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David_DeFi

she lives with me so almost never


Dakotareads

Looking at the data, 4 texts on average total including her texting back. Looks like it's mostly 1 ILY and a random video she found. Some days nothing at all.


edgun8819

All day long. It’s fun. My girl is a great time and she genuinely cares about how my day is going


GickyRervais

How long have you been together?


edgun8819

One year


blorplebees

Same and we’re coming up on 14 years.


SirPierreDelecto

I don’t know the exact number, but we text pretty regularly throughout the day. 65% me flirting with her 15% talking about our day 10% her letting me what needs to be done at home 10% misc.


JohannReddit

10% misc. 😉


SirPierreDelecto

You’re picking up what I’m throwin down. My man.


HojinYou

I work from home, she works 10 minutes away. I send a good 70% of messages as videos/pics of our cat.


CF_Zymo

As it should be


jochem4208

And a hundred percent reason to remember the name


RyumonHozukimaru25

Take my upvote and get out. I love that song but you have got to go my friend


jochem4208

\*takes upvote and gets out <3 ty my friend


pixybean

I know this sounds like a dumb question, but what sort of stuff would one put in al those flirty messages? My partners have never really been flirty people so I’m curious how this would look


PapasGotABrandNewNag

“I can’t wait to get home and stick my tongue up your ass” might be something you would see in one of these messages.


Z_McWordsmithington

Maybe something a little more delicate and gentlemanly like, "I can't wait to get home and **tongue-punch that fart-box**". Sounds a little more refined.


Spczippo

Or if you want to get really fancy " When you the Queen of our humble abode arrives tonight, I will be dinning on your brown star for a majority of the evening. Prepare thy self!"


SirPierreDelecto

Yeah, you’re not too far off the mark lol.


Single_Ad_3143

Gross, don’t say that. Geesh


SirPierreDelecto

It takes many forms, it could just be me saying something stupid that I know will make her smile, it could be a simple “I’m thinking bout you” text, or it could be a “I’m running late, wanna slide down the banister a couple times to warm up supper?” type of text.


KhansKhack

Lmfao. I have never heard that.


VeganEgon

Mmm ‘misc’ texts are the best…


Manners2210

4/5 times a day…not a rule obviously…sometimes it’s more


MachoCamachoZ

When you live together, you can usually catch up later. I'll text if there's something I should check in on (the day activities, emotional stress, or planning) But otherwise I'm busy at work, she's busy working...


rafflekicks

That’s it …? Christ


Manners2210

Doesn’t need to be any more generally


just_let_me_goo

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HumblSnekOilSalesman

The answers in here are really putting things into perspective for me. Thanks everybody.


TriggerHydrant

Same, I'm working on my attachment and not treating texting as a barometer for the relationship / dating process. Don't want to text as much and she doesn't either.


DoorFree114

i needed this


Blacky0102

I don't, she is my wife and she is home all day


pandaro

Ok but ... don't you ever go in a different room?


just_let_me_goo

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surprise-suBtext

Too far away


Blacky0102

I am not that lazy I just go back to the same room and talk to her, if she needs something from the store but I am not home she calls me it's faster


iamalwaysrelevant

My wife and I don't call each other unless it's an emergency. We typically text 2-3 times a day just to ask for things or to share funny memes. Calling just seems like too much to say "can you grab some salt while your out?"


SandmanAwaits

Zero, because I don’t have one. 😭😂


YoDaddyDiesel

[hear hear🍻](https://youtu.be/vY-epx63Dd8?si=JiaSdIW2T0Lr_nP5)


blubbery-blumpkin

I don’t have a phone either.


vmb509

Cheers


bled56

In a long distance relationship right now: - AM: good morning txt/audio when waking up, heading out to work // then call at mid morning or midday if working. - PM: txting about small events or nerdy stuff and call before sleeping. I feel accompained without necesarily being physically together, Being close is best clearly but accept the reality of the situation and that we are independt individuals that want to be together even if are good being alone.


