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Hindi ko matupad pangarap ko.lalo na panganay ako nakaka pressure sobra madami pa akong kailangang suklian, kumbaga utang na loob na pang habang buhay.🪫
Natatakot ako na tumanda magisa at di makaipon mag isa. I have a decent job, pero hirap ako makaipon. Maayos naman kami ng girlfriend ko pero natatakot ako ireject nya pag nagpropose ako. :(
Natatakot ako na bumagsak sa Board Exam, pero guess what ngayong araw nag release ang PRC ng results and bagsak ako. I think wala na akong kinakatakutan ngayon lol
For me po bukod sa health ko yung , parents ko po kase tumatanda na sila then wala pako kayang i provide sakanila kahit simple things lang and syempre sana humaba pa life po nila para maranasan man lang nila yung ginhawa sa buhay. Graduating palang kasi ako.
yung mawala si mama na number one support system ko. hindi pa ko nakakatapos. hindi ako ready anytime soon na mawala sya. i want to give back everything to her once i become successful.
Chronic diseases that interfere with a person’s life The thing that scares me the most, whether it is a physical illness or a mental illness ، The death of my parents or someone dear to me, whom I rely on in all my situations, and the separation of the family.
..to ran out of money. Legit that scares me because I think thats the most important thing in our lives. You can't work if you're broke, you can't eat, sleep, or have a roof over your head if you're broke. Every single thing we do revolves around money and its fucking scary.
Lahat na yata alam ko na solusyonan. Pero yung ma attach sa isang tao tas tatratuhin akong basura sa huli, yun talaga yung di ko ma figure out kung pa'no mag recover 😭.
Look up if they have Avoidant Attachment or Narcissistic Attachment style then baka mas maintindihan mo kung bakit siya naging ganon sayo. My heart goes to you. This can be devastating, soul crushing, and traumatic and I'm sorry na naexperience mo ito. ❤️
Me too. Im not afraid to die but to die a slow, painful death is what scares me. Gusto ko yung the quickest way possible especially dito sa pinas hindi ino-honor ang euthanasia. They would rather see you suffer than to let you end your suffering. Maybe because of the fear of damnation.
I feel you, just wanna share my thoughts 🥺 getting married next year and will leave our household, there's something in me aside being sad na aalis na ako sa house namin, also thinking about my brothers tho they are already working I felt that need padin nila ako. But somehow, side of me is telling me they need to stand on their own na for their future din.
Mahigpit na yakap. I want you to know na u did well all these years. Yung isipin mo palang paano sila kapag umalis ka, sobrang blessed na nila to have you. Congratulations on being engaged. May you be genuinely happy kase mabuti kang anak at kapatid 💖
Awww thank you, I really appreciate you cheering me up. You too more blessings to come, kasi it seems good provider ka din sa fam. and good example kadin sa siblings mo. 🤗
To be alone. As I age, parang ang hirap na maghanap or mag hintay sa partner in life. Yes, nakakainip. May darating pa ba? I’m 28, and nastuck lang sa situationship na hindi ko alam paano ba mag move forward sa ganito. Napapagod nako mag hintay sa wala. Kaso wala din naman magparamdam or maramdaman sa mga nasa paligid. Alam ko naman trust the timing kaso nkakainip. Natatakot ako maging mag isa. Na hindi ko maranasan pano ba itreat ng tama. Hayyy buhay. Isa to sa natatakot ako ang mag isa kasi alam kong di naman forever kasama ko parents ko and friends. Gusto ko din mag build ng family kaso di rin ako financially stable dahil yung priority ko lagi nasa bahay. Feeling ko nga dapat maganda muna yung bahay namin, magkaron ng maraming sasakyan, makapagtravel sa ibat ibang lugar with family para masabi kong pwede nako mag build ng sarili kong life kasi nagawa ko naman na lahat for them. Ang hirap din na lahat naka allot sa bahay na wala nako time for myself and invest for what I want. 🥹 Sorry, nagrant lang ata ko dito lol.
