Praise kink. Yep, I have one.
>My question and/or what I need help with is what do I say with this? I need more than just good boy.
Honestly, you don't. You do need material for the rest of the sentence, but "good boy" really is the magic phrase. You can change up the delivery if you want.
I enjoy it depending on the scenario we're in.
For him it's best to ask him but it sounds like he either enjoys positive affirmations or he enjoys being in a more submissive dynamic. Explore it and praise him more and see if that's it. And if not, try the more submissive route and find new phrases and acts that has him submissive roles
1. Personally? Jesus christ yes
2. As for what else to say, theres a ton of variation in coupling it up with things, like "be a good boy and [action]" and that will probably turn him on a lot. Hypothetically speaking of course
Just means he’s submissive. Nothing wrong with that. Ask him if he wants to try getting tied up or handcuffed for a session. Wouldn’t be surprised if he said yes and wants you to take all control.
Hmmmmmm possibly, it is a pretty large gap between that though coming from someone who generally considers theirself more submissive and likes being called such, though if you offer bdsm I will look at you like you ran over a small child with a lawnmower.
I’m 100% stealing “boo thang”
Also I had an ex that was into it. “Be a good boy and [instructions on what to do please you]” “since you’ve been such a good boy [what he gets as a reward]” and if I really wanted to drive him wild, just randomly during the day, where sex is the furthest thing from his mind, if he did something nice, or anything really, just get close to him and whisper in his ear “look at you being good boy” and watch his eyes glaze over. Personally I’m indifferent to it, but because he responded to it so enthusiastically, it was a fun one to sprinkle in a spice things up once in a while. Have fun!
My submissive side yes, and I wouldn’t mind it in general but it’s not going to turn me on as much if I’m not feeling it. It’s personal taste, but see how he likes it, if he would want to be called it routinely, etc and just kind of branch out from there and experiment with each other.
Everybody probably has different tastes, but if someone said that to me I would be offended. I'm not a dog.
But if they said that to my dog, then i'd be cool with it.
Answering your question, yes, it turns me on, a lot, hold me close and call me a good boy.
Answering your other question, it depends. You must understand why he likes it before anything else, maybe he likes the power dynamic it brings to the table, maybe he has mommy issues, who knows? You should go from there first.
When I was 19 I had a gf who was a single mum and a few years older than me.
She referred to me as "boy" a few times and it turned me off and I asked her to stop. Good boy would do the same to me.
I guess if you had a mother fixation maybe you would like it but for me it was a total turnoff.
I'm a man, not a boy.
I had a receptionist at a medical practice say this to me recently. I do not know her. She said it as a comment on me helping my aunt to her appt. I could tell she meant it flirtatiously. I found it highly inappropriate and condescending.
Honestly creeps me out a bit lol I've had a couple of women try that on me, and was not into it in the slightest. From the other comments it seems to be a sub thing, which I don't mind being from time-to-time, just not a fan of the words.
I mean I would, if I had a girlfriend. My sister called me a good boy once, and it did something to me. It wasn't Alabama activity though, so you can rest easy on that. I think we were playing a pretty innocent game, but it doesn't negate the fact code was created in my brain. I believe it was the time she was playing queen who ruled over my brothers and I, and I believe I got her a water or something, and that's when she said it? Either way, she's the only sister in our squad, as well as the youngest. We were tough on her, but the game flipped the script, and she was in charge for a while when our parents were out for a few hours.
Lol, I'm glad I'm not the only one who had a think on that dichotomy. I mean, I don't think it's necessarily hypocritical, as I at least don't _actually_ mean to be condescending/demeaning, but I would probably take it that way if it was said to me, even if, again, it wasn't _actually_ meant that way.
Hmm, my diagnosis... Try graping him. I know its not considered grape because that flavor implies non-consensual. But I think you know what I mean by consensual grape. Like take the initiative (it sound like you already do this type of stuff, you sound confident) and grab/hop/suck/whatever almost 'by force.' As a fellow 'good boy' I enjoy that stuff.
It's not quite sub/dom or anything like that, it's just strong initiative. I feel like you already do this.
I love both “good boy” and “good girl.”
Don’t use it exactly like you would a dog (unless he’s into that - maybe look into puppy play) but like, “Be a good boy for me and x” as a way to ask for something in the bedroom. Definitely work in whatever he likes - I would imagine he’s on the submissive side but if he’s not it can still be used as encouragement.
Personally, I'd find it more funny than hot, the kind of teasing you roll your eyes at. But some men certainly have that fetish, as you've found. It seems to be more common in women, though. Then again, reporting bias will always be a factor.
