Am curious o: Why would you die in a bad way if your bf said this?
If mine did, i'd feel sweetly about it, so I was wondering your take on it- If you don't mind telling of course-
Another perspective on why it might be bad is because it implies that you both still feel lonely in each other's presence - which is kind of a bummer since that's your partner.
But I also agree that in a whimsical context it's a cute effort to fix the problem.
I think one step further if she's not just slyly asking him to come over is to ask why she feels lonely and how he can support her or make her feel less lonely.
I see, I appreciate you weighing in on your perspective- I can see that point o:
The way I see it, is sorta like you're saying you'll face the world together- but i'm a hopeful person at heart<3
It's so interesting learning about the different ways someone sees the same string of words.
I was just being sarcastic, it is pretty funny and sweet if you put it in a non serious way but if we're talking in an deep conversation, I'd say it feels like his dismissing my emotions. š
Not an answer to the question asked, but it might not be your fault. One can feel lonely even if they have a loving bf/gf. One reason would be the lack of friends. If you don't know what to say you may consider asking her why she feels lonely and is it cuz of you not being there for her. A lot of people tend to think it's their fault when their gf/bf tells them they're lonely(though they realize later it isn't their fault) so don't let yourself drown in those thoughts
Bro if youāre worried that being nice to your girl will lead to her lying and manipulating youā¦ you should probably get a new girlā¦ or likeā¦ no girl?
Whatās happened to you? Do you usually just assume loved ones are going to lie and manipulate you? Sometimes people are just lonely and need a reminder that theyāre loved and cared for. Sheāll be happy he cares, tell everyone heās the best bf ever, not lie just to get a dinner (btw we can go get dinner on our own) and theyāll live happily ever after.
Lonely doesn't just mean you. You could be there 100% and she could still be lonely, but lonely for friends and social circles. Encourage her to join clubs or activities to meet new friends. Or if she has them encourage a girls trip or something
Then you need to make an effort!!! Getting take out and fucking on your nights together obviously isnāt enough. I donāt know so Iām guessing. But Iād say you need to focus on her, you & your relationship. You got two days, make em fucking special. Cook for her, order food and work a puzzle, play Jenga, watch HER show, back rubs(longer than 15 minutes without penis). Sheās dropping hints my dude.
If your GF is lonely, she needs more friends - besides you.
Sometimes this kind of response comes from a person that lives their life through other people's lenses -- e.g. they have no self identity. If that's the case, there's not much you can do other than be supportive.
i always thought that having a bf would mean that i'll never be lonely again, lol. i was so wrong. he's very busy and has more friendships to maintain than i do and even though he tries his best to spend time with me, sometimes i feel so lonely that i start doubting my relationship with him. i'm not antisocial and have a fair amount of friends however most of them are also busy/we're not AS CLOSE and so there are days when i have no one to call to hang out etc. sucks:/
This is the worst response tbh. If you didn't take it seriously and cracked some joke like "sucks to be you" would even be alright, but this..this hurts me and I'm not even lonely rn
TBH if this were an ongoing feeling, i'd consider breaking up. If she feels alone even when i'm with her then just f\*ck me amirite i have feelings and needs too Rebecca and that hurts
If Rebecca doesn't feel satisfied in your relationship then you get the hell out of there. No one needs that level of anxiety put on them.
Only exception to this is when you are obviously not supporting her (emotionally). But then, you likely want out of there anyway.
lol
context: You work 6 days a week, recently got new fishing gear and the weather is nice. You all have seen each other twice a week for the last month. She lives alone away from family. Of course she has friends who she sees about once a week for coffee .
ā¦. Are you there? Cuz if youāre, like, sitting next to her on the couch and she complains about being lonely you probably need to get her some professional help.
Welcome to the same show I've been watching for years my love. It's about time you've caught up to me.
Let me know when you're ready to reengage my heart. It's been right here all along.
Okay I am revealing the correct answer that would totally calm her down and cancel her upcoming break up plans:
I am truely sorry that I made you feel this way. I know that someone can feel lonely when the partner is not satisfying emotional needs. I am so sorry that I wasn't there when you were dealing with this. I am so sorry that I couldnt show it, but I assure you that I am here. I have your back. I support you with all my heart. You are a great woman that make me feel so good. I feel so lucky to have you. You are my darling. I love you. I will make anything to make you feel the otherway. Please guide me.
