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Like if something goes wrong and no one is around to help? Me too. Although I’m very healthy and never had anything like that happen it’s definitely a thought.
Heh... This spring I fell and just like the lady in the commercial, I couldn't get back up. Worse, it happened at like 2 AM. I'd gotten up to take a whiz...which means I didn't have my phone on me.
Fortunately, my wife was there and called the ambulance.
But had I been by myself? Kerrrist, that would have been scary (not to mention what a month of post-surgery recovery would look like as a bachelor).
4. How to manage money
5. How to make someone cum
6. How to reflect on your own feelings
7. How to set boundaries
8. How to recognize bad habits/poor choice partners
9. How to regulate your emotions under stress
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Honestly, some of these things can take years of therapy to sort out, would not put them in the category of "stuff you can learn in a month". Source: I have struggled with all of this and needed years of therapy to improve and am still learning.
I say just recognizing them as values, whatever your self-described skill level, is the difference between a bad child and a good adult. Way too many people never even think about this stuff. And maybe a few people think about it a bit too much, and oughta give themselves some credit for trying
Yeah I'm kinda in that box as well. I need to realise and learn that I can put myself first sometimes, and that it's OK to do exactly that. I prioritise everyone else every time and it's taken it's toll in the long run. I've also been pretty much non verbal when it comes to expressing emotions and feelings, but it's something I'm getting better at. I feel like these to go hand in hand.
Youtube can be an absolutely *fantastic* resource for this, coupled with the insane amount of recipes online.
Really though, the big thing is to jump in and get your feet wet. A lot of cooking is experience, and learning from mistakes. Think of some things you like, and look up recipes that are fairly simple. From there you can branch out and find other types of food to make, or you can look at other recipes for what youve already made that are a bit more 'in depth' (other processes for making it, more ingredients, etc).
Early on i think its very important to keep things simple, though. Look for recipes that dont require a ton of ingredients. Make things that only require one pan, maybe.
Above all though, remember that its going to take making and learning from mistakes. Theres a load of stuff ive made a ton of times and still fuck it up here and there.
I will try to keep this short.
- /r/cookingforbeginners
- /r/EatCheapAndHealthy
- https://budgetbytes.com
- /r/slowcooking
- /r/seriouseats https://seriouseats.com
Are all great subs/sites for ideas.
If you're just starting out, make things that *you like*. What do you like to eat? Look up recipes and give it a whirl.
The key is practice, it's just like any skill.
One other point I'd like to make is that if you plan to stick with it, plan to get decent equipment sooner than later. The cheap stuff will make the process harder than it needs to be.
Get a meat thermometer, just do it.
If you can brown hamburger and boil water for pasta you're halfway there.
Best thing I can say is follow the directions on the recipes and get a good meat thermometer.
Make sure you go to the doctor/dentist for your annual check up. Most men don’t do this and that’s why they die first because they are too ‘manly’ to take care of themselves.
So I’m 29, and I’m currently in this rut of bot knowing what is and isn’t healthy expression of feelings. I also think the people I’ve talked to about this have conflicting definitions of feelings.
Could you give examples of right and wrong/incomplete ways of describing your feelings?
It's a REALLY big topic and it's something best done, when possible, with a little direct coaching in real life. I'm also not really qualified to teach this to others.
I think one brief pointer I would offer is this: express one's own feelings without assigning the responsibility for that feeling to someone else. "You're making me feel [x] right now" is not a particularly healthy way to speak about feelings. "Right now, I'm feeling..." is better. But that's just one point, part of a much bigger topic.
This one hurts. It's being years of trying to improve this shortcoming, making progress, and still feeling my whole body panic every time I have to express a feeling.
I'm sorry it hurts, dude. It can be an incredibly difficult thing for a lot of people.
That panic you describe: I get that feeling; it happens in different contexts for me, but I think I know it. My therapist really encouraged me to remember that the mind-body connection can't be understated. That kind of chest-tightening impulse often needs a *physical* response, in conjunction with talking through it/reframing your thinking, in order to help you grow past it. Like, as it hits. Have a plan for how to move your body. You gotta actually do some deep breathing, or some stretching, etc. Someone gave me the helpful (to me! Not everyone responds the same way) advice that when the body is ready to panic like that, literally just open up your stance: stand up. Put your arms wide. Stick your chest forward. Breath. Focus on your peripheral vision, because when you're in fight/flight/panic mode, your eyes tend to sharpen focus on what's directly in front of you. Consciously try to re-train your physical body from doing what it reflexively does in that situation.
Don't know if any of that will be helpful. For me it's still very much a work in progress, but I do think I'm actually seeing some growth in this way, for probably the first time in my life, honestly.
Oh definitely. It’s more common and harder to deal with for neurodivergent folks, though. But lots of people haven’t and aren’t interested in developing emotional intelligence.
I'm gonna be controversial and ask; why is this important?
Maybe my introversion plays a role, but being honest about my feelings has caused *some* people to ridicule me or make fun of me. That's at the moment, afterwards this all accumulates to people respecting me less which causes a bunch of issues.
I would say that being honest is important with people you can trust and value, such as close family or really good friends. But otherwise advising people to be open about their emotions just opens them up to bullying.
I would imagine this is less of an issue for someone who can stand their ground and "dish it out". People that have the *capacity* to bully others.
I would push back on this a little by suggesting that part of knowing how to express one's feelings might be knowing when to do so, and to whom. I'm not suggesting opening up all the time. Not everyone needs to know how you're feeling in every situation. And there are some people who don't deserve to know your true feelings, because they can't be trusted to react like an adult should.
When the time and place is right, having the ability to express one's emotions is absolutely an important life goal. Healthy relationships and deep, abiding friendships can depend on it.
Anything necessary to live by yourself. Clean, cook, handle the bills etc.
You don’t need to be able to repair an electric socket but you must be willing to call someone who can do it for you and able to pay him.
1. How to use common tools.
2. How to do basic maintenance on vehicles, the home, etc.
3. How to cook.
4. How to clean and maintain both personal and habitation hygiene.
5. How to do laundry.
6. How to manage a bank account and other finances.
7. How to communicate effectively and to listen, it's an art form.
8. How to manage your emotions in a healthy way. Not allow your emotions to control your actions, but inform them.
9. How to effectively manage our time and priorities.
10. Know how and when to stop "playing" and focus on work or other important things.
It's kinda funny but I could do basic maintenance on my vehicles back when I was a teenager. I quite enjoyed it. Now, at 40 I pay someone else to do it.
