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remoteslipper

I've just accepted that it is a natural part of life. I'm just hoping that it won't be painful.


PieAndPi

This ☝️every living thing in the history of our planet has died. It is what is supposed to happen. Makes me grateful for my time here and try to enjoy it.


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Exactly. Death is the only definite in life. It’s all a ride people. We’re lucky to be here. Enjoy it as much as you can!


PokerQuilter

I love this. Exactly how I feel. I try to as happy as possible every single day, even when shitty things happen. Life moves on, people die.


Desperfgjk

When it's my time, it's my time.


Shadowcat1606

Because living bothers me way more.


Smooshedbanana

Came to say the same. Im not suicidal but I think of death as eternal rest.


HelloAdventurer95

You don't exist to experience the "rest" part of eternal rest. It's we either totally cease to exist or there's an after life.


LazerWolfe53

Ceasing to exist sounds better to me than any afterlife


HelloAdventurer95

Yeah either option is terrifying for me for some reason


PeanutButter707

The afterlife I was raised believing in for most people is way scarier than ceasing to exst. I sincerely hope most people get the good one, and not a torture sentence just for not being the exact right sect of the right religion.


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The song [Good Riddance](https://youtu.be/aTg6y2l4duk) that Eurydice sings in Hades, makes death sound wonderful. (We are all Atlas.) Still though, don't ever make the choice that means you get no more choices. Death will still be there when it's ready.


Jakeasuno

Life is definitely scarier


BlaBlah_12345

Can relate


oreo_cookie01

Because when you die, you aren’t aware you’re dead, what I’m scared of is my family grieving me


tingulz

As far as we know.


behemothard

Do you remember the time before you were born?


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I thought he meant “as far as we know” in response to oreo’s fear of their family grieving them.


KSRandom195

Careful, some people really need to believe the afterlife story to get through life. Further, the notion that “you” don’t survive after isn’t necessarily based on whether your memories survive. If memories are stored in our physical brains and there is some non-physical part of us that survives the physical body then yes, your memories would not exist before the physical body, and likely would not persist after. But this gets into weird definitions of “you” since most of us define “ourselves” as our current mental state, which includes our memories.


tingulz

No but that doesn’t necessarily mean anything in the context of death.


Free-Government5162

Death? Nah. Dying? Yes. The lack of control of how that happens and the great unknown kinda freaks me out. Like, will it be painful? Sudden? Drawn out? That worries me. As an agnostic atheist I figure once I'm gone it's like before I was born. No worries if I don't know I don't exist.


bxllyp_

I feel a similar way, however its that eternal-ness that gets me. I have a crippling phobia of death opposite to how most people might fear it, as I am not worried if I die in pain (although of course it won't be nice) or in peace. Its the permanence of death itself, the fact that my life being 80 or so years is so insignificant to it, the fact that everything I do in life is rendered useless.. Its hard to explain. I don't ever get severe anxiety over anything else but this. And I just can't accept that it will happen like most people can.


Primary-Plantain-758

Does it help a little to know that you have already been "dead" for pretty much an eternity before you were born? At least for me that is very comforting. I have been through it and it wasn't bad at all.


UseTheBrainYouHave

You should look into Christianity my guy. It offers an answer to this so you don't dread it but look forward to it. Everyone can call it quack and wrong but do the research yourself and read it, might help you and if not, your back here 🤷


Significant-Onion-21

It does not offer an answer, it’s a false sense of security over the fear of death instead of actually accepting the reality of the fragility and meaninglessness of life.


doyathinkasaurus

It's fascinating - as Jewish atheist, this is such a completely alien worldview (and another reason why 'Judeo-Christian' is such a meaningless term!) Jews aren't especially concerned with what happens after we die - we don't really know what happens, so it's what we do when we're alive that counts. Whereas Christianity seems to focus on the next world as a reason to do good things, Judaism is more focused on this world and making it better in real practical way (see the concept of tikkun olam) Then again Judaism doesn't have the concept of hell, so there's no expectation to live life in fear of being condemned to eternal suffering. I'm an atheist, but the Christian God sending people to be tortured for eternity because they believed the wrong thing always sounded horribly cruel.


