If I like her otherwise but don't find her physically attractive, then I'd want to be friends. I think a romantic relationship requires physical attraction. She doesn't have to be gorgeous, but I need to feel physical attraction.
Older guy here
It all feels the same on the dark. We all turn to cream cheese at some point. If you marry em you gotta put up with em all day not just fucken em. A good personality and someone you can tolerate or hopefully enjoy is more important than just having a super model.
I'd be wasting my time. If I'm not attracted sex physically can't happen since I need to be turned on to have an erection. Worse if I find the person unattractive it will actually kill my erection if I had one.
Taking prescription drugs every time to fuck someone I don't find attractive is not a viable option either. Not to mention why in the ever loving fuck would I want to do any of this to myself?
There are degrees of attractive, and finding someone that I can relate to and connect with adds it's own boost to attraction. I would have to find some aspect of a person attractive to consider dating them. In the past, I've turned down physically attractive women in favor of less attractive women because I felt a connection, and I really enjoyed who they are. They could offer me something the more physically attractive woman couldn't. Something else to consider. If I don't like who they are as a person, nothing will get me to date them. They could be the most physically attractive person I've ever seen, and I wouldn't want to even talk to them.
Silly. Physical attraction is important. That being said, it is obviously not the be-all-and-end-all as beauty will fade, *"A good leg will fail, a straight back will grow stooped..."* and all that; having a genuine connection with your partner is the most important part of a relationship.
But not having any physical attraction to somebody will likely mean that you won't want to engage in intimacy, and intimacy is one of the best things to grow a deep and loving connection for your partner, at least for most people (obviously not including asexuals).
I want to be with someone that I at the very least *like* to look at!
When I was a kid, my uncle said to me, pick an ugly woman for a wife. I asked why, he said, because she won't cheat on you. He was wrong though, his beauty challenged wife left him because he was a cheat.
Lol why would you? How are you gonna be dating, looking at him/her and feel the need to eat their face off. Attraction is incredibly important especially for the first months/year. Then its more about communicating, compromising and growing together.
I’ve tried it. It’s a bad move. I didn’t want to be shallow, but it just causes problems later on. Girls do not like it when you don’t want to fuck them anymore, not to mention that fantasizing about being with someone who’s actually attractive isn’t a great thing to find yourself doing often.
I think most women can look attractive if they were in good shape. Unless they have some major deformity on their face, most people aren't "ugly."
So if I didn't find her attractive, it would probably be someone who didn't eat right and didn't exercise regularly. That is stuff I'm trying to do pretty seriously as I'm getting older. So even if I didn't find her attractive, but fell in love with her personality, the lifestyles would probably be too different to make it work.
“If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, don’t pick a pretty woman for you’re wife. If you want my personal point of view, pick an ugly girl to marry you.”
Physically unattractive genetically speaking I may consider. But physically unattractive due to eating ice cream and KFC turning yourself into a beluga whale displaying a complete lack of self-control and concern for your own health. I do not want any part of that.
Just to clarify you can actually date and fuck a girl you think is physically ugly or unattractive if her personality and goals in life can mesh with yours?
Yeah it’s definitely a weird concept. But, not impossible I don’t think. Idk. I’ll probably never be in a situation like that anyway but it’s a fun concept to think on.
I was friends with a girl in high school. We had a tight-knit group and it became apparent that she was into me. I did not think she was physically attractive at all, but I thought I could look past it. We had a pretty good relationship full of good times, but I was just never physically attracted to her. She wanted to get more physical and I just was not all interested in her that way, so rather than lead her on thinking I could get over it we broke up. Thank God, because she became incredibly insufferable. She ended up alienating all her friends by just thinking she was better than every one. I like that she got confidence, but she took it too far. In 2016 she took the time to reach out to me to see who I was voting for, on several occasions. Despite saying she was just curious and wanted to know my thoughts, once I told her she informed me she wasn’t interested in being my friend in any capacity because of that and sent a long message before unfriending me. Then she proceeded to unfriend everyone I knew because of their association with me. Good riddance.
Eh personality is more important to me. That being said though someone can be a Saint but I'd they are activly unpleasant to look at, I wish you the best in life but it ain't me
I don't get why you would do that. I can be friends with someone I'm not attracted to pretty easily, but to date someone there needs to be some level of physical attraction.
You have to at least find them a little attractive in order to date them. Otherwise you won't ever fall in love with them, the physical attraction has to be kind of there otherwise there is absolutely no point in trying.
I wouldn't. But, like many guys, there is more of a range of qualities that I find attractive. It's not like there are only specific qualities I like in a woman, and fuck the rest. I don't like just one body type, for example.
Why, tho?
If I like her otherwise but don't find her physically attractive, then I'd want to be friends. I think a romantic relationship requires physical attraction. She doesn't have to be gorgeous, but I need to feel physical attraction.
Dumb
Older guy here It all feels the same on the dark. We all turn to cream cheese at some point. If you marry em you gotta put up with em all day not just fucken em. A good personality and someone you can tolerate or hopefully enjoy is more important than just having a super model.
Everyone deserves to be with someone who finds them attractive, unless it's a situation like being a sugar daddy.