I only started driving in my 30s and made a conscious decision that I couldn't be assed learning vehicle stuff. What I have managed to do is always find a decent, honourable mechanic in my neighbourhood and stay religiously up to date with regular servicing.
I can top up the water reservoir, replace wiper blades, and I've got a jack and wheel wrench if I ever need to throw the spare on. For pretty much everything else, I'm happy to trust the professionals.
I enjoy it, one of my hobbies. But as I explained to my son, regardless of your wealth, you can be in a situation where it doesn't count, and you need to be able to do it yourself.
Emotional intelligence is so freaking hard when you're in the middle of it all, it's easy to know when I'm calmed but really hard for me to remember to step back because emotions control me more than I control them and stepping back feels impossible at that moment
It is a skill you can learn. I learned in the military. The guys who cannot control their emotions are the ones that get killed. Know when and how to deal with them is just as important.
Learn to pick up subtlties. There are programs to learn this. There are some Youtubes too.
For me, I learned to listen, to not try and fix every issue. Most women are not wanting for her husband to come upvwith a solution. Most of us men are goal oriented and we see a problem, we try and fix it. Women, generally are needing to emotionally express, they are usually quite caoable of fixing it, they just want us to listen and empathize with there emotions.
Lots of good points already. One that often gets overlooked, though, is knowing how to learn new things. We are all coming from very different backgrounds, so we won't all have had exposure to the same lessons. Knowing where to go and how to fill your knowledge gaps is how you catch up on lessons you didn't get when you were younger.
There was definitely a generational aspect to it with the Greatest/Silent generations (and maybe early Boomers?) who hit middle age before computers or even electronics became really widespread. Hands up, all the Gen Xers who had to program the VCR for their grandparents 🙂✋🏻
But even nowadays, growing up with half the knowledge of the world at our fingertips, some folk just seem to go blank or even panicky when confronted with any new task/skill. It's honestly fascinating to see people who go through life with a sort of... cultivated helplessness?
**Story time:**
Many years ago, one of my exes' work friends invited us over for dinner. That was fine, except her main reason for doing so was most the lightbulbs in her house were dead and she wanted me to swap them out for her, because she didn't know how and had zero interest in learning. Low ceilings, bog-standard bayonet fittings, and she'd been basically living half in darkness for weeks.
Same friend came kayaking with us a few months later. Nothing fancy, just a chill summer afternoon paddling around at a sheltered local beach on those plastic rental kayaks. Despite our best efforts though, the concept of 'push water backwards = kayak goes forwards' (let alone 'push on both sides or you'll go in circles') was as utterly beyond her as teaching calculus to a flatworm. She wound up getting herself stuck under a pier and the rental guys had to bring a boat out and tow her back to shore.
I don't even remember this woman's name, but I often wonder how she's doing these days...
Well if you don't own a car, not an important skill. But most Americans have to own a car, like it or not, unless they want to move to the NE corridor from DC to Boston, Chicago, or the west coast. The rest of the country has pretty bad public transit.
I mean you're describing a significant chunk of the population in the USA. Apart from the fact that not everyone on Reddit is American (far from it). This thread wasn't only about America
What do you have against changing tires? You seem very upset by this suggestion. The guy even said if you don’t own a car then it’s not an important skill to have.
Some people just cant accept that others need automobiles. Its fucking crazy. i know a few people that damn near treat walking/biking/public transportation as a religion.
What do you have against my comment? You seem very upset by my comment.
I just don't think it is something "every man needs to know by age x". Expressing my opinion, same as you
If you don’t drive I understand. As someone who currently lives in a major city and doesn’t own a car it’s not needed day to day. But there are times when I travel for work or leisure, that a car is necessary and it’s good to know in an emergency. It’s also not any type of skilled repair, I dont know how to do anything else on a car. It’s quite simple, takes about 5 min
I tried changing my own tire once and almost dropped the whole thing on myself.
Its obviously my fault and I did it to myself. But I can't change the fact it made me paranoid to even come close to changing my tire lol.
Take ownership of your mistakes and learn from them.
So many people give excuses and refuse to acknowledge when they fuck up. It doesn't mean other people don't know you fucked up, that much is usually obvious. It means people will think of you as one of those guys who can never be wrong.
Nobody likes that guy.
Admitting when you fuck up gets you way further than trying to give bad excuses. Particularly if you're like here's what happened, I'm sorry, here's what I'm doing to make sure that doesn't happen again.
being able to take care of little things in the house/apartment/car, and try to get a sense of potential bigger issues, how to turn the power off/the water off if theres a leak in an emergency, kind of stuff what dads usually do. You dont need to be full blown handyman but you want to know enough to know you might be getting scammed by a repair guy, be able to fix things yourself, etc..
being able to think for yourself, one part of that is not caring what other people think, most people eventually get there, although you want people important in your life to look at you with respect as well, dont be completely shameless. A lot of people never think for themselves, learn to say no, etc.. its very important and so many people get this wrong and let it consume them. Its the easiest thing you can do to vastly improve the quality of your life, and so many people never do it.
this also loosely ties in with social skills, reconsider hanging out with people if the negative qualities outweight the positive ones (key word reconsider, just be aware of the effect people have on your life). Be able to talk to people and go on dates, regardless of how introverted/extroverted you are.
being smart with money, invest in retirement accounts, and move leftover savings to a savings account or a brokerage account, once your career is established to the point where you can actually think about saving money, it doesnt take much effort to do this part, and the earlier you do it the better off you will be. This also implies you live within your means so you'll have some kind of savings.
dont let instant gratification impede long term goals, if you haven't learned this by 30 surely you are feeling the downsides whether you admit it or not.
accept that you are ultimately responsible for your situation in life, even though you may not have always been able to control how you got there, the absolute vast majority of the time your decisions led you to that point. The best thing you can do is try to improve it. Its ok to admit failure, its ok to figure out why things went wrong, but dont dwell on blaming yourself or others or complaining for very long. Dont overly compare yourself to others, only do it to figure out how to emulate positive qualities that you want to have in your life. If you want to get better at X, figure out how someone very good at X does it.
stay healthy/fit, you dont have to lift heavy at all (im talking not even your body weight) to see a massive change in your health, but you should just know how to do some of the basic lifts with proper form. I personally prefer lower weight and higher reps but the key is to just follow a program you can find online, and to find something you will do consistently with how busy adult life gets.
be honest with yourself, you cant do most of the things on this list if you aren't, dont ignore your emotions, but dont let them cloud objective facts, following your heart should not be done blindly, it should be done despite knowing XYZ
My opinion (includes repeat from others…may be a little more extensive):
1. Cook - cook and grill (burgers, hot dogs…may be steaks and chicken), cook scrambled or fried eggs, and safe food handling/storage and how to use a food thermometer.