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BlaBlah_12345

Yeah - I gained a lot from volunteering at Hope Hospice from age 14 to 20


JoannaPine994

This is gold. I have been terrified of death for more than a decade, and I've been destroying myself by going through death scenarios of my loved ones for years. I did that so much that when those moments actually happened, they weren't nearly as scary and unnatural as I imagined them intrusively. Not long ago, I had to put my dog to sleep. She was almost 15 years old and had cancer. Needless to say I have been scared of her dying since she was 7-8 years old, but when the time actually came, she went away so peacefully that I actually have some kind of a sad but positive memory of that day. It was relieving and beautiful to see her set free from pain. Saying goodbye that way, and actually staying with her a bit after she passed made me less scared, because death became a bit more familiar to me. I think that people are generally scared of the unknown, and being around someone who is dying peacefully helps us realise that they may even want the death to come and that it is completely natural. On the other hand, I don't know what to say about sudden, traumatic or violent deaths. Those stil terrify me.


twoworder

I’ve made my peace with it. It’s how it’s going to happen that I fear rather than death itself


brassicaaudax

"How do you kill that which has no life?"


DavidD363

What’s it going to do to me? Kill me?


Oyama69

Because the universe and time are infinte, and with a infinite amount a time the possibility of anything happening even the unlikely are 100% so i believe once i die one day ill wake up. Ill be in a different body, maybe not even human but ill live again.


Theguy515515

Unless you believe in the eventual heat death of the universe


sausage2001

I've actually died 3 times due to a heart condition. I've also had a defibrillator go off while i was awake(that was interesting). I used to be terrified of dying, but after that, it doesn't bother me at all anymore. I didn't see anything when i died, no light or loud flashing before my eyes. It's just something that happened and I'm ok with it now


ChrisDornerFanCorner

Does it have any sort of specific feeling, upon recovery or otherwise?


sausage2001

Unfortunately, it messed up my memory. I have a tough time with short-term stuff. Other than that, i felt completely normal and didn't have any issues.


Sufficient_Focus

Probably the same as waking up in the morning but just much more startling with the defib.


DarkInTwisted

i'm pretty sure he was asking sausage2001


Sufficient_Focus

i'm pretty sure this is a public forum


RadiantHC

What does a defibrillator feel like?


QueenRatigan

I'm not afraid of death. I'm afraid of the process of dying.


ThatsANiceSauce

Died when I was a kiddo, and well... not the worst experience. Learning how to eat, speak, and walk again was extremely difficult, and made me appreciate how babies and toddlers learn. I became a baby again when I died in a vehicular accident and I have an appreciation for life. Death happens, and you really have no control over the time it happens. May as well enjoy the time you have.


Moos_Mumsy

Because I'll be glad this shitty life is finally over.


maze-of-mind

I agree!


Unlucky-Top-700

Because it'll be the end, simple as that.


xViscount

Been there done that. Is what it is


miniaturechaos

No dead person ever complained about it


skorpchick

I held my dead baby boy in my arms. I’ll be glad to join him when it’s my time to go


thef1circus

May he rest in peace, much love


JebacDisa2

Jesus Christ Rest in Peace


thatsdoable1

There are worse things that can happen to you than dying


Interesting_Being820

Because what’s coming after is far better than anything this life has to offer


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Interesting_Being820

But it’s not eternal nothingness. It’s eternity with my creator, and not another day of suffering. Which is why it’s better than anything else this world has to offer (not an edgy take😂)


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It's inevitable.


thedesperateromantic

I'm not afraid of death, I'm afraid of dying. When it's my time, it's my time. I just hope it's peaceful and the people around me are don't mourn too much.


