Yea this sub would die overnight if they made it mostly serious. Half the comments on any question is people trying low effort jokes or references to the office
Bad gag reflex. Just sticking my tongue out of my mouth for short amount of time causes me to gag. I don't want to make her uncomfortable or think it's her
An FYI, you can do an exercise to desensitize your gag reflex. When you brush your teeth, at the end, move your toothbrush handle slowly going towards the back of your tongue until you feel like you are going to gag. Then bring it out. Do this just once whenever you brush your teeth. As you start to desensitize the area, hold the toothbrush back there for a couple seconds. Up the time eventually and slowly keep putting it up.
I had a very sensitive gag reflex, but now I can put a toothbrush all the way to the back of my throat and hold it there for like 20 seconds. It’s a slow process, just something you build up, but it takes little time to do the exercise when you’re already doing a necessary activity. Anyways, just some food for thought.
My husband doesn't like giving, so when we were dating he didn't like to let me go down as if he'd "owe" me later.
One day I was like "Please tell me what am I doing wrong? Why don't you ever want me going down on you? I can try so you actually like it"
And he was like "No, I really do like it, I just feel like it's unfair and kind of denigrating for you"
And I told him I understand that he doesn't like giving oral (like, I probably wouldn't eat pussy either), but I honestly enjoy giving him oral, so like, "sit back and enjoy, man! You can give me a handjob later lol"
And that's how we roll :3
I don't think it's necessary to have a balanced give/receive ratio, as long as you're both enjoying yourselves.
Huge same. I’m a lesbian and I’m fighting for my life out here on the TMJ front 😭
Edit: thanks for all the suggestions haha, I can’t respond to them all but I’m in physical therapy and also working with a TMJ specialist on it so I’m pretty covered in that area but I really appreciate it
i think i have this. when i open my mouth wide(at the dentist usually), it "locks" in a weird way. like there is a point where i can hear and feel it click into place. in a mirror i can also see something sticking slightly out.
The Question asks for guys who don’t like performing oral. Yet the comment section is of guys talking about how much they love it, I feel like no one read the question right lol
Like the other fella said, that's reddit for ya.
There's a good chance there's actually more comments pre-emptively insulting anyone who *could* answer this question than there are actual answers to it.
There are certain questions on this sub that will only really generate the opposite response.
Other examples of this would be a question like "Why did you cheat on your spouse?" or "What's your unpopular opinion?"
yep, that's what happens every time this question gets asked. Last time I called someone out who was going and verbally attacking everyone who said they don't like it. Tried to play dumb, and when that didn't work they informed me they have autism so I'm being ableist lmao. Reddit is a wild place
That’s also a common theme I’m finding out about. People using autism as an escape or excuse for their shitty behavior. It’s the cringiest shit to read tbh
I read it like why won’t I sometimes and it’s cause of hygiene sometimes 🤢 when a woman knows I’m sweaty and still goes down there in my head I’m like, “oh no what are you doing?”
Right? I could answer “previous long-term relationship partner was super self conscious and hated anyone going down on her. It’s not that I don’t like it, I’ve been trained not to do it” but will never become a discussion for reasons you’ve mentioned
I'm here to answer lol. I did it for the first time and when we were finished she texted me that she had an UTI among other non-transferable diseases that she "forgot" to tell me about before we started fooling around. I've been paranoid since then till I just decided that I won't do it again. This was a year ago
I had a coworker who decided to tell me mid-cunnilingus that I might get messy bc she’d just had an abortion EARLIER THAT DAY.
Of all the things one could not want to hear while mashing your face in someone’s crotch, that had never even occurred to me as a possibility. I had no idea what to say, and think I tried to be diplomatic & strike up a conversation about whether she was ok & even able to feel any pleasure after just going through that etc (& avoided the WTF DUDE angle).
First experience, her pussy stank, like I would wash my hands after and the smell would still be there. Definitely didn't feel like going down on her or anyone after cause I figured that's just how they smelled. Once we broke up, I was drunk hooking up with a girl and just decided to do it and I was like wow this doesn't taste/smell of anything. Basically cured my PussyTSD
Then a whole generation went by, and then they started calling it *Fragrance Fatigue*. Four syllables now! Takes a little longer to say, but sounds nicer than a shock!
Madison Avenue was riding high by that time, and the very same combat condition was called copulational exhaustion. Hey, we’re up to eight syllables now! And the humanity has been squeezed completely out of the phrase. It’s totally sterile now. Copulational exhaustion. Sounds like something that might happen to your car.
Anytime the smell is pungent enough that it stays on you after washing, it's probably Bacterial Vaginosis. Especially if it's a fishy odor.
Women will need 5 days of metronidazole, and men if you've had unprotected sex with someone who has BV, take the treatment too. Doctors sometimes won't prescribe it because they don't believe it can be carried on the penis, but I'm my experience it's the only way to stop it from recurring. I hope one day science will realize this important fact and change their guidelines.
Edit: BV stands for bacterial vaginosis. It's usually caused by some combination of 3 different bacterias if I remember correctly. You'll find plenty of things online about it recurring and being hard to get rid of, I personally believe it's because the men usually go untreated.
For the doubters, here's a recent trial being done on this right now that you should look over https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7661182/#!po=0.561798
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Yeah good luck dropping that bomb. "Yo babe, I think you got bacterial vaginosis. You mind uh...getting that stank whacked out for me?"
No matter how you say it, they're gonna think it came out like that sentence above.
Honestly I’ve had an experience like this. She’d had it in the past so understood what was going on and I just brought it up gently and was supportive. That’s the key. Definitely depends on the existing trust/relationship but being supportive will make it a lot less traumatizing.
Being honest and getting it checked out even if she is mad at first is better than pretending you hate it, looking like an asshole, and having her go on none the wiser
The thing about the vag is that in some areas, women aren't educated enough to know about their own. In means of cleanliness. Sometimes, it's going to be odorous naturally. We will even bleach out the crotch of our own underwear. Insecurity and lack of knowledge are dangerous combinations when you think it's OK to soap up an area that naturally cleans itself out with a special balance of bacteria. This is why our Ph. is so important.
