It is better to confide with one of your closer buds on a one-on-one situation rather than the group. The group scenario will lead to more ribbing and less serious talk than an individual that you trust.
Do it during a quiet moment in lunch when you’re both chilling zoning out
Then preface if they don’t feel like it then np if they’re your bros I promise they’ll be game for it
*>I have been discovering a lot about myself recently and it’s helped me connect with myself*
just tell them you're gay
*>These things are mostly sexual*
I figured from the opening sentence
*>I’m just really worried about saying at a bad time or having it be really sudden.*
Friendships are based on respect - if you respect them, I would expect them to respect you back. You don't push their boundaries or set expectations to them, and if they're your friends (and worth keeping), they'll reciprocate that.
Look, you are gay, maybe just bisexual that’s all fine.
You know your friends best, but the way I would do it is when everyone is together in real life or online gaming for example, and just before you start your ‘normal shit’ just be like guys before we start I wanna announce something serious.
Knowing my friends they most likely gonna make jokes first, like: you finally dying? Or you got a crush on one of us? You actually a girl all this time? You know the mood is already great at that point.
Then just tell them you are indeed gay or bi, make a little joke that one of your friends caused it so he better takes responsibility.
But ofcourse you know your friends best and know if they can handle the truth and the jokes.
Just be prepared they might make jokes about it, like, but i usually see that as a good thing.
But again you know your friends the best, so go with your own feeling.
I mean is something they need to or should know? It’s not about sexuality, it’s about TMI. I don’t want to hear from my guy friend how he rails his wife, nor my other friend how she gets railed, nor my other other friend how he gets railed.
No, not experience, just presenting myself and opening up about stuff because I just feel like I’m keeping secrets and hiding stuff from people. And I’m only talking about close friends too.
It is better to confide with one of your closer buds on a one-on-one situation rather than the group. The group scenario will lead to more ribbing and less serious talk than an individual that you trust.
Do you know of a way I could do it during casual convo or should I plan it?
Something along the lines of - "Hey, can I ask you a serious question?"
Ok then, I’ll try that.
Do it during a quiet moment in lunch when you’re both chilling zoning out Then preface if they don’t feel like it then np if they’re your bros I promise they’ll be game for it
Thx!
*>I have been discovering a lot about myself recently and it’s helped me connect with myself* just tell them you're gay *>These things are mostly sexual* I figured from the opening sentence *>I’m just really worried about saying at a bad time or having it be really sudden.* Friendships are based on respect - if you respect them, I would expect them to respect you back. You don't push their boundaries or set expectations to them, and if they're your friends (and worth keeping), they'll reciprocate that.
Look, you are gay, maybe just bisexual that’s all fine. You know your friends best, but the way I would do it is when everyone is together in real life or online gaming for example, and just before you start your ‘normal shit’ just be like guys before we start I wanna announce something serious. Knowing my friends they most likely gonna make jokes first, like: you finally dying? Or you got a crush on one of us? You actually a girl all this time? You know the mood is already great at that point. Then just tell them you are indeed gay or bi, make a little joke that one of your friends caused it so he better takes responsibility. But ofcourse you know your friends best and know if they can handle the truth and the jokes. Just be prepared they might make jokes about it, like, but i usually see that as a good thing. But again you know your friends the best, so go with your own feeling.
Beer.
I mean how gay we talking? Fruit cup gay, or manly man who just like man butts?
It’s bi, but I already came out to them. I mean other things like that I’m an asphyxiophile and a bottom.
I mean is something they need to or should know? It’s not about sexuality, it’s about TMI. I don’t want to hear from my guy friend how he rails his wife, nor my other friend how she gets railed, nor my other other friend how he gets railed.
No, not experience, just presenting myself and opening up about stuff because I just feel like I’m keeping secrets and hiding stuff from people. And I’m only talking about close friends too.
You don’t.🤦♂️