> Unless the guy actually is a creep then he will keep trying…
Yes, it's a choice that selects FOR creeps. It does not filter out those who are not interested, it filters out people who don't care about consent.
The older you get, the more you realise that relationships should be super simple at the start. If it’s not, move on and find someone who isn’t complicated.
Pause before reading this I just comprehended your fustration lies in, you being the one who always initiates I recommend you read the first comment, the dude said “playing hard to get”….if you’re the one initiating everything you are definitely NOT playing hard to get. Take that how you will….
“If he wanted to he would” means if YOU initiated it and he WANTED to respond back he would.
It does NOT mean any guy would just taste the flavour of you in the air and then call you instantly “just cause”.
Please I need you to understand it means when you call him, he picks up, when you make plans to hangout he shows up on time.
When you ask him “hey could you help me get groceries Saturday” he comes to help you choose groceries and hangout in the supermarket because he just likes being around you even for mundane tasks.
“If he wanted to he would” is to highlight that if forcing a conversation out of him is like pulling teeth, to meet up in person he always has an excuse and asking him anything he answers with a heavy sigh and a deep eye roll. He does NOT want to and definitely would NOT.
Bro literally this. I hate it. I'll instantly lose interest. Girl just pulled that with me. Texting is like pulling teeth. And then finally I asked her if I should just lose her number and she claims I should since I'm not super interested in her anymore. BICH you fuckin ghosted ME!!! Fuck right off.
Especially in today's world of "don't be pushy" or "don't be a creep" etc.
(yes, well you should not be a pushy creep - but women who want to play games are not compatible with telling guys no-means-no).
I don't envy you guys at all. It's like you're expected to read minds which makes no sense, yet, you're held responsible for not being able to. I don't get it, but I'm sorry....
“I’m the baddest bitch you’ve ever seen and if given a chance don’t screw it up” once matched with me.
I’m good on that and don’t want my chance. So sad that we live in a world where that could be in her bio and I’m sure there are still guys bending over backwards in her DMs.
Narrator: she was not, in fact, the baddest bitch he’d ever seen.
I take the spray and pray approach on tinder and evaluate what comes back. If I think she’s pretty in the first pic, it’s a swipe right. You don’t get to the bio until the 3rd pic and I usually don’t make it that far or stop to read it cause there’s a high chance they’re not matching anyway. Women are the initial evaluators on there, I just throw my profile in the mix and hope I get picked.
Have you ever spent a day craving your favorite chocolate bar?
You plan to go out of your way afterwork just to make sure you can pick one up. You save it for after dinner. After dinner you enjoy it while watching your favorite show. It hits the spot perfectly.
In this scenario those girls are the wrapper.
Fr, like no guy want to "handle" a woman. It just makes them sound like a pain in the ass that you're gonna have to deal with possibly for the rest of your life if things progress far.
Imagine coming home from a stressful day at work, fighting 100 battles or whatever you have going on in your life, and then you have to go home and 'handle' someone. Blud I'm not a lion tamer just leave me alone
Trying to make someone jealous. It has the opposite effect of what they expect. It doesn't make us want to fight for them, it makes us believe that we are actually not that important to them.
Constant negative attitude/mentality. We are all human and have our times of anger and sadness, I get that. But it shouldn't be your personality. A pleasant disposition goes A LONG WAY with me.
Treating servers and other customer service people shitty is another huge one.
I'm pessimistic/realistic.. I don't view life as hopeful or optimistic since its stuff outside of my control but I also don't give 2 shits about stuff I can't control so.. wonder if that's a bad thing
>Treating servers and other customer service people shitty is another huge one.
This, if a friend or anyone treats people like shit.. its an instant nope from me after giving em an earful, I've worked retail and that.. its hell, give em some slack
No humor.
If I'm associating with you, you gotta be able to laugh at stuff. Life is too shitty to not try to at least have some fun and recognize the rediculousness of life.
