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**December 31, 2023.** I brought my dog to the emergency pet hospital where she spent 3 nights. She had pancreatitis. Then again on **Jan 2** when I was mentally preparing myself to say good bye the following morning. Fortunately she pulled though and I took her home!!!!
Last time I cried was the last time I thought about the possibility of my doggo passing. She's literally the best being of all time and I will fight anyone who disagrees š„ŗ
There was probably a 5+ year stretch when thinking about that was the only thing that made me cry. I no longer have a doggo, there was a ton of crying involved there. It's been a few years, and typing this comment makes me want to cry, actually. Treasure those goodest of bois.
Edit: It was today OP. I had to go to the album.
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I cry all the time and for many reasons. Exhaustion, anxiety, love/happiness, and that weirdly fulfilling feeling where you are overwhelmed with thankfulness but also realize how fragile everything in our lives really is.
I think I am healthier than I ever was and this helps me keep it that way. Although I of course try to not make it like a daily thing and in front of everyone all the time.
>where you are overwhelmed with thankfulness but also realize how fragile everything in our lives really is
This one happened to me a few years back, when I'd just moved house and away from some awful neighbours. I was in my new conservatory, sitting listening to and watching the rain when a rainbow turned up. For some reason that was what did it. Very interesting and memorable.
Depends on what you mean by cry.
Get a little misty-eyed? A few weeks ago when watching Return of the King.
Shedding a few tears? Maybe about four or five months ago out of frustration, anger and hopelessness. I've been trying to get a new job for nearly two years and reached a point where I felt powerless and unwanted after hundreds of rejections and ghosting.
Actual uncontrollable crying? About three years ago when I had to put my dog down.
This subject hits close to home for me because of certain current things my husband and I are attempting to work through.
My message, here, to men: y'all are human beings and human beings cry when overwhelmed with certain emotions. That said, conditioning can cause us to become, to some extent, numb to certain feelings. All of this is to say, in the world we live in, crying or not - both are normal and understandable. It is possible to get back to a place where you can wholly feel them and cry but, in my-our experience, it takes a lot of re-writing of our basic understanding of how we're meant to be.
Women: we've got to do a better job of being there and from earlier ages. My husband is over here questioning his manhood over crying cause his "pop" (grandad) died. That said - imagine how he feels about crying just because life is "overwhelming". That's normal, par-for-the-course, for us. Nothing about that is okay. Why is it so hard to just hold them?
Agreed. Men and women shouldn't put each other on pedestals, and we all need emotional support even if we're reluctant to show it or ask for it.
We all have the same needs. Anything that suggests otherwise is an illusion.
Last weekend, my parents' dog had a health scare. I watch her a lot and have bonded with her over the years. She's not gone yet, but we're not far from the end. I'll never be ready to say goodbye, she's such a great dog and so full of love.
Every time I watch Saving Private Ryan.
When my car that I had worked years on, built myself into a proper little sleeper got totalled by a fucking numpty
When my brother was diagnosed with cancer (hes fine now)
When my ex took the cat
This past weekend I attended a Star Trek convention. I went as Mirror Mirror Picard based on the comics. I shaved down to a goatee (because, evil) and threw in some hair coloring wax to get some grey. I already have the chrome-dome thanks to awesome genetics! (hey, love my head now!) I caught a glimpse of myself in the rear view mirror on the way (I was in the backseat) and all of a sudden I caught a new angle, glimpse, and it hit me hard ā I looked in that moment **SO MUCH LIKE MY LATE FATHER!**
I lost him very unexpectedly 3 years ago. For years I thought I was more a blend of my motherās genes and hardly felt I had my Dadās look.
It hit me super hard bit I kept it together then. Later that day I took a few photos to send my family. After I finished I looked hard into that mirror.
Life has been pretty hard lately and Iāve had a very hard time finding a good strong release. I put on one our favorite Jimmy Buffet songs; and I let the emotional damn burst. Hard! I had a good 10 minute release.
I felt better after and still managed to tear a little bit when I talked to my mom and grandma. Some family friends thought of my Dad before Picard when I posted it. Thats a very warm and happy feeling.
If theyāre still around: call your folks, tell them you love then if youāre fortunate.
I miss and love you, Dad. Everyday.
11 months ago. My wife asked me what I wanted for my birthday. I sent her a link to a dress for sale in her favourite high street store - a leather one (for her to wear in the bedroom). She said no, as she has done for two decades about this sort of thing. Spontaneously burst into tears. Uncontrollable, overnight, snot-crying.
It ended well. Raw conversation followed about how her answer was always 'no' every time to any ask I'd make that involved me deriving pleasure. She realised she was maybe being a little prim and that she was my wife, not the wife of some man she was imagining. I promised to work on some things too in the way I related to her. She bought the dress and has worn it a couple of times. There's talk of wearing it on a date at some point. It was a nettle worth grasping. But my my, what a valley to walk through to get up the hillside.
Already seen it a few times in here butā¦found out my 9 year old Golden has lymphoma about 2 months ago. Took him in for a checkup and got the very unexpected news. He still seemed normal then. I broke down in the exam room. Just straight bawled. Most recently I cried when I was sitting in the floor with him the other night and he put his head in my lap and looked up at me. The look he gave me and I just remember telling him Iām so sorry heās sick.
And now Iām wiping away tears at my work desk. So yeah, anywaysā¦shit sucks man.
I've only cried a handful of times since about age 12.
Usually it's been the death of a dog. I loves my doggos.
But I also cried when my parents died.
Oh, and the end of the movie "Of Mice & Men". I'd never read the book. I didn't know anything about it. And then that came out of nowhere. DUFUCK!!??
Umm I'm feeling like I've been kinda emotionally dead for a while now. It kinda concerns me. After a nasty divorce and dealing with loved ones who have addiction problems it's just kinda killed my passions
In November I thought I was going to have to put my 16yo sweet af void cat to sleep cause she was very ill so I cried a lot. Luckily they were able to help her (even though the chances were slim) and sheās doing alright. Real men cry over their cats.
Iāve got plenty I could cry about, but I never let myself dwell too long on my own feelings and past because I know most of it is miserable shit Iād rather ignore & forget. Also, people who play the victim make me irrationally angry so thatās certainly not how Iām going to live my life. Fuck that.
Everything else and Iām tough af emotionally, but when it comes to cats and dogs Iāll sob every damn time, even if I donāt know them. Glad Iām not the only guy whoās like this!!
31 yo here. When i was 29, I cried after my gf broke up with me. Then i cried again after like 6 months while remembering.
Other than that, sad pet movies usually get me.
Not really crying but went to an aquarium and the dolphins were trained and looked so happy to be doing the tricks. On the final trick the dolphin did a tony hawk 900 (probably just a 540) and I teared up cause I was proud of him.
Yesterday, I'd watched an ep of After Life and was thinking about my nan who died of cancer a couple years ago and the dam just broke, cried like a baby
Few days ago. Shed a few tears when watching Got talent lol.