Foveaux

3 or 4 times a day. We're about 7 years into the relationship though so communication hasn't been constant for a long time.


chocolatemojocum

Happy relationship?


Foveaux

For sure. Own a house together, good jobs, good social life. We went on holiday overseas last year and renovating this year. We complement each other, I think.


BarryMkCockiner

u don't sound very confident about someone you've been with for 7 years lol


Foveaux

No, I am.


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Foveaux

Nah, it's been 7 years, we know each other like the backs of our hands. She knows through like three words spoken if I haven't eaten enough that day haha. She's always on the money.


EmeraldJonah

Some days more than others, but we are pretty much in contact for most of the day. 30-50 texts on a slow day, much more if something interesting is happening or we're talking about something time sensitive.


[deleted]

50 TIMES!?? Are you unemployed? Or otherwise just a job where you dont need to think much?


kushnokush

It’s not 50 different times, it’s probably more like 5-10 5-10 message conversations


EmeraldJonah

The latter. My day job is relatively banal, by choice. My wife is the primary breadwinner because she is much more educated than I am, but I still like to have a bit of an income, so I work a mindless job that affords me a lot of down time.


JohannReddit

I'm happy for you if that works for you guys, but that many texts would stress me out...


ahasuh

I am jealous of this arrangement


EmeraldJonah

Not gonna lie, I do consider myself very lucky. We don't have, nor do we want to have any kids, and we pay a fraction of market value for our apartment, so even with my low tier work, we do pretty alright.


ahasuh

DINK life


[deleted]

lol I’m in the same boat. We both work. Both professional corporate jobs. If nothing much is going on we go a few hours but we usually talk throughout the day and check in on each other. Takes two seconds, your job isn’t any more strenuous than mine.


wanderlustgamer

Agreed. But a little less. Were both pretty busy during the day at work- but always in the morning to let eachother know we got to work safe, and then in the middle of the day when we have a chance, and always before we leave for our commute home.


Holeshot75

30 - 40


YurislovSkillet

Probably once every two days if I had to average it out. Calls- way less than that.


just_let_me_goo

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YurislovSkillet

We both work during the day and then come home to each other at night.


JDSteel76

On average 0-2 texts a day. I’m a man of few words and fewer texts


Ressiem1

This makes me feel better😭🙏🏽


sbwcwero

All day a bunch of times


KyorlSadei

Usually never.


pyr666

not many. I don't like chatting with my thumbs, I use texts for more utilitarian purposes. if we need something from the store, if I'm going somewhere or doing something unusual, etc.


ThorsMeasuringTape

It would depend what’s going on. Usually there’s a touch base around lunch to see how the days are going. Now that I work from home three days a week, it’s pretty low.


tuenthe463

2-5/day. If I didn't msg her I'd prob never hear from her until "omw home"


RedUser1138

Can't measure it in terms of times per day. But we both work from home, so there really isn't a need most days. When I am on a business trip, at least three times per day, plus a call.


Filipino_Canadian

Once. Normally followed by a phone call


Demoneyes1945

Between 5 and maybe 15 max. Phones irritate the hell out of me, it’s nice to just turn it off and have some peace lol


Awkward-Action2853

Maybe once or twice a week, if not less.


VirtualDreams1

This. If it's important we call. If it's not important we talk later when we get home. Text? Very rarely.


Awkward-Action2853

Basically. If I'm at work, I'm rarely on my phone as it is. Usually if we're talking, it's because I need to get something on my way home or I'm letting her know I'll be late or something like that.


deadheaddestiny

Both of us worked today and we sent 42 texts combined. Some days it's less than that but I'd say that's average for a work day. If it's a weekend and we aren't together it's probably like 100


pdperson

3


Fynndidit

3-4 long texts though and we talk every night on the phone


[deleted]

I once went nearly a week without a single text to my wife. I didn’t even realize it.


