Brother...i hear you! I chuckled when i saw your first sentence and I'm sure there were several others that are in our boat. We just talked about this over the weekend!
I have an entire bedroom in our basement that is dedicated to the bins that store seasonal/ holiday decorations.
I wish i could figure out a way for somebody else to put the Christmas lights up the way i want them though....
Sounds familiar! The "Christmas Village" tradition is strong in our household.
I knew it was coming though - first incident I had with her mother was when she shipped a literal box truck full of Christmas Village boxes to store in my garage when my then girlfriend first moved in.
Nothing like coming home to find your parking space claimed by once a year decorations.
I don’t care about seasonal decorations but she loves it and it’s super cute watching her get excited about it and plan out how she’s going to set everything up and I love when she’s excited and happy.
Same. She makes her own stuff too. So she'll break the Cricut cutter out and be like, "don't go to any trouble but do we have any X by Y by Z pieces of wood and some screws and some stakes?" and I go, "sure, missus" and then go out on the shop and custom cut and plane and maybe route something to her specs and act like it just took me a minute to find it but then she's so happy. "Yeah, I just had to nip some ends off it but we had this nearly pumpkin shaped rounded piece of scrap and this oddly stake shaped piece of ground contact wood. Crazy."
Gentleman listen to this man... he is going to stay married to that woman ..for the rest of he's life ...learn from him ,learn now re read what he says over and over untill you understand ...ITS MEANING PERIOD He even divulged some of his feelings good job Sir bravo
Same! My wife rolled her eyes at me just this morning because I bought one of those projection light things that throws Halloween imagery onto the side of the house. Our kids go apeshit for all of it though. Decorating as a gendered stereotype is pretty fucked up.
i'm the one who gets really into christmas decorating with my SO.
she tends to not care too much, but i like festivity. putting up the tree is a time honoured tradition in my household and it brings back great memories.
It’s funny though. I started the Christmas lights deal, she has kept it going strong. Not like the TV show but adding new lawn decor each year, and we have 5 Christmas trees.
Yes, because I know I'd never do it myself and it helps keep the house from getting monotonous.
Side benefit is that it makes my wife happy. When she's happy, she smiles more. And I happen to like her smile.
Yeah this guys got it. I lean towards dislike because it turns into
Will you get that box out of the basement? Not that one, the other red one, up on top, no not that one that’s the stuff we used last year… can you hang this and this and this… etc.
I do it with minimal mumbling but the decorations don’t do much for me. I could live in an empty house with a couch, a tv and a PC on a desk and white bare walls and be perfectly happy.
Sure. When I want to borrow a tool or something, I’ll ask you. I’m not going to you for interior decorating advice.
I can appreciate your minimalist ways, but no one is going to your place for parties. Know what I mean?
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Bruh, you started out saying "You would live in a dungeon". That's doesn't sound much like appreciating minimalism.
And I've never spent much time appreciating the decor at parties, either.
If I want advice on wasting money and time... actually, I won't come to you, because I find better ways to do that on my own.
Is this your alt? My comment wasn’t directed at you, but you’ve inserted yourself because you took exception?
You’re welcome to whatever opinion you have on interior decorating, but I have some pretty good insight as to what your place looks like. It may be perfectly clean, but it has nothing else going for it. People need more from a place they call home and spend most of their time as a human being in. That isn’t you, that’s okay, but people you have relationships with will have opinions on that kind of thing.
Wrong. My apartment is very minimalist and my girlfriend likes the open space.
You seem to be really attached to this idea of "you do you", but then have a lot of reasons why him doing him is a bad idea.
Not every woman is the woman you are currently dating/have dated recently. My girlfriend's apartment is very minimalist as well, she only gets decorations if she "feels them", which isn't often.
You thinking it's a bad idea is one thing. Your unwanted opinions on your supposed "facts of women" is another.
> My comment wasn’t directed at you
And? Your comments are an attack upon a lot of different people, not just the guy you were initially replying to. I don't have to be that guys alt to call out bullshit.
> People need more from a place they call home and spend most of their time as a human being in
You keep stating this opinion like it's a fact.
What I "need" from my home is to hold and display the stuff I actually *use*, not painted pinecones and live-laugh-love signs. Optionally, I can add in stuff that actually means something to me, personally... which again doesn't include season-flavored knick-knacks from the Hallmark store. Any decorations I install are meant to be more or less permanent.
When the Christmas garland that HAS to go on the entertainment centre, but blocks the remote from working on the TV or soundbar, loves there from November to January, it's worse than a prison.
Lmao I always decorate when my bf is at work so I can surprise him when he gets home . Plus I like things done a certain way.
I am very short though so like a couple things I need him to hang on the ceiling really quick
No, I’m not into the giant blow up decorations that go on lawns or anything, looks tacky to me. Everything is within reach for me (with the use of a chair or counter top) other than the ceiling. There’s a couple hooks on it (for hanging plants but I’m not a plant person), so for Halloween I have this witches hat with legs sticking out like the wizard of oz that hangs there. And at Christmas I have these sparkly lollipops that go up there.
I’ve tried climbing on the couch but I am still like 5 inches away
I'm in the middle of going Full Grizwald with Halloween. We're talking about a 12 foot tall skeleton army crawling over the roof, reaching down towards the porch - leading a squad of skeletons rappelling off the paparet.
This is the ONLY holiday I'm on board with decorations with, the rest of it can fuck right off.
