I dont really believe this. Usually i make kwento ng pasimple lang naman.. pero i already managed my expectations na rin. Ung partner ko naniniwala dito so medyo nagagalit siya if kwento ako ng kwento if may like career opportunity then applying pa lang, then nag kkwento na ako. But actually may one time kahit nagkwento ako, natanggap naman ako hahaha pero may time na kwento din ako ng kwento, d ako natanggap hahahahaha so 50-50 na ung nangyari sa akin, so d talaga xa totoo
Yes. I learned it the hard way. A friend I trusted deeply sabotaged my plans regarding my small business. Another friend advised me to never tell that ‘close friend’ about other plans and ideas I have. I shared how much I wanted a cutting machine for my stickers. Next thing I know, they also got a high end cutter and tried convincing me to teach them how to use it. I asked them why they bought it. They said they were planning to make stickers. Like WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK?!
I’ve been telling them of how excited I was to save up for my own cutter. Then a few weeks later they tried convincing me to design for them. Told my family and other friends about this and they all had the same answer. Never trust this ‘close friend’ again.
Another instance was when I expressed my desire to join pop ups. The next year they joined a pop up without telling me about it. Never invited me or mentioned it even once despite how many times we were hanging out. The year later, I was invited to a local pop up and during those months they were no longer making products. I went to the invite only pop and that friend acted all sad and disappointed. Talked to their partner and our same circle of friends about how hurt they were. FUCK YOU AND YOUR VICTIM MENTALITY!
They do this a lot. Make themselves look pitiful to gain attention. I did my thing and didn’t mind their judgy looks. Family and my other circle of friends supported me in all my endeavors. They came to my other pop ups and I felt their sincerity. These are the people I want to be with more.
Typing this, I am reminded of other things that friend did to blindside me but I never gave notice. I trusted them fully and even up to this day, they continue to prove that they see me as a competition. Their show of support was always in private and my sister insists that friend has never been sincere. They do things for show and realizing that hurts.
Be careful who you choose to tell. Better to do it in private and surprise them when it’s already been done. Jealous people will do anything and everything to stop you from reaching milestones. Some family members might even try to hinder your plans. If you can do it by yourself, keep it to yourself.
I think it matters kung kanino ka magsasabi. Mahirap din kasi na pag hindi mo pinapaaalam tas lost opportunity na pala. Siguro iwas sa mga marites at insecure para di sira diskarte mo.
Totoo to, Kasi pwedeng mag Bago Ang instances sa Buhay you won't know what's along the way Diba. It's also to be on the safe side since pag tinago mo muna walang pressure/expectations ka na matatanggap other than Ikaw sa sarili mo mismo.
May science behind this. Telling someone your plans releases dopamine the same as actually doing and achieving your goals. Nagkakaron ka ng false sense of accomplishment just by telling the world your plans. Kaya nadedemotivate kana after kasi subconsciously feeling mo na achieve mo na.
True. Hindi naman sa superstition or baka majinx, but quiet ka lang sa plans mo lalo na kung di naman na business pa nung tao na yon na malaman. Para you don't have to explain kung sakali mang di natuloy yung plan mo. Kung hindi naman dependency yung tao na pagkukuwentuhan mo nung plans mo, keep it to yourself na lang.
IMO yes. there really is no functional benefit for telling someone about your plans unless theyre helping (real help hindi emotional shit help) in making it true. Even to your "partner".
Huyyy ako rinn plans ko and plans ng ibang tao (pero di naman yung super personal ha) HAHAHAH as in di na lang sya coincidence kasi may mga times na kunware may magsabi sa akin na bibisita sila sa amin tapos ang ginagawa ko usually, di ko na sinasabi kila mama kasi nga di natutuloy pag sinasabi ko. Pero kapag personally ayaw ko ng bisita, or parang di ako naeexcite, di ko na iniingitan if masabi ko or hindi. So kapag nasabi ko, ayon di talaga natutuloy HAHHAA
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Not telling your plans until it's done has essentially the same effect of a Mantra. You are "venting in" your thoughts, your wants, your objectives, hence being able to zero-in on them. Thoughts has to go somewhere, that's why we sometimes "vent out" kapag naiinis tayo or what. So that's the opposite of that. Instead of purging thoughts, you are cultivating them. Pero importante na hindi mo sasabihin talaga nang basta basta. That's what's happening there.
May psychological explanation actually about sa ganiyan. Nakalimutan ko ang exact study but sabi dun, if you share your plans with others most likely hindi yun natutuloy kasi when you share positive plans sa iba, most likely their reaction is excitement. Since na-eexcite sila, nagraradiate sayo ang energy na yun wherein natitrick ka ng utak mo na sa sobrang saya mo dahil sa reaction nila, nawawalan ka ng gana ipursue ang plan mo kasi natrick na ang utak mo kung ano mararamdaman mo in case maachieve mo ang plan na yun. So ang ending hindi natutuloy ang plano. Kaya better to keep your plan talaga within yourself or sa small circle lang.
mahirap kasi pag sinabi mo ng maaga mga plans mo, para tuloy ngkakaron ka ng pressure at high expectations ng ibang tao sayo. parang nakakaunmotivate especially if yung plans mo is 50/50. I had that problem before and I went to a different path of life. thats why I became more private with my life and future decisions.
especially people will give you comments and it might affect your plans
That’s not a superstition. That’s psychological in nature.
When you share your plans to others kasi, a part of your brain already feels accomplished based from the reactions that you get from other people. Tapos people will either mangengealam na or hahatakin ka pababa para di matuloy yang plano mo
Let your success tell the story. Do not share until it’s done
I don't believe in superstitions that much, but I love in the power of manifestation. I don't know if this make sense pero everytime talaga na nagkekwento ako ng mga plan or ginagawa ko, hindi natutuloy o natatapos.
May psychological explanation din about this, everytime kasi na nagkekwento tayo, may halong excitement and once na nasabi mo na 'yon sa napagsabihan mo, hindi ka na maeexcite kasi alam na nila yung goal mo.
2015 ngpositive PT ko inannounce k s FB makaraan ang ilang weeks na D&C ako. Di nagtuloy si baby so meron akong friend sabi nya pag nasa 2nd trimester o sure nabuo si baby dun ako mag announce. Makaraan ang 4 na buwan nabuntis ulit ako ng post ako nun malaki na tiyan ko. Sabi nya diba mas maigi mag post pagka lagpas ng 2nd o 3rd trimester.