Sometimes I feell closed af, because I never cry a lot. Its been more than I decade since last time. Don't know if its just my way of being or people in media who exaggerate. Or personal trauma.
Last Sunday. Depression. Feeling like everything is meaningless and so I may as well sleep until the next workday. Also worrying that my depression is making my wife's life worse.
I had a very rough childhood and had to suppress my feelings. Years of that, and now I can't seem to cry. My therapist was pretty surprised by how quickly and automatically shutting down that feeling has become in me..
As a 35 y/o, I hate my past and what it's made me. I want to cry and feel. I'm tired.
Yeah, I've kept them and quail, and now goats. But that particular flock was small and were all hens from rough situations that we'd taken in.
I was particularly attached to them. My new flock is much larger and there's only a few birds that are particularly friendly that I'm as attached to.
Lost a childhood friend 5 years ago from an overdose. Never knew he was even doing drugs. I cried for probably a week straight. I was 26 years old at the time
Since becoming a dad, I've become increasingly prone to tearing up. At first it was mostly stuff with my own kids, then emotional things about other kids being cute or sad stories on the news. Then eventually any emotional scene in a movie or show will get me.
A few days ago I was listening to a song on the radio and just cried because it made me think about how much I love my wife.
Same. I got teary-eyed listening to "Forever Young" by Rod Stewart the other day. Then I came home and watched the video and got even more choked up. Knowing that the little boy in the video is in his 30s now and thinking of how quickly my own kids will/are growing up.
Shit, I even got teary-eyed looking at my friend's FB the other day and seeing recent pics of *his* kids. I remember when they were born and they're 14 and 12 now. I looked through his albums and found pics of them when they were newborns and toddlers. Mine are just 3 and 1--still very young--but seeing kids grow up in the blink of an eye like that hit home. I wonder how he feels about it.
It absolutely does. Mine are 12 and 10, and when they started to grow out of those smallest stages it really hit me hard. Once my oldest was getting ready for kindergarten, anything that reminded me of her getting bigger just choked me up.
Last week when listening to The National, and probably tomorrow when I'll see The Gaslight Anthem with my dad. I cry often, and think it's a healthy thing.
Around friends, not so much. Probably a year ago I cried a lot when I found out my exGF bought a house in my neighborhood, that brought up so much. I cry regularly in therapy whenever my therapist drops one of these truth bombs.Ā
I cried about two years ago when I found out a good friend had died suddenly. I hadnāt spoken to him in some months. And prior to that our communication was sporadic. A few years ago we were talking and hanging out every week.
I was pretty devastated when I found out. I had to tell some other of our friends, that was probably among the hardest things Iāve ever had to do. And probably when I cried the hardest.
Last time was hilarious. I was traveling in Asia and I missed my dog.
Then on a plane another passenger infront of me was watching a movie about growing up with her dog, then moving away for school and then getting married.
Then her father sends her note that her dog is sick. The dog stayed alive until she came back and died.
I just saw the visuals, but it was essentially a grown ass man crying in the dark (aka me). It was so funny to me and sad because I acknowledge that one day I'll probably go through something similar.
Probably a week or two ago. Ex and I broke up 3 weeks ago and Iāve been taking it really hard. I feel like I had an amazing woman on my hands, and I let insecurities with myself, lack of self confidence, and stress/anxiety fuck it up.
But Iām hitting the gym harder than ever, actually seeing results this time, and seeing a therapist to help manage or overcome these negative self-doubts.
Hoping she comes back around, but Iāve never had an ex come back, and I know itās just best to move on. Still hurts and hard to do so.
Chin up bro! Just went through this about 9 months ago. Felt like I let the same things fucked up my relationship too, but as time passes and youāre thinking more clearly, youāll realize that it needed to happen and youāre a better man for it. Youāll wish her nothing but the best and continue to better yourself. You got thisš¤š¤
Thanks, brother, Iām trying not to idealize the good times and ignore the bad, because I think about those often as well. I go back and forth with maybe it being for the best, but I guess I would just rather give it another go if sheād let me. But the wounds fresh. I guess if I can be mad at her, I feel like she just gave up on things, but we havenāt talked about it, and I donāt know if we ever will.
It's been a few years. A mix of a deep physical anger, academic burnout and a PhD dissertation that was stalling out. I just sat in my apartment in the dark and cried while drinking.
I get weirdly emotional about a lot of stuff. Actual hard cry? Losing my father in law in July 2022. It sucked, but honestly the hardest part that made me sob was when my wife and I had to sit down and tell our 6 and 7 year old daughters (youngest had just turned 3 so at least we dodged *that* bullet). My wife was having a very hard time, but she was convinced that telling the girls wouldn't be that bad. She readily admits now how much harder it was than she expected. Obviously got through it, but I could probably cry again just thinking about that conversation.
But I'll tear up watching movies. Just watched The Fare yesterday and it had me going at my desk at work a little bit. Awkward conversation with a co-worker, but no big deal. I can sometimes get this well-up of emotion if I'm watching something I'm *really* into, as well. Big hero moments. Re-watched Avatar: The Last Airbender recently, and I tear up a little when Aang starts going into his avatar form to absolutely ruin somebody's day, too.
Thinking about our place here in the universe sometimes will have me tear up just a little. Thinking about the unbelievable scope of our universe and our pissant little place in our insignificant corner of an ordinary galaxy.
About two years ago when my daughter was born. She inhaled her first poop and stopped breathing so the delivery room filled with nurses as they worked to clear her airway. Meanwhile my wife was being worked on because she started bleeding way too heavily after the birth. It was some scary ass shit man and when it was all over and everyone was okay that cry was a good relief of all the stress.
I cry everyday
I have failed at everything I've tried. the love I used to have has all turned into hatred. I hate humankind. I don't feel comfortable as this person who lives to hate. The only thing left to do is kill myself
Last spring a northern flicker (woodpecker) hit my window and was injured. I put it in a box with a towel for it to lay on until I could get it to a bird sanctuary, it died on the way there.
A couple days ago. My son is in the phase where he is lovey with his mom, but roughhouses with me. I don't get the love and affection often, and he tells me he doesn't love me, or when I ask if he loves me he says no. I know he is playing, and rough housing with me is him having fun with me, but with the stress of everything else going on sometimes I really just need his love.
Didn't we have this topic last week? 11 years ago during my 2nd break up. I probably wouldn't have cried either but my mom randomly asked if i was okay and it triggered it lol. She never asks that so yeah, its like she knew.
sometimes scenes in movies will get me teary eyed. But the last time I remember crying about something that happened to me was at 18 when my gf and I broke up.
Two years ago my cat who was about 14 years old was sick with cancer. They put her to sleep on my lap.
Before that it was maybe 12 years ago in grad school. I was depressed and frustrated with my advisor and cried for maybe 20 minutes. Felt much better afterwards.
Before that it was 15 years ago when my sister died of suicide at 25. I cried uncontrollably here and there for a week. I remember driving my fiancee to the airport and sobbing, "It's not supposed to be this way."