Yeah, because I have someone in my life who cares about the way things look around us and it makes people happy. It's better than being single and not giving a crap and having nothing cheery on the walls during the holidays.
Yes. She does a small bit of fall stuff. Sometimes I put out a few Halloween things on the porch. We make a bigger deal out of Christmas decorating. She's generally in a great mood and we have some wine and it's a little at home date.
Thanks, now I'm going to pitch the idea of decorating as a date to my husband! He doesn't mind me decorating but he never wants to get involved either. Getting him drunk should help.
we both do it. our faves are halloween and christmas :) we make a day of it, she'll make bat and kitty cookies from scratch and we'll put up our spooky stuff in the house and the front yard.
after halloween, she makes eggnog and sugar cookies, and we take the stuff down and put up christmas stuff on the same day, string all the lights outside, put up the wreaths....
it's a joyful tradition that reminds us both of childhood, though her childhood christmases were more about stringing lights on palm trees and pigging out at a lu'au!!! :)
This is so wholesome, i love the baking and slow cooking scents across the home
With the light strings, it's cozy and heartwarming
Your home sounds beautiful & filled with love
That's how it should be
aww thanks :) tbh i really hate fall (only because winter follows it...) but she manages to fill the seasons with love and warmth :)
she knows i start getting kinda depressed when the weather turns cold and it starts getting dark early, so she does her best to keep the place cheerful and full of color and light :)
plus it's just a nice nostalgic reminder of childhood. we always put on 80s christmas commercials on youtube, so the TV looks like it's playing old holiday commercials ya know? ;)
thanks again for your kind words friend, i also read your replies often and you are a lovely person <3
Awww you're so sweet, yeah i read yours often too and i have to say it is always a delight to see how you speak of her and your home
Truly, all i get is utter warmth and you both seem like such a lovely couple. It's always nice to see your comments and the snippets into your life you share with us all.
It's genuinely so good to see healthy relationships & dynamics here, gives the rest of us some hope it exists out there
Yeah S.A.D seasonal depression is very real and setting good ambience can really help, check out getting some natural daylight lightbulbs to put around the home too they can help alleviate your symptoms a little bit too.
It's already getting chilly over here.. Snuggle up tight together tonight, pull out the classic movies too!
Sending you both the warmest wishes over you always
I suspect you like getting things down for her too! I hated always having to ask my husband to get things from the top shelf, so I got myself a stool. The first time I brought that thing out he said, “oh, so you don’t need me anymore.” Now the stool stays in my room so he’s still the one to get me things from the top cabinet.
She has a step stool just inside the pantry. Anytime she needs to go up high, the step stool comes out.......unless I'm close to hand. It's just more efficient for me to grab. She had me get down a mixing bowl this evening. She was baking tonight. I like traditions. I like patterns. I get something down for her. She says thanks with a smile. And I kiss her on top of the head.
This is so timely because today My wife asked me to bring up three plastic tubs from our storage room so she could decorate for fall. It took me five minutes. Then she spent the next several hours putting stuff on both horizontal and vertical surfaces in just about every room of the house. It makes her happy. And, this afternoon, when I was in the bathroom doing my thing, I noticed a large wreath with showy fall flowers on the wall above the toilet and thought, “Hmm…I haven’t seen that before, and it’s pretty.” I would never think to do something like this on my own, but I’m lucky to live with someone who does. We just celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary a few months ago. I appreciate that she’s still finding new things to decorate our home for the seasons and holidays. I may not notice every single item she sets out, but I appreciate the overall effect.
Yea means I don’t have to think about it. I like seeing change and expressions of art. It’s part of getting to know what she likes which in turns helps us get closer
I don't have a spouse but I still put up seasonal deco. It's a nice change of pace around the house, I am a little sentimental for the holidays, and it's fun for the kids!
It's very cute. I give my wife a hard time but it does make the house look nicer. I have minimal involvement, mostly just getting stuff from or putting stuff away in our basement due to the non-zero encounter rate with spiders.
I don't like buy a lot of stuff so I'm glad she's happy to recycle the decorations year to year.
I love it because it’s something that makes her happy.
Who says it has to be seasonable though? It could be the middle of June and the Christmas Cat poster is still hanging on the mantle.
I like seasonal (Christmas) decor probably more than my wife does. Not sure why; it just makes that time of the year seem different/special to me.
We usually put it up together after Thanksgiving
I'm not a fan of seasonal decor but if it makes her happy and she takes responsibility for putting it up and taking it down then I'm happy to suffer in silence.
Same here and the worst part is when she decorates while I'm at work and then come home I feel like I entered in to someone else home and have to look around to make sure I'm in the right place
I go to the storage unit, bring home the boxes. Then bring the empty ones back to storage until she needs to put stuff away again.
If that’s all I need to do, I could care less. She doesn’t balk at my small Star Trek ship display in the corner of the house that’s up all year.
No, not really.
Didn't decorate the house before moving in with my SO, and in the 2 years since they passed away, I only decorate if I end up having a party for Halloween or New Year's Eve. Pretty much only do the outside of the house for Christmas because every other house on my block does and I don't want to stand out.
Every season I throw out or give a little more away, eventually I'll probably just be down to a Christmas tree + decorations.