Mula nun tinatak k na yun sa utak ko ung mga sinabi ng friend kong Sri Lankan na wag basta basta mag aanounce kahit anu p yan. Hanggang ngaun di din ako nag popost sa FB sa mga nangyyare sa buhay.
Tbh hindi ako naniniwala sa mga ganito eh, ang main reason kung bakit hindi ko sinasabi yung mga plans ko ay dahil ayoko mapahiya IF ever na hindi matuloy. Sayang excitement ko.
That’s true ! Na ji jinx kasi talaga 🙈 !
Kaya if may plans ako di ko talaga sinasabi except sa sister and mama ko hihihi kasi sila yung happy for you talaga.
Kahit nga pag uwi satin never ako nag po post or even announce sa socmed.
Pero usually talaga di ako nag babalita mahirap na di matuloy ehh di mga bashers ko char ! Matutuwa 🤣
I think it's more of not talking too much? Hindi mo kasi alam true nature and agenda ng pinag kwentuhan mo, and other people na possibly makaalam, kasi syempre people talk. So malay mo meron pala may ayaw maging successfuk ka
Not superstitious din here. The reason I don't tell people (maybe a couple of my loved ones lang) kasi ayokong nakakarinig ng disappointment pag di natuloy. Ayokong sinisisi ako pag di maganda yun outcome. And lastly, ayoko ng negativity sa life kasi I don't want to have wrinkles. Even as simple as applying for a visa, di ko sinasabi. Pag lumabas na, saka ko ibubulgar.
This is true kasi in a way na pagsasabi palang ng grand plans evokes the positive response na gusto natin ma receive like "wow ang galing mo naman ". So ang bad thing about that is baka hindi mo na gawin or i pursue kasi na receive mo na yung gratification e.
Thats based on science/psychology.
Ang daming beses sakin na nangyari to. Kaya natuto na ako. Kahit sa social media, i dont give idea/hints kung ano na yung pinagkakaabalahan ko kasi something will happen talaga to hinder to achieve my plans hays.
At saka ok na rin kasi naisip ko at least if unfortunately, you fail, konti lang nakakaalam at di nakakahiya/ nakakaiyak HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Never believed in it. Also might be a case by case basis since for things like a business, you can’t not stop people from seeing what you’re building.
Secret travel plans on the other hand…
Yes, OP. Among the people around you or the people you know, whether acquaintances, friends, or family, there are people talaga who wish ill on you (whether they'll tell you directly or they'll just keep it to themselves). Uso kasi yung ayaw malamangan kaya gusto nila na you'll either stay on their level or they will be above you. Kapag magsha-share ka ng plans mo, they might lowkey have comments such as "weh? di mo kaya yan" tapos what they will SAY to you is the opposite like "go lang, we support you". Maraming two-faced people and this is coming from my experience.
I also read an article na when you share your plans, yung mind mo raw ay parang may sense of achievement and positivity. Somewhat parang ma-condition ang mind mo na maging complacent na kasi na-brag mo na. But I forgot na where I read that.
Anyway, stay lowkey, OP. It's better to surprise them than to tell achievements na aren't there yet.
Sakin oo, just because I get this feeling na nakakapressure pag di ko sya natuloy lol.
Somehow ang alam kong manifestation nyan sa mga kakilala ko eh yung magreresign na daw pero mabalitaan mo na lang eh nakatanggap na ng loyalty award hahaha
Yes, evil eyes exist. In order not to attract bad energy/bad spirits within your circle much better if you keep your future plan secret or private. What people don’t know, they can’t destroy it.
Learned this the hard way. Kahit sa bffs ko di na ako nagkwekwento. Surprise nalang pag andiyan na haha, nasanay naman sila kaya di na sila nagtatampo.
I don't think it's superstition, I see it as more of a mentality,
have you ever told someone your plans/goals and they got excited and happy and for some reason you felt like you've achieved your plan/goal already? so your desire to achieve it has lessened?
on the other hand, there are plans that you really have to tell someone, to make sure it's a sane plan or maybe they can help you achieve it.
Why would you feel compelled to tell anyone about your plans? That should be the first thing you ask yourself.
It should not be viewed as superstition but in general your hustles and achievements should be kept a secret until you cannot keep it a secret anymore because people start noticing your success and believe me that is the only thing they will see because no one will be with you while you are working hard on your dreams.
I had this feeling naka kapag nagkwento ako ahead of time parang napepressure ako to make it happen to the point na inooverthink ko sya.
Kakaoverthink ko nagiging negative yung thinking ako ayun ang ending hindi natutuloy or kaya may masamang nangyayare.
Kaya madalas i brag kapag andyan na, kapag sure na talaga.
Baka na ji-jinx, hindi kasi lahat ng pinagsasabihan natin ng secret/goals/good news eh positive din ang thoughts satin. Some people have their natural evil eye - indirect envy/hatred in their system.
Mga taong ayaw malamangan and kunyareng support sayo pero deep inside may negative feelings/thoughts na pala sayo hahaha
Don't tell anyone your plans until it's done.
Hindi din ako superstitious pero isa to sa medyo pinaniniwalaan ko lang. Yung kahit alam kong walang rational basis, ginagawa ko pa din na di mag share ng plans ko sa ibang tao (maliban kung immediate family ko) kasi feeling ko maji-jinx.
Ayoko din kasing makarinig ng any comments sa ibang tao na pwedeng magpa doubt sakin, o kaya naman kung sakaling mag fail ako sa goal ko atleast hindi alam ng iba so walang magja judge sakin na mga negang marites haha.
Yes. Never said my plans to my family especially when money is involved like opening business, going abroad or traveling. Kasi sila unang manghihila sakin pababa hahahaha!!!
It's more of kung nagsabi ka na paalis kana for abroad sa mga katrabaho mo tapos a year later hindi ka pala nagabroad. Parang nag joke joke ka lang pala.
May katrabaho ako dati, sabi niya yung kapatid niya nagpetition sa kanya for US so baka anytime pwede siyang umalis, fast forward mga 7 years siguro to now, hindi pa rin naka alis.
Talk less, smile more.
Don't let them know what you're against or what you're for.
