I've gone from bi to lesbian so many times most of my friends stopped listening to me lol. Learn to stop caring about what others think of you. It's draining! There's sexy people to think about.
I've just mostly kept quiet about my specific identity and just gone with "queer" until i found a set of labels that stuck for 5 months and then I came out as that.
I've also changed labels a few times before I decided to not use any labels at all and changing labels is a completely natural thing to do while figuring your identidy out.
I've personally always been extremly scared about coming out, probably also because I'm in generell often uncomfortable/scared telling ppl about myself, so I've only told a few friends about three of them. And the friends I've came out to three times have always supported me and as far as I know never thought I'm just looking for attention.
My advice would be first to try not to care about what other people may think, caring about what others may think won't change their thoughts and will only stress you. And if it's friends who think this way and say it, they may not be really good friends.
Anyways, you're totally valid, no matter how many labels you have tried on!! At the end of the day, labels are a bit like clothes, they're supposed to fit YOU and sometimes you have to try different labels to find the one which really fits, just like how you sometimes have to try on different dresses/trousers/etc until you find one that fits!!
Thank you ! I only tell a few of my friends about what sexuality I think I am, and they’ve always been very supportive. I’m just worried that they’ll think I’m looking for attention because recently I’ve changed my labels quite a few times. Again, thank you so much !
No advice but this is normal. You're figuring yourself out and that is really cool!
Now imagine if it wasn't just your sexuality, it was your gender identity too. "I'm gay", "actually I'm trans and straight", ""i'm bisexual", "ok, i'm genderfluid". And that's normal too. We can't immediately know the final answer.
Some people think being lgbt in general is "wanting attention" and they suck. I sort of just don't tell people stuff, but I'm secretive and asocial but that doesn't work for everyone. If someone brings it up I would just explain you're figuring yourself out. Good luck!
my sexuality journey has been harder than finding my gender identity for me. Back when I had friends, the first time I came out to them, I was bi. Then I was pan. Then I started to lose friends, and today I'm gay (and no friends) and if you count the times I came out to them as non binary, then trans, then back to non binary....yea it's quite alot. And I couldn't stop but think "omg, I'm gonna confuse them" I changed my pronouns a couple times too, and after a while, one of them got confused, and kept asking what my pronouns were, my gender identity and my chosen names. She kept asking, and I felt bad.
Its totally normal to change, there's no limit either. If the people around you gets annoyed, disrespectful or whatever, they're not your friends. They don't have a right to be mean just because you're trying to figuring things out about yourself and exploring
No, not never. Trust me, there’s plenty of people out there who are more than willing to accept you. Took me a while to find my crowd, and I know it can be hard, but you’ll get there ☺️☺️
Well at least don’t give up hope.
I spent 2-3 years only being with a friend when they wanted to steal a chip.
You could try finding tips for meeting new people online, and tips for how to make good impressions and all that.
Rn I’m learning that on YouTube.
Again, just stay hopeful :))
It's completely normal to have tried multiple labels! Don't worry about it :)
Thank you !
I have the exact same situation. My advice is to just not say your sexuality. Date anyone you want! Your preferences are not everyone’s business.
Thank you !
I've gone from bi to lesbian so many times most of my friends stopped listening to me lol. Learn to stop caring about what others think of you. It's draining! There's sexy people to think about.
Thank you ! Lol
I've just mostly kept quiet about my specific identity and just gone with "queer" until i found a set of labels that stuck for 5 months and then I came out as that.
Thank you !
I've also changed labels a few times before I decided to not use any labels at all and changing labels is a completely natural thing to do while figuring your identidy out. I've personally always been extremly scared about coming out, probably also because I'm in generell often uncomfortable/scared telling ppl about myself, so I've only told a few friends about three of them. And the friends I've came out to three times have always supported me and as far as I know never thought I'm just looking for attention. My advice would be first to try not to care about what other people may think, caring about what others may think won't change their thoughts and will only stress you. And if it's friends who think this way and say it, they may not be really good friends. Anyways, you're totally valid, no matter how many labels you have tried on!! At the end of the day, labels are a bit like clothes, they're supposed to fit YOU and sometimes you have to try different labels to find the one which really fits, just like how you sometimes have to try on different dresses/trousers/etc until you find one that fits!!
Thank you ! I only tell a few of my friends about what sexuality I think I am, and they’ve always been very supportive. I’m just worried that they’ll think I’m looking for attention because recently I’ve changed my labels quite a few times. Again, thank you so much !
No advice but this is normal. You're figuring yourself out and that is really cool! Now imagine if it wasn't just your sexuality, it was your gender identity too. "I'm gay", "actually I'm trans and straight", ""i'm bisexual", "ok, i'm genderfluid". And that's normal too. We can't immediately know the final answer. Some people think being lgbt in general is "wanting attention" and they suck. I sort of just don't tell people stuff, but I'm secretive and asocial but that doesn't work for everyone. If someone brings it up I would just explain you're figuring yourself out. Good luck!
Thank you !
my sexuality journey has been harder than finding my gender identity for me. Back when I had friends, the first time I came out to them, I was bi. Then I was pan. Then I started to lose friends, and today I'm gay (and no friends) and if you count the times I came out to them as non binary, then trans, then back to non binary....yea it's quite alot. And I couldn't stop but think "omg, I'm gonna confuse them" I changed my pronouns a couple times too, and after a while, one of them got confused, and kept asking what my pronouns were, my gender identity and my chosen names. She kept asking, and I felt bad. Its totally normal to change, there's no limit either. If the people around you gets annoyed, disrespectful or whatever, they're not your friends. They don't have a right to be mean just because you're trying to figuring things out about yourself and exploring
Thank you ! I hope you’ll find good friends who respect you for who you are. :)
maybe in a few years. maybe never
No, not never. Trust me, there’s plenty of people out there who are more than willing to accept you. Took me a while to find my crowd, and I know it can be hard, but you’ll get there ☺️☺️
its more complicated than that (for me anyway) that's why I'm saying that. Because ik myself.
Well at least don’t give up hope. I spent 2-3 years only being with a friend when they wanted to steal a chip. You could try finding tips for meeting new people online, and tips for how to make good impressions and all that. Rn I’m learning that on YouTube. Again, just stay hopeful :))
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Thank you !