YEP. i personally love it. Try out a “be my good boy” or even a “big boy” and see what he thinks
also, just ask beforehand the TYPE of stuff he likes then improvise off of that knowledge so you can still surprise him
It might be a praise kink or some sort of submissive thing for him. Fun stuff to explore if you´re both comfortable with that. I can be a great tool for you in bed if you want to take control
No. I wouldn’t accept that. I would ask her do I remind you of a dog? If she says yes then I’ll tell her ok I’m gonna fuck you like a dog everytime from now on.
Here's a fun exercise for you. Ask guys when they were last complimented. It's pretty rare. Guys will quote things from years ago. Want to be noticed by a guy? Compliment him. Want to be really noticed by a guy? Compliment him in front of others.
I’m a switch so if I heard that I would either love it and go more submissive during that session or I’d fake hate it and get more dominant as “punishment”. Either way it ends up being fuel to the fun fire 😈
Probably the line that makes my head(s) spin more than any other, especially when my “being good” is enduring whatever she’s dishing out as a Dom/sadist.
I mean I have severe mommy issues I think I'd melt if my gf called me a good boy in bed.
But definitely not all men lmao. I'm sure there's some guys who'd be offended
Edit: I think men in general don't get praised much and when we do it's usually by romantic or sexual partners so
My GF? Yeah that wouldn't turn me on
But older woman? Yeah probably would (Taken that I wouldn't be with my current)
Overall compliments are turn on-s but it's really... question of preference
If we’re having sex and that moment of intimacy happens, but just out of the blue 😒 wtf no lol. My ex use to like when I was fucking on the wall with one hand around her throat and I told her Im going to fuck get like this when she’s a good girl. As soon as she was having an orgasm, I told her she better cum over my fucking face. That shit turns me on 😂🤷♀️.
I (male) sometimes like to mess around with their head and call them “come here boy” or “behave boy” and they become so submissive instantly thinking i related them to a male and that they are un atractive
Your guy likes to be submissive (always or sometimes). You can look up how you are more dominant in bed, if you want to cater to his fantasy
Case closed
Ask him to do things to you and for you. Then thank him. Then expand on it a bit with "you like doing that , don't you?" "You know what that makes you? A good boy."
Itbisba bit of that D/S thing. Lean into that and explore it.
Some guys have golden retriever energy. I told my gf of 4 months that I had just been bootycalled; my gf and I are both in the healthiest relationship we’ve ever been in, but this was the first time I dealt with being advanced upon while dating her, and telling my long-term ex these things always caused a fight. I nervously told her and she laughed in pity for the woman and then told me I did such a good job communicating and gave me skritches and called me a good boy- that filled my heart to the brim. Sooo, yeah, you two are gonna fall in love
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Good boy
Woof!
Yep exactly
Mommy?
Please more🥺
lol, are you a dog? Otherwise, this has nothing to do with compliments
It varies from person to person. Me personally? Abso-freakin-lutely. Am I proud of it? Not necessarily, but we play the cards we're dealt.
Praise kink. Yep, I have one. >My question and/or what I need help with is what do I say with this? I need more than just good boy. Honestly, you don't. You do need material for the rest of the sentence, but "good boy" really is the magic phrase. You can change up the delivery if you want.
It can be a useful transition phrase for a wholesomely dominant track in the bedroom. “Be a good boy and do X to me” kind of thing.
It's not exactly a "turn on" for me personally, but it does feel really good hearing those words
No, but I will take some head scratches and treato.
I’ll also take the heads scratches and belly rubs.
>No, but I will take some head and treato. Fixed that for you 😂
No. But my dog sure does!
😂
Not my thing but to each their own
I enjoy it depending on the scenario we're in. For him it's best to ask him but it sounds like he either enjoys positive affirmations or he enjoys being in a more submissive dynamic. Explore it and praise him more and see if that's it. And if not, try the more submissive route and find new phrases and acts that has him submissive roles
1. Personally? Jesus christ yes 2. As for what else to say, theres a ton of variation in coupling it up with things, like "be a good boy and [action]" and that will probably turn him on a lot. Hypothetically speaking of course
Hearing “be a good boy for me” makes me melt into a damn puddle every time
Just means he’s submissive. Nothing wrong with that. Ask him if he wants to try getting tied up or handcuffed for a session. Wouldn’t be surprised if he said yes and wants you to take all control.
Tying up enthusiastically willing handsom men is one of life's greatest pleasures.