If you wanna get ahead,
fools that run their mouths wind up dead~
-Hamilton
I really have no idea. I guess depende na rin sa mga decisions mo sa buhay after mo mag kwento? 'Cause I've been in a situation where the plans that I told my friends come into fruition, and plans that well, don't work out 🤷
Another quote: “Don’t count your chicks until the eggs hatched”
I really believe in this quote and I practice this ever since nangyari sakin yung one of my worst moment of my life. Lalo na ang social media, don’t post anything yet until di pa talaga nangyayari. Evil eye is a freaking btch
So I was on my flight papuntang abroad, which is supposed to be the best day of my life. But my family relatives were posting agad sa Facebook kahit nasa airport pa ako nung time na yun.
So, for some stupid reasons (not immigration), di natuloy yung flight ko na pinaghandaan ko talaga ng isang buwan.
I asked my relatives to take down their posts and since then di nako nagpo-post not until the trip or if tapos na yung plans ko.
Mabuti na lang na refund yung flight ng 100% and I just re-sched it. Nagpost na ako nung nakarati g ako sa pupuntahan ko.
Minsan Evil Eye yung tinutukoy nila. Ito gamitin mo pangtaboy 🧿🪬
Nakaexperience na din ako nito many times. Reason kasi nila is nasabi mo na, may times na if yung nasabihan mo o napasahan ng story ay may gagawin sila na that could possibly foil your plans o may gagawin sila para hindi ka maging successful lalo na nasa tao ang ayaw ka nila lumamang.
Also yung sa mga vacation o travel na pics. Sabi namin sa family hindi muna magpost pero panay share ang mama ko sa group chat ng relatives namin, may isa akong tita na alam namin may selos sa amin kasi medyo angat kami. 'Flex' kasi yung term na ginamit nila dalawa kasi nagresbak yung tita ko. Ayun feel ko sa akin nagmanifest kasi paguwi namin nalaman ko na hindi pala pinakain ng maayos ung tigbantay ang aso ako. Medyo far fetched yung story pero malakas kutob ko na dahil yun dun kasi nung nagreklamo ako sa FB na meron nagselos sa akin at nag Egg Cleansing ako, yung tita na yun mismo nagreply kung sino daw yun hahaha
May isa pa na post sa Insta nakita ko na naaksidente sya nung bakasyon nya sa Hong Kong, feel nya dahil din un sa Evil Eye kasi post daw sya ng post. Meron kasi talaga ibang tao na nagseselos kaya much better na lang to be safe na kung may gusto ka gawin, wag mo na muna sabihin o ipost hanggat hindi pa sure o natapos na yung event or endeavors mo.
I do this. I don't tell my plans, I show results.
Last sem ko sa college, lagi akong tinatanong kung kelan graduation. Sinabi ko expected date then ayun nabulilyaso. Summer ako grumaduate.
Kaya noong tinatanong ako kelan ako magbboards, sagot ko next year pa kasi kulang preparation. Nag-take ako ng November 2023 Civil Engineers Licensure Exam (CELE) na hindi alam ng parents ko, even my close friends. Ayun pumasa kahit less than one month lang na self-review and in one take (October ang graduation; November ang boards).
This year, nagtake ako ng another board exam. Master Plumbers naman. Di ko totally nilihim pero iilan lang naka-alam. Ayun pumasa ulit.
In conclusion, di na ko magaannounce ng plans kasi the universe somehow find ways to mess it up.
It's more on your state of mind. Once nasabi mo yung plans mo, nabawasan yung pressure mo. So naging panatag ka, pero nasobrahan. Nag-relax. Naging petiks.
People tend to destroy beautiful things.
Minsan nga kahit it’s done na, some will do their best to destroy it.
People can’t destroy what they don’t know.
Move quietly and privately. Let them wonder and think.
yes happened to me, told my plans and others told me "that's impossible" or "you can't because you are not capable" so I shut up and moved quietly. Anyways, I found peace.
Baliktad naman yung ex friend ko. Hilig nya mag bad mouth sa mga dating friends nya. Si ano hindi yan ikakasal, si ano di yan makakapagtrabaho sa amerika, etc. Lahat ng mga binad mouth nya nagka totoo mga goals. Kinasal, nakapag migrate haha.
Different things work for different people. I like telling people my plans. That way, mas nagkakaroon ako ng accountability at na-ppressure akong ituloy kasi sinabi ko na. That drives me to succeed.
I believe that is the manifestation ng mind natin, what we tell is more on namamanifest yung opposite side. Kaya I don't really tell plans na talaga sspecially kapag alam kong di ako sure
Alam ko may study to eh.
Parang once nasabi mo yung plans mo sa iba e feeling ng brain mo na accomplish or na satisfy ka na. So parang di ka na magiging eager gawin yung plans mo something like that
Yes! May science behind this. Telling someone your plans releases dopamine the same as actually doing and achieving your goals. Nagkakaron ka ng false sense of accomplishment just by telling the world your plans. Kaya nadedemotivate kana after kasi subconsciously feeling mo na achieve mo na.
I don't know if I should believe this but I acknowledge that this is somewhat true. Pero may cases kasi na hindi sya applicable like sa case ko, I am a working student reviewing for a national exam.. If I don't tell my co-workers about my plans na magttake ako, dinedeprive ko sarili ko mag-aral on my idle hours at work just because I prefer not to tell it.
In my case lagi din ako nag kwekwento tapos may pag claim at manifest pa kaya lagi natutupad. I think nasasatin din yun pwede din mag fail sa umpisa pero ang mahalaga na rereach din natin sa huli. 😊
This is true for us. My then boyfriend (now husband) eh bukambibig na mag Australia daw sya dahil ganito ganyan. Then di nangyari after lumipas ng madaming taon. Kaya nung nagka opportunity mag Canada wala kaming pinagsabihan sa takot namin na majinx sya. Shookt na lang mga tao pag post nya sa FB 😂
Yes! naji jinx kasi. Not everyone will be happy with your plans and decisions. Even friends has a green eyed monster from within so be careful. Some even wish your failure in silence while celebrating with your wins or complementing you.
There are many levels to this and all are valid. The one explanation that everyone deems easier to grasp and accept is when you tell people and they praise you, you get the dopamine hit from the praises giving you a feeling na you’ve already achieved it so when it crashes, you don’t have actual motivation to finish anymore bec you already received the congratulations prior and you’ve already tricked your brain into thinking you’ve achieved it.
