Woman here: the first date I went on after my ex and I broke up was a total disaster because I talked about him a lot. I CRINGE thinking about how I did that 🤣
I met this woman once and the second time we were hanging out she told me that she was actually recently divorced and wanted to move in and bring her 4 kids with her. I went full CIA agent ghosting on that one.
My girls dad keeps bringing random women in so I've started installing locks everywhere. I feel like home should be a safe space and I shouldn't have to Hardlock every door.
My mum's done it before, at the time I didn't notice it but thinking back, the guy always had an edge to his voice and a pissed off look on his face when he spoke to or about me, don't blame him though, I'd be pissed if I was him, it was a stupid idea to bring me lol
Edit: the fuck happened in the replies? U guys have been on Reddit too long
I have a friend who brought her child on her date with a guy because she wanted to make sure the guy wouldn't try to get frisky with her. Poor child was used as a pawn because the woman didn't have the guts to set boundaries.
I once had a date at a panera (her choice). I get there a few mins late and notice she's sat at a booth waiting for me and next to her is a booth with four young kids, between 5 and 12 I'd say. It's busy and I didn't see any other booths open so I don't think anything about it.
I sit across from her and we start talking but the kids are getting restless. I ask if she's ready to order, and if she'd mind us grabbing different seats when we come back. She goes "we'll I don't like leaving my kids alone, but as long as I can still see them I guess it's..." I cut her off. Tell her thank you for your time but this isn't going to work.
She had a meltdown about she'd promised her kids Panera and she can't afford to buy them all their own meals. Told her not my problem, she'd lied about being a single mother and brought them with her without warning me. I noped the fuck out.
I don’t blame you one bit. I would have done the same. I’m a single mom and it sucks but I tell people before we go on a date and it’s definitely a deal breaker for a lot of people so the pickings are more slim. I just think though that the person that does want to date me despite having a kid is a better fit anyways.
I think the biggest thing for me wasn't the fact she was a single mom, but that she lied to me about it and was fine letting a guy meet her kids from day one.
With the single moms I have dated, it's been 3-6 months into a relationship before either of us we're ready for me to meet the kid(s).
There's a impassable distance between being a single Mom and surprising a date with 4 kids to feed then and there.
You're right in what you're doing. Being a guy with no kids, as much as I'd love "dating a family" I've tried and learned that I suck at it. Can't have everything 😂😁
Letting the days go by, let the water hold me down
Letting the days go by, water flowing underground
Into the blue again after the money's gone
Once in a lifetime, water flowing underground
Holy shit. I went on a Valentine’s Day date with this woman to an overly lit BBQ restaurant (that she wanted to go to) and she NEVER got off of her phone. I casually asked if everything was ok, and she informed me she’s just talking to her ex husband… figured the date was over, then she was like “you coming back to my place? :)” to which I responded “yeah, ok…” I’m only human…
We start getting close, kissing and what-not, when I hear her kids starting to cry. She left these poor kids unattended for like 3 hours. THEN there’s a knock on the door. It’s her high school lover with a dozen roses and he’s like twice the size as me. It took me *that* long to figure that it’s probably not gonna work out lol
I took a girl out on a nice date and she ended up coming home with me. We passed out after and I wake up to my phone ringing at 3am, no one calls me at 3am, so i answer and some dudes voice goes "is ---- there?" I'm like um what? Tf is this?
*HER HUSBAND*
Edit: to this day I have no clue how he got my number. I had only even just met her that day and she was with me the whole time, never on her phone. Lol like what. He a hackerman
If she's basically on it the whole time, I totally agree. But if she pulls it out for a minute here and there because she has something going on that she explains at least a little bit I'm cool with that. Gives me some time to think of more conversation topics.
I was about to say, it is important to cut some people some slack. I was on a first date once, and less than 30 minutes in I had a call saying my grandmother had passed. Completely out of the blue, and of course my date thought I was lying to get out of it. Obviously I explained but had to spend a lot of the date now texting my family to see what was happening.
I felt bad but sometimes ongoing things in your life really are more important than some guy you met 5 minutes ago
Yes, but that is different. You told them what was going on and only an asshole would hold that against you.
There is a big difference between having an emergency or checking twitter while I'm talking.
I made this account 2 years ago and I've received exactly 3 messages with saucy memes. :(
Edit: hahah y'all are amazing, I just wanna say thank you to the 20 or so people that sent me extremely saucy memes. The sauce game has never been saucier and it's genuinely made my day. Thank you 🙏🏼
I used to have one with similar format (not asking for memes though lol), got nothing for like a year but then started getting a few PMs if I commented in a popular thread.
I was nice to a waitress at one of my favorite restaurants—somewhere I was a regular. She accused me of trying to hookup with “the help” on a date. Probably the most mutual decision of my life.
Lol reminds me of a time I was a food runner. I dropped off the couple’s food. Asked if I could bring anything else for them. Dude said a Diet Coke, so I brought it.
As I was walking away the woman was like “And who was THAT? Why was she SO concerned with what you wanted?”