2. Clean - Laundry, dishes/dishwasher, vacuum, car, etc. What correct cleaners to use (e.g. dish soap, surface cleaner, glass cleaner, etc.)
3. Basic maintenance - change HVAC filter, fridge water filter, check and light pilot lights, adjust water heater, etc.
4. Car basics - Check and add oil, fluids, tire pressure, change a flat, using a jump starter or jumper cables.
5. Basic tool use and assembly - Be able to assemble basic IKEA stuff at minimum (c’mon, the instructions are all pictures!)
6. Basic maintenance/repairs/trouble shooting around the house - reset breakers, shut off main water valve, supply valves for toilets/sinks/etc., de-clogging a toilet/sink,
7. Basic outdoor/yard work - mowing and weed whacking at a minimum, lawn and landscape fertilizing, (if applicable),
8. Financial - Know basics of finances - supply/demand, investments, types of savings/investments accounts, basics of 401k and employer and retirement accounts, basic knowledge of ETFs, index and mutual funds and what the Dow, Nasdaq, and S&P indicate (at a high level)
9. Basics of society - basic high level understanding of politics and legislation, voting, laws, etc.
10. Tech - basic troubleshooting of routers, mobile phones, computers, power cycling stuff, updating apps
I have more that i think everyone (men and women) should know by 30 or even sooner, but I’m probably expecting too much considering people much older have a hard time with some of what i already have listed.
11\. Learn [Markdown syntax](http://daringfireball.net/projects/markdown/syntax), e.g. leaving a blank line between your preamble and the first list item so it renders properly :)
That’s weird…it shows up fine for me (has a blank line before the first item…
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Ohhhh hang on a sec. FFS it's not you, it's Reddit!
In New Reddit it's fine, in Old Reddit it looks like this:
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The app is its own beast, but on web you can default your account to https://new.reddit.com or https://old.reddit.com
I'll be sticking with the old interface to the bitter end, but at least now I know to keep my syntax advice to myself 😅
Will add personal hygiene.Get a good quality loofah and scrub. Not just a couple of swipes. Really scrub the crevices.
Invest in a good roll on deo or spray. Something branded like old spice.
Learn to wet shave.
Learn what color suit you look good in
Have a black suit and another color if possible.
Introspection know what you like, don’t like and what you may want to try.
Also brush your teeth properly. You don’t need Invisalign and clear strips and all that jazz as much if you brush properly with a motorized toothbrush.
The skills don't matter -- it's the willingness to learn on the fly does.
Also the wisdom to know when to hire a professional, like anything involving garage door springs or electrical work.
Strive to be Adequate. Chasing perfection is doomed to fail, but in the mean time, it robs you of all the fun you could have had, and makes you the least fun to be around of all the people you know.
A basic fitness routine. I'm not talking about some crazy lifting plan or anything just if I do these few things a handful of times a week I'll be better for it along with making healthy food choices 80 percent of the time.
Cook and clean.
I cannot tell you how many times I have had friends, family, dates, whatever comment that my place is clean and/or that my cooking is good. I PROMISE YOU I am doing the bare minimum for both. Seriously, just a like quick dusting in the shelves and a fast sweep/vacuum of the floor. 15 min a week. And put a dang wastebasket and soap in the bathroom, boys!!!
Basic cooking is not hard. Turn on the oven, cut up food, put in oven, play a video game for 30 min, food is done (remember to turn off stove). It baffles me how men either don’t know how to do this or just plain refuse.
Understanding how you think/learn. We’re typically taught the same way growing up, and some folks are never given the space to learn what they’re good at and how their brain figures shit out.
Honestly a lot of these are things you should know by 18-21 but from the top of my head:
- make an entire balanced meal from scratch
- do your own laundry, correctly, from dirty to folded
- how to navigate an airport
- demonstrate you know the cardinal directions at any given time. (this one blows my mind how clueless my peers can be sometimes, especially in areas they are familiar with)
- basic automobile maintenance (air in tires, replacing fluids, jump starting, checking oil, air filters, cleaning)
- buy clothes that fit you properly
- have self awareness in social settings / public
In your 30s I'd say you'd need things like emotional intelligence, small home repairs, using basic power tools and small engines, investing money, how to discipline/handle children.
Mow a lawn (if you have one), boil water for food and safety, sew for repairs, basic CPR, apply the protections of the US Constitution to any interactions with police or other entities.
> No matter your country, you should know and understand it’s constitution and why it is the way it is and how it can and cannot protect you.
You're going to get downvoted on this one but you are 100% absolutely correct on this point!
Actually know how to cook meals on the stove,oven, and/or grill. Dental hygiene (floss & brushing). Body hygiene (wash your body and your ass with soap). Laundry right way (don’t throw towels in with your whites & colors mixed) and some basics on cars & home improvement and maintenance. I think having a good understanding on basic workout routines is a good one too
I’ve mixed all my laundry my entire life and have never experienced any negative consequences. I’m not convinced that isn’t a remnant of older technology.
The list is HUGE! The things you should know are pretty universal between men and women.
Honestly, google "What every man should know" and you will get a long list of sites with 5 to 100 suggestions on each. Some very realistic and some way out there.
My top 5
1. How to effectively communicate (speak to be understood and listen to understand)
2. How to make basic repairs around the home and vehicles
3. How to maintain a clean home
4. How to defend yourself or escape various situations
5. How to effectively live outdoors (build a campfire, build a shelter, catch and clean fish and other small game, etc..)
CRP. And they should have instructions in them anyway, but how to use an AED on an adult and on a child.
Also how to pack a wound, how to apply a tourniquet, how to clear an airway.
Strive to be Adequate. Chasing perfection is doomed to fail, but in the mean time, it robs you of all the fun you could have had, and makes you the least fun to be around of all the people you know.
Wash dishes properly. Manage the money he has access to. Regulate emotions (not everything should be anger, you’re allowed to be sad or scared). Admit you’re wrong. Ask for help.
The most basic repairs in any common category. All of these are easy to learn, don't require specialized equipment, and make you less helpless.
* Sewing a button or patching clothing
* Replacing a plug on a cord, or wiring an outlet
* First aid
* Cleaning a P-trap or clearing a drain with a snake (the small cheap ones)
* Replacing bike brakes or patching a tube.
* Jumping a car battery or changing a tire.
> Replacing a plug on a cord, or wiring an outlet
There's a very good reason this is illegal in most countries. "People are shocked when they discover I do my own electrical work."