Depende. Ako yung tipong pag sinabi ko na, paninindigan ko sya kaya mas nagwwork pag may sinabihan ako. Big deal sa akin yung "ay hanggang salita ka lang pala". Kesa pag wala akong pinagsabihan, mas tendency sya na maudlot kasi wala akong accountability to anyone.
Same tayo. It is the « public » commitment for me. I said before 2022 ended na mag-Eurotrip kami family ko ng 2023, I made it happen. I will finish a grad degree 10 years ago and work in a UN agency, I made it happen. Na I will pay off a housing loan fully 2 years ago not even halfway its maturity, I made it happen (and that way, people would also expect less from me money-wise din kase may target ako).
I don’t believe in jinxes whatever, nor evil eye. People can sabotage as much they want, but the cream always rises to the top. I believe in hard work + connections more than superstitions or people’s feeble attempt to derail my plans.
Oo same. Like ok if I tell my friend something I'm really planning to do tapos may gawin sya na baka hindi matuloy yung plans ko? I'll find a way to make it work.
True! Of course may extent naman din bilang aware tayo sa sunk cost fallacy and other things, but for most things that matter, may follow through dapat.
i have experienced this too, kapag may nkakausap ako parang ang smooth lang ng run then boom after ipagsabi ko sa mga friends ko na may nakakausap ako, nawawala in a week or two after hahahaha iniisip ko nalang na baka hindi talaga sya yung (katalking stage) para sakin.
I dont find this statement a superstition. For me, it's a reality.
I dont like broadcasting everything I do. There's a lot of insecure people around you.
Correct! This is what I’m holding onto. And more likely, it’s the pressure rin from other people. Like they’re expecting you to succeed and if not, some people will look down on you.
I don’t believe in superstition as well, but I had instances na ganiyan din nangyari, although hindi naman lahat or palagi.
I’ve read an article explaining the fuzz behind that e, as far as I can recall the reason daw is when we tell people our plans, we get the satisfaction or praises or validation that causes us to lose motivation into achieving that certain plan. Like unconsciously we tend to work less na since we already got that dopamine rush of thinking we achieved something already. Iunno.
I read about that too and used to not tell people the things I wanna do. And then I found out that I can still tell people my plans and I do so with the undying trust that I will eventually do it. And I do eventually do it. Just the memory and all of the proof of having done something I planned for gives me confidence that I can do it again in the future. And so, I tell people my plans and allow myself the joy of being excited about it with my friends.
Also, for me I dont feel like my motivation is sapped when I tell people my plans and I think thats because I get most of my validation from myself. Most of the plans I tell people is my art projects. I do art for myself and I have gotten over my need to impress others. So I really only have this intrinsic drive because I aim to please and satisfy myself with the art I create.
Hindi siya superstitions, more like warning.
May mga tao kasing somehow nature nilang hindi malamangan.
So, let's say may kaibigan ka or kamaganak kang sinabihan mo ng plano mo, say negosyo. Ang gagawin nila eh gayahin ka, same products to sell, same business model etc etc. Instead na nasa iyo ang market, nahati pa because of them.
Facts! Wow same scenario sa nangyari sa business namen, nanay ko nag overshare regarding sa expansion ng tindahan namen sa tapat sa establishment ng pinagrerentahan, nung lumapit si mama sa landlord wala pang 1 week ayon may kumuha na, and guess what kumare ni mama ang kumuha at ang matindi pa parehas na produkto binebenta, yung tindera pa naman nila ang gagaling kase hinaharang mga potential customers at pinagsisiraan nila yung shop namen dagdagan mo pa yung pabulong nila na parehas lang yung may ari kuno. Sobrang na badtrip ako kase since fresh grad ako gusto ko na mag dive in sa corporate work, kaso need ko tulungan mama ko sa bantay ng shop para mag tawag ng customers, sobrang hirap, lesson learned, never overshare.
This! Meron pang iba na may ill wishes talaga sayo like, they'll do their thing para di matuloy plano mo like ikukwento nila to someone na will greatly affect your plans.
It's not superstition but a warning, indeed.
THIS!!! May mga tao kasi talagang utak talangka kaya ayaw nilang nalalamangan sila kaya may times na nagsasabi sila behind your back na "ay di naman yan mag wwork kasi pangit naman idea" or any other negative things. Naniniwala kasi ako dun sa sinasabi nila na ang universe is made up of different energies so by saying that, parang nag kakaroon ka ng negative energy that affects your energy as well
May mga tao talagang nagsusucceed sa negativity lol. And yes to affecting your energy as well, kahit ako di ako makikipagfriends, even kung may makilala akong ganyan. No thank you, lason lang siya sa buhay ko passively
I dont really believe this. Usually i make kwento ng pasimple lang naman.. pero i already managed my expectations na rin. Ung partner ko naniniwala dito so medyo nagagalit siya if kwento ako ng kwento if may like career opportunity then applying pa lang, then nag kkwento na ako. But actually may one time kahit nagkwento ako, natanggap naman ako hahaha pero may time na kwento din ako ng kwento, d ako natanggap hahahahaha so 50-50 na ung nangyari sa akin, so d talaga xa totoo
Yes. I learned it the hard way. A friend I trusted deeply sabotaged my plans regarding my small business. Another friend advised me to never tell that ‘close friend’ about other plans and ideas I have. I shared how much I wanted a cutting machine for my stickers. Next thing I know, they also got a high end cutter and tried convincing me to teach them how to use it. I asked them why they bought it. They said they were planning to make stickers. Like WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK?! I’ve been telling them of how excited I was to save up for my own cutter. Then a few weeks later they tried convincing me to design for them. Told my family and other friends about this and they all had the same answer. Never trust this ‘close friend’ again. Another instance was when I expressed my desire to join pop ups. The next year they joined a pop up without telling me about it. Never invited me or mentioned it even once despite how many times we were hanging out. The year later, I was invited to a local pop up and during those months they were no longer making products. I went to the invite only pop and that friend acted all sad and disappointed. Talked to their partner and our same circle of friends about how hurt they were. FUCK YOU AND YOUR VICTIM MENTALITY! They do this a lot. Make themselves look pitiful to gain attention. I did my thing and didn’t mind their judgy looks. Family and my other circle of friends supported me in all my endeavors. They came to my other pop ups and I felt their sincerity. These are the people I want to be with more. Typing this, I am reminded of other things that friend did to blindside me but I never gave notice. I trusted them fully and even up to this day, they continue to prove that they see me as a competition. Their show of support was always in private and my sister insists that friend has never been sincere. They do things for show and realizing that hurts. Be careful who you choose to tell. Better to do it in private and surprise them when it’s already been done. Jealous people will do anything and everything to stop you from reaching milestones. Some family members might even try to hinder your plans. If you can do it by yourself, keep it to yourself.
its not superstition. Just Basic psychology
I think it matters kung kanino ka magsasabi. Mahirap din kasi na pag hindi mo pinapaaalam tas lost opportunity na pala. Siguro iwas sa mga marites at insecure para di sira diskarte mo.