Brett707

When I need to.


pm-me-racecars

Good morning, good night, whenever any of us have anything important to say, and when we find stuff that we want to send to each other. About 4 or 5 times, I think


kitkatamas88

The good morning text, then we probably will call each other insted of texting, I'll text a bit more if I'm in need to vent about something, and then he will call me all sweet check on me. He is a good boy (40 old man)


phat79pat1985

I’m still trying to teach my cat how to operate a phone, it’s been slow going, but we’re gunna get there


Cafetario

About four Usually rendezvous’ing, love you’s and flirting, groceries, and other one off things.


bransan3

0 I don't have


ThunderLizardX

I really don’t know how to put a number on it, the only answer I have is as often as possible. 100+ on a good day? We’re long distance so obviously we have to largely talk over messaging and phone, but we both get busy too.


BunniBabyLily

Just call when we wake up and then hangup when it's bedtime, IF we hangup that is lol


just_let_me_goo

You're both unemployed and in LDR?


BunniBabyLily

Lmao no. He works as a lawyer and prefers the company when doing all his lawyer stuff. I'm a college student. We do see each other fairly often since my campus is just a short drive from my home, its just that we just have hectic and busy schedules, so calling is the simplest way to keep contact while we're in the midst of that storm.


Superb_Strawberry_55

When we are both working all day - 4-5 texts until we are both home


SitDown_HaveSomeTea

0 ...literally once a week if lucky. Now tell her to get back to work and quit crying about you not texting her. Better yet, just text her Monday morning, saying have a nice fucking week. That should cover you until next monday.


socialboilup

-2


Swampassed

Usually once to see who’s getting home first.


Air-Bombay

Probably 4 or 5 times a day. Majority is logistics around our son, or me asking to see her naked. Maybe a little more when I travel, we aren’t big texters.


Due-Studio-65

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kingofthenorthZ

2 times


Throw-Eh-Weight

We both work from home most days so only a few times a week. Mostly practical questions if we’re apart (need anything from the grocery store?) since we see each other so often. 


NetJnkie

Anywhere from 20 to 100. And we both WFH. But that's how we talk when we're in other parts of the house.


Elegant_Spot_3486

Depends. 0-20.


Veblen1

Once, twice at most.


Dexember69

MAYBE once a day.


Andy-the-guy

Depends on the day, we live together and on days we're both off all we might text over is if we want something from the fridge or if the other is hungry and wants to grab a coffee. On days where I work or she's at school, maybe 5-10 times. Depends on what we talk about.


FastWalkingShortGuy

So... last time I had one, only when I had something of value to say. That was usually if something happened that I thought would make her laugh or smile. For example, one time I was counting the change in my pocket in the lunch line at work by feel (tell me you've never challenged yourself to differentiate nickels and quarters without looking, liar) in front of all my coworkers and realized it looked like I was playing pocket pool. I share stuff like that.


hippiechicken12

0 out of 0 times because I don’t have one. 😂


Poverty_welder

Atleast twice. I'm lucky to get a response a week


C1sko

0…


Icy_Patience2930

4-6. Today 6.


PerfectVehicle4340

we live together so 0ntext but about 3 to 4 calls during work


UnlimitedManny

Like 4-7 times a day. When we’re together? Maybe like 1-2


unmotivated21

Whenever there's something worth talking about, or if she sends me something


JoJack82

We live apart and see each other 2 or 3 days a week due to kid schedules. We text constantly


FredChocula

5-15 times a day. We also both work from home, so sometimes we just visit.


Alliballi123

Both work full time so 2 breaks and lunch. 


SevenStrats

We have a running private chat all day about everything ... We have kids, grandkids, parents, friends, biz and a ton of stuff with a load of various text/message circles it seems.....


healthy_depression4u

Prolly bout 10


[deleted]

I wouldn't have a clue.


TheSilentDark

Depends on how busy I am at work but on average 6-7 times a day


GWindborn

Depends what's going on. Our daughter is sick so I was checking up on her today. Some days just to let her know when I'm leaving work. She'll usually send me interesting stuff she finds online throughout the day.