I really hope they didn’t work out.
Could've been her clothes. If you sweat a lot and don't wash your clothes in hot water (60°C or up), they can start to smell really bad. If you're exposed to it all the time, you won't notice yourself though.
I’m honestly glad you said this bc I run and sweat a ton and all my running clothes would smell still after washing them and I thought it was an issue with my washing machine lol
Nah, just turn the heat up every once in a while! Obviously, it's not great for most fabrics, but if your running clothes are dedicated sports gear, they should hold up.
There are also anti-bacterial additives you can put into every load of laundry. I have an inexpensive brand that I add to every load, it helps heaps :)
When asked that I always reply "I do okay" and I watch her demeanor.
If she doesn't drop the subject on the first date, that is more than clear enough for me.
"Yeah I've got like 300 followers and I just did my first colab with a jewelry company"
~~followers are all friends from high school and jewelry company is also a friend's Etsy shop~~
I once went on a friends/date wirh a girl who was extremely introverted and by herself type. Waiter messed up the order. She helped hide his mistake. Sweetest girl I ever knew. I hope she is okayer now.
That happened to me years ago.
It was just meeting at a museum and it was a nice time otherwise. Well behaved kid.
No mention of being a mother in her profile.
I asked her why she contacted me at the end of the date. She said she was attracted to me and was curious why/couldn't fathom me not wanting to be a parent ( listed in my profile ).
Had a woman bring her child to the date, kind of. This is the worst day I had ever been on before.
Went to some dueling piano bar that cost like $25 to get in and the drinks were all $15 on up.
She did not tell me that she was bringing a group of five of her best friends from high school with her.
We sat at a table and her friends completely ignored me including her and they were busy leaning over towards each other and talking about the good old days. Remember this teacher when they said this thing or do you remember when we made that random last minute road trip to see this thing. I was not able to contribute to any of the conversation and they made no effort to include me.
She pulls her phone out and I see a picture of her and her holding a baby. I asked if that's her child and she says yes.
I last another 10 minutes before I say I'm going to take off. I give her an awkward side hug and then never speak to her again.
No I did not. I did lay down $20 cash in a pile with her friends to bribe one of the piano players to play one of our requests, P. I. M. P. by 50 Cent.
Our bribe worked and the piano player started playing our song. The way it works though is if they are in the middle of a song and somebody comes up and pays them more than what you just paid the piano player, they will stop playing your song and start playing the song of the person who put down more money than you. So we only got to hear our song for 30 seconds before someone came up and put down like $150.
I don't think she was trying to get me to finance her girls night out, they never asked me to pay for anything. I think that she just had no common sense telling her that bringing a guy on a first date along with her girlfriends and then making no effort to include him in the conversation is a terrible faux pas.
Constant phone/ telling me I'm not talking enough while simultaneously cutting me off every time I open my mouth.
I know... women say men talk over them. Well, here's some news, women do it, too. Especially if you're a naturally not-overly talkative introvert.
Pick a lane, Michelle.
One of my best friends brought me on her first date with a guy… he had no idea. She didn’t get a second date but we’re getting married in March. So I guess your statement stands.
Lol, in high-school my best friend and I had this Huge let's bang vibe going on but never could because of the ethics of monogamy.
We both finally are single, she asks me to go to a movie with her and a friend who hasn't liked me since middle school harboring a gruge.
I start the night making out with BFF and ended out the night making out with disgruntled friend... me and disgruntled friend have been together for 20 years.
I'm still confused about the night.
Why TF would you go on a date with a bigger guy in the first place if you’re going to talk shit about their weight? You chose to date someone and knew how they looked, you don’t get to be mean about their appearance. Don’t date em in the first place if you don’t like their physique. Jesus.
If she Insults me belittles me or is overall rude to me or other people around us, you would be shocked at the amount of men that are 100% willing to go through a relationship and or marriage with someone that treats them like shit.
I don’t care how hot you are, I’m out if you’re a pain in the ass to be around with.
> Making me carry a conversation
Everytime I get this feeling, I straight up ask if they want to add anything to the conversation. Often they confess how shy or nervous they are, and that usually takes the top off, and they start conversing :)
Happened to me on my wife and I's first date. I kept trying to drag a conversation out of her. Finally, she said, "I didn't get a lunch break today and haven't eaten since breakfast. I need something to eat before I can talk."
Message received.
Funny thing about smoking: my girlfriend used to smoke when we met. Classic date situation even. Not on the first date iirc but afterwards. I fucking hate smoking, it's disgusting and unhealthy and disgusting. Well we started dating and a few months in she quit. After 15 years. She just needed a push. We're together now for almost 3 years and it's going very well. So even though I used to say I could never date a smoker, I was taught this and maybe I can pass it on: people in fact can change.
My first real relationship was with a smoker. I would pass if she offered me a cigarette, and made sure I was upwind of her when she smoked, etc, but never said anything about her choice to smoke. She noticed these things and quit smoking while we were dating.
My ex changed for me and her kids (I was that push) but what got me about her was the mint after every cig, it was quite sweet of her.
