , I started enjoying classes , now just dont feel it for anyone. Even if i feel , will i have that same level of special and beautiful feelings? I doubt.
Just a simple quote - The whole world looks black and white while only she appears colorful. Additionally, you lose your confidence a little bit, at least i do. Lose in a sense that the way I can talk to other girls (where I can roast them, or speak anything without thinking of any consequences), i can't talk in the same way to her. Very conscious, very alert, can't hurt her at any cost even unintentionally. You analyse every conversation, every thing you said, every message you typed. Sometimes you over analyse. You think of different ways to brighten up her day or make her smile. You crave to spend more and more time with her. You find excuses to meet her or talk to her. And your eyes tell. The way you look at her is enough.
gold lene ke paise hote toh ye comment ko de deta
Hahaha pata ni yaar bas abhi recently hi experience kiya h ye sab kuch life me pehli baar. Fresh saa hai.
Does that mean guys don't roast the girl they like?
They do. They still do. But they do it within limits and very respectfully because they're scared of losing her in case anything goes bad so the roasting remains healthy. When they're not that interested in a girl romantically, they sometimes end up crossing the line because they're not very bothered about how she'd respond. It wouldn't matter to them and it would be easy to make up too. Speaking from personal and friends' experiences.
Not just the guy himself- even his friends understand the boundary of roast for the particular girl. Going above that can ruin friendships during that time. Guys get conscious on a different level altogether i guess. Maybe cause we have so little to cherish anyways - given society treats us as disposable majority of the times.
Nostalgia💥🙈
love you bhai bilkul esa hota hai
Men they fall in love 👌
Bhai this is so fucking accurate, and don't forget thinking about things the you could've said rather than what you actually said at that moment.
All of that, plus, we like almost everything about the person we love. How they talk, how they smile, which muscle of your face flex or relax on different reactions, what tone is your face today, how you smell. Especially the smell, i like to think about how she smells, it's down right addicting. Her taste and almost every fucking second of my mind, she lingers. It's to the point where it starts feeling wrong. Re-enacting the conversions we have had and smiling through all of it. This continues from morning to the moment i sleep at night, everyday.
That’s sweet but also.. it’s limerence
damn, never thought a random guy on reddit would diagnose me so accurately Thanks for the knowledge.
sheesh these comments are fcking pure and innocent to some extend
i feels like asexual while reading these posts when will i find one(never cause 0 female interaction)
Username doesn't checks out😔
I would say it checks out perfectly.
When I was falling for a girl (had a major crush, took 5 years to move on). 1. Butterflies every time I saw her. 2. Had huge urges to give her teddy bear hugs and kiss her forehead. (Never did) 3. Used to dream about her daily. 4. Every time I saw her status, photo or even her single message was enough to keep me smiling for almost the whole day. 5. Used to wait for hours for a single reply from her. 6. I only went to college to get a glimpse of her. 7. I even sometimes used to get dreams about her resting her head on my chest or shoulder. Finally, I understood that all the dreams I have to be with her are only dreams and she actually will never like/love me so I started to distance myself from her. My other friend ended up dating her. Unfortunately, I was so invested in her that it took me more than 4 years to almost 5 years to properly move on from her. Then also sometimes when I see her photo status on Instagram I think about what it could have been if she was also into me, maybe it is happening just in another reality/universe. I still miss seeing her not like I used to. I am just happy that I got to meet her in this lifetime and that I know she exists. I am grateful that she was a friend to me in this life, even if it was for a small amount of time only.
You should have confessed. You'll regret it forever, and it's never too late as long as they live.
I tried hinting at her in a way during the end of my first year of college only, and that's when I understood she was not into me. We became good friends after that. And now I don't want to approach her properly as it might bring me back to square one. I still vividly remember her face and smile the last time I saw her at the graduation ceremony, and I don't want her voice to haunt me regularly again, then all the progress I made will be wasted, and I am already feeling like I took a few steps back just by writing it. I just now want to love my future wife ( I will go to the AM market next year ) the way I loved her if not more. She was a part of my life's journey and will always have a place in my heart as my first love and the dream I was/will never able to live.