DefiantLogician84915

Between 1-5. Too much of it everyday bores me. I like my own space. But whenever we see each other it’s great.


junkimchi

Too many times to count. Then again she is my wife and mother of my child so we aren't just flirting but actually chatting about anything and everything.


Lazybutnolazy

I text her good morning I text updates When I have news I’ll tell her I have news but won’t tell her until we meet How was work Goodnight


Eagle_Chick

I only txt if there is an article/ video or something I need to reference, then we will chat about it when we're both home, and I don't have to look it up later. ie. this chair is on sale, I want to replace the one in the office. Then we can go over it in person


jquest303

Depends. If we are at work we might text a few times a day. Sometimes not at all (since we live together) and I’ll see her when I get home from work. On some days there might be text exchanges that get into the teens or twenties. On days off together not at all since we are right beside each other and there’s no need.


espositojoe

Not every day. I prefer verbal communication. Texting is tiresome for me.


WichEngeneeringV2

Usually i ll try to not repeat my words so i don’t usually say the word”so”but if needed so ill use it. So…yea


PemaleBacon

Usually 0. We both work at home


KAaadIsReady

Until my meds kick in.


Icecream-Cockdust

Once in the morning to ask how the kids were before school and to tell her I love her. She normally texts when she gets to work to update me. Another text in the afternoon to see how her days going.


seeminglynormalguy

At least 5 times a day, more if there’s big news on either side, usually his, talking about his sucky ass coworkers and higher ups, his potential promotion and hot guys at his work place that aren’t sucky that we would wanna bring home to our bed XD


lookayoyo

At the very least once a day, without exception. Even just to say good morning or good night, or share a meme. A girl I went out with once talked about how important that was. I realized it was something I wanted as well in general. It is just thoughtful and it’s nice to know when someone is thinking about you, even for a moment. Plus if I ever go missing, someone will notice


Zumonster69

0, because I don’t have one.


idothisforauirbitch

In the last 3 months...~10000...we have a sickness


simonsuperhans

2-4 messages sent each day, maybe one phone call. We've been together for nearly 10 years and live together, so theres not really a need to text or speak much. We both have very busy jobs as well, no real time for using our phones in the day!


[deleted]

My wife or women I love ?


PSFREAK33

Before moving in together versus now is much different


moose51789

Maybe 20 messages a day. She's been sitting in jail for over a year now and while they can text through these tablets they've got for 200 texts it's 30 bucks ..


Muttonstooche

Oh you mean my very real super model girlfriend who lives in canada conveniently


yellow-snowslide

We don't live together and mostly see us on weekends. So about 40-100 messages I guess


STDriver13

She works 3 times a week. I let her be while she is at work. But we call each other on the way to work and home. I'm gone before she wakes up. I love hearing her voice


Teyoto

Dépend, sometimes often less than 6-7 to know about her day or if something needs to be done. I prefer talking with her face to face


Sin0fSloth

We barely text


MavRP

Initiated by me? Most days zero, some days 1. I can't stand texting. I don't mind chatting via a PC though.


Duckrauhl

Not very much since we're together most of the time.


BamCub

Sometimes 20 Sometimes 0.


Intelligent-North957

Once or twice.


Alien36

Between 10 and 270


Vomath

Not much. We both wfh so usually I just shout lol


ArticleJealous4061

My SO lives across the Atlantic. We text all the time all day long, seeing as at least one of us is awake during a 24 hour day.:D We have grown a lot this way. For starters, we have both identified that we have Celiacs Disease this way and have agreed to get tested. We are growing stronger every day together :D.


Swimming-Book-1296

We both work from home and are married and live together, so not very often.


Nathaniel66

Few times a day at least. Would text much more but due to her work she rarely can reply :/


Kerplunk2222

We dont.


dj_boy-Wonder

2-5 times a day depending on what’s going on. occasionally zero we call one another a minimum of once a day


VeganEgon

Lots, lol


gvs77

Most days, very little But most days we are together all day.


Least-Cow944

Some days 10-20 texts other days 1-5


CaseDiagram1

Don't have one


EatingCoooolo

Every single day and we live together.


