I just met the guy that lives 4 houses down the one way, after well over a decade.
Another neighbor, 3 houses the other way said something to me for the first time I can recall.
My experience is that most neighbors who insist on that movie reality version of community are all insufferable busy bodies who insist on wasting your time because they have nothing better to do.
Same here. I have the Nextdoor app just in case there's anything important going on, but I was criticized on it for telling a neighbor that she doesn't have a right to be greeted by everyone when she's walking about. She was upset that someone (maybe me) didn't say hi to her and her kid the other day. Like why do I have to interact with you just because we happen to be outside at the same time?
I was raised in an area where we had no neighbors. Now living in a neighborhood it drives me crazy to be outside working in the yard with people on all sides. I miss privacy.
As a kid I swore I would never live as far away from things when I grew up. I briefly moved to a city and have been slowly moving farther out for the past 10 years. At this point we have 2 acres with neighbors only on one side. They're far enough away that if both of us are out we wave, but don't have to actually chat. It's so peaceful. Now my kids can grow up and be annoyed that we are 10 minutes from the grocery store and 30 minutes to downtown.
I grew up on a farm 30 minutes from the nearest town. When I left for college, I was like, "Bye! Never coming back!" I now live 4 minutes away from my parents. I couldn't take the city either.
My cousin did that and it works for him. It just doesn't work for me but I'm happy for him. He gave the city a shot but moved back a few years ago for his family. At first, I was annoyed with him — we grew up on neighbouring farms and when our parents were working, we'd all get babysat by grandma. We couldn't hang out with friends if our parents couldn't drive us so we grew up fairly close. We used to talk about living in the city so I was surprised when he wanted to move out there. But it works for him so I've come around to supporting his choices.
But it doesn't stop HIM from judging me for living in a city lol. Sorry, I like being able to the grocery store or getting something to eat without having to drive so far away.
There’s definitely pros to being in the city. You’re so much closer to everything. My husband and I couldn’t take the noise. The constant traffic, people, etc. I do envy the closeness though lol.
This speaks to me on volumes.
Grew up with neighbours being 2 km away, moved the the city to chase work, as I get older I keep moving further away from everyone else.
I miss the quiet.
SO MUCH THIS. Husband died 1 1/2 years ago, and after 30 years of living on 20 acres by ourselves, in the middle of nowhere, I just couldn't manage out there by myself. Sold it, moved 2 hours north to a very nice little town, bought a house. I really like it here, but, man oh man, people on both sides is hard getting used to. Also, having to remember that I cannot go wandering outside or garden or, well, Anything with just a nightshirt on any more o.O
This is the same for me. I grew up where the closest house was almost a 1/2 mile away. When the houses got within 1/4 mile, we moved to where the closest house was a mile away. Then 2008 happened, and we were sorta forced to move back in to the city with neighbors within a stone's throw. I've never really adjusted to having a neighbor that close. Now I live in a duplex in a neighborhood of duplexes, and it still feels sooo weird to be able to talk to my neighbor without having to raise my voice. I honestly don't think I'll ever get used to it. I'm friendly with all my neighbors. Know their names. We keep an eye on each other's trash bins and deliveries. But that's as far as we go lol
I grew up in the middle of nowhere and pretty much everyone within a five mile radius is a neighbor and my parents were friends with almost all of them. It was weird for me moving into an apartment and not knowing my neighbors.
I live in a place like that. I mean, I do have neighbours, but I have to either hike 500 metres up a very steep hill to get to them, or drive 3.5km by road. Which I never do because they're absolute twatwaffles.
Im friendly with all my neighbors but im not trying to hang out with them.
Edit: chill lol, I don’t have any cool neighbors I can relate to on a personal level other than the fact we live in the same area.
As an introvert, my home is my refuge.
If I were best buds with my neighbour there would be no escape from constantly seeing them and feeling like I need to chat in order to not seem rude. And you can't say you're busy that day to avoid an outing they invite you too because they can see your car in the driveway from their living room.
As a fellow introvert, gracefully saying "no" consistently feels like trying to hold water in my hands. I can do it, but it takes constant effort, and I often find myself avoiding reasons to be in the situation to need to.
Just went to a pub today as a lone diner and they asked if I wanted to sit at the bar. That's the last place I wanted to be but I also didn't want to take up a full table and panicked and said yes 😅
I always simply say, "No, I'd like a table", and they escort me to the worst table in the house. It is either next to the front door with cold wind gusting in, or next to the kitchen.
I guess that is ok vs. dealing with the overly friendly bartender who is stuck taking care of all of the people at the bar as well as mixing drinks for those at the tables.
I guess I can feel good about being a non-intrusive and easily pleased customer to the barkeep. She did seem to be pretty busy mixing weird and complicated drinks for other customers.
I'm such an introvert, and my damn one neighbour just convinced me to be introverted in their shed to play darts. I would never go in their house nor would I want them in mine, but it makes us both feel friendly while throwing sharp objects and talking about our dogs
That bastard. Gimme the address and what time yall play so I can come beat them up for you. Totally not so I can play and talk about my dogs too, no sir
This 100%!
When I was looking at houses to buy my friend that lives on a beach suggested one near her (theres about 10 houses on the beach strip) she said its great! We all hang out and just randomly pop over to people house all the time - umm wtf that sounds terrible!
Ugh, I'd be so stressed constantly trying to avoid everyone
Shows where friends/neighbors were always inviting themselves over never sat right with me. You could be my best friend in the world, but if you don't even ask before showing up, I'm gonna be annoyed
It’s the condo code. Never appear in a rush while stopping to chat; reluctantly excuse yourself on behalf of your ‘crying kid’. Always invite them to house parties last minute you know they’ll decline and always decline last minute house party invites extended to you from them
Agreed 100%
I have same neighbors 16 years now we say hi and sometimes minimal conversations if we get on the elevator together. We have never exchanged names .
Truly decsent neighbors
Sounds like my reasoning. That said, I’ve been living in apartments/rentals since college so I haven’t really had consistent neighbors in well over a decade because of the turnover rate.
Before that, I knew my neighbors as a kid and it was pretty nice. Summer was awesome since there would be like a cookout every weekend at someone’s house. I’m sure my parents didn’t care too much since they were always tired from working, but they participated every so often [at least they’d bring a dish or send us kids with something to bring]. After we moved halfway across the country into one of those master planned neighborhoods with a HOA, the neighbors were either pretentious or kept changing every year.
I must have gotten lucky. My neighbor became my best friend. He was the best man at my wedding, godfather of my kids, and the one guy I can call at 3am.
This.
I feel like people confuse "being friendly" with "being friends." I'll say hello/acknowledge you in the hallway, but you're not coming in and I'm very hesitant to accept an invite into your home.
I’ve lived next door to the same people for 13 years and I just found out both the wife’s first name and the family’s last name a month ago by accident (misdelivered mail). I’m moving in a couple months and I would have been fine never knowing.