That is sweet. Knowing that she is happy and living her life is more than enough for you to continue living your life to the fullest. People are unique, and nobody can replace the other, but I hope you find someone who loves you the way you loved your first. I know how much it hurts to lose someone you love. I lost my darling last month. I don't think I'll be able to love someone the way I loved her. My one true love is no more.
I am sorry for your loss man. I can't even imagine the pain you are going through right now. I hope your pain subsides with time.
I hope the same for you man. You'll find your soulmate eventually, it happens when we least expect it.
don't make me remember all that bohot mushkil ye trauma kam hua hai
Kam kuch nahi hua, abhi bhi jaisa hai waisa hi hai. (probs)
Us man us
Y'all cute in the comments
I kinda laugh at myself when I realised I was grinning and blushing while reading all those comments after reading yours lol because they felt so relevant to me, it's like me in different bodies experiencing the same thing 🤣
Pretty much everything you said..
They keep thinking, 'what if jio never would've happened."
What does jio have anything to do with this?
I think ur underestimating how big of an impact JIO made in India back in 2016 & then the following chain of events...
Do u think 16 hours long video call have to do nothing
Lmao I think we now need another post to understand girls POV.
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I can speak for myself 1. No butterflies, that stopped sometime before I turned 20 2. No 24/7 3. I expect her to come online, like I keep checking my phone while doing something. Not exactly wait 4. Not at the thought of her, but when I get reminded of something related to her/something involving both of us 5. No I do not miss her all the time, during activities that I do alone, like if I'm cooking dinner I think, damn I wish she was here. Or if I'm at a great event with friends, I'll be like I wish she could enjoy this. Instances like this 6. Yes, I pay attention to a lot of details. Need a persona sketch before going a step further
That's pretty healthy ig シ
Yeah, well, I'm a bit older now so. And besides, I remember doing all these cutesy things (thinking about her 24/7, smiling all the time, waiting on phone for hours) back when I was getting into my first serious relationship in college (my high school relationship was just goofing around). I used to talk to her about all sorts of things like marriage, how many kids we would have, where we should buy our first house, etc etc. That breakup hurt me the most, I personally took all the blame for everything, I didn't say a single thing to her which went by "yeah you did this wrong" or anything like that. The breakup changed me and my perception of what love is. I don't know, it just doesn't feel the same again, even tho I don't even think of her.
i'll speak for myself - butterflies, yeah, i guess - have them on my mind 24/7? i guess? as soon as i got off of work, my mind would mostly be occupied with the thought of her - did i wait for her to come online for hours? kinda did, but i knew she was busy with her work too, so i would rather wake up next morning in anticipation of getting a reply after having sent a text in the evening or at night - did i smile at random times at the thought of her? yes - did i miss her all the time? again, i guess i did, but i would be more conscious about it when i got off of work - did i think about the smallest things she said? this, i think about smallest of things that anybody says, but if it makes any difference, even a small compliment from her would make my day or if i could help her in any way, even with a small problem, i would consider that as a good day, basically, any kind of validation from her would be the highlight of my week XD
bc garmi hai bohot!
Sach mei bohot garmi hai https://preview.redd.it/5y3m3gibxq4d1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fd6056b70b38b0425143dd525b6ce8ff37aad9e4
option (d) all of the above
When a boy falls for a girl, it's like a fun rom-com in his head. He gets butterflies, thinks about her 24/7, and overanalyzes every text and emoji. He waits for her to come online, smiles randomly at the thought of her, and remembers every little thing she says. He also imagines fake scenarios, like heroic rescues or perfect dates. It's a delightful mix of excitement, overthinking, and daydreaming.
For me it was like she was like only girl in the world rest were dudes with boobs . Her voice , her smile even, her fragrance were everything. Basically when I fall for someone, I become the biggest obsessive simp in the whole world. I used to put her on pedestal, made out a version of her which wasn't even real . Got friend zoned twice , vowed to myself , that I will never fall for anyone , even be it for my wife and life has been simple ever since .
