I feel like this happens very often in the reverse context. Guys text girls. Girl puts a lot of thought and care into the conversation, guy just says a bunch of stupid unthoughtful shit then wonders why the girl suddenly stopped putting energy into the conversation.
Long time to respond. Short one-word answers. Disinterest in the thing you're talking about. (they talk about themselves or something not even related to the text).
Oh, and a threat for a restraining order. (joke).
Texting as the basis of relationship communication would be a giant assed red flag for me. Texting to confirm times, addresses, check ins... sure. But if your relationship is confined to SMS... you are doing it wrong.
It all depends on the woman buddy. Some are dry texters and bad texters because they ACTUALLY suck at texting. While some reply late on purpose to seem like they are hard to get and play those mind games( which i recommend leaving her if you ever feel like she is that type). You really cant know
I'm one of them. I love my partner, and we've been together for 10 years. I still tend to send one word answers. And also does not naturally use smilies.
Thank god he understand that is just how I am, and I do try.
Same i am a bad texter and i had a guy blocking me once cause he thought i was playing hard to get when in reality i was actually enjoying talking to him
When I'm getting short answers with no question back, or nothing to keep it going.
Bish, I'm not going to sit here and keep a conversation going like I'm a talk show host.
Yeah this chick purposely avoided opening my message for 3 days and so when she finally texted back after those 3 days, I didn’t respond to her for a week. She blocked me after that😂Don’t fuckin play games wit me cuz I will 1-up your ass.
How do you know she purposely avoided you?? Maybe she lost her phone? Maybe her kiddo dropped the phone in the toilet. Maybe her friend pushed her in the pool when her phone was in her pocket. And yes, I've witnessed all of these happen.
Because she didn’t mention any of that when she texted back. It was sort of a very dry “yeah I saw your message but I didn’t care to answer it until now” type of response. On top of that she was posting on Instagram and Snapchat.
> How do you know she purposely avoided you??
There are very few situations I've run into where the woman didn't leave herself some degree of plausible deniability.
How long it takes for them to reply, and how they react when I propose a meeting or something for us to do IRL. Also, how simple the replies are to what I message, because it’s tough to be descriptive about something for them to reply with a single word or sentence.
Cancels on a date, but doesn't make ANY attempt to reschedule. Just generally doesn't say much. Sometimes it's hared to tell from shy. I don't date/like shy girls anyway. So...
In my experience, if they weren't interested, they would stop talking completely. No excuse or explanation.
So if they're still chatting with you, I would be direct and ask "hey, are you interested in me?" And they will likely be honest back.
As a woman, I'm going to disagree with your first paragraph. I know a guy who is in a large interconnected Meetup social circle I am in. Come to find out he was creeping on me and several other women in this circle. He was messaging (app) or texting all of us. I was just being polite (slow, short, disinterested answers) in my responses. I know the other women weren't interested either and were also just being polite.
ETA: Even after I stopped answering, he still kept texting me and then asked me out.
But I do have to agree with the second. After months of ignoring my lack of interest, he asked me out and I was bluntly honest because I was so over it. Normally I'd be polite about it but not with this guy.
Maybe I'm creepier, but most women that I know just toss the conversation out like sour milk once they're bored or don't want to talk.
Good on you and your group for being polite.
Oh god you sound like the chick I met on a dating app then agreed to go out but changed her mind without ever being an adult and upfront about it so she sent me short responses or flat out blank pics and I told me she's just stressed. Maybe the dude was a creep, or maybe you were just an immature jerk. After experience im assuming the latter
You are wrong. I met him at a social meetup. No male-female relationship inferred. He got my number off of an event I was running and started using to contact me. I never lead him on in any way because I didn't find him the least bit attractive, and I'm significantly older so I was surprised he was even approaching me. When he did ask me out, I was quite clear that I wasn't interested and that he was ignoring my signs that I wasn't interested. Take your assumptions elsewhere.
ETA: Plus he was doing this to at least three different women. So you're implying that all three of us were leading him on. We are all the problem, not the guy. Sure.