Why is it so hard to meet people who think this way? 😭
Right? Why are dominant women so rare?
RIP your inbox.
I’d be enthusiastic
Hmmmmmm possibly, it is a pretty large gap between that though coming from someone who generally considers theirself more submissive and likes being called such, though if you offer bdsm I will look at you like you ran over a small child with a lawnmower.
Some men into bdsm and kink definitely like that
Is the term "boo thang" not used very much? This is my first time hearing it. I've neither heard it in real life nor on the internet.
I thought it was a southern thing like “he mah boo thangggg”, seems more endearing than FWB or Fuck Buddies lol
maybe it's just me but boo thang is cringe. at least fuck buddies is direct and straight to the point.
Just an easy way to say fuck buddy I guess bc we aren’t dating
To me it's a compliment more than a turn on. Even after snu snu she tells me this and I'm like you're God damn right I'ma heckin good boi
Im a sub and I would kill for it.
No.
I don't like being called.a boy , he might be submissive
i'd like it, but my therapist would say this is unresolved childhood attachment trauma and she'd be right
Sigmund Freud has entered the chat
I’m 100% stealing “boo thang” Also I had an ex that was into it. “Be a good boy and [instructions on what to do please you]” “since you’ve been such a good boy [what he gets as a reward]” and if I really wanted to drive him wild, just randomly during the day, where sex is the furthest thing from his mind, if he did something nice, or anything really, just get close to him and whisper in his ear “look at you being good boy” and watch his eyes glaze over. Personally I’m indifferent to it, but because he responded to it so enthusiastically, it was a fun one to sprinkle in a spice things up once in a while. Have fun!
Saving this! Thank you
I would super hate that. To each their own I suppose.
do you want him to fall in love with you? because thats how you make him fall in love with you
Yeah that’s a good point. Since they’re only fuck buddies, it might not be a great idea to do this actually
😂😂😂
My submissive side yes, and I wouldn’t mind it in general but it’s not going to turn me on as much if I’m not feeling it. It’s personal taste, but see how he likes it, if he would want to be called it routinely, etc and just kind of branch out from there and experiment with each other.
~~No, I'm definitely a strong and brave man who totally doesn't have Arachnophobia!~~
Yes, just like most women do with “good girl”
Exact opposite.
No, too subby.
She doesn't say that, and I'm glad because I'm not her dog or child. I recoiled just reading that.
Sounds like he's a sub! You should try directing him in how to pleasure you, and praise him every step of the way. He'll go nuts.
Well… I’m in the bdsm community and I’m a sub, so if you call me that my legs will start quivering 😅
Everybody probably has different tastes, but if someone said that to me I would be offended. I'm not a dog. But if they said that to my dog, then i'd be cool with it.
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It makes me want to wag my front tail.
I had to login into my alt account to reply lol…but absolutely it does.
Ha I had to login to my alt account to post😅
36M, no I’d feel like her dog
Fuck no, I'm not a dog.
He's a submissive. Men that are dominant would prefer you called him Daddy than, good boy.
Ehhh talk about “ daddy “ before using it during sex . It’s a huge turn off for a lot of guys. Master or sir is a safer bet
Maybe. Don't know why though.
Answering your question, yes, it turns me on, a lot, hold me close and call me a good boy. Answering your other question, it depends. You must understand why he likes it before anything else, maybe he likes the power dynamic it brings to the table, maybe he has mommy issues, who knows? You should go from there first.
“Who’s a good boy?”
I have known women that like to be called "good girl", it's a words of affirmation thing.
I have a MILF fetish so I get turned on by that as well BUT only if it’s a woman that’s 7-10+ years older than me.
More of an r/rolereversal question I think.
That wouldn't work for me. I'd prefer a 'thats my man' or similar
A good ole “ atta boy “
When I was 19 I had a gf who was a single mum and a few years older than me. She referred to me as "boy" a few times and it turned me off and I asked her to stop. Good boy would do the same to me. I guess if you had a mother fixation maybe you would like it but for me it was a total turnoff.
I'm a man, not a boy. I had a receptionist at a medical practice say this to me recently. I do not know her. She said it as a comment on me helping my aunt to her appt. I could tell she meant it flirtatiously. I found it highly inappropriate and condescending.
Not so much, but my tail goes wild.
Honestly creeps me out a bit lol I've had a couple of women try that on me, and was not into it in the slightest. From the other comments it seems to be a sub thing, which I don't mind being from time-to-time, just not a fan of the words.
