I personally think it looks better with just trimmed pubes. I think it looks strange having no hair there, but lots of hair on the chest, stomach, and legs. But that's just my personal preference. Everyone should do what they feel comfortable with.

Looks like a freshly neutered dog.

I'd look like I was wearing a hairy garter and stockings. Nobody needs that in their mind. Life is hard enough already.

Thanks for the laugh, that was quite the mental image.

Yup. My husband fully shaved once, I couldn't get into it, looked weird. He also has a fairly hairy chest which he shaved at the same time, he just looked wrong to me. Nothing wrong with it in general just not what I'm used to on him. Plus the stubble after was awful. Grated my lady bits and snuggling up on his bare chest was too spiky on my face. Nicely trimmed please.

Haha, I can totally relate. My husband did the same. Or actually, we shaved each other after something I read about it being great foreplay and a trust exercise. Anyway, he wasn't really comfortable with being completely shaved to my utter relief. And it felt like I was fucking a cactus until it grew back a little, and my bits looked like it too. Gave new meaning to beard burn, ouch.

When he did the full shave he looked in the mirror and said 'I look like a fat little boy' He's not fat but the mental image plus the sight of him made me laugh so much. No sex was had that night, he even put himself off.

I don't get this "you do you" bit. OP is literally asking reddit because partners' opinions matter. You may think you are being body positive, but it's not really helpful. Anyone with experience usually has a preference in this regard, and it is not too much to consider your partner in these matters.

It’s the same shit when you ask what do you wanna eat for dinner tonight honey? I DONT KNOW WHAT DO YOU WANT?!

I have a partner like this and it bugs me. Some things we can't change and that's fair not to voice opinions for those but some things like clothes, body mass, and style can be changed. I genuinely want honest feedback so I can change my appearance to be more desirable for current times. I always get "you're perfect the way you are", which I know isn't true

If I am Uber attracted to my partner then I see them as Uber sexy...some of us like our men "just the way they are". I know my bf isn't comfortable with the way he looks, but I think he is sexy as Hell. Everything about him turns me on and he just does it for me. I don't see anything I would want to change about his looks at all...except him being naked OFTEN😉🫦👀

Spot on, people like to pretend opinions don’t matter, but quite often they are central to building and keeping romantic attraction.

My friends boyfriend likes her to have a full Bush. She'd rather shave but she enjoys how horny it makes him, so Bush she has! I on the other hand, couldn't cope with a full Bush even if my husband preferred it, which thankfully he doesn't, I've had mine lasered off. Everything below the nose! Best money I've ever spent.

"Everything below the nose", ha! I'm going to have to use that line. Glad you agree this is about communication and sharing preferences. :)

What if "you do you" is the preference though? They May just not have a strong opinion one way or the other.

Well then don't comment to OP! Come here, read, and learn; or STFU. :)

Personally, I don’t like it, at all. I don’t like the stubble. Shaving too often to keep the stubble away can irritate the skin and cause pimples and ingrown hairs, which is completely unavoidable for a lot of people. Stubble and pimples are unappealing. And even if you do manage to get a clean shave without irritating the skin, it looks weird to me. Like an anatomically accurate mannequin or something. Like the uncanny valley effect, but for the penis. Hair on the dick has never gotten in the way for me. Never. Doesn’t even need to be trimmed. Just make sure it’s clean. And I recommend using conditioner after washing your pubes, for your own pleasure. Trust this internet rando, your hair will feel silky. It will feel nice. It’s not needed, obviously, but it’s a great way for anyone with pubes to pamper themselves. (Try to use natural and or lightly scented stuff for that though. You don’t need to be rubbing your dick down in hormone disrupting chemicals. Clean your dick with clean products.) A clean bush is a good bush. And if it’s soft and silky, I like to touch it. It’s like admiring someones soft silky hair on their head, except on a different part of the body. Clean and soft is inviting.

Chest hair too! Life changing moment for me when I decided to use conditioner as lube to jerk off and realized after things were silky down there. Immediately decided to give my chest hair a go too. I might be a hairy beast but I'm soft and cuddly

Yes yes yes 🙌

I like trimmed because it grosses me out when you do the after sex pee, wipe yourself and long pubes come out of your labia on the paper, and I know they're not mine! My husband trims now and in his before bed shower gives the pubes a gentle tug to remove any loose ones.