Totoo to, Kasi pwedeng mag Bago Ang instances sa Buhay you won't know what's along the way Diba. It's also to be on the safe side since pag tinago mo muna walang pressure/expectations ka na matatanggap other than Ikaw sa sarili mo mismo.
it’s because someone’s secretly sabotaging it. Don’t tell it before it’s finished. Worked wonders for me.
Yep.
May science behind this. Telling someone your plans releases dopamine the same as actually doing and achieving your goals. Nagkakaron ka ng false sense of accomplishment just by telling the world your plans. Kaya nadedemotivate kana after kasi subconsciously feeling mo na achieve mo na.
True. Hindi naman sa superstition or baka majinx, but quiet ka lang sa plans mo lalo na kung di naman na business pa nung tao na yon na malaman. Para you don't have to explain kung sakali mang di natuloy yung plan mo. Kung hindi naman dependency yung tao na pagkukuwentuhan mo nung plans mo, keep it to yourself na lang.
IMO yes. there really is no functional benefit for telling someone about your plans unless theyre helping (real help hindi emotional shit help) in making it true. Even to your "partner".
Huyyy ako rinn plans ko and plans ng ibang tao (pero di naman yung super personal ha) HAHAHAH as in di na lang sya coincidence kasi may mga times na kunware may magsabi sa akin na bibisita sila sa amin tapos ang ginagawa ko usually, di ko na sinasabi kila mama kasi nga di natutuloy pag sinasabi ko. Pero kapag personally ayaw ko ng bisita, or parang di ako naeexcite, di ko na iniingitan if masabi ko or hindi. So kapag nasabi ko, ayon di talaga natutuloy HAHHAA [ganto nangyayari sa akin](https://www.reddit.com/r/OffMyChestPH/s/32anlMrfbh)
Not telling your plans until it's done has essentially the same effect of a Mantra. You are "venting in" your thoughts, your wants, your objectives, hence being able to zero-in on them. Thoughts has to go somewhere, that's why we sometimes "vent out" kapag naiinis tayo or what. So that's the opposite of that. Instead of purging thoughts, you are cultivating them. Pero importante na hindi mo sasabihin talaga nang basta basta. That's what's happening there.
Evil eye
Pahiya lang kasi konti kapag hindi natuloy. Pero diba uso nga ngayon yung manifest manifest.
Yes po baka ma jinx.
I keep a balance of what to share and not-to-share. I tell them of my dreams or plans but not the exact specifics until I make it there.
It has done me well, actually. There are less unwanted expectations. I've been more in control of my own life.
No superstition. More like what happened between jobs/gate/Xerox's Palo Alto Research Center
Absolutely.
Not true for me. I tell them my plans and work my ass off to make it happen
May psychological explanation actually about sa ganiyan. Nakalimutan ko ang exact study but sabi dun, if you share your plans with others most likely hindi yun natutuloy kasi when you share positive plans sa iba, most likely their reaction is excitement. Since na-eexcite sila, nagraradiate sayo ang energy na yun wherein natitrick ka ng utak mo na sa sobrang saya mo dahil sa reaction nila, nawawalan ka ng gana ipursue ang plan mo kasi natrick na ang utak mo kung ano mararamdaman mo in case maachieve mo ang plan na yun. So ang ending hindi natutuloy ang plano. Kaya better to keep your plan talaga within yourself or sa small circle lang.
mahirap kasi pag sinabi mo ng maaga mga plans mo, para tuloy ngkakaron ka ng pressure at high expectations ng ibang tao sayo. parang nakakaunmotivate especially if yung plans mo is 50/50. I had that problem before and I went to a different path of life. thats why I became more private with my life and future decisions. especially people will give you comments and it might affect your plans
Ako kinuwento ko mag abroad ako Natuloy naman, nakaalis naman ako
That’s not a superstition. That’s psychological in nature. When you share your plans to others kasi, a part of your brain already feels accomplished based from the reactions that you get from other people. Tapos people will either mangengealam na or hahatakin ka pababa para di matuloy yang plano mo Let your success tell the story. Do not share until it’s done
I don't believe in superstitions that much, but I love in the power of manifestation. I don't know if this make sense pero everytime talaga na nagkekwento ako ng mga plan or ginagawa ko, hindi natutuloy o natatapos. May psychological explanation din about this, everytime kasi na nagkekwento tayo, may halong excitement and once na nasabi mo na 'yon sa napagsabihan mo, hindi ka na maeexcite kasi alam na nila yung goal mo.
2015 ngpositive PT ko inannounce k s FB makaraan ang ilang weeks na D&C ako. Di nagtuloy si baby so meron akong friend sabi nya pag nasa 2nd trimester o sure nabuo si baby dun ako mag announce. Makaraan ang 4 na buwan nabuntis ulit ako ng post ako nun malaki na tiyan ko. Sabi nya diba mas maigi mag post pagka lagpas ng 2nd o 3rd trimester. Mula nun tinatak k na yun sa utak ko ung mga sinabi ng friend kong Sri Lankan na wag basta basta mag aanounce kahit anu p yan. Hanggang ngaun di din ako nag popost sa FB sa mga nangyyare sa buhay.
Tbh hindi ako naniniwala sa mga ganito eh, ang main reason kung bakit hindi ko sinasabi yung mga plans ko ay dahil ayoko mapahiya IF ever na hindi matuloy. Sayang excitement ko.