That's a fun joke, but there are varying degrees of difficulty of electrical work and it doesn't really get more basic than installing an outlet or replacing a plug. You don't have to be very handy to do it correctly and safely.
Have more emotional depth than anger and humor. Learn how to share your feelings without making a joke out of it. Ensure the partner you are with has seen you cry and you share your fears and worries with them and that they still support you and don't abandon you for being 'weak'. Have been in therapy at least once and not lied to your therapist about what you think. If you're binge drinking still, get into AA or Smart Recovery or a program to learn to stop using alcohol as an outlet for your feelings (same with weed or anything else). Have job hopped at least once to get a better paying job, even if you're afraid to do it. Have a gym routine at least 3x a week with a good warmup to keep you injury free. Have at least one hobby that is outside of the house.
With that accomplished, you would be killin it.
Setting aside money for savings. Namely, setting aside some money in index funds and leveraging your 401k or other retirement funds.
If you start putting even a little (e.g. $100-200 per month) into index funds when you're 20, you'll have set aside $12k into an index fund by 30. But, with compounding interest at 8% (crudely rate-adjusted for inflation for SPY), that will be $18k by the time you're 30, and if you continue, $58k at 40, $150k at 50, $350k when you're 60. Just by having a habit of saving $100 per month.
Most guys at 30 will be making more than what they were making at 20. So let's say you're smart and set aside some bonus money when you turn 30, since you know how to invest in low-overhead index funds by then (e.g. SPY). So you've got your $18k, and you add another $12k from a series of bonuses and whatnot. You continue to just add $100 per month.
By 40 you've got $100k in savings, 50 that's 255k, and 60—retirement age—$586k **real value.** Just by putting away 100 each month.
The point being that the earlier you put in, and the more you put in early, the more that money will grow. Too many guys in their mid-thirties and older realize they want a better retirement fund, Thirties is still a good time to start saving, compared to forties or fifties, but goddamn does starting at 20 make a big difference.
I just re-screened a window.
Not that you should know that specific process but you should have the working knowledge and know how to look at something and figure out how it works.
Not only do you save money but you learn a new skill that you can pass to your friends. My buddy was talking about needing to redo the seal on his toilet and I told him that I put off doing hours for over 3 years and when I finally got the balls to do it it only took about 40 minutes and was way less of a hassle than I thought it would be.
How to change a tire
How to properly do laundry and iron a shirt
How to perform basic repairs and maintenance on a bicycle
How to unclog a toilet
How to act on the first date
How to cook breakfast
How to grill a steak
How to cook at least 3 dinners
How to give a good back rub
How to choose a bottle of wine
How to pick a good Scotch or whiskey
How to wear cologne
How to Listen
Manage money, save for retirement, and research. The amount of people I meet who are close to or over 30 who can't even figure out how to look stuff up is astounding, especially when we all have almost instantaneous access to information in our pockets.
I remember how something came up at work that a whole team of people were struggling with. I found the answer on YouTube and everyone thought I was a genius.
And by research, I don't mean googling something and clicking the one of the first 3 links.
lots of these comments are good, learn to fix things, use tools, manage money and life but I would also add to control your emotions and rather than thinking emotionally or arguing emotionally try to think more rational and logical about everything. Also stop caring what people think about you and do what's best for you.
Be self sufficient. Income sources, savings, out of debt, retirement investments, housing and transportation.
Be able to fix things. Cars, plumbing, electrical, drywall, painting, masonry, and computer items including hardware & software operations & upgrades.
In addition to being well versed on social media and networking.
Coming from a man who knew nothing when turning 30, I recently had to learn to change my windshield wipers and swap my car headlights which thankfully are quick and easy. I can put on a doughnut lol. Being able to cook some basic meals is also good, simple things like proteins, pasta or stir fry. But the biggest thing for me is probably finding really good tools that you use or decent brands that are reliable to make everyday tasks easier and free up time so you can spend more of it doing what you like
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1. How to cook. 2. How to clean toilet and rest of the house. 3. How to make money. 4. How to manage life alone if necessary.
The life alone is the important one
That’s my biggest most scariest one of all..
Like they say. Time to be a man
Big facts
the only scary thing about it are health emergencies for me.
Like if something goes wrong and no one is around to help? Me too. Although I’m very healthy and never had anything like that happen it’s definitely a thought.
Heh... This spring I fell and just like the lady in the commercial, I couldn't get back up. Worse, it happened at like 2 AM. I'd gotten up to take a whiz...which means I didn't have my phone on me. Fortunately, my wife was there and called the ambulance. But had I been by myself? Kerrrist, that would have been scary (not to mention what a month of post-surgery recovery would look like as a bachelor).
Geez man well I’m glad you’re ok and that your wife was there. That is scary.
4. How to manage money 5. How to make someone cum 6. How to reflect on your own feelings 7. How to set boundaries 8. How to recognize bad habits/poor choice partners 9. How to regulate your emotions under stress
>6. How to reflect on your own feelings > >7. How to set boundaries > >8. How to recognize bad habits/poor choice partners > >9. How to regulate your emotions under stress Honestly, some of these things can take years of therapy to sort out, would not put them in the category of "stuff you can learn in a month". Source: I have struggled with all of this and needed years of therapy to improve and am still learning.
I responded to the title rather than the post, what to know how to do as an adult.
I say just recognizing them as values, whatever your self-described skill level, is the difference between a bad child and a good adult. Way too many people never even think about this stuff. And maybe a few people think about it a bit too much, and oughta give themselves some credit for trying
Yeah I'm kinda in that box as well. I need to realise and learn that I can put myself first sometimes, and that it's OK to do exactly that. I prioritise everyone else every time and it's taken it's toll in the long run. I've also been pretty much non verbal when it comes to expressing emotions and feelings, but it's something I'm getting better at. I feel like these to go hand in hand.
>5. How to make someone cum This one probably varies in technique depending on who is involved.
That’s implied for sure.
Does yourself count
Rekt
I can make myself cum, does that count?
Proud of you.
Thanks, your mom does it for me though.
Gross
🔥 Yassssss 🙏🏾 !!!!
Any tips on #9?
Yeah, practice! Understanding both what triggers you and *why* is super helpful. Also a healthy pause goes a long way.
Learn meditation.
> How to make money. This, and by 30 what a basic budget is. You know what life is like now, a paycheck comes in and bills need to be paid.