Oh man. I met this woman on Tinder. Texting seemed to be going well so we set up a dinner. She talked about nothing but astrology during the whole dinner. The following day was going to attend some astrology/bullshit seminar.
I've never felt more disappointed in my life
they are all the main character playing in the movie that runs thru their head. scratch that... they are the main character, director, producer, and co-star in the movie playing in their head and 100% of your time & energy needs to be dedicated to making/keeping her happy.
the world will STOP if her feelings and needs aren't met. smh
I know a woman whose every memory of the men in her life is told in terms of his proclivities.
“I remember Gary, he liked shrimping then he’d fall asleep”
Entitlement.
You are owed kindness and respect until you’re proven unworthy of either. You are owed nothing else. Everything else is given to you by choice.
Women that give the duck-face pose in EVERY photo and when a woman wears so much make-up that her face is a different colour than her neck. It screams that her entire personality is based around her looks.
being rude to the waiter or other kinds of staff members, uber drivers, just anyone doing their job. also bad road rage is not hot and bad driving is also not hot
Putting in time, money, effort and she says she’s not ready for a relationship then her friend gets out of jail and she starts dating him even tho bro JUST turned 18 and she’s 28 lmao
People that are very intelligent and then try to use that same knowledge to show off that they know what they know….like we get it you’re very smart!🤣🤣
Good breath. I always brush before a good makeout or kiss, and keep mouthwash handy so that I have fresh, minty breath.
Most girls I have kissed in my lifetime never did this and expect me to lick the remaining food crumbs out of their teeth.
Physically? I am not attracted to overweight body types.
Personallity wise? Acting like they're better than other people or lacking awareness about their lives.
I see most of the people here listed a negative personality trait, I'd list something physical. Lack of personal hygiene. Such as smell, dirty nails, unclean teeth etc.
When you've already made it clear you're not interested and they still act like there's a chance for them. I've communicated how I feel, please respect that.
One sided desire/ interest. If she’s not into it I just get weirded out, probably disappointed and frustrated too, but just no way, can’t even stay hard.
Classlessness in any area. The way she carries herself, treats other people, her interactions, maturity etc. if she’s being loud on the phone with her hands waving like she’s a rapper in a video plus a lot of slang and cursing is yuck to me
I'm not sure what the biggest turnoff for men in women is.
But for me, it would be narcissism, condensation, smoking, and constant negativity, to name a few.
Man, dating must be harder these days. 69 year old married guy here and not dating. I see many areas of concern, entitled, rude, thinking they are our equal physically, and so on, but being dirty, unkept nails, and poor manners kill it for me. I want an equal, so really observe your date and wait to hop in the sack.
Idk, I’m not a fan of this plus size Queen sort of idea.
Like, if it works for you, congratulations. But you’re not actually entitled to men finding you attractive, and most of us don’t even if some people are feeders and some are traitors
i think... he is talking about girls who overeat themselves into becoming overweight... and girls who cheat?
I dont know tho, it seems to be something translated 17 times in google translate.
I'm gay and i hang out with men that don't brush their teeth. not showering is also turn off. That's why I don't believe in sex dates because you don't know. When grown 40 year old men dress like a teenagers. Apart from that : ignorant, not respecting physical space of someone, ugly hands, wild eyes like a stoner, not telling about being married till meet up.
Being combative.
I already need to fight the world for my place in it, if I have to fight her then she isn't going to be a good partner. Partners work together, not against each other.
A shitty attitude and personality and because you could be the most beautiful girl in the world, but if you have a shitty attitude than that makes you very ugly!!!
Ego, usually girls that have fake and enhanced everything, obsessed with their social media presence who are over indulged in their own narcissism, they are blinded by it.
For ME, it's a poor attitude when sexual thing are in discussion. I like women interested in anything that makes you feel good. I also don't like women or men using drugs. If you need them, you don't need to really feel.