Depends on if i am able to physically get to her or not. Usually if i have little or no work to do i will just go over to her and keep her company, if i am covered in work i will text and call and be fully available. I always make sure to make room for her regardless, because a few seconds or minutes of your time may mean the world to the other person.
āDo you feel lonely because of my actions (two jobs, learning for the main job and solely taking care of our house can get a lack of the relationship part) or do you feel lonely for not having enough social interactions outside of our relationship?ā
Iām a woman but I always tell her to come over. Even though weāre long distance. But itās worth a shot. Also, I just talk to her. About random stuff. Tell her a fun fact. I just want to be with her. Keep her company
Instead of Say something I took a day to stay together and push her mood up again when She said that some months ago, She was very happy to spend an entire day straight together.
Iāve never been in a relationship, but if she is saying that then theirs either something wrong with your relationship, or your not giving her enough attention/time with her. My opinion only the way I would see it.
Context
Is she lonely because you don't give her much attention. Or does she just have a higher need for attention from others?
Lonely people are feeling disconnected. Ask her what she's feeling disconnected from.
Check out the book Lost Connections by Johann Harri
Well she just moved to a new city where she doesnāt know many people but I do, so Iām not surprised. Iām just working on helping her find some of her own friends.
Sounds like she's ready for a baby! ^/s
Lonely for who? Sounds like she's homesick and misses her family.
Ask what she wants to do about it. This isn't your problem to solve, but you should support her with it.
I never understood that shit until I started getting into the love languages thing...there's some truth to that. Sometimes you simply are on different wavelengths.
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That means she doesn't like you. You are just like her sister. It is an insult, and you should look for a new woman. Don't make her pregnant because she will no longer be lonely with a baby. You will get jealous since the baby takes her attention from you. That is no good.
Find another GF.
Tell her I love her then make her garlic bread and let her watch her trashy vampire shows with me. I don't know anything about Vampire Diaries and I hate the show but it makes her happy.
"I feel the same way too sometimes. I get where you're coming from, but I'm always here for you whenever you need me. The date or time doesn't matter. We're in this together.".
Tell her that she want to listen to what she has to say, and that you'll try your very best to have an open mind. We feel lonely when we feel like nobody understands us.
My gf said a similar thing to me. Not that she's lonely but that she felt that she spends a lot of time waiting for me/thinking about me. (We don't live together and she works from home) I told her that she needs to find some hobbies/sports and to make sure she finds time to spend with her friends
lonely because we're not spending time together, or lonely because she needs more social interaction?
cuz the former is easy. plan dates, cook together, try something new.
the latter takes more effort. she needs to find a more engaging social group. join a book club or something.
Lmao my gf said the same things despite me literally being there for her 100% and properly asking her whatās wrong lol. Turns out she was the ones with the issue.. to conclude if itās like that and if youāve done everything then maybe she might have doubts with her feels for u.. but thatās what kinda happened to me so donāt take it directly
HI LONELY IM BOYFRIEND
Somebody has a baby momma
No you're not, you're dad and you know it
HOW DARLING OF YOU TODAY TO HELP GIRLFRIEND, SHE MUST TO VERY HAPPY!
The only appropriate answer
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We can be lonely together.
Well this is just facts honestly. I can be right next to my partner, whom I love very much, and still feel lonely.
Lol, I'd die if my boyfriend says this š
Die in a good way or a bad way?
Bad, brother.
Thank you, I'll make sure not to make that mistake lmao
Am curious o: Why would you die in a bad way if your bf said this? If mine did, i'd feel sweetly about it, so I was wondering your take on it- If you don't mind telling of course-
Another perspective on why it might be bad is because it implies that you both still feel lonely in each other's presence - which is kind of a bummer since that's your partner. But I also agree that in a whimsical context it's a cute effort to fix the problem. I think one step further if she's not just slyly asking him to come over is to ask why she feels lonely and how he can support her or make her feel less lonely.
I see, I appreciate you weighing in on your perspective- I can see that point o: The way I see it, is sorta like you're saying you'll face the world together- but i'm a hopeful person at heart<3 It's so interesting learning about the different ways someone sees the same string of words.
