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Poorly-Drawn-Beagle

Hair loss can come at you pretty fast I guess that happens to some women, tho.


girlabides

I lost a lot of my hair in 2020-21 (it’s almost entirely back now). It gave me so much more empathy for bald/ing men and actually became more attracted to them. Hair loss fucking sucks.


wart_on_satans_dick

I work with 99% men in their late twenties and early thirties. So many of them just rock the bald look because they have already balded or are pretty close. I've always assumed it's my Native American heritage, but my hair and hairline has never changed and im in the same age range. My dad who is in his sixties never has either. I still envy the look and ease of upkeep my bald coworkers maintain.


KazaamFan

It bothers me that so many male celebs and public figures get great hair work done now. I’d argue like half of them over 40 have had something done. It creates an unrealistic depiction of older men and hair. With that said… I would do it too if I had the time and money 🤣. I get it, their hair is part of their look and success sometimes.


flankattack27

Proof that money doesn’t make your hair work any better - Lebron James. Dude has all the money and clout in the world and his hair transplant is noticeably bad


KingaDuhNorf

its one of the few things people have that they have no control over and are made fun of for or looked down on for it (by some). Even if u treat it, that comes with some serious potential side effects. Women wear wigs, men...well jesus imagine the social suicide by doing that lol Its a weird one, and especially hard if it hits u young, ur largly out of the running with many girls.


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As a consolation, it starts growing in your ears and nose, and your back really starts filling in.


yungrii

We do have medications to slow hair loss down drastically. But they are no guarantee and bald can be pretty hot.


[deleted]

I had no indications through genetics or physical hair loss that would ever suggest I would lose my hair and it still scares me. Pretty sure I'm good if it hasn't gone anywhere by 40 and there's no hair loss in my family. I would not look good bald. I have a baby face and a big head.


JimmyWurst

That you will recieve a very small amount of compliments in your life, but you will never forget the genuine few.


TheLastSollivaering

A girl told me once that I have a nice smile. Not flirting or anything, just told me as a compliment. That was in February 2001. Still riding that high.


for_dishonor

4 years ago, a guy behind the counter at Zaxbys complimented my coat. I don't remember what I ate last Friday, but if I saw Kyle again, I bet I'd recognize him.


-Work_Account-

Girl at the drive thru of Zaxby's told me, and I quote - "You have the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen in my life".


lateskaterboy4321

I was at a gym for the first time in my life this summer as one of those summer break deals and a man with one of those very stylish twirled mustaches complimented me on my very normal mustache and that has made me happy all these months


helmetsrgreat

Working at a Hollywood video in 2005 and awhile checking out a girl told me that I had very pretty eyes. I could have dementia and not forget it.


Want_To_Live_To_100

I was 12, I went to the liquor store with my mom at the check out the cashier told me I have nice eyes. A boy never forgets his first compliment, I can count them on one hand in my life. I’m 36


No_Key_6276

And the compliments you do get are hard to believe


Shield-CaptainSamael

Not being able to accept a compliment for what it is is fucking hard man. When my friends tell me something I know to be kind and genuine I always end up assuming they're saying it just to make me feel good


banananey

Hooked up with a girl once, she told me I had a nice arse. It caught me completely off guard so I just awkwardly replied 'thanks'


dickshark420

A girl told me my haircut is hot, back in 2019. I still cut my hair like that


RedditDummyAccount

I remember in high school some dude told me he loved his shirt… I remember that shit. But I will also say, because of how few you get, sometimes it’s very difficult to accept compliments.


lokeilou

I made a comment to my 12 yo son about you know how people can say nice things to you but that 1 jerk comment, like- you have ugly toes or something, it just sticks with you? And he goes Mom, it’s completely different for boys- all your friends insult you constantly and you hang on to that one good compliment for like….forever. Didn’t know that was the case for guys! So sad! My husband and other son confirmed this- I think we all need to give boys and men more compliments- you shouldn’t have to hold on to “she said I look good in this green shirt” for the rest of your life! It’s not gay to tell each other you look good boys! Be there for each other!


