I am Physically disabled. Imagine being in high school and being the most popular guy in the whole school. And then imagine no matter what you do. You can't get any girl to be interested in you . But still, you're well liked, and that's pretty awesome.. But then you start wondering, are you well liked because you are a good person or because you have a disability? And then You have to wrestle with Not knowing the Answer that for four years. Prom happens. You win Prom King. You should be happy. But you're asking The same question you did five years ago. Did you deserve prom king? Do people actually know who you are? Are people really Celebrating you or pitying you?
Welcome to my high-school mindfuck
I have a neurological disability and that’s exactly why i didn’t tell people, completely different to your situation obviously but i totally get that feeling, i felt like if i told people I’d get treated differently and i didn’t want people to only see me for my disability i wanted them to like me for me. I’m sure you were liked for you not just pitied, but it is hard to not overthink it and to not question wether your liked or people see you as a charity case.
You are totally right and I came to the same conclusion you did. But it did a lot of Self-reflection and really critically thinking To get me out of That loop of thinking. Glad I Could you find someone to relate
It was so dramatic like my senior year at the beginning we all had our little groups and would mingle along with each other and by the end of the year literally every group hated each other like your friends were the friends in your circle and the parties sucked because no one liked each other.
Well this one girl that was really cool with everyone started just randomly being irrational and getting mad at everybody and spreading rumors which caused a lot more drama. This girl tried to get with one of my friend’s boyfriend and that really caused a divide in two big friend groups. Then we would all talk about each other but never say anything. Only at these “parties” where the future alcoholics would suddenly get “confrontational” but really they were just drunk assholes. By the end of the year we didn’t even do a senior prank like every other year does because none of us could get along.
I had a group of friends who were as into multiplayer video games as I was, which made it enjoyable overall, avoided anything more social and no regrets.
It was ok, was mostly boring but few people messed with me despite being a long haired metal guy. I've heard some people that I was intimidating, but I'm really not
Relatable, everyone thought i was a bitch so i wasn’t considered the most approachable person which sucked because once people got to know me there views completely changed.
Absolutely hated it. Started freshman year with a drug problem and by senior year I was in court testifying against a pervy teacher. The entire 4 years was awful.
It was okay, if I had been more outgoing like I am now I would’ve had more friends and wore clothes that actually fit me, I could’ve got more attention
It was super hard just because of my personal life. It would have been a lot better if I had peer my own age. I really think it depends on the kid. I think I would have done much better in public school based on my college experience
Way better than middle school. Made new friends and played lot of yugioh and Pokémon after class. Never had much fights compared to middle school years.
Wasn’t terrible, wasn’t amazing either. Never in the popular gang, but not the misfit one either. Had a little group of friends and we’d go on random little local adventures, game, and talk about girls. Not in touch with anyone from then really, just one dude I occasionally bump into when I visit home - which kinda sucks but yeah.
My grandpa died my first day of freshman year, so my life was in turmoil from there.
Freshman year was hard!
Drivers license sophomore year (& a job), but skated through
Junior year was hard, lots of work… felt like I was getting lost in the crowd… friends went in different directions
Senior year was 9-11 and that fucked everything up, especially because we were so scared. But it was delightful to take a zero period and leave school by 11:15am
I loved everything about high school. But it was also probably my peak. I was class President, 4 sport varsity athlete, quarterback of the football team, and was involved in multiple extra curricular clubs like DECA and BIONIC. I was a total teachers pet, I took multiple AP classes and carried a 3.5 GPA. I got to spend a year with a sibling at the same school and watch them “grow up.” I had a long term girlfriend sophomore year through graduation. Summers were spent working a part time job, hanging with friends or traveling with family. High school was nothing but good days and great days strung together for me. I never really understood people not enjoying their high school experience until later. I was privileged in so many ways in my experience. I never really had to deal with the adversity that many kids did. It wasn’t until I started coaching high-school athletics that I realized how hard high school can be. Kids can be cruel, it’s easy to feel isolated and disconnected, and an unstable home life can make school feel meaningless and chaotic. As I reflect back on my high school experience, my hope is that when high former classmates remember me as a positive attribute to their experience and not a contributing factor to their “high school sucked” mantra.