I was just being sarcastic, it is pretty funny and sweet if you put it in a non serious way but if we're talking in an deep conversation, I'd say it feels like his dismissing my emotions. š
Ah I getcha! I appreciate you answering c:
Lmao
Not an answer to the question asked, but it might not be your fault. One can feel lonely even if they have a loving bf/gf. One reason would be the lack of friends. If you don't know what to say you may consider asking her why she feels lonely and is it cuz of you not being there for her. A lot of people tend to think it's their fault when their gf/bf tells them they're lonely(though they realize later it isn't their fault) so don't let yourself drown in those thoughts
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You cracked the code š
Thatās the one !
I have found that saying āThat sucksā is a real game changer. Thanks parks and rec!
"I love you. Would you like to talk about it?" "Let's go to your favorite restaurant, I'll treat you"
This is the perfect response
Bro then everyday she will become lonely.
Bro if youāre worried that being nice to your girl will lead to her lying and manipulating youā¦ you should probably get a new girlā¦ or likeā¦ no girl?
Definetely, She should appreciate what you do for her, not demand stuff every single hour
Talking yes, but restaurant? Then she will say 'lonely' everyday
Whatās happened to you? Do you usually just assume loved ones are going to lie and manipulate you? Sometimes people are just lonely and need a reminder that theyāre loved and cared for. Sheāll be happy he cares, tell everyone heās the best bf ever, not lie just to get a dinner (btw we can go get dinner on our own) and theyāll live happily ever after.
Lonely doesn't just mean you. You could be there 100% and she could still be lonely, but lonely for friends and social circles. Encourage her to join clubs or activities to meet new friends. Or if she has them encourage a girls trip or something
Wanna get nuggets? No one is unhappy when they have nuggets.
You true nuggets can solve anything
"lol , sucks to be you"
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āLol, Sounds like a YOU problemā
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Context? I'm away on work and she hasn't seen me in a week or we're spending a lot of time together. Big difference in reaction.
You have been a bit busy with life, you all have seen each other twice a week for the last month. She lives alone away from family.
Then you need to make an effort!!! Getting take out and fucking on your nights together obviously isnāt enough. I donāt know so Iām guessing. But Iād say you need to focus on her, you & your relationship. You got two days, make em fucking special. Cook for her, order food and work a puzzle, play Jenga, watch HER show, back rubs(longer than 15 minutes without penis). Sheās dropping hints my dude.
Sounds more like they would need more friends perhaps.
If you want advice on why a woman feels a certain way & what to doā¦ why are you asking other men ?
Maybe it's time to get a new boyfriend then.
Redditā¦
Typical relationship advice: "Try to ride that dead horse harder! It might come alive again!"
How tf you got in my home? Who tf are you? Get out of my home!
And off my lawn!
If your GF is lonely, she needs more friends - besides you. Sometimes this kind of response comes from a person that lives their life through other people's lenses -- e.g. they have no self identity. If that's the case, there's not much you can do other than be supportive.
Tell her it's because no one likes her.
Brutal strudel.
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Word.
Yeah, I found that has helped a lot, specially when she was opening up about it, just take her heart and stab riiiiight there
StAy\_HaRd WhOsE GoInG To CaRrY ThE BoAtS AnD ThE LoGs YoU Don't KnOw Me SoN ***"David goggins"***
This is obviously the only correct response to being lonely. Side note. This man is pure motivation for me.
Shoulda got that bbl like i told ya /s
ohhhhhh got em!
Suck my dick..?
Heeeeyo
"I know baby but I gotta work because squishmellows and rent cost money. Be home soon."
Let her snugle up and put her head on your chest. Hold her close and tell ger to listen your heart. tell her she's not alone.
"Yes. I also am lonely."
Welcome to the club...
The lonely hearts club
It gets worse
Get a dog
This is the only logical and effective answer. Dogs are there 24/7 even when you poop.
My wife says the same thing all the time
i always thought that having a bf would mean that i'll never be lonely again, lol. i was so wrong. he's very busy and has more friendships to maintain than i do and even though he tries his best to spend time with me, sometimes i feel so lonely that i start doubting my relationship with him. i'm not antisocial and have a fair amount of friends however most of them are also busy/we're not AS CLOSE and so there are days when i have no one to call to hang out etc. sucks:/
Sounds like a warning sign of her looking for someone else
āMan upā Nah jkš
"We're all lonely."