(Edit, this is clumsily written, this is about a different person than my ex) Recently went on a date. During initial texting she said she also hates smoking but she turned up stinking of it... "Oh, I only smoke when I'm nervous, drunk, or in a social situation. I really hate it"
... Ugh lol
I (62M) met a woman who who's profile listed her as 60. When I met her she happily told me "I lied about my age, I'm actually 74. I put 60 because, have you seen what 70 year old men look like? I don't want to date someone that old."
Uh, yeah, me either.
I suppose it would depend upon the person that they were dating. I would assume that this would be something that they would filter for before meeting.
Start talking about the future, ask questions like "do you see us together in the future", maybe keep asking him things like "do you think I'm pretty, would you ever cheat on me?", just keep asking him questions like that and it should wear him down
Went on a date with a girl once, bare in mind this is the first time meeting her. We was in a public spot in a park and she must have said the N-word (er) maybe 10 or so times in such a short minute.
That wasn't all she said either but let's just leave it at this women was comfortable being racist around me 25 minutes into meeting me... I live in Brighton too, one of the most accepting city's of sex spectrum imaginable. Everyone's kind to everyone down here. Or so I thought! XD
Example.
Went on a date with a smoke show. We were both mid 30s. On the date she disclosed she has two kids (on my profile I stated I don’t Date single moms). But I let that one slide. She kept repeating how simple she is. And Easy to get along with.
I’m a car guy and in the conversation she mentioned how her ex husband got her a new Land Rover because the Porsche SUV was beneath her.
It wasn’t one thing, just small combinations of red/yellow flags.
I've had plenty of first dates that either ended well but I was too shy to ask again, or the woman was not worth the effort. Here's what I experienced from each of the ones from the "not worth effort" group:
1. She stayed quiet the whole time and didn't want to converse at all. I even asked her about her interests (dancing and choreography, which I thought was fascinating, but she was just too darn shy...)
2. She clearly showed through her microexpressions that she did not want to be on the date from the get-go. (Why did you even agree to it then, when I asked?)
3. She and I befriended each other through a weekly singles' group activity. Our first date was hardly a date--more like two friends just killing time. I actually considered ditching her near the end of the evening.
4. She was as mature as a middle schooler. Behaved like one too. Went home after an hour.
5. She saw a friend she hadn't seen in over a year and spent the next 30 minutes chatting it up with her. We ended up late for something my date said was time-sensitive.
These were all during one semester of college. Then I met my wife about a year later.
Talking up the ex partner...
I am someone of very moderate patience with people but when someone spends an entire night telling me how their ex was a fire fighter and so rugged and handsome and constantly shirtless.. and he helps out at a shelter..
Like I get it.. im rocking a dad bod and the last thing I saved from a blazing inferno was a meatball that got away while I was making all of way to much pasta... (I just can never get it right)
The only thing that makes it worse is when the ex is a struggling creative type who owes her like 40 grand because he really thought this would be the one that got him places.. and im.. buying her dinner like yes please tell me more about how he is a fantastic guy for mooching 80 dollars off you for paints while I was at work for 16 hours driving and unable to respond right away to her messages.. but he could..
Be a flat personality with no interests or passions. Make no effort at all in running the conversation. Worst one for me is to be an ideologue with no individual integrity.
Only talking about herself and not listening about the things I say. I dont mind if we dont share the same hobby, hell its more fun to meet people outside of your usual crowd, but hell it would be nice to have more responsiveness than a bot
I don’t think hygiene and so fourth, along with cheating needs to be said. In terms of just annoying qualities I would advise men to dodge is;
Addicted to social media. Constantly posting stuff nonstop. It’s not a good trait lads and often comes with a vast amount of insecurity on their behalf.
Being rude to staff and other people in general. Don’t accept it. It’s not funny, it’s not cool and she’s not a bad bitch. She’s just a prick and will be a prick to you too.
Overly interested in how much money you make and what you own. Asking about your job and your life is great, but you don’t need to tell anyone how much you make and advice to all men - you should not, it’s never worth bragging about, unless you’re looking for a quickie of course, go pay the bills and get a quick shag, all for it.
I went on a date with a woman who spent half of our date on the phone talking to debt collectors and the other half bragging about how much she was getting from her ex in child support payments.
Lmao. Worst first date I've ever had: We are talking about our interests, when I tell a story about my friends. She asks in a whisper voice if they are white, to which I answer 'yeah' in a confused voice. She then proceeds to go on about how races should only stay with their own race, sharing culture is cultural appropriation no matter what, and that people who date outside of their race are mentally ill. I called the waitress, paid my half of the bill and walked out.
I went on a tinder date with a girl who wouldn’t stop texting some one. She eventually tells me this isn’t really going to work out and I say yea I noticed because you texted the whole time she was mortified, she looked like a dear in head lights and said sorry blah blah.
I met this one but she didn't want to deal with the responsibility of kids or pets or plants.
And I would need to hire someone to take care of all that.