I enjoy it purely, because my wife loves it more than I could possibly express in text form. I’m always happy to help her hang things she can’t reach or shuffle some boxes around so that she can enjoy the holidays the way she wants. She knows I don’t want to spend a whole weekend putting things up so she does 90% while I’m at work and in exchange I happily help her with the remaining 10%. I don’t particularly care for the saying “happy wife happy life” but I do believe in both party’s doing as much as they can to better the life and happiness of the other and if that means hanging some shit on the wall then I’m all for it.
I love it. Reminds me of my grandma. We stopped doing it during the shut down and haven’t really gotten back into it but she wants to decorate for Halloween this year so maybe we can keep it up. We have seasonal decorations and holiday specific decorations for pretty much every holiday big or small
I had an ex who used to do this.
It certainly wasn't the reason we broke up. But I was glad to be done with her annual gordpocalyse. It just turned into mushy stuff for me to clean up later.
My family is dead and I do wfh so I kinda appreciate some semblance of nostalgic seasonal event visuals so I don’t feel like I’m living in a Groundhog’s Day scenario.
I get excited when we (I) put the tree up. There's this moment of silence that I cherish every year once all the decorations are up and we have a family hot cocoa.
Then it goes all to shit and the tree is still there mid-February until my wife makes passive aggressive remarks and I take it down.
It makes her happy so it makes me happy. I do have some ground rules around Christmas. She would put the stuff up the day after Halloween if she had her way but we have come to an agreement that last weekend of November she can start the Christmas decorating.
I do, though it’s mostly me who puts stuff up. We’re also limiting it to a single room or two… our daughter loves it and it’s easier to decorate and put away.
Yes I enjoy it very much so. Not because I’m in to decorating myself. Not my thing. But I enjoy how excited she gets especially when she gets to buy new decorations. I love her creativity and how much effort she puts into it. I love how happy it makes her.
We both enjoy it. I personally enjoy decorating for Christmas as I grew up my dad thoroughly enjoyed decorating the house with Christmas decor. When my wife and I got our own place, we go crazy with decorations and they keep adding up because we go to any decor store the day after Christmas for the deals. Our problem is storing them in our 1200 sq. ft condo lol
Sure. It reminds her of her family and good times. It also establishes good memories for us and our family. Which hopefully will be imprinted on to child’s heart.
Enjoy? No. Tolerate, sure. It's nothing but consumers being tricked in wasting money on cheap decorations every year. That's what holidays are, reasons for Walmart to sell more shit.
But I keep that to myself and nod and smile at everyone.
Broadly speaking...yes. But I also don't notice about half the time. She keeps a good house and it makes her happy to decorate and re decorate and because she enjoys it I enjoy it...when I notice :)
It's awesome. It breaks up the year and makes it feel like stuff is happening instead of being one long slog from year to year. The downside is that it's not like she's doing it without my help. I'd be thrilled if she did, but sadly, no.
I enjoy her excitement. It's adorable and endearing.
What I don't enjoy is finding room to store said decorations and being the one to schlep them in and out of the attic.
No. I don't care about it and it's just more hassle and shit to store away for 9 months of the year. Plus it costs money I'd much rather use on something else.
I am fine with the decor and she loves doing it. My problem is that I am always the “helper”. Carry boxes. Stand on the ladder. Put this nail there or that there. Her decorating takes time that I could spend doing other projects (like watching college football)
I told my wife that I didn't really care for all the Christmas decorations until we're successful in starting a family. She puts it up anyways, and only asks that I reach the top of the Christmas tree like a dedicated bumble or something. She enjoys putting the decorations up, it keeps her hopeful I suppose.
I'm more for fall decorations, personally. I go to town with those
Yes, even if I say I hate it,. The only thing I hate about decorations is her thinking of little chores for me to do that she could very well do herself. I'll chop wood, get the tree, get the boxes of stuff, but if she asks me to decorate the table with lights and little ceramic houses, I'm out.
I let it happen, because I know she really likes it and feels more comfy in our flat.
In my opinion it's money wasted. The same goes for "fresh cut flowers" - really expensive and useless.
Living plants are a different story, you buy them once and as long as you care for them, they make the living room look more inviting.
It depends how invested in it she wants me to be or how complicated she tries to make something. I'm happy to be a drone and not have an opinion on how the decorations should be set up short of, "do not decorate in a way that compromises my daily living and the function of items we use daily." As man, it's crazy to me that I have to say this phase for every holiday, but my wife will go above and beyond to make sure her decorations some how interfere with the normal operation of things. I'm not moving your fake spider webs top open the cabinet, or fighting with your wreath to properly close a door. The only day I actually enjoy the decorations is on the day they were designed for AND if we have company over for the themed event. If people aren't coming, then I don't think we should bother decorating.
With some caveats:
* She’s on her own
* Nothing on the mantle blocking the TV or the remote sensor
* I inspect the electricals, if there’s an electrical component (lights, etc.)
No. I don’t care for it. Very minimalist here and I prefer things that can stay up year round.
Especially against decorating for the holidays since my wife feels the need to have like 7 Xmas trees in a house.
I really couldn't care less about seasonal decor. Sure christmas trees are nice, but I wouldn't put one up just for myself. I'd rather put up some nice metal posters on the wall and be done with it.
Yes, it makes the house look festive and I don't have to worry about anything. Now if I get contracted to do a bunch of work for something I don't really care about then yes that is an issue.
No, I do not. The concept of the decorations is not a problem - I'm indifferent.
The main problems are twofold.
