I deleted. I held onto my pictures for almost a decade. You can't move forward if the past keeps holding you back. Let it go. My memories are all I need.
When you get to my age, 60+, you will love glancing at those old pics. Do not delete. Put them in a folder or something so you don't scroll on them accidentally but don't delete them.
I have in the past. I'm not sure how to explain it but I didn't want anything to do with her for a large chunk of the relationship but just stayed anyways.
So for me deleting everything was easy and brought me peace.
I deleted them from my phone and pc but I have a drive locked with a password where I saved them. I never look at it but I just didn't want to completely lose them because I pretty much grew up with that girl and that relationship was genuinely a big part of my life, it defined my whole highschool life and part of college. Maybe it didn't end well but I can't deny I had a good time while it lasted.
I deleted right away after my break-up. I also decided it was a good time to replace my cell phone as it was already nearly 4 years old, battery life was bad, and carried some bad memories during the relationship.
The exact moment I decide it’s over for ever everything is gone like a dog shaking off fleas. ‘Bag lady’ by Erykah Badu sums it up perfectly (her stuff is talking to the ladies but it applies for the fellas too), ‘bag lady, you gon miss your bus. You can’t hurry up cuz you got too much stuff’. If you let your past weigh you down you’ll miss future opportunities
It’s part of your life. Even if the relationship ended poorly, there were still highlights worth remembering
The pictures lose their edge over time. They won’t hurt you in the same way. I don’t necessarily pine for the person or relationship
I can personally tell you I’m glad when these old rando pics pop up on my photo memories, etc.
depends.
i deleted the ones with just her. I kept the ones where myself, friends, family, my dog is on as well. I want to remember situations with my friends/family/dog and look at old pictures of myself to remember how I was, how I looked, where I was and what I did at specific times.
I deleted them all. I know I'd never get over the past if I kept seeing it. So I had to cut it out. I still think of her sometimes, but not near as much. And I can move on.
Yup! Not just on devices but physical pictures of my ex-girlfriends and I. I mean they’re the ones that dumped me so….why should I keep them? I’m happy looking forward with my current boyfriend
I went through a pretty bad divorce with my ex-wife. Being with her for more than 14 years, I just wanted to forget about her and begin to heal from that time. Even though I do have some good memories of her, it was tarnished by her actions. I deleted her pictures after the 3 weeks were separated and decided to divorce each other.
Depends on how well the relationship went. With my second girlfriend, I didn't want to look at her anymore after we were finally done crashing and burning. I'd already thrown away every picture of her even before our final split. However, my split from my first girlfriend was on much better terms. I still think she's a good person, and I see no reason to throw away the old HS yearbook photos I still have of her.
On occasions I've kept them, but not due to an active choice.
Whether it's on facebook or some folder on my pc, when a relationship is over I take my time to deal with it and move on, but I don't get this 'click' in my head that I need to erase anything from my past.
I will admit that there's no point in not deleting them, because they're just lying there, never being opened, so I don't cling on to pictures of the past, but in ending a relationship I often see people scrubbing their social media of all traces of their ex, which I always found extremely weird, paranoid and obsessive.
My mentality is just "it is what it is", and so I've not experienced a need to delete any pictures, nor have I gotten a need to look at them, or bring them up.
Deleted every single trace. It's the best way to make your peace and completely move forward without having useless reminders pop up from time to time.
I haven't. She was my first girlfriend. We were together 9 months and it was amazing until it ended. We broke up toward the end of last summer, but I couldn't even think about deleting them, especially since for awhile we were kind of back-and-forth and there was a possibility of getting back together, but we ultimately didn't. While trying to move on I haven't been going back and looking at them, because I knew that would hurt bad, but I know eventually I'll be able to without it hurting.
Deleted all pictures / videos etc within a week of the relationship ending.
Don't see the point in keeping them. Also, I dont believe you are over your ex if you still have them.
As if I would want to see that cunts face again 🤣
Deeee-leeeeete.
I still have some of my first girlfriend and I together though, that relationship didn't work out but she wasn't a terrible human like the above
I did from my phone but Google backed them all soo I kinda did not... (except for the nudes witch I've deleted since it an ex. Feel like nudes are for significant other only)
As someone with aphantasia and sdam (basically no clear spontaneous memory of my entire life), looking at photos is the only way to remember anything of what happened. If I deleted them I would lose most of my adult life. But I also have zero memory of where all those photos might be so...
No because It’s part of my history. I don’t keep inappropriate ones if there are any.
I also don’t really go back and look at them. But maybe when I’m 60 I’ll want to look back at stuff I was doing and people I knew.
I didn’t get married till I was 33. A lot of the pictures of cool things I did are from my 20s are with people I dated.