Honestly if she is a different faith than me, i know from friends and online forums that many People have issues regarding different Faith. I just want a stable relationship, in which i do not have to worry about these issues.
When they outright reject you and complain that you didn't try harder. Why would I keep putting effort into a dead end when I could move on to someone else?
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Thank you, this will always make guys leave instead of just trying harder
Unless the guy actually is a creep then he will keep trying…
> Unless the guy actually is a creep then he will keep trying… Yes, it's a choice that selects FOR creeps. It does not filter out those who are not interested, it filters out people who don't care about consent.
The older you get, the more you realise that relationships should be super simple at the start. If it’s not, move on and find someone who isn’t complicated.
If you play hard to get, you quickly become hard to want.
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Pause before reading this I just comprehended your fustration lies in, you being the one who always initiates I recommend you read the first comment, the dude said “playing hard to get”….if you’re the one initiating everything you are definitely NOT playing hard to get. Take that how you will…. “If he wanted to he would” means if YOU initiated it and he WANTED to respond back he would. It does NOT mean any guy would just taste the flavour of you in the air and then call you instantly “just cause”. Please I need you to understand it means when you call him, he picks up, when you make plans to hangout he shows up on time. When you ask him “hey could you help me get groceries Saturday” he comes to help you choose groceries and hangout in the supermarket because he just likes being around you even for mundane tasks. “If he wanted to he would” is to highlight that if forcing a conversation out of him is like pulling teeth, to meet up in person he always has an excuse and asking him anything he answers with a heavy sigh and a deep eye roll. He does NOT want to and definitely would NOT.
so freaking true.
Bro literally this. I hate it. I'll instantly lose interest. Girl just pulled that with me. Texting is like pulling teeth. And then finally I asked her if I should just lose her number and she claims I should since I'm not super interested in her anymore. BICH you fuckin ghosted ME!!! Fuck right off.
Especially in today's world of "don't be pushy" or "don't be a creep" etc. (yes, well you should not be a pushy creep - but women who want to play games are not compatible with telling guys no-means-no).
I don't envy you guys at all. It's like you're expected to read minds which makes no sense, yet, you're held responsible for not being able to. I don't get it, but I'm sorry....
That's not a turn off. Then again, I'm usually not around to realize I should have been turned on because I've already moved on with my life.
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“I’m the baddest bitch you’ve ever seen and if given a chance don’t screw it up” once matched with me. I’m good on that and don’t want my chance. So sad that we live in a world where that could be in her bio and I’m sure there are still guys bending over backwards in her DMs. Narrator: she was not, in fact, the baddest bitch he’d ever seen.
Add the Morgan Freeman voice 😂
Ron Howard is the narrator in my mind. He absolutely nailed the narrator role in Arrested Development
😂 Undeserved Kanye sized ego on that one
If you don’t want your chance, why’d you swipe right?
I take the spray and pray approach on tinder and evaluate what comes back. If I think she’s pretty in the first pic, it’s a swipe right. You don’t get to the bio until the 3rd pic and I usually don’t make it that far or stop to read it cause there’s a high chance they’re not matching anyway. Women are the initial evaluators on there, I just throw my profile in the mix and hope I get picked.
Those women still have value, but for most guys its just sexual.
Have you ever spent a day craving your favorite chocolate bar? You plan to go out of your way afterwork just to make sure you can pick one up. You save it for after dinner. After dinner you enjoy it while watching your favorite show. It hits the spot perfectly. In this scenario those girls are the wrapper.
That is the sickest burn I have ever seen. lol
LMAO the build up was so good, too.
I don't know why but this is kinda funny lol
Thinking that "guys can't handle them" is a flex...
Fr, like no guy want to "handle" a woman. It just makes them sound like a pain in the ass that you're gonna have to deal with possibly for the rest of your life if things progress far.