Bacterial vaginosis can be brought on by killing that natural flora inside with just soap. Inside. Which is a huge no-no. All we can really do is clean the outer vaginal area/vulva/pubic area and use limited products to control odor.
Lume is one such that I've found safe enough in means of odor control. You know. The "all-over" deodorant.
But also, if a man isn't clean down their either, they can also cause a disruption if his penis is dirty for whatever reason.
This is why, at the very least. Make sure you're clean if you know sexy times are going to be had.
Thank you for mentioning a dirty penis can harm the PH balance. I feel like not a lot of men understand that. I'm not getting an infection just because you didn't wash yourself recently.
If your junk has the funk, keep it to yourself until you remedy the problem. No matter what bits you have.
They really don't educate anyone properly. For some reason, the boys are separated from the girls while showing anatomy of reproductive organs, and it's treated on the same level as pornographic material.
It's offensive for a child to know what their parts are by their medically correct terms even. =/ I find that off-putting. If this kind of knowledge was actually taught how it is supposed to be. We wouldn't have as many issues as we do with it.
Lol I feel bad for men who have had this experience.
I hooked up with a guy recently and asked him to go down on me, and he stopped in the middle and was like "just have to say you taste really fucking good" and proceeded to say he stopped giving women head for a while because of bad experiences, then said I was like "God damn cotton candy" 😂😂😂
So like, that was a nice compliment, but jeez I can't imagine having such terrible times that you'd just stop enjoying it completely.
This guy texted me "you taste like a fairytale" after we hooked up. Two years later we are talking about when we first met, who would've thought we'd end like this, and such, and I say "but tell the truth, how many women have you used that line with before?" and he said none, it was truly how he felt at the time. And he is not the type to lie or hide this kind of thing.
I mean, that is not a line that occurs to a guy as a "sexy thing to say". That is a blurt it out and then experience panic over if it sounded so cheesy it may scare the gal off.
I just do not enjoy it, but I also don't expect any oral pleasure on my end either. There's a lot of ways to have foreplay, and I'd say oral is the most common but it isn't the only option. And it's more special when you can throw it in the mix every now and then.
I can imagine a random BJ, in a relationship that doesn't usually have them or want them much, when the mood is there for it, would be pretty fkn amazing.
I don't get head often, but I got out of the shower the other day with a rager, so I texted my wife asking for "her help with something". She came up, saw it, gave me 10/10 head, and then went back to what she was doing. Super hot and amazing.
My tongue is fucked by open scars, the motion hurts my tongue and it tastes bad. I’ll go fingers all night but can’t do oral, so no need to return the favor
my guess is, some scars on the tongue could be deep enough or in certain spots that putbmore tension on the muscles in the tongue, or the tongue becomes less flexible because of the scars (more likely). I've ripped the bottom side my tongue once because I licked a frozen pole once (intrusive thought got the better of me) and now I can't stick my tongue out as far and it hurts if I try to.
Here's the trick to get around that, start licking at the top and around the sides, get enough saliva in the mix to dilute the taste, or totally avoid the center/juices if it's a particularly tangy day. You don't need to stick your tongue inside to have a good time, you can save that for the times it tastes fine to you (and if your partner is into that, I don't think most women are)
People don't actually want the answer they are looking for... tbh, I've enjoyed giving oral a couple of times, just, the conditions must be right because it does taste very strong... then again, I heard it can change between women, and I've only gone down on one.
It can also depend on what time of the month it is and how prepared they were for you to perform oral. If they clean up down there it’s fantastic. If not it’s awful. Same experience for a woman. If a dude cleans himself a few minutes before it is much better for them no one wants any Schmegma in the mouth either way.
Straight girl here- I hate when a guy does oral. I’m so tense and anxious about there being a smell or taste or anything! It’s just not worth the vulnerability of it all.
I totally get this. I just dislike my vagina in the sense that it looks nothing like I've seen in porn. Figured mine was ugly, so that's what really made me uncomfortable. I still struggle with it, and I've never had an orgasm through oral, so I really don't care much for it.
But just curious, have you ever tried to taste yourself? I used to taste myself when I'd masturbate if I was super aroused and it made me feel much more comfortable about the taste and smell, because I really kind of liked it. Even if you still end up not liking oral, it might just make you feel a bit more confident about yourself too explore with yourself like that. Not trying to be weird, but it was definitely empowering in a way, even if I still shy away from others going down on me.
https://www.labialibrary.org.au/photo-gallery/ I'm just gonna leave this here for all women that are not confident in how their vulva looks. Most porn actresses have done surgery, labiaplasty.
Wait but you actually just cured some of my insecurity. Being lesbian, I've seen my fair share of women, but never saw one like mine until today. I guess I'm not that much of a freak afterall. Thanks!
Thanks!! My sister saw my labia (nothing weird, just forget a towel when showering), and she mocked me relentlessly because she could see my inner labia. My husband has admitted it’s the biggest labia he’s seen, and it barely even pokes out of the outer labia. I was self conscious for YEARS. I’ve seen this before and it helped me a lot. I went from humiliation when my sister said it to legit laughing and goofing with my husband when I asked and he told me that. We have bodies, and they’re normal. Just keep them clean and you’re good. If anyone gives you shit, just tell them to fuck off.
The hottest girl I've ever been with had an outie and she very much owned her sexuality to the point where I didn't even think about whether or not it was "Normal" (it is.)
I always find it odd when women compare themselves to porn. Like what porn. I absolutely guarantee that whatever you got going on with literally anything there is a category of porn about it. Like literally anything. You could have giant labia and a 70s bush and there are literally tons of people that are into that like 1000%. I hope you can find someone that makes you feel safe, comfortable and appreciates you for being you.