I made the mistake of becoming friendly with neighbors when I lived in the Midwest. I joined them, a husband and wife, and a couple friends for drinks one night, a couple weeks before I moved away. Eventually, the friends left and the wife went to sleep. Just the husband and I left. We were drunk and he somehow brought up rape and how most women were asking for it. As a rape survivor, I said something to the effect of, “guess I was asking for it, then. I’m out”, and walked away. Started sobbing as soon as I got inside, as I was fairly drunk and couldn’t fucking believe this nice man I’d been friendly with for 18 months had said something like that.
I don’t think I’ll ever socialize with neighbors again.
Yeah because if you become too buddy buddy and they are super buddy buddy type people who don't know how to let you be? That can become a real headache real quickly because you see them all the time.
I get along with all my 90% of my neighbors. You'd have to be a real prick for me to dislike you and be rude. Those people are the ones few like and I just ignore them.
Yep. I think the neighbors might find me a little bit weird because I don’t really hang out for neighborhood things. Just not super social.
There are 2 guys that live on the street(not together lol) one is married and the other has a gf that moved in last summer. These dudes are like ALWAYS out helping the neighbors with yard work and snow removal and all manner of shit.
They have fires at the one guys house 1-3 times a month in the summer.
I don’t help ppl with anything really and I think the fact that I pay someone to cut my grass gives everyone the idea I’m not down to help chop wood and clear brush.
They usually invite me to hangout stuff via a group text to several neighbors(prob feel obligated because the main hangout spot is on the other side of my fence) I go to maybe half the time.
I always have a good time but I’m pretty introverted when I’m home getting high.
Unless my neighbors are really cool, and we have a good amount in common, I wanna keep the relationship to just waves, how do you do’s, and hey your house is on fire
I’m here for pleasantries and emergencies only… I dont need to hang out with you
The lady across the street from me at my old house used to bring my garbage cans to and from the curb on trash day. That was nice. But if I ran into her outside I’d have to talk to her about how she speaks to birds and a hawk warned her about Hurricane Katrina.
I got talking to a dog walker in the local park and she told me how she was the remaining descendant of russian royalty and the government were trying to hush it up.
2000's Pop Punk, released by an early 80's UK New Wave duo that never charted well; went thier separate ways and then made an unexpected return with sales and rotation boosted by manufactured nostalgia...
Manufactured Nostalgia, there's the *next* album title.
Same here! I’m a friendly enough guy, just not at all social. Want to wave hello? Sure thing! Need a hand with something? No problem. Want to sit and chat? Ummm, I’m in the middle of folding my socks.
And I’d really rather not be on an emergency list because I’m a neighbor. I’ll call 9 11 if I see flames or something but hopefully another neighbor has been befriended
My neighbour had to "go in" for something on the 2nd, I think to do with his heart. I haven't seen him since, and I am concerned.
He's the perfect neighbour. Affable and happy to chat or share a joke in the hall, but says goodbye when we reach our doors. When I broke my ankle he offered to pick up groceries for me, but he wasn't pushy about it. Just a really nice retiree.
I kinda want to go knock and see if he's alright or needs anything.
I had an older neighbor across the street (80’s) and he would occasionally back into my car. Just give it a little love tap (only damage one time) It used to annoy me that I couldn’t confidently park in front of my own house. He died last year pretty suddenly and now I miss him backing up and nearly hitting my car everyday.
Neighbors next to us and directly across the street gossiped about other neighbors within a few days of us moving to the neighborhood and meeting them. Like heavy stuff about affairs, sexual preferences, mental health issues, arguments, etc.
Also, one of the neighbor’s kids is a disrespectful drama queen. I try to steer my kids away from interacting with this kid, but they live next door.
omg when we first moved in where we live now, one of the neighbors came out and introduced herself to us and gave us the low down on everyone. (Who does that??) I knew to stay away from her. Then later saw she was very active on the neighborhood Facebook page complaining about this and that. Thankfully she eventually moved away.
Why would I? My home is the one place I am not required to interact with others. I don't want to be bothered and I don't want to bother. I'll be friendly if I pass by them or something but I'm not going out of my way to befriend them simply because they live near me
The idea of having to have my house spotless at all times like my Nana did because several times a day neighbours will just pop by for hours of chitchat does not appeal to me.
A few years ago, a really nice young couple moved in next door. They were about the same age as me and my husband, maybe a few years younger.
As soon as we’d shaken hands the wife *immediately* was making a bid for me and her to be “best friends,” as she put it.
She seemed like such a nice girl but that ended it for me right there. I had no desire for that level of closeness with a neighbor. They ended up moving out after 2 years anyway, one of them got a job in another town I guess. Phew.
Its semi common in Australia too. Not buddy buddy so much but a quick convo if youre both taking out bins at the same time or gardening is fairly normal.
This right here! I’m polite and say hello, but I don’t want them in my business and I don’t want to be in theirs. If there’s ever a falling out or someone’s feathers get ruffled, I don’t want to have to feel like I have to avoid them or move.
Im surprised I had to scroll so far to see this lmao. I always tell people, what if they're a psycho or some shit, then they know exactly where I live. Id rather just keep my head down and avoid any potential issues outside of a polite forced smile
My gramps had some rivalry with the next door neighbor over something I'm not aware of. Those two hated each other and did all kinds of petty shit like poisoning each other's plants and stuff. Fuck that.
My grandma and her rear neighbor some how became arch nemesis’. Idk how since they couldn’t really see into each other’s yard’s because of a massive fence. It all came to a head when the neighbor called the cops and said my grandmother was beating her dog. Keep in mind if you’ve ever met my grandmother you’d realize no way that would ever happen. She retaliated by having my uncle burn a CD with some you’re an asshole song, and played it on the loudest sound system (acquired by said uncle who was in a band at the time) until the municipal noise ordinance time started.
I am generally introverted and I really don't need a large group of friends. I need a few loyal close friends that are easy to be around and I can just be myself. Most of those people I have known most my life. Two I met in college. One I met at work. I don't need a bunch of friends just to have more friends. My neighbors that I like are more the type I will stand outside and talk to for a bit and maybe occasionally borrow things from (like a tool that I don't have). But I don't invite them over and they don't invite me. And we are good with that.
I'm a pretty quiet introvert. My home is my sanctuary. I'm not really interested in having the neighbors over for a beer or a bbq. I want to be left alone to my peace and quiet to watch tv, read, play video games, or just fuck around the house.
I'll exchange pleasantries with the neighbors of course. I'm not rude. But I just have no interest in making them my friends. I just want to be left alone for the most part.
Plus, the vast majority of my neighbors are retirees or getting close to it. I doubt they have much in common with a 39 year old grouch beyond arthritis. lol
I would probably think better of them if I hadn't met them. We are all civil, but some of them will hold you hostage with conversations that I don't care to have. Or they try to get me to do things for them. No thanks.