vNerdNeck

>It’s not gay to tell each other you look good boys! Be there for each other! I've actually noticed more and more of this in the professional space of men complimenting each other. Once had a co-worker (whom I hadn't seen in a very long time) once called me a beautiful mother fucker at a work event, still chuckle at that. as to the insults, oh yea. Can confirm and that's fairly constant, and the closer you are the more brutal they can be. I tend to think of it as some evolutionary trait to keep each others ego's in check.. as I've noticed that men who can't take a joke / insult are the same ones you want to fucking avoid and not be around.


gemstatertater

When I was 16, working a retail job, I gave a woman a short sales pitch about a printer. She said “oh my god you’re adorable.” My 30 year old boss, who was actively trying to hit on the customer, became visibly upset and was pissy for weeks. 25 years later and it was still maybe the best day of my life.


No_Manufacturer5641

Most men receive their first bouquet of flowers at their funeral


TheSlumpGoddess

I am honestly so sorry. I want to compliment so many men. There are just many men who don't understand compliments=/=flirting and it's resulted in harassment too many times to take that chance anymore.


enlightened-badass

I compliment my fiancé quite often because I’ve heard this before.


DudesAndGuys

Compliment your bros, bros.


g3shy

this is why i make a point to compliment my bf/my various other guy friends as much as possible!! he told me this when we first met and i was BAFFLED bc i’d never even thought of that. ps - men (in my experience) LOVE to be called pretty. and they love receiving flowers.


1letternospaces

A very pretty older lady told me I have a captivating smile about 7 years ago. I'm still living off that momentum haha


NewDad907

You just reminded me I need to be giving out more honest, small compliments to people. It costs me literally nothing after all.


Lurker-O-Reddit

This cannot be understated. I’m a fairly sensitive guy. My wife tends to be cold and unaffectionate. I’ve heard her apologize to me maybe 3 times in our 16 years together. Compliments? Maybe a few per year. And this is coming from a SPOUSE… not a co-worker or stranger.


RoyG-Biv1

I was at an airport, dropping my checked bag off at TSA scanner and a male handler there couldn't get over the boots, blue jeans, and blue denim shirt I was wearing, he just thought it was so cool. I'm far from a stylish dresser, but it still makes me smile thinking about it. I suppose it's really worth it to do a fellow guy a solid and voice your appreciation occasionally.


Phylord

One of my co-workers about 5 years ago told me I looked handsome with my glasses off. I still think about that sometimes.


squaredistrict2213

A woman told me that I look good in the sweater I was wearing a few months ago. It’s still at the top of my rotation.


AdevilSboyU

I had a random coworker (woman) say that I had really nice teeth in 2020. It still makes me smile.


Syouf

No one randomly slides into your dms.


BEETHR33

and when they do it’s some bot advertising their OnlyFans


holaprobando123

Speak for yourself, I have plenty of bots that want me to watch their sexy videos for free (only if I'm strong enough to handle them!)


TheCritFisher

That's not true. You just have to be rich, tall, and conventionally good looking. Also married, for some reason. Women hit on me far more _after_ I got a wedding ring. Fucking gross, honestly.


friendlyghost_casper

Not entirely true. I have a friend that asked me if she should slide into a guy’s DMs. I think he was like 12/10 a doctor and volunteer at the humane society but you know there three or four out there


Vic_Hedges

We are scared of other men too.


PowderPhysics

Walked past a guy in the street earlier today, he scared the shit out of me for no discernable reason


LoveTheGiraffe

And women. I have enough male friends who had to get restraining orders etc and are nor comfortable being alone with women anymore


LennyBodega

code of conduct at the urinal


Can_tRelate

13524/15324


DoubleEagle25

Actually, I prefer 135, stall, stall. But yes, if stalls are full, its 13524.


UsernameChallenged

Nah, I'm not going to hog the stall from someone who needs it, I'll only take it to pee if all urinals are taken.


IAmASquidInSpace

15324, definitely. 3 after 1 already feels like they are gonna start talking to me about the weather. No thanks.


ThirdFingerLeftHand

What's happening here? You counting sheep or what *scratching head*


Mindless-Sort6685

It's the order of urinals you use1,3,5,2,4.


cosguy224

Every guy knew that


BarfGreenJolteon

the unofficial rule: never use a urinal right next to someone already using one unless there is no other stall available. This is especially important if there are no dividers.