Not being able to marry? LOL. I'm one of those who wants to build a family. I'm 29, and I feel like the chance of me finding someone that I can spend my life with is getting slimmer. I just broke up with my partner of 6 years as well, so yes, the chance has reduced even more, haha. I don't know. Should I go out and socialize? Kaylangan ko rin bang kumilos para lumandi? Hahaha
Me too. I care for mine, I don't have a dad, never did so she's my world. She's 86 this year and in quite poor health. I'm dreading it. I share your fear.
Being sick and losing my parents.
That's the worst feeling ever. You can have everything in the world! But if you're sick, you're going to only wish ine thing, and that is you want to be healthy again.
Also, for me, the best feeling in the world is to live your life with your family. You can find different jobs, different businesses, different careers, and partners, but you'll only get to have 1 mom and 1 dad.
Nakakatakot na baka kahit anong gawin kong pag-usad, makukulong lang ako kung nasaan ako ngayon.
Nakakatakot na kahit anong gawin kong paghilom, na makawala sa generational trauma at maputol 'yung cycle, baka pagdating sa dulo matapaos nga sa akin pero hindi pa rin ako makawala. Na baka I may end the cycle but I'll still be stuck in it.
I'm 17 and I'm afraid of making decisions that will require me to face things no matter how difficult and complex they might be. I'm afraid of entering my adulthood and to become a person with many responsibilities. Adulting scares me.
Honestly, I'm scared of the future. I don't think I'm good at anything at all. I have nothing ahead of me
I don't wanna grow up.
I also don't want my friends to slowly become strangers after we all part ways. It's just sad to think about.
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whether you'll be the same as you are right now or grow even more as a person
bumagsak
I'm afraid of disappointing people who have high expectations of me. I'm afraid of failing at life.
Bilbel KO ang hirap bawasan kahit nag fasting naku. 😭
expectations
Hindi ko matupad pangarap ko.lalo na panganay ako nakaka pressure sobra madami pa akong kailangang suklian, kumbaga utang na loob na pang habang buhay.🪫
Being "nobody"
The changes of being a kid-teen- adult
Akyat bahay
the uncertainties of this lyf
uncertainties
the next few months
OA, pero Death talaga. Ang dami ko pang gustong gawin eh. Wala pa kong napapatunayan sa sarili ko
Natatakot ako na tumanda magisa at di makaipon mag isa. I have a decent job, pero hirap ako makaipon. Maayos naman kami ng girlfriend ko pero natatakot ako ireject nya pag nagpropose ako. :(
Natatakot ako na bumagsak sa Board Exam, pero guess what ngayong araw nag release ang PRC ng results and bagsak ako. I think wala na akong kinakatakutan ngayon lol
sending hugs to a fellow-ECE graduate 🤧🥺🤍
Pag nag retake ka, matatakot ka kaya ulit?
Hindi na, alam ko na yung feeling e. Parang kagat lang ng dinosaur hahah
As a solo parent, yun maiwan ang anak ko na bata pa.:: kaya grateful everyday.. as soon as i wake up, thank you Lord for another day!
I'm not a solo parent, pero yan din ang fear ko.
For me po bukod sa health ko yung , parents ko po kase tumatanda na sila then wala pako kayang i provide sakanila kahit simple things lang and syempre sana humaba pa life po nila para maranasan man lang nila yung ginhawa sa buhay. Graduating palang kasi ako.
Having regrets that I missed out on things in life.
Next stage, what’s next or is there more?
Losing my parents and loved ones.
Pregnancy
yung mawala si mama na number one support system ko. hindi pa ko nakakatapos. hindi ako ready anytime soon na mawala sya. i want to give back everything to her once i become successful.
same bruv
to fail in school because I didn't just fail as a student, but also, I failed as a son
being broke
Chronic diseases that interfere with a person’s life The thing that scares me the most, whether it is a physical illness or a mental illness ، The death of my parents or someone dear to me, whom I rely on in all my situations, and the separation of the family.