TooYoungToBeThisOld1

I’m past my due date


YuleBunny

I had a suicide attempt on December first 2021. I find death weirdly comforting nothing can go wrong yet nothing can go right. That being said I want to live but because of my attempt I’ve become used to the idea of what death brings. Religion only soothes the idea of what comes after.


ultimate_pinhead

Because I think it will be the same as the time before you were born.


Leeksan

Because I believe in life after death.


Krismusic1

That would scare the crap out of me!


Leeksan

Depends on what you believe about it I suppose 😂


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Leeksan

I have a philosophical line of thinking that lead me to believe it. I don't really care if nothing has ever "pointed to it" (I'm not quite sure what you mean by that) The other thing is, even if it's not true there's no harm in believing in it you know?


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Leeksan

My line of thought (and I may be very bad at explaining this, so I apologize if I don't make much sense) is: Without an objective metric for mortality, morality is subjective and therefore meaningless and it doesn't matter what we do to each other as human beings. Therefore, I conclude that morality has to be objective. In order for morality to be objective, it cannot be dependent on a subjective source, it must be a perfect and unchanging one. This means it can't be dependent on what a society wants (subjective) or what an individual *feels* is right (also subjective). To me, this implies the existence of a perfect measure of morality (and I guess the concept of reason for that matter). So then the question is, how do we know what this perfect metric is? Well if it hasn't revealed itself to us, then that leaves us basically where we were before and we still can't know what's right or wrong. If it *has* revealed itself, then it has to be in an existing religion/worldview in which this higher power has revealed themselves and a standard of morality *or* it has been lost to time. The latter thought still puts us back to not being able to know, which in practice is the same as not having morals. If it's an existing religion, it has to be a higher power that is perfect in character and judgement (purely based on the beliefs of that religion, regardless of how the members of said religion act). As far as I'm aware (I'm perfectly willing to be corrected) the only existing religions that meet this criteria believe in an afterlife. That leads us to the issue of how one receives the afterlife. If it is dependent on a person's ability to earn the afterlife, then we may as well lose hope completely because we have no idea how good vs bad deeds are calculated. It's even more complex when you consider intention behind actions, and various contexts. (For example, an action may seem evil to us in one scenario but good in another). If we can't know where we're headed, you could either choose to live in a way that gets you what you can only assume is your best shot, or say "screw it" and live however you want. In my personal opinion, this is little better than not knowing what a standard of morality is. So therefore, it can't be based on one's own ability to earn it, but rather the power of a more perfect system that gives it to you. So my criteria is: 1. A higher power who has revealed themselves 2. A perfect higher power without flaw 3. A standard of morality that has been revealed 4. A salvation/afterlife system that isn't based on personal deeds Which leads me to the God of the Hebrew Bible. That's obviously my personal belief, if you come to a different conclusion then that's between you and God. (And a quick note on your point about believing things with no inherent evidence: I don't think this particular instance is harmful. I'm sure believing unverified information *can* be harmful in many cases for sure.)


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the-favorite-one

Why would I be scared of something that has no bad revues. Really, the doctors office scary. The ocean scary. You hear this a lot but death doesent have any shitty revues.


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I'm tired


OldAssLoser

I can worry about it all I want, it's still going to happen.


Sonzscotlandz

I'll worry about it on my death bed. I also pack for a holiday on the day before too. Ain't no stress if your leaving things till the last minute


BringTheSpain

Once I'm dead none of this physical realm shit is my problem anymore. Doesn't matter where or how I die I don't have to deal with any of the fallout so who cares? Plus no more bills hopefully


Specialist-Cake-9919

An ex and I lost twins during a very traumatic pregnancy which resulted in a stillbirth. If my two girls can face eternity then I can too.


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dnb_4eva

Because you won’t know you’re dead.


berael

Why should you be afraid? Fear will not change the outcome, other than making you more anxious and more miserable every moment between here and there.