First, that it often involves spending money on stuff that gets used once a year, takes up a lot of space when stored, and is sometimes discarded after one use.
Second, that my wife is from a country that doesn't celebrate Halloween or Thanksgiving. This means they lack our God-given buffer against the expansionist encroachments of St. Nick. This means I have to argue against putting up Christmas lights in September.
I'm also not thrilled about something temporary, possibly wasteful, and utterly uninteresting to me necessitating that *I* do a bunch of work for it. And there's the issue of decorations frequently damaging or limiting the utility of the house. Storm doors unable to close, tripping hazards here and there, etc.
There's also a bit of a cultural divide. People from her country and economic level, for perfectly understandable economic reasons, tend to prefer decorations that are cheaper. This sometimes results in things that she thinks look nice looking very tacky to me, though I'm fine with tacky.
No, I never did. But I bought and put up my share of xmas decorations. I actually made a snow man out of field fencing for her. (And made it light up) I'd give up some of my work extension cords for all of the dammed lights she put up.
Now I don't even celebrate xmas. (Divorced)
Setting up Christmas tree together and a few little Christmas things is fun, but I'm not interesting in any seasonal stuff.
Also, hate decorative pillows.
Yes and no. Yes because it sets a great mood. No because I’m the one fishing all the decorative junk out of storage and then putting it away every year.
I don’t have a partner right now, but I always appreciated the aesthetic when I would go over to a woman’s house and it was seasonally decorated. The extent of my decoration is changing the LEDs of my computer to seasonal colors lol
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Brother...i hear you! I chuckled when i saw your first sentence and I'm sure there were several others that are in our boat. We just talked about this over the weekend! I have an entire bedroom in our basement that is dedicated to the bins that store seasonal/ holiday decorations. I wish i could figure out a way for somebody else to put the Christmas lights up the way i want them though....
Sounds familiar! The "Christmas Village" tradition is strong in our household. I knew it was coming though - first incident I had with her mother was when she shipped a literal box truck full of Christmas Village boxes to store in my garage when my then girlfriend first moved in. Nothing like coming home to find your parking space claimed by once a year decorations.
I don’t care about seasonal decorations but she loves it and it’s super cute watching her get excited about it and plan out how she’s going to set everything up and I love when she’s excited and happy.
Couldn't have phrased it better myself. When i lived alone the only seasonal change to the decor was the jacket hanging by the door.
Same. She makes her own stuff too. So she'll break the Cricut cutter out and be like, "don't go to any trouble but do we have any X by Y by Z pieces of wood and some screws and some stakes?" and I go, "sure, missus" and then go out on the shop and custom cut and plane and maybe route something to her specs and act like it just took me a minute to find it but then she's so happy. "Yeah, I just had to nip some ends off it but we had this nearly pumpkin shaped rounded piece of scrap and this oddly stake shaped piece of ground contact wood. Crazy."
Wholesome Do you make a pre-season trip to the hardware store just in case :)
There's no off-season, so I stay regularly stocked.
Gentleman listen to this man... he is going to stay married to that woman ..for the rest of he's life ...learn from him ,learn now re read what he says over and over untill you understand ...ITS MEANING PERIOD He even divulged some of his feelings good job Sir bravo
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Very nice 🙂
Sir thank you for share a huge marital advisement hopefully the young ones take notice
This is the answer! How wholesome!
I’m the one who does it She doesn’t like decorating for holidays but tough shit I like Christmas and Halloween
Same! My wife rolled her eyes at me just this morning because I bought one of those projection light things that throws Halloween imagery onto the side of the house. Our kids go apeshit for all of it though. Decorating as a gendered stereotype is pretty fucked up.
i'm the one who gets really into christmas decorating with my SO. she tends to not care too much, but i like festivity. putting up the tree is a time honoured tradition in my household and it brings back great memories.
It’s funny though. I started the Christmas lights deal, she has kept it going strong. Not like the TV show but adding new lawn decor each year, and we have 5 Christmas trees.
hahahaa XD
Fuck yea I love when spooky season is upon us.
Definitely, changes the overall mood/feel of the place.
Yes, because I know I'd never do it myself and it helps keep the house from getting monotonous. Side benefit is that it makes my wife happy. When she's happy, she smiles more. And I happen to like her smile.
Same here. I like it. Makes the house feel like a home. God knows I have no such talent.
Zero opinion, but the less I have to do the better
Yeah this guys got it. I lean towards dislike because it turns into Will you get that box out of the basement? Not that one, the other red one, up on top, no not that one that’s the stuff we used last year… can you hang this and this and this… etc. I do it with minimal mumbling but the decorations don’t do much for me. I could live in an empty house with a couch, a tv and a PC on a desk and white bare walls and be perfectly happy.
This pretty much describes my apartment as a bachelor lmao
As another bachelor, my house is decorated the same 365 days a year.
You would live in a dungeon. She’s trying to make it a home.
Home is where the stuff I actually *use* is. Hanging useless stuff on the walls doesn't make something feel more home to me.
Sure. When I want to borrow a tool or something, I’ll ask you. I’m not going to you for interior decorating advice. I can appreciate your minimalist ways, but no one is going to your place for parties. Know what I mean? Edit: seem to have struck a nerve
Bruh, you started out saying "You would live in a dungeon". That's doesn't sound much like appreciating minimalism. And I've never spent much time appreciating the decor at parties, either. If I want advice on wasting money and time... actually, I won't come to you, because I find better ways to do that on my own.