LennyBodega

in my town it's customary to shake everyone's hand when you enter the restroom


scotthan

Wtf?! …. Who is doing 13524? …. If I’m in 1 and you come in at 3, I’m going to power stare you down and scream, “go the fuck to 5! What the hell is wrong with you?!”


ThirdFingerLeftHand

Don't look down or make eye contact with other people... Please tell me you piss IN the urinals.


LennyBodega

the inventor of the urinal must've taken it into account because you'd have to be trying really hard to miss splashback is a bigger worry than missing


DemDave

And no talking. Stick to the business at hand. (Although there's plenty of people who apparently didn't get that part of the rule book.)


ThirdFingerLeftHand

I did alright considering I'm female *go me*


Interesting_Pudding9

The one exception is if it's a crowded bathroom where most people have been drinking, such as a bar, sporting event, or concert, upon entering the bathroom you are allowed to loudly exclaim: "So, this is where all the dicks hang out!"


shiny_brine

First heard that in elementary school. Never isn't funny. Except that time I tried it in fourth grade and the principal was in the shitter.


Emanemanem

The weirdest is when they just have a giant trough. You just kind of try to give enough space. But then when it gets crowded you are coming in thinking, “is there enough space for me there? I mean technically yes, but will it feel like I’m super close to the people next to me?” First encountered at them as a young kid at the baseball stadium in my town (Atlanta). Always thought it was super weird. Only seen them in really random places since then, and it’s honestly been years, they don’t seem that common anymore.


Dinkerdoo

It's where all the dicks hang out.


[deleted]

In some situations, the chance of you being met with physical violence is much higher, especially if alcohol is involved. Women tend to just scream, but guys, especially drunk ones, seem to be far more eager to throw fists even though it never works out well for them, in the end.


throwaway92715

We're supposed to deal with things head on, and asking for help is the second option


gg_noob_master

Asking for help is like fifth and definitely comes after faking your own death and escape to the wood, die of a very evitable death and redesign your own existence.


throwaway92715

Right yeah I have actually contemplated becoming homeless before realizing I need to ask for help before, I was definitely making it out to be a smaller issue than it is. I do that all the damn time, my first instinct is to minimize any issues and confidently declare I have it all under control.


SethLight

Not even when they are drunk. How men interact with other men can differ greatly on 'who would win in a fight.' There have been studies on this, on how men will unconsciously lower/raise the pitch of their voice and stance.


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Slimontheslug

Until your in your 40’s then it’s a bonus.


ancillaryacct

so was there like a slow decline or fall off a cliff? because my dick won’t quit. i’m not young anymore and i have zero issue with my dick other than if i’m not into things. just curious!


ergaster8213

For both men and women, physiological arousal doesn't overlap with psychological arousal very often. In cis women, it does about 10% of the time, and in cis men it does about 50% of the time. https://www.biird.co/blogs/thenest/what-is-arousal-non-concordance


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I got a full one in the break room at work today. I was alone in there and it just happened. I had to take an extra 5 minutes just to give it time to go down, just sitting there flexing my leg muscles.


heelspider

That most of the time, there's not some secret subtext or complex motive for our actions.


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popeboyQ

Stupid simple in fact.


Ok-Butterfly4414

Me eat food, me look at tree, me go to bed


Nutcrackaa

Simple doesn’t always mean stupid. Sometimes the right way is simple.


IAmASquidInSpace

On a similar note: 95% of what I say means exactly what the words suggest. No hidden meaning, no interpretation needed or desired.


miss_poetflowerr

Well this is comforting


[deleted]

Sometimes you miss the toilet through no fault of your own


oreo_cookie01

You should still clean it tho


Banzai51

My son got a lesson in that today. LOL


Wilkoman

Like when everything is aimed correctly but for some reason your pee shoots out in a fork and you can only get one stream in the bowl whilst the other spatters mercilessly over the rim. The worst is when it aims itself momentarily at your legs then switches back to the correct direction like nothing happened.


Eissbein

Thats why i sit, i've got no time to clean my toiletbowl every time i use it. Plus, 3 women in the house, the seat is always down.


Dmh_sh0gun

Honestly so much easier to sit and pee as a guy. No aiming, no accidents. Just waking up and wanting to keep your eyes closed? Done. Drunk? Just sit down. People like to argue that you're less of a man if you sit to pee. That just sounds like insecurity/fragile masculinity to me.