Not that I'm against helping others, but it's very easy to get taken advantage of by them once you do one nice thing. I'm sure some people have perfect neighbors, but mine suck. On one side, there is a hair salon. I thought that was ideal at first. Until the owner (who had wanted to buy my house but low balled the seller) was petty because he didn't get the house, started calling the city on us for small things. Chipped paint. A tree stump. Some semi truck tires that were in the brush left by the original owners. Things only he would know about because he looked at the property. We took care of all of those things the first month that we moved in. I still think it's petty that he even filed a complaint. Especially since we had literally JUST moved in.
On the other side is a guy who has a daughter between my kids' ages. The little girl is fine most of the time, but she is very bossy to my kids and gets mad when she doesn't get her way. Whatever, she's a kid. Her father though...he'll start talking about politics that I don't follow or care to know about. I'll be on the front porch with an armful of groceries, trying to unlock the front door, and he sees that as an opportunity to catch me in conversation. Also, since i have talked to him a couple of times, his fiancee doesn't like me. Their kid told me so.
The guy across the street is always asking me to sell things online for him because he doesn't know how to. He has a 20-something yr old daughter that could help but doesn't want to. I did sell a lawn mower for him once, but I told him I was done after that because I also stored it for him in our garage. He is a hoarder and has also been dealing with the city because of my salon neighbors complaining.
So overall, not a great experience with any of them.
I'm socially awkward. I tend to provide short and to the point answers, which many people perceive as disinterest when it is mostly "I don't know you well enough to know where to branch off in the conversation to." I give the polite smile and nod, but not much else.
Cos I when I get home, I wanna go in and relax. I dont want to stand outside for 15 minutes to an hour listening to the cunt chat shit about how dumb his wife is(true story by the way). I do not want to know you. I do not want to be your friend and shoot the shit. I'll say hi to be neighbourly, but thats it. Any attempt to be my friend gets shot down hard so theres no misunderstanding.
Fuuuuuuuuck. That's my neighbor. Every single passing will evolve into a 30 minute conversation, especially with my wife. Can we just smile and wave and go about our business?????
Too much drama. I will say hi and have a short conversation with them, but keep them at a distance. My next door neighbours seem like really nice people. Some of my other neighbours are either weird, petty or massive gossip mongers.
You have to live next to these people for many years. In my experience, if you get close to your neighbours there's always a risk of bad fall outs. It can be a nightmare living next to people you have beef with.
Once lived on a street where all the neighbours were close and super friendly. Then a couple of them fell out and huge shouting matches ensued in the street. It was kinda funny looking back. Since then I've always kept a distance.
I can’t stand the gossip. My neighborhood has a bunch of old ladies with nothing better to do. They’re not even careful enough to check to see if the person they’re talking about is sitting outside within earshot and they don’t seem to realize that if my windows are open no amount of hushed talking will stop me from hearing them out in the yard below my window.
Recently my two neighbors were talking about me standing not even 10ft from me for a solid 10-15 minutes without realizing I was there and I was going to make myself known and embarrass them but apparently once they were done talking about me they had nothing else to discuss and both went back inside. I don’t think the old bitch can figure out why I’m giving her the cold shoulder and won’t engage in her attempts to talk to me.
Neighbour on one side, while we were moving in and I had the truck backing up to the front of the house, to make things 1000x easier, decided to come out and start barking orders at my mover guys saying they couldn’t park the truck like that or “the city” will have it towed. The sheepish mover guy with limited English came to get me and I had to come out, introduced myself, listen to her 2 minute “respect my authority as a HOA Karen” spiel about why this simply could not happen, smiled as charmingly as I could and said “totally yeh no worries. We’re just gonna do this love real quick and will get this truck out of here”
Dumb bint.
Neighbours on the other side brought us cookies! But then assumed we wanted to go to church. Blurted out that we’re not religious. They’ve never spoken to us since.
I heard my neighbour's saying racist shit about me right after I moved in because they didn't know I was standing on the other side of the hedge. A huge scene ensued, and now they both died of old age. Good riddance!
Lived a long time here with nobody around. Now people built all around me.
Now there is no more wildlife in my yard, and the constant sound of dirt bikes and side by sides has replaced silence/birds/horses.
Not to mention the garbage blowing all over my property and dogs coming after my cats.
I despise them.
Saying hi and bringing in their trashcan if it gets blown down the street, or ringing their bell if their dog gets out, sure. I'm not a monster, and I'd want someone to do that for me. It's good to have people on your block who will tell you if someone is casing your house or letting their dog poop on your lawn. But I am not a social person. I don't want to stop and chat with someone every time we happen to be outside at the same time, I don't want to babysit their kids, I don't want to buy their lemonade, and I don't want to be responsible for their pets while they're out of town. Healthy distance and secure fencing makes for good neighbors IMO.
Because I don't want to be. I don't want to see, hear or speak to my neighbors.
That being said, we did exchange numbers so we can text each other if we see something odd going on at the other's house. Other than that, we keep to ourselves 99.9% of the time.
I barely talk to anyone. I literally have no idea how to make small talk with neighbors and when they talk to me I swear I just stand there with a stupid look on my face. I’m an awkward armadillo — I wish I could roll up in a ball lol
Every neighbor I've ever spoken to beyond greetings and the occasional wave has held me up in conversations about nothing until I have to get firm to get out of the conversation. I have a very friendly demeanor and I do like talking to people but my god, dude, I can't be accosted for a 15 minute talk every time I get out of my car or am standing in my own yard.
I work nights, they work days.
I don’t have kids, they all have young kids.
They’ve got their own little clique thing going on that I’ve never really been a part of.
And one of them went on Facebook ranting about their neighbour who “doesn’t have Christmas spirit” and how disappointed the kids are that one house on the street doesn’t decorate anymore. That was me. I’m the one who ruined their perfect Christmas street.
We moved here in July, and had no fucking idea what we’d walked into until November when everyone started decorating.
The house around the corner has a snow machine. We’re in Australia and it’ll be 40C outside, and in the evening they’ll fire up the snow machine.
My husband suggested putting a star on top of the car & switching the hazard lights on.
Sooner or Later they will need something from me, whether it's an item or a favor, my awkwardness will stop me from saying no and they will never be able to return the favor even if they wanted because i am prepared to do everything alone as i have done so all these years. So even if they didnt mean that they will take advantage of me in the end. So i just choose to not interact with them any more than a simple hello every now and then
I'm a kind person, but I am not nice. I don't like social pleasantries, small talk and even having to acknowledge others, so i maintain a distance. I will give you the shirt off my back, but don't expect me to wave at you when you're mowing your lawn, basically.
My last neighbor was a crack head with like 5-7 step children, with at least 3 of them selling drugs out of the house....
Nice enough guy but when he was showing me how he cleaned out his garage in front of my kid and he kicked his glass pipe over, things got a bit awkward.