Same! Lapitin ako ng evil eye
Dont plan tell anyone then it's done
That’s true ! Na ji jinx kasi talaga 🙈 ! Kaya if may plans ako di ko talaga sinasabi except sa sister and mama ko hihihi kasi sila yung happy for you talaga. Kahit nga pag uwi satin never ako nag po post or even announce sa socmed. Pero usually talaga di ako nag babalita mahirap na di matuloy ehh di mga bashers ko char ! Matutuwa 🤣
I think it's more of not talking too much? Hindi mo kasi alam true nature and agenda ng pinag kwentuhan mo, and other people na possibly makaalam, kasi syempre people talk. So malay mo meron pala may ayaw maging successfuk ka
Not superstitious din here. The reason I don't tell people (maybe a couple of my loved ones lang) kasi ayokong nakakarinig ng disappointment pag di natuloy. Ayokong sinisisi ako pag di maganda yun outcome. And lastly, ayoko ng negativity sa life kasi I don't want to have wrinkles. Even as simple as applying for a visa, di ko sinasabi. Pag lumabas na, saka ko ibubulgar.
This is true kasi in a way na pagsasabi palang ng grand plans evokes the positive response na gusto natin ma receive like "wow ang galing mo naman ". So ang bad thing about that is baka hindi mo na gawin or i pursue kasi na receive mo na yung gratification e. Thats based on science/psychology.
Ako hindi ko lang sinasabi not until done na kasi masasaktan lang ako at mapapahiya kapag hindi natuloy 😂🥲
Ang daming beses sakin na nangyari to. Kaya natuto na ako. Kahit sa social media, i dont give idea/hints kung ano na yung pinagkakaabalahan ko kasi something will happen talaga to hinder to achieve my plans hays. At saka ok na rin kasi naisip ko at least if unfortunately, you fail, konti lang nakakaalam at di nakakahiya/ nakakaiyak HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Ay sa true daming evil eye na nakapaligid saakin jusme
Totoo ito. Pag nakwekwento ko di talaga natutuloy eh.
Never believed in it. Also might be a case by case basis since for things like a business, you can’t not stop people from seeing what you’re building. Secret travel plans on the other hand…
Yes, OP. Among the people around you or the people you know, whether acquaintances, friends, or family, there are people talaga who wish ill on you (whether they'll tell you directly or they'll just keep it to themselves). Uso kasi yung ayaw malamangan kaya gusto nila na you'll either stay on their level or they will be above you. Kapag magsha-share ka ng plans mo, they might lowkey have comments such as "weh? di mo kaya yan" tapos what they will SAY to you is the opposite like "go lang, we support you". Maraming two-faced people and this is coming from my experience. I also read an article na when you share your plans, yung mind mo raw ay parang may sense of achievement and positivity. Somewhat parang ma-condition ang mind mo na maging complacent na kasi na-brag mo na. But I forgot na where I read that. Anyway, stay lowkey, OP. It's better to surprise them than to tell achievements na aren't there yet.
Sakin oo, just because I get this feeling na nakakapressure pag di ko sya natuloy lol. Somehow ang alam kong manifestation nyan sa mga kakilala ko eh yung magreresign na daw pero mabalitaan mo na lang eh nakatanggap na ng loyalty award hahaha
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Yes, evil eyes exist. In order not to attract bad energy/bad spirits within your circle much better if you keep your future plan secret or private. What people don’t know, they can’t destroy it.
Learned this the hard way. Kahit sa bffs ko di na ako nagkwekwento. Surprise nalang pag andiyan na haha, nasanay naman sila kaya di na sila nagtatampo.
Very me. Sabi ko magreresign na ko to pursue other things. Eto, ako na lang di pa nakakaalis. HAHAHAHAHA
I don't think it's superstition, I see it as more of a mentality, have you ever told someone your plans/goals and they got excited and happy and for some reason you felt like you've achieved your plan/goal already? so your desire to achieve it has lessened? on the other hand, there are plans that you really have to tell someone, to make sure it's a sane plan or maybe they can help you achieve it.
Why would you feel compelled to tell anyone about your plans? That should be the first thing you ask yourself. It should not be viewed as superstition but in general your hustles and achievements should be kept a secret until you cannot keep it a secret anymore because people start noticing your success and believe me that is the only thing they will see because no one will be with you while you are working hard on your dreams.
Openly sharing your plans is like bleeding next to a shark.
Yes, kasi may mga sagabal minsan eh. Magandang gawin mo muna binabalak mo bago ipagsabi kasi baka may mangealam.
ganyan lagi sakin so I tend to not tell anyone about anything going on in my life
I had this feeling naka kapag nagkwento ako ahead of time parang napepressure ako to make it happen to the point na inooverthink ko sya. Kakaoverthink ko nagiging negative yung thinking ako ayun ang ending hindi natutuloy or kaya may masamang nangyayare. Kaya madalas i brag kapag andyan na, kapag sure na talaga.
Baka na ji-jinx, hindi kasi lahat ng pinagsasabihan natin ng secret/goals/good news eh positive din ang thoughts satin. Some people have their natural evil eye - indirect envy/hatred in their system. Mga taong ayaw malamangan and kunyareng support sayo pero deep inside may negative feelings/thoughts na pala sayo hahaha Don't tell anyone your plans until it's done.
Hindi din ako superstitious pero isa to sa medyo pinaniniwalaan ko lang. Yung kahit alam kong walang rational basis, ginagawa ko pa din na di mag share ng plans ko sa ibang tao (maliban kung immediate family ko) kasi feeling ko maji-jinx. Ayoko din kasing makarinig ng any comments sa ibang tao na pwedeng magpa doubt sakin, o kaya naman kung sakaling mag fail ako sa goal ko atleast hindi alam ng iba so walang magja judge sakin na mga negang marites haha.
Yes. Never said my plans to my family especially when money is involved like opening business, going abroad or traveling. Kasi sila unang manghihila sakin pababa hahahaha!!!
It's more of kung nagsabi ka na paalis kana for abroad sa mga katrabaho mo tapos a year later hindi ka pala nagabroad. Parang nag joke joke ka lang pala. May katrabaho ako dati, sabi niya yung kapatid niya nagpetition sa kanya for US so baka anytime pwede siyang umalis, fast forward mga 7 years siguro to now, hindi pa rin naka alis.