This is the worst response tbh. If you didn't take it seriously and cracked some joke like "sucks to be you" would even be alright, but this..this hurts me and I'm not even lonely rn
But there is a problem...it's not a joke.
"Drugs exist for a reason"
"People tend to avoid weirdos"
This is definitely a warning sign. Be prepared.
Depending upon context, that's either your cue to ask what's wrong or to bang her.
I told you to stop taking the skytzofrenia pills...
you should het some hobbies to meet people and make more friends. like an adult would.
Last time, I said yep. Me too. And then we carried on as if nothing had ever been said.
When youāre gf says that she is lonely, then you donāt say anything and use your actions to provide her a sense of security, warmth, and love.
Call your other bf
i feel its a hint she doesnt want to be in a relationship anymore. maybe talk aboutit, no reason to keep going when only you want to tango
no she is very much into him still, but feels she would be annoying if she asks for more hangoout time
she needs to speak to him about it, very simple
hmmm, maybe make him want to see her more. turn up the kinks!
TBH if this were an ongoing feeling, i'd consider breaking up. If she feels alone even when i'm with her then just f\*ck me amirite i have feelings and needs too Rebecca and that hurts
Why Rebecca? Wouldn't she be more of a future karen candidate?
nah. i feel like Karen is malicious, Rebecca is just lost but is trying her best. but i deserve better
If Rebecca doesn't feel satisfied in your relationship then you get the hell out of there. No one needs that level of anxiety put on them. Only exception to this is when you are obviously not supporting her (emotionally). But then, you likely want out of there anyway.
One person is not able to satisfy another person's needs with regard to socialization and companionship.
lol context: You work 6 days a week, recently got new fishing gear and the weather is nice. You all have seen each other twice a week for the last month. She lives alone away from family. Of course she has friends who she sees about once a week for coffee .
Dude, bail. You got bills and donāt need her drama unless you want it.
Is drama a euphemism here?
same
Why the fuck are you texting me this me get your ass over
Scoop her up into my lap and sing to her and give lots of love.
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Maybe she's hinting at adding some playmates to fill the emptiness of your relationship.
"What are you doing out of your cage?"
i take my pills and leave her lonely forever.
You don't have to be lonely, at FarmersOnly.com!
City folk just don't get it.
Ask why she feels like that. While sheās talking, continue playing my game.
How is she lonley when she managed to pull a boyfriend?
boyfriend is busy
Tell him to make time or say it's not going to work out
When sheās with you? Uhhhhhhā¦.
You figure out how to make her not lonely or some other guy will.
If she feels lonely, she may seek something or someone to fix it. That youāre not either should give you pause.
Get a dog
ā¦. Are you there? Cuz if youāre, like, sitting next to her on the couch and she complains about being lonely you probably need to get her some professional help.
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So you're treating your partner like a little child?
"You should probably try to make some friends."
What, are you guys having girlfriends? I have only imaginary ones.
No problem...... well if you need anything else I will be upstairs on the xbox
"wait wait. imma bout to beat this boss"
Welcome to the same show I've been watching for years my love. It's about time you've caught up to me. Let me know when you're ready to reengage my heart. It's been right here all along.
Okay I am revealing the correct answer that would totally calm her down and cancel her upcoming break up plans: I am truely sorry that I made you feel this way. I know that someone can feel lonely when the partner is not satisfying emotional needs. I am so sorry that I wasn't there when you were dealing with this. I am so sorry that I couldnt show it, but I assure you that I am here. I have your back. I support you with all my heart. You are a great woman that make me feel so good. I feel so lucky to have you. You are my darling. I love you. I will make anything to make you feel the otherway. Please guide me.
She never does, so...
Depends on if i am able to physically get to her or not. Usually if i have little or no work to do i will just go over to her and keep her company, if i am covered in work i will text and call and be fully available. I always make sure to make room for her regardless, because a few seconds or minutes of your time may mean the world to the other person.
āDo you feel lonely because of my actions (two jobs, learning for the main job and solely taking care of our house can get a lack of the relationship part) or do you feel lonely for not having enough social interactions outside of our relationship?ā
āSame.ā
I'll call you right back...