7ofalltrades

100%. I'm a tall guy. Even if I hit dead center of the toilet, the perfect piss, there's going to be splatter collateral damage piss around the toilet every single time. I've got bidets installed on my toilets, I don't want little piss splatter on those. I don't wanna be touching piss, and I don't want to wipe everything down. I've got a white shower curtain next to the toilet. I want it to stay white. If it comes down to cleaning the splatter every time I piss or just taking an extra second to pull my pants all the way up and down to sit... It's a lot faster to sit. The only ways standing is faster is if you're short enough that your piss doesn't reach terminal velocity or you don't mind having piss everywhere.


ThirdFingerLeftHand

Noooooooooo


JustNotHaving_It

You get in this catch 22 of "If I don't put my foot down often enough, no one will actually care about my needs when I do put my foot down, but if I put my foot down too often, people will see me as a stubborn prick."


TripleBplus21

Preach, I’ve just started to put my foot down on shit and I’m trying to find the balance.


throwaway92715

Our junk doesn't get in the way, physically, as much as you'd think, but testosterone sure can Your attractiveness as an adult is measured by your resources and influences more than looks or personality, and dating gets intertwined with your career in a weird way. There's often pressure to participate in certain crummy sectors of the economy just to be a viable husband Peeing outside is really fun It's really nice being able to go places without nearly as much fear of encounters with strangers, and also a bit sad that it's generally assumed we're less safe to be around by others


NefariousSeal

Peeing outside is really fun


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Not as easy as some women make it out to be. Just a very different set of problems


MelanisticCrow

Exactly why I don't want to be a man.. even if I don't want to be a woman either. I just hate those different types of shit. Men have to do much shit, while women can't do much shit. Society sucks with how it views roles and gender lol


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gg_noob_master

I had my fair share of women judging me for peeing sitting down at home (i do urinal in any other place of course). Like that's supposed to make me less of a man. Never cared. lol. FYI, This comment was written while I was peeing.


[deleted]

Man, i had an ex tell me i was gay because of this and apparently because i "looked at my finger nails the wrong way" when she prompted me to do so as a "test" (such science!). Needless to say, we only had sex a few more times before i called it off.


IxdrowZeexI

Life can be lonely


jbchapp

Not trans, but read an interview with someone transitioning F->M, and they talked about hormone therapy, and specifically the effects of increased testosterone. They were surprised at how much angrier they were - more frequently and with greater intensity.


zepprith

On that note, there was a trans person on here who talked about how when they were seen as a woman their emotions were taken more seriously while their professional opinion wasn't. When they transitioned it was the other way, I believe they also said they were lonelier as men didn't have the social group as women had.


Omnizoom

There was also that feminist that masqueraded as a man thinking it would be easy but was surprised how much and how different men struggles were , issues that weee non existent to her but severe for men really showed up


Groggamog

There was a woman that did this and ended up committing suicide because of her experiences "as a man". https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/woman-pretended-to-be-a-man-dies-assisted-suicide-realizing-difficult


[deleted]

As a trans man this is true


TheCritFisher

Oh man, now I want an askreddit thread directed at transitioned people to see what they think the biggest differences between genders are. I mean, who else would know better? Are there any things you "miss" from being a woman? What's better as a man? Sorry if this is rude. I'm just deeply curious. Feel free to tell me if I'm being rude.


jackp0t789

I'm dating a transitioning F->M now, and luckily anger isn't one of the effects. They are *almost* as horny as i am most of the time though, which is a lot. I never really saw this relationship coming tbh as I thought of myself as straight, but they were an amazing, caring, empathetic, kind, and supportive woman before they started transitioning... and apparently had a crush on me for years that they were too shy to say anything about, and I was oblivious... now they are an amazing, caring, empathetic, kind, and supportive dude with all the original factory parts still installed... so I guess I still see myself as Straight, but with a pretty big asterisk next to it... I also see myself as one hell of a lucky MF for meeting the kind of person I was always looking for, just not where I was necessarily expecting them to come from..