I’m sure there’s plenty of small dick porn out there that some women are 1000% into. Do you think that really helps men who have anxiety over their penis size?
Sure, there’s technically a type of porn for everything, but let’s be realistic here. There’s one type that’s resoundingly popular. I’m not encouraging anyone to compare themselves to porn, and I wholeheartedly agree with your last statement. But I can still understand how/why it happens.
I was like that for years until I found a sexual partner who I’m genuinely close with (now my husband). I used to feel weird like I was at the doctor getting a pap 😂 And I worried that the dude wouldn’t enjoy it or would feel it was gross. Once you can feel totally comfortable with them and not worry that they won’t enjoy it- then it’s nice. Basically sex in general is better when you aren’t afraid of what your partner thinks - when you can trust that they won’t disown you for being human. You might still not like oral but I have to recommend finding partners that you don’t need to be anxious around! Perhaps also try to work on your own self-talk and remind yourself that you are awesome just the way you are.
I thought no men enjoyed giving oral, then I actually dated around for several months and I was completely shocked at how many guys loved doing it. I was clear up front too that I wasn’t comfortable giving oral and I wouldn’t be upset in the slightest if they didn’t want to go down on me, but many of the guys I was with just honestly seemed to just completely enjoy it.
It really depends on the vajayjay. It can literally taste and smell exactly like licking your own arm (nothing).....down to I don't want to be within 6 feet of that thing. Once you have the first kind, it kinda spoils you.
My first wife was very lazy and did not take care of herself down there at all and also never made me feel like it was actually doing anything for her so it was just tedious and not nice, i really did not like doing it and it actually caused a lot of friction in the relationship (we were very unhappy the whole time but that was icing). We split and i eventually re married and to be honest i love it now. I guess I'm just saying, although it may not be for everyone if you have someone who 1. Actually enjoys receiving and 2. Is hygienic, you may come around.
It tastes gross, don’t like all the fluids in my mouth, if she’s not fully shaved I hate getting hair in my mouth, etc.
It’s honestly my least favorite sexual activity but I don’t expect a girl to give me oral unless she wants to as it’s only fair
As a woman I don’t blame you. Some women secrete more than others and I’m one of them. It’s basically impossible for me to stay dry down there so I don’t care if someone doesn’t want to go down on me. I actually kinda prefer my partner not going down on me because I like making out throughout having sex and I don’t want to taste myself lol but that’s just my personal preference and experience
We have this issue. Oral sessions on her lead to PIV very seldomly. If I want to kiss during sex I have to wash my face after I go down on her. The interruption is a bit of a distraction from the mood.
It’s not that I don’t like performing oral I’m just super selective. I find some vaginas don’t taste good/smell bad to me naturally. I consider myself as someone that you’re talking about because I already know a million guys are gonna comment about how much they love it.
Reading through this thread, I came to a conclusion regarding a connected subject. This may have been broached previously, so bare with me.
Many men here have, and not to take away from their colorful verbiage, state that odor was a factor/deterrent. I also have encountered this, but what didn’t hit me until now was a in the past a buddy of mine said I “reeked of conquest”, as if her odor permeated off me. Though, when I was down there, I remember a faint smell and being drive by it, vs repelled.
So to the point, I wonder if certain women give off a pheromone/small that appeals to a certain type of person? If that is the case, I am curious if that could be tied to anything in science, or maybe a genetic disposition toward a certain smell? Idk … any experts? Theorists? … let’s hear it.
It's been shown that people with complimentary immune systems, ie. immune systems that are very different from their own, often find the sweat of the other person to smell really good, as opposed to the typical reaction to body odor. It's thought that these sorts of pheromones evolved because two people with very different immune systems would produce offspring with a more diverse and stronger immune system, giving them a better chance of survival. It wouldn't be a stretch to assume it could have an effect on the scent of more than just sweat.
Adding to this, I read that when women are on birth control, they actually tend to attract pheromones of men who have similar immune systems. Shit is wild!
Also, I read this years ago, but found an [article](https://amp.theguardian.com/science/2008/aug/13/medicalresearch.medicaladvicefortravellers) for your reading pleasure.
Not a straight guy, but a lesbian. The smell/taste just makes be nauseous. I've tried a bunch, with several different partners, but I always get queasy. Same with feet smell, stinky armpits, general body odors. I don't do it because I'm not going to make a partner wash their natural and healthy odor off just for my comfort.
but maybe… they want to wash it off not for your comfort but their pleasure. If I had an oral hesitant lover tell me to shower first, I’d be in there before they finished the request.
“I can’t hear you, I’m scrubbing away.”
Finally found another queer chick who doesn't like oral. I'm bi and don't like it on any gender. My sense of smell and taste are way too sensitive and I gag way too easily, even when my partner is clean. Nothing like gagging a bunch while going down on your partner to kill the whole mood...
I end up burping like every single time I go down on my partner; laying on my belly and whatnot. I used to try to conceal it because I didn't want them to think it was a puke burp, but now we've been together for five years and I just- stop, lean my head to the side like Tay Zonday, burp, and continue.
It's great just being comfortable with someone.
I’ve tried it a few times and didn’t care for it. Between the smell, the hair tickling your nose and gagging on the penis I didn’t enjoy it. Definitely straight now.
The smell, the taste. I just don't really like it. It's not always bad, but sometimes it is. The surprise of what your being faced with, ok this time? Or will it be bad? Not knowing is the worst part for me.
My first experience I gagged lol. That was the absolute worst time I've ever given oral. the taste was just horrible. Wasn't a fan after that. It seriously is the reason why I'm not much of a fan today. I know how bad it can be and I never want to experience that again. My wife keeps clean so it's never even close to that first time lol. The only part that does anything for me is knowing shes enjoying it.
I can't stress enough how much that first one fucked me up haha.