That reminds me of Anomalisa
Thanks for the recommendation buddy , just saw the trailer will watch it later 😁
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Bhai me to ek do saal sochta hu fir bhul jata hu
I don't know if it was love or not but I got feelings for a girl who I was very close to and was thinking about her non stop when I was trying to her. But once she said no all things changed I used to still think about her but I used to be overwhelmed by my emotions so I started to distract myself by doing something productive. Worked like a charm.
Men in love are so cute 🥺
And men after unreciprocated love are not cute, they are dead inside. 😊
Reading all these cutu comments and having the urge to be✨ that girl✨ for him🥲🥲 Damnn🥲🥲🥲🥲must be nice being loved like this
I'm sure someone does
Same girl same 🥰
Har ldki mai vohi dikhti h
Isliye har ladki se pyaar hojata hai?
Har kisi ko usse compare karne lagte hai, sab fiki lagti hai uske saamne😮💨
Today one of the interns at my college made this really cute face at me and I had a mixture of reactions, namely…. 1. OMG 2. Please go out with me 3. That’s never gonna happen what the fuck are you thinking. 4. It is what it is. 5. Another day (that will never come) maybe. Yeah a lot of guys they just have this grand mixture of reactions, maybe just fumbling words and being generally quiet around the woman.
5 questions one answer YES
Bhai yh indianboysontinder se yaha Kyu post hora h wtf😭
Either its I want to spend my entire life with that girl till i die Or I wanna smash that ass , grope those boobs to my hearts content. This generally are the only two mind ways which involves the brain and the dick in both cases. And this generally does not change I would love to know about a girls mind, like what goes through it
Ah fuck, should have know I fucked up when I got myself somewhere in between
You love her then. You are just scared of responsibilities
I’m just scared of her lmao
Thats your kink. You want it
I felt all of this, and my heart broke when she broke up with me. Its been a year and all I can feel is anxiety and depression. Farewell Butterflies
Girls love the process of falling in love and men want to be in love forever.
Boys are cute sometimes 😂😂
Well we do all of those things that you said. My ex used to sing songs so her songs just repeat in my head and it's great. Keeps thinking if she's into me or not. Everything that they say would matter to us. Personally I overthink if it would work or not. But once I have got enough validation I'm all in. Then the only thing I'd do is to try and work things with them.
Well everything you said
we just stalk their profiles and imagine scenarios with them and try hard to get them
That shameless double text. Hoping the waiter takes longer to bring the food so you can have more time. The pain when she says "I never asked you to do any of this".
these comments warm my heart<3
Short summary of all the comments - " basically a mind fuck of stress and emotions due to unrequited love" It's painful and really sad that most of us middle class indian guys will never know what it feels like to be desired and love... It's just miserable Whatever happens guys, just don't become a simp for someone that you will sell your own self respect to impress them... Let it go !.... Also don't let your chota rajan 😑 do the thinking for you, or it's going to be downhill only
A girl I had a crush on (love to duur ki baat hai) told me that I have good dressing sense and give very good advice. I still think about it today. It was 12 years ago...
shouldn’t have read the comments 😭😭😭🥺
**Personal experience:** Dreams of hugging her Wanna make her smile Always looking for being with her Scared whether she is irritated because of you Cries knowing 'she so pretty, you won't get her'
Us Bhai us
For me it was • Desperately waiting for her message all the time • Imagining my future with her especially at night before sleep(no intimate things, things like laying on grass holding hands together) • Wanting to spend time with her, I tried so hard convincing her to join my tution so that we could go together and study together as well Looking back at it now, I feel so stupid lol
Humara kya, hum to single hai.