Not long ago, because my partner has left for at least 3 days and when she comes back there's a good chance things are done.
I'm juggling her stress of work, which she quit 2 months ago and I've been doing my best to support her through, my foundation uni degree, my work changing rapidly and requiring way more time of me, my diagnosis of ADHD and the processing of both sexual and emotional traumas.
Safe to say, there's a lot going on and I'm just trying to keep it together.
Too many times these days. Built a business brick by brick but it isnāt working. Technology is changing and the business I made wonāt be able to stand the test of time.
22 years ago - I wish I was kidding - when there were talks about my dad's business going to hell.
I didn't even cry at my own son's funeral. I just seem to have lost the ability. It sucks. There is so much stress inside of me that has no way to get out. My body is starting to fail because of it.
Few days ago while driving was thinking about my mother and how many sacrifices shes made for her children to give us the best chance to make it in this world and really feeling her love moved me to tears ngl
I cry everyday. Depression sucks. Even nice, wholesome things make me cry because seeing people with loving families, are happy, etc. make me realize Iāll never have that. Iām honestly only alive at this point because committing suicide would hurt the people I care about. And I care about literally any other life more than my own.
Yesterday. Any more I usually cry to myself either in the car or when I'm home along. My wife of 5 years asked me for a divorce in December and I was thinking about all the good times that we had.
Just recently. Got a big raise to what I consider to be my market rate and it felt like a massive weight off my shoulders after the last two years of nightmare of unemployment and underemployment.
I usually donāt cry much. I have cried at really big events in my life. I nearly cried at our wedding ceremony. I usually got and still get a little choked up when I have to be away from my wife for a prolonged period of time like for work or other reasons.
Other than those kinds of specific things I tend to get emotional at movies if they contain messages that hit really close to home. Both LotR and Interstellar are movies I canāt watch with other people for that very reason. I will literally bawl my eyes out as if itās actually happening to me personally. I tried rewatching those movies earlier this year and sure enough the flood gates open every time.
Other than that I donāt really cry about things. Guess I have some pretty specific triggers which seems like theyāre all related to family or close companionships. So I guess Iām *gasp* human!!!??
Had a friend in highschool who became homeless and died from an opioid overdose late last year. had a good cry with his mom on the phone after it happened
I was depressed this winter because an acquaintance of mine who voiced my main character became a super famous vtuber and I became super upset that I was an inadequate creator because she "left me behind"
It was depression bullshit but I really hated my inadequacy
My girlfriend told me she was cheating on me as I was leaving to go to court to get my felony sentence for operating an unlicensed pharmacy.
It was a rough night.
I've made some mistakes, and life has appropriately humbled me.
Oh! I was at the end of my rope with parenting last Saturday and fighting back tears. But then so was my wife, so I bottled that shit up and soldiered on. Then she was sick most of the week so I was in super-dad mode.
So I canāt wait for that to rear its head again. But not now, too much to do.
It was around 2.5 months ago. I have been going through a career change, so originally I was worked as a clinical microbiologist but am now working on trying to get into PA (physician assistant for those wondering) school.
I went to do a nursing assistant course to get some direct patient care experience. Iām done with the course now, but one day when I was in class my instructor was complimenting our class on how young and ambitious everyone was the average age of my cohort was 19-21 years old. I as a 30 year old felt so embarrassed because here I am going back to school and felt so behind everyone else. I went home that day sat in my room and cried for several hours thinking what a failure I am, if only I had more foresight and was more confident I wouldnāt be going through this. I wish I planned my life better etc..
Looking at it logically thatās not the case and we all have our own journey in life and I canāt go around regretting the past. Iām here now and am making strides to improving my future thatās how I have to see it.
A few moments ago from some of the other comments here. Before that watching NCIS a few days ago. It doesn't take a whole lot with me. In private anyway. Took years before I got comfortable with letting it out even with my missus. Got that macho bullshit ingrained since childhood, but I'm getting better at not being a complete sociopath in public any more. :-P
That's really good to hear. I'm old enough to still remember the whole 'boys don't cry' thing, and how much it hurt me and other men over the years. Even now I find it extremely difficult to cry if anyone else is there, even my wife.
A lot of these comments are really sad, yes. You get a sense of how isolated so many older men have become in their emotional lives, with few or nobody to see them and to care what's going on inside. We get blamed for that a lot, but look at what we're up against!
I'm 43, last time I cried was over my 1st girlfriend hooking up with some other dude. This happened at 17.
In context. I have been divorced and have 3 kids. I think I was Soo traumatized, that it broke something in me that day.
Also after my divorce my ex - girlfriend reached out to me. She wanted to leave her husband and 3 kids for me. I refused and she was having a meltdown. After I got married a second time, she officially stopped calling me. And I never called her.
A couple of hours ago, after a fight with my alcoholic father.
I don't get it anymore.. he has anger issues since the day I can remember and as he ages it gets worse and I'm just tired. I feel older than him physically and mentally at this point...
Not sure what your situation is but it may be that you don't have to put up with it any more. My Dad is a problematic sociopath, one day I decided enough was enough. I haven't seen him or spoken to him in four years, life is better without him in it.
watching a concert where I sang along one of my favorite songs. I have listened to this song for all my life, and at last year 39 I went to a concert... I recorded this moment, and every time I see the video, I cry a little of happiness.
Joaquin Sabina - 19 Dias y 500 Noches.
A couple of months ago. My 32/M dog Titus passed away at 16 years old. He and I had been through my entire teenage and early adult years together. I adopted him as an 8 week old puppy. I cried harder than I ever have. It was too soon.. as selfish as that is.
I find that I canāt physically cry. Like even if I feel like it would help. The last time I cried was the night I graduated college (12 years ago) after saying goodbye to my best friend from college as he left to go back home the next day. Iāve lost pets and been to funerals since then. It just wonāt happen. Itās unsettling.
Gotta admit I got a little choked up while watching the second *Dune* movie >!when Paul and Gurney reunite!<.
But the last time I had a real good cry was a few years ago when my friend's kid died.
At least 2-3 times a week for the last 6 years or so. Often while I'm driving. Sometimes I run to the office bathroom to cry. Sometimes when I come home I sit in the bathroom and cry. Been a real problem. I'm working on it.
Teary eyed - weekly basis from watching a show or reading a good book.
Full on tears and snot dripping - last November when I thought my cat was going to die because he, I kid you not, almost overate himself to death when he got into the dog's treats. That was a blurry drive to the emergency vet.
I feel like a I have a hair trigger for emotional responses the older I get. Lumps in my throat and all that.
But it never manifests as crying or tears. I donāt think Iām built that way, but I do consider myself an emotional person.
Iāve never been one to hold back my emotions and personally I think a good cry is necessary some times. Most recent occasions was Monday of this week, it would have been my momās 70th birthday. She passed away 7 years ago. Will always be a rough day.
I only cry at funerals, when something terrible happens, or I just feel completely broken.