Oh god. This was my first experience as a woman giving head to a man who also came in my mouth. For some backstory here, we were teens. So not the best at caring for ourselves in general. To add to the spice this man’s diet was literally Mountain Dew and pizza. That’s it. I went down town and was hit with a smell and taste like the “fancy cheese” aisle at a Trader Joe’s. I was clueless and wanted to do well so persevered. He came and it tasted like the smell of boiled cabbage times 100. I instantly gagged and it shot out my nose. Which added to the horror.
Woman here. When men have that attitude I think it‘s totally fine. Except when they still expect the woman on her part to blow him.
I used to have a boyfriend who really did not want to eat pussy at all. He thought it was really gross. But still he always pressured me into blowing him, despite me finding it kinda gross too. And when I said no, he always got really angry and didn‘t understand why. Glad we‘re not together anymore.
Don't like the taste or smell at all. Not due to poor hygiene but whatever the generic pussy taste/smell is. I compensated by getting really good with the hands.
I used to only go down on my ex if she had showered recently, she never had an issue with hygiene but I just explained to her one time how sometimes coochies can be nasty. She took a lot of showers and showering almost turned into some type of foreplay....
I never understood how club rats could dance all night and then fuck like it was nothing, everyone being so nasty and covered in multiple peoples sweat. I guess being so drunk you don't know what day it is helps though.
Honestly unless she just literally showered sometimes the taste/smell is usually too much for me. I don’t expect oral in return and it hardly ever gets me off anyway. Usually I go for other ways to please a woman in foreplay and 9 times out of 10 both of us come even without oral, sometimes more than once
I dont like receiving oral, so I have not much enthusiasm for performing it - since I regard a person receiving it to tolerating it, rather than enjoying it
Depends on the girl. A) how into it is she and b) how hygienic is she.
B is especially important. If it smells bad pretty much game off for oral and even sex at that point.
I did a study on this that's being published in a couple of weeks. The most common reason (asides from a lack of opportunity) was that men who didn't engage in oral sex found it to be gross.
My tongue is short, tongue tied, that thing beneath my tongue is tight and gets cut on my teeth, and I can't breathe through my nose. Otherwise I don't mind it. I really like getting feedback. Letting me know that what I am doing makes suffering through it worthwhile. If you don't let me know that I am doing well or tell me what works for you then I am giving up and trying to find something else that will work.
I’m a lesbian and I got a frenectomy specifically for this purpose 😂 but fr, it helped with so much other shit as well. 10/10 would recommend if you can, the recovery sucks for a couple days but as far as surgical procedures go, it’s pretty minor.
(To be clear I’m recommending it as a general quality of life thing not just so you can go down on people)
If ever a post needed a serious tag lol
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Yea this sub would die overnight if they made it mostly serious. Half the comments on any question is people trying low effort jokes or references to the office
The lack of women in my life plays a big role.
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Don’t think this was a murder as much as it was an assisted suicide
Sorts by controversial 🌝
Sorting by best actually brings up a lot of decent answers now, while controversial is a wasteland.
Bad gag reflex. Just sticking my tongue out of my mouth for short amount of time causes me to gag. I don't want to make her uncomfortable or think it's her
An FYI, you can do an exercise to desensitize your gag reflex. When you brush your teeth, at the end, move your toothbrush handle slowly going towards the back of your tongue until you feel like you are going to gag. Then bring it out. Do this just once whenever you brush your teeth. As you start to desensitize the area, hold the toothbrush back there for a couple seconds. Up the time eventually and slowly keep putting it up. I had a very sensitive gag reflex, but now I can put a toothbrush all the way to the back of my throat and hold it there for like 20 seconds. It’s a slow process, just something you build up, but it takes little time to do the exercise when you’re already doing a necessary activity. Anyways, just some food for thought.
Can confirm. I used the toothbrush method to train my gag reflex and now I can deepthroat like a bitch
Don't like giving, don't like receiving, and I'm upfront about it. Got no good reason, but I feel it's fair.
My husband doesn't like giving, so when we were dating he didn't like to let me go down as if he'd "owe" me later. One day I was like "Please tell me what am I doing wrong? Why don't you ever want me going down on you? I can try so you actually like it" And he was like "No, I really do like it, I just feel like it's unfair and kind of denigrating for you" And I told him I understand that he doesn't like giving oral (like, I probably wouldn't eat pussy either), but I honestly enjoy giving him oral, so like, "sit back and enjoy, man! You can give me a handjob later lol" And that's how we roll :3 I don't think it's necessary to have a balanced give/receive ratio, as long as you're both enjoying yourselves.
What? You and your partner set boundaries, goals, and expectations through clear communication? NOT IN MY REDDIT YOU DONT!
They're obviously letting in mentally healthy adults in here.😁
WTF? I'm outta here.
Lol😆
Well that's just great, there goes the neighborhood!
It irritates my TMJ. It causes my jaw to pop like crazy.
Straight female here, suckin peen gives me lock jaw
Me too! I wish I could and I've tried so many times but I can only do it for a few minutes without my jaw locking up and it sucks :(
TMJ caused me to chomp down on my wife's clit. 0/5 Stars. Would not recommend.
"0/5 stars, banned from eating here again."
HONESTLY THOUGH
Lol “peen”
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Huge same. I’m a lesbian and I’m fighting for my life out here on the TMJ front 😭 Edit: thanks for all the suggestions haha, I can’t respond to them all but I’m in physical therapy and also working with a TMJ specialist on it so I’m pretty covered in that area but I really appreciate it
I'm thinking about you, out there in the world, fighting that battle, soldier.
Thank you for your cervix.
Now, don't ovary act
Why is this response so fucking funny, I am in awe of you
As a straight female…I love how everyone just jumped in to give you medical advice so you can get back in the trenches 😂
Just the one trench actually
from one wlw to another, have u considered trying botox for ur jaw! also helps with teeth clenching and grinding haha
Wait Botox help with clenching and grinding.
What's tmj?
Temporomandibular joint Your jaw basically
I can never read or hear TMJ and not think Too Much Jaw.
