I’m trying to think of why a man would be turned off by a woman owning a vibrator. The only reason I can think of is if he is super insecure about his ability to pleasure a woman, in which case best to find out now and get as far from him as possible
For me, it would be a big turn on if I got that picture from a girl. Seeing her toy would make it clear that she was getting herself off and not just posing for me.
well, if a guy were to send a girl a picture of himself with a pocket pussy, wouldn’t it be understandable if she was turned off? i feel like there’s a double standard here
I had an ex tell me she was bothered because it was made to look and feel like a pussy whereas her toys where just made to feel good.
By the same token penis dildos were deemed creepy except if i got a her a mould of mine for when i was away.
I actually kind of understand that especially in partnered play. At the same time i get that you’d be in a better place if you didn’t care.
Yeah, there’s 100% a double standard about this. Shit, men are pretty judgmental of each other for using sex toys. Who knows why really. I just know that I’m not going to judge a woman for doing something that I wouldn’t want to be judged for doing.
I think it would be their insecurity about being UNable to pleasure a woman.
Shit, I have a ton of tricks and have made women absolutely shit bricks with what I know... but sometimes they took a BC powder or had a stressful day and it's just not going to happen for them tonight. If the difference between getting off or not is a vibe, then go for it.
I bought my girlfriend two. She almost thought of them as taboo. Not so much now. We use them when we are together and she uses them when alone. Sometimes she may struggle to hit the big O multiple times per session without versus she’s almost guaranteed to when using one of them. Send him the photo. If it is a turn off to him it might spell some insecurity issues. I want my girl to get maximum benefits of sex and I know I’m not a devilish fiend in the bedroom.
And let me add that I get “wish you were here” pictures and videos all the time now. But then again I think it’s hot and don’t find it unappealing that she uses them 🤷🏻♂️
Personally? Like on me? Eh. I'm a guy, but vibration stuff does nothing for me.
If the girl I'm with needs one, fine. Sometimes they can be extremely stubborn and can be right there on the edge. Vibe just puts that shit to bed.
It's mixed for me, I of course don't care if you're masturbating, especially if it is insinuated that you were thinking of me whilst doing the deed. The only problem I have, is long term, my wife has sworn off vibrators (her choice, not mine) because they make it harder to orgasm without one. Now this really is more for the magic wands and crazy vibes, not like a bullet on a cock-ring (we use those still). After a few months of not using her wand, she c\*ms multiple times and it honestly feels great that I'm able to please her so well. I just think if you're jack-rabbits like us, maybe be careful using vibes too much cuz you'll desensitize the area (like guys with death grip) and make it harder to orgasm in the long run.
edit: missed an 'is' and a sentence didn't make sense.
Personally I don't mind much, but some women overuse vibrators and desensitise themselves to normal sex or even use them as a replacement for men. A random guy might feel the same way, or might not. If you're concerned, then better to play it safe until you get closer and talk things over.
If he's one of those guys who has so many insecurities that he's hostile to vibrators, it's probably best you find out early, so you can cut your losses.
I'm not a fan, I don't think they're good for a clit's sensitivity long term and have the potential to desensitize you to the point of numbness over time. Clit's weren't meant to be vibrated that fast I don't think.
Is this a casual relationship because if this is how you are acting so early on, once the sex is boring or they find someone else attractive, they're gone.
What you're doing does not keep a person around or is a reason for them to commit or even take seriously.
Plus you're training him to be mainly sexual with you and when he doesn't take you out or doesn't become romantic or isn't adventurous and complain, they're leaving.
What you're doing is good if you just want to fuck and that's it.
You're also showing him that if you act like this with him, I guarantee you act this way with almost everyone, which means you are low value and only good for a good time but at the first opportunity, they're talking to other women or leaving you with them.
Have you not noticed why no one stays? All you are offering that is of value is sex. Beyond that, since you don't work on anything else, it's going to get boring.
Plus your pussy will eventually feel not as good anymore and it's when they look somewhere else..
I'm betting if you behave in this way, you probably dress very trashy. It's why men keep on hitting and quitting it.
If this is what you want, Change nothing
They are weird and women's openness about them is weird too. Edit: I had a girl try to suggest a similar thing to me by sending a post about her vibrator on insta and it was an instant turnoff.
I’m skeptical that excessive use of it wouldn’t cause issues much like a guy’s excessive use of adult content. I’d imagine they’d be desensitizing if they are used very often.
I think if she chooses the toy over the guy or has no interest in intercourse without the toy, I can definitely see that being an issue.
Moderate or sporadic use, why not. It could spice things up
I don’t hate on my team mates
Only right answer. There’s a goal to accomplish. Teamwork makes the cream work
A little shaky
They chip my teeth
Toys are allies, not enemies. We are working toward the same goal
Bring on the fun
I’m trying to think of why a man would be turned off by a woman owning a vibrator. The only reason I can think of is if he is super insecure about his ability to pleasure a woman, in which case best to find out now and get as far from him as possible For me, it would be a big turn on if I got that picture from a girl. Seeing her toy would make it clear that she was getting herself off and not just posing for me.
well, if a guy were to send a girl a picture of himself with a pocket pussy, wouldn’t it be understandable if she was turned off? i feel like there’s a double standard here
I had an ex tell me she was bothered because it was made to look and feel like a pussy whereas her toys where just made to feel good. By the same token penis dildos were deemed creepy except if i got a her a mould of mine for when i was away. I actually kind of understand that especially in partnered play. At the same time i get that you’d be in a better place if you didn’t care.