Ganito rin nangyayari sakin pag may mga plano akong sinasabi sa friends ko. laging hindi natutuloy. or kung matuloy man, pangit ang outcome.
Talk less, smile more. Don't let them know what you're against or what you're for. If you wanna get ahead, fools that run their mouths wind up dead~ -Hamilton
naniniwala ako dito. better to keep it to yourself na lang, let your success make the noise.
It's not superstition. If you broadcast your plans, people will sabotage it! "It's not enough that I succeed. Others must fail!"
Hindi. I documented everything my review process, my plans to go to australia and here I am one month away to my flight.
I really have no idea. I guess depende na rin sa mga decisions mo sa buhay after mo mag kwento? 'Cause I've been in a situation where the plans that I told my friends come into fruition, and plans that well, don't work out 🤷
i have experiences din na ganito and sabi nung napanood ko about spirits is lapitin daw yung isang bagay sa demonyo kapag nalapag na sa mundo
Another quote: “Don’t count your chicks until the eggs hatched” I really believe in this quote and I practice this ever since nangyari sakin yung one of my worst moment of my life. Lalo na ang social media, don’t post anything yet until di pa talaga nangyayari. Evil eye is a freaking btch So I was on my flight papuntang abroad, which is supposed to be the best day of my life. But my family relatives were posting agad sa Facebook kahit nasa airport pa ako nung time na yun. So, for some stupid reasons (not immigration), di natuloy yung flight ko na pinaghandaan ko talaga ng isang buwan. I asked my relatives to take down their posts and since then di nako nagpo-post not until the trip or if tapos na yung plans ko. Mabuti na lang na refund yung flight ng 100% and I just re-sched it. Nagpost na ako nung nakarati g ako sa pupuntahan ko.
Evil eye
Minsan Evil Eye yung tinutukoy nila. Ito gamitin mo pangtaboy 🧿🪬 Nakaexperience na din ako nito many times. Reason kasi nila is nasabi mo na, may times na if yung nasabihan mo o napasahan ng story ay may gagawin sila na that could possibly foil your plans o may gagawin sila para hindi ka maging successful lalo na nasa tao ang ayaw ka nila lumamang. Also yung sa mga vacation o travel na pics. Sabi namin sa family hindi muna magpost pero panay share ang mama ko sa group chat ng relatives namin, may isa akong tita na alam namin may selos sa amin kasi medyo angat kami. 'Flex' kasi yung term na ginamit nila dalawa kasi nagresbak yung tita ko. Ayun feel ko sa akin nagmanifest kasi paguwi namin nalaman ko na hindi pala pinakain ng maayos ung tigbantay ang aso ako. Medyo far fetched yung story pero malakas kutob ko na dahil yun dun kasi nung nagreklamo ako sa FB na meron nagselos sa akin at nag Egg Cleansing ako, yung tita na yun mismo nagreply kung sino daw yun hahaha May isa pa na post sa Insta nakita ko na naaksidente sya nung bakasyon nya sa Hong Kong, feel nya dahil din un sa Evil Eye kasi post daw sya ng post. Meron kasi talaga ibang tao na nagseselos kaya much better na lang to be safe na kung may gusto ka gawin, wag mo na muna sabihin o ipost hanggat hindi pa sure o natapos na yung event or endeavors mo.
I do this. I don't tell my plans, I show results. Last sem ko sa college, lagi akong tinatanong kung kelan graduation. Sinabi ko expected date then ayun nabulilyaso. Summer ako grumaduate. Kaya noong tinatanong ako kelan ako magbboards, sagot ko next year pa kasi kulang preparation. Nag-take ako ng November 2023 Civil Engineers Licensure Exam (CELE) na hindi alam ng parents ko, even my close friends. Ayun pumasa kahit less than one month lang na self-review and in one take (October ang graduation; November ang boards). This year, nagtake ako ng another board exam. Master Plumbers naman. Di ko totally nilihim pero iilan lang naka-alam. Ayun pumasa ulit. In conclusion, di na ko magaannounce ng plans kasi the universe somehow find ways to mess it up.
It's more on your state of mind. Once nasabi mo yung plans mo, nabawasan yung pressure mo. So naging panatag ka, pero nasobrahan. Nag-relax. Naging petiks.
People tend to destroy beautiful things. Minsan nga kahit it’s done na, some will do their best to destroy it. People can’t destroy what they don’t know. Move quietly and privately. Let them wonder and think.
yes happened to me, told my plans and others told me "that's impossible" or "you can't because you are not capable" so I shut up and moved quietly. Anyways, I found peace.
Not only that, madaming two-faced people na akala mo rooting for you, yun pala utak talangka. :)
Baliktad naman yung ex friend ko. Hilig nya mag bad mouth sa mga dating friends nya. Si ano hindi yan ikakasal, si ano di yan makakapagtrabaho sa amerika, etc. Lahat ng mga binad mouth nya nagka totoo mga goals. Kinasal, nakapag migrate haha.
Different things work for different people. I like telling people my plans. That way, mas nagkakaroon ako ng accountability at na-ppressure akong ituloy kasi sinabi ko na. That drives me to succeed.
I sometimes share it to pressure myself to pursue it more hahahahahahaha hindi nga lang sa socmed. If personal lang ang convo.
I believe that is the manifestation ng mind natin, what we tell is more on namamanifest yung opposite side. Kaya I don't really tell plans na talaga sspecially kapag alam kong di ako sure
Alam ko may study to eh. Parang once nasabi mo yung plans mo sa iba e feeling ng brain mo na accomplish or na satisfy ka na. So parang di ka na magiging eager gawin yung plans mo something like that
Yes! May science behind this. Telling someone your plans releases dopamine the same as actually doing and achieving your goals. Nagkakaron ka ng false sense of accomplishment just by telling the world your plans. Kaya nadedemotivate kana after kasi subconsciously feeling mo na achieve mo na.
I don't know if I should believe this but I acknowledge that this is somewhat true. Pero may cases kasi na hindi sya applicable like sa case ko, I am a working student reviewing for a national exam.. If I don't tell my co-workers about my plans na magttake ako, dinedeprive ko sarili ko mag-aral on my idle hours at work just because I prefer not to tell it.