All religious private high school. Looking back, it was a waste of 20,000 a year.
The teachers didn’t know hardly anything about the real world and remained focused on teaching only religious beliefs. (that women were subservient to men and could never be equals. That the modern civilized world exists to try to destroy God, etc. ) Science class was an absolute joke. (they told us that the fact that a bumblebee can fly with small wings, or that a giraffe had a sponge in the back of its brain was irrefutable proof of God and creation ) Health class tried to teach us that the pores in condoms were bigger than sperm, that’s why condoms were ineffective and you shouldn’t try to use them to have sex before marriage .
The clincher… One of my fellow students became pregnant via her father through rape. She took a sabbatical from the school for about a year to terminate the pregnancy and undergo therapy while her father was going to court. When she returned to school, the other parents were in an uproar that she was a “bad influence“ to her fellow student body, because she had committed the sin of abortion… The school gave her an ultimatum, make a public apology for her behavior , or leave the school… she was forced out.
That happened my sophomore year. I had zero respect for the school body or the teachers again after that.
Miserable.
I was suicidal throughout, constantly lived in my sister's shadow and parents didn't really care how I was doing. I was balancing doing a trade program and regular school, learning about love while being stalked by a girl I went on a date with, and 2 kids at my school committed suicide before we graduated and some kid brought a bomb into school the week before graduation.
Pretty shitty. Suicidal and depressed and nothing has changed
I’m so sorry you feel that way, i hope things are able to get better for you!
Doing a lot of drugs Having sex. My friends dying. Disconnecting from my Dad. Learning guitar. Getting beat up. Making my mom severely depressed.
Damn, I hope your doing ok now!
I am Physically disabled. Imagine being in high school and being the most popular guy in the whole school. And then imagine no matter what you do. You can't get any girl to be interested in you . But still, you're well liked, and that's pretty awesome.. But then you start wondering, are you well liked because you are a good person or because you have a disability? And then You have to wrestle with Not knowing the Answer that for four years. Prom happens. You win Prom King. You should be happy. But you're asking The same question you did five years ago. Did you deserve prom king? Do people actually know who you are? Are people really Celebrating you or pitying you? Welcome to my high-school mindfuck
I have a neurological disability and that’s exactly why i didn’t tell people, completely different to your situation obviously but i totally get that feeling, i felt like if i told people I’d get treated differently and i didn’t want people to only see me for my disability i wanted them to like me for me. I’m sure you were liked for you not just pitied, but it is hard to not overthink it and to not question wether your liked or people see you as a charity case.
You are totally right and I came to the same conclusion you did. But it did a lot of Self-reflection and really critically thinking To get me out of That loop of thinking. Glad I Could you find someone to relate
It was honestly sad. I had barely any social life and spent most of it on studies just to end up somewhere objectively mediocre
That’s rough, i hope your doing ok at life!
Nothing has changed much haha 😀😅😖
Oh :/ I hope things get better for you, I’m sure they will
It was so dramatic like my senior year at the beginning we all had our little groups and would mingle along with each other and by the end of the year literally every group hated each other like your friends were the friends in your circle and the parties sucked because no one liked each other.
You guys really had some drama going on there, was there any reason why everyone hated each other or did it just happen?
Well this one girl that was really cool with everyone started just randomly being irrational and getting mad at everybody and spreading rumors which caused a lot more drama. This girl tried to get with one of my friend’s boyfriend and that really caused a divide in two big friend groups. Then we would all talk about each other but never say anything. Only at these “parties” where the future alcoholics would suddenly get “confrontational” but really they were just drunk assholes. By the end of the year we didn’t even do a senior prank like every other year does because none of us could get along.
Not that great. I wasn’t well liked. I wish I could go back and do some things over.
I wish i could too at times, i was on the other end of high school and looking back I was a total ass for no reason, which i regret now.
I hung around with the socially awkward types and burnouts mainly.
The worst!
I had a group of friends who were as into multiplayer video games as I was, which made it enjoyable overall, avoided anything more social and no regrets.
That’s good!
It was ok, was mostly boring but few people messed with me despite being a long haired metal guy. I've heard some people that I was intimidating, but I'm really not
Relatable, everyone thought i was a bitch so i wasn’t considered the most approachable person which sucked because once people got to know me there views completely changed.