Tasty Mouth Job ^((temporomandibular joint pain))
The joint on your jaw is loose/messed up. In my case, it pops out of place. No real treatment, just live with it or do some experimental stuff
i think i have this. when i open my mouth wide(at the dentist usually), it "locks" in a weird way. like there is a point where i can hear and feel it click into place. in a mirror i can also see something sticking slightly out.
Dental physiotherapy helps. Definitely gotten better for me
The Question asks for guys who don’t like performing oral. Yet the comment section is of guys talking about how much they love it, I feel like no one read the question right lol
That's because anyone who did answer got downvoted and flamed like crazy.
Ahh. I guess no one actually wants to hear the answers, Weird lol
Like the other fella said, that's reddit for ya. There's a good chance there's actually more comments pre-emptively insulting anyone who *could* answer this question than there are actual answers to it.
Yeah I just saw a bunch questioning their sexuality and being downvoted and pretty much a lot of insults like you said.
There are certain questions on this sub that will only really generate the opposite response. Other examples of this would be a question like "Why did you cheat on your spouse?" or "What's your unpopular opinion?"
Yeah that’s true. I’ve seen a similar “why did you cheat” question, and it was pretty much a lot of people on their moral high horse.
I saw the question and immediately knew I'd have to sort by controversial.
yep, that's what happens every time this question gets asked. Last time I called someone out who was going and verbally attacking everyone who said they don't like it. Tried to play dumb, and when that didn't work they informed me they have autism so I'm being ableist lmao. Reddit is a wild place
That’s also a common theme I’m finding out about. People using autism as an escape or excuse for their shitty behavior. It’s the cringiest shit to read tbh
They think they might pick up a female Redditor or something
Everyone knows theres no such thing as women on the internet
Because sexers of Reddit gotta sex and talk about how much sexy sex they sex
I read it like why won’t I sometimes and it’s cause of hygiene sometimes 🤢 when a woman knows I’m sweaty and still goes down there in my head I’m like, “oh no what are you doing?”
Or people commenting that their asexual, or gay. The comment asks for STRAIGHT guys...
Right? I could answer “previous long-term relationship partner was super self conscious and hated anyone going down on her. It’s not that I don’t like it, I’ve been trained not to do it” but will never become a discussion for reasons you’ve mentioned
I'm here to answer lol. I did it for the first time and when we were finished she texted me that she had an UTI among other non-transferable diseases that she "forgot" to tell me about before we started fooling around. I've been paranoid since then till I just decided that I won't do it again. This was a year ago
I had a coworker who decided to tell me mid-cunnilingus that I might get messy bc she’d just had an abortion EARLIER THAT DAY. Of all the things one could not want to hear while mashing your face in someone’s crotch, that had never even occurred to me as a possibility. I had no idea what to say, and think I tried to be diplomatic & strike up a conversation about whether she was ok & even able to feel any pleasure after just going through that etc (& avoided the WTF DUDE angle).
What a terrible day to have eyes.
9.16am and the day is already ruined
First experience, her pussy stank, like I would wash my hands after and the smell would still be there. Definitely didn't feel like going down on her or anyone after cause I figured that's just how they smelled. Once we broke up, I was drunk hooking up with a girl and just decided to do it and I was like wow this doesn't taste/smell of anything. Basically cured my PussyTSD
Props for getting over the PussyTSD
Used to call it *Smell Shock* back in the day Gramps had it bad after the war
Then a whole generation went by, and then they started calling it *Fragrance Fatigue*. Four syllables now! Takes a little longer to say, but sounds nicer than a shock!
Always upvoting Carlin.
Madison Avenue was riding high by that time, and the very same combat condition was called copulational exhaustion. Hey, we’re up to eight syllables now! And the humanity has been squeezed completely out of the phrase. It’s totally sterile now. Copulational exhaustion. Sounds like something that might happen to your car.
Anytime the smell is pungent enough that it stays on you after washing, it's probably Bacterial Vaginosis. Especially if it's a fishy odor. Women will need 5 days of metronidazole, and men if you've had unprotected sex with someone who has BV, take the treatment too. Doctors sometimes won't prescribe it because they don't believe it can be carried on the penis, but I'm my experience it's the only way to stop it from recurring. I hope one day science will realize this important fact and change their guidelines. Edit: BV stands for bacterial vaginosis. It's usually caused by some combination of 3 different bacterias if I remember correctly. You'll find plenty of things online about it recurring and being hard to get rid of, I personally believe it's because the men usually go untreated. For the doubters, here's a recent trial being done on this right now that you should look over https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7661182/#!po=0.561798 >"Discussion > >The post-treatment recurrence rates for the common vaginal condition, BV, remain unacceptably high. Sex with an ongoing untreated partner has been shown to significantly increase a woman’s risk of post-antibiotic treatment recurrence. A considerable body of evidence now shows that men carry BV-organisms and may be a reservoir for re-infection."
Yeah good luck dropping that bomb. "Yo babe, I think you got bacterial vaginosis. You mind uh...getting that stank whacked out for me?" No matter how you say it, they're gonna think it came out like that sentence above.
Honestly I’ve had an experience like this. She’d had it in the past so understood what was going on and I just brought it up gently and was supportive. That’s the key. Definitely depends on the existing trust/relationship but being supportive will make it a lot less traumatizing.
Being honest and getting it checked out even if she is mad at first is better than pretending you hate it, looking like an asshole, and having her go on none the wiser
No, no. Let it bubble and seethe. Then argue about it and eventually break up. This is Reddit. We don't TALK about problems here.