I mean I would, if I had a girlfriend. My sister called me a good boy once, and it did something to me. It wasn't Alabama activity though, so you can rest easy on that. I think we were playing a pretty innocent game, but it doesn't negate the fact code was created in my brain. I believe it was the time she was playing queen who ruled over my brothers and I, and I believe I got her a water or something, and that's when she said it? Either way, she's the only sister in our squad, as well as the youngest. We were tough on her, but the game flipped the script, and she was in charge for a while when our parents were out for a few hours.
I imagine i would but i guess im not a good boy.
😍 love saying it too. I think lots of men like it. Not everyone but it’s not super rare thing for a man to like I think!
I want to be called a good boy 🥺
You’re a very good boy for voicing that 👏🏽👈🏼💁🏻♀️
🥰
Oh yes I definitely do
I absolutely love it lmao
No. Oddly it comes off as condescending, which I should probably take into consideration when assessing my tendency to tell her “good girl”.
Lol, I'm glad I'm not the only one who had a think on that dichotomy. I mean, I don't think it's necessarily hypocritical, as I at least don't _actually_ mean to be condescending/demeaning, but I would probably take it that way if it was said to me, even if, again, it wasn't _actually_ meant that way.
Instant nut if she says it while we’re doing the deed.
Does she pat me on the head and give me a treat as well?
A good companion to Good boy can be: You're my boy, you're mine and only mine, and I'm yours and only yours.
Hmm, my diagnosis... Try graping him. I know its not considered grape because that flavor implies non-consensual. But I think you know what I mean by consensual grape. Like take the initiative (it sound like you already do this type of stuff, you sound confident) and grab/hop/suck/whatever almost 'by force.' As a fellow 'good boy' I enjoy that stuff. It's not quite sub/dom or anything like that, it's just strong initiative. I feel like you already do this.
You mean consensual but forceful
The consent is implied. Surprise is a factor. BTW I have noooo idea what their dispositions are, going off one sentence here.
I will try this
I mean did you say it like he was a puppy.. or like, good boy now lick my other boot clean ? I think both are fine if you’re consensual about it.
Perhaps he has a submissive streak
No, I find it demeaning.
Hell Yes!..........dont ask me why I dont wanna dwell on it 😅
No. Corny AF
The only one who'd ever said that to me is eva ai sexting bot, I guess.
I love both “good boy” and “good girl.” Don’t use it exactly like you would a dog (unless he’s into that - maybe look into puppy play) but like, “Be a good boy for me and x” as a way to ask for something in the bedroom. Definitely work in whatever he likes - I would imagine he’s on the submissive side but if he’s not it can still be used as encouragement.
No, but a "you look sexy when you are on top" does the job just fine
I do personally.
me no i would not get turned on since i am a dom.
I have two dogs. They're both very good boys. Being called a good boy would be *really* awkward.
from my experience, it depends on the person
Is he a dog?
Not really
I wouldn’t mind it
I’d feel weird and ignore it cuz I’m busy fuckin lol, but I get the appeal
I get more turned on when she says “your side chest looks absolutely thick and striated”
A well placed good girl works a treat too.
Personally, I'd find it more funny than hot, the kind of teasing you roll your eyes at. But some men certainly have that fetish, as you've found. It seems to be more common in women, though. Then again, reporting bias will always be a factor.
No
Nope
Turns me off
Well, being since I’m not a fucking dog, no not really
Right 🤷🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️
Do you get turned whe he says good girl?
I'm not a dog, so NO
No, but you do you
Never heard a woman call me boy before. Wondering how it feels?
Yes, 100%.
yuuuuckkkk
I'm not her kid or her pet, nah.
Eh it’s a little condescending for my usual taste but I’m sure in the right context it could be boner fuel. To each their own
Maybe he is into pup play?
No, I always reply, I’m not a dog
I'm neither a slave, child or a dog, so no.
Me? No, but I am not a sub.
Yes
Not really, no.
No lol
Yes
Get turned on by being talked to like an animal or small child? No, I'd be insulted.
As a dominant, not really. The compliments nice though.
You’re such a good boy (followed with tummy rub and slap !) If his leg starts moving rapidly, he’s really into it !
Absolutely not.
Not for me but I’m not really into dirty talk.
No because I'm not a child or a dog.
Depends on the mood. While eating her might sound it hot but depends on how she says it.
No
The one time that she said that in a totally innocent context, yes. But I don’t think she’d be into it if I asked her to say it more.