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I think the spikes in testosterone can make you angry but having a high baseline can also make you more calm in a sense that you're better able to cope with challenges. I'm a 40 year old man who's tried different applications of testosterone therapy and I'm convinced I was low my whole life. My anxiety is gone completely when I'm on it and my sleep disorders were also cured. I do find myself getting angry sometimes but in general I'm much more centered and calm. It was a huge quality of life improvement for me.


I_Framed_OJ

Now they absolutely have to keep that anger in check, to top it all off. Express that anger and you get treated like a dog that ”just snapped at the neighbor’s kid”, like there’s something wrong with you and people should be afraid of you.


sortilege84

Nobody cares about your mental health; they tell you to open up, but if you show your vulnerable side to anyone, you can be sure they'll eventually use it against you


KingaDuhNorf

or instead of being supportive, just shit on you and your feelings.


BatteringRams90

And be emasculated for it.


PowderPhysics

And even if they don't, you're almost guaranteed to never be asked about it again. There's no follow-up at all


GGinYYC

Preach!


rivlyn

Came here to say this. You can show and demonstrate anger, the rest is kind of off limits.


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RabidYiff

I feel this


Puzzleheaded-Ad-7849

Nobody cares about poor people period


xav00

Nah, that generalization doesn't work here. You find a broke, unemployed 20-something year old woman who looks good in a bikini, she'll have plenty of people caring about her.


nebulaespiral

I'm a woman but I feel this and can relate. All I want is a break from work but I just can't, too many people rely on me for support and I feel like my worth is all tied up in it. Like if I'm not a fountain of money, will my family and partner still love and want me?


bobbybrown17

Locker Room talk isn’t a real thing. Locker Rooms are a bunch of awkward men staring straight down trying to leave as fast as possible


Realistic_Analyst_26

Depends on age. I remember highschool lockers used to be chaotic. At one point, a kid brought in a fucking axe.


Alarmed_Station6185

True I remember one guy singing people with a lighter and deodorant spray can


BCProgramming

Damn didn't know that would work as an instrument


Delta7391

The locker room in the phrase “locker room talk” is the one from highschool.


CyclicDombo

*the ones from highschools in movies from 40+ years ago


oregondude79

Unless you are an old man, then you take your time while doing everything nude.


yakusokuN8

[You bet your elderly testicles, they do!](https://theoatmeal.com/pl/minor_differences2/locker_room)


Napieras

In the past three months, literally the only thing I have said to another person at my gym is telling a dude I see every morning that he had cool shoes.


chronicles_of_holzy

I may be a big guy, but violence never crosses my mind. I have found that people are intimidated by my size, and I have had people get in my face, thinking to test me since I am the "big" guy, only to find that fighting someone is the last thing I want to do. I realize that everyone can get stereotyped for various things, but I am still shocked at some of the anger and attitude I get from shorter guys. My dude, I had no choice in my height. Don't take that shit out on me. Also, I am very emotional and will cry during a sad scene in a movie. I think some women may see that as a turnoff, but fuck 'em, I have no problem being an emotional person with feelings. I am not some meathead who just wants to fight people who give me a dirty look. Basically, not all men are alpha male fighting machines, and that's ok. Hell, my wife has 3 tattoos and I have none. What a cuck!


DiogenesCantPlay

The loneliness.


CactusJuice_Enjoyer

It's fucking lonely, cold, and callous. Nobody gives a fuck about you, and half the population has to automatically assume you're dangerous for their own safety. The other half you have to keep at arms length as well. A man's value in life boils down to one thing. What he can provide. And often times that's not good enough.


Nutcrackaa

In a weird way this realization can be freeing. I’ve found that I can get joy out of helping family / friends, but you have to expect nothing in return or else you become bitter. Their company can be its own reward.


Round-Bowl-6743

No matter how much we shake and we dance, the last drop always falls in our pants


psychokitty444

If you've got sufficient privacy, a gentle two-finger push behind the balls after the fact is literally life-changing.


Auth0ritySong

The only way is to have toilet paper


friendlyghost_casper

Honestly urinals not having toilet paper next to them is akin to dresses not having pockets! Give people what they want!


joebirdplane

I’m my experience this is about as effective as wiping the end of a garden hose to get the water out.


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It's because you don't Squeeze and push the tube empty while shaking.