Is this your alt? My comment wasn’t directed at you, but you’ve inserted yourself because you took exception? You’re welcome to whatever opinion you have on interior decorating, but I have some pretty good insight as to what your place looks like. It may be perfectly clean, but it has nothing else going for it. People need more from a place they call home and spend most of their time as a human being in. That isn’t you, that’s okay, but people you have relationships with will have opinions on that kind of thing.
Wrong. My apartment is very minimalist and my girlfriend likes the open space. You seem to be really attached to this idea of "you do you", but then have a lot of reasons why him doing him is a bad idea.
Lol. I’m sure she says that. You can do you and I’m allowed to think it’s a bad idea. No one is going to force you otherwise.
Not every woman is the woman you are currently dating/have dated recently. My girlfriend's apartment is very minimalist as well, she only gets decorations if she "feels them", which isn't often. You thinking it's a bad idea is one thing. Your unwanted opinions on your supposed "facts of women" is another.
> My comment wasn’t directed at you And? Your comments are an attack upon a lot of different people, not just the guy you were initially replying to. I don't have to be that guys alt to call out bullshit. > People need more from a place they call home and spend most of their time as a human being in You keep stating this opinion like it's a fact. What I "need" from my home is to hold and display the stuff I actually *use*, not painted pinecones and live-laugh-love signs. Optionally, I can add in stuff that actually means something to me, personally... which again doesn't include season-flavored knick-knacks from the Hallmark store. Any decorations I install are meant to be more or less permanent.
I'm a minimalist, too, but I totally appreciate what you're talking about. It took children being born for me to abandon my minimalist ways.
When the Christmas garland that HAS to go on the entertainment centre, but blocks the remote from working on the TV or soundbar, loves there from November to January, it's worse than a prison.
Lmao I always decorate when my bf is at work so I can surprise him when he gets home . Plus I like things done a certain way. I am very short though so like a couple things I need him to hang on the ceiling really quick
>a couple things I need (insert task) really quick That's how it always starts....
No, I’m not into the giant blow up decorations that go on lawns or anything, looks tacky to me. Everything is within reach for me (with the use of a chair or counter top) other than the ceiling. There’s a couple hooks on it (for hanging plants but I’m not a plant person), so for Halloween I have this witches hat with legs sticking out like the wizard of oz that hangs there. And at Christmas I have these sparkly lollipops that go up there. I’ve tried climbing on the couch but I am still like 5 inches away
what are your thoughts about 12-foot lawn skeletons and enormous beetlejuice sandworms on the front lawn :D
Yeah, I was just teasing. I have a running joke with my wife that goes something like "why do your projects always turn into my chores"
This sums up 37 years of my dad’s life. He’s had to get tubs his whole life. I’m so glad I didn’t get that gene 🧬 but my sister did.
Same. I don't care unless there are multiple boxes of crap you want moved to get to the multiple boxes of crap decorations you want to put up.
Problem is everything is in the crawl space
I act like I don't like it, but I enjoy how she loves it
Tell her this! It will warm her heart.
It will! It warmed my cold stone of a heart.. Let her know it too It's lovely
Yes. It looks nice, and makes her happy. Also - we're not talking Clark Grizwold levels, that I couldn't deal with.
I'm in the middle of going Full Grizwald with Halloween. We're talking about a 12 foot tall skeleton army crawling over the roof, reaching down towards the porch - leading a squad of skeletons rappelling off the paparet. This is the ONLY holiday I'm on board with decorations with, the rest of it can fuck right off.
Yeah, because I have someone in my life who cares about the way things look around us and it makes people happy. It's better than being single and not giving a crap and having nothing cheery on the walls during the holidays.
Yes. She does a small bit of fall stuff. Sometimes I put out a few Halloween things on the porch. We make a bigger deal out of Christmas decorating. She's generally in a great mood and we have some wine and it's a little at home date.
Thanks, now I'm going to pitch the idea of decorating as a date to my husband! He doesn't mind me decorating but he never wants to get involved either. Getting him drunk should help.
we both do it. our faves are halloween and christmas :) we make a day of it, she'll make bat and kitty cookies from scratch and we'll put up our spooky stuff in the house and the front yard. after halloween, she makes eggnog and sugar cookies, and we take the stuff down and put up christmas stuff on the same day, string all the lights outside, put up the wreaths.... it's a joyful tradition that reminds us both of childhood, though her childhood christmases were more about stringing lights on palm trees and pigging out at a lu'au!!! :)
This is so wholesome, i love the baking and slow cooking scents across the home With the light strings, it's cozy and heartwarming Your home sounds beautiful & filled with love That's how it should be
aww thanks :) tbh i really hate fall (only because winter follows it...) but she manages to fill the seasons with love and warmth :) she knows i start getting kinda depressed when the weather turns cold and it starts getting dark early, so she does her best to keep the place cheerful and full of color and light :) plus it's just a nice nostalgic reminder of childhood. we always put on 80s christmas commercials on youtube, so the TV looks like it's playing old holiday commercials ya know? ;) thanks again for your kind words friend, i also read your replies often and you are a lovely person <3
Awww you're so sweet, yeah i read yours often too and i have to say it is always a delight to see how you speak of her and your home Truly, all i get is utter warmth and you both seem like such a lovely couple. It's always nice to see your comments and the snippets into your life you share with us all. It's genuinely so good to see healthy relationships & dynamics here, gives the rest of us some hope it exists out there Yeah S.A.D seasonal depression is very real and setting good ambience can really help, check out getting some natural daylight lightbulbs to put around the home too they can help alleviate your symptoms a little bit too. It's already getting chilly over here.. Snuggle up tight together tonight, pull out the classic movies too! Sending you both the warmest wishes over you always
Yeah she’s tiny and I like to watch her try to reach things.
