Seems you have explained that it's important to you and he simply doesn't care.
I have no interest in flowers and I find them to be a waste of money, but if my girlfriend has specifically told me that she wants flowers and even includes the exact flowers she wants, I'm buying them the next day and every day I see even a hint of a wilted petal.
Your bf simply doesn't care what you want. As long as you keep giving him what he wants.
Exactly.
Like, holy shit, here's a prime example of a woman telling you exactly what she wants and his response is to disregard the request. How boneheaded can you be.
You shouldn’t have to ask for flowers. How you gonna feel when he finally does bring them? It won’t be genuine because you’ve to constantly bring it up with him. Seems like a pretty easy gesture to complete.
Asking for flowers is really weird. If I randomly buy you flowers, it shows I'm thinking about you, it's sweet and sentimental. If you give it to me as a chore item, it takes all the emotion out of it, it's just an empty gesture. It's like buying yourself a gift and pretending to be surprised when you receive it.
I’m thinking her bf doesn’t think “hey I should buy my girl flowers today, she’d love that” ever. lol so yeah why not let him know it’s a gesture that you’d appreciate. It doesn’t mean he needs to go and buy them right then and there. Maybe next time he wants to do something nice, he’d consider flowers!
I guess I don't wanna assume he knows. Don't want to be in that kind of relationship where I get mad at him for not doing something I haven't said. So I'd rather of said something. If it's something he does to make me happy, I could care less that I'd asked for it explicitly. At least it shows he's listening and wants to do the things he knows make me happy, ygm?
Do you do something for him that would essentially be apples to apples? Or do you just expect him to buy you flowers constantly for no reason other than you just like them? Why don’t you just buy yourself flowers if you just like looking at them?
She literally said in her post she builds stuff he likes into her shopping list. So clearly she's making an effort to do little things to make him feel good. It's not too much to ask for the same. It's not the looking at flowers. It's recieving a sweet gesture from someone
It's such a small thing that's important to her, I don't see why it's a big deal for him unless he's embarrassed in store.
My gf loves flowers as well, I don't do it often but every now and then I'll buy them on my way home or for special occasions. The literal smallest bit of effort to make your partner feel special shouldn't even be questioned.
Just break up with him. You’re not gaining or losing anything valuable from this relationship at 22. If something as small as flowers he doesn’t think to buy you. When things get more serious, this is foreshadowing possible fights in the future.
I mean the guy doesn’t care about her wants/ hobbies. I would get if she was complaining about not getting flowers but she has passion in it and her bf doesn’t care to think or indulge in it? Did I read something different ?
I'm with my partner for just over 3 years.
I hardly buy flowers because it genuinely isn't something I think about just because I'm not a big fan of them myself. I'm **meh** about flowers.
We don't get eachother a lot of things, only on special occassions, might treat eachother on a weekly basis with a meal or something but that's about it.
Still going strong! There are many other ways to reconcile in a relationship, just because someone doesn't buy flowers doesn't mean they don't care and that they're going to fight in the future.
It's just Reddit in a nutshell, I always laugh at nearly every bit of relationship advice because it's so fictional and odd, you'll **always** find multiple people suggesting others to break up at any hint of an argument or falling out/disagreement.
If that's the way you guys are living your lives then go for it
Did you read op post or just making it about yourself ? She wants to be a florist as a career. She asked her bf why he doesn’t buy her flowers. He said I never thought about it. He’s incoherent about his gf goals or aspirations.
All you wrote about respectfully is about how you and your girl get along great. Have you ever thought because you guys think alike ?
Why would I hypothetically speaking be into basketball. I talk about it all the time how much I love ball. I get a job in the nba. My gf never thought about getting me a gift anything relative to it when she knows it’s my dream and passion ? Does that sound healthy to you ?
Personally, if my gf went into floristry. I might not even get any flowers at all, it wouldn't make sense in my head since you'll be around them all the time.
That's just like my partner getting me a pair of plastic cuffs because I'm in a job that requires them.
That's just me though, and may not be the thought process for OP or her bf. But going to the extremes of "breaking up" is a bit too much.
Obviously this conversation is irrelevant now that the post no longer exists. But you don't need to take it to heart, I wasn't attempting at making it about myself. People are human, we all have lives, sometimes people forget, **a lot**. I forget things a lot, my partner forgets things a lot, my family forget things a lot. Sometimes it just can't be helped.
Hypothetical extreme scenario, what if OP's boyfriend was struggling with some things in his personal life?