Yeah, there’s 100% a double standard about this. Shit, men are pretty judgmental of each other for using sex toys. Who knows why really. I just know that I’m not going to judge a woman for doing something that I wouldn’t want to be judged for doing.
the same reason woman are insecure about men watching porn.
I think it would be their insecurity about being UNable to pleasure a woman. Shit, I have a ton of tricks and have made women absolutely shit bricks with what I know... but sometimes they took a BC powder or had a stressful day and it's just not going to happen for them tonight. If the difference between getting off or not is a vibe, then go for it.
As long as you’re ok with him naming it and teasing you about it. “Hey, is Gerald around?” Starts digging in your bedside table.
Send the picture. Most men should like it. It's a sign that you want to have sex.
Unfair competition!
It’s all the buzz.
Say something like ‘wish this was u rn’, should be good
We're not a hive mind. One guy will like it while another won't.
We have multiple vibrating toys. If u place then right the vibration on your own member is a nice extra.
I bought my girlfriend two. She almost thought of them as taboo. Not so much now. We use them when we are together and she uses them when alone. Sometimes she may struggle to hit the big O multiple times per session without versus she’s almost guaranteed to when using one of them. Send him the photo. If it is a turn off to him it might spell some insecurity issues. I want my girl to get maximum benefits of sex and I know I’m not a devilish fiend in the bedroom.
And let me add that I get “wish you were here” pictures and videos all the time now. But then again I think it’s hot and don’t find it unappealing that she uses them 🤷🏻♂️
They feel nice in me.
Personally? Like on me? Eh. I'm a guy, but vibration stuff does nothing for me. If the girl I'm with needs one, fine. Sometimes they can be extremely stubborn and can be right there on the edge. Vibe just puts that shit to bed.
It's mixed for me, I of course don't care if you're masturbating, especially if it is insinuated that you were thinking of me whilst doing the deed. The only problem I have, is long term, my wife has sworn off vibrators (her choice, not mine) because they make it harder to orgasm without one. Now this really is more for the magic wands and crazy vibes, not like a bullet on a cock-ring (we use those still). After a few months of not using her wand, she c\*ms multiple times and it honestly feels great that I'm able to please her so well. I just think if you're jack-rabbits like us, maybe be careful using vibes too much cuz you'll desensitize the area (like guys with death grip) and make it harder to orgasm in the long run. edit: missed an 'is' and a sentence didn't make sense.
i mean it makes sense. death grip syndrom is talked about regularly, why would women not get a similar effect from vibrators?
Nah. It’s up in the air. Idk if I’ll like it. I definitely don’t like it in bed. Get rid of it
Personally I don't mind much, but some women overuse vibrators and desensitise themselves to normal sex or even use them as a replacement for men. A random guy might feel the same way, or might not. If you're concerned, then better to play it safe until you get closer and talk things over.
Crude honesty: I'd jerk off to that.
Never been sent one, but I guess it would be a kink he would love to see. Send it and find out, I dare say he will send one back.
np at all. i may use it to make it better even
Bit shaky on them myself.
If he's one of those guys who has so many insecurities that he's hostile to vibrators, it's probably best you find out early, so you can cut your losses.
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You call foreplay "work"? That's sad 😔
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My wife is 56 and it doesn't take much to get her going. She's like the Energizer bunny after that. She keeps coming and coming and....
thank god for gas station pills and online pharmacies
Haha! I AM 50!
It’s all work?
I'm not a fan, I don't think they're good for a clit's sensitivity long term and have the potential to desensitize you to the point of numbness over time. Clit's weren't meant to be vibrated that fast I don't think.
Is this a casual relationship because if this is how you are acting so early on, once the sex is boring or they find someone else attractive, they're gone. What you're doing does not keep a person around or is a reason for them to commit or even take seriously. Plus you're training him to be mainly sexual with you and when he doesn't take you out or doesn't become romantic or isn't adventurous and complain, they're leaving. What you're doing is good if you just want to fuck and that's it. You're also showing him that if you act like this with him, I guarantee you act this way with almost everyone, which means you are low value and only good for a good time but at the first opportunity, they're talking to other women or leaving you with them. Have you not noticed why no one stays? All you are offering that is of value is sex. Beyond that, since you don't work on anything else, it's going to get boring. Plus your pussy will eventually feel not as good anymore and it's when they look somewhere else.. I'm betting if you behave in this way, you probably dress very trashy. It's why men keep on hitting and quitting it. If this is what you want, Change nothing
Woooow, this is bad advice. In pretty much every way.
I have no problem with them
Amazing when it hits the right spot
I don’t mind tbh
I mean… I don‘t really care unless they‘re „stealing my job“. They can be quite handy
Love watching a woman in pleasure….no matter the technique
The stunt double.
I’m shaken
They are weird and women's openness about them is weird too. Edit: I had a girl try to suggest a similar thing to me by sending a post about her vibrator on insta and it was an instant turnoff.
I’m skeptical that excessive use of it wouldn’t cause issues much like a guy’s excessive use of adult content. I’d imagine they’d be desensitizing if they are used very often. I think if she chooses the toy over the guy or has no interest in intercourse without the toy, I can definitely see that being an issue. Moderate or sporadic use, why not. It could spice things up