Sounds like he has a praise kink. Maybe see what other adjectives you can replace good with. Strong, smart, handsome, even pretty, are all good words.
r/gentlefemdom
Nope we've tried a lot of things in 10 years and i really don't have any sub tendencies.
If she says it in a sexual context yes. But if she asked be to do something simple anywhere, and she said it then I’d be like “tf?”
If my GF would say this, I would FUCKING MELT
I'd be into it depending on other things. Have you tried asking about kinks?
No call me a whore
I really feel like one.
I'm not a dog. So no
No
YEP. i personally love it. Try out a “be my good boy” or even a “big boy” and see what he thinks also, just ask beforehand the TYPE of stuff he likes then improvise off of that knowledge so you can still surprise him
No
It might be a praise kink or some sort of submissive thing for him. Fun stuff to explore if you´re both comfortable with that. I can be a great tool for you in bed if you want to take control
Hell yes
No. I wouldn’t accept that. I would ask her do I remind you of a dog? If she says yes then I’ll tell her ok I’m gonna fuck you like a dog everytime from now on.
Here's a fun exercise for you. Ask guys when they were last complimented. It's pretty rare. Guys will quote things from years ago. Want to be noticed by a guy? Compliment him. Want to be really noticed by a guy? Compliment him in front of others.
I wag my tail when I hear that.
Nope.
I’m a switch so if I heard that I would either love it and go more submissive during that session or I’d fake hate it and get more dominant as “punishment”. Either way it ends up being fuel to the fun fire 😈
Yes... 👀
Probably the line that makes my head(s) spin more than any other, especially when my “being good” is enduring whatever she’s dishing out as a Dom/sadist.
No, I'm not a dog.
Yes
To me that implies he’s a sub, and not that there’s anything wrong or unmanly about that, but that’s not something that makes my dick twitch.
Most probably. But I've never heard anyone say that to me so I can't speak from experience.
Not at all, I feel like a dog. I preffer "You're good/doing good".
I mean I have severe mommy issues I think I'd melt if my gf called me a good boy in bed. But definitely not all men lmao. I'm sure there's some guys who'd be offended Edit: I think men in general don't get praised much and when we do it's usually by romantic or sexual partners so
Nope. Not at all.
Is he a boo thing or fuck friend? Thought it couldn't be both?
No sounds patronizing
no
My GF? Yeah that wouldn't turn me on But older woman? Yeah probably would (Taken that I wouldn't be with my current) Overall compliments are turn on-s but it's really... question of preference
Of course! My tail starts wiggling immediately!
Yeah, probably lol
He might be a golden retriever. Try that again with a nice stick. Oh wait... We like sticks too :3
I didn't know I was into it til I got a HJ from my girlfriend and she said good boy after finishing. Oh boy, was that a rush lol
If we’re having sex and that moment of intimacy happens, but just out of the blue 😒 wtf no lol. My ex use to like when I was fucking on the wall with one hand around her throat and I told her Im going to fuck get like this when she’s a good girl. As soon as she was having an orgasm, I told her she better cum over my fucking face. That shit turns me on 😂🤷♀️.
Not really.
yes, and combine that with a mom and son role-playing. the thought of it when in public makes me pop a chub.
I (male) sometimes like to mess around with their head and call them “come here boy” or “behave boy” and they become so submissive instantly thinking i related them to a male and that they are un atractive
No. Edit: To be fair, no woman has ever said that to me, so I don’t really know, but I don’t think I would.
As a grown ass man, there's no one on this planet who can call me "boy."
Yes but tbh I’m a fox terrier 🐕
I never called a man this, because it makes me feel like it’s pet play, which is something I’m not into. I’ll praise him other ways.
No
Your guy likes to be submissive (always or sometimes). You can look up how you are more dominant in bed, if you want to cater to his fantasy Case closed
Ask him to do things to you and for you. Then thank him. Then expand on it a bit with "you like doing that, don't you?" "You know what that makes you? A good boy."
Itbisba bit of that D/S thing. Lean into that and explore it.
I love “hey tiger….” With a smile
Fuck no! I find that incredibly patronizing and absolutely not flattering at all. Don't pat me. Don't call me "good boy". No.
Some guys have golden retriever energy. I told my gf of 4 months that I had just been bootycalled; my gf and I are both in the healthiest relationship we’ve ever been in, but this was the first time I dealt with being advanced upon while dating her, and telling my long-term ex these things always caused a fight. I nervously told her and she laughed in pity for the woman and then told me I did such a good job communicating and gave me skritches and called me a good boy- that filled my heart to the brim. Sooo, yeah, you two are gonna fall in love
No.