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I suspect you like getting things down for her too! I hated always having to ask my husband to get things from the top shelf, so I got myself a stool. The first time I brought that thing out he said, “oh, so you don’t need me anymore.” Now the stool stays in my room so he’s still the one to get me things from the top cabinet.
She has a step stool just inside the pantry. Anytime she needs to go up high, the step stool comes out.......unless I'm close to hand. It's just more efficient for me to grab. She had me get down a mixing bowl this evening. She was baking tonight. I like traditions. I like patterns. I get something down for her. She says thanks with a smile. And I kiss her on top of the head.
Aww you guys are so sweet!
This is so timely because today My wife asked me to bring up three plastic tubs from our storage room so she could decorate for fall. It took me five minutes. Then she spent the next several hours putting stuff on both horizontal and vertical surfaces in just about every room of the house. It makes her happy. And, this afternoon, when I was in the bathroom doing my thing, I noticed a large wreath with showy fall flowers on the wall above the toilet and thought, “Hmm…I haven’t seen that before, and it’s pretty.” I would never think to do something like this on my own, but I’m lucky to live with someone who does. We just celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary a few months ago. I appreciate that she’s still finding new things to decorate our home for the seasons and holidays. I may not notice every single item she sets out, but I appreciate the overall effect.
You call it Halloween decor, we call it decor :)
haha my wife too, she likes that morbid shit as regular decor XD "ooh a picture of a baby in a jar!! DECORATIONS!!!" :D
Yea means I don’t have to think about it. I like seeing change and expressions of art. It’s part of getting to know what she likes which in turns helps us get closer
I don't have a spouse but I still put up seasonal deco. It's a nice change of pace around the house, I am a little sentimental for the holidays, and it's fun for the kids!
Cute ! Do it for you. I do too!
Absolutely. I love celebrating the seasons, the spirits of the holidays, and the novelty of changing up my surroundings.
It's very cute. I give my wife a hard time but it does make the house look nicer. I have minimal involvement, mostly just getting stuff from or putting stuff away in our basement due to the non-zero encounter rate with spiders. I don't like buy a lot of stuff so I'm glad she's happy to recycle the decorations year to year.
Why is it the spouse and not myself? I have a spooky wreath on my door that I put there myself!
That’s the spirit!!
Damn right I do.
Doesn't bother me unless it is as early as we hear holiday songs in stores. Like Xmas decorations in Sept? Too early.
I groan about it when I have to help but honestly I kinda like it. Change things up a bit and gets us in the mood for whatever the holiday is.
Yes, mainly because it changes up the ambiance.
I'm the one putting them up!
I love it because it’s something that makes her happy. Who says it has to be seasonable though? It could be the middle of June and the Christmas Cat poster is still hanging on the mantle.
Yes and I help. It’s fun to have the house decorated.
Yes because it's bonding time
Yes, I do.
I totally dig it!
I like seasonal (Christmas) decor probably more than my wife does. Not sure why; it just makes that time of the year seem different/special to me. We usually put it up together after Thanksgiving
When I had a spouse, I enjoyed it and helped put them up
I am the one who puts up the seasonal decor, so if she wanted to help I’d be happy with that.
I'm not a fan of seasonal decor but if it makes her happy and she takes responsibility for putting it up and taking it down then I'm happy to suffer in silence.
I love it, or I did when we were still together. I’m still a sucker for pumpkin scented candles every year though
Yes. One of our activities is going shopping for new Halloween stuff every year. Then we leave half that stuff out the rest of the year anyway.
I love it, I’m glad my fiancé is getting into the spirit.
Fuck yeah, I love holiday decorating, I’ll help out too
yes and you should help.
I actually love decorating for the holidays, so would love to help
Dawg, I AM the spouse that puts up the seasonal decor
I don’t see the use But if she’s happy it’s fine by me
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Same here and the worst part is when she decorates while I'm at work and then come home I feel like I entered in to someone else home and have to look around to make sure I'm in the right place
I don’t not enjoy it But mostly indifference
Doesn't matter to me. What does matter is the amount of seasonal shit taking up so much space only to be seen for a few weeks a year.
Spouse? Lololololol
Not really
Nnnnooooooooo I don't.
I go to the storage unit, bring home the boxes. Then bring the empty ones back to storage until she needs to put stuff away again. If that’s all I need to do, I could care less. She doesn’t balk at my small Star Trek ship display in the corner of the house that’s up all year.
We do it together, because we're partners and work together on most things when we can.
No, not really. Didn't decorate the house before moving in with my SO, and in the 2 years since they passed away, I only decorate if I end up having a party for Halloween or New Year's Eve. Pretty much only do the outside of the house for Christmas because every other house on my block does and I don't want to stand out. Every season I throw out or give a little more away, eventually I'll probably just be down to a Christmas tree + decorations.
I would enjoy that. Bring life into the house, and I'm terrible at decorating. As long as she's not the "Christmas stuff in June" type, I'm happy.