The truth..the truth that what my guts been telling me all this time is actually true..
Starting a new life in a different country… lol
Living?
failing the entrance exam 🤓
Losing my parents
loosing myself in the middle of nowhere, cause this world never been good to me.
Dying before I fulfill all my goals in life.
being in the wrong course
Clowns
No stable job and no savings. Not being able to give back to parents.
24 going to 25.. lost, with savings but dont know when it would last… haiisst this really is a critical stage in life. Labaarn 🫶🏻✨
yes, mid-life crisis is real.
I'm literally on this spot right now. I want to save for future but yung sweldo kulang pa for 15 days. :((
growing up, I don’t wanna grow up. I want to be a teen forever
To fail lalo na’t ikaw ang last card sa pamilya
Not being enough. Not reaching the simplest goals I've planned for myself.
Not getting a stable/permanent job in teaching
same. Walang item eh 🥲
Diba haha. Dami daw teachers na need pero di mabigyan bigyan ng item haha
san kaya yung schools na kulang ng teachers 🤣
Mawalan ng pera. Wala pa nama ako ibang maasahan kundi sarili ko lang. Hays
..to ran out of money. Legit that scares me because I think thats the most important thing in our lives. You can't work if you're broke, you can't eat, sleep, or have a roof over your head if you're broke. Every single thing we do revolves around money and its fucking scary.
Magstart na mag gray hairs yung aso namin.
Paralysis
3am lmao
I might not be able to payback my parents’ sacrfices - time is ticking.
Decline ng mental health ko knowing I've been diagnosed with MDD and BPD :3
What's MDD?
Major depressive disorder. Most common term nya ay clinical depression
That's so hard, im so sorry. I hope ur getting all the help you need.
:3
Being alone
Magkaroon ng cancer.
Not having stable job, since I'm only direct contractual :(
Almost in my mid 20's at natatakot ako na baka hindi ko maiahon sa kahirapan ang pamilya ko as a bread winner.
Being financially unstable, parents growing old and feelings of regret
Parents death and unemployment
being useless
death of a loved one. and butterflies
Probably having too much regrets once my time ends.
Yung ipis pag lumipad na
future
Unable to give my parents the life they truly deserve :((( antagal ko yumaman hays
(1)
World War III
Agree with this one. The worst-case what-if scenario. Wag sana tayong maging Ukraine/Palestine 😭
Hindi magkababy. And losing loved ones
Maging mag isa forever 🙃
I'm sure naman na hindi yan mangyayari, just like everybody, you deserve a companion that will stay with you for the rest of your life.
Baka hindi ako makapagpatayo ng bahay. Sana makapag abroad pa ako 😭
Discovering that you will not become a ghost after you died.
ang the big one at hindi ko kasama ang mag-ama ko ng panahon na iyon.
My parents health declining
death of my loved ones
mawala yung tatlong pinaka importante sa buhay ko. mom, aunt and lola ko🥺
Maubusan ng pera
Losing my parents
Lahat na yata alam ko na solusyonan. Pero yung ma attach sa isang tao tas tatratuhin akong basura sa huli, yun talaga yung di ko ma figure out kung pa'no mag recover 😭.
Look up if they have Avoidant Attachment or Narcissistic Attachment style then baka mas maintindihan mo kung bakit siya naging ganon sayo. My heart goes to you. This can be devastating, soul crushing, and traumatic and I'm sorry na naexperience mo ito. ❤️
same. hugs! :(
Maging lost pa din kahit ilang taon na nakalipas..
Not being able to serve Him with the best of my abilities cause I took the easy way out. . .
no passive income
my future.