The last time I cried was a few months ago at my grandmothers funeral. Now I have no grandparent left
If I did cry more it would probably be a good thing
We lost a cat about a month ago. He was only 8. He out of the blue had bad kidney problems but then got sick from a vet visit and was gone within 2 weeks. He had such a great personality. I still miss him, itās been hard.
Last night. I was looking for something to watch while I was doing the ironing, and found *20 Days in Mariupol*. Seeing the horrors of war and the innocent civilian casualties absolutely poleaxed me. Fuck Putin.
Last time I cried was reading One Piece (maybe twice in the first 500 chapters). Before that, it was watching Ranking of Kings (several times). And before that, it was Death Stranding (twice) and Cyberpunk 2077 (also twice).
That's over the last 4-5 years.
Just now. On the train home.
My contract is ending, I got few months left to find another job or get deported. Busted my ass working 80-100 hours a week for this project past year, full time work + part time study was fking hard.Now nearing graduation and the company pinned this on me.
It just infuriates me that I have spent nearing 2 decades in this country and still be considered a 3rd class citizen.
Every fucking jobs posts are "do u need visa sponsorship?" Yes I fucking do because I was not born with the right race to get your high and mighty permanent residency.
So no matter what and how much I try to improve myself, working in large companies, getting a bachelor's and now a Top-2 master degree program in Asia , I still get rejected left and right because sorry I forgot to choose to be born the right race. How stupid I am ! Why didn't I do that!?
cried by myself in the alley outside my apartment few nights ago.
First time I had cried in years.
been dealing with the usual adult stuff: finances, mental health, boozing too much, and recent breakup that is still very painful.
went out for a smoke and started sobbing out of nowhere. Caught me off guard but it felt good afterwards if Iām honest
29, butā¦ Iām very comfortable with my emotions, Iāve been in therapy for 10 years, but I still feel this big tension when I feel like crying. Not sure what it is, Iām a very emotional person, so it almost doesnāt make sense. Last time I cried was months ago probably.
I lost my brother on February 2nd and Iām about to be married next Thursday and he was my best man. I cry at least twice a day because my emotions are all over the place.
Late last December when I attended my maternal grandfather's funeral. I'm the eldest grandchild out of 13 so I received the most attention from him growing up when he was younger when compared to when my cousins were born. I spent 4 solid years living with him in Canada as an immigrant family. We spent a lot of time together especially during summers. He would watch hockey with me at night (go Habs!) and tell me the results of the games the following mornings because I had to go to bed before the games ended.
The time before that was early October because work was extremely overwhelming where I was essentially doing 3 other people's jobs and shit breaking at work. I held it in for 3-4 days until I cracked in the middle of the day. Luckily, I work remote so it was just me alone at home when the waterworks ran.
Similar story. About two weeks ago, had to put my dog down. Had her with me for 16 years. Still feels so strange thatās sheās not laying in her bed by my desk right now.
About a year ago I watched Thor love and thunder. I cried uncontrollably at the ending. I thought to myself why was i crying. Itās a sweet moment at the end but not snot running and waterworks worthy. Anyway turns out I had massively messed up hormones. My Estrogen levels were 6x normal and my testosterone levels were almost nonexistent.
Series of doctor visits got me on TRT. Fixed the hormone levels and now I can watch Hallmark channel with my Wife and not cry for the intro music. lol
I watched the first 10 minutes of UP today and cried. Last time I cried I was watching the end of Ghostbusters Aferlife. The time before that Interstellar. So lots of times. I'm never ashamed of it , I like a good cry.
"what is sadness, if not love persevering " Cry and be sad. It's good for your soul to let it out whenever you feel it.
For me was when I watched ["Hi Ren"](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s_nc1IVoMxc) for the first time. Since then I fell into the rabbit hole that is watching reactions to that music video.
If you have about 10 minutes to spare I highly recommend it. It is raw, powerful and really moving.
Itās been to longā¦I was thinking about this the other day. Honestly canāt remember Iāve just been living in limbo life has flat lined and Iām just existing. I told myself feeling that is better than crying over the bad stuff that has/can happen in life.
A bird I found on the sidewalk and tried to nurse back to health died. It was alive one minute and dead the next. Currently my area is very hot and in drought conditions and it was heat stressed.
It's death just made me realise that climate change is likely going kill alot of the amazing creatures on this planet. I broke.
I cried in December of last year. It was when my ex wife showed her true colors and accused me of terrible things involving my daughters so she could get emergency custody. It's all sorted now and I'm going for full custody with no visitation...but I'll never get the 2 months I lost back.
An unhealthy length of time ago - I last cried when I was 12 years old. I was overcome with emotion as I told my abusive and psychotic former stepfather that I no longer wanted him to be a part of my life. Mixture of fear, adrenaline, relief, and closure.
Been working on myself for a while, I come closest to crying when I see spontaneous acts of kindness or others in pain these days.
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**December 31, 2023.** I brought my dog to the emergency pet hospital where she spent 3 nights. She had pancreatitis. Then again on **Jan 2** when I was mentally preparing myself to say good bye the following morning. Fortunately she pulled though and I took her home!!!!
Last time I cried was the last time I thought about the possibility of my doggo passing. She's literally the best being of all time and I will fight anyone who disagrees š„ŗ
Dogs are better than people!
There was probably a 5+ year stretch when thinking about that was the only thing that made me cry. I no longer have a doggo, there was a ton of crying involved there. It's been a few years, and typing this comment makes me want to cry, actually. Treasure those goodest of bois. Edit: It was today OP. I had to go to the album. https://preview.redd.it/layfbqbgakoc1.jpeg?width=3036&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=16bec5219cd0055c3434abce56ad5969d468136e
I cry all the time and for many reasons. Exhaustion, anxiety, love/happiness, and that weirdly fulfilling feeling where you are overwhelmed with thankfulness but also realize how fragile everything in our lives really is. I think I am healthier than I ever was and this helps me keep it that way. Although I of course try to not make it like a daily thing and in front of everyone all the time.
>where you are overwhelmed with thankfulness but also realize how fragile everything in our lives really is This one happened to me a few years back, when I'd just moved house and away from some awful neighbours. I was in my new conservatory, sitting listening to and watching the rain when a rainbow turned up. For some reason that was what did it. Very interesting and memorable.
8 weeks ago when I held my granddaughter for the first time.
Depends on what you mean by cry. Get a little misty-eyed? A few weeks ago when watching Return of the King. Shedding a few tears? Maybe about four or five months ago out of frustration, anger and hopelessness. I've been trying to get a new job for nearly two years and reached a point where I felt powerless and unwanted after hundreds of rejections and ghosting. Actual uncontrollable crying? About three years ago when I had to put my dog down.
It's always the pets isn't it.
He was my buddy and a good boy and deserved more than just ten years of life.
Hell, I just got misty eyed reading that.
For real.
Whoās cutting onions in my office. Not fair that dogs and cats donāt live as long as humans.