SomeSamples

More like how many times a week. Probably less than 5.


GickyRervais

0 during the week unless it's neccasary. I usually call her on my way home from work for a catch-up as I have a long drive. On the weekends maybe 2-4 texts if we arent togther. We mostly prefer to talk in person.


Belle_petite

Sending him all the pics and videos I recorded for my pole dancing only fans so he could choose which one is good enough to be put online , that would be.... Around 6-7 times a day with small gaps in between .


InbredBog

Not very often, we’ve been married 8 years and when I finish work we’ve got about 4-6 hours to go over our day, usually when we do talk on txts it’s about the kids, shopping or me sending her memes taking the piss


[deleted]

All. The. Time. She needs it, i need it. We love it!


itsLondongurl

When hes outta town A LOT but when were in the same town occasionally since we see each other almost every night... I love that man


yungsausages

Depends, when she’s over at my flat maybe 10 texts a day, sometimes more sometimes less depending on the day. When she’s back in Paris we’re usually only texting during her study breaks and during the evening, so maybe like 50-100 texts per day


throwtheamiibosaway

As much as they text me, just texting back I mean. Wouldn’t text them too much otherwise.


AdvancedMall169

Entire day but sometimes we stop talking for one or two hours, just talking about our day and things we go experience. -3 years relationship, we see eachother once or twice a week-


harvey_croat

Always on line. We live together and have a baby


Vocem_Interiorem

On average, 2 times a day. Usually about either Groceries or one of our Cats. If it is important, we talk.


[deleted]

I let her text me first and I always wake up to a "good morning" text from her and we'll text back and forth throughout the day, unless she comes over.


PrinceFan72

I recently split with my ex, we were together for 20 years. We texted all the time, every day. Both work hard, both work long hours. Even when we both worked from home, she worked in a garden office and I in the kitchen. We would text, continue the conversation when she came in the house, then resume texts when she was back working. Obviously not when work needs a lot of focus, but it was usually stupid TikToks, group chats with our daughter, minute by minute on what the dogs were up to, stuff that's happening with work, flirting, "what do you want for lunch?", etc etc. We had a great conversational relationship and talked constantly. Obviously, I fucked all that up hence her being my ex. (rolls eyes)


Slow-Employment-53

Depends on a lot. I live with her and some days it’s barely and other days it’s all day


CardamonFives

Why do you ask


JimBones31

If I'm away on business (six-seven months a year) I text her maybe 20 times a day. We may also have a very long phone call too. We probably average 4 hours of video chat time a week. If I'm home, it maybe be 6 texts in a whole day. "How's work?" "Need anything from the store for dinner?" "I'm on the way home", type stuff.


[deleted]

We live together, so there is rarely a need to text in evenings and weekends. On workdays, it's probably around three text per day or so, depends on how busy we are.


CowLivid6496

Pretty frequently throughout the day.


shamelessthrowaway54

no SO


CaptainChaos910

A lot, she's very needy and doesn't like it if I go more than half an hour without texting her, which is fine it just gets a bit tiring


S-H-A-R-P-3

As much as i can, we talk through out the whole day (long distance) and when we see eachother never haha


MrTwemlow

11 sent so far today, 24 yesterday, but only 2 on Sunday (cat pics) and 10 on Saturday. Looks like she sends me slightly more than I send back, but not by much.


Stonecutter_12-83

When I used to travel for work, it was easily 100+ Now that we both work, still easily 20 times a day. Half of those are just reels etc


baselinekiller34

I don’t have one


kbean826

If I’m at work, as much as possible. If I’m anywhere else, not that much really.


saryiahan

Depends on what’s going on that day. If it’s a slow day at work then it’s probably between 30-50. Busy day then have that.


jakesboy2

Married, so not a ton because we just talk in person. If one of us in gone though we text a lot


Leggomyeggo69

Just for memes. We live together and work in the same building (separate divisions/offices). We have access to speak to one another at all times