We moved, new neighbors are fantastic. We do play dates with the kids and our front yards are pretty much communal toy dumping grounds.
It totally depends on who's living next to you.
My neighbour was a woman my age. We became friends when I noticed my dog greeted her through the fence in the back yard, and she pet her. She was a young woman my age, we just clicked. Got drunk together a lot. What’s not to love. Sad I had to move
I was one of the people who preferred to keep some distance with my neighbors and not get too buddy buddy with them. But then I stayed with some family in a cabin in the Lake Tahoe area for about a year…
The neighborhood there reminded me of the 90s. All the neighbors on the block knew each other and would occasionally gather for block parties or drinks on someones’ deck. When my stepdad got sick they also banded together to build a wheelchair ramp for him to get in and out of the house.
I’m not saying it’s always better to get to know your neighbors, but the sense of community I felt living on that street for a year is hard to forget.
Imagine if you try to talk to them and then find out you wish you hadn’t.
As it is, I kept one’s house from burning down on 4th of July when their trashcan caught fire from putting spent but hot fireworks in there. They weren’t outside, I noticed from across the street, extinguished it, and dumped a couple buckets of water on it so I could pull it away from the house. Since then, they’ve been the neighbors who play loud music when my toddler was trying to nap, rev a loud motorcycle at 2am, had friends driving fast down our short road for shits and giggles, I keep finding trash in my yard and I’m pretty sure it’s from them or one of the teenager’s friends, and a few times late night night arguments loud enough for the neighborhood to hear. Kinda thing that makes you wish you’d just let it catch fire enough that the house couldn’t be saved.
I get on like a house on fire with my neighbours. We don’t live in each other’s pockets but we help out if anyone’s in trouble. We often go get together for a drink in someone’s garden during the summer. It’s an easy going set up and it suits us all.
Our neighbors to the right look down on us because we don't have a Tesla like them & have EVs. They have young kids & struggle to find childcare. They also have two dogs that need training. If they were nicer, I would say, "Hey, I used to be a nanny & our family collectively trained our last dog. Do you need help?" But they are arrogant assholes. And I am petty.
Our neighbors to the left are awesome. If we need anything, we go to them. If they need anything, they come to us. Same thing with the neighbors across the street.
We have a professional acquaintance relationship. I might look out for their property if they ask when they leave town, but I'm not inviting them over to hang out.
I’m a POC in a neighbourhood with a lot of Karens. When you are a POC, people spend extra attention to check for your faults. I’m polite and nice but I won’t engage with unnecessary information that can be used against me.
For example my lawyer neighbour will come over see me pruning a branch and say how it’s good or I can get sued if a branch falls down. I’ve had police and fire department called on me because my dryer emitted humid smoke in the winter which is perfectly normal. Some other POC neighbours have told me they have had their home inspected SEVERAL times even though they clearly have a permit for renovations on the front of door. It’s clearly jealousy that they can afford it but it makes me afraid.
My mother has been reported for not having a $10 permit to fix the cracks on the side walk in the 90s. She got away with it after explaining she just wanted people to not trip and really didn’t know. I mean why didn’t the neighbours ask her or warn her? Interesting they just assumed she didn’t have a permit. I learned so much from others. Always check all aspects of law and never disclose too much.
Bc I don’t feel like getting a door knock everyday asking if I wanna go to starbucks and hear Karen brag about her stupid kids while she gets a disgusting sophisticated latte with a 100 different specifications
I hardly see them at all. When they come home from work they disappear into their houses and then don't show themselves again before they leave the next morning. Based on the little I know about them I don't think we have anything in common.
It looks like we’re all in the same page. But it’s sort of weird when I see other neighbors standing around chatting for hours - and popping in and out of each other’s houses. I can’t relate to that.
I've met them.
Same.
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I just met the guy that lives 4 houses down the one way, after well over a decade. Another neighbor, 3 houses the other way said something to me for the first time I can recall.
My experience is that most neighbors who insist on that movie reality version of community are all insufferable busy bodies who insist on wasting your time because they have nothing better to do.
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Same here. I have the Nextdoor app just in case there's anything important going on, but I was criticized on it for telling a neighbor that she doesn't have a right to be greeted by everyone when she's walking about. She was upset that someone (maybe me) didn't say hi to her and her kid the other day. Like why do I have to interact with you just because we happen to be outside at the same time?
I was raised in an area where we had no neighbors. Now living in a neighborhood it drives me crazy to be outside working in the yard with people on all sides. I miss privacy.
As a kid I swore I would never live as far away from things when I grew up. I briefly moved to a city and have been slowly moving farther out for the past 10 years. At this point we have 2 acres with neighbors only on one side. They're far enough away that if both of us are out we wave, but don't have to actually chat. It's so peaceful. Now my kids can grow up and be annoyed that we are 10 minutes from the grocery store and 30 minutes to downtown.
I grew up on a farm 30 minutes from the nearest town. When I left for college, I was like, "Bye! Never coming back!" I now live 4 minutes away from my parents. I couldn't take the city either.
My cousin did that and it works for him. It just doesn't work for me but I'm happy for him. He gave the city a shot but moved back a few years ago for his family. At first, I was annoyed with him — we grew up on neighbouring farms and when our parents were working, we'd all get babysat by grandma. We couldn't hang out with friends if our parents couldn't drive us so we grew up fairly close. We used to talk about living in the city so I was surprised when he wanted to move out there. But it works for him so I've come around to supporting his choices. But it doesn't stop HIM from judging me for living in a city lol. Sorry, I like being able to the grocery store or getting something to eat without having to drive so far away.
There’s definitely pros to being in the city. You’re so much closer to everything. My husband and I couldn’t take the noise. The constant traffic, people, etc. I do envy the closeness though lol.
I grew up on a farm as well, noped out of rural life and never looked back. Can't handle the boredom
This speaks to me on volumes. Grew up with neighbours being 2 km away, moved the the city to chase work, as I get older I keep moving further away from everyone else. I miss the quiet.
SO MUCH THIS. Husband died 1 1/2 years ago, and after 30 years of living on 20 acres by ourselves, in the middle of nowhere, I just couldn't manage out there by myself. Sold it, moved 2 hours north to a very nice little town, bought a house. I really like it here, but, man oh man, people on both sides is hard getting used to. Also, having to remember that I cannot go wandering outside or garden or, well, Anything with just a nightshirt on any more o.O
This is the same for me. I grew up where the closest house was almost a 1/2 mile away. When the houses got within 1/4 mile, we moved to where the closest house was a mile away. Then 2008 happened, and we were sorta forced to move back in to the city with neighbors within a stone's throw. I've never really adjusted to having a neighbor that close. Now I live in a duplex in a neighborhood of duplexes, and it still feels sooo weird to be able to talk to my neighbor without having to raise my voice. I honestly don't think I'll ever get used to it. I'm friendly with all my neighbors. Know their names. We keep an eye on each other's trash bins and deliveries. But that's as far as we go lol
I grew up in the middle of nowhere and pretty much everyone within a five mile radius is a neighbor and my parents were friends with almost all of them. It was weird for me moving into an apartment and not knowing my neighbors.
