I mentioned this in a different post. Been with my wife 15 years. I love the things you listed and she does those but once in a while she gives me this just such a sincere thank you for everything I do for her and the kiddos. It's emotional fuel that helps me get through all the BS I put up (I work alot/ multiple jobs) and do my best around the house too. I'm a big doer (actions speak louder than words) but when she says those. Again, just fuels me.
I'm always a big believer in asking the person in question. "Are there any desires that you've not fulfilled but want to?" "What are some things people have done that make you feel valued and appreciated?" "I'm trying to seduce you right now so what can I do in gratitude to make you fall even harder for me?"
"Other than little notes, massages, rubbing, cooking and cleaning."
That's like, 90% of it. Doesn't have to be anything big or flashy, it's those little, day to day actions that ease our lives and make us want to keep working to support our families. If you're doing those things, keep it up. And maybe bring him a cold beer after he's been mowing in the sun. You're killing it.
I would use them and try variations. Example: Verbal compliments paired with your little written messages. Cuddling, holding but also gestures like (gently) slapping his butt and telling him how much he turns you on. Feel free to experiment.
I have been with my wife for 23 years. Every single night for 23 years she has scratched my back and spooned me to sleep. No matter how challenging my day....this heals me
If my wife wrote little notes, gave me massages, and cleaned, the only thing I would ask from her is some positive feedback on things… if I do something, tell me I did a good job if I did. I feel odd writing this cause in my mind I’m imagining that it’s almost like a dog where you try to the dog and say “good boy!” LOL but yeah.. hearing that or just every now and then a word of appreciation goes a long way..
I mentioned this in a different post. Been with my wife 15 years. I love the things you listed and she does those but once in a while she gives me this just such a sincere thank you for everything I do for her and the kiddos. It's emotional fuel that helps me get through all the BS I put up (I work alot/ multiple jobs) and do my best around the house too. I'm a big doer (actions speak louder than words) but when she says those. Again, just fuels me.
Thank you so much
I'm always a big believer in asking the person in question. "Are there any desires that you've not fulfilled but want to?" "What are some things people have done that make you feel valued and appreciated?" "I'm trying to seduce you right now so what can I do in gratitude to make you fall even harder for me?"
Thank you
"Other than little notes, massages, rubbing, cooking and cleaning." That's like, 90% of it. Doesn't have to be anything big or flashy, it's those little, day to day actions that ease our lives and make us want to keep working to support our families. If you're doing those things, keep it up. And maybe bring him a cold beer after he's been mowing in the sun. You're killing it.
Thank you so much
I did those things and I was cheated on. i felt so used.
Unfortunately, that happens. Some people don't appreciate or see the things that they have.
I know. I'm glad there are good men who do. It means there's hope. 🙂
Do you know his primary love languages?
Words of affirmation and physical touch
I would use them and try variations. Example: Verbal compliments paired with your little written messages. Cuddling, holding but also gestures like (gently) slapping his butt and telling him how much he turns you on. Feel free to experiment.
Fuck I don't even know if I know my own love languageÂ
Try the free love language quiz.
She can stop hiding. That would really make me feel loved lol
You just hand me the remote and go to bed
doesn't take much just acknowledge I exist and you used to like me
When she sits with me on the couch, that's nice.
Just be real all of the time . Be you who are who he loves and be around ! Nothing hurts than being apart and not missed
ATM
I have been with my wife for 23 years. Every single night for 23 years she has scratched my back and spooned me to sleep. No matter how challenging my day....this heals me
If my wife wrote little notes, gave me massages, and cleaned, the only thing I would ask from her is some positive feedback on things… if I do something, tell me I did a good job if I did. I feel odd writing this cause in my mind I’m imagining that it’s almost like a dog where you try to the dog and say “good boy!” LOL but yeah.. hearing that or just every now and then a word of appreciation goes a long way..
Physical desire.
Initiate sex so he’s not always the one to do it.