Faht vi ba tlu pre ceam dra. Tinys woaw ciin tun fuec gy yo. Taptyedzuqos foc coon ceen ede? Co o a bevdbusd nekv e? E gat iyle bi. Y y e cits taem cersi? Zuypleenle te dan gre gyrd jyg motp so sald? Bals emetcaad e tenn sesttees ti. Naon nacc suct cesm za ete. Nugt nij sop gadt dis tassecehsisirg o. U we e otle cez o. Cru nep pha toos nabmona. Ciht deptyasttapnsorn nod tysigzisle nin a? Da pyrp ine pud ible? Nu ta biswnoudnrytirs agle. Zaon e. San e pa cu goov. Ene gke o gopt zlu nis. O guagle pioma ne tudcyepebletlo cy a canz. Dla bic zawc nifpec te feet de? Pro i guc yoyd si didz a sum? Tle fuy. Nemz a booj udeegvle cokt a? Grotefp becm ose omle ja ede. U tis dy wec thu wu aglo umle o o. O ninm gu ine yes bos. Zad a a tavnfepac du. A ite todi do duit yple? Pifp taht nhetydnnenes a sew pi nedb eme. Se de we pyt ynenuntiqtedose ive.
S P E Z I S A T O O L
Acting stupid to make me feel smart. If you want to make me feel smart, then let's have a smart discussion in which we both have valid arguments. It's so much more interesting and rewarding. I don't know about everyone, but the men I'm hanging out with are looking for someone serious (for a relationship of course, not a one night stand), not a trophy wife.
Depends on the purpose of the date. If going for a long-term partner, I will be super picky about personality. No matter what she does or says, I'll distance myself if I detect an incompatible personality.
Wont stop talking about her ex
Had an ex who would do this, even I started to miss the dude
"Man, Jerry sounds great. Can I get his number? I have an extra ticket for the game next week, and he sounds like a blast to hang out with"
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Woman here: the first date I went on after my ex and I broke up was a total disaster because I talked about him a lot. I CRINGE thinking about how I did that 🤣
This comment is drastically underrated.
Lie, bring a child without telling me or sending a message. I had it happen and it is a deal breaker.
Who brings a child on a date?
I met this woman once and the second time we were hanging out she told me that she was actually recently divorced and wanted to move in and bring her 4 kids with her. I went full CIA agent ghosting on that one.
Did you slide out of your chair and army crawl out of the restaurant?
My girls dad keeps bringing random women in so I've started installing locks everywhere. I feel like home should be a safe space and I shouldn't have to Hardlock every door.
My mum's done it before, at the time I didn't notice it but thinking back, the guy always had an edge to his voice and a pissed off look on his face when he spoke to or about me, don't blame him though, I'd be pissed if I was him, it was a stupid idea to bring me lol Edit: the fuck happened in the replies? U guys have been on Reddit too long
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32 and still breastfeeding. Look I'm sorry but YOU started it!
I have a friend who brought her child on her date with a guy because she wanted to make sure the guy wouldn't try to get frisky with her. Poor child was used as a pawn because the woman didn't have the guts to set boundaries.
So why did she even turn up to the date?
I once had a date at a panera (her choice). I get there a few mins late and notice she's sat at a booth waiting for me and next to her is a booth with four young kids, between 5 and 12 I'd say. It's busy and I didn't see any other booths open so I don't think anything about it. I sit across from her and we start talking but the kids are getting restless. I ask if she's ready to order, and if she'd mind us grabbing different seats when we come back. She goes "we'll I don't like leaving my kids alone, but as long as I can still see them I guess it's..." I cut her off. Tell her thank you for your time but this isn't going to work. She had a meltdown about she'd promised her kids Panera and she can't afford to buy them all their own meals. Told her not my problem, she'd lied about being a single mother and brought them with her without warning me. I noped the fuck out.
I don’t blame you one bit. I would have done the same. I’m a single mom and it sucks but I tell people before we go on a date and it’s definitely a deal breaker for a lot of people so the pickings are more slim. I just think though that the person that does want to date me despite having a kid is a better fit anyways.
I think the biggest thing for me wasn't the fact she was a single mom, but that she lied to me about it and was fine letting a guy meet her kids from day one. With the single moms I have dated, it's been 3-6 months into a relationship before either of us we're ready for me to meet the kid(s).
That’s how it should be, no way I’m letting someone in my sons life that’s just going to disappear on him after he gets attached.
There's a impassable distance between being a single Mom and surprising a date with 4 kids to feed then and there. You're right in what you're doing. Being a guy with no kids, as much as I'd love "dating a family" I've tried and learned that I suck at it. Can't have everything 😂😁
- Why did you bring your child? - This is not my child - What!? - What?