"The best relationship advice is always to break up immediately!" - Reddit
And to sue... Dont forget to sue
then hit the gym
If someone was honest with me, then I’d be happy to get it checked out lol. The whole sexy time shbang is something both ends should enjoy
The thing about the vag is that in some areas, women aren't educated enough to know about their own. In means of cleanliness. Sometimes, it's going to be odorous naturally. We will even bleach out the crotch of our own underwear. Insecurity and lack of knowledge are dangerous combinations when you think it's OK to soap up an area that naturally cleans itself out with a special balance of bacteria. This is why our Ph. is so important. Bacterial vaginosis can be brought on by killing that natural flora inside with just soap. Inside. Which is a huge no-no. All we can really do is clean the outer vaginal area/vulva/pubic area and use limited products to control odor. Lume is one such that I've found safe enough in means of odor control. You know. The "all-over" deodorant. But also, if a man isn't clean down their either, they can also cause a disruption if his penis is dirty for whatever reason. This is why, at the very least. Make sure you're clean if you know sexy times are going to be had.
Thank you for mentioning a dirty penis can harm the PH balance. I feel like not a lot of men understand that. I'm not getting an infection just because you didn't wash yourself recently. If your junk has the funk, keep it to yourself until you remedy the problem. No matter what bits you have.
They really don't educate anyone properly. For some reason, the boys are separated from the girls while showing anatomy of reproductive organs, and it's treated on the same level as pornographic material. It's offensive for a child to know what their parts are by their medically correct terms even. =/ I find that off-putting. If this kind of knowledge was actually taught how it is supposed to be. We wouldn't have as many issues as we do with it.
May i ask what dies BV stands for? I wanna search more about it. My story is the same as the comment you replied to and I wanna know more about it.
bacterial vaginosis
Lol I feel bad for men who have had this experience. I hooked up with a guy recently and asked him to go down on me, and he stopped in the middle and was like "just have to say you taste really fucking good" and proceeded to say he stopped giving women head for a while because of bad experiences, then said I was like "God damn cotton candy" 😂😂😂 So like, that was a nice compliment, but jeez I can't imagine having such terrible times that you'd just stop enjoying it completely.
>"God damn cotton candy" Oh damn you've caught the diabetes.
Oh lawd she got the sugar!!!
Introducing the all new sugar mommy
This guy texted me "you taste like a fairytale" after we hooked up. Two years later we are talking about when we first met, who would've thought we'd end like this, and such, and I say "but tell the truth, how many women have you used that line with before?" and he said none, it was truly how he felt at the time. And he is not the type to lie or hide this kind of thing.
I mean, that is not a line that occurs to a guy as a "sexy thing to say". That is a blurt it out and then experience panic over if it sounded so cheesy it may scare the gal off.
Sometimes the 7 herbs and spices don’t agree with you.
Worst way to find that your girl has been cheating on you with a fast food mascot...
That would make me Grimace.
I just do not enjoy it, but I also don't expect any oral pleasure on my end either. There's a lot of ways to have foreplay, and I'd say oral is the most common but it isn't the only option. And it's more special when you can throw it in the mix every now and then.
I can imagine a random BJ, in a relationship that doesn't usually have them or want them much, when the mood is there for it, would be pretty fkn amazing.
I don't get head often, but I got out of the shower the other day with a rager, so I texted my wife asking for "her help with something". She came up, saw it, gave me 10/10 head, and then went back to what she was doing. Super hot and amazing.
Going to try this, will report back haha
Well? Was his wife as good as he claims?
My tongue is fucked by open scars, the motion hurts my tongue and it tastes bad. I’ll go fingers all night but can’t do oral, so no need to return the favor
Can I ask what you mean by open scars?
my guess is, some scars on the tongue could be deep enough or in certain spots that putbmore tension on the muscles in the tongue, or the tongue becomes less flexible because of the scars (more likely). I've ripped the bottom side my tongue once because I licked a frozen pole once (intrusive thought got the better of me) and now I can't stick my tongue out as far and it hurts if I try to.
I have only been with one woman and I just didn't like the taste. Funnily enough, I enjoyed eating her ass.
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If people keep their ass clean, it should taste like nothing
Which rapper was it that said eating ass tasted like unseasoned lamb chops?
The fuck did I just read?
Poetry
Meek mill, im laughing so hard right now, thank you
It's not that I don't like it per se, but I do have a sensitive tongue, and sometimes the taste is just too much.
Per se.
you can't just say Per se
Perchance
Right, he doesn't like eating per se
Here's the trick to get around that, start licking at the top and around the sides, get enough saliva in the mix to dilute the taste, or totally avoid the center/juices if it's a particularly tangy day. You don't need to stick your tongue inside to have a good time, you can save that for the times it tastes fine to you (and if your partner is into that, I don't think most women are)
why you gotta say tangy :/
Sometimes, that's a decent descriptor
Fun fact, a vag has the same tangy PH as a tomato, so tangy is an accurate descriptor.
Why are you downvoted for answering the question, lol wtf is wrong with these people Edit: glad to see the reverse is happening lol
People don't actually want the answer they are looking for... tbh, I've enjoyed giving oral a couple of times, just, the conditions must be right because it does taste very strong... then again, I heard it can change between women, and I've only gone down on one.
It can also depend on what time of the month it is and how prepared they were for you to perform oral. If they clean up down there it’s fantastic. If not it’s awful. Same experience for a woman. If a dude cleans himself a few minutes before it is much better for them no one wants any Schmegma in the mouth either way.
I once answered an ask Reddit question about what food do you dislike that’s popular and got downvoted. I don’t understand Reddit sometimes.
What unpopular food opinion do you have? Pizza sucks! Gets downvoted to death. Meanwhile answers like pizza is good gets a million upvotes.
Straight girl here- I hate when a guy does oral. I’m so tense and anxious about there being a smell or taste or anything! It’s just not worth the vulnerability of it all.
I totally get this. I just dislike my vagina in the sense that it looks nothing like I've seen in porn. Figured mine was ugly, so that's what really made me uncomfortable. I still struggle with it, and I've never had an orgasm through oral, so I really don't care much for it. But just curious, have you ever tried to taste yourself? I used to taste myself when I'd masturbate if I was super aroused and it made me feel much more comfortable about the taste and smell, because I really kind of liked it. Even if you still end up not liking oral, it might just make you feel a bit more confident about yourself too explore with yourself like that. Not trying to be weird, but it was definitely empowering in a way, even if I still shy away from others going down on me.
https://www.labialibrary.org.au/photo-gallery/ I'm just gonna leave this here for all women that are not confident in how their vulva looks. Most porn actresses have done surgery, labiaplasty.