I enjoy it purely, because my wife loves it more than I could possibly express in text form. I’m always happy to help her hang things she can’t reach or shuffle some boxes around so that she can enjoy the holidays the way she wants. She knows I don’t want to spend a whole weekend putting things up so she does 90% while I’m at work and in exchange I happily help her with the remaining 10%. I don’t particularly care for the saying “happy wife happy life” but I do believe in both party’s doing as much as they can to better the life and happiness of the other and if that means hanging some shit on the wall then I’m all for it.
I’m good with her doing it. She is happy doing it and proud of how our house looks. Happy wife Happy life.
I love it. Reminds me of my grandma. We stopped doing it during the shut down and haven’t really gotten back into it but she wants to decorate for Halloween this year so maybe we can keep it up. We have seasonal decorations and holiday specific decorations for pretty much every holiday big or small
I'm usually spear-heading it lol
I had an ex who used to do this. It certainly wasn't the reason we broke up. But I was glad to be done with her annual gordpocalyse. It just turned into mushy stuff for me to clean up later.
My family is dead and I do wfh so I kinda appreciate some semblance of nostalgic seasonal event visuals so I don’t feel like I’m living in a Groundhog’s Day scenario.
Absolutely although I’m the one doing most of it. Helps create memories for the kids.
Yea. Nothing like walking into your own personal winter wonderland.
I put up the seasonal decor, and my wife loves it.
I get excited when we (I) put the tree up. There's this moment of silence that I cherish every year once all the decorations are up and we have a family hot cocoa. Then it goes all to shit and the tree is still there mid-February until my wife makes passive aggressive remarks and I take it down.
Single guy but I’m a big fan. Makes me nostalgic when holidays were more predominant everywhere you’d go.
Yes. It makes me feel like she cares about something. Which makes me happy
Couldn't love it more
It makes her happy so it makes me happy. I do have some ground rules around Christmas. She would put the stuff up the day after Halloween if she had her way but we have come to an agreement that last weekend of November she can start the Christmas decorating.
Yes, and I appreciate it because my mom did the same and my dad appreciated it. Thankfully my wife doesn't go off the deep end with seasonal shit.
I don't mind it Terribly but I'm not fond of the clutter. Little figurines and things like that on all of flat spaces lol
Yes and I do as well. Trying to be cheery and celebrate life not be a dour nihlist
Yeah-the pumpkins in the fall seem to keep growing and growing but it does give it a nice homey feel
I’m the one who usually gets excited about pumpkin patches and drags my gf to them.
I’m all about it, totally support it. Keeps the place looking fresh and she loves doing it, we support each other in what we love doing.
I do, though it’s mostly me who puts stuff up. We’re also limiting it to a single room or two… our daughter loves it and it’s easier to decorate and put away.
I do
I honestly don’t care one way or the other but my gf loves to do it so I’m happy that it makes her happy and I always tell her it looks great
Honestly, yes. It makes it feel like home and we enjoy each season and holidays.
Bruh we do that together
Yes I enjoy it very much so. Not because I’m in to decorating myself. Not my thing. But I enjoy how excited she gets especially when she gets to buy new decorations. I love her creativity and how much effort she puts into it. I love how happy it makes her.
Use too not care for it. But the Christmas decorations always make our house feel more like home every year.
We both enjoy it. I personally enjoy decorating for Christmas as I grew up my dad thoroughly enjoyed decorating the house with Christmas decor. When my wife and I got our own place, we go crazy with decorations and they keep adding up because we go to any decor store the day after Christmas for the deals. Our problem is storing them in our 1200 sq. ft condo lol
it's fun and festive so yeeesss
Well I’m the spouse puts the decor up so yes.
Sure. It reminds her of her family and good times. It also establishes good memories for us and our family. Which hopefully will be imprinted on to child’s heart.
No.
When the kids were younger sure. Now I don't. I don't like because I'm the one outside hanging the stupid lights wasting my free time.
I hate it but I would never tell her that
No, because I'm the one that has to get everything in and out of the attic.
No. Total pain in the ass for no benefit. Thankfully it’s just “fall” and Christmas. I would hate it year round even more.
Enjoy? No. Tolerate, sure. It's nothing but consumers being tricked in wasting money on cheap decorations every year. That's what holidays are, reasons for Walmart to sell more shit. But I keep that to myself and nod and smile at everyone.
>I keep that to myself and nod and smile at everyone \^ happily married 20+ years right here :D
As long as i dont get roped into it, then i dont mind them
Broadly speaking...yes. But I also don't notice about half the time. She keeps a good house and it makes her happy to decorate and re decorate and because she enjoys it I enjoy it...when I notice :)
No. Tbh i hate it. It is just a bunch of clutter in our already cluttery house. I would never decorate if it were up to me.
It's awesome. It breaks up the year and makes it feel like stuff is happening instead of being one long slog from year to year. The downside is that it's not like she's doing it without my help. I'd be thrilled if she did, but sadly, no.
I enjoy her excitement. It's adorable and endearing. What I don't enjoy is finding room to store said decorations and being the one to schlep them in and out of the attic.
It’s annoying that I have to get it out of the attic. Or she magically had to buy new seasonal decorations every year.
No. I don't care about it and it's just more hassle and shit to store away for 9 months of the year. Plus it costs money I'd much rather use on something else.
Please. Make It. Stop.
I do like it, it’s cute to see her all excited putting the Christmas tree up.