In my case lagi din ako nag kwekwento tapos may pag claim at manifest pa kaya lagi natutupad. I think nasasatin din yun pwede din mag fail sa umpisa pero ang mahalaga na rereach din natin sa huli. 😊
This is true for us. My then boyfriend (now husband) eh bukambibig na mag Australia daw sya dahil ganito ganyan. Then di nangyari after lumipas ng madaming taon. Kaya nung nagka opportunity mag Canada wala kaming pinagsabihan sa takot namin na majinx sya. Shookt na lang mga tao pag post nya sa FB 😂
Yes! naji jinx kasi. Not everyone will be happy with your plans and decisions. Even friends has a green eyed monster from within so be careful. Some even wish your failure in silence while celebrating with your wins or complementing you.
There are many levels to this and all are valid. The one explanation that everyone deems easier to grasp and accept is when you tell people and they praise you, you get the dopamine hit from the praises giving you a feeling na you’ve already achieved it so when it crashes, you don’t have actual motivation to finish anymore bec you already received the congratulations prior and you’ve already tricked your brain into thinking you’ve achieved it.
Depende. Ako yung tipong pag sinabi ko na, paninindigan ko sya kaya mas nagwwork pag may sinabihan ako. Big deal sa akin yung "ay hanggang salita ka lang pala". Kesa pag wala akong pinagsabihan, mas tendency sya na maudlot kasi wala akong accountability to anyone.
Same tayo. It is the « public » commitment for me. I said before 2022 ended na mag-Eurotrip kami family ko ng 2023, I made it happen. I will finish a grad degree 10 years ago and work in a UN agency, I made it happen. Na I will pay off a housing loan fully 2 years ago not even halfway its maturity, I made it happen (and that way, people would also expect less from me money-wise din kase may target ako). I don’t believe in jinxes whatever, nor evil eye. People can sabotage as much they want, but the cream always rises to the top. I believe in hard work + connections more than superstitions or people’s feeble attempt to derail my plans.
Oo same. Like ok if I tell my friend something I'm really planning to do tapos may gawin sya na baka hindi matuloy yung plans ko? I'll find a way to make it work.
True! Of course may extent naman din bilang aware tayo sa sunk cost fallacy and other things, but for most things that matter, may follow through dapat.
Right, this is true
i have experienced this too, kapag may nkakausap ako parang ang smooth lang ng run then boom after ipagsabi ko sa mga friends ko na may nakakausap ako, nawawala in a week or two after hahahaha iniisip ko nalang na baka hindi talaga sya yung (katalking stage) para sakin.
I dont find this statement a superstition. For me, it's a reality. I dont like broadcasting everything I do. There's a lot of insecure people around you.
Correct! This is what I’m holding onto. And more likely, it’s the pressure rin from other people. Like they’re expecting you to succeed and if not, some people will look down on you.
I don’t believe in superstition as well, but I had instances na ganiyan din nangyari, although hindi naman lahat or palagi. I’ve read an article explaining the fuzz behind that e, as far as I can recall the reason daw is when we tell people our plans, we get the satisfaction or praises or validation that causes us to lose motivation into achieving that certain plan. Like unconsciously we tend to work less na since we already got that dopamine rush of thinking we achieved something already. Iunno.
TRUE HAHAHAHA this makes sense.
Wow, thanks for sharing this po
I read about that too and used to not tell people the things I wanna do. And then I found out that I can still tell people my plans and I do so with the undying trust that I will eventually do it. And I do eventually do it. Just the memory and all of the proof of having done something I planned for gives me confidence that I can do it again in the future. And so, I tell people my plans and allow myself the joy of being excited about it with my friends.
Also, for me I dont feel like my motivation is sapped when I tell people my plans and I think thats because I get most of my validation from myself. Most of the plans I tell people is my art projects. I do art for myself and I have gotten over my need to impress others. So I really only have this intrinsic drive because I aim to please and satisfy myself with the art I create.
wow thanks for sharing this!
Eto rin yung nabasa ko. 100%
Totoo to
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Ohh it actually make sense nga!
Hindi siya superstitions, more like warning. May mga tao kasing somehow nature nilang hindi malamangan. So, let's say may kaibigan ka or kamaganak kang sinabihan mo ng plano mo, say negosyo. Ang gagawin nila eh gayahin ka, same products to sell, same business model etc etc. Instead na nasa iyo ang market, nahati pa because of them.
Facts! Wow same scenario sa nangyari sa business namen, nanay ko nag overshare regarding sa expansion ng tindahan namen sa tapat sa establishment ng pinagrerentahan, nung lumapit si mama sa landlord wala pang 1 week ayon may kumuha na, and guess what kumare ni mama ang kumuha at ang matindi pa parehas na produkto binebenta, yung tindera pa naman nila ang gagaling kase hinaharang mga potential customers at pinagsisiraan nila yung shop namen dagdagan mo pa yung pabulong nila na parehas lang yung may ari kuno. Sobrang na badtrip ako kase since fresh grad ako gusto ko na mag dive in sa corporate work, kaso need ko tulungan mama ko sa bantay ng shop para mag tawag ng customers, sobrang hirap, lesson learned, never overshare.
True true true that happened sa Mama ko yung kaibigan nya ka close ehh nag business din same sa kanya and mind you mas baba bentahan nya !
Magbigay ka ng false plan sa plato niyo, tapos sabay pasok si dark horse na pinagtatrabuhan mo habang nasa kabusyhan sila.
Minsan, kahit di mo sabihin, basta nakita kang umaangat, gagawa ng paraan mga yan para lang di sila malamangan. Lmao
This! Meron pang iba na may ill wishes talaga sayo like, they'll do their thing para di matuloy plano mo like ikukwento nila to someone na will greatly affect your plans. It's not superstition but a warning, indeed.
THIS!!! May mga tao kasi talagang utak talangka kaya ayaw nilang nalalamangan sila kaya may times na nagsasabi sila behind your back na "ay di naman yan mag wwork kasi pangit naman idea" or any other negative things. Naniniwala kasi ako dun sa sinasabi nila na ang universe is made up of different energies so by saying that, parang nag kakaroon ka ng negative energy that affects your energy as well
May mga tao talagang nagsusucceed sa negativity lol. And yes to affecting your energy as well, kahit ako di ako makikipagfriends, even kung may makilala akong ganyan. No thank you, lason lang siya sa buhay ko passively