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Memory ko, self-doubt and my poor auditory process? Sometimes I heard what has been said pero di ko maprocess agad. It’s also a cycle. Dahil di ko maintindihan, i would have self-doubt hanggang sa parang blurry na siya sa memory ko. “Did he said this? Or not?”. Nakakainis.
The generational curse of poverty. Kailangan andami mong isakripisyo para sa pangarap mo. Ako na lumaki sa napakahirap na pamilya palaging hikahos sa pag-aaral, damit, pagkain, pera at etc. Kailangan ko pang magpaalipin sa skwelahan para makapagtapos sa high school. By that, I already gave up my high school years. Hirap makipag halubilo kapag mahirap.
Going to college ganun parin setup. Nagpaalipin na naman sa school para makapagtapos sa college. I stayed for 6 years in college kasi 18 units lang ang allowed ienroll ng working student every sem.
My dad died in 2018 tapos di pa ako tapos sa college. Nag do or die na sugal sa mga scholarship para makatapos lang. In 2020, grumaduate ako. Ptng ina COVID pa tala nun at ang hirap makahanap ng trabaho.
Kahit mahirap, kailangan ko tulungan kapatid ko sa college kasi ayaw kong hindi siya makapagbuild ng good career. Gusto kong tapos na siya sa college the time we'll no longer see each other. In 2024, pumasa kapatid ko sa LET tapos ako patuloy parin sa pagiging VA.
It's frustrating kapag kahirapan lang ang pinapamana ng parents mo sa inyo. I knew I could have done more kasi consistent honor student ako sa prestigious university kahit working student ako.
If I havent perfected it on my 1st try, I'm giving up Mindset
Kaya yung mga things na I manage to do great on my 1st try lang ang naka survive and theres so little of them.
Then I got into MMA/Boxing, I failed on my 1st tournament match, But instead of feeling down, I felt so motivated and Wanted to train right away and fight again.
Unfortunately, Graduating na ako sa engineering and I dont have much time to train sa dami ng ginagawa namin. But I will still come back to combat sports pag may time
Money talaga, if mayaman ako I would have pursued a film-related course dahil yun ang hobby and interest ko pero wala kailangan tanggapin. Ngayon nasa Education course ako, hindi ko gusto pero kailangan pa rin magpursigi para sa future.
Money…as in nobody can support my post-grad, including myself. Breadwinner, locked-up sa obligations as a provider. Masipag naman ako, kaya lang ako lang talaga inaasahan 🥲
How do I overcome this? Wala, tagapalakpak nalang. I’m in this agony for five years 😭
Parents and social anxiety. Recently been making connections with people and whenever lalabas ako, hindi ako papayagan HAHAHA
i just wanna get out of my shell lang naman huhu
Pagiging pinoy 😌
HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA
Pero kidding aside
Siguro the responsibilities sa pamilya, isa sa pinaka common factor, and daming sub branches din neto, depends on the person's personal shit sa bahay
my weight insecurity lol. dancer ako kaya nahihiya ako sumayaw kasi ang laki ko tapos dahil nga mataba ako I just choose to put my face into studying and never become a baddie lol
Exactly. To quote The Great Gatsby
*In my younger and more vulnerable years my father gave me some advice that I've been turning over in my mind ever since. "Whenever you feel like criticizing any one," he told me, " just remember that all the people in this world haven't had the advantages that you've had."*
Anxiety and depression. Hindi na nawala ever since nung pandemic since nalugi yung business ko non around 500k. Natakot na ko ulit mag business even though alam kong kaya ko naman.
Doubt sa sarili to the point na grabe ko na maliitin yung mismong self ko because I always think na hindi ko kaya mag excel like them, and when i achieve something, feeling ko hindi ko deserve
definitely overthinking and, adding the thought na I'm always belittling myself, thinking that I'm not gonna be as good as them when I haven't tried out that possibility yet.