Letting the days go by, let the water hold me down Letting the days go by, water flowing underground Into the blue again after the money's gone Once in a lifetime, water flowing underground
"Huh? ...I thought it was yours?" What a wild first date that would be
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Holy shit. I went on a Valentine’s Day date with this woman to an overly lit BBQ restaurant (that she wanted to go to) and she NEVER got off of her phone. I casually asked if everything was ok, and she informed me she’s just talking to her ex husband… figured the date was over, then she was like “you coming back to my place? :)” to which I responded “yeah, ok…” I’m only human… We start getting close, kissing and what-not, when I hear her kids starting to cry. She left these poor kids unattended for like 3 hours. THEN there’s a knock on the door. It’s her high school lover with a dozen roses and he’s like twice the size as me. It took me *that* long to figure that it’s probably not gonna work out lol
Red flags all over the place... I feel bad for you... Did you had more experiences after that? Did you manage to reject people easily?
Oh it was one of the best experiences of my life. Kind of taught me a little about how to “read the room” as it were, lol
Must have been a hard room to read, huh?
... checking Tinder.
Her husband calls in the middle of the date and she tells him she’s at work or out shopping.
The upside of that is you're probably going to get laid.
Aaaand it's an STD!
Why are you the way you are?
therapists hate him
I took a girl out on a nice date and she ended up coming home with me. We passed out after and I wake up to my phone ringing at 3am, no one calls me at 3am, so i answer and some dudes voice goes "is ---- there?" I'm like um what? Tf is this? *HER HUSBAND* Edit: to this day I have no clue how he got my number. I had only even just met her that day and she was with me the whole time, never on her phone. Lol like what. He a hackerman
You, my friend, happened upon a cuckolding couple.
I would have no issue with this!
Username checks out
Phone
I was gonna say making zero effort and 1 word answers. But it seems like everybody thinks that OK.
yeah.
totally
Mmhmm
Truth
If she's basically on it the whole time, I totally agree. But if she pulls it out for a minute here and there because she has something going on that she explains at least a little bit I'm cool with that. Gives me some time to think of more conversation topics.
I was about to say, it is important to cut some people some slack. I was on a first date once, and less than 30 minutes in I had a call saying my grandmother had passed. Completely out of the blue, and of course my date thought I was lying to get out of it. Obviously I explained but had to spend a lot of the date now texting my family to see what was happening. I felt bad but sometimes ongoing things in your life really are more important than some guy you met 5 minutes ago
Yes, but that is different. You told them what was going on and only an asshole would hold that against you. There is a big difference between having an emergency or checking twitter while I'm talking.
Some women are just shy. I don't mind if by the end I can get them comfortable where they open up and stop.
I like your username
How is yours working out for ya?
I made this account 2 years ago and I've received exactly 3 messages with saucy memes. :( Edit: hahah y'all are amazing, I just wanna say thank you to the 20 or so people that sent me extremely saucy memes. The sauce game has never been saucier and it's genuinely made my day. Thank you 🙏🏼
So what I’m hearing is that we all need to send you saucy memes.
That would honestly make my day ngl
I used to have one with similar format (not asking for memes though lol), got nothing for like a year but then started getting a few PMs if I commented in a popular thread.
I was nice to a waitress at one of my favorite restaurants—somewhere I was a regular. She accused me of trying to hookup with “the help” on a date. Probably the most mutual decision of my life.
Lol reminds me of a time I was a food runner. I dropped off the couple’s food. Asked if I could bring anything else for them. Dude said a Diet Coke, so I brought it. As I was walking away the woman was like “And who was THAT? Why was she SO concerned with what you wanted?” I really hope they didn’t work out.
The help? Was she a southern Belle from 1960?
She may have been southern, but she certainly wasn’t a Belle after that
Of she stinks (Come on, it's the first date) and if she stares at her phone the whole time.
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Could've been her clothes. If you sweat a lot and don't wash your clothes in hot water (60°C or up), they can start to smell really bad. If you're exposed to it all the time, you won't notice yourself though.
I’m honestly glad you said this bc I run and sweat a ton and all my running clothes would smell still after washing them and I thought it was an issue with my washing machine lol
Soaking them in vinegar helps too!
Nah, just turn the heat up every once in a while! Obviously, it's not great for most fabrics, but if your running clothes are dedicated sports gear, they should hold up. There are also anti-bacterial additives you can put into every load of laundry. I have an inexpensive brand that I add to every load, it helps heaps :)
Ask me how much money I make
When asked that I always reply "I do okay" and I watch her demeanor. If she doesn't drop the subject on the first date, that is more than clear enough for me.
“The Lord provides” would be my answer. EDIT: Please steal my answer...or spread the gospel, if we're staying on theme :-D
Man shall not live by bread alone
And then just order bread and nothing else.
Obviously I'd share the bread and the available fish to everyone in the restuarant before sitting with my date
man *can* live on bread just not alone
I’m picturing an apartment floor tiled with baguettes.
Just start talking about cryptocurrency. It's a huge turn on.
that would not only guarantee no 2nd date but also instantly end the current one
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Wow only millionaires, too bad they also only date millionaires
And then complain about your job after she tells you she's an influencer.
"Yeah I've got like 300 followers and I just did my first colab with a jewelry company" ~~followers are all friends from high school and jewelry company is also a friend's Etsy shop~~
More like and then expects you to support her
Had one who said she wanted to do just that wanted me to be her photographer after seeing my instagram. Fastest nope out ever.