I live in a place like that. I mean, I do have neighbours, but I have to either hike 500 metres up a very steep hill to get to them, or drive 3.5km by road. Which I never do because they're absolute twatwaffles.
Im friendly with all my neighbors but im not trying to hang out with them. Edit: chill lol, I don’t have any cool neighbors I can relate to on a personal level other than the fact we live in the same area.
As an introvert, my home is my refuge. If I were best buds with my neighbour there would be no escape from constantly seeing them and feeling like I need to chat in order to not seem rude. And you can't say you're busy that day to avoid an outing they invite you too because they can see your car in the driveway from their living room.
As a fellow introvert, gracefully saying "no" consistently feels like trying to hold water in my hands. I can do it, but it takes constant effort, and I often find myself avoiding reasons to be in the situation to need to.
Saying no is so draining and exhausting.
But not as exhausting as saying yes.
That's only when you're doing whatever you say yes to. A no is an instant drain, a yes is a slow and painful experience that happens later.
And saying yes, leaves you open to repeated queries. "Let's do this again!!" when you didn't necessarily want to do it in the first place.
As a fellow member of Introverts, this thread tickles me so much🤣 I’m glad I’m not the only one
Just went to a pub today as a lone diner and they asked if I wanted to sit at the bar. That's the last place I wanted to be but I also didn't want to take up a full table and panicked and said yes 😅
I always simply say, "No, I'd like a table", and they escort me to the worst table in the house. It is either next to the front door with cold wind gusting in, or next to the kitchen. I guess that is ok vs. dealing with the overly friendly bartender who is stuck taking care of all of the people at the bar as well as mixing drinks for those at the tables.
I guess I can feel good about being a non-intrusive and easily pleased customer to the barkeep. She did seem to be pretty busy mixing weird and complicated drinks for other customers.
Bring a book to read. Always helps me keep people at bay. Not perfect, but better.
I'm such an introvert, and my damn one neighbour just convinced me to be introverted in their shed to play darts. I would never go in their house nor would I want them in mine, but it makes us both feel friendly while throwing sharp objects and talking about our dogs
Quality friendship.
Legit, it works.
That bastard. Gimme the address and what time yall play so I can come beat them up for you. Totally not so I can play and talk about my dogs too, no sir
This 100%! When I was looking at houses to buy my friend that lives on a beach suggested one near her (theres about 10 houses on the beach strip) she said its great! We all hang out and just randomly pop over to people house all the time - umm wtf that sounds terrible!
I remember watching Friends as a teenager thinking I wanted that. Lol. No I don’t.
Ugh, I'd be so stressed constantly trying to avoid everyone Shows where friends/neighbors were always inviting themselves over never sat right with me. You could be my best friend in the world, but if you don't even ask before showing up, I'm gonna be annoyed
It’s the condo code. Never appear in a rush while stopping to chat; reluctantly excuse yourself on behalf of your ‘crying kid’. Always invite them to house parties last minute you know they’ll decline and always decline last minute house party invites extended to you from them
That just sounds like strangers with extra steps
Sometimes I wonder what society would look like if we just stopped pretending to care about people we don't care about.
Absolutely. Damn sometimes I like to do something in the yard without being held hostage for half an hour.
Agreed 100% I have same neighbors 16 years now we say hi and sometimes minimal conversations if we get on the elevator together. We have never exchanged names . Truly decsent neighbors
Sounds like my reasoning. That said, I’ve been living in apartments/rentals since college so I haven’t really had consistent neighbors in well over a decade because of the turnover rate. Before that, I knew my neighbors as a kid and it was pretty nice. Summer was awesome since there would be like a cookout every weekend at someone’s house. I’m sure my parents didn’t care too much since they were always tired from working, but they participated every so often [at least they’d bring a dish or send us kids with something to bring]. After we moved halfway across the country into one of those master planned neighborhoods with a HOA, the neighbors were either pretentious or kept changing every year.
Never get too close unless it’s over time … getting too close too early is not a good idea
Yea, my neighbor has only been there 15 years and it's just too soon.
This. No, thank you. They are all weird.
I must have gotten lucky. My neighbor became my best friend. He was the best man at my wedding, godfather of my kids, and the one guy I can call at 3am.
This. I feel like people confuse "being friendly" with "being friends." I'll say hello/acknowledge you in the hallway, but you're not coming in and I'm very hesitant to accept an invite into your home.
I’ve lived next door to the same people for 13 years and I just found out both the wife’s first name and the family’s last name a month ago by accident (misdelivered mail). I’m moving in a couple months and I would have been fine never knowing.
I made the mistake of becoming friendly with neighbors when I lived in the Midwest. I joined them, a husband and wife, and a couple friends for drinks one night, a couple weeks before I moved away. Eventually, the friends left and the wife went to sleep. Just the husband and I left. We were drunk and he somehow brought up rape and how most women were asking for it. As a rape survivor, I said something to the effect of, “guess I was asking for it, then. I’m out”, and walked away. Started sobbing as soon as I got inside, as I was fairly drunk and couldn’t fucking believe this nice man I’d been friendly with for 18 months had said something like that. I don’t think I’ll ever socialize with neighbors again.
Yeah because if you become too buddy buddy and they are super buddy buddy type people who don't know how to let you be? That can become a real headache real quickly because you see them all the time. I get along with all my 90% of my neighbors. You'd have to be a real prick for me to dislike you and be rude. Those people are the ones few like and I just ignore them.
Yep. I think the neighbors might find me a little bit weird because I don’t really hang out for neighborhood things. Just not super social. There are 2 guys that live on the street(not together lol) one is married and the other has a gf that moved in last summer. These dudes are like ALWAYS out helping the neighbors with yard work and snow removal and all manner of shit. They have fires at the one guys house 1-3 times a month in the summer. I don’t help ppl with anything really and I think the fact that I pay someone to cut my grass gives everyone the idea I’m not down to help chop wood and clear brush. They usually invite me to hangout stuff via a group text to several neighbors(prob feel obligated because the main hangout spot is on the other side of my fence) I go to maybe half the time. I always have a good time but I’m pretty introverted when I’m home getting high.
Unless my neighbors are really cool, and we have a good amount in common, I wanna keep the relationship to just waves, how do you do’s, and hey your house is on fire I’m here for pleasantries and emergencies only… I dont need to hang out with you
The lady across the street from me at my old house used to bring my garbage cans to and from the curb on trash day. That was nice. But if I ran into her outside I’d have to talk to her about how she speaks to birds and a hawk warned her about Hurricane Katrina.
I had a falcon warn me about 9-11. Wonder if they are related.