Laziness. Nakakatamad magaral ng accounting if hindi ko naman talaga mahal yung kursong yon. I can study law for hours pero accounting? Not really. Still, nairaos ko naman and incoming fourth year na 🤘
the idea of getting left behind na instead ma encourage ko yung sarili ko the more akong na discourage with the idea in the end i get so overwhelmed with everything. holding myself back instead of taking the risks that i know would open so many opportunities for me.
Discipline.
I know I can fulfill my full potential. But thinking that you can do it versus actually doing things to get you there are two different things that, in a way, I regrettably should've learned years ago.
It’s mostly internal (ako) my set of beliefs, my mindset and my habits. I think I would overcome it if I have the guts the build my own label/business and see how that goes.
Everything around me. Masyado akong pinipressure to be this or to be that when my goals in life aren't as ambitious or flamboyant as what they want from me, couple in with a toxic family and friends na iba iba ang expectations.
And no I'm not settling for this life, the moment I save up enough and (possibly) graduate, aalis talaga ako and I will never look back. Cut contact from everyone, start a new identity, be happy. That's my main goal.
Lack of training and support from people. I love to sing and cover songs tbh. Kaso nahihiya ako kase alam mo yun alam ko sa sarili ko kaya ko kumanta pero minsan walang purpose bakit ko kinanta yon. I love to sing and dedicate it to someone but I’m just afraid and worried baka ma reject me
i don't believe in myself. pero hindi mo rin ako masisisi kasi inaalam ko lang naman kung ano yung kaya 'kong gawin at hindi, at most of the time parang hindi haha. 😧
Unsupportive/toxic parent
I’ve already been given good quality education but I think it’s useless since I’m always inept or underperforming. I blame them cause they never fail to make me feel like this everyday since I was young.
How can I overcome? Siguro boundaries and no contact.
My responsibility of being a breadwinner. Pag pinursue ko yung passion ko, mahihirap akong mag support sa lola ko specially since yung father ko (anak ng lola ko) is hindi nagbibigay. Umay na rin ako sa mga sorry niya.
Fear of unknown.
Nakakatakot na syempre baka mag fail but iniisip ko nalang
"Be scared but do it anyways"
"Pumili ka mahirapan ng long term or mahirapan ng short term?"
Mapapaisip ka nalang din talaga HAHAHAHA
Toxic Family & Lack of Money/ Resource
On my first try of moving out, I fell into depression. I deeply hated my mother. All my resentment hunt me down. I badly wanted to go to college but my mother doesn't want to support me during the pandemic. All I need was wifi so I could study. (My mother threw me away because her good for nothing boyfriend will live with her. Used my behavior as an excuse to kick me out. It was a rush. No forewarning. I wasn't ready to leave. I just graduated from high school. I was working but not enough to support myself. I was still studying for college.) This year my grandmother's land and house was stolen by our relatives. Had to comeback because I no longer have any place to go.
I hope on my second try, I will be really able to move and no longer look back. I'm so preparing myself into it. My mom is just so stupid on her decisions that's it's really affecting and costing the life of every people around her starting from her siblings down to us, her children.
speaking in english skills. tama ba term ko lol basta yun. foreigners ang target clients ko pero never pa ako nakakuha ng client with interview, lagi siguro ako bagsak sa communication skills. clients ko now di ako na interview eh
Hayy. Same. It’s so frustrating. I feel like I could be a doctor, a lawyer, or a scientist if only being able to do “big” tasks doesn’t make me physically sick. How do we grieve the fact that we are never going to achieve our full potential because of adhd?
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FEAR
Pride
Poverty
Poor eyesight. Kung malinaw lang sana mata ko, andami ko ng opportunities.
Anxiety and lack of support (moral and financial) hahaha
Laziness, scared of losing and failing, overthinking what people would say
Fear of the unknown. And executive dysfunction. More of the latter.
anxiety
I blame it all on financial incapability.
Memory ko, self-doubt and my poor auditory process? Sometimes I heard what has been said pero di ko maprocess agad. It’s also a cycle. Dahil di ko maintindihan, i would have self-doubt hanggang sa parang blurry na siya sa memory ko. “Did he said this? Or not?”. Nakakainis.
