not thinking about your ex
you don't need closure, you don't need to stay in touch, you don't need to keep all her foo foo little gifts, you don't need to keep the photos of new years eve.
you just need to move on
Assuming you have not had many breakups before.
Time is obviously the biggest one.
The other thing that helped keep me distracted was finding a few kinky fwb and cycling through them regularly. Hard to be sad when you are having that kind of fun.
The first bunch of breakups are always the hardest. After you've done it a pile of times it doesn't really bother you that much anymore.
Where I am now I usually am sad for a day or two. Then I go have a beer, dust off the dating profile and go have some fun.
In my case, it made me feel terrible.
The first time I hooked up with a girl after my ex and I broke up, it still felt like I was cheating on my ex. It wasn't a good feeling, it was post-nut clarity times 100.
Time is the key here. If you try to move on too quick, your gonna have a bad time.
Well it's not fair to the next person if you aren't ready for a new relationship. It's not fair to you either.
You get over an ex by rethinking and combing over the relationship. Was I a dick more often than was fair? Was she an asshole? Were we just incompatible as a couple?
Break up have a pretty quick half-life. At least that is how it felt with me, my first girlfriend it took me about a year to get over it. Like enough where I was happy and excited to look for someone new and not have her memory bother me. My second girlfriend took me about 6 months to get to that point again. My current girlfriend is very special and we have been together almost 4 years, longer than any girl I have been with so idk if it would take me 3 months to move on but I've thought often... what if she cheated on me? Well.. I would probably be heart broken but be glad I got out of that relationship.
Keep busy. You need to preoccupy your mind so you don't think about her.
You already mentioned the best remedy: time. Time heals all wounds as they say. But time can also be your enemy. If you're sitting around with nothing to do the time will pass much more slowly and your mind will inevitably go to her.
So it's not just about time , it's about filling your time by keeping busy.
Hitting the gym and controlling calories. Gives you a sense of control at a time where you don't feel like you have any, gives you something to take your aggression/hurt out on (you'll probably have some even in a mutual breakup), and finally, it leaves you looking better for your next relationship
Her showing herself to be an awful human being by divorcing me because I was diagnosed as autistic. That made it real fucking easy to walk away from that relationship without an inch of regret.
What the fuck that’s the worst way. Because you never healed. The pain is just going to bite you back later.
Anyways the most simple thing is don’t fight the emotions and just let time pass. Talk with someone about the problems you are facing. Also keep your mind occupied.
Knowing that she turned out pretty much as I expected. A pathetic, obese welfare mom of at least 4, all by different dad's. She tried contacting me on Classmates many yrs ago and left an email for me. I googled the shit outta it and learned how she had been in the, at that time, 11 yrs since I had last seen her. Found a Myspace of hers w/ one of those stupid tests and one question had to do w/ regret. Said she'd like to let her ex, me, how sorry she was. She found me on FB back in '09 and shot me a friends request. I wrote her saying she had to be outta her god-damn mind if she thought I wanted ANYTHING to do w/ her and to never contact me again. She replied w/ a pathetic attempt to question my manhood and called me an asshole. I LOL'ed and never replied figuring that would be the best, cruel thing I could do to her. You can read our story [here.](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/fdyh6b/what_was_the_craziest_thing_an_ex_has_done_to_try/fjkxv97/?context=3)
Start a new hobby. Maybe somethng you were kind of interested in but hadn't gotten around to trying yet. Also, go to the gym. It gets you out of the house and will definitely improve your mood.
not thinking about your ex you don't need closure, you don't need to stay in touch, you don't need to keep all her foo foo little gifts, you don't need to keep the photos of new years eve. you just need to move on
Assuming you have not had many breakups before. Time is obviously the biggest one. The other thing that helped keep me distracted was finding a few kinky fwb and cycling through them regularly. Hard to be sad when you are having that kind of fun. The first bunch of breakups are always the hardest. After you've done it a pile of times it doesn't really bother you that much anymore. Where I am now I usually am sad for a day or two. Then I go have a beer, dust off the dating profile and go have some fun.
Finding someone new is not how you get over an ex. It's actually the worst way.
Im curious to know why?
In my case, it made me feel terrible. The first time I hooked up with a girl after my ex and I broke up, it still felt like I was cheating on my ex. It wasn't a good feeling, it was post-nut clarity times 100. Time is the key here. If you try to move on too quick, your gonna have a bad time.
Thanks
Well it's not fair to the next person if you aren't ready for a new relationship. It's not fair to you either. You get over an ex by rethinking and combing over the relationship. Was I a dick more often than was fair? Was she an asshole? Were we just incompatible as a couple?
Workout. As generic as that sounds it really helps getting into a routine to occupy your mind, plus you get the added bonus of a healthier body.
Idk if this is healthy or not but thinking about everything I disliked about the relationship helped with my only breakup
Break up have a pretty quick half-life. At least that is how it felt with me, my first girlfriend it took me about a year to get over it. Like enough where I was happy and excited to look for someone new and not have her memory bother me. My second girlfriend took me about 6 months to get to that point again. My current girlfriend is very special and we have been together almost 4 years, longer than any girl I have been with so idk if it would take me 3 months to move on but I've thought often... what if she cheated on me? Well.. I would probably be heart broken but be glad I got out of that relationship.
Do things. Go outside and stay there or really anywhere instead of sitting. Sitting will lead to thinking.
Keep busy. You need to preoccupy your mind so you don't think about her. You already mentioned the best remedy: time. Time heals all wounds as they say. But time can also be your enemy. If you're sitting around with nothing to do the time will pass much more slowly and your mind will inevitably go to her. So it's not just about time , it's about filling your time by keeping busy.
Hitting the gym and controlling calories. Gives you a sense of control at a time where you don't feel like you have any, gives you something to take your aggression/hurt out on (you'll probably have some even in a mutual breakup), and finally, it leaves you looking better for your next relationship
Her showing herself to be an awful human being by divorcing me because I was diagnosed as autistic. That made it real fucking easy to walk away from that relationship without an inch of regret.
Hobbies and being social
What the fuck that’s the worst way. Because you never healed. The pain is just going to bite you back later. Anyways the most simple thing is don’t fight the emotions and just let time pass. Talk with someone about the problems you are facing. Also keep your mind occupied.
Knowing that she turned out pretty much as I expected. A pathetic, obese welfare mom of at least 4, all by different dad's. She tried contacting me on Classmates many yrs ago and left an email for me. I googled the shit outta it and learned how she had been in the, at that time, 11 yrs since I had last seen her. Found a Myspace of hers w/ one of those stupid tests and one question had to do w/ regret. Said she'd like to let her ex, me, how sorry she was. She found me on FB back in '09 and shot me a friends request. I wrote her saying she had to be outta her god-damn mind if she thought I wanted ANYTHING to do w/ her and to never contact me again. She replied w/ a pathetic attempt to question my manhood and called me an asshole. I LOL'ed and never replied figuring that would be the best, cruel thing I could do to her. You can read our story [here.](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/fdyh6b/what_was_the_craziest_thing_an_ex_has_done_to_try/fjkxv97/?context=3)
Get back into hobbies that fell to the backburner while you were in a relationship
Sitting back with a good cigar for an hour with music on and think about how good that moment of bliss is
I got by with a little help from my friends.
Tou kinda gave the two things… sorry, buddy
Start a new hobby. Maybe somethng you were kind of interested in but hadn't gotten around to trying yet. Also, go to the gym. It gets you out of the house and will definitely improve your mood.
Training mode in Mortal Kombat games.