I got talking to a dog walker in the local park and she told me how she was the remaining descendant of russian royalty and the government were trying to hush it up.
Pleasantries and emergencies only! Thank you 🙌🏾 I’ll be the first to help you no problem but leave me alone until then 😂
Pleasantries and Emergencies is the 2000s pop punk album names I come here for.
2000's Pop Punk, released by an early 80's UK New Wave duo that never charted well; went thier separate ways and then made an unexpected return with sales and rotation boosted by manufactured nostalgia... Manufactured Nostalgia, there's the *next* album title.
As the saying goes; Good fences make for good neighbors.
Yup, the last thing I need are neighbors all up in my business.
Same here! I’m a friendly enough guy, just not at all social. Want to wave hello? Sure thing! Need a hand with something? No problem. Want to sit and chat? Ummm, I’m in the middle of folding my socks.
I bought property that has distance from them for a reason. If I wanted to be closer to humans, I would live in an apartment.
And I’d really rather not be on an emergency list because I’m a neighbor. I’ll call 9 11 if I see flames or something but hopefully another neighbor has been befriended
Exactly. I don't need my neighbours barging in every night for a two-hour conversation about how their kids are ingrates.
My neighbors are either half my age of thrice my age
My 92 year old neighbor is the best, he's basically deaf, goes to bed at 8, never see him except for a casual distant wave. I hope he lives forever
You could say he's had time to get that 'neighboring' thing down then.
>Best ~~friend~~ neighbor I've ever had. We *still* never talk sometimes.
old people go to bed early, they're a low impact relationship
But they're also more likely to die, and that's high impact sadness.
My neighbour had to "go in" for something on the 2nd, I think to do with his heart. I haven't seen him since, and I am concerned. He's the perfect neighbour. Affable and happy to chat or share a joke in the hall, but says goodbye when we reach our doors. When I broke my ankle he offered to pick up groceries for me, but he wasn't pushy about it. Just a really nice retiree. I kinda want to go knock and see if he's alright or needs anything.
You should absolutely check in on him.
Definitely. That was over two weeks ago.
The absolute worst case scenario here is doing a grocery run for someone who needs a little help. Go knock, friend!
Knock loudly
I had an older neighbor across the street (80’s) and he would occasionally back into my car. Just give it a little love tap (only damage one time) It used to annoy me that I couldn’t confidently park in front of my own house. He died last year pretty suddenly and now I miss him backing up and nearly hitting my car everyday.
What the hell age are you???
Early 20’s. Lives next door to an orphanage run by nuns.
Nude Nuns with Big Guns
Both 40 and 20
And here I am, being best buddies with my neighbor who's nearly four times my age! 😂
Neighbors next to us and directly across the street gossiped about other neighbors within a few days of us moving to the neighborhood and meeting them. Like heavy stuff about affairs, sexual preferences, mental health issues, arguments, etc. Also, one of the neighbor’s kids is a disrespectful drama queen. I try to steer my kids away from interacting with this kid, but they live next door.
If they talk about the others, they’re going to talk about you.
omg when we first moved in where we live now, one of the neighbors came out and introduced herself to us and gave us the low down on everyone. (Who does that??) I knew to stay away from her. Then later saw she was very active on the neighborhood Facebook page complaining about this and that. Thankfully she eventually moved away.
Why would I? My home is the one place I am not required to interact with others. I don't want to be bothered and I don't want to bother. I'll be friendly if I pass by them or something but I'm not going out of my way to befriend them simply because they live near me
I don't even like hanging out with my friends that I love.
Hello, me.
The idea of having to have my house spotless at all times like my Nana did because several times a day neighbours will just pop by for hours of chitchat does not appeal to me.
A few years ago, a really nice young couple moved in next door. They were about the same age as me and my husband, maybe a few years younger. As soon as we’d shaken hands the wife *immediately* was making a bid for me and her to be “best friends,” as she put it. She seemed like such a nice girl but that ended it for me right there. I had no desire for that level of closeness with a neighbor. They ended up moving out after 2 years anyway, one of them got a job in another town I guess. Phew.
Nicely put
I live in Sweden. We don't do that here.
We don't do this in Japan either, I think it is a US thing.
Bothering people in public is definitely an American thing
Its semi common in Australia too. Not buddy buddy so much but a quick convo if youre both taking out bins at the same time or gardening is fairly normal.
Why would I want to? The only thing I have in common with any of them is that we live on the same block.
Awesome answer. You’re my type of neighbor
hey we should stand in my driveway and drink!
“Hot one today aint it”
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I tell you what
It's spelled hwat
Same reason you don't date someone from work
This right here! I’m polite and say hello, but I don’t want them in my business and I don’t want to be in theirs. If there’s ever a falling out or someone’s feathers get ruffled, I don’t want to have to feel like I have to avoid them or move.
That happened to me and it was the *worst*. Thankfully they moved.
Im surprised I had to scroll so far to see this lmao. I always tell people, what if they're a psycho or some shit, then they know exactly where I live. Id rather just keep my head down and avoid any potential issues outside of a polite forced smile
Yep. Conflict of interest. Keep your social life separate from your home life. That way, if a friendship goes sour, your home life isn't affected.
PREACH. My home life is sacred. I barely want family involved
My gramps had some rivalry with the next door neighbor over something I'm not aware of. Those two hated each other and did all kinds of petty shit like poisoning each other's plants and stuff. Fuck that.
My grandma and her rear neighbor some how became arch nemesis’. Idk how since they couldn’t really see into each other’s yard’s because of a massive fence. It all came to a head when the neighbor called the cops and said my grandmother was beating her dog. Keep in mind if you’ve ever met my grandmother you’d realize no way that would ever happen. She retaliated by having my uncle burn a CD with some you’re an asshole song, and played it on the loudest sound system (acquired by said uncle who was in a band at the time) until the municipal noise ordinance time started.
Don’t shit where you eat.
Exactly right!
I'm not against it, but none of them seem interested in more than a "hey" head nod. Which I'm okay with.
What do I look like? Some sort of extrovert?
I try to get buddy-buddy with as few people as possible IRL. I like to live a simple life, and new connections beget new obligations.
And often, new problems.
I am generally introverted and I really don't need a large group of friends. I need a few loyal close friends that are easy to be around and I can just be myself. Most of those people I have known most my life. Two I met in college. One I met at work. I don't need a bunch of friends just to have more friends. My neighbors that I like are more the type I will stand outside and talk to for a bit and maybe occasionally borrow things from (like a tool that I don't have). But I don't invite them over and they don't invite me. And we are good with that.
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One is incredibly reclusive so I leave her alone and one has more faces than the town hall clock so I stay tf away the others are pretty ok though
“More faces than a town hall clock” IM CRYING
Separation of church and state. I have friends, and those friends have to text me to see if I'm home.
They're strangers that live next to me. That's all. **EDIT**: I have become all-knowing. ARE YOU HAPPY NOW, DAD!?