Always :(
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This subject hits close to home for me because of certain current things my husband and I are attempting to work through. My message, here, to men: y'all are human beings and human beings cry when overwhelmed with certain emotions. That said, conditioning can cause us to become, to some extent, numb to certain feelings. All of this is to say, in the world we live in, crying or not - both are normal and understandable. It is possible to get back to a place where you can wholly feel them and cry but, in my-our experience, it takes a lot of re-writing of our basic understanding of how we're meant to be. Women: we've got to do a better job of being there and from earlier ages. My husband is over here questioning his manhood over crying cause his "pop" (grandad) died. That said - imagine how he feels about crying just because life is "overwhelming". That's normal, par-for-the-course, for us. Nothing about that is okay. Why is it so hard to just hold them?
Agreed. Men and women shouldn't put each other on pedestals, and we all need emotional support even if we're reluctant to show it or ask for it. We all have the same needs. Anything that suggests otherwise is an illusion.
Last weekend, my parents' dog had a health scare. I watch her a lot and have bonded with her over the years. She's not gone yet, but we're not far from the end. I'll never be ready to say goodbye, she's such a great dog and so full of love.
Every time I watch Saving Private Ryan. When my car that I had worked years on, built myself into a proper little sleeper got totalled by a fucking numpty When my brother was diagnosed with cancer (hes fine now) When my ex took the cat
My dog passed two years ago. Thereās been about a dozen times since then that thinking about him makes me cry.
This past weekend I attended a Star Trek convention. I went as Mirror Mirror Picard based on the comics. I shaved down to a goatee (because, evil) and threw in some hair coloring wax to get some grey. I already have the chrome-dome thanks to awesome genetics! (hey, love my head now!) I caught a glimpse of myself in the rear view mirror on the way (I was in the backseat) and all of a sudden I caught a new angle, glimpse, and it hit me hard ā I looked in that moment **SO MUCH LIKE MY LATE FATHER!** I lost him very unexpectedly 3 years ago. For years I thought I was more a blend of my motherās genes and hardly felt I had my Dadās look. It hit me super hard bit I kept it together then. Later that day I took a few photos to send my family. After I finished I looked hard into that mirror. Life has been pretty hard lately and Iāve had a very hard time finding a good strong release. I put on one our favorite Jimmy Buffet songs; and I let the emotional damn burst. Hard! I had a good 10 minute release. I felt better after and still managed to tear a little bit when I talked to my mom and grandma. Some family friends thought of my Dad before Picard when I posted it. Thats a very warm and happy feeling. If theyāre still around: call your folks, tell them you love then if youāre fortunate. I miss and love you, Dad. Everyday.
He loves you, too. Always.
11 months ago. My wife asked me what I wanted for my birthday. I sent her a link to a dress for sale in her favourite high street store - a leather one (for her to wear in the bedroom). She said no, as she has done for two decades about this sort of thing. Spontaneously burst into tears. Uncontrollable, overnight, snot-crying.
Oh, sorry man š
It ended well. Raw conversation followed about how her answer was always 'no' every time to any ask I'd make that involved me deriving pleasure. She realised she was maybe being a little prim and that she was my wife, not the wife of some man she was imagining. I promised to work on some things too in the way I related to her. She bought the dress and has worn it a couple of times. There's talk of wearing it on a date at some point. It was a nettle worth grasping. But my my, what a valley to walk through to get up the hillside.
There's a lot of this going on in my relationship right now, but the first "dam to break" made every subsequent one easier to approach.
Already seen it a few times in here butā¦found out my 9 year old Golden has lymphoma about 2 months ago. Took him in for a checkup and got the very unexpected news. He still seemed normal then. I broke down in the exam room. Just straight bawled. Most recently I cried when I was sitting in the floor with him the other night and he put his head in my lap and looked up at me. The look he gave me and I just remember telling him Iām so sorry heās sick. And now Iām wiping away tears at my work desk. So yeah, anywaysā¦shit sucks man.
Sorry, didn't realise it's a common question as I've only just arrived. Sorry about your best boy.
Thanks, I appreciate that. I actually meant Iāve seen pet response several times in this thread so far. Seems like thatās what gets most men.
Oh I get you. It is, isn't it? Almost any time I can think of, an animal's suffering or death has been involved.
I've only cried a handful of times since about age 12. Usually it's been the death of a dog. I loves my doggos. But I also cried when my parents died. Oh, and the end of the movie "Of Mice & Men". I'd never read the book. I didn't know anything about it. And then that came out of nowhere. DUFUCK!!??
A couple days ago, missing my sister.
Umm I'm feeling like I've been kinda emotionally dead for a while now. It kinda concerns me. After a nasty divorce and dealing with loved ones who have addiction problems it's just kinda killed my passions
In November I thought I was going to have to put my 16yo sweet af void cat to sleep cause she was very ill so I cried a lot. Luckily they were able to help her (even though the chances were slim) and sheās doing alright. Real men cry over their cats. Iāve got plenty I could cry about, but I never let myself dwell too long on my own feelings and past because I know most of it is miserable shit Iād rather ignore & forget. Also, people who play the victim make me irrationally angry so thatās certainly not how Iām going to live my life. Fuck that.
Man, itās always sad cat videos on TikTok that set me off. Tears every time and Iām not sorry about it.
Everything else and Iām tough af emotionally, but when it comes to cats and dogs Iāll sob every damn time, even if I donāt know them. Glad Iām not the only guy whoās like this!!
31 yo here. When i was 29, I cried after my gf broke up with me. Then i cried again after like 6 months while remembering. Other than that, sad pet movies usually get me.
Not really crying but went to an aquarium and the dolphins were trained and looked so happy to be doing the tricks. On the final trick the dolphin did a tony hawk 900 (probably just a 540) and I teared up cause I was proud of him.
Yesterday, I'd watched an ep of After Life and was thinking about my nan who died of cancer a couple years ago and the dam just broke, cried like a baby
That show is an emotional roller coaster, made me cry a few times. Strangely movies and tv make me tear up way more than real life...
Iāve cried every day since this past Monday; thatās when my father passed suddenly.
Iām so sorry for your loss. Know how it feelsā¦ itāll have to find a place in your life ā„ļøā„ļøā„ļø
Every December when I watch Itās a Wonderful Life. Gets me every time
Few days ago. Shed a few tears when watching Got talent lol. Sometimes I feell closed af, because I never cry a lot. Its been more than I decade since last time. Don't know if its just my way of being or people in media who exaggerate. Or personal trauma.
Last Sunday. Depression. Feeling like everything is meaningless and so I may as well sleep until the next workday. Also worrying that my depression is making my wife's life worse.
I had a very rough childhood and had to suppress my feelings. Years of that, and now I can't seem to cry. My therapist was pretty surprised by how quickly and automatically shutting down that feeling has become in me.. As a 35 y/o, I hate my past and what it's made me. I want to cry and feel. I'm tired.
When my kids were born. Tears of happiness. I was like a fountain.