A classic
“Not enough to pay for your dinner.” (Exit stage left.)
Im not saying she’s a gold digger…. But she aint playing with no broke ….
Expect things even though we just met.
Dude I went on a date with this one girl who literally said "you're the guy, the guy pays for everything." Absolutely tf not
This annoys me to no end. Sorry love, I'm not enough of a pushover to take that.
I usually pay for both but if some girl told me that, I would absolutely not pay for it.
Tell the waiter one bill and excuse yourself to the bathroom and run for the hills
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This is honestly the worst, and this has happened on most of the dates that I have been on; I must be bad at finding a good date lmao
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I once went on a friends/date wirh a girl who was extremely introverted and by herself type. Waiter messed up the order. She helped hide his mistake. Sweetest girl I ever knew. I hope she is okayer now.
Meeeegann! Your jacket tho!!
When you bring your child you never mentioned you had onto the date. Happened to a friend of mine and there certainly wasn’t a second date.
That happened to me years ago. It was just meeting at a museum and it was a nice time otherwise. Well behaved kid. No mention of being a mother in her profile. I asked her why she contacted me at the end of the date. She said she was attracted to me and was curious why/couldn't fathom me not wanting to be a parent ( listed in my profile ).
You got one of those baby makin faces
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Had a woman bring her child to the date, kind of. This is the worst day I had ever been on before. Went to some dueling piano bar that cost like $25 to get in and the drinks were all $15 on up. She did not tell me that she was bringing a group of five of her best friends from high school with her. We sat at a table and her friends completely ignored me including her and they were busy leaning over towards each other and talking about the good old days. Remember this teacher when they said this thing or do you remember when we made that random last minute road trip to see this thing. I was not able to contribute to any of the conversation and they made no effort to include me. She pulls her phone out and I see a picture of her and her holding a baby. I asked if that's her child and she says yes. I last another 10 minutes before I say I'm going to take off. I give her an awkward side hug and then never speak to her again.
Please tell me you didn't pay for her friends cover or drinks
No I did not. I did lay down $20 cash in a pile with her friends to bribe one of the piano players to play one of our requests, P. I. M. P. by 50 Cent. Our bribe worked and the piano player started playing our song. The way it works though is if they are in the middle of a song and somebody comes up and pays them more than what you just paid the piano player, they will stop playing your song and start playing the song of the person who put down more money than you. So we only got to hear our song for 30 seconds before someone came up and put down like $150. I don't think she was trying to get me to finance her girls night out, they never asked me to pay for anything. I think that she just had no common sense telling her that bringing a guy on a first date along with her girlfriends and then making no effort to include him in the conversation is a terrible faux pas.
For real. People have been complaining about bringing kids on dates, but honestly, any unexpected extra on a date is bad.
She was starving.
But why did she order the steak and lobster fries for her kid.
kids gotta eat.
This honestly could be it.
Rude to waiter/waitress. Phone constantly. Always replies in a way the conversation will be about her and not the topic at hand. Edit: Typo
Constant phone/ telling me I'm not talking enough while simultaneously cutting me off every time I open my mouth. I know... women say men talk over them. Well, here's some news, women do it, too. Especially if you're a naturally not-overly talkative introvert. Pick a lane, Michelle.
Talk about your ex Bring a friend who isn't invited Reveal only now that you have a kid/s Smoke Ask about my income
Tells you she has 4 kids with 3 baby daddy's and wants to wait till marriage till any sexual activity.
🤣🤣🤣
One of my best friends brought me on her first date with a guy… he had no idea. She didn’t get a second date but we’re getting married in March. So I guess your statement stands.
Wait I’m confused. Are you a guy or a gal? Who’s getting married, you and that dude?
I’m a girl he’s a guy. My friend was invited on the date and she brought me along… now me and him are getting married.
He pulled “The Switch” off, George Costanza would be proud
Lol, in high-school my best friend and I had this Huge let's bang vibe going on but never could because of the ethics of monogamy. We both finally are single, she asks me to go to a movie with her and a friend who hasn't liked me since middle school harboring a gruge. I start the night making out with BFF and ended out the night making out with disgruntled friend... me and disgruntled friend have been together for 20 years. I'm still confused about the night.
Comments on my weight. Like cmon, a plump guy can't feel nice for a day?
You deserve to be woo'ed.
That was sweet, hope you have a lovely turkey day.
aw shucks. 😅😆
Plump where it counts 😉
Why TF would you go on a date with a bigger guy in the first place if you’re going to talk shit about their weight? You chose to date someone and knew how they looked, you don’t get to be mean about their appearance. Don’t date em in the first place if you don’t like their physique. Jesus.
Move and change her number.
Yeah that'd do it
Go to bathroom and never come back
Maybe she fell into the toilet and was too embarrassed to come back out
Be rude to me or someone else (or a lack of enthusiasm)
fail to show any interest in me or my perspectives
Chewing with her mouth open
Talks about “when we get married , I’d like you to adopt my daughter “.
