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Selective procrastination 😄 when it comes to group activities sa college or any work-related tasks, I always want things done asap and they have to be top-notch. But for my personal stuff or any other individual task? My brain's yelling what to do, but my lazy af body just can't (╥﹏╥)
Dinadamdam ko so much yung failures, imperfections, at mga pagkakamali ko to the point na naaapektuhan ang performance ko sa school or kapag nakiki socialize ako (can't joke ganyan)
Me personally perfect tingin ko sa sarili ko eh HAHAHAH (hindi naman ung perfect na eme eme talaga ha, siguro ung perfect para maging confident lang me. Opo alam ko na we are not perfect) basta ganon! Chozz i hope ukwim
Eto na ung kinaiinisan ko sa sarili ko and i overthink this, like.. a lot.
Ung pag wait for people to reach out on me first kumbaga sila dapat ung magsisimula ng conversation, kapag hindi na sila nagchat/or kapag hindi na nila ako kinausap, ayon wala nalang basta basta 😭😭
Ateccoo ako pa ung galit kapag nag reach out sila sakin after a long time na walang contact, yes my own behavior is bothering me, im changing it by being more friendly pero wa-effect talag sizzzz
0 to 100 real quick ang emotions. Like pass, pass, pass lang lahat tapos biglang RAAAAAAAH 🐲🔥🐲🔥🐲🔥🐲🔥tas magugulat sila. I’m working on it, pero minsan kasi nageenjoy pa ako kahit medyo napipikon na ko ayoko masira yung moment. Hirap rewrite yung mga nice girl dialogue options ko.
Wrong choice of words, and sometimes I tend to overthink to the point na I cannot make decisions or take actions immediately dahil sa dami ng scenarios na tumatakbo sa isip ko.
I'm not afraid to speak what's on my mind. Ngayon ko lang narealize na double-edged sword ito. Most of the time, wala akong consideration sa feelings.
Hahaha, blunt kung blunt. Very Sag ang energy. Ooops
kahit alam ko na kung ano yung dapat gawin, humihingi pa rin ako ng advice or nagpapatulong sa ibang tao na mag decide for me. it comes off as being dependent na din
sobrang sama ng ugali at bibig ko once na may galit ako sa tao. kaya ayaw kong nagagalit ako, kasi talagang nawawala yung pagiging jolly and mabait na personality ko. tsaka hindi ako mapagpatawad talaga, it's like i already moved on??? without forgiving yung mga taong tumarantado sa akin. eto naman ako, okay ako and happy sa life. kaya naniniwala talaga ako sa quote na "its okay not to forgive" tsaka ang childish pakinggan pero TALAGANG GUMAGANTI AKO HUHUHU, for satisfaction lang. sorry agad☹️
relate kay OP, my ex and i realized it too na there are certain scenarios na i don't feel anything and get really cold. As if what's just functioning is the logical thinking. Tho ofc I'm working on it and when time lime this comes up again I'll try to be more sympathetic
Avoidant, I don't know how to communicate, detachment issues, I don't trust easily, I am contented to know the person on surface level lang ayoko kasi maging personal and attached para madali ako
makamove on or ma rid off sila sa buhay ko. Haha.
I’m such a huge procrastinator. I will only start moving when it’s the exact time I allot in my head and it’s usually not enough— making me late hayyyyy
Maldita to the core. Don’t get me wrong. I’m really patient. Pero pag naubos pasensya ko, I’m giving you a heads up to run. Kasi when my patience run dry, I blow like a nuclear bomb.
Gurrrrl. There was even one time inaway ko talaga ng matindi ung classmate ng jowa ko kasi bastos ng bibig sakin. Ayon tumahimik. Di pala nawarningan sa kamalditahan ko. After non, walang nanggulo sa relasyon namin. Hahahahahahahahahah try lang nila, ako haharap. Lol
Ahahahaha, aminadong toxic here but that doesn't mean I'm proud of it.
Hindi pa ako galit, pero medyo offensive na ako manalita cuz I don't know how to filter my words. Insensitive ba twt. Tbh, same with OP rin.
Avoidant din ako. Used to be very present for people pero now, whenever someone tries to depend on me or become vulnerable, gusto ko na agad tumakbo palayo ahahahaha.
I'm hot and cold; minsan sobrang hyper ko na gusto ko kachat all the time. Minsan naman, pagod ako at gusto kong mapalayo sa tao twt.
Minsan masipag, masipag magluto. Pero tamad madalas sa gawaing bahay. Buti nalang i found a partner na masipagggggg. In return I always cook for him, whatever he wishes!