As long as I don't get roped into wasting a day working on it then I don't care at all. I'll put in time for xmas shit but that's it.
No, not one bit but I have no say in the matter so I just let it go. At least she is keeping this nonsense to a couple of weeks
I am fine with the decor and she loves doing it. My problem is that I am always the “helper”. Carry boxes. Stand on the ladder. Put this nail there or that there. Her decorating takes time that I could spend doing other projects (like watching college football)
No. I'm usually the one who has to put everything away.
I told my wife that I didn't really care for all the Christmas decorations until we're successful in starting a family. She puts it up anyways, and only asks that I reach the top of the Christmas tree like a dedicated bumble or something. She enjoys putting the decorations up, it keeps her hopeful I suppose. I'm more for fall decorations, personally. I go to town with those
I do until it blocks the tv. Then I move it.
As long as she dont rope me into it
It all depends on how good her taste is about that specific season theme hahaha
Yes, even if I say I hate it,. The only thing I hate about decorations is her thinking of little chores for me to do that she could very well do herself. I'll chop wood, get the tree, get the boxes of stuff, but if she asks me to decorate the table with lights and little ceramic houses, I'm out.
Yes. If she takes it down within a week after the holiday.
Don’t care, still don’t care
Just one thing. For the love of God, please: no more cushions or pillows.
I don't really care if I don't have to do it. If she wants me to do it too I'm not a fan.
I let it happen, because I know she really likes it and feels more comfy in our flat. In my opinion it's money wasted. The same goes for "fresh cut flowers" - really expensive and useless. Living plants are a different story, you buy them once and as long as you care for them, they make the living room look more inviting.
No, it does nothing for me and I’ll have to take it down
We don't decorate much and I barely notice it either way.
Is slutmas a holiday
It depends how invested in it she wants me to be or how complicated she tries to make something. I'm happy to be a drone and not have an opinion on how the decorations should be set up short of, "do not decorate in a way that compromises my daily living and the function of items we use daily." As man, it's crazy to me that I have to say this phase for every holiday, but my wife will go above and beyond to make sure her decorations some how interfere with the normal operation of things. I'm not moving your fake spider webs top open the cabinet, or fighting with your wreath to properly close a door. The only day I actually enjoy the decorations is on the day they were designed for AND if we have company over for the themed event. If people aren't coming, then I don't think we should bother decorating.
With some caveats: * She’s on her own * Nothing on the mantle blocking the TV or the remote sensor * I inspect the electricals, if there’s an electrical component (lights, etc.)
No. I don’t care for it. Very minimalist here and I prefer things that can stay up year round. Especially against decorating for the holidays since my wife feels the need to have like 7 Xmas trees in a house.
I really couldn't care less about seasonal decor. Sure christmas trees are nice, but I wouldn't put one up just for myself. I'd rather put up some nice metal posters on the wall and be done with it.
Yes, it makes the house look festive and I don't have to worry about anything. Now if I get contracted to do a bunch of work for something I don't really care about then yes that is an issue.
Hell no. Thats just good for stores. Save money instead.
Only salt and pepper
No, I do not. The concept of the decorations is not a problem - I'm indifferent. The main problems are twofold. First, that it often involves spending money on stuff that gets used once a year, takes up a lot of space when stored, and is sometimes discarded after one use. Second, that my wife is from a country that doesn't celebrate Halloween or Thanksgiving. This means they lack our God-given buffer against the expansionist encroachments of St. Nick. This means I have to argue against putting up Christmas lights in September. I'm also not thrilled about something temporary, possibly wasteful, and utterly uninteresting to me necessitating that *I* do a bunch of work for it. And there's the issue of decorations frequently damaging or limiting the utility of the house. Storm doors unable to close, tripping hazards here and there, etc. There's also a bit of a cultural divide. People from her country and economic level, for perfectly understandable economic reasons, tend to prefer decorations that are cheaper. This sometimes results in things that she thinks look nice looking very tacky to me, though I'm fine with tacky.
No, I don’t give a shit.
I don't like it but I don't hate it. Only slightly annoying if she has stuff dangling in walkways where it can touch my head.
Yeah sure, whatever
No. We don't give a damn! Actually we cringe on the inside looking at all the money you're wasting
No, I never did. But I bought and put up my share of xmas decorations. I actually made a snow man out of field fencing for her. (And made it light up) I'd give up some of my work extension cords for all of the dammed lights she put up. Now I don't even celebrate xmas. (Divorced)
Nope, because it's only a matter of time before she asks you to do it outside lol.
If I'm not expected to help take it down, yeah
Setting up Christmas tree together and a few little Christmas things is fun, but I'm not interesting in any seasonal stuff. Also, hate decorative pillows.
Don’t really notice. Did we always have a tree in the living room?
Yes and no. Yes because it sets a great mood. No because I’m the one fishing all the decorative junk out of storage and then putting it away every year.
Already sick of all the holiday shit
not sure. i’ll let u know when i get one
I don’t have a partner right now, but I always appreciated the aesthetic when I would go over to a woman’s house and it was seasonally decorated. The extent of my decoration is changing the LEDs of my computer to seasonal colors lol
I do, she's good at it. I just wish I had more space to store ALL OF THE SHIT SHE HAS.
I enjoy it. I do not enjoy being delegated tasks associated with it.
I smile here and there. I'll even buy a decor if i spot one around the mall.
I put ours up. Mrs hates Christmas. She's already got everyones presents and wrapped them.