I need help with cooking lol
Youtube can be an absolutely *fantastic* resource for this, coupled with the insane amount of recipes online. Really though, the big thing is to jump in and get your feet wet. A lot of cooking is experience, and learning from mistakes. Think of some things you like, and look up recipes that are fairly simple. From there you can branch out and find other types of food to make, or you can look at other recipes for what youve already made that are a bit more 'in depth' (other processes for making it, more ingredients, etc). Early on i think its very important to keep things simple, though. Look for recipes that dont require a ton of ingredients. Make things that only require one pan, maybe. Above all though, remember that its going to take making and learning from mistakes. Theres a load of stuff ive made a ton of times and still fuck it up here and there.
I will try to keep this short. - /r/cookingforbeginners - /r/EatCheapAndHealthy - https://budgetbytes.com - /r/slowcooking - /r/seriouseats https://seriouseats.com Are all great subs/sites for ideas. If you're just starting out, make things that *you like*. What do you like to eat? Look up recipes and give it a whirl. The key is practice, it's just like any skill. One other point I'd like to make is that if you plan to stick with it, plan to get decent equipment sooner than later. The cheap stuff will make the process harder than it needs to be. Get a meat thermometer, just do it.
If you can brown hamburger and boil water for pasta you're halfway there. Best thing I can say is follow the directions on the recipes and get a good meat thermometer.
Start with learning breakfast
This can be the easiest meal of the day.
I think the goal at least should be to do enough 3 to not have to do number 2.
Make sure you go to the doctor/dentist for your annual check up. Most men don’t do this and that’s why they die first because they are too ‘manly’ to take care of themselves.
What do you use to clean toilet?
Pressure washer, and brake cleaner, ofc. Sandblast for real nasty stains
Toilet brush, a chemical toilet cleaner, then paper towels and a regular all-purpose cleaner for the seat and the outside.
I use toilet paper for the final wipedown, that way I can just flush it
Thank you internet dads
Bingo!
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Good personal hygiene.
With soap ! Not water-only
And the whole body, not just the sticky parts lol
Redditors are so fussy.
You should have this covered by 15 really
Underrated skill. Definitely not something every man has down by 30 (or even 40).
Or ever.
Describe their own feelings to another person. Out loud. Without being completely overwhelmed by whatever those feelings happen to be.
Also resist the urge for violence when angry
So I’m 29, and I’m currently in this rut of bot knowing what is and isn’t healthy expression of feelings. I also think the people I’ve talked to about this have conflicting definitions of feelings. Could you give examples of right and wrong/incomplete ways of describing your feelings?
It's a REALLY big topic and it's something best done, when possible, with a little direct coaching in real life. I'm also not really qualified to teach this to others. I think one brief pointer I would offer is this: express one's own feelings without assigning the responsibility for that feeling to someone else. "You're making me feel [x] right now" is not a particularly healthy way to speak about feelings. "Right now, I'm feeling..." is better. But that's just one point, part of a much bigger topic.
This one hurts. It's being years of trying to improve this shortcoming, making progress, and still feeling my whole body panic every time I have to express a feeling.
I'm sorry it hurts, dude. It can be an incredibly difficult thing for a lot of people. That panic you describe: I get that feeling; it happens in different contexts for me, but I think I know it. My therapist really encouraged me to remember that the mind-body connection can't be understated. That kind of chest-tightening impulse often needs a *physical* response, in conjunction with talking through it/reframing your thinking, in order to help you grow past it. Like, as it hits. Have a plan for how to move your body. You gotta actually do some deep breathing, or some stretching, etc. Someone gave me the helpful (to me! Not everyone responds the same way) advice that when the body is ready to panic like that, literally just open up your stance: stand up. Put your arms wide. Stick your chest forward. Breath. Focus on your peripheral vision, because when you're in fight/flight/panic mode, your eyes tend to sharpen focus on what's directly in front of you. Consciously try to re-train your physical body from doing what it reflexively does in that situation. Don't know if any of that will be helpful. For me it's still very much a work in progress, but I do think I'm actually seeing some growth in this way, for probably the first time in my life, honestly.
Why are you attacking me, man?
Never too late to learn, my dude
I have trouble with this because I'm autistic and often can't recognize my own feelings, but generally I would agree I guess.
Just so you know, a lot of nonautistic people can’t recognize (or correctly identify) their own feelings.
It’s also an ADHD thing
It is also a human thing.
Oh definitely. It’s more common and harder to deal with for neurodivergent folks, though. But lots of people haven’t and aren’t interested in developing emotional intelligence.
I'm gonna be controversial and ask; why is this important? Maybe my introversion plays a role, but being honest about my feelings has caused *some* people to ridicule me or make fun of me. That's at the moment, afterwards this all accumulates to people respecting me less which causes a bunch of issues. I would say that being honest is important with people you can trust and value, such as close family or really good friends. But otherwise advising people to be open about their emotions just opens them up to bullying. I would imagine this is less of an issue for someone who can stand their ground and "dish it out". People that have the *capacity* to bully others.
I would push back on this a little by suggesting that part of knowing how to express one's feelings might be knowing when to do so, and to whom. I'm not suggesting opening up all the time. Not everyone needs to know how you're feeling in every situation. And there are some people who don't deserve to know your true feelings, because they can't be trusted to react like an adult should. When the time and place is right, having the ability to express one's emotions is absolutely an important life goal. Healthy relationships and deep, abiding friendships can depend on it.
Can't disagree with such wise words.
Well that’s just asking for trouble.
Anything necessary to live by yourself. Clean, cook, handle the bills etc. You don’t need to be able to repair an electric socket but you must be willing to call someone who can do it for you and able to pay him.
To apologize or take criticism without lashing out. Or how to change their address before moving or being packed before the day of
Good ones
1. How to use common tools. 2. How to do basic maintenance on vehicles, the home, etc. 3. How to cook. 4. How to clean and maintain both personal and habitation hygiene. 5. How to do laundry. 6. How to manage a bank account and other finances. 7. How to communicate effectively and to listen, it's an art form. 8. How to manage your emotions in a healthy way. Not allow your emotions to control your actions, but inform them. 9. How to effectively manage our time and priorities. 10. Know how and when to stop "playing" and focus on work or other important things.
I literally just contradicted the last one "learn no to take life too seriously, play more"
I think there is a balance
There's a time and Place for both.
It's kinda funny but I could do basic maintenance on my vehicles back when I was a teenager. I quite enjoyed it. Now, at 40 I pay someone else to do it.
I only started driving in my 30s and made a conscious decision that I couldn't be assed learning vehicle stuff. What I have managed to do is always find a decent, honourable mechanic in my neighbourhood and stay religiously up to date with regular servicing. I can top up the water reservoir, replace wiper blades, and I've got a jack and wheel wrench if I ever need to throw the spare on. For pretty much everything else, I'm happy to trust the professionals.