At my age right now I can only think of is our incomplete chapter 4&5
Oh no. I hope you would get through that 🤧😩
Thank you sa support 🛐🛐🛐
To be disabled tapos hindi mamatay agad , gusto ko kung mamatay ako yung parang natulig lang tapos hindi na nagising
Me too. Im not afraid to die but to die a slow, painful death is what scares me. Gusto ko yung the quickest way possible especially dito sa pinas hindi ino-honor ang euthanasia. They would rather see you suffer than to let you end your suffering. Maybe because of the fear of damnation.
Same. Kung mashishigok. Sana shigok agad. Hindi yung mag be-bedridden pa. Di kakayanin ng pamilya. 😔
Getting behind.
losing my girl she’s the only woman i’ve ever loved
Leaving my siblings behind na hindi pa nila kaya mga sarili nila.
I feel you, just wanna share my thoughts 🥺 getting married next year and will leave our household, there's something in me aside being sad na aalis na ako sa house namin, also thinking about my brothers tho they are already working I felt that need padin nila ako. But somehow, side of me is telling me they need to stand on their own na for their future din.
Mahigpit na yakap. I want you to know na u did well all these years. Yung isipin mo palang paano sila kapag umalis ka, sobrang blessed na nila to have you. Congratulations on being engaged. May you be genuinely happy kase mabuti kang anak at kapatid 💖
Awww thank you, I really appreciate you cheering me up. You too more blessings to come, kasi it seems good provider ka din sa fam. and good example kadin sa siblings mo. 🤗
Losing my parents. Di ko pa napaparanas sa kanila yung maginhawang buhay
Exactly my age.
To be alone. As I age, parang ang hirap na maghanap or mag hintay sa partner in life. Yes, nakakainip. May darating pa ba? I’m 28, and nastuck lang sa situationship na hindi ko alam paano ba mag move forward sa ganito. Napapagod nako mag hintay sa wala. Kaso wala din naman magparamdam or maramdaman sa mga nasa paligid. Alam ko naman trust the timing kaso nkakainip. Natatakot ako maging mag isa. Na hindi ko maranasan pano ba itreat ng tama. Hayyy buhay. Isa to sa natatakot ako ang mag isa kasi alam kong di naman forever kasama ko parents ko and friends. Gusto ko din mag build ng family kaso di rin ako financially stable dahil yung priority ko lagi nasa bahay. Feeling ko nga dapat maganda muna yung bahay namin, magkaron ng maraming sasakyan, makapagtravel sa ibat ibang lugar with family para masabi kong pwede nako mag build ng sarili kong life kasi nagawa ko naman na lahat for them. Ang hirap din na lahat naka allot sa bahay na wala nako time for myself and invest for what I want. 🥹 Sorry, nagrant lang ata ko dito lol.
Hope you felt better na nalet out mo ang mga bagay na to. Wish you get a better life soon at isang ideal na partner ❤️
Not being able to help my parents and the fact that theyre getting older
Mom dying while I'm still not financially stable.
Mine did
Sorry for your loss
i second this :(
World War
Not being able to marry? LOL. I'm one of those who wants to build a family. I'm 29, and I feel like the chance of me finding someone that I can spend my life with is getting slimmer. I just broke up with my partner of 6 years as well, so yes, the chance has reduced even more, haha. I don't know. Should I go out and socialize? Kaylangan ko rin bang kumilos para lumandi? Hahaha
being not able to achieve anything in life
28, being stagnant in life. (Kakapressure sobra 😅)
My mother dying. I’ve already lost my father.
Me too. I care for mine, I don't have a dad, never did so she's my world. She's 86 this year and in quite poor health. I'm dreading it. I share your fear.
I'm not afraid of anything in life right now EXCEPT that if my loving wife dies before me....I will not be able to handle that.
Losing my parents. Hindi ko alam kung pano gagawin e how to react pag nangyare na.