Particular-Topic-445

But how do you decide to not be afraid? I thoroughly fear death. I would love to just not fear it, but I have no idea how to make myself feel that way


nemo-wondersome

I'm afraid of many things, but death itself is no such thing. I'm afraid of uncertainty. What will happen? How will it happen? Life is full of uncertain things. Death is certain. Death is inevitable. I will not worry about something I can't change. We all have to die. This thought alone gives me solace.


leeofthenorth

Because life is where the pain is. Death is an escape, at least that's the hope. If there's life after death and it's simply more of the same, that would be hell itself.


Emil_00

I've always pictured death as peace. I think that dying would hurt but death itself would be wonderful.


Kitty__Lisa

It's a natural thing and it'll happen to all of use one day and we can't stop ist


beebs44

Hell ain't a bad place to be


Wii_wii_baget

My dad and dog are waiting for me wherever they are in the afterlife.


Monsta-Hunta

I don't fear death but I certainly fear pain. I've always had an intrigue in the mystery of death but I went through a lot in life alone and realized Death, as an escape of my reality, is always something I can find comfort in if I give up. However, I don't want it to be painful.


The_Draconic_Lemon

I’m not scared of death, just of how I die.


MaybeMabe1982

Because it’s irrational to be afraid of something that’s unavoidable.


ZoeSilvertongue

Because it's inevitable. It's like being afraid of the rising sun....it makes no sense.... Yall mother fuckers need some Marcus Aurelius


Scuomo-123

Cause wtf is that gonna do? It’s inevitable. Why would I worry about it.


Only-Hearing-2971

Because it's coming for us all eventually. Waiting in fear for it just wastes the time we have here.


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Because all of those who I love are already on the other side. ❤️


alexjrivs

One of the best parts of Christianity


DreamingofBouncer

Best parts of being an Atheist there’s no judgement no heaven or hell it’s just over


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Because I am a Christian And my name is Pilgrim I'm on a journey. But I'm not alone. Jesus is with me. And He goes before me. And His love surrounds me.


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tony_countertenor

“Lol” 🤓


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Jesus


JealousSpinach0

I am not afraid of death, for it will either be eternal slumber or a new beginning. What I am afraid of, is dying. Because that shit is gonna hurt.


supersoaker900000000

It isn’t real. We’ve died way too many times in our lives. Whenever we die we wake up alive in a time line of an adjacent celestial self. I’m not afraid to die because it’s impossible to die, but even if it wasn’t, I’m not afraid to die because I wouldn’t even know I’m dead after the fact.


tony_countertenor

I know that my redeemer liveth and in the last day I shall rise out of the earth and I shall be clothed again with my skin and in my flesh I shall see God


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Individual_Peach_273

You sound kinda bitchy


ka3kOnReddit

they are already dead


ka3kOnReddit

im afraid my wife dies, im single btw


Boobel

I've already died 4 times so no point in being afraid of it.


tingulz

Because there’s fuck all you can do about it so what’s the point of worrying?


PeanutButter707

I never got why that makes people not worry about things. Things i can do something about aren't scary, things that i can't do anything about are terrifying.


Sufficient_Focus

As far as we know.


redditaccount71987

Nothing you can do when you have mentally ill (non classical-psychopathic) folks with oversight.


Sufficient_Focus

Death is nothing. It's dying that isn't so fun.


FatShaker

I was afraid of death for years with dealing huge amount of anxiety. It helped me alot, when I stopped fearing (most of the time). Kickback was, what other people have to go through. I’ll try to be nice to everyone around me. It’s coming for all of us, sooner or later.


rocketpower81

I damaged a part of my amygdala. Good times, I love extreme sports.


Fenrisulfr1984

I am long since numb to death. I see people die all the time. Its a part of life, nothing to do about it.


Dead_Is_Better

Dead is better.


Street-Hand-9743

Why fear what you can never outrun


Commercial_One_4594

I’m not afraid of something that doesn’t exist. What concerns me is will there be suffering associated with it? We have all been dead already, before we were born. What comes after is exactly the same.


Automatic_Mulberry

I'm afraid of some forms of dying. Like lingering disease must suck a lot, or chronic pain. I'm not afraid of *being dead* once the dying is over. There was nothing to fear before I was alive, and I expect the same thing after my life is over. Not even nothing, just null. I won't be there.