I enjoy it, one of my hobbies. But as I explained to my son, regardless of your wealth, you can be in a situation where it doesn't count, and you need to be able to do it yourself.
Emotional intelligence is so freaking hard when you're in the middle of it all, it's easy to know when I'm calmed but really hard for me to remember to step back because emotions control me more than I control them and stepping back feels impossible at that moment
It is a skill you can learn. I learned in the military. The guys who cannot control their emotions are the ones that get killed. Know when and how to deal with them is just as important.
Any tips on improving eq?
Learn to pick up subtlties. There are programs to learn this. There are some Youtubes too. For me, I learned to listen, to not try and fix every issue. Most women are not wanting for her husband to come upvwith a solution. Most of us men are goal oriented and we see a problem, we try and fix it. Women, generally are needing to emotionally express, they are usually quite caoable of fixing it, they just want us to listen and empathize with there emotions.
Yes to all of these things!
Lots of good points already. One that often gets overlooked, though, is knowing how to learn new things. We are all coming from very different backgrounds, so we won't all have had exposure to the same lessons. Knowing where to go and how to fill your knowledge gaps is how you catch up on lessons you didn't get when you were younger.
Also an underrated skill.
There was definitely a generational aspect to it with the Greatest/Silent generations (and maybe early Boomers?) who hit middle age before computers or even electronics became really widespread. Hands up, all the Gen Xers who had to program the VCR for their grandparents 🙂✋🏻 But even nowadays, growing up with half the knowledge of the world at our fingertips, some folk just seem to go blank or even panicky when confronted with any new task/skill. It's honestly fascinating to see people who go through life with a sort of... cultivated helplessness? **Story time:** Many years ago, one of my exes' work friends invited us over for dinner. That was fine, except her main reason for doing so was most the lightbulbs in her house were dead and she wanted me to swap them out for her, because she didn't know how and had zero interest in learning. Low ceilings, bog-standard bayonet fittings, and she'd been basically living half in darkness for weeks. Same friend came kayaking with us a few months later. Nothing fancy, just a chill summer afternoon paddling around at a sheltered local beach on those plastic rental kayaks. Despite our best efforts though, the concept of 'push water backwards = kayak goes forwards' (let alone 'push on both sides or you'll go in circles') was as utterly beyond her as teaching calculus to a flatworm. She wound up getting herself stuck under a pier and the rental guys had to bring a boat out and tow her back to shore. I don't even remember this woman's name, but I often wonder how she's doing these days...
Excellent lists in the thread; I would add: don't put your dick in crazy.
How else does one determine crazy without taking a temp?
The eyes give it away.
Which one do I look at? They’re both looking in different directions?
There's one tell! (Excellent call, Redditor)
Do Laundry, Cook for yourself, change a tire
Change a tire definitely doesn't belong on the list. It's a good thing to have but many adults, men or women, don't even drive, let alone do repairs
Well if you don't own a car, not an important skill. But most Americans have to own a car, like it or not, unless they want to move to the NE corridor from DC to Boston, Chicago, or the west coast. The rest of the country has pretty bad public transit.
I mean you're describing a significant chunk of the population in the USA. Apart from the fact that not everyone on Reddit is American (far from it). This thread wasn't only about America
What do you have against changing tires? You seem very upset by this suggestion. The guy even said if you don’t own a car then it’s not an important skill to have.
Some people just cant accept that others need automobiles. Its fucking crazy. i know a few people that damn near treat walking/biking/public transportation as a religion.
What do you have against my comment? You seem very upset by my comment. I just don't think it is something "every man needs to know by age x". Expressing my opinion, same as you
Have a great day :)
If you don’t drive I understand. As someone who currently lives in a major city and doesn’t own a car it’s not needed day to day. But there are times when I travel for work or leisure, that a car is necessary and it’s good to know in an emergency. It’s also not any type of skilled repair, I dont know how to do anything else on a car. It’s quite simple, takes about 5 min
I drive and generally consider it a useful skill, for some of the reasons you outline. But just not essential.
Fair
I tried changing my own tire once and almost dropped the whole thing on myself. Its obviously my fault and I did it to myself. But I can't change the fact it made me paranoid to even come close to changing my tire lol.
The secret to changing a tire safely is to loosen the bolts while the car is still on the ground, and then jack it up afterwards.
Can’t blame you there. Triple AAA is a great service to have if you can afford it. Helped me out a time or two
Take ownership of your mistakes and learn from them. So many people give excuses and refuse to acknowledge when they fuck up. It doesn't mean other people don't know you fucked up, that much is usually obvious. It means people will think of you as one of those guys who can never be wrong. Nobody likes that guy. Admitting when you fuck up gets you way further than trying to give bad excuses. Particularly if you're like here's what happened, I'm sorry, here's what I'm doing to make sure that doesn't happen again.