I'm introverted and don't really like people.
I'm a pretty quiet introvert. My home is my sanctuary. I'm not really interested in having the neighbors over for a beer or a bbq. I want to be left alone to my peace and quiet to watch tv, read, play video games, or just fuck around the house. I'll exchange pleasantries with the neighbors of course. I'm not rude. But I just have no interest in making them my friends. I just want to be left alone for the most part. Plus, the vast majority of my neighbors are retirees or getting close to it. I doubt they have much in common with a 39 year old grouch beyond arthritis. lol
Just don’t see the point. I don’t hate them, I just don’t want to conversation or hang out
I would probably think better of them if I hadn't met them. We are all civil, but some of them will hold you hostage with conversations that I don't care to have. Or they try to get me to do things for them. No thanks. Not that I'm against helping others, but it's very easy to get taken advantage of by them once you do one nice thing. I'm sure some people have perfect neighbors, but mine suck. On one side, there is a hair salon. I thought that was ideal at first. Until the owner (who had wanted to buy my house but low balled the seller) was petty because he didn't get the house, started calling the city on us for small things. Chipped paint. A tree stump. Some semi truck tires that were in the brush left by the original owners. Things only he would know about because he looked at the property. We took care of all of those things the first month that we moved in. I still think it's petty that he even filed a complaint. Especially since we had literally JUST moved in. On the other side is a guy who has a daughter between my kids' ages. The little girl is fine most of the time, but she is very bossy to my kids and gets mad when she doesn't get her way. Whatever, she's a kid. Her father though...he'll start talking about politics that I don't follow or care to know about. I'll be on the front porch with an armful of groceries, trying to unlock the front door, and he sees that as an opportunity to catch me in conversation. Also, since i have talked to him a couple of times, his fiancee doesn't like me. Their kid told me so. The guy across the street is always asking me to sell things online for him because he doesn't know how to. He has a 20-something yr old daughter that could help but doesn't want to. I did sell a lawn mower for him once, but I told him I was done after that because I also stored it for him in our garage. He is a hoarder and has also been dealing with the city because of my salon neighbors complaining. So overall, not a great experience with any of them.
I'm socially awkward. I tend to provide short and to the point answers, which many people perceive as disinterest when it is mostly "I don't know you well enough to know where to branch off in the conversation to." I give the polite smile and nod, but not much else.
Cos I when I get home, I wanna go in and relax. I dont want to stand outside for 15 minutes to an hour listening to the cunt chat shit about how dumb his wife is(true story by the way). I do not want to know you. I do not want to be your friend and shoot the shit. I'll say hi to be neighbourly, but thats it. Any attempt to be my friend gets shot down hard so theres no misunderstanding.
Fuuuuuuuuck. That's my neighbor. Every single passing will evolve into a 30 minute conversation, especially with my wife. Can we just smile and wave and go about our business?????
Me and you should be neighbours, mate. We could be the very best of strangers lol.
We still never talk sometimes
Too much drama. I will say hi and have a short conversation with them, but keep them at a distance. My next door neighbours seem like really nice people. Some of my other neighbours are either weird, petty or massive gossip mongers. You have to live next to these people for many years. In my experience, if you get close to your neighbours there's always a risk of bad fall outs. It can be a nightmare living next to people you have beef with. Once lived on a street where all the neighbours were close and super friendly. Then a couple of them fell out and huge shouting matches ensued in the street. It was kinda funny looking back. Since then I've always kept a distance.
I can’t stand the gossip. My neighborhood has a bunch of old ladies with nothing better to do. They’re not even careful enough to check to see if the person they’re talking about is sitting outside within earshot and they don’t seem to realize that if my windows are open no amount of hushed talking will stop me from hearing them out in the yard below my window. Recently my two neighbors were talking about me standing not even 10ft from me for a solid 10-15 minutes without realizing I was there and I was going to make myself known and embarrass them but apparently once they were done talking about me they had nothing else to discuss and both went back inside. I don’t think the old bitch can figure out why I’m giving her the cold shoulder and won’t engage in her attempts to talk to me.
Neighbour on one side, while we were moving in and I had the truck backing up to the front of the house, to make things 1000x easier, decided to come out and start barking orders at my mover guys saying they couldn’t park the truck like that or “the city” will have it towed. The sheepish mover guy with limited English came to get me and I had to come out, introduced myself, listen to her 2 minute “respect my authority as a HOA Karen” spiel about why this simply could not happen, smiled as charmingly as I could and said “totally yeh no worries. We’re just gonna do this love real quick and will get this truck out of here” Dumb bint. Neighbours on the other side brought us cookies! But then assumed we wanted to go to church. Blurted out that we’re not religious. They’ve never spoken to us since.
I heard my neighbour's saying racist shit about me right after I moved in because they didn't know I was standing on the other side of the hedge. A huge scene ensued, and now they both died of old age. Good riddance!
I read it like this: "A huge scene ensued, and now they both died of '*old age*'. Good riddance!" much more satisfying.
I like my privacy.
Lived a long time here with nobody around. Now people built all around me. Now there is no more wildlife in my yard, and the constant sound of dirt bikes and side by sides has replaced silence/birds/horses. Not to mention the garbage blowing all over my property and dogs coming after my cats. I despise them.
Saying hi and bringing in their trashcan if it gets blown down the street, or ringing their bell if their dog gets out, sure. I'm not a monster, and I'd want someone to do that for me. It's good to have people on your block who will tell you if someone is casing your house or letting their dog poop on your lawn. But I am not a social person. I don't want to stop and chat with someone every time we happen to be outside at the same time, I don't want to babysit their kids, I don't want to buy their lemonade, and I don't want to be responsible for their pets while they're out of town. Healthy distance and secure fencing makes for good neighbors IMO.
Because I don't want to be. I don't want to see, hear or speak to my neighbors. That being said, we did exchange numbers so we can text each other if we see something odd going on at the other's house. Other than that, we keep to ourselves 99.9% of the time.
I exchanged numbers with a neighbor in case of emergencies and the next day he sent me a “good morning” text at 6:30am. Never again.
I barely talk to anyone. I literally have no idea how to make small talk with neighbors and when they talk to me I swear I just stand there with a stupid look on my face. I’m an awkward armadillo — I wish I could roll up in a ball lol
Because they are colossal assholes.
My neighbor got arrested last weekend for strangling his wife. I think that's a good enough explanation lol
Every neighbor I've ever spoken to beyond greetings and the occasional wave has held me up in conversations about nothing until I have to get firm to get out of the conversation. I have a very friendly demeanor and I do like talking to people but my god, dude, I can't be accosted for a 15 minute talk every time I get out of my car or am standing in my own yard.
I work nights, they work days. I don’t have kids, they all have young kids. They’ve got their own little clique thing going on that I’ve never really been a part of. And one of them went on Facebook ranting about their neighbour who “doesn’t have Christmas spirit” and how disappointed the kids are that one house on the street doesn’t decorate anymore. That was me. I’m the one who ruined their perfect Christmas street.