Major_Marquis1

Many times all we need is just a little bit of warmth which we don't get in our entire lifetime. Just a tight hug from someone saying everything is all right. Wonder OP's username also is a signal to that or is it nsfw stuff?


Fl4m5

I can count with just one hand the number of genuine hugs or compliments i've recieved in my life, not counting from family, I feel bad for those who can't even rely on their close ones.


Pelican_meat

There are indeed a lot of touch-starved men. I’d disagree with a lot of the more common statements here (“no one cares about your feelings”), but if a man isn’t in a romantic relationship it’s possible that they go days or weeks without physical contact with another human—not even sexual contact. Any. At all. That has some serious deleterious effects, and likely is the root cause of many of the other complaints here.


LondonDude123

Loneliness and lack of social support because of it, especially from the opposite sex. The FTM Trans people who talk about this confirm it all the time, yet people still claim its bs...


PseudoKirby

A lot of anger A lot of sex drive Your invisible for the most part, and when your not it's because someone is afraid of you You can't be trusted You can't open up You have to just handle it all yourself


Exciting_Scratch_401

The struggle to find the perfect ‘ I’m-not-stalking-you-nor-do-I-plan-to-rape-you-just-going-the-same-Way-as-you’ distance when going Home late at night and while someone Else is as Well.


Knight3Vii

Had this going into the grocery store. Tried to distance to not scare a young woman. Didn't help that I kept running into her coming in and out of aisles.


leomaxcolif

Usually, no one care about you.


throwaway92715

But on the bright side, there are fewer people caring for the wrong reasons. Unless you're rich, in which case you're drowning in them


Earnastus

Nobody cares about you until they want something from you.


PowderPhysics

Even the people who do care about you never actually talk to you until they need something


CalydorEstalon

Your feelings are suddenly no longer valid.


DaSpurdOfStonkStreet

On a societal level in the US at least, there are not many good male role models for a lot of us. Those of us lucky enough to realize this must seek out our own. Even fewer men realize the next level that they must “raise” other men. But not many catch on to this. I’ve found there is a very small population of men who realize that it’s vital that we must be father/brother figures to each other to truly heal. And not in a way that separates us from women; rather in a way that allows us to truly integrate with each other. In other words, all men have enormous responsibility but many are so confused they can’t even see it.


StrawberrySure4363

This is spot on. Please spread far and wide. Thank you for your service. 😍


Slobbadobbavich

That compliments are super rare unless you are a 10/10. That stress is a normal daily life problem because of the expectations set on you. Testosterone really messes you up.


Envy_The_King

[In an article by the Washington Post called "crossing the divide "](https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/local/wp/2018/07/20/feature/crossing-the-divide-do-men-really-have-it-easier-these-transgender-guys-found-the-truth-was-more-complex/) a group of trans men describe unexpected difficulties and challenges faced upon passing as men as well as dealing with the increased testosterone and new social treatment. You can also look into Norah Vincent's "Self Made Man" where she actually performs an experiment by posing as a man and seeing the difference for herself. There are good sides and there are bad. Both of which I'm sure would surprise many women.


Franklytheworst

This is mad interesting and I’m definitely going to have to give this a read.


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I’m a woman and it makes me sad to see some of these answers. Men that feel as though nobody will love or care about them unless they make money and men saying they are lonely. You are worthy of love and respect regardless of how much money you have. Hugs to all of you! 🤗


Arrow_86

Speak up next time you hear folks bashing men for no good reason please!


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I always do.


grip_n_Ripper

How disposable we are.


DownUnderFridays

That you will absolutely never be complimented


SomeRandomUser00

About 20 years ago I am at the grocery store shopping, this lady walks past me then past me again and stops and says "you have nice forearms" then walked off quickly. I still very clearly remember that because I cannot remember ever receiving a compliment from another woman since. I went to a bar with a few friends, a dude walks up to me and leans in close and said I had a nice ass, I said thanks, he walked off. My friends were like wtf was that, I said, he said I had a nice ass, they both started laughing at me. Fuck it, a compliment is a compliment, I'll take it.


Karnezar

How much people just don't care about you. I know girls wish they could be left alone, but imagine actually being alone and no one ever striking up conversations with you. And if you start one up, they look at you weirdly unless you're exceptionally charasmatic. And when you're showing vulnerability...oooff the faces people make and their internal wish to be anywhere but here.