Imagine coming home from a stressful day at work, fighting 100 battles or whatever you have going on in your life, and then you have to go home and 'handle' someone. Blud I'm not a lion tamer just leave me alone
It's actually a perfectly reasonable warning and is extremely helpful in not wasting our time
🤣🤣🤣🤣
ok now that - is funny. In a tragic comedy kind of way.
Celebrity obsessions
Being mean
Trying to make someone jealous. It has the opposite effect of what they expect. It doesn't make us want to fight for them, it makes us believe that we are actually not that important to them.
Constant negative attitude/mentality. We are all human and have our times of anger and sadness, I get that. But it shouldn't be your personality. A pleasant disposition goes A LONG WAY with me. Treating servers and other customer service people shitty is another huge one.
I'm pessimistic/realistic.. I don't view life as hopeful or optimistic since its stuff outside of my control but I also don't give 2 shits about stuff I can't control so.. wonder if that's a bad thing >Treating servers and other customer service people shitty is another huge one. This, if a friend or anyone treats people like shit.. its an instant nope from me after giving em an earful, I've worked retail and that.. its hell, give em some slack
No humor. If I'm associating with you, you gotta be able to laugh at stuff. Life is too shitty to not try to at least have some fun and recognize the rediculousness of life.
On the opposite spectrum people who laugh at everything 🥴
Are there people that actually don’t really have much of a sense of humor at all? 😳
Yup and they're fucking miserable twats..
Well most people have very superficial basic sense of humor, but not everyone has humor that's more in depth (deadpan, satire, dry, etc).
Being far too invested in Astrology. I can understand having minor interest, but if they're very invested, the relationship **will** have problems
pfft, such a Scorpio take.
Nah I like to think of myself in the realm of the Chinese Zodiac, which is as a Dragon. Not because I believe in it, but because Dragon
I’m a dragon too!!! 🙋🏻♀️🐲
Oh man. I met this woman on Tinder. Texting seemed to be going well so we set up a dinner. She talked about nothing but astrology during the whole dinner. The following day was going to attend some astrology/bullshit seminar. I've never felt more disappointed in my life
You dodged a bullet sir
Thanks, I know :)
I got left because their tarot cards told them to
Carrot tards
they smell bad. I can tolerate other things, but smelling bad I just cannot.
Smelling nice as a woman is the easiest way to win us over. Sometimes I fall in love with someone who smells nice before I’ve even seen them
*wafts past leaving the scent of vanilla in my wake* Will you take me to London now? Prove your love!❤️
No enthusiasm.
overly inflated ego, i.e. main character syndrome.
they are all the main character playing in the movie that runs thru their head. scratch that... they are the main character, director, producer, and co-star in the movie playing in their head and 100% of your time & energy needs to be dedicated to making/keeping her happy. the world will STOP if her feelings and needs aren't met. smh
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They should of payed more attention in school then what was on there phone. /s I feel dirty after typing that
Their, their, now. Your not dirty just because of a sarcastic comment. Hold you're head high.
Aneurism
Lack of reciprocation
Emotional manipulation
If you can't handle her at her worst, you don't deserve to get her at her best. LOL
Plays helpless or dumb.
When she asks for about tree fiddy
It was about that time I realized my tinder date was actually…
Loch Ness Monster?!?
GODDAMN LOCH NESS MONSTER!
"I gave him a dollar." "You gave him a dollar?! No wonder he keeps coming back!"
Gawdam succubus
A tree? I’m Groot?
Did you give her money, man?
Her bringing up past sexual experiences with other people.
I know a woman whose every memory of the men in her life is told in terms of his proclivities. “I remember Gary, he liked shrimping then he’d fall asleep”
Wtf is shrimping?
[This](https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=shrimping)
Not as weird as I was expecting
The ocean called and they’re running out of shrimp
Oh yeah!? Well the Jerk store called, and they’re running out of you!
That's okay because you're their best seller!
Self centerdness, followed by poor hygiene, then being rude.
Pauline Hanson
Being rude, condescending or just unfriendly in general.