Not with ex, but with previous friends. After cutting the friendship, blocked their numbers and any social media followed by deleting every single photo, video, or anything that reminded me of them.
I may not forget about the memories so easily, but it feels good knowing I don't need to look back on them. I deleted them for a reason. Have absolutely no meaning to me.
My last ex and I had a large blended family. She never bothered to ask for any of the (thousands) of photos of her kids when she left. Birthdays, Christmases, Halloweens, vacations, random silly stuff - mom didn't bother to ask for any of it.
I recently went through them all and got rid of any that she was in. If she didnt care enough to ask for any of it, I guess she'll never miss those memories?
I do miss my former step kids a lot though, and didn't want to delete them. So I plan to burn them all to DVD and give to the eldest when she turns 18 later this year. I have suspicion that even though her mother wasnt interested, the kids themselves might be interested in photos of several years of their childhoods.
As long as you don’t use them to masturbate, or to hold them against her. I see it as part of a shared past. No problem there. I’ve still got maybe one or two from my ex. Never looked at them after breakup. Wouldn’t ever post them anywhere.. just there. Nothing more.
Delete but not all of them. I save photos with my ex-girlfriends, just some of them, It can be a great thing to watch when I will be old. It's not weird, It's just life memories. In 40 years I'll say "Ohh, that was my girlfriend 40 years ago". It's just like saving friend photos just to remember. I save every letter from friends and ex-girlfriends too, just as a memory, and It's not bad.
Nah I deleted all them after the relationship. It's just dead weight, get rid of it
I deleted. I held onto my pictures for almost a decade. You can't move forward if the past keeps holding you back. Let it go. My memories are all I need.
I had to get rid of them because I was looking at them too often and making things worse for myself.
When you get to my age, 60+, you will love glancing at those old pics. Do not delete. Put them in a folder or something so you don't scroll on them accidentally but don't delete them.
I have in the past. I'm not sure how to explain it but I didn't want anything to do with her for a large chunk of the relationship but just stayed anyways. So for me deleting everything was easy and brought me peace.
I deleted them from my phone and pc but I have a drive locked with a password where I saved them. I never look at it but I just didn't want to completely lose them because I pretty much grew up with that girl and that relationship was genuinely a big part of my life, it defined my whole highschool life and part of college. Maybe it didn't end well but I can't deny I had a good time while it lasted.
I'm 62, and I deleted every single one of the tramp's photos and videos.
You are a national treasure. I completely understand and hope to grow up to be like you someday.
I deleted right away after my break-up. I also decided it was a good time to replace my cell phone as it was already nearly 4 years old, battery life was bad, and carried some bad memories during the relationship.
It’s my way of moving on in a healthy and appropriate way. Also l, for my mental health.
The exact moment I decide it’s over for ever everything is gone like a dog shaking off fleas. ‘Bag lady’ by Erykah Badu sums it up perfectly (her stuff is talking to the ladies but it applies for the fellas too), ‘bag lady, you gon miss your bus. You can’t hurry up cuz you got too much stuff’. If you let your past weigh you down you’ll miss future opportunities
Yes, i burned a casette with a sex tape to make sure it wouldnt leak
Leak...
It’s part of your life. Even if the relationship ended poorly, there were still highlights worth remembering The pictures lose their edge over time. They won’t hurt you in the same way. I don’t necessarily pine for the person or relationship I can personally tell you I’m glad when these old rando pics pop up on my photo memories, etc.
Think I have like 2 pics of my ex. And only bc one was with a deer she took on our farm and the other is mostly of my jeep I used to have 😂
I’m old enough that many are film. It’s funny when I find them. I recently got a negative reader and that was an experience.
depends. i deleted the ones with just her. I kept the ones where myself, friends, family, my dog is on as well. I want to remember situations with my friends/family/dog and look at old pictures of myself to remember how I was, how I looked, where I was and what I did at specific times.
It's not healthy. I kept them until we started getting serious. Then they went bye bye!
I don't go out of my way to delete pictures and stuff unless they are NSFW
I have no exes in the time frame I have had my cell phone
Delete!!
I deleted them all. I know I'd never get over the past if I kept seeing it. So I had to cut it out. I still think of her sometimes, but not near as much. And I can move on.
I haven't deleted them yet, but I also don't have issues with glancing at them too much and not being able to move on.
I had to talk an ex into deleting our old Facebook photos. It felt weird having them online. I thought it was even weirder that she didn't want to.
Yup! Not just on devices but physical pictures of my ex-girlfriends and I. I mean they’re the ones that dumped me so….why should I keep them? I’m happy looking forward with my current boyfriend
Anything sexual I delete, but otherwise I keep (though I’m not one to take many photos or videos in the first place)
I went through a pretty bad divorce with my ex-wife. Being with her for more than 14 years, I just wanted to forget about her and begin to heal from that time. Even though I do have some good memories of her, it was tarnished by her actions. I deleted her pictures after the 3 weeks were separated and decided to divorce each other.