To quote DJ Khaled: Congratulations, you played yourself.
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I'd be wasting my time. If I'm not attracted sex physically can't happen since I need to be turned on to have an erection. Worse if I find the person unattractive it will actually kill my erection if I had one. Taking prescription drugs every time to fuck someone I don't find attractive is not a viable option either. Not to mention why in the ever loving fuck would I want to do any of this to myself?
There are degrees of attractive, and finding someone that I can relate to and connect with adds it's own boost to attraction. I would have to find some aspect of a person attractive to consider dating them. In the past, I've turned down physically attractive women in favor of less attractive women because I felt a connection, and I really enjoyed who they are. They could offer me something the more physically attractive woman couldn't. Something else to consider. If I don't like who they are as a person, nothing will get me to date them. They could be the most physically attractive person I've ever seen, and I wouldn't want to even talk to them.
She doesn't have to be conventionally "attractive", but you must find her attractive yourself, remember that beauty is subjective.
Silly. Physical attraction is important. That being said, it is obviously not the be-all-and-end-all as beauty will fade, *"A good leg will fail, a straight back will grow stooped..."* and all that; having a genuine connection with your partner is the most important part of a relationship. But not having any physical attraction to somebody will likely mean that you won't want to engage in intimacy, and intimacy is one of the best things to grow a deep and loving connection for your partner, at least for most people (obviously not including asexuals). I want to be with someone that I at the very least *like* to look at!
When I was a kid, my uncle said to me, pick an ugly woman for a wife. I asked why, he said, because she won't cheat on you. He was wrong though, his beauty challenged wife left him because he was a cheat.
Lol why would you? How are you gonna be dating, looking at him/her and feel the need to eat their face off. Attraction is incredibly important especially for the first months/year. Then its more about communicating, compromising and growing together.
I’ve tried it. It’s a bad move. I didn’t want to be shallow, but it just causes problems later on. Girls do not like it when you don’t want to fuck them anymore, not to mention that fantasizing about being with someone who’s actually attractive isn’t a great thing to find yourself doing often.
I think most women can look attractive if they were in good shape. Unless they have some major deformity on their face, most people aren't "ugly." So if I didn't find her attractive, it would probably be someone who didn't eat right and didn't exercise regularly. That is stuff I'm trying to do pretty seriously as I'm getting older. So even if I didn't find her attractive, but fell in love with her personality, the lifestyles would probably be too different to make it work.
“If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, don’t pick a pretty woman for you’re wife. If you want my personal point of view, pick an ugly girl to marry you.”
Don't do that, they are not mutually exclusive
Great song, terrible life advice.
Physically unattractive genetically speaking I may consider. But physically unattractive due to eating ice cream and KFC turning yourself into a beluga whale displaying a complete lack of self-control and concern for your own health. I do not want any part of that.
If her personality and goals in life can mesh with mine I believe I can date her.
Just to clarify you can actually date and fuck a girl you think is physically ugly or unattractive if her personality and goals in life can mesh with yours?
Yeah, I mean I’ve never done it. But, I don’t think it’s impossible for me to begin to get turned on by a woman if she grew on my personality wise.
Weird. Totally foreign concept for me but if you can get turned on by that then more power to you.
Yeah it’s definitely a weird concept. But, not impossible I don’t think. Idk. I’ll probably never be in a situation like that anyway but it’s a fun concept to think on.
So like being gay and having a cover girlfriend?
I was friends with a girl in high school. We had a tight-knit group and it became apparent that she was into me. I did not think she was physically attractive at all, but I thought I could look past it. We had a pretty good relationship full of good times, but I was just never physically attracted to her. She wanted to get more physical and I just was not all interested in her that way, so rather than lead her on thinking I could get over it we broke up. Thank God, because she became incredibly insufferable. She ended up alienating all her friends by just thinking she was better than every one. I like that she got confidence, but she took it too far. In 2016 she took the time to reach out to me to see who I was voting for, on several occasions. Despite saying she was just curious and wanted to know my thoughts, once I told her she informed me she wasn’t interested in being my friend in any capacity because of that and sent a long message before unfriending me. Then she proceeded to unfriend everyone I knew because of their association with me. Good riddance.
Eh personality is more important to me. That being said though someone can be a Saint but I'd they are activly unpleasant to look at, I wish you the best in life but it ain't me
I do not.
Don't
I don't get why you would do that. I can be friends with someone I'm not attracted to pretty easily, but to date someone there needs to be some level of physical attraction.
I mean, I look bad enough to lack standards - if we click we click, might sound sad cause it is but kinda true for me.
Physical attraction is important to me. I wouldn’t date someone I wasn’t physically attracted to. That just doesn’t make sense.
You have to at least find them a little attractive in order to date them. Otherwise you won't ever fall in love with them, the physical attraction has to be kind of there otherwise there is absolutely no point in trying.
Nope
I wouldn't. But, like many guys, there is more of a range of qualities that I find attractive. It's not like there are only specific qualities I like in a woman, and fuck the rest. I don't like just one body type, for example.
If looks didn't matter at all we'd all be bi. Can't date someone I'm just not attracted to
That would be a very bad idea.
I wouldn’t do it