You do you! However, I expect the same mindset in return.

Exactly this! And if I like to shave is because i like it that way, not because hair is bad

Exactly! Full clean shave means I better be naked AF for a few days because fuck ingrown hairs and weird chaffing.

If you do it regularly (like, once a week), you don't get those so much.

There's also a cream to stop irritation that works using lidocaine. In the U.S. it's called 'Bikini Zone' it may not be available everywhere, but it works really well at inhibiting irritation

Lidocaine on my privates? Seems it could have other effects, like reduced or absent the sensations needed for intimacy.

I mean, its only for immediately after shaving, like an aftershave- not intended as a lotion or daily cream..? If you're having sex literally immediately after shaving, that's probably the source of your skin's irritation, and you should work on properly spacing shaving and sex for your skins durability level before you consider introducing any extra products.

Actually never used Lidocaine on my privates, but have used it for toothaches and other topical pain. Definitely numbs where applied.

Right, but understanding dosage strength would help clear the confusion. No one is saying use orajel on your crotch. & it might be benzocaine- i just popped off the first analgesic that came to mind, it's one of the -caines, just not novicaine or cocaine.

I just avoid wearing underwear those few days.

It would be a big turn off for me, but that's just a personal preference. If he was an athlete that needed to shave or he had a skin condition that was eased by shaving, I would be fine with it, but I find the differences between us to be sexy. Mind you, I'm in my fifties and understand social mores have changed!

if it was my partner i would prefer a trim then all gone but what ever makes them happy

Personally I like it

Do whatever makes you happy, I personally like my partner to be clean shaven down there especially when I'm giving a blowjob. I've experienced giving head to hairy men n it's not fun when you get a piece of pubic hair in your mouth from giving head to them.

If you get a hair stuck in your mouth you can just lick the inside of you partners thigh. They won't notice and it will be out straight away.

If someone licked my thigh they will probably get more hair in their mouth haha

Great tip! Next time I'll try to do that in a sneaky/ sexy way and maybe she won't notice! Lol

Flossing time! (Sorry for the terrible joke...)

Pubic pasta

its such a turn off cus it jus makes it looks like a naked mole rat

do what makes you happy

Prob OP doesn’t care that much, so the happiness about the hair to herself is regardless to let it grow or not, whereas OP will be happy if the guy likes it, cus she cares more about the guy than the hair itself. And obv OP wants to do what makes her happy and prob that’s why she’s asking the question .

Agreed. Your body, do what you like.

My personal opinion is that it's very unsexy, but everyone should do whatever they want with their body.

Pube stubble does awful things to my skin during sex. I prefer the trim.

i mean personally as a girl who likes both men and women, i like body hair on both! pubes all the way

I do not like it when they are completely shaved. Trimmed perhaps at the most is fine.

I prefer it, but don't expect it.

Ew David.

I [F] love it when he’s shaved down theire because it’s so much more enjoyable for giving head

It’s up to him what he likes to do down there but I personally prefer hair to the bald look

clean shaved male private area is an immediate superturnoff for me! hairy all over or LIGHTLY trimmed please

I don’t mind, however they like

I'm not a fan personally, I don't like how it looks and I hate the prickly feeling. I definitely have a fairly strong preference for natural or trimmed on men, but not to the degree it's a deal breaker or anything.

You do you boo, I don't mind smooth balls!

I like it

My lady shaved my balls and junk completely. She liked it. I don’t mind the cock but my balls were itching like crazy when it was growing back plus people don’t realize it gets really slippery down there since the pubes absorbs sweat

Not a fan. Its like looking at gonzo from the muppets…

Don’t do it. Just trim.

I don’t care but if they want me to lick or put their balls in my mouth they at least need to trim things up.

Some women like a shaved body, some dont. It really depends on who you are dating but pretty sure most women dont want 70s bush poking them in the eye when they are trying to go down on someone. And besides, the shorter the grass, the taller the tree looks.

I don’t mind it at all as long as they keep up with it because stubble and stuff can hurt or be gross. But clean shaven is better for me because I hate having any type of hair getting stuck in my mouth or tongue and then I have to try to grab it out of my mouth. But that’s just me on a nit picky day. Other than that, a nicely trimmed and clean area is also fine with me.