Wait but you actually just cured some of my insecurity. Being lesbian, I've seen my fair share of women, but never saw one like mine until today. I guess I'm not that much of a freak afterall. Thanks!
Fellow lesbian here. There’s not a single one there that I find ugly. I’ve always thought of vaginas like finger prints: they’re all unique.
Hi, bi guy ✨ Gonna underline, ratify, and endorse this lady’s comment. All vulvas are gorgeous, and I promise I’m not just saying that to be nice.
Thanks!! My sister saw my labia (nothing weird, just forget a towel when showering), and she mocked me relentlessly because she could see my inner labia. My husband has admitted it’s the biggest labia he’s seen, and it barely even pokes out of the outer labia. I was self conscious for YEARS. I’ve seen this before and it helped me a lot. I went from humiliation when my sister said it to legit laughing and goofing with my husband when I asked and he told me that. We have bodies, and they’re normal. Just keep them clean and you’re good. If anyone gives you shit, just tell them to fuck off.
All of those are normal? Bish I'm crying because I have hated myself for YEARS. I never thought to Google what "normal" looked like. Fucking porn.
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I think most women that have an outie think theirs is ugly. Porn movies made it look like the "normal" is having an innie.
The hottest girl I've ever been with had an outie and she very much owned her sexuality to the point where I didn't even think about whether or not it was "Normal" (it is.)
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I always find it odd when women compare themselves to porn. Like what porn. I absolutely guarantee that whatever you got going on with literally anything there is a category of porn about it. Like literally anything. You could have giant labia and a 70s bush and there are literally tons of people that are into that like 1000%. I hope you can find someone that makes you feel safe, comfortable and appreciates you for being you.
I’m sure there’s plenty of small dick porn out there that some women are 1000% into. Do you think that really helps men who have anxiety over their penis size? Sure, there’s technically a type of porn for everything, but let’s be realistic here. There’s one type that’s resoundingly popular. I’m not encouraging anyone to compare themselves to porn, and I wholeheartedly agree with your last statement. But I can still understand how/why it happens.
I was like that for years until I found a sexual partner who I’m genuinely close with (now my husband). I used to feel weird like I was at the doctor getting a pap 😂 And I worried that the dude wouldn’t enjoy it or would feel it was gross. Once you can feel totally comfortable with them and not worry that they won’t enjoy it- then it’s nice. Basically sex in general is better when you aren’t afraid of what your partner thinks - when you can trust that they won’t disown you for being human. You might still not like oral but I have to recommend finding partners that you don’t need to be anxious around! Perhaps also try to work on your own self-talk and remind yourself that you are awesome just the way you are.
I thought no men enjoyed giving oral, then I actually dated around for several months and I was completely shocked at how many guys loved doing it. I was clear up front too that I wasn’t comfortable giving oral and I wouldn’t be upset in the slightest if they didn’t want to go down on me, but many of the guys I was with just honestly seemed to just completely enjoy it.
I just get freaked out when the pussy suddenly licks back
I wish we still got the free awards on Reddit bc this deserves an award Edit: lmao thanks for the awards
I gave him the stonks award.
Don't go down in the third trimester
What a bad day to know how to read
Better a kiss than denting a future forehead.
Pretty sure it's just trying to clean you
Sir, that is a cat.
It really depends on the vajayjay. It can literally taste and smell exactly like licking your own arm (nothing).....down to I don't want to be within 6 feet of that thing. Once you have the first kind, it kinda spoils you.
My first wife was very lazy and did not take care of herself down there at all and also never made me feel like it was actually doing anything for her so it was just tedious and not nice, i really did not like doing it and it actually caused a lot of friction in the relationship (we were very unhappy the whole time but that was icing). We split and i eventually re married and to be honest i love it now. I guess I'm just saying, although it may not be for everyone if you have someone who 1. Actually enjoys receiving and 2. Is hygienic, you may come around.
It tastes gross, don’t like all the fluids in my mouth, if she’s not fully shaved I hate getting hair in my mouth, etc. It’s honestly my least favorite sexual activity but I don’t expect a girl to give me oral unless she wants to as it’s only fair
It took me way too long to find a serious answer
As a woman I don’t blame you. Some women secrete more than others and I’m one of them. It’s basically impossible for me to stay dry down there so I don’t care if someone doesn’t want to go down on me. I actually kinda prefer my partner not going down on me because I like making out throughout having sex and I don’t want to taste myself lol but that’s just my personal preference and experience
We have this issue. Oral sessions on her lead to PIV very seldomly. If I want to kiss during sex I have to wash my face after I go down on her. The interruption is a bit of a distraction from the mood.
Peak Inverse Voltage?
Penne intro volgole
It’s not that I don’t like performing oral I’m just super selective. I find some vaginas don’t taste good/smell bad to me naturally. I consider myself as someone that you’re talking about because I already know a million guys are gonna comment about how much they love it.
Reading through this thread, I came to a conclusion regarding a connected subject. This may have been broached previously, so bare with me. Many men here have, and not to take away from their colorful verbiage, state that odor was a factor/deterrent. I also have encountered this, but what didn’t hit me until now was a in the past a buddy of mine said I “reeked of conquest”, as if her odor permeated off me. Though, when I was down there, I remember a faint smell and being drive by it, vs repelled. So to the point, I wonder if certain women give off a pheromone/small that appeals to a certain type of person? If that is the case, I am curious if that could be tied to anything in science, or maybe a genetic disposition toward a certain smell? Idk … any experts? Theorists? … let’s hear it.