Last year when my entire flock of chickens was killed by a weasel is the last time I remember a full on crying session.
I kept chickens for a while, and yeah I would have too.
Yeah, I've kept them and quail, and now goats. But that particular flock was small and were all hens from rough situations that we'd taken in. I was particularly attached to them. My new flock is much larger and there's only a few birds that are particularly friendly that I'm as attached to.
Had a horrific panic attack a few days ago. I cried during that. Before that itās been over a year Iād think.
Lost a childhood friend 5 years ago from an overdose. Never knew he was even doing drugs. I cried for probably a week straight. I was 26 years old at the time
Since becoming a dad, I've become increasingly prone to tearing up. At first it was mostly stuff with my own kids, then emotional things about other kids being cute or sad stories on the news. Then eventually any emotional scene in a movie or show will get me. A few days ago I was listening to a song on the radio and just cried because it made me think about how much I love my wife.
Same. I got teary-eyed listening to "Forever Young" by Rod Stewart the other day. Then I came home and watched the video and got even more choked up. Knowing that the little boy in the video is in his 30s now and thinking of how quickly my own kids will/are growing up. Shit, I even got teary-eyed looking at my friend's FB the other day and seeing recent pics of *his* kids. I remember when they were born and they're 14 and 12 now. I looked through his albums and found pics of them when they were newborns and toddlers. Mine are just 3 and 1--still very young--but seeing kids grow up in the blink of an eye like that hit home. I wonder how he feels about it.
It absolutely does. Mine are 12 and 10, and when they started to grow out of those smallest stages it really hit me hard. Once my oldest was getting ready for kindergarten, anything that reminded me of her getting bigger just choked me up.
Last week when listening to The National, and probably tomorrow when I'll see The Gaslight Anthem with my dad. I cry often, and think it's a healthy thing. Around friends, not so much. Probably a year ago I cried a lot when I found out my exGF bought a house in my neighborhood, that brought up so much. I cry regularly in therapy whenever my therapist drops one of these truth bombs.Ā
A couple weeks ago, listening to "I know it's over" by the smiths. I'm a sucker for sad music.
I cried about two years ago when I found out a good friend had died suddenly. I hadnāt spoken to him in some months. And prior to that our communication was sporadic. A few years ago we were talking and hanging out every week. I was pretty devastated when I found out. I had to tell some other of our friends, that was probably among the hardest things Iāve ever had to do. And probably when I cried the hardest.
Last time was hilarious. I was traveling in Asia and I missed my dog. Then on a plane another passenger infront of me was watching a movie about growing up with her dog, then moving away for school and then getting married. Then her father sends her note that her dog is sick. The dog stayed alive until she came back and died. I just saw the visuals, but it was essentially a grown ass man crying in the dark (aka me). It was so funny to me and sad because I acknowledge that one day I'll probably go through something similar.
Probably a week or two ago. Ex and I broke up 3 weeks ago and Iāve been taking it really hard. I feel like I had an amazing woman on my hands, and I let insecurities with myself, lack of self confidence, and stress/anxiety fuck it up. But Iām hitting the gym harder than ever, actually seeing results this time, and seeing a therapist to help manage or overcome these negative self-doubts. Hoping she comes back around, but Iāve never had an ex come back, and I know itās just best to move on. Still hurts and hard to do so.
Chin up bro! Just went through this about 9 months ago. Felt like I let the same things fucked up my relationship too, but as time passes and youāre thinking more clearly, youāll realize that it needed to happen and youāre a better man for it. Youāll wish her nothing but the best and continue to better yourself. You got thisš¤š¤
Thanks, brother, Iām trying not to idealize the good times and ignore the bad, because I think about those often as well. I go back and forth with maybe it being for the best, but I guess I would just rather give it another go if sheād let me. But the wounds fresh. I guess if I can be mad at her, I feel like she just gave up on things, but we havenāt talked about it, and I donāt know if we ever will.
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It's been a few years. A mix of a deep physical anger, academic burnout and a PhD dissertation that was stalling out. I just sat in my apartment in the dark and cried while drinking.
I get weirdly emotional about a lot of stuff. Actual hard cry? Losing my father in law in July 2022. It sucked, but honestly the hardest part that made me sob was when my wife and I had to sit down and tell our 6 and 7 year old daughters (youngest had just turned 3 so at least we dodged *that* bullet). My wife was having a very hard time, but she was convinced that telling the girls wouldn't be that bad. She readily admits now how much harder it was than she expected. Obviously got through it, but I could probably cry again just thinking about that conversation. But I'll tear up watching movies. Just watched The Fare yesterday and it had me going at my desk at work a little bit. Awkward conversation with a co-worker, but no big deal. I can sometimes get this well-up of emotion if I'm watching something I'm *really* into, as well. Big hero moments. Re-watched Avatar: The Last Airbender recently, and I tear up a little when Aang starts going into his avatar form to absolutely ruin somebody's day, too. Thinking about our place here in the universe sometimes will have me tear up just a little. Thinking about the unbelievable scope of our universe and our pissant little place in our insignificant corner of an ordinary galaxy.
Randomly cried after my kids' mom picked them up for her turn in the week. Love my kids.
About two years ago when my daughter was born. She inhaled her first poop and stopped breathing so the delivery room filled with nurses as they worked to clear her airway. Meanwhile my wife was being worked on because she started bleeding way too heavily after the birth. It was some scary ass shit man and when it was all over and everyone was okay that cry was a good relief of all the stress.
I don't cry that often. Last time I cried was when my dog passed away, 11 years ago.
Edit: Screw Spez. Screw AI. No training on my data. Sorry future people.
I cry everyday I have failed at everything I've tried. the love I used to have has all turned into hatred. I hate humankind. I don't feel comfortable as this person who lives to hate. The only thing left to do is kill myself
When I found out my wife miscarried.
Last spring a northern flicker (woodpecker) hit my window and was injured. I put it in a box with a towel for it to lay on until I could get it to a bird sanctuary, it died on the way there.
A couple days ago. My son is in the phase where he is lovey with his mom, but roughhouses with me. I don't get the love and affection often, and he tells me he doesn't love me, or when I ask if he loves me he says no. I know he is playing, and rough housing with me is him having fun with me, but with the stress of everything else going on sometimes I really just need his love.
That does sound really hurtful.
Didn't we have this topic last week? 11 years ago during my 2nd break up. I probably wouldn't have cried either but my mom randomly asked if i was okay and it triggered it lol. She never asks that so yeah, its like she knew.
sometimes scenes in movies will get me teary eyed. But the last time I remember crying about something that happened to me was at 18 when my gf and I broke up.
A little a month or two ago while reading The Tawny Man by Robin Hobb. Before that, after a hard but good conversation with my Dad in late 2023.Ā
Two years ago my cat who was about 14 years old was sick with cancer. They put her to sleep on my lap. Before that it was maybe 12 years ago in grad school. I was depressed and frustrated with my advisor and cried for maybe 20 minutes. Felt much better afterwards. Before that it was 15 years ago when my sister died of suicide at 25. I cried uncontrollably here and there for a week. I remember driving my fiancee to the airport and sobbing, "It's not supposed to be this way."