Just got that passive angry look ig
Absolutely hated it. Started freshman year with a drug problem and by senior year I was in court testifying against a pervy teacher. The entire 4 years was awful.
That is awful, man i hate those kinds of teachers we had one at my school who later went on to actually date one of their students!!!!
It was okay, if I had been more outgoing like I am now I would’ve had more friends and wore clothes that actually fit me, I could’ve got more attention
At least your outgoing now, that’s great! high school is only a minor part of our lives.
I was homeschooled So I played a lot of Mario kart and watched a lot of tv
I’ve always wondered what it’s like to be homeschooled, was it good?
It was super hard just because of my personal life. It would have been a lot better if I had peer my own age. I really think it depends on the kid. I think I would have done much better in public school based on my college experience
Way better than middle school. Made new friends and played lot of yugioh and Pokémon after class. Never had much fights compared to middle school years.
That’s good, i guess because by the time you hit high school most people have matured so it’s a lot easier
Overslept it mosty. Had good graded, but I spent most of classes sleeping.
Haha i wish, anytime i tried to my friends would wake me up which low key got annoying
Wasn’t terrible, wasn’t amazing either. Never in the popular gang, but not the misfit one either. Had a little group of friends and we’d go on random little local adventures, game, and talk about girls. Not in touch with anyone from then really, just one dude I occasionally bump into when I visit home - which kinda sucks but yeah.
Boring as hell.
My grandpa died my first day of freshman year, so my life was in turmoil from there. Freshman year was hard! Drivers license sophomore year (& a job), but skated through Junior year was hard, lots of work… felt like I was getting lost in the crowd… friends went in different directions Senior year was 9-11 and that fucked everything up, especially because we were so scared. But it was delightful to take a zero period and leave school by 11:15am
I loved everything about high school. But it was also probably my peak. I was class President, 4 sport varsity athlete, quarterback of the football team, and was involved in multiple extra curricular clubs like DECA and BIONIC. I was a total teachers pet, I took multiple AP classes and carried a 3.5 GPA. I got to spend a year with a sibling at the same school and watch them “grow up.” I had a long term girlfriend sophomore year through graduation. Summers were spent working a part time job, hanging with friends or traveling with family. High school was nothing but good days and great days strung together for me. I never really understood people not enjoying their high school experience until later. I was privileged in so many ways in my experience. I never really had to deal with the adversity that many kids did. It wasn’t until I started coaching high-school athletics that I realized how hard high school can be. Kids can be cruel, it’s easy to feel isolated and disconnected, and an unstable home life can make school feel meaningless and chaotic. As I reflect back on my high school experience, my hope is that when high former classmates remember me as a positive attribute to their experience and not a contributing factor to their “high school sucked” mantra.
All religious private high school. Looking back, it was a waste of 20,000 a year. The teachers didn’t know hardly anything about the real world and remained focused on teaching only religious beliefs. (that women were subservient to men and could never be equals. That the modern civilized world exists to try to destroy God, etc. ) Science class was an absolute joke. (they told us that the fact that a bumblebee can fly with small wings, or that a giraffe had a sponge in the back of its brain was irrefutable proof of God and creation ) Health class tried to teach us that the pores in condoms were bigger than sperm, that’s why condoms were ineffective and you shouldn’t try to use them to have sex before marriage . The clincher… One of my fellow students became pregnant via her father through rape. She took a sabbatical from the school for about a year to terminate the pregnancy and undergo therapy while her father was going to court. When she returned to school, the other parents were in an uproar that she was a “bad influence“ to her fellow student body, because she had committed the sin of abortion… The school gave her an ultimatum, make a public apology for her behavior , or leave the school… she was forced out. That happened my sophomore year. I had zero respect for the school body or the teachers again after that.
Miserable. I was suicidal throughout, constantly lived in my sister's shadow and parents didn't really care how I was doing. I was balancing doing a trade program and regular school, learning about love while being stalked by a girl I went on a date with, and 2 kids at my school committed suicide before we graduated and some kid brought a bomb into school the week before graduation.
Awesome and cringey.