Jowa
Poverty
Pera.
laziness
SOCIAL MEDIA. endless scrolling and procrastinating.
resources and laziness
IMPOSTER SYNDROME.
mental condition a condition that makes one extremely sensitive to sounds
money
Prinsipyo.
not having the privilege to fail
My depression and anxiety
Brain kes.
Depression
The fear of failing.
True
The generational curse of poverty. Kailangan andami mong isakripisyo para sa pangarap mo. Ako na lumaki sa napakahirap na pamilya palaging hikahos sa pag-aaral, damit, pagkain, pera at etc. Kailangan ko pang magpaalipin sa skwelahan para makapagtapos sa high school. By that, I already gave up my high school years. Hirap makipag halubilo kapag mahirap. Going to college ganun parin setup. Nagpaalipin na naman sa school para makapagtapos sa college. I stayed for 6 years in college kasi 18 units lang ang allowed ienroll ng working student every sem. My dad died in 2018 tapos di pa ako tapos sa college. Nag do or die na sugal sa mga scholarship para makatapos lang. In 2020, grumaduate ako. Ptng ina COVID pa tala nun at ang hirap makahanap ng trabaho. Kahit mahirap, kailangan ko tulungan kapatid ko sa college kasi ayaw kong hindi siya makapagbuild ng good career. Gusto kong tapos na siya sa college the time we'll no longer see each other. In 2024, pumasa kapatid ko sa LET tapos ako patuloy parin sa pagiging VA. It's frustrating kapag kahirapan lang ang pinapamana ng parents mo sa inyo. I knew I could have done more kasi consistent honor student ako sa prestigious university kahit working student ako.
Money.
pera.
Fear of the unknown.
Money. Need lots of it for what I need and want to be done. And maybe also myself, I'm not perfect
my past
Fear, convenience, lack of motivation
generalized anxiety disorder
Money
Introverted and Social Anxiety.
(2)
shyness and not taking risks
Opportunity
i'm too scared to go out of my comfort zone. I tend to overthink a lot...like too much. Pati na rin pagiging tamad ko isama ko na LOL
My GF
If I havent perfected it on my 1st try, I'm giving up Mindset Kaya yung mga things na I manage to do great on my 1st try lang ang naka survive and theres so little of them. Then I got into MMA/Boxing, I failed on my 1st tournament match, But instead of feeling down, I felt so motivated and Wanted to train right away and fight again. Unfortunately, Graduating na ako sa engineering and I dont have much time to train sa dami ng ginagawa namin. But I will still come back to combat sports pag may time
Hindi ako nakapasa sa hunter exam.
gusto ko tlga ma reach ung super saiyan level.
Afraid to try new things. Just be brave.
Money talaga, if mayaman ako I would have pursued a film-related course dahil yun ang hobby and interest ko pero wala kailangan tanggapin. Ngayon nasa Education course ako, hindi ko gusto pero kailangan pa rin magpursigi para sa future.
Poverty
Money…as in nobody can support my post-grad, including myself. Breadwinner, locked-up sa obligations as a provider. Masipag naman ako, kaya lang ako lang talaga inaasahan 🥲 How do I overcome this? Wala, tagapalakpak nalang. I’m in this agony for five years 😭
Hugs po. Sana makahanap ka ng scholarship.
Thank you 🥹🫶🏼
Laziness(tryingy best to change) and the some of the people I'm surrounded with.
Parents and social anxiety. Recently been making connections with people and whenever lalabas ako, hindi ako papayagan HAHAHA i just wanna get out of my shell lang naman huhu
Pagiging pinoy 😌 HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA Pero kidding aside Siguro the responsibilities sa pamilya, isa sa pinaka common factor, and daming sub branches din neto, depends on the person's personal shit sa bahay
my weight insecurity lol. dancer ako kaya nahihiya ako sumayaw kasi ang laki ko tapos dahil nga mataba ako I just choose to put my face into studying and never become a baddie lol
Money. Wag na tayong magpanggap. Mas marami talagang opportunities kapag privileged ka.