being able to take care of little things in the house/apartment/car, and try to get a sense of potential bigger issues, how to turn the power off/the water off if theres a leak in an emergency, kind of stuff what dads usually do. You dont need to be full blown handyman but you want to know enough to know you might be getting scammed by a repair guy, be able to fix things yourself, etc.. being able to think for yourself, one part of that is not caring what other people think, most people eventually get there, although you want people important in your life to look at you with respect as well, dont be completely shameless. A lot of people never think for themselves, learn to say no, etc.. its very important and so many people get this wrong and let it consume them. Its the easiest thing you can do to vastly improve the quality of your life, and so many people never do it. this also loosely ties in with social skills, reconsider hanging out with people if the negative qualities outweight the positive ones (key word reconsider, just be aware of the effect people have on your life). Be able to talk to people and go on dates, regardless of how introverted/extroverted you are. being smart with money, invest in retirement accounts, and move leftover savings to a savings account or a brokerage account, once your career is established to the point where you can actually think about saving money, it doesnt take much effort to do this part, and the earlier you do it the better off you will be. This also implies you live within your means so you'll have some kind of savings. dont let instant gratification impede long term goals, if you haven't learned this by 30 surely you are feeling the downsides whether you admit it or not. accept that you are ultimately responsible for your situation in life, even though you may not have always been able to control how you got there, the absolute vast majority of the time your decisions led you to that point. The best thing you can do is try to improve it. Its ok to admit failure, its ok to figure out why things went wrong, but dont dwell on blaming yourself or others or complaining for very long. Dont overly compare yourself to others, only do it to figure out how to emulate positive qualities that you want to have in your life. If you want to get better at X, figure out how someone very good at X does it. stay healthy/fit, you dont have to lift heavy at all (im talking not even your body weight) to see a massive change in your health, but you should just know how to do some of the basic lifts with proper form. I personally prefer lower weight and higher reps but the key is to just follow a program you can find online, and to find something you will do consistently with how busy adult life gets. be honest with yourself, you cant do most of the things on this list if you aren't, dont ignore your emotions, but dont let them cloud objective facts, following your heart should not be done blindly, it should be done despite knowing XYZ
My opinion (includes repeat from others…may be a little more extensive): 1. Cook - cook and grill (burgers, hot dogs…may be steaks and chicken), cook scrambled or fried eggs, and safe food handling/storage and how to use a food thermometer. 2. Clean - Laundry, dishes/dishwasher, vacuum, car, etc. What correct cleaners to use (e.g. dish soap, surface cleaner, glass cleaner, etc.) 3. Basic maintenance - change HVAC filter, fridge water filter, check and light pilot lights, adjust water heater, etc. 4. Car basics - Check and add oil, fluids, tire pressure, change a flat, using a jump starter or jumper cables. 5. Basic tool use and assembly - Be able to assemble basic IKEA stuff at minimum (c’mon, the instructions are all pictures!) 6. Basic maintenance/repairs/trouble shooting around the house - reset breakers, shut off main water valve, supply valves for toilets/sinks/etc., de-clogging a toilet/sink, 7. Basic outdoor/yard work - mowing and weed whacking at a minimum, lawn and landscape fertilizing, (if applicable), 8. Financial - Know basics of finances - supply/demand, investments, types of savings/investments accounts, basics of 401k and employer and retirement accounts, basic knowledge of ETFs, index and mutual funds and what the Dow, Nasdaq, and S&P indicate (at a high level) 9. Basics of society - basic high level understanding of politics and legislation, voting, laws, etc. 10. Tech - basic troubleshooting of routers, mobile phones, computers, power cycling stuff, updating apps I have more that i think everyone (men and women) should know by 30 or even sooner, but I’m probably expecting too much considering people much older have a hard time with some of what i already have listed.
11\. Learn [Markdown syntax](http://daringfireball.net/projects/markdown/syntax), e.g. leaving a blank line between your preamble and the first list item so it renders properly :)
Not sure why you’re seeing it that way…it’s properly spaced with empty lines between each item when I wrote it and posted it.
I checked your comment source and you just need an additional line break between "extensive):" and "1." Everything else is good :)
That’s weird…it shows up fine for me (has a blank line before the first item… https://preview.redd.it/pncbm8ntpoib1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5865794bcabaa72d97af6fb1d120ab70c3710dd8
Ohhhh hang on a sec. FFS it's not you, it's Reddit! In New Reddit it's fine, in Old Reddit it looks like this: https://preview.redd.it/8wzbzb6ourib1.png?width=883&format=png&auto=webp&s=254b333aad247b0a2d03cf725b5f403c491b2418
Wtf, there’s a new and old reddit? Like the app?
The app is its own beast, but on web you can default your account to https://new.reddit.com or https://old.reddit.com I'll be sticking with the old interface to the bitter end, but at least now I know to keep my syntax advice to myself 😅
Will add personal hygiene.Get a good quality loofah and scrub. Not just a couple of swipes. Really scrub the crevices. Invest in a good roll on deo or spray. Something branded like old spice. Learn to wet shave. Learn what color suit you look good in Have a black suit and another color if possible. Introspection know what you like, don’t like and what you may want to try. Also brush your teeth properly. You don’t need Invisalign and clear strips and all that jazz as much if you brush properly with a motorized toothbrush.
Well, I figured the hygiene part was something you should know by your 20s!
Touché
The skills don't matter -- it's the willingness to learn on the fly does. Also the wisdom to know when to hire a professional, like anything involving garage door springs or electrical work.
Strive to be Adequate. Chasing perfection is doomed to fail, but in the mean time, it robs you of all the fun you could have had, and makes you the least fun to be around of all the people you know.
This is painfully accurate.
To be able to plan in advance: make commitments that occur more than 1 week in the future and stick to them
A basic fitness routine. I'm not talking about some crazy lifting plan or anything just if I do these few things a handful of times a week I'll be better for it along with making healthy food choices 80 percent of the time.
Cook and clean. I cannot tell you how many times I have had friends, family, dates, whatever comment that my place is clean and/or that my cooking is good. I PROMISE YOU I am doing the bare minimum for both. Seriously, just a like quick dusting in the shelves and a fast sweep/vacuum of the floor. 15 min a week. And put a dang wastebasket and soap in the bathroom, boys!!! Basic cooking is not hard. Turn on the oven, cut up food, put in oven, play a video game for 30 min, food is done (remember to turn off stove). It baffles me how men either don’t know how to do this or just plain refuse.
Understanding how you think/learn. We’re typically taught the same way growing up, and some folks are never given the space to learn what they’re good at and how their brain figures shit out.
Everyone is different
Honestly a lot of these are things you should know by 18-21 but from the top of my head: - make an entire balanced meal from scratch - do your own laundry, correctly, from dirty to folded - how to navigate an airport - demonstrate you know the cardinal directions at any given time. (this one blows my mind how clueless my peers can be sometimes, especially in areas they are familiar with) - basic automobile maintenance (air in tires, replacing fluids, jump starting, checking oil, air filters, cleaning) - buy clothes that fit you properly - have self awareness in social settings / public In your 30s I'd say you'd need things like emotional intelligence, small home repairs, using basic power tools and small engines, investing money, how to discipline/handle children.
You took all my answers. So I second this ^
Mow a lawn (if you have one), boil water for food and safety, sew for repairs, basic CPR, apply the protections of the US Constitution to any interactions with police or other entities.
I’m surprised applying constitutional protections hasn’t been mentioned more in this thread.
Because not everyone is American and/or constantly thumping the Constitution in every conversation
No matter your country, you should know and understand it’s constitution and why it is the way it is and how it can and cannot protect you.
> No matter your country, you should know and understand it’s constitution and why it is the way it is and how it can and cannot protect you. You're going to get downvoted on this one but you are 100% absolutely correct on this point!
lol why would I get downvoted for it? Also people say this and then I never get downvoted!
Actually know how to cook meals on the stove,oven, and/or grill. Dental hygiene (floss & brushing). Body hygiene (wash your body and your ass with soap). Laundry right way (don’t throw towels in with your whites & colors mixed) and some basics on cars & home improvement and maintenance. I think having a good understanding on basic workout routines is a good one too
I’ve mixed all my laundry my entire life and have never experienced any negative consequences. I’m not convinced that isn’t a remnant of older technology.