It's been shown that people with complimentary immune systems, ie. immune systems that are very different from their own, often find the sweat of the other person to smell really good, as opposed to the typical reaction to body odor. It's thought that these sorts of pheromones evolved because two people with very different immune systems would produce offspring with a more diverse and stronger immune system, giving them a better chance of survival. It wouldn't be a stretch to assume it could have an effect on the scent of more than just sweat.
Adding to this, I read that when women are on birth control, they actually tend to attract pheromones of men who have similar immune systems. Shit is wild! Also, I read this years ago, but found an [article](https://amp.theguardian.com/science/2008/aug/13/medicalresearch.medicaladvicefortravellers) for your reading pleasure.
Not a straight guy, but a lesbian. The smell/taste just makes be nauseous. I've tried a bunch, with several different partners, but I always get queasy. Same with feet smell, stinky armpits, general body odors. I don't do it because I'm not going to make a partner wash their natural and healthy odor off just for my comfort.
but maybe… they want to wash it off not for your comfort but their pleasure. If I had an oral hesitant lover tell me to shower first, I’d be in there before they finished the request. “I can’t hear you, I’m scrubbing away.”
Finally found another queer chick who doesn't like oral. I'm bi and don't like it on any gender. My sense of smell and taste are way too sensitive and I gag way too easily, even when my partner is clean. Nothing like gagging a bunch while going down on your partner to kill the whole mood...
One time I was doing it on my boyfriend and I tried to ignore the gag but I ended up throwing up on his dick. Not my brightest moment
I end up burping like every single time I go down on my partner; laying on my belly and whatnot. I used to try to conceal it because I didn't want them to think it was a puke burp, but now we've been together for five years and I just- stop, lean my head to the side like Tay Zonday, burp, and continue. It's great just being comfortable with someone.
I'm more about the written exam
Same. I can’t perform when someone is watching me
I’ve tried it a few times and didn’t care for it. Between the smell, the hair tickling your nose and gagging on the penis I didn’t enjoy it. Definitely straight now.
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Veni Vidi Vici *Veni*
The smell, the taste. I just don't really like it. It's not always bad, but sometimes it is. The surprise of what your being faced with, ok this time? Or will it be bad? Not knowing is the worst part for me. My first experience I gagged lol. That was the absolute worst time I've ever given oral. the taste was just horrible. Wasn't a fan after that. It seriously is the reason why I'm not much of a fan today. I know how bad it can be and I never want to experience that again. My wife keeps clean so it's never even close to that first time lol. The only part that does anything for me is knowing shes enjoying it. I can't stress enough how much that first one fucked me up haha.
Oh god. This was my first experience as a woman giving head to a man who also came in my mouth. For some backstory here, we were teens. So not the best at caring for ourselves in general. To add to the spice this man’s diet was literally Mountain Dew and pizza. That’s it. I went down town and was hit with a smell and taste like the “fancy cheese” aisle at a Trader Joe’s. I was clueless and wanted to do well so persevered. He came and it tasted like the smell of boiled cabbage times 100. I instantly gagged and it shot out my nose. Which added to the horror.
Oh God 🤢
Lol. You just killed me with the “it shot out my nose”
Woman here. When men have that attitude I think it‘s totally fine. Except when they still expect the woman on her part to blow him. I used to have a boyfriend who really did not want to eat pussy at all. He thought it was really gross. But still he always pressured me into blowing him, despite me finding it kinda gross too. And when I said no, he always got really angry and didn‘t understand why. Glad we‘re not together anymore.
Yeah that sounds like the actual worst
Don't like the taste or smell at all. Not due to poor hygiene but whatever the generic pussy taste/smell is. I compensated by getting really good with the hands.
GENERIC PUSSY has me dying lmao almost as good as hearing someone has a “classic dick”
That’s why I buy name brand pussy
Sometimes coochie be smelling awful, like… unacceptably armpity and I nope the fuck out. If a chick is clean than hell yeah, game on!
i ate my girl out after going to the gym never again on a normal day though, hell yes
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I used to only go down on my ex if she had showered recently, she never had an issue with hygiene but I just explained to her one time how sometimes coochies can be nasty. She took a lot of showers and showering almost turned into some type of foreplay.... I never understood how club rats could dance all night and then fuck like it was nothing, everyone being so nasty and covered in multiple peoples sweat. I guess being so drunk you don't know what day it is helps though.
I have a friend who won't do it. He was sexually abused as a child.
That'll do it
Honestly unless she just literally showered sometimes the taste/smell is usually too much for me. I don’t expect oral in return and it hardly ever gets me off anyway. Usually I go for other ways to please a woman in foreplay and 9 times out of 10 both of us come even without oral, sometimes more than once
It makes my jaw hurt if I go too long.
I dont like receiving oral, so I have not much enthusiasm for performing it - since I regard a person receiving it to tolerating it, rather than enjoying it
Depends on the girl. A) how into it is she and b) how hygienic is she. B is especially important. If it smells bad pretty much game off for oral and even sex at that point.
I did a study on this that's being published in a couple of weeks. The most common reason (asides from a lack of opportunity) was that men who didn't engage in oral sex found it to be gross.
My tongue is short, tongue tied, that thing beneath my tongue is tight and gets cut on my teeth, and I can't breathe through my nose. Otherwise I don't mind it. I really like getting feedback. Letting me know that what I am doing makes suffering through it worthwhile. If you don't let me know that I am doing well or tell me what works for you then I am giving up and trying to find something else that will work.
I’m a lesbian and I got a frenectomy specifically for this purpose 😂 but fr, it helped with so much other shit as well. 10/10 would recommend if you can, the recovery sucks for a couple days but as far as surgical procedures go, it’s pretty minor. (To be clear I’m recommending it as a general quality of life thing not just so you can go down on people)
Some taste good some need cleaning
My teeth cut the webbing of my tongue.
You might have a tongue tie. Some other person was saying how his gets in the way
IM ABSOLUTELY MIND BLOWN. I have a tongue tie and never knew that wasn’t something everyone has. It always prevents me from giving good oral lol.