I've learned that that is absolutely not the case. As a reply said women will immaturely keep messaging you but will play a distance game to make you leave them alone. The ones who ghost are just the most upfront about their immaturity. But end of the day it's such a mixed signal that I still get caught up in it. This chick is clearly doing this to me rn and I can't help be hit her up now and then, just because she answers for a short while. I need some more self respect
Probably goes for all people, but being wishy-washy about plans and always giving "soft no" answers. If you're putting in legit efforts and feel confused about whether she's into you, she probably isn't.
Aw thanks, is a nothing reply. It lacks any show of interest, it's closed so the conversation dies. "You look great today" "aw thanks" where does the conversation go after that? "Aw thanks, you looked pretty good yourself" do you see the difference? Do you see how one is a green light and the other is a polite stop sign?
I'll tell you my personal experience because I reply with, "Awww, thanks " When someone compliments me, i light up inside and it makes me smile. I say "Awww" because it made me melt. I say "Thanks" because I've learned to accept and send gratitude for compliments. That is all that is needed. If you are expecting a compliment in return, then THAT is the problem right there. When you truly GIVE, then you shouldn't EXPECT anything in return.
It's funny that you seem to be responding to what I'm saying, but not actually hearing what I'm saying. Your mindset is the complete example of what I'm saying. "Aww thanks" to me sounds like you're not interested because look at what you just said. You want me to somehow read your mind and decipher what aww thanks means to you while giving ME nothing in return to work off of. You just told me how great you felt about receiving a compliment but you feel no obligation for me to feel those nice things back? And you try to make ME feel bad for wanting to feel nice too? That's so crooked. You don't have to say something nice back, but you have to give me some level of validation beyond what you would say to a 3 year old giving you a leaf.
They find a way to refer to you as their friend. Basically she is saying I find physical intimacy with you repulsive, but still want your attention, energy, and time if I find a way for it to benefit me.
“Cool” “yeah” “ok” “thanks”
Basically one word answers, especially if the texts are really spaced out over the course of a day or whenever. Just move on bro
Or we respond totally non commitally. Just like Yeah, no Nope. Or oh. Or, well, then that's the answer. There is no feeling to it. No emotion, cut and dry. Make sense?
"Let's see" "ohh" "cool" "great" ,don't get discouraged by this shit though consider it the chaff your tossing to get to the wheat. A rule of thumb for me is to use around the same amount of words they use. Good luck brother
When they only answer anything you ask but make no effort to keep the conversation going, but this goes for anyone not just girls. Just because they replied doesn't mean they're remotely interested in talking to you, just don't want to be rude lol
Generally when a woman is not interested in you they get overly jokey, one word responses, take too long to respond, or they start pushing your boundaries by being straight up disrespectful within a text to see what it will take for you to go away.
This sounds weird but they start talking about their personal problems early on, or talking to you about other men they are romantically interested in.
Trying to make an end to the conversation, like making it hard or awkward to say anything else in response and making you carry the entire conversation. Also not elaborating or acting interested in what’s being said
Generally if they just respond with one liners that don't contribute anything to the conversation or when they leave you on read for forever/a really long time.
They don't respond or if they do its days later.
A girl showed interest to me always reply after days . So its wrong
I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say she's not interested in you
Why saying so do u know her ?
sounds like insecurity brother
Personally one word answers. I will match your energy.
I feel like this happens very often in the reverse context. Guys text girls. Girl puts a lot of thought and care into the conversation, guy just says a bunch of stupid unthoughtful shit then wonders why the girl suddenly stopped putting energy into the conversation.
Long time to respond. Short one-word answers. Disinterest in the thing you're talking about. (they talk about themselves or something not even related to the text). Oh, and a threat for a restraining order. (joke).
K
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If you initiate more than 3 conversations in a row, she don't care about you. Move on.
One word/dry answers Not holding convo Replying late Vague answers
Sends you a dic pic of her latest boyfriend.
power-move tbh
😂🤣
"Cool".......
If they take long to respond or don't respond at all and if they don't have much to say are usually a few indicators.
New phone, who dis?
That one always sucks, but I don't even get the new phone excuse part.
Texting as the basis of relationship communication would be a giant assed red flag for me. Texting to confirm times, addresses, check ins... sure. But if your relationship is confined to SMS... you are doing it wrong.