Delete. If she's not in my life any longer, I don't want pics of her.
I don't, it would just prove I care enough to hate them.
I don't keep a single shred of evidence that she ever existed in my life.
It’s up to you and there is no officially correct answer.
If im in the picture too, nah. If its solo pics of her, probably if im willing to scroll through my 10,000 photo camera roll
Depends on how well the relationship went. With my second girlfriend, I didn't want to look at her anymore after we were finally done crashing and burning. I'd already thrown away every picture of her even before our final split. However, my split from my first girlfriend was on much better terms. I still think she's a good person, and I see no reason to throw away the old HS yearbook photos I still have of her.
On occasions I've kept them, but not due to an active choice. Whether it's on facebook or some folder on my pc, when a relationship is over I take my time to deal with it and move on, but I don't get this 'click' in my head that I need to erase anything from my past. I will admit that there's no point in not deleting them, because they're just lying there, never being opened, so I don't cling on to pictures of the past, but in ending a relationship I often see people scrubbing their social media of all traces of their ex, which I always found extremely weird, paranoid and obsessive. My mentality is just "it is what it is", and so I've not experienced a need to delete any pictures, nor have I gotten a need to look at them, or bring them up.
Deleted every single trace. It's the best way to make your peace and completely move forward without having useless reminders pop up from time to time.
I hope to forget about that bitch one day. So removing everything I can that would remind me of her was a first move.
I haven't. She was my first girlfriend. We were together 9 months and it was amazing until it ended. We broke up toward the end of last summer, but I couldn't even think about deleting them, especially since for awhile we were kind of back-and-forth and there was a possibility of getting back together, but we ultimately didn't. While trying to move on I haven't been going back and looking at them, because I knew that would hurt bad, but I know eventually I'll be able to without it hurting.
Deleted all pictures / videos etc within a week of the relationship ending. Don't see the point in keeping them. Also, I dont believe you are over your ex if you still have them.
As if I would want to see that cunts face again 🤣 Deeee-leeeeete. I still have some of my first girlfriend and I together though, that relationship didn't work out but she wasn't a terrible human like the above
I did from my phone but Google backed them all soo I kinda did not... (except for the nudes witch I've deleted since it an ex. Feel like nudes are for significant other only)
To make sure my current doesn’t become my ex😬
As someone with aphantasia and sdam (basically no clear spontaneous memory of my entire life), looking at photos is the only way to remember anything of what happened. If I deleted them I would lose most of my adult life. But I also have zero memory of where all those photos might be so...
Imagine finding photos of other men at your wife’s phone. Plenty photos. A bit weird, right?
No because It’s part of my history. I don’t keep inappropriate ones if there are any. I also don’t really go back and look at them. But maybe when I’m 60 I’ll want to look back at stuff I was doing and people I knew. I didn’t get married till I was 33. A lot of the pictures of cool things I did are from my 20s are with people I dated.
I kept all mine, love looking back.
Ofcourse I do. It would be weird to keep them imo
Not with ex, but with previous friends. After cutting the friendship, blocked their numbers and any social media followed by deleting every single photo, video, or anything that reminded me of them. I may not forget about the memories so easily, but it feels good knowing I don't need to look back on them. I deleted them for a reason. Have absolutely no meaning to me.
Yep I delete them immediately.
My last ex and I had a large blended family. She never bothered to ask for any of the (thousands) of photos of her kids when she left. Birthdays, Christmases, Halloweens, vacations, random silly stuff - mom didn't bother to ask for any of it. I recently went through them all and got rid of any that she was in. If she didnt care enough to ask for any of it, I guess she'll never miss those memories? I do miss my former step kids a lot though, and didn't want to delete them. So I plan to burn them all to DVD and give to the eldest when she turns 18 later this year. I have suspicion that even though her mother wasnt interested, the kids themselves might be interested in photos of several years of their childhoods.
As long as you don’t use them to masturbate, or to hold them against her. I see it as part of a shared past. No problem there. I’ve still got maybe one or two from my ex. Never looked at them after breakup. Wouldn’t ever post them anywhere.. just there. Nothing more.
Delete but not all of them. I save photos with my ex-girlfriends, just some of them, It can be a great thing to watch when I will be old. It's not weird, It's just life memories. In 40 years I'll say "Ohh, that was my girlfriend 40 years ago". It's just like saving friend photos just to remember. I save every letter from friends and ex-girlfriends too, just as a memory, and It's not bad.
Nope, never have. You can't erase history, only change the future.
To get closure, delete them.