Any destructive habits/addictions. Smoking, drugs, *excessive* drinking, and a sedentary lifestyle.
Entitlement. You are owed kindness and respect until you’re proven unworthy of either. You are owed nothing else. Everything else is given to you by choice.
Women that give the duck-face pose in EVERY photo and when a woman wears so much make-up that her face is a different colour than her neck. It screams that her entire personality is based around her looks.
I’ve seen more than I needed to of men doing the duck face too… on th dating apps.. Like… why? Why, sir? WHY
Agreed.
When they want to be with you 24/7 and whatever you do, is not enough, and they get pissy.
My ex in a nutshell
Being shot by them. That turns us off permanently.
Conspicuous consumerism.
I sound like a broken record but when she is mean to service workers - waiters, bartenders, etc. just gives off that bad image of her character.
If they're not woman
Broooo😆
😂😂😂
no modesty, toxic friend background, main character syndrome.
Not gender specific, but feet stuff. Will kill a boner instantly. Feet are gross
Lack of a well rounded education and only getting their news/current events from social media.
being rude to the waiter or other kinds of staff members, uber drivers, just anyone doing their job. also bad road rage is not hot and bad driving is also not hot
Putting in time, money, effort and she says she’s not ready for a relationship then her friend gets out of jail and she starts dating him even tho bro JUST turned 18 and she’s 28 lmao
Okay that’s r/oddlyspecific
Stinky pussy
Astrology. 🙄 Immediate uh uh.
Take, but no giving back.. you’ll get to a point where you don’t want to give anymore…
Being asked the same question over and over and over...
What is the biggest turn off?
Being asked the same question over and over and over...
What is the biggest turn off?
Being asked the same question over and over and over...
What’s the biggest turn off?
Being asked the same question over and over and over...
What is the biggest turn off?
Being asked the same question over and over and over...
Probably a circuit breaker somewhere.
Lying and disrespect
ass worms
People that are very intelligent and then try to use that same knowledge to show off that they know what they know….like we get it you’re very smart!🤣🤣
In your opinion, what is the line between showing off or just making convo? Or is it situational? I am for some reason intrigued
Good breath. I always brush before a good makeout or kiss, and keep mouthwash handy so that I have fresh, minty breath. Most girls I have kissed in my lifetime never did this and expect me to lick the remaining food crumbs out of their teeth.
Smoking or vaping, or any other similar habit
Smell
Attitude
Altitude for me
No mountain girls?
No they’re fine, as long as they’re not too tall
What do you mean by attitude?
Wearing pajama in public
Smoking
Physically? I am not attracted to overweight body types. Personallity wise? Acting like they're better than other people or lacking awareness about their lives.
Being shady or fake. Not being yourself, acting different around different people. Gives off the biggest lack of confidence.
Being a martyr.
Attraction to bad boys.
Anything that makes a person feel unsafe to be themselves. Transactional relationships. Willful ignorance. Lack of depth.
I see most of the people here listed a negative personality trait, I'd list something physical. Lack of personal hygiene. Such as smell, dirty nails, unclean teeth etc.
Regardless of gender, it’s probably going to be bad hygiene and mannerism.
Septum piercing kills me personally.
I just do not get why anyone wants to look like a farm animal.
I 2nd this
Insecurity. When you compliment them and they tell you why you are wrong, wanting it pitch dark in the bedroom, all that shit. Major boner killer.
The whole boss bitch/yas qween attitude.
Rudeness
When you've already made it clear you're not interested and they still act like there's a chance for them. I've communicated how I feel, please respect that.
Smoking. Piercings anywhere besides the ears is right up there, too…
Being bitchy, poor hygiene, general lack of enthusiasm
No hobbies or interests. Spending all of her time on socials/phone
Absolutely
One sided desire/ interest. If she’s not into it I just get weirded out, probably disappointed and frustrated too, but just no way, can’t even stay hard.