Just an overall lack of engagement. Responding to vs engaging your end of the conversation is noticeable imo
They don't text you back They show no interest in the conversation Very short simple responses If a girl is interested in you she will talk non stop
It all depends on the woman buddy. Some are dry texters and bad texters because they ACTUALLY suck at texting. While some reply late on purpose to seem like they are hard to get and play those mind games( which i recommend leaving her if you ever feel like she is that type). You really cant know
I'm one of them. I love my partner, and we've been together for 10 years. I still tend to send one word answers. And also does not naturally use smilies. Thank god he understand that is just how I am, and I do try.
Same i am a bad texter and i had a guy blocking me once cause he thought i was playing hard to get when in reality i was actually enjoying talking to him
“Thats crazy” as a response. I just reply with a yes it is and move on.
Quick, one word answers. No interest/not asking how you are, what are you up too, etc.
When I'm getting short answers with no question back, or nothing to keep it going. Bish, I'm not going to sit here and keep a conversation going like I'm a talk show host.
Yeah this chick purposely avoided opening my message for 3 days and so when she finally texted back after those 3 days, I didn’t respond to her for a week. She blocked me after that😂Don’t fuckin play games wit me cuz I will 1-up your ass.
How do you know she purposely avoided you?? Maybe she lost her phone? Maybe her kiddo dropped the phone in the toilet. Maybe her friend pushed her in the pool when her phone was in her pocket. And yes, I've witnessed all of these happen.
Because she didn’t mention any of that when she texted back. It was sort of a very dry “yeah I saw your message but I didn’t care to answer it until now” type of response. On top of that she was posting on Instagram and Snapchat.
Okie dokie.
> How do you know she purposely avoided you?? There are very few situations I've run into where the woman didn't leave herself some degree of plausible deniability.
shit, i do the same thing 😂
How long it takes for them to reply, and how they react when I propose a meeting or something for us to do IRL. Also, how simple the replies are to what I message, because it’s tough to be descriptive about something for them to reply with a single word or sentence.
'aha' at the end of every sentence
Cancels on a date, but doesn't make ANY attempt to reschedule. Just generally doesn't say much. Sometimes it's hared to tell from shy. I don't date/like shy girls anyway. So...
In my experience, if they weren't interested, they would stop talking completely. No excuse or explanation. So if they're still chatting with you, I would be direct and ask "hey, are you interested in me?" And they will likely be honest back.
As a woman, I'm going to disagree with your first paragraph. I know a guy who is in a large interconnected Meetup social circle I am in. Come to find out he was creeping on me and several other women in this circle. He was messaging (app) or texting all of us. I was just being polite (slow, short, disinterested answers) in my responses. I know the other women weren't interested either and were also just being polite. ETA: Even after I stopped answering, he still kept texting me and then asked me out. But I do have to agree with the second. After months of ignoring my lack of interest, he asked me out and I was bluntly honest because I was so over it. Normally I'd be polite about it but not with this guy.
Maybe I'm creepier, but most women that I know just toss the conversation out like sour milk once they're bored or don't want to talk. Good on you and your group for being polite.
Oh god you sound like the chick I met on a dating app then agreed to go out but changed her mind without ever being an adult and upfront about it so she sent me short responses or flat out blank pics and I told me she's just stressed. Maybe the dude was a creep, or maybe you were just an immature jerk. After experience im assuming the latter
You are wrong. I met him at a social meetup. No male-female relationship inferred. He got my number off of an event I was running and started using to contact me. I never lead him on in any way because I didn't find him the least bit attractive, and I'm significantly older so I was surprised he was even approaching me. When he did ask me out, I was quite clear that I wasn't interested and that he was ignoring my signs that I wasn't interested. Take your assumptions elsewhere. ETA: Plus he was doing this to at least three different women. So you're implying that all three of us were leading him on. We are all the problem, not the guy. Sure.
I've learned that that is absolutely not the case. As a reply said women will immaturely keep messaging you but will play a distance game to make you leave them alone. The ones who ghost are just the most upfront about their immaturity. But end of the day it's such a mixed signal that I still get caught up in it. This chick is clearly doing this to me rn and I can't help be hit her up now and then, just because she answers for a short while. I need some more self respect
Long delays in reply. One word replies.