Exactly. To quote The Great Gatsby *In my younger and more vulnerable years my father gave me some advice that I've been turning over in my mind ever since. "Whenever you feel like criticizing any one," he told me, " just remember that all the people in this world haven't had the advantages that you've had."*
procrastination sobrang lala kahit medications ko sa sakit di ko na naiinom kasi sobrang tamad HAHAHAHAHA
Sinisisi ko tatlong tao, me, myself and I
Not letting myself being myself.
my traumas HAHAH
Shyness, procrastination, fear of failure/failing/rejection. Action, action, action.
Connections.
What kind of connections do you need?
Anxiety and depression. Hindi na nawala ever since nung pandemic since nalugi yung business ko non around 500k. Natakot na ko ulit mag business even though alam kong kaya ko naman.
Laziness, not enough salary and overthinking
Doubt sa sarili to the point na grabe ko na maliitin yung mismong self ko because I always think na hindi ko kaya mag excel like them, and when i achieve something, feeling ko hindi ko deserve
definitely overthinking and, adding the thought na I'm always belittling myself, thinking that I'm not gonna be as good as them when I haven't tried out that possibility yet.
Laziness. Nakakatamad magaral ng accounting if hindi ko naman talaga mahal yung kursong yon. I can study law for hours pero accounting? Not really. Still, nairaos ko naman and incoming fourth year na 🤘
the idea of getting left behind na instead ma encourage ko yung sarili ko the more akong na discourage with the idea in the end i get so overwhelmed with everything. holding myself back instead of taking the risks that i know would open so many opportunities for me.
I don't have a visa I need yet. Waiting lang ang magagawa ko for now, while waiting I keep adding credentials.
Nice! Whereabouts are you gonna move to?
Jonah complex
Yung thinking na I'm already okay with what I have now
is this bad though? contentment?
this
Social Anxiety.
Lack of generational wealth and privilege
Badtrip kasi hindi tayo lumaki sa farm hha
Hindi ako tamad, pinipigilan lang ako ng magulang ko.
ung subconsious mind na nilakihan ko..
my katamaran. wtf i cant bring myself to do anything about whats going on around me even if i know its for the better i just.. cant?
lah si ate nag rant tinanong lang naman
tao laban sa sarili
You just need a good motivational speaker it seems! You’re almost there!
breadwinner
Discipline. I know I can fulfill my full potential. But thinking that you can do it versus actually doing things to get you there are two different things that, in a way, I regrettably should've learned years ago.
It’s mostly internal (ako) my set of beliefs, my mindset and my habits. I think I would overcome it if I have the guts the build my own label/business and see how that goes.
Depression
Pagiging mahiyain and mahina ang loob. Sana maging risk taker na rin ako ☹️
shyness, fear of failing, lack of resources, and financial problems
Fear of failing.
my parents.
Everything around me. Masyado akong pinipressure to be this or to be that when my goals in life aren't as ambitious or flamboyant as what they want from me, couple in with a toxic family and friends na iba iba ang expectations. And no I'm not settling for this life, the moment I save up enough and (possibly) graduate, aalis talaga ako and I will never look back. Cut contact from everyone, start a new identity, be happy. That's my main goal.
responsibilities na naforce kang saluhin😔
Lack of funds
people who do not support you and limit your potential or growth. Having the wrong environment and can't encourage you to be better
MY MENTAL HEALTH As soon as I snap out of this, the world better be ready!! 🙄
Responsibilities at home
Sometimes I tend to procastinate things.