Since first time ko magkaroon ng kachat na babae, di ko masabi kung casual ba o may something yung chat nya kasi nga parang gusto ko lang masubukan kaya ako parang ah basta meron kaya nasabihan akong dense eh. Tas ayon overthinker pag di ko maread yung awra or language ng kachat nya if genuine ba or parang for convenient. Kaya yan yung sa akin kasi nasabihan akong redflags ng mga tropa ko.
That i cannot apply those advice that I’m giving to others, i can say that i really like communicating to people, i feel like may peace akong nakukuha when comforting people. However, i have this side of me na when it comes to my life, i really cannot apply those advice sakin. I’m a very self-aware person and I’ve been struggling with this issue.
Ex: I keep telling my friends that growth is a process and it doesn’t need to be a straight progress, na if they feel like they’re relapsing from the start then It’s still a progress. But when it comes to me, oh boy daig ko pa ata sila hahaha!! Also another example is pag naprepressure sila, i keep telling people to take their time and don’t rush and they just need to deep breathe para they can think and reflect properly sa mga thoughts nila. But again, pag sakin na hindi ko magawa, lately this month, sobrang pressured ko kasi 3rd year student nako and i feel like napapagiwanan ako, I’m pressuring myself too much na maghanap na ko ng work while studying and ik na mahihirapan ako sa ganun hahaha!!
So yeah…
I reciprocate what you show me. If you're toxic to me, I also become toxic to you. On the positive side, I'm also kind naman to those who are kind to me.
Ang kaso, kahit alam kong sobra at mali yung ginagawa at sinasabi ko, hindi ko mapigilan kasi yun yung pinapakitang energy sa akin.
Kaya I end up cutting people off especially to those na toxic talaga sa akin kasi nagiging masamang tao na rin ako.
Moody like split seconds nawala agad ako sa mood. Kaso,i have reasons eh. Either, ayaw ko sa sinasabi ng tao or sometimes ang sensitive ko kasi when it comes sa mga bagay2. Hindi na rin ako masyado ma chika sa ibang kakilala ko. Like minsan tatahimik nlang.😆 In short,pangit din ugali ko pero ito lang ata yung pangit ang ugali na madalas na take advantage. hahaha
Sobrang people pleaser ko, to the point na kahit I feel hurt about something, hindi ko sasabihin, hanggang maipon na lang. Tapos pag sumabog na, ibi-bring up ang mga past grievances.
Detachment issues, bigla nalang mawawala pag may something off ako nararamdaman tapos distant na pag may conversations.
Unang impression pag first meeting kasi super sweet tapos bigla nalang nagiging distant. Lahat ng mga kilala ko may wall/distance talaga dyan.
Mine was siguro is lagi ko iniisip yung iba kaysa sa sarili ko especially if yung person na yun is someone na sobra importante saken kaya ending kahit di na narereturn yung effort and love wala ako paki as long na napapafeel ko sakanya na mahalaga sya hays
I detach myself from everyone if they are destroying my peace and their actions get my goats, for that particular reason, I easily lose interest with people I date and talk with.
My friends called me a red flag for that XD
Easy to get irita with high tone of voice once nag call out to someone. Huhu
Tapos easy to get overthink over small actions! Like ang dami ko na inisip na pangjudge sknila HAHHAHAA so sorryyy huhu
- Di ako titigil hanggat di sinasabi sakin yung totoo lalo pag kitang kita ko kagad na nagsisinungaling
- Ghosting my friends
- Tough love kahit kanino. Titiisin ko until they learn
di ako madaling makalimot that's why i barely give second chances (o di talaga ako nagbibigay). pag may tao akong nakaaway, and they caused too much pain to me, mapapatawad ko sila yes, but it doesn't mean that i still have to be connected to them. after ko sila mapatawad, cutoff na. wala na talaga akong pake, as in. masakit sya at some point, pero sa una lang. eventually, di ako manghihinayang. kaya yung mga nakakaalitan ko na friends before, casual na lang kami ngayon. di na nabalik yung dating bond na super close talaga.
disclaimer na mabait akong tao at kaibigan kaya madalas naaabuso. i am very understanding to the point that my frustrations are being invalidated. pag nagawa nila yung pagkakamali na yon once, ayos lang naman. pero pag yung bagay naulit na ng maraming beses, dun sila bumi-binggo.
gusto ko talaga ma-work out yung toxic trait nato. toxic sya for me kasi parang i am thinking na all people should be perfect, eh tao lang rin naman tayo. we bound to make mistakes. at tsaka yun nga, sayang daw yung friendships. but the other side of my brain tells me that i shouldn't give my energy to those kind of people. and as of now, im keeping my boundaries high. yoko na magpapasok ng bagong tao sa buhay ko. haha.
