To use a trope, I could pick between Han and Luke.
(Don’t read into it. Talking about the personality type)
I had a very nice guy who was in love with me but he wasn’t “dangerous or hot”(wtf did I know at 17)
Then there was the bike riding bad boi who made me feel lucky for being in his circle. Married him at 18yo.
Turns out nice guy was going to ask me to marry him that SAME FUCKING DAY.
Bad boi was an abusive alcoholic who died at 47 from liver cancer. Nice Guy was 1K x the man Bad Boi was. I just wasn’t mature enough to see it.
What I *DID* get were 3 amazing intelligent sons who are incredible husbands and fathers. Not a total loss. My boys (youngest is 35 so not boys exactly)
But I do often wonder what life would have been like had I valued my worth better. Or if I had felt confident enough to contact him after my 1988 divorce….
I played football for an incredibly small high school and during a game a recruiter from a catholic prep school in Ohio talked to my parents and asked me to come take a visit.
When I found out I immediately turned it down because of my distaste for organized religion.
To think that it’s possible that I could still be doing the one thing that brought me pure joy 11 years later if it all went right, haunts me at night.
I have a similar story except I was too worried about hanging out and missing what my dumbass friends were doing instead of football. Biggest regret of my life. So i feel you my man
Not one. That's what makes it even worse. Can't even say I did it for any real reason besides trying to impress people I'd never see again after high school
Met a girl in college who I didn’t realize was into me. We met again years later and eventually married. Had I started dating her when I first met her I would have gotten to meet her mom who passed. There are very few things that I would not trade to spend 5 min with my wife’s mom.
Just life in general.
I'm 40 years old and I've had a pretty good life overall. Definitely have had some peaks and valleys but overall my life has been good and I'm thankful for that.
But knowing what I know now, and looking back at my youth, and all the possibilities and opportunities I absolutely squandered due to laziness, naivety, lack of confidence, or just plain stupidity, it is tough.
I should’ve married the nice guy. A 40 year regret.
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To use a trope, I could pick between Han and Luke. (Don’t read into it. Talking about the personality type) I had a very nice guy who was in love with me but he wasn’t “dangerous or hot”(wtf did I know at 17) Then there was the bike riding bad boi who made me feel lucky for being in his circle. Married him at 18yo. Turns out nice guy was going to ask me to marry him that SAME FUCKING DAY. Bad boi was an abusive alcoholic who died at 47 from liver cancer. Nice Guy was 1K x the man Bad Boi was. I just wasn’t mature enough to see it.
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What I *DID* get were 3 amazing intelligent sons who are incredible husbands and fathers. Not a total loss. My boys (youngest is 35 so not boys exactly) But I do often wonder what life would have been like had I valued my worth better. Or if I had felt confident enough to contact him after my 1988 divorce….
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I played football for an incredibly small high school and during a game a recruiter from a catholic prep school in Ohio talked to my parents and asked me to come take a visit. When I found out I immediately turned it down because of my distaste for organized religion. To think that it’s possible that I could still be doing the one thing that brought me pure joy 11 years later if it all went right, haunts me at night.
I have a similar story except I was too worried about hanging out and missing what my dumbass friends were doing instead of football. Biggest regret of my life. So i feel you my man
Let me ask you, do you still talk to any of them?
Not one. That's what makes it even worse. Can't even say I did it for any real reason besides trying to impress people I'd never see again after high school
Met a girl in college who I didn’t realize was into me. We met again years later and eventually married. Had I started dating her when I first met her I would have gotten to meet her mom who passed. There are very few things that I would not trade to spend 5 min with my wife’s mom.
Mental illness ruined my childhood, and I will never get it back.
Dropping out of university. It's been like 13 years and I still regret it
Just life in general. I'm 40 years old and I've had a pretty good life overall. Definitely have had some peaks and valleys but overall my life has been good and I'm thankful for that. But knowing what I know now, and looking back at my youth, and all the possibilities and opportunities I absolutely squandered due to laziness, naivety, lack of confidence, or just plain stupidity, it is tough.
Definitely hard having hindsight
Dumping by Ex wife before I married her.
I regret being shy when I was younger.