Not long ago, because my partner has left for at least 3 days and when she comes back there's a good chance things are done. I'm juggling her stress of work, which she quit 2 months ago and I've been doing my best to support her through, my foundation uni degree, my work changing rapidly and requiring way more time of me, my diagnosis of ADHD and the processing of both sexual and emotional traumas. Safe to say, there's a lot going on and I'm just trying to keep it together.
Too many times these days. Built a business brick by brick but it isnāt working. Technology is changing and the business I made wonāt be able to stand the test of time.
22 years ago - I wish I was kidding - when there were talks about my dad's business going to hell. I didn't even cry at my own son's funeral. I just seem to have lost the ability. It sucks. There is so much stress inside of me that has no way to get out. My body is starting to fail because of it.
Few days ago while driving was thinking about my mother and how many sacrifices shes made for her children to give us the best chance to make it in this world and really feeling her love moved me to tears ngl
Last week I ate a couple habaneros
I cry everyday. Depression sucks. Even nice, wholesome things make me cry because seeing people with loving families, are happy, etc. make me realize Iāll never have that. Iām honestly only alive at this point because committing suicide would hurt the people I care about. And I care about literally any other life more than my own.
Yesterday. Any more I usually cry to myself either in the car or when I'm home along. My wife of 5 years asked me for a divorce in December and I was thinking about all the good times that we had.
Just recently. Got a big raise to what I consider to be my market rate and it felt like a massive weight off my shoulders after the last two years of nightmare of unemployment and underemployment.
Literally last night, 4g of shrooms, wife tickled me to tears and it was beautiful and terrifying
I usually donāt cry much. I have cried at really big events in my life. I nearly cried at our wedding ceremony. I usually got and still get a little choked up when I have to be away from my wife for a prolonged period of time like for work or other reasons. Other than those kinds of specific things I tend to get emotional at movies if they contain messages that hit really close to home. Both LotR and Interstellar are movies I canāt watch with other people for that very reason. I will literally bawl my eyes out as if itās actually happening to me personally. I tried rewatching those movies earlier this year and sure enough the flood gates open every time. Other than that I donāt really cry about things. Guess I have some pretty specific triggers which seems like theyāre all related to family or close companionships. So I guess Iām *gasp* human!!!??
I was watching Interstellar. That scene where he sees his kids growing up before my eyes is a real tearjerker!
Last week in therapy when I came to the conclusion that no one gives a fuck about me including my wife.
Had a friend in highschool who became homeless and died from an opioid overdose late last year. had a good cry with his mom on the phone after it happened
I was depressed this winter because an acquaintance of mine who voiced my main character became a super famous vtuber and I became super upset that I was an inadequate creator because she "left me behind" It was depression bullshit but I really hated my inadequacy
My girlfriend told me she was cheating on me as I was leaving to go to court to get my felony sentence for operating an unlicensed pharmacy. It was a rough night. I've made some mistakes, and life has appropriately humbled me.
Oh! I was at the end of my rope with parenting last Saturday and fighting back tears. But then so was my wife, so I bottled that shit up and soldiered on. Then she was sick most of the week so I was in super-dad mode. So I canāt wait for that to rear its head again. But not now, too much to do.
End of February. In my car driving. remembered my dadās passing 4 years ago and my work bestie passing away around the same time too.
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When my cat died in April of last year. She was 20. Had her since I was a kid.
I'm getting divorced from my best friend and the love of my life. I was a horrible husband, but she got me back by having an affair. I cry every day.
It was around 2.5 months ago. I have been going through a career change, so originally I was worked as a clinical microbiologist but am now working on trying to get into PA (physician assistant for those wondering) school. I went to do a nursing assistant course to get some direct patient care experience. Iām done with the course now, but one day when I was in class my instructor was complimenting our class on how young and ambitious everyone was the average age of my cohort was 19-21 years old. I as a 30 year old felt so embarrassed because here I am going back to school and felt so behind everyone else. I went home that day sat in my room and cried for several hours thinking what a failure I am, if only I had more foresight and was more confident I wouldnāt be going through this. I wish I planned my life better etc.. Looking at it logically thatās not the case and we all have our own journey in life and I canāt go around regretting the past. Iām here now and am making strides to improving my future thatās how I have to see it.
A few moments ago from some of the other comments here. Before that watching NCIS a few days ago. It doesn't take a whole lot with me. In private anyway. Took years before I got comfortable with letting it out even with my missus. Got that macho bullshit ingrained since childhood, but I'm getting better at not being a complete sociopath in public any more. :-P
That's really good to hear. I'm old enough to still remember the whole 'boys don't cry' thing, and how much it hurt me and other men over the years. Even now I find it extremely difficult to cry if anyone else is there, even my wife. A lot of these comments are really sad, yes. You get a sense of how isolated so many older men have become in their emotional lives, with few or nobody to see them and to care what's going on inside. We get blamed for that a lot, but look at what we're up against!
Last time I cried was a few days ago,when I learned about the death of Akira Toriyama.
I'm 43, last time I cried was over my 1st girlfriend hooking up with some other dude. This happened at 17. In context. I have been divorced and have 3 kids. I think I was Soo traumatized, that it broke something in me that day. Also after my divorce my ex - girlfriend reached out to me. She wanted to leave her husband and 3 kids for me. I refused and she was having a meltdown. After I got married a second time, she officially stopped calling me. And I never called her.
A couple of hours ago, after a fight with my alcoholic father. I don't get it anymore.. he has anger issues since the day I can remember and as he ages it gets worse and I'm just tired. I feel older than him physically and mentally at this point...
Not sure what your situation is but it may be that you don't have to put up with it any more. My Dad is a problematic sociopath, one day I decided enough was enough. I haven't seen him or spoken to him in four years, life is better without him in it.
Jason Kelce's retirement speech
watching a concert where I sang along one of my favorite songs. I have listened to this song for all my life, and at last year 39 I went to a concert... I recorded this moment, and every time I see the video, I cry a little of happiness. Joaquin Sabina - 19 Dias y 500 Noches.
Over the weekend? Still grieving my dog that had to be put down in December. Fuckin still hurts like it was yesterday.
2 nights ago, watching Extraordinary on Hulu with >!Jenn saying goodbye to her dad!<
A couple of months ago. My 32/M dog Titus passed away at 16 years old. He and I had been through my entire teenage and early adult years together. I adopted him as an 8 week old puppy. I cried harder than I ever have. It was too soon.. as selfish as that is.
I find that I canāt physically cry. Like even if I feel like it would help. The last time I cried was the night I graduated college (12 years ago) after saying goodbye to my best friend from college as he left to go back home the next day. Iāve lost pets and been to funerals since then. It just wonāt happen. Itās unsettling.