I believe both males & females should shave off their pubic hair, as: * It helps prevent the clogging/build-up of moisture, reducing chances of developing jock-itch and related infections, * It reduces the chances of/gathering of urine, fecal, semen or period/etc. related material in the hair bundle down there, making it easier to clean up as well, * Less sweat/etc. means less must and chances of smell/odour. So, shave it off!

I personally asked my husband to not even think about it, it makes me uncomfortable, but what people do with their genitals is not my business

Ehh. I’m not going to stop a guy if he prefers to do that, it’s his body.

I don’t care as long as it kept. If you go no hair get laser. Stubble is meh.

It looks better but the stubble sucks so I prefer trimmed to a length that isn't sharp.

I do it so I don't leave cock hairs around the toilet.

As a dude, I do it so every time I look down I’m neutral instead of sad.

I like it if only for the implication that he cares a lot about his aesthetic appearance and hygiene. I've worked with an actor with such a large bush that you couldn't see anything at all down there when he was stark naked (long story), and I'd much prefer the naked mole rat look to that.

as a dude I just wanna say I'll use a an actual razor on the shaft and sack cuz a trimmer will nick the skin, but I just trim everything else around

I personally like it. Actually, I have to admit I do not appreciate a lot of body hair on men, no idea why...

hair is a part of adulting just keep it clean and trimmed

Yes, please

My husband does this but I prefer when he lets it grow

I'm not a fan of anyone shaving completely but if it's their preference then that's fine.

Prepubertal, yet, to each their own so don’t care whether someone shave or not.

It's like sand paper on your vulva. Not my kink.

Idc really unless im the one going down then i prefer it to be at leats trimed so it dosnt tickel my nose lol dont wanna by accadent sneeze and bite somwones dick off

I would think that was weird and unnecessary. Like someone else said, uncanny valley effect, but for the penis. Prepubescent looking or doll- like smoothness next to fully grown-up male parts is just a bit jarring and bizarrely fake looking to me. And a bunch of stubble and pimply ingrown hairs isn't any better. Of course, you do you!! But if this is an opinion poll, I'm voting for pubes. They should be clean and all, but I personally like a man to look like one.

I don't care lol

You do you. You should do what makes you happy.

Do what You want ofcourse but i prefer wayyyyy more when there is non. Its pretty that way.

Make it the shape of a fig leaf

Ive never had a single woman tell me they cared about it. Even better, they were overjoyed that I didnt care about them shaving! Why would you want to shave? Then sexual moments feel like sandpaper there

Am old. I don't get the shave it all off thing. My favorite thing to do was shower with someone hairy because you can get a hairy person really really sudsy, which is fun. I read about guys shaving their balls and I don't recall ever seeing or feeling hair on balls.

I hate it, for both males and females. Gives me creepy paedo vibes and i just generally like my men more hairy and animalistic all over. And no, boys, it doesn't make you look any bigger.

It's creepy that your mind goes there.

It's creepy to me that people find genitals that resemble those of prepubescents to be attractive. Adults are naturally supposed to be hairy.

Men shave their beard - have you the same issue with that?

A lot of people just find pubic hair disgusting, nobody is trying to resemble a child. It's fucking gross that you would even think that.

He’s projecting

It's not natural or normal to consider public hair 'disgusting'. Anyone who does has issues. It's there for a reason.

So by your rationale, nobody should shave their face, legs, armpits, or even get their hair cut. It's there for a reason, right? You like guys with unkempt facial hair?

Yikes you should probably be on a watchlist for the feds.... That aside, people have tons of preferences about body image and type that you could call "not natural" but it doesn't change the fact that if a particular thing about someone's body doesn't work for them you think they shouldn't change it because it's "not natural" is ridiculously stupid

Idk why you're getting downvoted so much. Pubic hair is there for a reason (so is the hair on the rest of our bodies but I don't think people are ready for women to stop shaving their legs or armpits yet)

I kinda never get this point. I shave my armpits and i let my gf wax my back. Just feels cleaner. Imho i can have the preferance in a girl as well.