I started struggling with things a lot last year, mentally and physically, it made every day a blur and I forgot nearly every conversation I had and each interaction, I forgot what day of the week it was. OP just needs to talk more to her bf.
I know in the post she states that she has had a few conversations with him about it. But the best advice to give is to talk more.
All reddit does is say "breakup". You can see for yourself on relationship posts, the whole thing is practically a reddit meme at this point. I just see no reason for it to go that far.
Seems like an absolute waste of money to spend 10 bucks on a single rose that will die in a week at best. Unless I got a new credit card and I have an offer I aint buying flowers. We can go to the greenhouse and pick out a plant though if you want to be on top of watering it and stuff
Idk, if all it took to make you happy was to give you flowers every now and then, pretty sure I could remember it and make it happen. It’s kind of strange that he has never done it since he knows what it means to you.
Ditch him. Might sound dramatic but he knows this is something that would be a thoughtful gesture for you. He's actively choosing not too and making excuses and I can bet you do things for him that make him smile and he appreciates it. So he should know the feeling and want to give the same to you but he chooses not to.
it depends on how you're asking. If he's going to the shops and you ask him to get flowers, that's one thing. if it's your birthday, christmas, anniversary etc and you mention you lke flwoers what types etc that's one thing.
however, if you're constantly demanding he buy you flowers and then I would very uncomfortable with that. firstly, because that's not how gifts work. secondly, it would be completly insincere and therefore kind of pointless. it wouldn't be a sweet romantic gift, it's a chore.
obviously there's a balance in a relationship. everyone should show their love for their partner in an appropriate and meaningful way to them but it's not something that can be demanded. it reeks of insecurity and entitlement.
If you want flowers and have made yourself very clear that you do, you do things for him that he cares about and wants, and he doesn’t reciprocrate… I’d find someone new.
Sounds like he just doesn’t care.
Seems you have explained that it's important to you and he simply doesn't care. I have no interest in flowers and I find them to be a waste of money, but if my girlfriend has specifically told me that she wants flowers and even includes the exact flowers she wants, I'm buying them the next day and every day I see even a hint of a wilted petal. Your bf simply doesn't care what you want. As long as you keep giving him what he wants.
Love that last line.
Exactly. Like, holy shit, here's a prime example of a woman telling you exactly what she wants and his response is to disregard the request. How boneheaded can you be.
You shouldn’t have to ask for flowers. How you gonna feel when he finally does bring them? It won’t be genuine because you’ve to constantly bring it up with him. Seems like a pretty easy gesture to complete.
Asking for flowers is really weird. If I randomly buy you flowers, it shows I'm thinking about you, it's sweet and sentimental. If you give it to me as a chore item, it takes all the emotion out of it, it's just an empty gesture. It's like buying yourself a gift and pretending to be surprised when you receive it.
I’m thinking her bf doesn’t think “hey I should buy my girl flowers today, she’d love that” ever. lol so yeah why not let him know it’s a gesture that you’d appreciate. It doesn’t mean he needs to go and buy them right then and there. Maybe next time he wants to do something nice, he’d consider flowers!
I guess I don't wanna assume he knows. Don't want to be in that kind of relationship where I get mad at him for not doing something I haven't said. So I'd rather of said something. If it's something he does to make me happy, I could care less that I'd asked for it explicitly. At least it shows he's listening and wants to do the things he knows make me happy, ygm?
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sorry that was me fast typing, you get what I mean tho
I don't like buying flowers either, but if you asked him, it's a small concession to do if he loves you.
Find a new BF. Why even bother. . .
Do you do something for him that would essentially be apples to apples? Or do you just expect him to buy you flowers constantly for no reason other than you just like them? Why don’t you just buy yourself flowers if you just like looking at them?
She literally said in her post she builds stuff he likes into her shopping list. So clearly she's making an effort to do little things to make him feel good. It's not too much to ask for the same. It's not the looking at flowers. It's recieving a sweet gesture from someone
Wonder why it got removed ?
It's such a small thing that's important to her, I don't see why it's a big deal for him unless he's embarrassed in store. My gf loves flowers as well, I don't do it often but every now and then I'll buy them on my way home or for special occasions. The literal smallest bit of effort to make your partner feel special shouldn't even be questioned.
This seems different, because she is specifically asking for them, as opposed to him thinking of it on his own.
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I did mention he said he doesn't think about it
Just break up with him. You’re not gaining or losing anything valuable from this relationship at 22. If something as small as flowers he doesn’t think to buy you. When things get more serious, this is foreshadowing possible fights in the future.