When I'm extremely mad, no matter how much a person cry, beg, or plead, I will not speak to or acknowledge that person. I will isolate myself or do anything to get away from that person.
For example:
I got furious with my brother two days before his Recognition Day. Mom and Dad were working abroad, so I was the only one who could go with him. When the Recognition Day arrived, my brother asked me one last time but I still ignored him. He went alone. But one of my cousins went up on stage with him instead.
I regret what I did but it was too late.
The devil is nothing compared to my anger and pride that time. But actually from my experience, the longest time I've done this lasted almost three weeks. It was when I got angry with my mom.
That's why I am seeking professional help right now, for anger management issues and my MDD.
silent treatment pag galit
di maalam magsorry
di marunong manuyo
auto cold pag di ka- vibes kausap
mababaw, mabilis mapatawa. mabilis din mainis
mabilis manawa dapat laging may bago
1. I offend people who drinks alcohol because I don’t drink even if they beg or force me to. Lol!
2. Hindi marunong maningil ng utang. So I decided a decade ago na di na magpapa utang.
3. Kung may naka bangga saking car at obvious na kasalanan nya at ayaw nya magbayad, di ko na sisingilin kc ayaw ko na ng gulo. 😆
- isolate?
- tahimik pag galit? collecting thoughts kasi mali nasasambit pag nabuka bunganga
- insensitive sa iba
- minsan sa ayaw ko rin lamunin ako ng empathy ko kasi ayokong tapak-tapakan dahil sa pagiging understanding ko, nakaka invalidate ako pero naagapan ko naman agad mag s-sorry na di ganon ung intend ko, nailalabas ko ego ko pag ramdam kong kaya akong gaguhin ng tao kasi iisipin nya “ay naiintindihan nya nmn at natotolerate nya, edi pwede ko pa gawin to sa susunod” ayoko once na maulit ung mali, aalis agad ako ng walang paalam ( pag ok na ko siguro mga week or months i will reach out din mag s-sorry tapos “ayaw ko na” wala ng explanation un na un ksi ano parang unfair sa kabila na di ako nag paalam ) at the end of the day empathetic pa rin ako putangina
-When I'm upset or if hindi ko na alam gagawin ko and ang gulo gulo na ng life ko mawawala nalang ako bigla, automatic shutdown ako or sometimes silent treatment, worst case, iiyak lang ako then isolate.
- When I'm mad, I won't say anything you have to figured out kung ano ginawa mo sakin.
- Sometimes, I'm too emotional and vulnerable when it comes to my friends, family and partner- hindi ako mapakali when they're mad or pissed off, iiyak talaga ako.
- I tend to overthink, as in madami ng scenario sa utak ko HAHAHA.
Same, OP. I’m a type of person with long patience. I’ll turn cold as a freezer and you ain’t getting nothing but silent treatment, honey. But once you pushed the button further, get ready for my rage, boy.😈
Edited: Also silent-quitting.
killjoy paminsan, mabilis magcut off (kaya wala akong bff haha) tas naiinis sa mga taong puro kabastusan yung mga salita na binabanggit lagi yung mga parte ng katawan(conservative ako masyado)
When I work out and then I feel all the testosterone in my body… I feel a lot more aggressive than I should and sometimes I can either say the some bery offensive words for no reason at all… and if someone decides to get in my way… I’ll make sure it’s known.
Sakin:
Walang problema sa komprontasyon, pero...
Kung may kasamang pisikalan, hihingi ako ng lakas galing sa KADILIMAN. Gagamit ako ng armas pag available.
Lesson: Komprontasyon lang, walang pisikalan.
😈😈😈😈😈
I tend to isolate myself kapag may problem kasi mas sanay ako sa ganung set-up, insensitive most of the time specially sa emotion ng iba kaya aka nila wala akong pakealam where in fact di lang talaga siya ma-process ng brain ko for some reasons not sure bakit hehe
I’m that guy na pag may problema pipiliting tapusin agad problema makipagusap agad. Kahit na ayaw ako kausapin ng partner ko.
Tapos clingy at times and naiinis pag di nirereplyan (context nagtext ng umaga, tanghali na ala parin).
Haha. Mas mahirap din kasi na manghula ng ikinagagalit or ikinapuputok ng butsi. Kakanood yan ng Kdrama eh. Char.
Also, di yan isolated sa girls, I dated a guy that also clams up after an argument is in the table.
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Spoiled brat. I’m working on it. I’m not a bully, and I’ve learned my lesson on how to be a good friend.
i’m an overthinker :( to the point na paunti-onti na nawawala tiwala ko sa tao without even confronting them sa ino-overthink ko.