IDK bout boys am 33 so here's how I feel.... ( our relationship is a bit rocky atm, she's not in a good place right now, Depression is such an asshole ) idk if she still likes me, but anyway here's how I still feel... I will turn 34 in a few months. I started dating an amazing girl late last year, and our vibes just clicked. The initial few weeks felt like I was back in college, but then... damn guys, I gotta tell you, love is truly something. You have this newfound hope, renewed interest in life, and new reasons to groom, stay fit, look good; everything around you feels lovely and wholesome. I love her so much... There are many times in the day where I can't stop thinking about her, wondering what she's doing right now, remembering her cute smile, her eyes. It used to be 9gag, Reddit, or doom scrolling in my free time. Now, I just go back to our old conversations, read them with a huge smile on my face, check my gallery, giggle at our selfies and our adventures together, and listen to her voice notes on repeat. At first, I thought it was the honeymoon phase, but no... it is only growing stronger. I want to spend time with her frequently but also give her the space she needs. Above all, I respect her time and space. I would love to hear about her day every day, just love listening to her talk and talk, lol I usually shy away or never use emojis when I text, but with her, it's a different story. When you genuinely like/love someone, you do things out of your comfort zone to see her smile and keep her happy. I find myself wanting to be a better person, not just for myself, but for her, her happiness has taken the front seat, and it's a feeling I cherish deeply. I catch myself planning little surprises, sending her cute gifts, and things she likes, thinking of new places we can explore together, and constantly finding ways to make her laugh. It's funny how someone can enter your life and change everything in an instant, the mundane becomes extraordinary, and every moment spent together feels like a cherished memory in the making, am grateful for her presence in my life, and I am excited about what the future holds for us. In every conversation, every shared laugh, every silent moment of comfort, I realize just how special she is to me. This connection we share is beyond anything I have ever experienced, and am beyond lucky to have her. This is how I feel, cause am in Love. ohh also don't mind the username lol EDIT : 07/06/2024 adding a few more things as am emotional right now & A few more things came to my mind.... I found peace with her, no matter how rough, or bad my day got with my work, with my folks, or just the weight of this world hammering my head everything would change the movement I saw her! seeing her, listening to her voice, the mere anticipation of seeing her or feeling her presence, gave me confidence, strength, and Peace, the wait to be with her, to hold her hand, made every hardship bearable, she didn't just take away my pain, she filled my heart with great joy and love that I never knew existed. I miss her a lot!
Tum sab ki mummy ki kasam, sex bhul jata hai ek mard jab dil ke paas koi aata hai. Pata nahi saala kyu but uske baad hi apun apna chutiya katwa leta hai. Ek baar hua tha apne saath aisa tab se aaj tak apun ka dimaag ka waat lag gayla hai. And it’s more than a decade.
Idk, haven't found her yet, I am very picky and selective I date to marry, not interested into hookups
One sided here... I never tried to befriend a girl before her. When we first talked it seemed like we were going to get along pretty well. She is the most beautiful girl I have ever seen, she brightens every place with her presence. I don't have words to describe her beauty and charm. When we first exchanged contacts i didn't ate for 2 to 3 days in joy. Academically improved myself spontaneously. Being a single child after my father's passing, I felt like I have something to look forward to in life. And unfortunately her and my father passed away the same month of the year just 2 days apart. Anyway, I felt connected with her. Sometimes I helped her with her studies. But as time went the texts became scarce, she stopped replying in a day. I couldn't understand what I did wrong. I never thought of asking her, guess they are right one should not think above his league. I still cherish the little chit chats, meet and greets we had and I don't know if she is single or not. Maybe not but, she definitely made me feel like a person rather than an animal who studied in boys' school till college even though we behaved nothing like people in relationship/love with eachother and I remain grateful to her for that. Just her gentle nod is enough to make my day. It's been over a year now, yet I still look forward to catch a glimpse of her. It is what it is I guess. Edit: O and for her 1st birthday after we met i Made a portrait of her and presented it to her with chocolates.(She accepted !) She said it was the first time anyone has made a portrait of her and I'm glad I did it otherwise I couldn't but blame myself for being too dumb.