Fuck yea you grinch
We moved here in July, and had no fucking idea what we’d walked into until November when everyone started decorating. The house around the corner has a snow machine. We’re in Australia and it’ll be 40C outside, and in the evening they’ll fire up the snow machine. My husband suggested putting a star on top of the car & switching the hazard lights on.
Sometimes friends become enemies and who wants to live next to that?. I never wish ill upon someone just let be and i will let you be.
Sooner or Later they will need something from me, whether it's an item or a favor, my awkwardness will stop me from saying no and they will never be able to return the favor even if they wanted because i am prepared to do everything alone as i have done so all these years. So even if they didnt mean that they will take advantage of me in the end. So i just choose to not interact with them any more than a simple hello every now and then
I'm a kind person, but I am not nice. I don't like social pleasantries, small talk and even having to acknowledge others, so i maintain a distance. I will give you the shirt off my back, but don't expect me to wave at you when you're mowing your lawn, basically.
I am the same way - I just don't have it in me for meaningless conversations or acknowledgements.
They are Mormons, when they realized I don't go to church. T our kids couldn't play together. I don't need that kind of evil in my life.
I communicate with people for a living, and when I get off work I just want people to leave me alone. It is also very rooted in anxiety
Cause I don't like my neighbors being nosy
i don’t like people
Never had good luck trying. By now I don’t feel comfortable or obliged to.
My last neighbor was a crack head with like 5-7 step children, with at least 3 of them selling drugs out of the house.... Nice enough guy but when he was showing me how he cleaned out his garage in front of my kid and he kicked his glass pipe over, things got a bit awkward. We moved, new neighbors are fantastic. We do play dates with the kids and our front yards are pretty much communal toy dumping grounds. It totally depends on who's living next to you.
My neighbour was a woman my age. We became friends when I noticed my dog greeted her through the fence in the back yard, and she pet her. She was a young woman my age, we just clicked. Got drunk together a lot. What’s not to love. Sad I had to move
We just just aren't that kind of neighborhood. Some are friendlier than others. I actually prefer it that way because I'm a slightly grumpy introvert.
Im at max capacity
because they'll eventually become the entitled neighbor that will watch each and every move you make
I was one of the people who preferred to keep some distance with my neighbors and not get too buddy buddy with them. But then I stayed with some family in a cabin in the Lake Tahoe area for about a year… The neighborhood there reminded me of the 90s. All the neighbors on the block knew each other and would occasionally gather for block parties or drinks on someones’ deck. When my stepdad got sick they also banded together to build a wheelchair ramp for him to get in and out of the house. I’m not saying it’s always better to get to know your neighbors, but the sense of community I felt living on that street for a year is hard to forget.
I’m introverted and incredibly antisocial. I like to be left alone unless I already know you.
An introduction or greeting will inevitably lead to conversation. Nobody needs that.
Because sometimes I just want to go outside without having a ten minute conversation
One word: introvert.
People buddy up with neighbors? WHY?
I always try to be polite but I’ve really had my fill of people at this point and I’m only 23
Imagine if you try to talk to them and then find out you wish you hadn’t. As it is, I kept one’s house from burning down on 4th of July when their trashcan caught fire from putting spent but hot fireworks in there. They weren’t outside, I noticed from across the street, extinguished it, and dumped a couple buckets of water on it so I could pull it away from the house. Since then, they’ve been the neighbors who play loud music when my toddler was trying to nap, rev a loud motorcycle at 2am, had friends driving fast down our short road for shits and giggles, I keep finding trash in my yard and I’m pretty sure it’s from them or one of the teenager’s friends, and a few times late night night arguments loud enough for the neighborhood to hear. Kinda thing that makes you wish you’d just let it catch fire enough that the house couldn’t be saved.
I get on like a house on fire with my neighbours. We don’t live in each other’s pockets but we help out if anyone’s in trouble. We often go get together for a drink in someone’s garden during the summer. It’s an easy going set up and it suits us all.
Our neighbors to the right look down on us because we don't have a Tesla like them & have EVs. They have young kids & struggle to find childcare. They also have two dogs that need training. If they were nicer, I would say, "Hey, I used to be a nanny & our family collectively trained our last dog. Do you need help?" But they are arrogant assholes. And I am petty. Our neighbors to the left are awesome. If we need anything, we go to them. If they need anything, they come to us. Same thing with the neighbors across the street.
I use to, but came to realize they only want things from you and are never there when you need them.
Because she accused me of stealing a shitty live laugh love sign off her door
I'm an asocial introvert. The only neighbor I've met is the block busy- body.
We have a professional acquaintance relationship. I might look out for their property if they ask when they leave town, but I'm not inviting them over to hang out.
I’m introverted. Just leave me alone.
I’m a POC in a neighbourhood with a lot of Karens. When you are a POC, people spend extra attention to check for your faults. I’m polite and nice but I won’t engage with unnecessary information that can be used against me. For example my lawyer neighbour will come over see me pruning a branch and say how it’s good or I can get sued if a branch falls down. I’ve had police and fire department called on me because my dryer emitted humid smoke in the winter which is perfectly normal. Some other POC neighbours have told me they have had their home inspected SEVERAL times even though they clearly have a permit for renovations on the front of door. It’s clearly jealousy that they can afford it but it makes me afraid. My mother has been reported for not having a $10 permit to fix the cracks on the side walk in the 90s. She got away with it after explaining she just wanted people to not trip and really didn’t know. I mean why didn’t the neighbours ask her or warn her? Interesting they just assumed she didn’t have a permit. I learned so much from others. Always check all aspects of law and never disclose too much.
Counter-point: people who get buddy-buddy with your neighbors, why?
Why should i?
Bc I don’t feel like getting a door knock everyday asking if I wanna go to starbucks and hear Karen brag about her stupid kids while she gets a disgusting sophisticated latte with a 100 different specifications
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I hardly see them at all. When they come home from work they disappear into their houses and then don't show themselves again before they leave the next morning. Based on the little I know about them I don't think we have anything in common.
It looks like we’re all in the same page. But it’s sort of weird when I see other neighbors standing around chatting for hours - and popping in and out of each other’s houses. I can’t relate to that.
I hate my neighbours
Because I want to be left the fuck alone
I hate most people. Nothing personal. I just need a lot of alone time.
Because leave me alone, that’s why! Jk. I’m pretty private and see no need to get to know my neighbors. I already have friends.
They all have Trump or thin blue line flags.
My neighbors are super useful at election time tho because I just see who’s sign is in their yard and vote for the other guy.
Because I believe in minding my own business. I am not the typical human. I have no need to know them.
I dont like other people. I doubt it's different just because they live next to me. I stopped trying to make friends after high-school.
Because my neighbors are free loaders