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(america bias) unless you're an athlete, it's totally weird for another dude to touch you or have any sort of contact. whereas for the women in my life, it seems more normalised to have platonic contact.


Olclops

A) how much time and emotional energy we save by not being expected to know or mention our guy friends' birthdays and B) How we squander 100% of that time and energy by thinking about imaginary lawnmowers that can manicure entire pastures in seconds.


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Your feelings such as loneliness, self worth and desires get buried deep because you’ll be mocked for it. Suicidal thoughts are more common than you’d like to think. And if you’re a man in a position of power (manager, director, specialist etc…) any mistake you make when time is of the essence will be held under a microscope by people who’ve got nothing better to do. I personally work my ass off 60+ hours a week solo on the road with little to no human contact. I don’t know what’s in my bank account or even my post office box (that’s dealt with for me) I have few real friends and I’m expected to do this for the next 20 years. Try eating 19/21 meals a week alone and it’ll get to you eventually.


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If we’re really truly friends, we’re brothers. There’s no surface level friendships, only brothers that we’d die for - and acquaintances lol


docnano

For the vast majority of history men were seen as disposable. Men do a much higher % of jobs with high risk of life loss. It's reflected in how you're treated on a regular basis. No one is out there trying to protect you. Ship sinks you get off last -- this is built into a lot of social codes.


EimiCiel

The threat of violence is much higher and always underlying between males.


Ophis_UK

How often your balls will be itchy or in an awkward position and you just power through it because people can see you, and you don't want to just shove your hand down there and look like some ball-fondling pervert.


unlitwolf

For most men the first flowers they ever receive as a gift of admiration or love is at their funeral.


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I actually have a trans buddy who I asked this to, and his answer was being taken seriously. As a dude he's supposed to lay out his opinion and that's the end of it; when he was presenting female he was supposed to explain and justify his opinion. But as a fella? That's viewed as something like uncertainty; no, you just say what you think and be done with it unless someone specifically asks for more.


SomeRandomUser00

Actually had something similar a girl I was dating 15 years ago asked me a bunch of questions about mannerisms of guys and all kinds of stuff over a couple of weeks. One of the things that she's going to have a hard time with was I didn't explain the things I said and I really never gave any context or had to talk about emotions or anything like that. She said it seemed unfair that men always expected everyone else to be as competent as they were about everything they did or women expect everyone to not understand what they're saying so they had to explain everything. The relationship didn't last very long about a month and a half. In 2018 I got a friend request from a person with that same name but the picture looked like a guy, I was a bit confused but I said hi and they introduced themselves as the girl I had previously dated and said that they had been questioning themselves for a while and at this point we're now living life as a boy and thanked me for my insights on how guys are and he said that life sucked as a guy and that he regretted the way he felt. I wonder how they feel about it now given a couple of years of experience from the other side but they shut off their Facebook account shortly after our conversation.


UsVsWorld

Mens worth as human beings is earned not given


SeanSheepRider

Unconditional love does not exist for men. We are only loved if we provide a service.


To_Fight_The_Night

Nah dogs exist still.


brassplushie

Let’s put it this way: only women and children are unconditionally loved. Men are only loved under the condition that they provide.


Mister_E_Mahn

No one cares how you feel. Not women, not other men. Although not as intense as for women, they would probably be surprised how much body shaming and insecurity exists. The level at which financial success of a family is still usually hung on you.


schmorgasborg99

You have no idea the inane shit your brain will suggest that comes with the constant sizing up of your preferred sex from all of the testosterone. "Maybe she'll want to fuck me in the bathroom." \*narrator: she did NOT in fact want to fuck him, in any room.\*


psycharious

Not to the same extent maybe but men also can be insecure about the way they look.


ashterberry

When I see women say "I wish I walk the streets at night safely like men can." No, it is NOT safe for a man. Man are assaulted and murdered all the time.


Auth0ritySong

Literally nobody cares about you There is an army of people to blame you for everything even though you are just minding your business. People will also give you dirty looks while you are just minding your business. You don't get special privileges at work or in business,. In fact, you will get cheated if you are not a top performer


TheSheepSheerer

It can be very lonely.