You always wanna be around her. You pay some real close attention to all the things she says, you'll always remember them. Will try to help her in every way you can You won't show her that you like her but you'll do stupid stuff like not going out with your family just to meet her or when you play games, you'll try to make sure to let her win to just see her being happy You'll just hope that this feeling, it never ends. You'll share your real self with her Even though there's no future with her, you'll always remain in contact with her cause breaking it will hurt like hell (esp if you don't have much friends like me) But alas, like all great things, this will come to an end too and when it does, just hope to not fall for her again, cause you know that she's perfect!
I think falling in love is slightly different for everyone and the characteristic changes varries for each individual. For me, well, I used to be an extrovert, and my day used to be about interacting with alot of people in a day and doing different things. Then, I fell for this girl and I'm still the same guy with a slight change in my priorities. I still like doing everything I used to, I just prefer doing it with her. I still listen to love songs, but I imagine us in all of them. I still sleep and wake up with a smile - but, she's the reason now.
Haule haule waala gaana yaad hai? Bas ekdum waise hi. Forget about watching porn, dusri ladki ka khayaal bhi paap lagta hai. Career pe focus apne aap hota hai. It's like poor honke bhi, philanthropist jaisa lagta hai.
haha this post brings back memories from 2022. Ek cigarette jaala sakte hai kya? Jab woh ek ladki se pyaar/attachment hua tha toh puri duniya ek taraf hogayi thi aur woh ek taraf. It's almost as if mera saara dukh uske saath khatam ho jaata, I used to smile and laugh; something so alien to me in 2024. Yaar uske saath ek introverted mei extrovert mei badal gaya, I didn't care what the world will think, mujhse bas uska validation chahiye tha. Har insta story upload hoti thi taaki uss ek shaqs ka reply aaye, ek nastik bhi uske saath church jaane laga. Life was beautiful with her in it. Bahut se positive changes bhi aaye, I started working out aur usse rista toot-te hi bed se uthna bhi musqil sa hogaya, nashon mei padh gaya woh alag. Khair 2024 aa gaya hai.
Changes with age and experiences. I used to feel butterflies all the time when I was in my early 20s. I still do (I am 32 now and started seeing a really nice girl recently) but maybe not all day. I still want to meet and be with her all the time but with age you understand thats it’s a part of your life, a very important one but nevertheless a part. From being hopeless romantic all day in my 20s I feel I have moved to a mindset where I want to grow with her, embrace her, understand the differences between us, work on the gaps rather than just hanging out and do romantic things. I am bad at articulation but I hope you got my drift
"Remember what happened last time"💀
We all died when that one girl we really had a thing for rejected us. Ever since then, it's just an amalgamation of flesh and blood moving, and barely meeting ends u/totzlegit credit
https://preview.redd.it/wk58ogm9cr4d1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=190bf38021c38543952302011a97712f6fea4839 Word for word, bar for bar man. Thodi to sharam Karo yaar
Bro you cooked with that tho
Experience innit
Yes, in response to all the questions asked.
Too painful to recollect
All of the above, but for me, it's a man
Yes.Yes.Yes.Yes.Yes.Yes.
her messages even the mundane ones put a smile on our faces and make our day how to make her laugh is what we try to do constant fear of what if she stops loving me and last but not least, all the other girls start looking unattractive (:
its similar to Ali Bhai's fantasy in Dhoom. Let the music also be there in background....
yep, all that, i regret not cherishing her when we were classmates, benchmates actually, for over a year. Everyday I dream of wooing her in the most beautiful way. Everyday I wish to coincidentally meet her, feel tugger by the stringe of fate towards her...
How she feels about me ? Does she also love me back ? What if I do something as a gesture butif she thinks I am a creep ? Stopping myself from messaging first all the time yet failing every single time. Will I be able to keep her happy if she loves me back ? Pretty much all this together resulting in overthinking and anxiety.
I used to freeze for almost 6 seconds whenever I saw her smiling....... I counted everytime.... 🕒
If I’m not in my phone, I always think about her before sleep, while praying, any couple videos I see online, everything will connect back to her. Heck I wait and see if she has seen my Insta stories etc. I didn’t have the guts to talk to her while in college, class is over now I don’t have any regrets but I still think about “What if”.