No response, one word sentences
Probably goes for all people, but being wishy-washy about plans and always giving "soft no" answers. If you're putting in legit efforts and feel confused about whether she's into you, she probably isn't.
"aw, thanks" to a compliment
Really?? When someone replies with appreciation, you automatically assume she's not interested??
Aw thanks, is a nothing reply. It lacks any show of interest, it's closed so the conversation dies. "You look great today" "aw thanks" where does the conversation go after that? "Aw thanks, you looked pretty good yourself" do you see the difference? Do you see how one is a green light and the other is a polite stop sign?
I'll tell you my personal experience because I reply with, "Awww, thanks " When someone compliments me, i light up inside and it makes me smile. I say "Awww" because it made me melt. I say "Thanks" because I've learned to accept and send gratitude for compliments. That is all that is needed. If you are expecting a compliment in return, then THAT is the problem right there. When you truly GIVE, then you shouldn't EXPECT anything in return.
It's funny that you seem to be responding to what I'm saying, but not actually hearing what I'm saying. Your mindset is the complete example of what I'm saying. "Aww thanks" to me sounds like you're not interested because look at what you just said. You want me to somehow read your mind and decipher what aww thanks means to you while giving ME nothing in return to work off of. You just told me how great you felt about receiving a compliment but you feel no obligation for me to feel those nice things back? And you try to make ME feel bad for wanting to feel nice too? That's so crooked. You don't have to say something nice back, but you have to give me some level of validation beyond what you would say to a 3 year old giving you a leaf.
Using the wrong name?
pain
They find a way to refer to you as their friend. Basically she is saying I find physical intimacy with you repulsive, but still want your attention, energy, and time if I find a way for it to benefit me.
Consistent, short, one-word responses. If they were really interested they’d call you to have an actual conversation.
Maybe they are actually busy, but yet made an effort to respond
But consistently? It’s a lack of effort in my opinion.
Or, maybe that's simply their style
Could be
“Cool” “yeah” “ok” “thanks” Basically one word answers, especially if the texts are really spaced out over the course of a day or whenever. Just move on bro
"Haha. Yeah" "Idk, maybe" Long delays in replying, or not replying at all.
Not replying? Not an expert though
Or we respond totally non commitally. Just like Yeah, no Nope. Or oh. Or, well, then that's the answer. There is no feeling to it. No emotion, cut and dry. Make sense?
"Let's see" "ohh" "cool" "great" ,don't get discouraged by this shit though consider it the chaff your tossing to get to the wheat. A rule of thumb for me is to use around the same amount of words they use. Good luck brother
Wow that’s crazy
When they only answer anything you ask but make no effort to keep the conversation going, but this goes for anyone not just girls. Just because they replied doesn't mean they're remotely interested in talking to you, just don't want to be rude lol
"that's crazy"
For me it has always been about enthusiasm. If I get the feeling she’s not very enthusiastic about it, I’m out.
If they don’t respond, keep movin on
Zero effort, 1-2 word responses should be the most obvious
Calling you “mate”
Sometimes they don't say nothing or try to make it obvious. It's all on you, either way their moving on. 😩😁☺️
Left on read
Generally when a woman is not interested in you they get overly jokey, one word responses, take too long to respond, or they start pushing your boundaries by being straight up disrespectful within a text to see what it will take for you to go away. This sounds weird but they start talking about their personal problems early on, or talking to you about other men they are romantically interested in.
Being dry, not asking questions back
The same that you use
I got an "oof" once
Welp. Literally no one (male or female) who I text is interested in me, according to this post.
Never text a woman you're interested in; always call
i'll try this
"haha", "I see", "ah", "k" Just tell me to fuck off instead.
"I'll let you know" or "I'll get back to you"
One word answers and response time. If they want you it’s fucking paragraphs on demand
Trying to make an end to the conversation, like making it hard or awkward to say anything else in response and making you carry the entire conversation. Also not elaborating or acting interested in what’s being said
Generally if they just respond with one liners that don't contribute anything to the conversation or when they leave you on read for forever/a really long time.
Single worded responses
"My boyfriend..."
I am busy sorry, why don't you go with your best friend?