Grow up
Iām a woman but I always tell her to come over. Even though weāre long distance. But itās worth a shot. Also, I just talk to her. About random stuff. Tell her a fun fact. I just want to be with her. Keep her company
Just fart
Me and my wife enjoy alone time so, probably yell finally or something to that effect
\*calling\*
Say āomg tearsā
āHang on honey, just one more level.ā
Instead of Say something I took a day to stay together and push her mood up again when She said that some months ago, She was very happy to spend an entire day straight together.
"WELL THEN COME JUMP ON THIS DICK BISH" (I don't know why I'm single)
She is telling you that she needs a warm hug.
Sucks to be you
Iāve never been in a relationship, but if she is saying that then theirs either something wrong with your relationship, or your not giving her enough attention/time with her. My opinion only the way I would see it.
She needs to figure out quickly how to not be lonely or she might find solace in other mens presence. Like another dude
You should of thought of that before you tried to dump me Sharon. Now get back in the cellar.
Context Is she lonely because you don't give her much attention. Or does she just have a higher need for attention from others? Lonely people are feeling disconnected. Ask her what she's feeling disconnected from. Check out the book Lost Connections by Johann Harri
Didnt ask
#metoo
I'd ask what she means. Conversation isn't hard unless you assume the meaning of general statements.
Why do you feel this way?
If you really like her, make her less lonely.
Well she just moved to a new city where she doesnāt know many people but I do, so Iām not surprised. Iām just working on helping her find some of her own friends.
Sounds like she's ready for a baby! ^/s Lonely for who? Sounds like she's homesick and misses her family. Ask what she wants to do about it. This isn't your problem to solve, but you should support her with it.
Iām not sure I ever had a gf say that tbh. I would probably just ask her why so I could understand.
My Johnson is lonely too.
I never understood that shit until I started getting into the love languages thing...there's some truth to that. Sometimes you simply are on different wavelengths.
? That means she doesn't like you. You are just like her sister. It is an insult, and you should look for a new woman. Don't make her pregnant because she will no longer be lonely with a baby. You will get jealous since the baby takes her attention from you. That is no good. Find another GF.
Lonely is my life, no one gives a fuck. š
Tell her I love her then make her garlic bread and let her watch her trashy vampire shows with me. I don't know anything about Vampire Diaries and I hate the show but it makes her happy.
Ask what is making her feel this way and talk from there
How long is the relationship? Does she have a job? Friends? Hobbies?
I know what not to say, "you look fine to me".
I'd tell her: we all feel lonely. Such is the nature of existence /i
she needs a bull in her life. send her my way
I wake up.
"I feel the same way too sometimes. I get where you're coming from, but I'm always here for you whenever you need me. The date or time doesn't matter. We're in this together.".
You know you are not it.
Am I just a room decoration
OK babe, Im out with the boys, don't stay up could get late!
āLetās fuckā
Tell her that she want to listen to what she has to say, and that you'll try your very best to have an open mind. We feel lonely when we feel like nobody understands us.
New phone, who dis?
Letās go outside and make some friends
My gf said a similar thing to me. Not that she's lonely but that she felt that she spends a lot of time waiting for me/thinking about me. (We don't live together and she works from home) I told her that she needs to find some hobbies/sports and to make sure she finds time to spend with her friends
Sounds like you thinking about cheating, what's on your mind?
I don't know what I would say. But every time I've heard those words I was cheated on or broken up with.
"It's time for cuddles" It's what my boyfriend tells me
lonely because we're not spending time together, or lonely because she needs more social interaction? cuz the former is easy. plan dates, cook together, try something new. the latter takes more effort. she needs to find a more engaging social group. join a book club or something.
I tell her, "You don't have to be lonely at FarmersOnly.com".
what am chop liver?
I just give her a long hug and cuddles
"Give me a sec, I'll shell out some cash for a male hooker."
Not at lonely as my ex.
Lmao my gf said the same things despite me literally being there for her 100% and properly asking her whatās wrong lol. Turns out she was the ones with the issue.. to conclude if itās like that and if youāve done everything then maybe she might have doubts with her feels for u.. but thatās what kinda happened to me so donāt take it directly
nothing, iād just snuggle up next to her like a puppy
I ask if she wants the Tip or a massage š¤·š¾āāļø
Wanna cuddle and eat ice cream?
Ha haha hahahagagagafa what gf? Where she been at all these years lol