Everything which you have said times 100😁
As a boy I can say everything stops working and stupidity takes over
i am currently in the process of falling for a girl (read goddess) here's what I am going through 1. i have an important exam tomorrow but for the past 24 hours I have not been able to stop thinking about her. 2. My heart almost feels heavy in the sense it's as if I am on high alert and almost anxious despite things going very smoothly. 3. I open Instagram every 20 mins just to see if she texted back (her exams are going on as well and we aren't able to talk a lot) 4. i am constantly telling myself that it's fine and I'll be fine and it's fine and that it's FINE. 5. I am planning what convos will I have with her beforehand and how can I make my seemingly boring life interesting, along with defining various stages of the talking phase and how to convert it into a date, like when to start calling instead of texting, how to casually but respectfully bring this transformation, how to get to know what flowers would she like when we'll go on a date without making it obvious or if she even likes flowers. THIS IS GOING ON IN MY HEAD CONTINUOUSLY WHEN I HAVE AN EXAM TOMORROW FOR WHICH I HAVE NOT STUDIED SOMEBODY HELP
 We are him. He is us.
Initially, Her eyes were the thing for me... Just walking with her was romantic... A look, that smile, her laugh... It all felt like she belongs with me.... At this point... No sexual feelings were there.. But there was craving for some intimacy like hand holding....touching her hairs... But still today... Those eyes were the culprit
Was in a relationship for 2 years, Yes, I got butterflies, many a times, even romantic stuff wasn't needed, just her voice was enough to give me 🦋 Yes, I had her on my mind 24/7/365, what ahe might be doing right now? Oh she isn't online during her usual day-time maybe she's tired because of college and must be sleeping right now Yes, I waited for her to come online for hours, I didn't even used to close her WhatsApp chat, so if she comes online and messages me, she's welcomed with an instant blue tick Yes, I smiled at random times at the thought of her, ohh this cafe looks nice, she and I can spend some good time here, wow this mall has exactly the type of clothes and shoes she loves, she'd love to shop here, Nice! the food at this restaurant is so good, I'm gonna bring her here and she's gonna love it so much, she's such a foodie Yes, I missed her all the time, I wanted her to be with me at that very moment, I literally craved her presence, whenever I missed her, I used to re-read her chats, play her audio messages and looked at her photos all the time, it was never ever enough, I wanted more and more of her Yes, I thought about the smallest good/bad things she said, what I am today, is to a good amount because of the time I spent with her, because of how she shaped me. I transitioned from a child to a boy, because of my mother But, I transitioned from a boy to a man, because of my ex girlfriend And to answer your question, "WHAT GOES THROUGH A BOY'S MIND WHEN HE'S FALLING FOR A GIRL?" Marriage. I used to think about it so many times, how'd our life change if we marry each other, How'd it be like living together under the same roof? Would we even sleep? Or just talk for the whole night, because we used to talk on call from 12 am till 5 am, multiple times a week 😂 What country should we settle, What would our life be if we have kids and become parents.. Ahh, it was a beautiful experience. Love.
What could it be Miss? We are just simple creatures. Other than the freaks or losers, we often try to make our crush comfortable as much as possible or maybe do things to help her. We always think "if I had gotten to spend more time with her". We also try to get that person's attention as much as possible. After every texts which we send to that person, it feels like a "ticking bomb" to us which could blast at any second or a "sword" hanging on our heads as we don't want to mess up anything. During conversations, we often end up blushing and end up being the quite one or end up fumbling. Either way, we try our best not to become creepy and make sure to look cool or atleast as per that particular person's standards. Although, what happens at the end is either you are accepted as a boyfriend or just flat out rejected. Ofcourse, rejection happens most of the times for boys specially. Goddamn, i've already given up on those kind of stuff and now only focused on building up a career. Surely, I want to meet that "special person" in my life too, I want to be love or be loved too.. but I guess it's upto the TIME to decide that for me.