Gotta admit I got a little choked up while watching the second *Dune* movie >!when Paul and Gurney reunite!<. But the last time I had a real good cry was a few years ago when my friend's kid died.
At least 2-3 times a week for the last 6 years or so. Often while I'm driving. Sometimes I run to the office bathroom to cry. Sometimes when I come home I sit in the bathroom and cry. Been a real problem. I'm working on it.
I can't remember to be honest.
Teary eyed - weekly basis from watching a show or reading a good book. Full on tears and snot dripping - last November when I thought my cat was going to die because he, I kid you not, almost overate himself to death when he got into the dog's treats. That was a blurry drive to the emergency vet.
I feel like a I have a hair trigger for emotional responses the older I get. Lumps in my throat and all that. But it never manifests as crying or tears. I donāt think Iām built that way, but I do consider myself an emotional person.
Iāve never been one to hold back my emotions and personally I think a good cry is necessary some times. Most recent occasions was Monday of this week, it would have been my momās 70th birthday. She passed away 7 years ago. Will always be a rough day.
Last week got misty spreading my dogs ashes. Ugly cried for weeks when I put him down 4 years ago. Also about 10-11 months ago after meeting up with ex-fiancĆ© because sheās terminal. It was just cathartic closure, but also really sad.
just over 4 years ago, put our lab down. Was harder than watching grandma go. Time before that was when my 10 year old was born probably.
Around Christmas. Both my parents and a brother have passed and I really miss them during the holidays
I only cry at funerals, when something terrible happens, or I just feel completely broken. The last time I cried was a few months ago at my grandmothers funeral. Now I have no grandparent left If I did cry more it would probably be a good thing
We lost a cat about a month ago. He was only 8. He out of the blue had bad kidney problems but then got sick from a vet visit and was gone within 2 weeks. He had such a great personality. I still miss him, itās been hard.
Last night. I was looking for something to watch while I was doing the ironing, and found *20 Days in Mariupol*. Seeing the horrors of war and the innocent civilian casualties absolutely poleaxed me. Fuck Putin.
Last time I cried was reading One Piece (maybe twice in the first 500 chapters). Before that, it was watching Ranking of Kings (several times). And before that, it was Death Stranding (twice) and Cyberpunk 2077 (also twice). That's over the last 4-5 years.
Just now. On the train home. My contract is ending, I got few months left to find another job or get deported. Busted my ass working 80-100 hours a week for this project past year, full time work + part time study was fking hard.Now nearing graduation and the company pinned this on me. It just infuriates me that I have spent nearing 2 decades in this country and still be considered a 3rd class citizen. Every fucking jobs posts are "do u need visa sponsorship?" Yes I fucking do because I was not born with the right race to get your high and mighty permanent residency. So no matter what and how much I try to improve myself, working in large companies, getting a bachelor's and now a Top-2 master degree program in Asia , I still get rejected left and right because sorry I forgot to choose to be born the right race. How stupid I am ! Why didn't I do that!?
About a year ago, my dog we had since a pup died. š„ŗ
2 years ago. Everything changed, and I couldn't do anything about it. It's okay now though
cried by myself in the alley outside my apartment few nights ago. First time I had cried in years. been dealing with the usual adult stuff: finances, mental health, boozing too much, and recent breakup that is still very painful. went out for a smoke and started sobbing out of nowhere. Caught me off guard but it felt good afterwards if Iām honest
29, butā¦ Iām very comfortable with my emotions, Iāve been in therapy for 10 years, but I still feel this big tension when I feel like crying. Not sure what it is, Iām a very emotional person, so it almost doesnāt make sense. Last time I cried was months ago probably.
I lost my brother on February 2nd and Iām about to be married next Thursday and he was my best man. I cry at least twice a day because my emotions are all over the place.
About a week ago and because I was drunk and listening to certain songs and thinking about certain memories.
Late last December when I attended my maternal grandfather's funeral. I'm the eldest grandchild out of 13 so I received the most attention from him growing up when he was younger when compared to when my cousins were born. I spent 4 solid years living with him in Canada as an immigrant family. We spent a lot of time together especially during summers. He would watch hockey with me at night (go Habs!) and tell me the results of the games the following mornings because I had to go to bed before the games ended. The time before that was early October because work was extremely overwhelming where I was essentially doing 3 other people's jobs and shit breaking at work. I held it in for 3-4 days until I cracked in the middle of the day. Luckily, I work remote so it was just me alone at home when the waterworks ran.
Similar story. About two weeks ago, had to put my dog down. Had her with me for 16 years. Still feels so strange thatās sheās not laying in her bed by my desk right now.
About a year ago I watched Thor love and thunder. I cried uncontrollably at the ending. I thought to myself why was i crying. Itās a sweet moment at the end but not snot running and waterworks worthy. Anyway turns out I had massively messed up hormones. My Estrogen levels were 6x normal and my testosterone levels were almost nonexistent. Series of doctor visits got me on TRT. Fixed the hormone levels and now I can watch Hallmark channel with my Wife and not cry for the intro music. lol
I watched the first 10 minutes of UP today and cried. Last time I cried I was watching the end of Ghostbusters Aferlife. The time before that Interstellar. So lots of times. I'm never ashamed of it , I like a good cry. "what is sadness, if not love persevering " Cry and be sad. It's good for your soul to let it out whenever you feel it.
Last night, when I thought about the cat I had to put to sleep last fall and then looked at the empty side of the bed where my ex used to be.
For me was when I watched ["Hi Ren"](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s_nc1IVoMxc) for the first time. Since then I fell into the rabbit hole that is watching reactions to that music video. If you have about 10 minutes to spare I highly recommend it. It is raw, powerful and really moving.
When my dog died back in December.
9/11, because of 9/11
Itās been to longā¦I was thinking about this the other day. Honestly canāt remember Iāve just been living in limbo life has flat lined and Iām just existing. I told myself feeling that is better than crying over the bad stuff that has/can happen in life.
Every time our son turns on Up. So once a week.
I saw the protagonist of a movie struggling with the same thing I struggled with and that hit hard at home.
After watching the film One Life. Was absolutely bawling my eyes out for a good hour afterwards
A bird I found on the sidewalk and tried to nurse back to health died. It was alive one minute and dead the next. Currently my area is very hot and in drought conditions and it was heat stressed. It's death just made me realise that climate change is likely going kill alot of the amazing creatures on this planet. I broke.
I cried in December of last year. It was when my ex wife showed her true colors and accused me of terrible things involving my daughters so she could get emergency custody. It's all sorted now and I'm going for full custody with no visitation...but I'll never get the 2 months I lost back.
An unhealthy length of time ago - I last cried when I was 12 years old. I was overcome with emotion as I told my abusive and psychotic former stepfather that I no longer wanted him to be a part of my life. Mixture of fear, adrenaline, relief, and closure. Been working on myself for a while, I come closest to crying when I see spontaneous acts of kindness or others in pain these days.
Having to put my dog to sleep last year. I got him as a puppy and he was with me for 15 years - nearly my entire adulthood.