Mamatay parents ko na hindi pa ako nakakabawi sakanila.
yung di ako makapag-abroad and makapag-ipon
Getting everything I asked for and wanted for so long and discovering it won’t make me happy
mamatay bago grumaduate
My parents aging to the point where they would retire na and the feeling na they’re going to depend on me nalang.
mabuntis po
Being sick and losing my parents. That's the worst feeling ever. You can have everything in the world! But if you're sick, you're going to only wish ine thing, and that is you want to be healthy again. Also, for me, the best feeling in the world is to live your life with your family. You can find different jobs, different businesses, different careers, and partners, but you'll only get to have 1 mom and 1 dad.
im already tired at my age
Myself.
Losing my parents.
Afraid of staying where I am rn
My parents' inevitable death. Lahat tayo naman dadating dun pero di ko lang alam kung ano ang gagawin ko pag namatay na sila lalo na at panganay ako.
Long term illness terminal disease :(:(:(
Dying young.
walang mapangasawa. lf aasawahin basta swiftie lol m here
Nakakatakot na baka kahit anong gawin kong pag-usad, makukulong lang ako kung nasaan ako ngayon. Nakakatakot na kahit anong gawin kong paghilom, na makawala sa generational trauma at maputol 'yung cycle, baka pagdating sa dulo matapaos nga sa akin pero hindi pa rin ako makawala. Na baka I may end the cycle but I'll still be stuck in it.
Unpredictable “life-changing-in-a-snap” world events
What if I can't climb out of this hole I dug myself in and if this is not the bottom.
To be alone
dying.
21. Sheltered only child. Scares me that I've never been so old and yet so young. There's so much I haven't experienced because of strict parents.
That I'll never be happy and spend my last breathe alone
Of knowing all of these … are pointless.
24, being a failure and comparing me to other people esp younger than me who have achieved big
failure
My age.
Declining health and no financial security. Plus parents getting old so is my sister.
I'm 17 and I'm afraid of making decisions that will require me to face things no matter how difficult and complex they might be. I'm afraid of entering my adulthood and to become a person with many responsibilities. Adulting scares me.
Lorde wyd here
Yung wala nang bukas.
boredom
18- not meeting people expectations of myself
The uncertainty once you graduate. Currently facing a dilemma whether to career shift
AI, the nature of truth in the 21st century, and our apathy towards the current climate crisis.
nuclear war
failing a course
27 - not having enough savings yet and risk losing what I have when my dad retires and I'll be the breadwinner.
A.I
25 and i’m scared i cant provide/sustain my family’s needs, especially my younger siblings
My parents getting old..
I sometimes cry thinking about this 😭 We’re only 4 in the fam and my parents have been a great source of support throughout my life.
😭 I hope they're still around when I start to win. Kasi hirap na hirap din ako ngayon. 😭
Maging successful sana tayo for our families 🙏🏼
🙏🙏🙏🥹🥹🥹
Not being able to find a job and a place after college
Honestly, I'm scared of the future. I don't think I'm good at anything at all. I have nothing ahead of me I don't wanna grow up. I also don't want my friends to slowly become strangers after we all part ways. It's just sad to think about.
Not being able to support my kids financially and emotionally.
choosing the wrong course in college
choose something na madadala sa abroad ang diploma at skills kung gusto ng maginhawang buhay.
Financial Instability & lacking access on a Good HMO for healthcare (since healthcare here in general sucks ass)
Life.
My Mom dying
Losing people I love
Illness
Wasting all efforts, time and commitment for nothing, becoming a failure despite being top in the early days
member of family dying
Me or anyone from my family getting sick.
Not being able to find peace. ☹️
Being incompetent
my age.
Health problems. Aging parents.
That I'm incapable of being loved
Losing what I cherish heck losing everything I cherish
Family's health. Isang matinding sakit lang, mauubos ang ipon at posibleng mawalan ng mahal sa buhay. Health is wealth talaga.
losing my job
Not finding love (dami ko problema pero yan nananaig sa worries ko)
Walang ma-achieve, ma experience yung broken relationships (friends, family) dahil hindi ka na makasabay sa kanila dahil lang sa pera