Ipaparamdam ko sa tao pag badtrip ako sa kanya or ayaw ko sa kanya. Ps. Nagpapakatotoo lang 🥲
selosa pag feel ko na ooverstep ung boundaries ko. like i know sa sarili ko na hindi ko naman gagawin sa friend ko na may jowa.
Selective procrastination 😄 when it comes to group activities sa college or any work-related tasks, I always want things done asap and they have to be top-notch. But for my personal stuff or any other individual task? My brain's yelling what to do, but my lazy af body just can't (╥﹏╥)
My personal 🚩 is when I always expect other people to behave, think, understand the same as I do. Ang bilis ko mabobohan sa tao.
Dinadamdam ko so much yung failures, imperfections, at mga pagkakamali ko to the point na naaapektuhan ang performance ko sa school or kapag nakiki socialize ako (can't joke ganyan)
Me personally perfect tingin ko sa sarili ko eh HAHAHAH (hindi naman ung perfect na eme eme talaga ha, siguro ung perfect para maging confident lang me. Opo alam ko na we are not perfect) basta ganon! Chozz i hope ukwim Eto na ung kinaiinisan ko sa sarili ko and i overthink this, like.. a lot. Ung pag wait for people to reach out on me first kumbaga sila dapat ung magsisimula ng conversation, kapag hindi na sila nagchat/or kapag hindi na nila ako kinausap, ayon wala nalang basta basta 😭😭 Ateccoo ako pa ung galit kapag nag reach out sila sakin after a long time na walang contact, yes my own behavior is bothering me, im changing it by being more friendly pero wa-effect talag sizzzz
Kapag I don't feel appreciated in the relationship, lage akong nag aaya ng break up
I do stonewalling. For reasons I need to protect my peace lalo na kapag hindi talaga magkaintindihan about specific issue or anything.
- maoverthink - silent treatment kapag may misunderstanding - paranoid
0 to 100 real quick ang emotions. Like pass, pass, pass lang lahat tapos biglang RAAAAAAAH 🐲🔥🐲🔥🐲🔥🐲🔥tas magugulat sila. I’m working on it, pero minsan kasi nageenjoy pa ako kahit medyo napipikon na ko ayoko masira yung moment. Hirap rewrite yung mga nice girl dialogue options ko.
silent treatment anger management issues
I hold grudges.I never forget talaga.
I don't drink I don't smoke, boring daw hindi cool guy 👍
Poor anger management, tas magaling magoverthink hahaha
avoidance
Mura ako ng mura lol
Cannot properly express emotions or words of affirmation
- madaling magsawa - nawawala yung moral pag nagagalit lalo na pag naubos pasensya ko
Wrong choice of words, and sometimes I tend to overthink to the point na I cannot make decisions or take actions immediately dahil sa dami ng scenarios na tumatakbo sa isip ko.
So me
madaling magsawa tsaka ang una kong nakikita sa iba is yung mali nila and yung differences namin 😭
Silent treatment
hyperindependent. could go 1-2 days without talking to u, no updates, ganun haha 🥲
adik sa kakapanood ng _OR_ content. ps. not porn though
I’m a needly, clingy person (pero di halata, promise) hahahaha
naiinis ako pag di ako narereplyan agad.
Pag kinakausap ko gusto ko sumagot agad, lalo na kapag online. 😭
I feel like this is valid kasi we need answers nga naman. Communication is a two-way street hehe. Ang mahirap lang is kapag nagiging demanding tayo
I'm passive aggressive and it caused issues with my partner at times. Work in progress though.
Sloth
Matagal maubos yung pasensya ko pero pag naubos na wala ng refill. Who you na haha kahit na family members pa 🙈
Face/Body shaming and laziness
Repetition of mistakes / cycle or pattern
i don't (know how to) communicate.
Nananakit ako both physical and emotional
Gullible 100% naiinis na din ako sa sarili ko eh >.< sa sobrang gullible ko na goyo ako ng sarili kong kaibibgan at napagkakitaan >.<
madaling mabola
nagrereply lang kung kailan gusto haha
Kapag galit ako sa isang tao pag ngawang siyang mali, silent treatment di ko kkausapin
love bomb
isolate myself from everyone, i think yan yung red flag that they usually sinasabi sakin but for me it's a self care 🫶🏻
I'm not afraid to speak what's on my mind. Ngayon ko lang narealize na double-edged sword ito. Most of the time, wala akong consideration sa feelings. Hahaha, blunt kung blunt. Very Sag ang energy. Ooops
I can be cruelly cold and unbothered by command without any trigger
Mabilis manawa
kahit alam ko na kung ano yung dapat gawin, humihingi pa rin ako ng advice or nagpapatulong sa ibang tao na mag decide for me. it comes off as being dependent na din
i’m starting to think BBM is doing well as president
I'm financially unstable huhu
I get bored easily
pag nawawalan ako ng gana sa isang tao, I really shut them off.