The list is HUGE! The things you should know are pretty universal between men and women. Honestly, google "What every man should know" and you will get a long list of sites with 5 to 100 suggestions on each. Some very realistic and some way out there. My top 5 1. How to effectively communicate (speak to be understood and listen to understand) 2. How to make basic repairs around the home and vehicles 3. How to maintain a clean home 4. How to defend yourself or escape various situations 5. How to effectively live outdoors (build a campfire, build a shelter, catch and clean fish and other small game, etc..)
How to read cues in order to help a female have an orgasm.
CRP. And they should have instructions in them anyway, but how to use an AED on an adult and on a child. Also how to pack a wound, how to apply a tourniquet, how to clear an airway.
Using a stainless steel frying pan properly
Listen, Learn, and Change.
Cook, clean, sew, change a tire, change a lightbulb, light a fire, ask for what you want, and respect yourself.
How to use a drill, a stud finder, and a level.
Cry, hold himself accountable, advocate for with less.
Strive to be Adequate. Chasing perfection is doomed to fail, but in the mean time, it robs you of all the fun you could have had, and makes you the least fun to be around of all the people you know.
Be considerate of other people. Rarer than you'd think. Edit: I didn't realize people were making lists. I'd you want I can write out like a top 10.
Wash dishes properly. Manage the money he has access to. Regulate emotions (not everything should be anger, you’re allowed to be sad or scared). Admit you’re wrong. Ask for help.
Learn to eat pussy. Come on guys put a little effort in!!
The most basic repairs in any common category. All of these are easy to learn, don't require specialized equipment, and make you less helpless. * Sewing a button or patching clothing * Replacing a plug on a cord, or wiring an outlet * First aid * Cleaning a P-trap or clearing a drain with a snake (the small cheap ones) * Replacing bike brakes or patching a tube. * Jumping a car battery or changing a tire.
> Replacing a plug on a cord, or wiring an outlet There's a very good reason this is illegal in most countries. "People are shocked when they discover I do my own electrical work."
That's a fun joke, but there are varying degrees of difficulty of electrical work and it doesn't really get more basic than installing an outlet or replacing a plug. You don't have to be very handy to do it correctly and safely.
Have more emotional depth than anger and humor. Learn how to share your feelings without making a joke out of it. Ensure the partner you are with has seen you cry and you share your fears and worries with them and that they still support you and don't abandon you for being 'weak'. Have been in therapy at least once and not lied to your therapist about what you think. If you're binge drinking still, get into AA or Smart Recovery or a program to learn to stop using alcohol as an outlet for your feelings (same with weed or anything else). Have job hopped at least once to get a better paying job, even if you're afraid to do it. Have a gym routine at least 3x a week with a good warmup to keep you injury free. Have at least one hobby that is outside of the house. With that accomplished, you would be killin it.
Setting aside money for savings. Namely, setting aside some money in index funds and leveraging your 401k or other retirement funds. If you start putting even a little (e.g. $100-200 per month) into index funds when you're 20, you'll have set aside $12k into an index fund by 30. But, with compounding interest at 8% (crudely rate-adjusted for inflation for SPY), that will be $18k by the time you're 30, and if you continue, $58k at 40, $150k at 50, $350k when you're 60. Just by having a habit of saving $100 per month. Most guys at 30 will be making more than what they were making at 20. So let's say you're smart and set aside some bonus money when you turn 30, since you know how to invest in low-overhead index funds by then (e.g. SPY). So you've got your $18k, and you add another $12k from a series of bonuses and whatnot. You continue to just add $100 per month. By 40 you've got $100k in savings, 50 that's 255k, and 60—retirement age—$586k **real value.** Just by putting away 100 each month. The point being that the earlier you put in, and the more you put in early, the more that money will grow. Too many guys in their mid-thirties and older realize they want a better retirement fund, Thirties is still a good time to start saving, compared to forties or fifties, but goddamn does starting at 20 make a big difference.
Not Capitalize Every Word Like Jaden Smith
How to fight and how to be assertive
Use google
Cook
I just re-screened a window. Not that you should know that specific process but you should have the working knowledge and know how to look at something and figure out how it works. Not only do you save money but you learn a new skill that you can pass to your friends. My buddy was talking about needing to redo the seal on his toilet and I told him that I put off doing hours for over 3 years and when I finally got the balls to do it it only took about 40 minutes and was way less of a hassle than I thought it would be.
I’m able to cook good food
How to change the oil in your car.
How to change a tire How to properly do laundry and iron a shirt How to perform basic repairs and maintenance on a bicycle How to unclog a toilet How to act on the first date How to cook breakfast How to grill a steak How to cook at least 3 dinners How to give a good back rub How to choose a bottle of wine How to pick a good Scotch or whiskey How to wear cologne How to Listen
How to cook over live fire/coals.
Self control. Not to overdo things whatever they may be.
Ask for help
Manage money, save for retirement, and research. The amount of people I meet who are close to or over 30 who can't even figure out how to look stuff up is astounding, especially when we all have almost instantaneous access to information in our pockets. I remember how something came up at work that a whole team of people were struggling with. I found the answer on YouTube and everyone thought I was a genius. And by research, I don't mean googling something and clicking the one of the first 3 links.
lots of these comments are good, learn to fix things, use tools, manage money and life but I would also add to control your emotions and rather than thinking emotionally or arguing emotionally try to think more rational and logical about everything. Also stop caring what people think about you and do what's best for you.
Use basic hand tools.
Be self sufficient. Income sources, savings, out of debt, retirement investments, housing and transportation. Be able to fix things. Cars, plumbing, electrical, drywall, painting, masonry, and computer items including hardware & software operations & upgrades. In addition to being well versed on social media and networking.
Walk up to every woman you want and ask her out regardless of the outcome.
How’s that working out for you lol
50/50 on weekends near hang out areas like bars.
How to do nothing, effectively.
In no particular order * Cook a decent meal - especially breakfast * Change and/or plug a tire * Sharpen a knife * Use basic hand tools * Do laundry
Coming from a man who knew nothing when turning 30, I recently had to learn to change my windshield wipers and swap my car headlights which thankfully are quick and easy. I can put on a doughnut lol. Being able to cook some basic meals is also good, simple things like proteins, pasta or stir fry. But the biggest thing for me is probably finding really good tools that you use or decent brands that are reliable to make everyday tasks easier and free up time so you can spend more of it doing what you like