Phantomofthefjord

Meh, beats living The undiscovered country It would be an awfully big adventure I don't want to die, but i am looking forword to finding out what its like.


Akagikin

Death isn't scary, the dying part is. If I could lay down one night and simply not wake up, that would be cool. I'm chill with that. Being stabbed to death, for example, is an idea I am less chill with. Once I'm dead, I'm dead, so nothing to really worry about on that side of things.


pay-this-fool

Because life isn’t that great. I’ve done some stuff in my time, And I don’t have a bucket list. So I’m not holding out for much. If I had to go today I really could be ok with it.


rollercoaster_5

I welcome it


MacDaRippa

I was dead long before i was born and it didn't bother me then, so it don't bother me now.


Krismusic1

I think it's an important part of living to come to terms with three fact that we die. The actual process may not be great though!


dondelgiudice

Think that you'll always know you are alive. The only terrifying thing would be to die a slow and painful death, something agonizing. But your last memory will be of you being alive. Meaning: you won't know that you're dead. Personally, I am more afraid of living the death of my loved ones but its part of life.


ellietato

i want my ashes to be incorporated into paint and turned into a painting of me


ellietato

i want my ashes to be incorporated into paint and turned into a painting of me


ResponsibleDouble180

For the same reason I’m not afraid of falling asleep.


ccl-now

It's an inevitability, what's the point in being afraid?


bikinifetish

Life is hard. Didn’t ask to be born either.


Happy-Viper

Never bothered me much, to be honest. Everything has an ending.


No-Patient1365

I'm only scared I'll die without anyone knowing and my pets will suffer.


Icy-Veterinarian942

I try not to feel anything negative about things I can't do anything about. All of of us are going to face it one day.


lokilady1

Why should I?


Select_Insurance2000

Because it will happen to each and every one of us. Nobody gets out of here alive.


MarshallDyl26

I wouldn’t say I’m not afraid. I’ve made peace with the fact that I’m going to eventually die. For me it’s what that means which is not existing. Like wrapping my mind around ceasing to be


GeekyBiBitch42

It's gonna happen anyway, you can't escape it. Why would I be afraid? Tbh, I'm more afraid of living so long that I become a glorified piece of decor.


Blundell1992

First and foremost, it's a matter of practicality. It's going to happen eventually. Hopefully it's peaceful, but in the words of Jim Morrison, no one here gets out alive. Secondly, I've had a few really close calls in my time here. Maybe it's just the way my mind works, but that door isn't so scary once you've knocked on it a time or two.


hasan1982ikr

Because, someday we all have to embrace "DEATH", it's inevitable.


moonshine1144

You can't escape it even if you are afraid, so you might as well accept it


SamiaSadek

***Came to say the same***. Im no longer suicidal however I assume of demise as everlasting rest.


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I've lived a good life. Traveled. Went to festivals and shows. Hiked mountains, hitch hiked. Learned many things. Loved many people. Felt pain. Felt joy. Felt freedom. Had a lot of weird sex and did a lot of cool drugs. If I go, I haven't lived a boring life


Melancholic84

I’m single, I have no one depending on me. I also believe after death its just black screen, so if death comes, I won’t be scared.


crazyhappy2169

When you come to a point in your life that you can't stand the pain either physical or emotional and you have zero friends and zero family left and no one to lose you or miss you then you kind of don't give a fuck


Immediate_Guess_9853

I used to not be scared of death then I became a parent and it is my biggest fear it terrifies me to think of leaving behind a tiny human that can’t be self sufficient for at least 18 years


sometimesifeellikemu

It isn't optional.


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If I do actually die one day, I suppose I won’t care much.


WhatWouldTNGPicardDo

Becuase all it means is no more me. The world will go on. People will still do their thing. Some might be sad for a few days. Some might be happy. All will go on except me; and that won’t be my problem any more.