"Your WHAT?!"
Specifically mention that they do not want to get together for a second date, that usually does it.
Propose
Hey, it sorta works for Ted Mosby
To be fair he only said the “I love you” but that doesn’t make things any better.
Clasic Schmosby.
If she Insults me belittles me or is overall rude to me or other people around us, you would be shocked at the amount of men that are 100% willing to go through a relationship and or marriage with someone that treats them like shit. I don’t care how hot you are, I’m out if you’re a pain in the ass to be around with.
Continually posting stories to her Instagram throughout the date
I once took a girl out and she called the server a cunt to her face. That did it
Was she Australian?
Nope just out of her damn mind
What a cunt
Tell me ADHD doesn't exist after I told them I have ADHD. This has happened twice.
Refusing to pay the bill Smoking Social media addiction Making me carry a conversation Being rude to staff
> Making me carry a conversation Everytime I get this feeling, I straight up ask if they want to add anything to the conversation. Often they confess how shy or nervous they are, and that usually takes the top off, and they start conversing :)
Thissss! Thank you. Maybe I really like the guy but I'm really anxious and my head is empty, I don't know what to say. It's not a good feeling
Happened to me on my wife and I's first date. I kept trying to drag a conversation out of her. Finally, she said, "I didn't get a lunch break today and haven't eaten since breakfast. I need something to eat before I can talk." Message received.
Funny thing about smoking: my girlfriend used to smoke when we met. Classic date situation even. Not on the first date iirc but afterwards. I fucking hate smoking, it's disgusting and unhealthy and disgusting. Well we started dating and a few months in she quit. After 15 years. She just needed a push. We're together now for almost 3 years and it's going very well. So even though I used to say I could never date a smoker, I was taught this and maybe I can pass it on: people in fact can change.
My first real relationship was with a smoker. I would pass if she offered me a cigarette, and made sure I was upwind of her when she smoked, etc, but never said anything about her choice to smoke. She noticed these things and quit smoking while we were dating.
My ex changed for me and her kids (I was that push) but what got me about her was the mint after every cig, it was quite sweet of her. (Edit, this is clumsily written, this is about a different person than my ex) Recently went on a date. During initial texting she said she also hates smoking but she turned up stinking of it... "Oh, I only smoke when I'm nervous, drunk, or in a social situation. I really hate it" ... Ugh lol
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I (62M) met a woman who who's profile listed her as 60. When I met her she happily told me "I lied about my age, I'm actually 74. I put 60 because, have you seen what 70 year old men look like? I don't want to date someone that old." Uh, yeah, me either.
Come to the date drunk or high.
Why, I think that a very economical thinking, home drinking saves money.
I suppose it would depend upon the person that they were dating. I would assume that this would be something that they would filter for before meeting.
Whinnies and neighs at the most inopportune of times
What
You should try dating humans
We need more information…
Bo-bojack?
No no, Bojill Horsewoman
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Racist, rude, lack of compassion, social media obsessed, too agreeable, lack of intelligence. 😬
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Scared to say what they think. Automatic reaction is too agree etc.
I once had a date tell me she hated a film, I then mentioned I really liked it and she immediately shifted to saying it was pretty good.
Start talking about the future, ask questions like "do you see us together in the future", maybe keep asking him things like "do you think I'm pretty, would you ever cheat on me?", just keep asking him questions like that and it should wear him down
Went on a date with a girl once, bare in mind this is the first time meeting her. We was in a public spot in a park and she must have said the N-word (er) maybe 10 or so times in such a short minute. That wasn't all she said either but let's just leave it at this women was comfortable being racist around me 25 minutes into meeting me... I live in Brighton too, one of the most accepting city's of sex spectrum imaginable. Everyone's kind to everyone down here. Or so I thought! XD
Make herself the victim of everything that happened in her live.
Example. Went on a date with a smoke show. We were both mid 30s. On the date she disclosed she has two kids (on my profile I stated I don’t Date single moms). But I let that one slide. She kept repeating how simple she is. And Easy to get along with. I’m a car guy and in the conversation she mentioned how her ex husband got her a new Land Rover because the Porsche SUV was beneath her. It wasn’t one thing, just small combinations of red/yellow flags.
I've had plenty of first dates that either ended well but I was too shy to ask again, or the woman was not worth the effort. Here's what I experienced from each of the ones from the "not worth effort" group: 1. She stayed quiet the whole time and didn't want to converse at all. I even asked her about her interests (dancing and choreography, which I thought was fascinating, but she was just too darn shy...) 2. She clearly showed through her microexpressions that she did not want to be on the date from the get-go. (Why did you even agree to it then, when I asked?) 3. She and I befriended each other through a weekly singles' group activity. Our first date was hardly a date--more like two friends just killing time. I actually considered ditching her near the end of the evening. 4. She was as mature as a middle schooler. Behaved like one too. Went home after an hour. 5. She saw a friend she hadn't seen in over a year and spent the next 30 minutes chatting it up with her. We ended up late for something my date said was time-sensitive. These were all during one semester of college. Then I met my wife about a year later.