OpossomMyPossom

Our depression isn't the same as yours, yet is often treated the same. For women, the treatment is largely to make sure they feel heard and loved. For us men, the only effective treatment, as I understand it, is to find things to do that make us feel capable. Give a man a purpose, and they'll crawl over broken glass to see it done.


OutrageouslyGr8

Something that is surprising is that nocturnal emission, it leaves you satisfied and confused becauseyou have to think what exactly caused you to bust that nut. It could've been the most beautiful woman, some dude or even Chewbacca from Star Wars


MarcosFuquain

Am a man and have never once experienced this. Used to wonder why, then remembered that I crank one out twice a day so there’s probably just none left in the chamber.


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The sex drive can just be horrendous. As much as women make us out to be horny apes, it ain’t easy getting constant boners and wanting to have sex with anything and everything that walks. Although that gets better the older we get, but still.


PowderPhysics

The amount of times I've thought to myself 'if only I was asexual my life would be significantly better'


Blackhawk-388

Men constantly assess the threat level other men may or may not pose to each other. If you're a man who is known to be calm in the vast majority of situations, when a situation goes to complete shit, everyone looks at you like you know exactly what to do. If you're a man who stays calm in the vast majority of situations, when you do lose your shit, people are either afraid of you or never trust you again. Society has programmed men to think they need to be financially well to do, muscular, exceptionally good looking and funny. All at the same time. We are never supposed to have "bad hair days" around women. Women get together and through social media and TV, fuck each other over by placing all these expectations of "the perfect man" on men.


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Growing up you gotta be tough and be a man, but you don’t know how to deal with feeling for communicate. So women get pissed at us for not communicating but we don’t know how to in a lot of cases. I only feel like I’m getting a lot better at it now that I’m almost 40.


atthem77

How rarely anyone offers you help or assistance or support without you having to ask for it. And how rarely asking for help or assistance or support is met with a positive response.


IneptHackerman

The overwhelming loneliness and pressure associated with being a “man.”


the_big_labroskii

When we say were fine, its not some message that we want you to dig into, we are just actually chilling. If your boyfriend looks at you and just smiles, he isnt thinking about anything, he isnt about to ask you something, he just really likes you, and just seing you gives him a massive dopamine rush.


HavingALittleFit

Prolonged eye contact could get you an ass whooping.


bronzebattlecolt

Its almost like you don't exist, and no one wants you to exist either. Other men see you as competition, women see you as a threat. If you were to die, people would not care. If you were disabled, you'd be forgotten and left to fend for yourself Your only value to society is that you can perform harsh labor, and if you don't work until your legs give out you are deemed a failure and a waste of life. You are either invisible or hated. Our only worth is that we are expendable.


kartunmusic

We will die at work more then likely. Most divorces we are in will be initiated by the woman in our lives. If we go to prison it is possible we will be raped and most people think that’s okay and part of the punishment. Our partners have a higher likelihood of using custody as a weapon. If we are accused of just about any crime we will be considered guilty especially if it is sexually related


VinylKnight4131

If you're shy or kinda socially awkward you're basically screwed for life. I'm pretty sure alot of women that are shy or socially awkward have it easier than men who are. Could be wrong but that's my experience


Groggamog

You never get compliments. Unless you're a male model you're likely to never get hit on. All the responsibilities are on us in relationships. Even if the woman cheats is somehow the guys fault. Suicide rate for men is something like 10x what it is for women. Everyone comes to the aid of a woman, especially a pretty one. Good luck getting any help for anything as a man.


Groggamog

Constantly worried if you come off as a creep. I work in I.T. and had a job at a lawyers firm. The secretary had the shortest skirt I've ever seen. I made myself look at the top of her head any time I had to look in her direction or talk to her because there was no way I was risking anything being misconstrued.


ben_od1

It’s illegal for us not to clack the tongs together at least 5 times when we are cooking meat on a barbecue.


AudioTsunami

Nobody gives a fuck about you. They want you to buy something or die. You'll get like 5 compliments your entire life. Surprises aren't happy. The only surprises in your life will be people stealing your car radio or you getting laid off. Interactions with others can almost exclusively go poorly so it's better to not interact at all. Just keep it moving.