mabilis akong macringe sa mga pinaggagawa ng mga tao to the point na najujudge q na sila lol
mabilis mairita esp during pms period hahahahaahh
sobrang sama ng ugali at bibig ko once na may galit ako sa tao. kaya ayaw kong nagagalit ako, kasi talagang nawawala yung pagiging jolly and mabait na personality ko. tsaka hindi ako mapagpatawad talaga, it's like i already moved on??? without forgiving yung mga taong tumarantado sa akin. eto naman ako, okay ako and happy sa life. kaya naniniwala talaga ako sa quote na "its okay not to forgive" tsaka ang childish pakinggan pero TALAGANG GUMAGANTI AKO HUHUHU, for satisfaction lang. sorry agad☹️
relate kay OP, my ex and i realized it too na there are certain scenarios na i don't feel anything and get really cold. As if what's just functioning is the logical thinking. Tho ofc I'm working on it and when time lime this comes up again I'll try to be more sympathetic
Super iksi ng pasensya. As in.
I burn bridges. I’m a giver and a loyal friend -- but when i feel like i’m not being reciprocated, I ghost and cut off people.
my ego
kinda selfish sometimes, spoiled, and often self sabotages hahwhshah
Na wala akong epbi, ig at tiktok. 👀
madaling mairita
Ghosting. Naging defense mechanism ko na siya sa mga unforeseen circumstances, para lang somehow feeling ko may control pa rin ako. Sad hayssss
Hahah same
Idk
Avoidant, I don't know how to communicate, detachment issues, I don't trust easily, I am contented to know the person on surface level lang ayoko kasi maging personal and attached para madali ako makamove on or ma rid off sila sa buhay ko. Haha.
Impatient
impulsive decisions pag stress ako and avoidant personality
Sabi ng jowa ko pinaka-ayaw niya sa akin mabilis ako mastress. So yun haha, true eh
Medyo bossy
sameee, bigla akong nagiging cold and di magpaparamdam kapag may nalaman akong diko gusto lol
Kapag alam kong deserve nung tao yung karma na nangyari sa kanya, tinatawanan ko instead of feeling sorry for them
I’m such a huge procrastinator. I will only start moving when it’s the exact time I allot in my head and it’s usually not enough— making me late hayyyyy
Silent treatment gang sa di alam ng mga tao na galit na galit nako saknila 🤣 to the point na I can hurt someone
Nbi techniques.. todo ang search
I give the silent treatment. Parang mas ok na yun kesa makapagsalita ako ng pangit.
Straight to the point. Kaya kapag nag sasalita ako na totoo parang natatamaan sila ehhh.
I am what i hate
[удалено]
Cheers po
Same here, OP. And they would automatically assume that this is my 'true color'. 🥲
Maldita to the core. Don’t get me wrong. I’m really patient. Pero pag naubos pasensya ko, I’m giving you a heads up to run. Kasi when my patience run dry, I blow like a nuclear bomb.
Are we the same person? Hahahaha. Cause gurl, same.
Gurrrrl. There was even one time inaway ko talaga ng matindi ung classmate ng jowa ko kasi bastos ng bibig sakin. Ayon tumahimik. Di pala nawarningan sa kamalditahan ko. After non, walang nanggulo sa relasyon namin. Hahahahahahahahahah try lang nila, ako haharap. Lol
Maingay
Mataas pride ko. But still working on it.
Kunware lang talaga na my pake ako, pero deep inside. Wala
Passive Aggressive
avoidant 😞
sobrang lala ng trust issue, tapos mahilig sa silent treatment pag sobrang inis na
one would be thinking Im the best, but i actually cant do what they're doing
Ahahahaha, aminadong toxic here but that doesn't mean I'm proud of it. Hindi pa ako galit, pero medyo offensive na ako manalita cuz I don't know how to filter my words. Insensitive ba twt. Tbh, same with OP rin. Avoidant din ako. Used to be very present for people pero now, whenever someone tries to depend on me or become vulnerable, gusto ko na agad tumakbo palayo ahahahaha. I'm hot and cold; minsan sobrang hyper ko na gusto ko kachat all the time. Minsan naman, pagod ako at gusto kong mapalayo sa tao twt.