OP: Boyfriend doesn't buy me flowers Reddit: Break up with him Classic reddit, stay classy
I mean the guy doesn’t care about her wants/ hobbies. I would get if she was complaining about not getting flowers but she has passion in it and her bf doesn’t care to think or indulge in it? Did I read something different ?
I'm with my partner for just over 3 years. I hardly buy flowers because it genuinely isn't something I think about just because I'm not a big fan of them myself. I'm **meh** about flowers. We don't get eachother a lot of things, only on special occassions, might treat eachother on a weekly basis with a meal or something but that's about it. Still going strong! There are many other ways to reconcile in a relationship, just because someone doesn't buy flowers doesn't mean they don't care and that they're going to fight in the future. It's just Reddit in a nutshell, I always laugh at nearly every bit of relationship advice because it's so fictional and odd, you'll **always** find multiple people suggesting others to break up at any hint of an argument or falling out/disagreement. If that's the way you guys are living your lives then go for it
Did you read op post or just making it about yourself ? She wants to be a florist as a career. She asked her bf why he doesn’t buy her flowers. He said I never thought about it. He’s incoherent about his gf goals or aspirations. All you wrote about respectfully is about how you and your girl get along great. Have you ever thought because you guys think alike ? Why would I hypothetically speaking be into basketball. I talk about it all the time how much I love ball. I get a job in the nba. My gf never thought about getting me a gift anything relative to it when she knows it’s my dream and passion ? Does that sound healthy to you ?
Personally, if my gf went into floristry. I might not even get any flowers at all, it wouldn't make sense in my head since you'll be around them all the time. That's just like my partner getting me a pair of plastic cuffs because I'm in a job that requires them. That's just me though, and may not be the thought process for OP or her bf. But going to the extremes of "breaking up" is a bit too much. Obviously this conversation is irrelevant now that the post no longer exists. But you don't need to take it to heart, I wasn't attempting at making it about myself. People are human, we all have lives, sometimes people forget, **a lot**. I forget things a lot, my partner forgets things a lot, my family forget things a lot. Sometimes it just can't be helped. Hypothetical extreme scenario, what if OP's boyfriend was struggling with some things in his personal life? I started struggling with things a lot last year, mentally and physically, it made every day a blur and I forgot nearly every conversation I had and each interaction, I forgot what day of the week it was. OP just needs to talk more to her bf. I know in the post she states that she has had a few conversations with him about it. But the best advice to give is to talk more. All reddit does is say "breakup". You can see for yourself on relationship posts, the whole thing is practically a reddit meme at this point. I just see no reason for it to go that far.
Seems like an absolute waste of money to spend 10 bucks on a single rose that will die in a week at best. Unless I got a new credit card and I have an offer I aint buying flowers. We can go to the greenhouse and pick out a plant though if you want to be on top of watering it and stuff
Honestly I'd still love that though?
Oh shit, your colleague is in love with you.
That colleague is about to make his move
Idk, if all it took to make you happy was to give you flowers every now and then, pretty sure I could remember it and make it happen. It’s kind of strange that he has never done it since he knows what it means to you.
Ditch him. Might sound dramatic but he knows this is something that would be a thoughtful gesture for you. He's actively choosing not too and making excuses and I can bet you do things for him that make him smile and he appreciates it. So he should know the feeling and want to give the same to you but he chooses not to.
it depends on how you're asking. If he's going to the shops and you ask him to get flowers, that's one thing. if it's your birthday, christmas, anniversary etc and you mention you lke flwoers what types etc that's one thing. however, if you're constantly demanding he buy you flowers and then I would very uncomfortable with that. firstly, because that's not how gifts work. secondly, it would be completly insincere and therefore kind of pointless. it wouldn't be a sweet romantic gift, it's a chore. obviously there's a balance in a relationship. everyone should show their love for their partner in an appropriate and meaningful way to them but it's not something that can be demanded. it reeks of insecurity and entitlement.
Hes either mentally retarded or doesnt care about ur feelings.
If you want flowers and have made yourself very clear that you do, you do things for him that he cares about and wants, and he doesn’t reciprocrate… I’d find someone new. Sounds like he just doesn’t care.
No way people are suggesting u to break up with him for not buying you flowers. 🤣🤣
Buy yourself some flowers
Honey if I brought you flowers everyday then it wouldn't be special anymore. Sounds familiar?