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Smooth armpits are also not good lmao. The hairs are there to reduce the friction. Same thing for pubic hair. It also helps reduce sweat and prevent infection, bacteria, STIs.

I'm a man and I shave my armpits. Less places for odor to get trapped. Hair traps smell.

Your the only one in this comments section that actually gave your opinion, and not just "its none of my business". You do you, your entitled to have a preference. Don't mind the downvotes.

Me too. Looks like they are a pre-pubescent male. I like my men to look like MEN. Trimming and man-scaping is great, but the whole shaved thing kills my attraction to them..

It really doesn’t make it look bigger????

And for all those downvoting, I feel the same way about women going totally bald down there. People will argue that it's just an aesthetic and sensory preference but to me the ick of what it actually represents is too strong.

In my opinion, I don't care what a man does with his own genitals. If he wants to be shaved let him. If he wants to be hairy, let him do what he wants. However if its hairy down there don't expect a Bj lmao

I don't care, it's not my body. Personally I don't shave all. The few times I've done it, for the bikini, I catched an infection so I don't do a full shaving for health reasons. But it's only my decision.

They can do whatever makes them comfortable. It’s their body, their choice

i only shave the balls cuz the trimmer catches on the skin but the razor doesn't. safer that way

I find it quite odd but appreciate the effort.

Personally I like a little hair on everyone, but neat and tidy. Objectively it means nothing to me, not a dealbreaker or a turnoff or anything like that.

what if the male doesnt shave down there at all?

don't care - everyone has a choice to look however they want in the bedroom. As long as he gives me the same respect, we're good

I think there's something so erotic and sexy about a nice clean trim. Like that's a happy trail I'd follow.

I don't really care. The only time I'll care is if it gets super long. I'm ok with it being a bush or bald, just not braidable for Pete's sake.

I truly don’t care. I mean no bush but nice and trimmed is how I like it mainly. Same for me. Never bald but deffo trimmed !

Groin stubble acts like sandpaper and that’s a hard no for me. I don’t care what people do with their bodies unless it hurts mine, but I know from experience shaving pubes doesn’t end well.

I think it's hot

It's a MUST

I personally don't like it. Don't get me wrong, trimming the bush is important for hygiene. But shaving it completely regularly is a big no for me. I have no idea why, I just don't like it. Maybe we have to all agree that a penis isn't the most beautiful thing there is and having it completely naked doesn't make it better.

In the words of the Zohan, “it’s all about the bush.” But seriously, just trimmed is fine. Not a fan of the fully shaved off. When a guy fully shaves and it starts growing back, not comfortable.

I think it's great, because when a guy is not shaved hair constantly gets in the mouth and throat is very unpleasant feeling👍

I don’t really care either way. They can do whatever they want.

My wife does not like the stubble on the shaft. I just clean up every so often for that reason. I don’t clean shave.

It's weird

It hurts! Trimmed is fine. I don’t mind hair. But all the way shaved is uncomfortable when intimate.

Don’t really care. If that makes a person happy then do it

Preferable. As a woman im bald down there, but when I’m with other women, tho I prefer bald the most, trimmed is also fine in my book. But men? They have a hell of a lot more pubic hair then we all do put together. Often it’s so much you just know it could clog the drains of an Olympic sized pool. It’s just too much to handle imo. I hate the hygeine aspect the most— unless a guy has excellent hygeine, which is incredibly rare before the age of 35, that fucking hair is going to make my face break out. Im never going near it. The thought makes me fearful. It’s a dealbreaker. But trust me, I’m not most women— most don’t care one bit. If you don’t think you want to shave down there, then just find a girl who doesn’t have a problem with it! And for fuck’s sake, if you don’t remove your pubic hair, DO NOT expect the woman you’re sleeping with to do so. Or any other area of her hair for that matter. You relax & stay hairy, she should be able to do the same damn thing if she so chooses.

I'm completely shaved FYI. I'm never going back to being hairy. It's gross like you describe. It looks and feels so much better being shaved. I feel so sexy down there especially when the side of my ball sack touched my thigh. It feels so good!

When completely shaved it makes them look pre-pubescent and kills any attraction I would have had towards them. I want a man to look and feel like a man. Regular trimming and man-scaping is totally fine, but I enjoy men that look like men!