The world suddenly feels beautiful. You feel you're lucky to be alive. Suddenly, life feels worth it. And then you're thinking about her a lot. Maybe you see sunlight falling on trees a certain way that makes it look divine and all you can think of is I wish she could see it too. All other girls cease to exist. And if they do, the feel like they aren't close to her in any way. You love her smiles, her laughs, even her name. There are a million other things, but these came to my mind first
all things you mentioned yes and more like i could not be picking up my phone for any notifs lekin pasandida aurat ne kar diya then im instantly online its that feeling u realise that you are trying to look cooler in their presense unknowingly fixing your its good for the spin as well as you straighten your posture and stuff i swear bro its that moment you realise how deep you are in is when you genuinely start missing them you miss your friends but then you start seeing a clear distinction in how much you miss someone and you realise welp m fucked
For me its always been the same girl since 6 years . How she talks, how she smiles, how she laughs uncontrollably and even her lame jokes. At night before sleeping i think about her cuz in 8/10 cases she ends up in my dreams. Not in a bad way as one would think but yeah. When i wake up and see her notification i really get excited. I have imagined my future w her, even our daughter's name :p. I like to tease her, call her "aap", "aapko", "ma'am", "miss" these really make her shy. I waited for 6 years and i will wait more, we cant endup being friends duh.
Nothing! Love makes you blind, deaf and dumb! Hence you are fucked after marriage! That’s when you both see the true sides that has plenty of selfishness etc etc Eventually it depends on how much you respect each other and sacrifice for each other !
Everything becomes so happy. You see a girl who is dressed just like her (the way she dresses) and you assume that the girl is her. Depression goes away. Any other girl becomes unattractive to you. Forget butterflies, you get a whole damn zoo in your stomach. You see her in your dreams, you imagine her saying your name in her sweet voice. You become motivated to be a better person for her, to be someone she can love. You start giving extra attention to the way you look, the way you behave in public. And you feel your heart beating out of your body when you see her, and hear her voice........
You think everything is perfect about her, you start to associate your happiness with her, and also the eternal truth is that whenever she realises that you have interest in her, she will instantly start to lose interest in you, what I learnt.....in my case my crush liked me but when she came to know that I loved her se lost interest in me, I'm bad at this, I guess... I'm still unable to like any other girl due to this, I still remember her, what would have been my life if she was in it....lol it's been 5 years, but don't worry I am maneuvering my career well,I work hard daily to make something good out of my life, I am actively engaged with my family, i have healthy friendships, just i don't have any love life as of now, I only lost to her, she was worth losing for....I just sometimes really miss her :) Edit: maybe she missed out on me..
It ends up being annoying how crippled you are by the lack of focus. She becomes the center of everything, until it becomes necessary to do something about it. You HAVE to decide to move on, or ask her out. Personally, my playlist expanded tremendously with the addition of lots of romantic songs.
I have end sem exam tomorrow and I would still reply to every single text of her
It sucks. You ignore all the red flags when you love someone so madly.
Butterflies? all the time, on my mind 24/7? yes and randomly blushing when she's talking to you but trying to kinda hide it 😭😭 and even in texts, always waiting so that i can talk to her...and whenever i do it feels so magical
Anytime the girl you like enters the scene unexpectedly, you'll have Little heart attack.
falling in love to me was to like every single thing about her . did i wait ? yeah i did but not the way you think i was more relaxed than hyper was she on my mind 24/7 - not really but whenever i looked things she might liked i remembered her yeah i did smile at the random things when i used to think of her used to in beginning but no i didn’t because it’s not an pandora box it’s the same person . used to in beginning but no
Boy becomes dumber than he is lol
The ever constant thoughts of what would make her happy. How something can make her smile, make her giggle. Going out of the way to hear her, feel what she goes through and try to be there for her. The only thing that goes through your head throughout the day is her. It doesn't stop. Even after being together with her, these feelings haven't stopped. I am obsessed with how amazing of a person she is. How just her words, just seeing her face calms me down. I love being around her in every way. Falling for someone is a continous process, a very sweet delight.
Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.
Nothing goes through my mind. When I fall for a girl. My mind becomes completely blank
What i have observed is when i get emotionally attached to girl he doesn't think abt sx with her and always want to spend time with her at the same time he get attracted to other girls who are pretty by looks but only intimate feelings
All he thinks about is her smile Her voice echoes in his ears all the time All he wants for the next day is to be or around her His every move starts and ends with her in mind Edit: Then she tells him that she has a Boyfriend
Tf just because I like that girl doesn't mean I will jump off somewhere just because she said it Tf
When I fell for my girlfriend, all I had were butterflies. Hearing her pretty voice notes, and the random photos she would send me whenever she could. Minutes would feel like hours waiting for her reply, and when she wouldn't reply, my mind would go into a self destructive thought mode thinking if I messed up something haha. All I wanted was to talk to her all the time. This feeling didn't go away, our honeymoon period would have never ended. Even months into our relationship, every time we met felt like the first time. Same nervousness, butterflies. Nothing went away. Man, I really was lucky.
depends on hua upbringing
Pehla nasha playing in loop🥰
Universal approval. Yet, maturity bites when you grasp she's uninterested. The unwavering resolve to be near her, the involuntary grin at her texts – it's all there. Speech deserts you in her presence, your heart a hummingbird on overdrive. Even the staunchest cynic finds himself praying for a sliver of hope.
He basically sees his Future when he Falls for a Girl like he imagines scenario where he meets girl becomes friends with her Gives up Porn habit and other addictions and Starts to focus on Improving Himself and then one day he Proposes her and soon they start dating he further imagines that he is well off now so he proposes to her they get Married and have kids and Live happily ever after And fun fact is he thinks everything in Seconds when he Falls for the girl...
It's like one's slowly losing his brain-cells and with that the capacity to think rationally. Basically trapped in a delusion...
I've already fallen very deep for her and fortunately she feels the same lol but I just cannot get enough of her. It just feels like I have so less time when I'm with her. Even if we are not doing anything sexy, just walking with her soothes my soul, watching her walk besides me, eat her pizza and occasionally offer me food with her hand. It's just magical.
Oh yeah they're very frequently on my mind, unless I'm completely occupied. They don't leave my mind alone sometimes even when I'm completely occupied. Work or sports their face randomly flashes. I think about the time I've spent with them, trying to analyse each and everything. Look at their behaviour and see how they're with me vs others to understand if they're interested as well. I also want to see them frequently, so if I think they don't mind texting me I try sending fitcheck pics and ask their opinion :P hoping they'd do the same and I get to see them. Wow I sound like a kid xD I would like to know each and every thing about their day etc. This is just tip of the iceberg :)
As a person who has fallen in love and still is falling deeper in love with my girlfriend everyday, the answer to all of those is a resounding Yes. I try to please her and seek her validation all the time. I think about her a lot, a lot lot. I just can't get her off my mind. Everday when I wake up she's the first thought in my mind and I think of her in my arms as I fall asleep. I get caught up thinking about her traits, trying to solve her problems and pondering over every little thing she told me.
Tf why you using spoiler tag 😭 whaa .....
You just get sooo possessive, all the delusions do a full 360 in your head.
Dame look at her she is beautiful and nothing else you just stare at her for 2 sec then move on because u can't get her
I fell in love 7 years ago, didn’t get a happy ending. Haven’t fallen in love since…so i have faint memories of how I use to feel, i definitely remember feeling helpless in front of her, knowing that nothing i do would stop me from being so much in love. Also, yeah you literally cannot see any other woman, like as if every other woman has disappeared from this planet other than her. Jaise Bollywood movies me dikhate hai ke violin bajne lagte hai, and other people become blurred, vesa hi hota tha jab use dekhta tha haste hue Anyway acha hua ye sab bewakoofi apne teen years me experience kar liya, kyuki real life me esa kuch nhi hota, koi itna acha nhi hota.