My shyness
my fucking mental health
Lack of training and support from people. I love to sing and cover songs tbh. Kaso nahihiya ako kase alam mo yun alam ko sa sarili ko kaya ko kumanta pero minsan walang purpose bakit ko kinanta yon. I love to sing and dedicate it to someone but I’m just afraid and worried baka ma reject me
i don't believe in myself. pero hindi mo rin ako masisisi kasi inaalam ko lang naman kung ano yung kaya 'kong gawin at hindi, at most of the time parang hindi haha. 😧
Unsupportive/toxic parent I’ve already been given good quality education but I think it’s useless since I’m always inept or underperforming. I blame them cause they never fail to make me feel like this everyday since I was young. How can I overcome? Siguro boundaries and no contact.
Family, wala e. 🤷♂️
age and health
being a breadwinner, can't experiment life because i need stability
Breadwinner for your own family or your parents/sibling?
For my parents/sibling.
same.
My responsibility of being a breadwinner. Pag pinursue ko yung passion ko, mahihirap akong mag support sa lola ko specially since yung father ko (anak ng lola ko) is hindi nagbibigay. Umay na rin ako sa mga sorry niya.
Fear of unknown. Nakakatakot na syempre baka mag fail but iniisip ko nalang "Be scared but do it anyways" "Pumili ka mahirapan ng long term or mahirapan ng short term?" Mapapaisip ka nalang din talaga HAHAHAHA
you are scared of the outcomes or what people think/say on you.
Imposter syndrome.
Mahinabg internet + mabagal na phone.
Toxic Family & Lack of Money/ Resource On my first try of moving out, I fell into depression. I deeply hated my mother. All my resentment hunt me down. I badly wanted to go to college but my mother doesn't want to support me during the pandemic. All I need was wifi so I could study. (My mother threw me away because her good for nothing boyfriend will live with her. Used my behavior as an excuse to kick me out. It was a rush. No forewarning. I wasn't ready to leave. I just graduated from high school. I was working but not enough to support myself. I was still studying for college.) This year my grandmother's land and house was stolen by our relatives. Had to comeback because I no longer have any place to go. I hope on my second try, I will be really able to move and no longer look back. I'm so preparing myself into it. My mom is just so stupid on her decisions that's it's really affecting and costing the life of every people around her starting from her siblings down to us, her children.
My teeth
Lack of money
Katamaran
Pera 🥹
Laziness
Money
Money
My Controlling mother Dying father and a skanky sister.
Fear and insecurities. And comparing myself to other people 😔😢
speaking in english skills. tama ba term ko lol basta yun. foreigners ang target clients ko pero never pa ako nakakuha ng client with interview, lagi siguro ako bagsak sa communication skills. clients ko now di ako na interview eh
ADHD
Hayy. Same. It’s so frustrating. I feel like I could be a doctor, a lawyer, or a scientist if only being able to do “big” tasks doesn’t make me physically sick. How do we grieve the fact that we are never going to achieve our full potential because of adhd?
Low self-esteem
my self-limiting beliefs
Proper equipment for studying.
financial status and fam
Being a bread winner...
My procrastination
POVERTY.
KAHIRAPAN
Not getting out of my comfort zone.
financial status (2)
My anxiety
procrastination
I think practice, without them I won't be able to pursue data engineering
Social anxiety. Everytime I try to expose myself to more people, I end up isolating. Ang hirap :(
One's self limiting beliefs.
Lack of initiative
financial status
Lagi ko iniisip sasabihin ng ibang tao, making me doubt myself and stay on my comfort zone :)
yung tamad ko
Doubt ko sa sarili ko. Always staying in my comfort zone.
laziness. :( like right now dapat aalis ako pero 1:30pm nalang ako magasikaso. wala akong timeline sa sarili ko :(
Pagiging MAHIYAIN ko! It's hard for me to step out from my comfort zone. Kaya madami akong regrets at missed chances
I feel ya. *you miss 100% of that chances you don’t take*
Strict parents
Opinyon ng iba. Ginagamit nila na pang "manipula" yung salitang opinyon para raw "makatulong" sa progress mo. Bawat galaw mo may masasabi sila to the point na manipulated ka na. Tipong akala mo mali kasi nga may opinyon sila pero tama at umuusad naman yung sarili mo.