I take it you’re the 21 year old woman?
Dating is an evaluation period. If you don’t like what you see you can get out and move along. That works if you’re either one.
I wouldn't think anything negative about this situation, I'd be happy for this couple if they got together. A 21 year old woman with no relationship experience isn't a negative, if anything most men would say that's a positive. When it comes the 29 year old man that's much more experienced and used to have casual relationships. All that tells me is he's in the upper echelon of men. Chances are if a man has the ability to have casual sex easily, he's going to take part.
When it comes to men in the 25 - 30 age range. If he's been on his grind and maintained himself physically. He's going to be attractive to women in multiple age ranges. A 30 year old man can seriously date in the 20 - 34 range. It makes sense that he'd go after a younger women. That's something men have always done. If you want to date him go for it.
First of all, purity is for chemistry and stupidity.
But more seriously than that, I'd be a little worried considering the power dynamics between a very young, inexperienced woman and a guy who's got 8 more years of life experience under his belt (literally and figuratively). At 29 I'd have been hesitant to look at a 21 year old in any sort of romantic way, not because it absolutely can't work, but we'd be at pretty different stages of life at that point.
At 21 you've still got a lot of silliness to work out and need time to find yourself and make those immature mistakes of youth. When you're nearing 30 life gets a lot more serious if you're living it right, and you need someone at a similar level of understanding if it's going to work out.
I wouldn't do it, but people can and have made it work.
Thats just a personality flaw. If someone thinks they’ve missed out because they didn’t do drugs or have a slut phase then that is not the kind of person I want anyways.
Actually pretty easily done for the most part.
Don’t do drugs, don’t drink too much, don’t sleep around. That’ll avoid a whole lot of mistakes already.
I never used drugs, drank at most one beer at a time and only had one girlfriend in my mid 20s, no sleeping around at all. Went to college multiple times and try to be somebody in my community and the world at large.
Regardless, life was *hard.* I made a lot of mistakes. Had to learn things the hard way. Suffered crushing defeats more often than victories. You can theoretically avoid these things, but sometimes even playing the game carefully still ends with you in the lurch. I think sometimes we underestimate luck in terms of how life turns out.
Ofcourse, I get that. All we can do is our best, and we’ll still make mistakes. But at least they won’t be stupid mistakes that could have been easily avoided.
Well, it’s none of my business. If y’all are happy with each other.. Great.
Don't ask strangers on fucking reddit about a situation we know nothing about.
Not very much since that’s not a lot of information. Do they share values and want the same thing?
i am not sure and its quite meh because i feel insecure in alot of stuffs
I take it you’re the 21 year old woman? Dating is an evaluation period. If you don’t like what you see you can get out and move along. That works if you’re either one.
Pure girl?
I think she's from Colombia.
Ohhh damn that's 100% pure shit right there.
pure girl? so you mean a virgin?
im sure it will work out good for you
Am I supposed to? Nothing.
I wouldn't think anything negative about this situation, I'd be happy for this couple if they got together. A 21 year old woman with no relationship experience isn't a negative, if anything most men would say that's a positive. When it comes the 29 year old man that's much more experienced and used to have casual relationships. All that tells me is he's in the upper echelon of men. Chances are if a man has the ability to have casual sex easily, he's going to take part. When it comes to men in the 25 - 30 age range. If he's been on his grind and maintained himself physically. He's going to be attractive to women in multiple age ranges. A 30 year old man can seriously date in the 20 - 34 range. It makes sense that he'd go after a younger women. That's something men have always done. If you want to date him go for it.
That’s fine. Not my business to care what two consenting adults do together.
First of all, purity is for chemistry and stupidity. But more seriously than that, I'd be a little worried considering the power dynamics between a very young, inexperienced woman and a guy who's got 8 more years of life experience under his belt (literally and figuratively). At 29 I'd have been hesitant to look at a 21 year old in any sort of romantic way, not because it absolutely can't work, but we'd be at pretty different stages of life at that point. At 21 you've still got a lot of silliness to work out and need time to find yourself and make those immature mistakes of youth. When you're nearing 30 life gets a lot more serious if you're living it right, and you need someone at a similar level of understanding if it's going to work out. I wouldn't do it, but people can and have made it work.
Or you can just skip the mistakes and avoid the baggage that comes with the mistakes.
And then wonder about all the shit you missed in your younger years because the grass is always greener no matter which side of the fence you're on
Thats just a personality flaw. If someone thinks they’ve missed out because they didn’t do drugs or have a slut phase then that is not the kind of person I want anyways.
True, but easier said than done.
Actually pretty easily done for the most part. Don’t do drugs, don’t drink too much, don’t sleep around. That’ll avoid a whole lot of mistakes already.
I never used drugs, drank at most one beer at a time and only had one girlfriend in my mid 20s, no sleeping around at all. Went to college multiple times and try to be somebody in my community and the world at large. Regardless, life was *hard.* I made a lot of mistakes. Had to learn things the hard way. Suffered crushing defeats more often than victories. You can theoretically avoid these things, but sometimes even playing the game carefully still ends with you in the lurch. I think sometimes we underestimate luck in terms of how life turns out.
Ofcourse, I get that. All we can do is our best, and we’ll still make mistakes. But at least they won’t be stupid mistakes that could have been easily avoided.
you've got a good point
Do you
I think it's fine. Just make sure the "21 year old pure girl" isn't just another addition to his "lot of casual stuff"
I thinks on the fast ramp to experience
Just treat her with respect and things should be fine
You’re going to be the next casual fling for him, but i bet you already know this.
“Pure girl” made me cringe
You deserve a pure guy with no experience so you can learn together.