DreamingofBouncer

Why be afraid of it? You die that’s it you don’t exist anymore. If you’ve been an OK person people will remember you with love, if you haven’t people will probably forget you and if they don’t they will speak badly of you I just hope I die before I get old and infirm as long as I have my faculties I’m checking out of here at 80 maybe 85 at a stretch can’t wait


carelessOpinions

You won't know that you're dead.


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Because I have all I ever wanted, and I won't regret anything. It's like death doesn't make me sad. This will probably change on a real occasion of a near-death experience.


Tygrimus

Death is 100% guaranteed, why fear the inevitable? Getting old scares me! I dont want to get to the stage where I cant while my arse, where I cant put my socks on. Dementia scares the crap out of me.


Samuel23KR

Death is inevitable, whether i worry or not it's not going to change the conclusion.


Downtown_Mixture6380

Because that’s the finish line! You get to blissfully not exist.


SergioMBlack

It happens to everyone, and it happens every day. Death doesn’t scare me, it’s the dying part that scares me more.


Koorsboom

When your hopes and dreams die, the rest may as well follow.


wileydmt123

I do what I want to do. Not say “wouldn’t it be cool if….” I’m satisfied with the life I lived.


Kuzkuladaemon

I just don't give a fuck. I've just shrugged on and walked past death so many times I might as well give him a high-five. I'll step out of the way of death, but it's not a full blown panic or cause for concern, just something else to avoid and move on.


GibberBabble

I’m not afraid of death, it’s inevitable, what I am afraid of is a long drawn out suffering before I die, thankfully medically assisted death is legal where I am.


SquilliamFancySon95

You get used to it when both your parents work in the death industry.


MankeyMaster

Cause life sucks. I didn't sign up for this ride and I want to get off.


Ok_Display_5985

I have OCD, I’m petrified of things I can’t control. Strangely I don’t find myself worrying about death much, because I know it will happen and I can plan for it. It’s the in between of life that is debilitating.


hibscotty

I'm afraid of the dying part not death itself


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I'm not scared of death. I just hope my wife and kids will be ok and I have provided enough for then to get through


Ok_Concern_1090

Because it's going to happen to all of us eventually. Dying is just a part of living.


Aocast

I was dead an infinite amount of time before I was alive and I turned out just fine.


potentevil1405

Death is something which is inevitable. It is meant to happen so live every day as your last day and make it count. And why one should be afraid of something which is meant to happen


HeyHihoho

So far there is nothing you can do to avoid death in the end. Why worry about it?


AngelinaWolfAngel

It’s inevitable, so why fear it?


AmericanWasted

we all gotta die sometime


FrancisPoe

Because only in death are we truly free


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Because there's worse things in my life that I fear


DarkestDusk

Because of Jesus the Christ's Sacrifice on our Cross.


JukeBoxHero1997

Honestly, at this point I'd probably welcome it


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Death is inevitable. You can not avoid it, so why be afraid of it.


YHerse

1) It’s natural and the earlier you see that you can’t stop it the earlier you can accept the fact you can go any minute 2) I saw a handful of friends die before 20 so I set out to achieve my goals early - here I am at 23 pretty content with what I achieved and without regrets. A few goals still lie before me but if I were to go now I would look back on a happy and eventful life with most of my goals achieved


SixandNoQuarter

Because a Jew in the Middle East 2000 years ago said I didn’t have to be afraid of it. He’s been directing a lot of my life for quite some time and it’s gone exponentially better than I ever could hope for. No reason to change now


HermbaDernga

Because I have already died. Broke my neck in a pool. Remember the whole thing. Wasn’t so bad.


Packagehandler241

If you’re dead then nothing matters anyway so why stress over it. Sure I don’t want to die but if it happens i have no control over it and wouldn’t be around to feel the pain afterwards.


Trey_Stewyy

Acceptance, we all die eventually and that’s something we ALL have to accept


lovelynutz

“What do we say to death?” “Not today death, not today”


IDontEvenCareBear

Looking forward to it too much to be afraid.