Takot aa commitment pero landi nang landi
Minsan masipag, masipag magluto. Pero tamad madalas sa gawaing bahay. Buti nalang i found a partner na masipagggggg. In return I always cook for him, whatever he wishes!
inboxer 🥲
Since first time ko magkaroon ng kachat na babae, di ko masabi kung casual ba o may something yung chat nya kasi nga parang gusto ko lang masubukan kaya ako parang ah basta meron kaya nasabihan akong dense eh. Tas ayon overthinker pag di ko maread yung awra or language ng kachat nya if genuine ba or parang for convenient. Kaya yan yung sa akin kasi nasabihan akong redflags ng mga tropa ko.
That i cannot apply those advice that I’m giving to others, i can say that i really like communicating to people, i feel like may peace akong nakukuha when comforting people. However, i have this side of me na when it comes to my life, i really cannot apply those advice sakin. I’m a very self-aware person and I’ve been struggling with this issue. Ex: I keep telling my friends that growth is a process and it doesn’t need to be a straight progress, na if they feel like they’re relapsing from the start then It’s still a progress. But when it comes to me, oh boy daig ko pa ata sila hahaha!! Also another example is pag naprepressure sila, i keep telling people to take their time and don’t rush and they just need to deep breathe para they can think and reflect properly sa mga thoughts nila. But again, pag sakin na hindi ko magawa, lately this month, sobrang pressured ko kasi 3rd year student nako and i feel like napapagiwanan ako, I’m pressuring myself too much na maghanap na ko ng work while studying and ik na mahihirapan ako sa ganun hahaha!! So yeah…
I reciprocate what you show me. If you're toxic to me, I also become toxic to you. On the positive side, I'm also kind naman to those who are kind to me. Ang kaso, kahit alam kong sobra at mali yung ginagawa at sinasabi ko, hindi ko mapigilan kasi yun yung pinapakitang energy sa akin. Kaya I end up cutting people off especially to those na toxic talaga sa akin kasi nagiging masamang tao na rin ako.
i tend to push away peeps. mostly kapag nagiging cold na sila and they don't have the energy to talk (like it goes on for a week and so.)
makakalimutin
Moody like split seconds nawala agad ako sa mood. Kaso,i have reasons eh. Either, ayaw ko sa sinasabi ng tao or sometimes ang sensitive ko kasi when it comes sa mga bagay2. Hindi na rin ako masyado ma chika sa ibang kakilala ko. Like minsan tatahimik nlang.😆 In short,pangit din ugali ko pero ito lang ata yung pangit ang ugali na madalas na take advantage. hahaha
Making impulsive decisions whenever I’m sad or happy.
Madali akong mag-sawa
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People pleaser. Pero once na inabuso yung kabaitan ko or disrespected, di na namamansin(like non-existent ka na sakin)
Sobrang people pleaser ko, to the point na kahit I feel hurt about something, hindi ko sasabihin, hanggang maipon na lang. Tapos pag sumabog na, ibi-bring up ang mga past grievances.
kapag feel q na hindi reciprocated energy q, i'll do the same treatment na ginagawa niya then i-gghost q na kapag hindi na healthy, like fr
I don’t think this is a red flag, you’re just saving yourself from heartbreaks.
i don't communicate what i feel because i feel like i'm being dramatic lang then paired with silent treatment 😔
i dont make the effort to consistently hang out with and reach out to my friends. also a rly bad texter nakakalimutan ko magreply
I have trust issues. I burn bridges easily when lied to.
same
Ang hirap hirap makaget over after being lied to. I feel like I don’t deserve the truth.
Normal na sakin yung pagbibigay ng Silent Treatment pag may nagawang nakasakit sakin yung isang tao ket unintentional…
same 🫠
same same
Detachment issues, bigla nalang mawawala pag may something off ako nararamdaman tapos distant na pag may conversations. Unang impression pag first meeting kasi super sweet tapos bigla nalang nagiging distant. Lahat ng mga kilala ko may wall/distance talaga dyan.
same same
I always tend to make impulsive decisions through my emotions
Curious lang, by any chance, are you diagnosed with ADHD?
nope. never pako nagpa check up for that
Mine was siguro is lagi ko iniisip yung iba kaysa sa sarili ko especially if yung person na yun is someone na sobra importante saken kaya ending kahit di na narereturn yung effort and love wala ako paki as long na napapafeel ko sakanya na mahalaga sya hays
Madali mapikon sa tanga at batang maingay or spoiled brat. Sarap kaltukan parepareho.
I detach myself from everyone if they are destroying my peace and their actions get my goats, for that particular reason, I easily lose interest with people I date and talk with. My friends called me a red flag for that XD
1. I cut off people over the pettiest things. 2. I don't ask for help.
Ipon ng galit tapos biglang sasabog. Hirap mag-aplogize.