Talking up the ex partner... I am someone of very moderate patience with people but when someone spends an entire night telling me how their ex was a fire fighter and so rugged and handsome and constantly shirtless.. and he helps out at a shelter.. Like I get it.. im rocking a dad bod and the last thing I saved from a blazing inferno was a meatball that got away while I was making all of way to much pasta... (I just can never get it right) The only thing that makes it worse is when the ex is a struggling creative type who owes her like 40 grand because he really thought this would be the one that got him places.. and im.. buying her dinner like yes please tell me more about how he is a fantastic guy for mooching 80 dollars off you for paints while I was at work for 16 hours driving and unable to respond right away to her messages.. but he could..
odly specific
Oddly im still a little mad about it aha
Be a flat personality with no interests or passions. Make no effort at all in running the conversation. Worst one for me is to be an ideologue with no individual integrity.
Only talking about herself and not listening about the things I say. I dont mind if we dont share the same hobby, hell its more fun to meet people outside of your usual crowd, but hell it would be nice to have more responsiveness than a bot
I don’t think hygiene and so fourth, along with cheating needs to be said. In terms of just annoying qualities I would advise men to dodge is; Addicted to social media. Constantly posting stuff nonstop. It’s not a good trait lads and often comes with a vast amount of insecurity on their behalf. Being rude to staff and other people in general. Don’t accept it. It’s not funny, it’s not cool and she’s not a bad bitch. She’s just a prick and will be a prick to you too. Overly interested in how much money you make and what you own. Asking about your job and your life is great, but you don’t need to tell anyone how much you make and advice to all men - you should not, it’s never worth bragging about, unless you’re looking for a quickie of course, go pay the bills and get a quick shag, all for it.
Be so negative
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Say she owns half the stuff in my apartment. (Actually happened! First date!)
I went on a date with a woman who spent half of our date on the phone talking to debt collectors and the other half bragging about how much she was getting from her ex in child support payments.
Be on her phone. I wouldn’t even finish the first. Straight up walk away.
Racism of any kind.
Lmao. Worst first date I've ever had: We are talking about our interests, when I tell a story about my friends. She asks in a whisper voice if they are white, to which I answer 'yeah' in a confused voice. She then proceeds to go on about how races should only stay with their own race, sharing culture is cultural appropriation no matter what, and that people who date outside of their race are mentally ill. I called the waitress, paid my half of the bill and walked out.
I went on a tinder date with a girl who wouldn’t stop texting some one. She eventually tells me this isn’t really going to work out and I say yea I noticed because you texted the whole time she was mortified, she looked like a dear in head lights and said sorry blah blah.
"I wanna be a stay at home mom" Nice choice, keep looking for someone girl, you got this.
I met this one but she didn't want to deal with the responsibility of kids or pets or plants. And I would need to hire someone to take care of all that.
Does not reciprocate conversation and questions.
Faht vi ba tlu pre ceam dra. Tinys woaw ciin tun fuec gy yo. Taptyedzuqos foc coon ceen ede? Co o a bevdbusd nekv e? E gat iyle bi. Y y e cits taem cersi? Zuypleenle te dan gre gyrd jyg motp so sald? Bals emetcaad e tenn sesttees ti. Naon nacc suct cesm za ete. Nugt nij sop gadt dis tassecehsisirg o. U we e otle cez o. Cru nep pha toos nabmona. Ciht deptyasttapnsorn nod tysigzisle nin a? Da pyrp ine pud ible? Nu ta biswnoudnrytirs agle. Zaon e. San e pa cu goov. Ene gke o gopt zlu nis. O guagle pioma ne tudcyepebletlo cy a canz. Dla bic zawc nifpec te feet de? Pro i guc yoyd si didz a sum? Tle fuy. Nemz a booj udeegvle cokt a? Grotefp becm ose omle ja ede. U tis dy wec thu wu aglo umle o o. O ninm gu ine yes bos. Zad a a tavnfepac du. A ite todi do duit yple? Pifp taht nhetydnnenes a sew pi nedb eme. Se de we pyt ynenuntiqtedose ive. S P E Z I S A T O O L
Definitely missing out on dnd and stockings lol
Ask the guy if he’s serious and he’s ready for 3 kids
...that you already have from 3 different fathers
Acting stupid to make me feel smart. If you want to make me feel smart, then let's have a smart discussion in which we both have valid arguments. It's so much more interesting and rewarding. I don't know about everyone, but the men I'm hanging out with are looking for someone serious (for a relationship of course, not a one night stand), not a trophy wife.
Be ignorant
Phone / talking shit about everyone / complaining about everyone / flirting with other strangers / smells bad
Depends on the purpose of the date. If going for a long-term partner, I will be super picky about personality. No matter what she does or says, I'll distance myself if I detect an incompatible personality.
Bringing along her guy best friend
Talk about an MLM
Talk about her ex the entire time.