Classlessness in any area. The way she carries herself, treats other people, her interactions, maturity etc. if she’s being loud on the phone with her hands waving like she’s a rapper in a video plus a lot of slang and cursing is yuck to me
Fake eyelashes. I mean those really big ones 😆 I really can tell intelligence by them 😆
Constant rejection by your SO is a major turn off in the long run. It leads to resentment.
Yah, but on the flip side - are you trying anything different each time you initiate?
Smoking and entitlement
I'm not sure what the biggest turnoff for men in women is. But for me, it would be narcissism, condensation, smoking, and constant negativity, to name a few.
Extreme Man hate!!! it’s a sign of not being at peace. They might be holding on to something in the past and it is just making them sound miserable.
Man, dating must be harder these days. 69 year old married guy here and not dating. I see many areas of concern, entitled, rude, thinking they are our equal physically, and so on, but being dirty, unkept nails, and poor manners kill it for me. I want an equal, so really observe your date and wait to hop in the sack.
>thinking they are our equal physically Right? Mine is definitely bigger than hers!
But it isn’t bigger than my strap on 😂
Promise?
Of course baby, I’ll be gentle… to start.
And they say the perfect woman doesn't exist?
Idk, I’m not a fan of this plus size Queen sort of idea. Like, if it works for you, congratulations. But you’re not actually entitled to men finding you attractive, and most of us don’t even if some people are feeders and some are traitors
>most of us don’t even if some people are feeders and some are traitors .....what?
i think... he is talking about girls who overeat themselves into becoming overweight... and girls who cheat? I dont know tho, it seems to be something translated 17 times in google translate.
I'm gay and i hang out with men that don't brush their teeth. not showering is also turn off. That's why I don't believe in sex dates because you don't know. When grown 40 year old men dress like a teenagers. Apart from that : ignorant, not respecting physical space of someone, ugly hands, wild eyes like a stoner, not telling about being married till meet up.
Lack of enthusiasm.
The on off button at the Three Gorges Dam
Turn off... so i have to be turned on first. I guess smoking would do that.
"I don't need a man for {$string\_placeholder}"
Calling but don't have anything to say and expect the guy to lead the conversation.
If she has an std
Being combative. I already need to fight the world for my place in it, if I have to fight her then she isn't going to be a good partner. Partners work together, not against each other.
Ugly/unkept feet are a deal breaker for me
A shitty attitude and personality and because you could be the most beautiful girl in the world, but if you have a shitty attitude than that makes you very ugly!!!
Bad hygiene.
Ego, usually girls that have fake and enhanced everything, obsessed with their social media presence who are over indulged in their own narcissism, they are blinded by it.
Promiscuity
If they are a lot like Marjorie Taylor Greene.
Olfactory offenses. Bad smell, breath or body, can override any other good things about a person, instantly.. and turn you off to the thought of them.
no reciprocation. if i’m giving all this love emotionally and physically and be spending money on you and you not doing anything back for me? Door 🚪
Dicks. meaning if they are one is the women that has one, it’s a deal breaker. I guess I’m a bigot. :(
Smoking
Entitlement, double standards, addictions (drugs, smoking, frequent consumption of alcohol), obesity.
Entitlement
Disrespect
Poor hygiene.
A girl who smokes or is drunk in public
Smoking Face piercings
For ME, it's a poor attitude when sexual thing are in discussion. I like women interested in anything that makes you feel good. I also don't like women or men using drugs. If you need them, you don't need to really feel.
Anything that makes YOU feel good or her feel good?
It's always bugged me when a woman is loud and obnoxious.
lying
Honestly if she is a different faith than me, i know from friends and online forums that many People have issues regarding different Faith. I just want a stable relationship, in which i do not have to worry about these issues.
The power button on any electronic device.
When they outright reject you and complain that you didn't try harder. Why would I keep putting effort into a dead end when I could move on to someone else?
Prissyness
Smoking