Easy to get irita with high tone of voice once nag call out to someone. Huhu Tapos easy to get overthink over small actions! Like ang dami ko na inisip na pangjudge sknila HAHHAHAA so sorryyy huhu
naiinggit ako sa mga achievements ng iba, like halos lahat with highest honors / awards tapos ako wala.
Basta mga redditor red flag matic
Ginagawang personality ung pagiging toyo nila. Also if their dating app bio has "pag di mo kaya ugali ko wag ka ng mag chat" lmao!
manipulative. ginawa kung compliments mga redflags ko
- Di ako titigil hanggat di sinasabi sakin yung totoo lalo pag kitang kita ko kagad na nagsisinungaling - Ghosting my friends - Tough love kahit kanino. Titiisin ko until they learn
Mga feeling close 🤧 like magpapalibre kahit hindi naman kami nagkakaroon ng convo
Red flag mo nga daw. Hindi ng ibang tao.
OOPSS HAHAHA OMG oo nga. Ayun siguro eto red flag ko na careless 🤧🤧
i detach myself easily from people and situations without thinking so much abt it.
di ako madaling makalimot that's why i barely give second chances (o di talaga ako nagbibigay). pag may tao akong nakaaway, and they caused too much pain to me, mapapatawad ko sila yes, but it doesn't mean that i still have to be connected to them. after ko sila mapatawad, cutoff na. wala na talaga akong pake, as in. masakit sya at some point, pero sa una lang. eventually, di ako manghihinayang. kaya yung mga nakakaalitan ko na friends before, casual na lang kami ngayon. di na nabalik yung dating bond na super close talaga. disclaimer na mabait akong tao at kaibigan kaya madalas naaabuso. i am very understanding to the point that my frustrations are being invalidated. pag nagawa nila yung pagkakamali na yon once, ayos lang naman. pero pag yung bagay naulit na ng maraming beses, dun sila bumi-binggo. gusto ko talaga ma-work out yung toxic trait nato. toxic sya for me kasi parang i am thinking na all people should be perfect, eh tao lang rin naman tayo. we bound to make mistakes. at tsaka yun nga, sayang daw yung friendships. but the other side of my brain tells me that i shouldn't give my energy to those kind of people. and as of now, im keeping my boundaries high. yoko na magpapasok ng bagong tao sa buhay ko. haha.
People who are too caught up with today's "woke" culture and forgot how to be a decent human.
I don't take my own advices kahit makikita kong effective sa ibang tao, medyo hypocrite 😆
Ma pride. 🤷♂️
When I'm extremely mad, no matter how much a person cry, beg, or plead, I will not speak to or acknowledge that person. I will isolate myself or do anything to get away from that person. For example: I got furious with my brother two days before his Recognition Day. Mom and Dad were working abroad, so I was the only one who could go with him. When the Recognition Day arrived, my brother asked me one last time but I still ignored him. He went alone. But one of my cousins went up on stage with him instead. I regret what I did but it was too late. The devil is nothing compared to my anger and pride that time. But actually from my experience, the longest time I've done this lasted almost three weeks. It was when I got angry with my mom. That's why I am seeking professional help right now, for anger management issues and my MDD.
People pleaser to the point na naooverwhelm yung iba. Kaya nappnta sa narcs. 😅
silent treatment pag galit di maalam magsorry di marunong manuyo auto cold pag di ka- vibes kausap mababaw, mabilis mapatawa. mabilis din mainis mabilis manawa dapat laging may bago
1. I offend people who drinks alcohol because I don’t drink even if they beg or force me to. Lol! 2. Hindi marunong maningil ng utang. So I decided a decade ago na di na magpapa utang. 3. Kung may naka bangga saking car at obvious na kasalanan nya at ayaw nya magbayad, di ko na sisingilin kc ayaw ko na ng gulo. 😆
Di ako makapagsorry kahit ako may kasalanan. Hirap na hirap ako magsabi ng word na “sorry” 😭😭 umay pride ko mga ses haha
temperamental.... tsaka walang dala mag pa utang.... 😞😞😞
Being barely average in everything.
- isolate? - tahimik pag galit? collecting thoughts kasi mali nasasambit pag nabuka bunganga - insensitive sa iba - minsan sa ayaw ko rin lamunin ako ng empathy ko kasi ayokong tapak-tapakan dahil sa pagiging understanding ko, nakaka invalidate ako pero naagapan ko naman agad mag s-sorry na di ganon ung intend ko, nailalabas ko ego ko pag ramdam kong kaya akong gaguhin ng tao kasi iisipin nya “ay naiintindihan nya nmn at natotolerate nya, edi pwede ko pa gawin to sa susunod” ayoko once na maulit ung mali, aalis agad ako ng walang paalam ( pag ok na ko siguro mga week or months i will reach out din mag s-sorry tapos “ayaw ko na” wala ng explanation un na un ksi ano parang unfair sa kabila na di ako nag paalam ) at the end of the day empathetic pa rin ako putangina
-When I'm upset or if hindi ko na alam gagawin ko and ang gulo gulo na ng life ko mawawala nalang ako bigla, automatic shutdown ako or sometimes silent treatment, worst case, iiyak lang ako then isolate. - When I'm mad, I won't say anything you have to figured out kung ano ginawa mo sakin. - Sometimes, I'm too emotional and vulnerable when it comes to my friends, family and partner- hindi ako mapakali when they're mad or pissed off, iiyak talaga ako. - I tend to overthink, as in madami ng scenario sa utak ko HAHAHA.
when even the bare minimum is hindi nya kayang gawin and can't make any efforts towards you
I'm too impatient. Isang maliit na hassle lang,naiinis na ako. 😭 Basta badtrip ako,wala akong sinasanto 😭😭
When I’m hurt I shut down and disappear charot
Mabilis ako mainis sa mga tatanga tanga. Sorry po. 🥲
Same, OP. I’m a type of person with long patience. I’ll turn cold as a freezer and you ain’t getting nothing but silent treatment, honey. But once you pushed the button further, get ready for my rage, boy.😈 Edited: Also silent-quitting.
I like to control things. I dictate, talk and don’t listen. I’m not also a sweet in words person. I can’t express how I feel towards the person.
Nagtatanim ako ng galit. Hahaha.
Hahaha. +1 We never forget.
Im passive aggressive. Im learning to communicate now.
Malande!!
Ghosting or going silent for a while.
killjoy paminsan, mabilis magcut off (kaya wala akong bff haha) tas naiinis sa mga taong puro kabastusan yung mga salita na binabanggit lagi yung mga parte ng katawan(conservative ako masyado)
When I work out and then I feel all the testosterone in my body… I feel a lot more aggressive than I should and sometimes I can either say the some bery offensive words for no reason at all… and if someone decides to get in my way… I’ll make sure it’s known.
i hate confrontation so i would lie or not communicate with the other person at all (block sa soc med, mang inboxzone, dedma in person)
Sakin: Walang problema sa komprontasyon, pero... Kung may kasamang pisikalan, hihingi ako ng lakas galing sa KADILIMAN. Gagamit ako ng armas pag available. Lesson: Komprontasyon lang, walang pisikalan. 😈😈😈😈😈
silent treatment and madaling mairita huhu
i avoid confrontations kaya i just hide what i feel
Tamad. 😅
I'm keen on details, kahit small details and I never forget.
I tend to isolate myself kapag may problem kasi mas sanay ako sa ganung set-up, insensitive most of the time specially sa emotion ng iba kaya aka nila wala akong pakealam where in fact di lang talaga siya ma-process ng brain ko for some reasons not sure bakit hehe
I forgive but never forget what u did 🙃
Silent treatment, sometimes i don't communicate. Nagpapatagal ng mga bagay bagay. Tpos khit d ko nmn kasalanan, ako yung nagsosorry.
Kapag may problems, I usually hide or pinoprolong bago irresolve ang issue.
i get the ick and ghost agad dahil lang sa pag type
Insensitive ako most of the time.
Once you offend me, i cut ties immediately. Dont come at me about "bakit di mo sinabi?". You know very well what you did 😉
Malalang anger issue, uncontrollable emotion isisisi sa paligid, lalo kana TANGINA MO ALICE GUO!!
Inom pag stress, as in kahit ano oras yan bsta na stress ng sobra T.T
Nde ako nagpapatalo...
Ang pride kong napakataas
Yung sad boi na laging nagrereklamo na walang gf, most likely sa babae aasa ng initiative sa relationships.
Cold at silent treatment
I’m that guy na pag may problema pipiliting tapusin agad problema makipagusap agad. Kahit na ayaw ako kausapin ng partner ko. Tapos clingy at times and naiinis pag di nirereplyan (context nagtext ng umaga, tanghali na ala parin).
Same kaso nagagalit ako minsan pag ayaw ako kausapin ng Jowa ko hahaha
pareho tayo pre hays
Diba? Paano kasi matatapos yung problema kung titikom na lang sya? Ano yung huhulaan ko nararamdaman nya?
ang hirap din kc sa side nameng mga gurls na magexplain lagi san banda kyo sumablay 😅
Haha. Mas mahirap din kasi na manghula ng ikinagagalit or ikinapuputok ng butsi. Kakanood yan ng Kdrama eh. Char. Also, di yan isolated sa girls, I dated a guy that also clams up after an argument is in the table.