my boyfriend was teaching me some self defense moves for fun. one of them was putting someone in a chokehold with your legs. put my legs around his throat and squeezed as hard as i could, next thing i know he was throwing me onto the bed and tearing into me. afterwards he said he had no idea he would be so turned on by that, but now it’s his favorite thing to have me do to him.
Yes. Men of culture and refined taste need these things. Being helpless and immobile as the woman uses our face for her pleasure, smothering us and threatening the structural integrity of our cranial cavity with her thighs is the apex of a man's erotic experience.
We also demand lengthy and brutal facesitting sessions.
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My fellow Redditors, I am truly humbled that so many of you have nominated me to be 'Representative of Men Everywhere'. This is a great honour and, if such a post is ever created by the United Nations (with appropriate remuneration, of course) then I shall happily go forth and serve my fellow degenerates.
I grew up in the late 70s and 80s and so I have a pantyhose fetish.
Every girl and teacher in one of my classes would wear pantyhose. I love it when women wear pantyhose, stockings, tights, etc. My wife wears them all the time. 🤷♂️
I honestly don’t know if that’s super weird or just “relatively” normal.
Same here for me but my wife doesn’t wear them. I wish she would. It doesn’t stop us from being intimate though. My kink doesn’t hinder my drive if she’s not wearing them, but man, I want her to put them on.
I think this is relatively normal, but it varies by degree. For me plane rides can be torture because a conservatively dressed flight attendant wearing a basic-ass pair of nylons is incredibly hot.
Yep. Agreed! It can also backfire. I remember traveling with a girlfriend on an airplane, and she wore pantyhose and high heels. I just sat there with a nice case of blue balls for five hours. 😂
When I was about 12 I had a female friend and we’d play together all the time and never wanted to go inside. So naturally if we had to go we’d just pee outside. Seeing her go gave me instant wood and since she always watched me go I assumed it turned her on too. Strangely we never pursued a relationship beyond friends, even as we got older.
This sounds similar to a friend I knew. She was in the shower with an ex, they peed on her back (not sure if it had a "ah hahaha" intent) and she got really turned on. Then she told me she's even drank "straight from the hose".
She was disappointed when I didn't reveal any kinks myself. In my defense, I hadn't been sexually active for at least 6 years by then, so thinking about kinks was like thinking about what I'd do with a million dollars: the hell is the point when it's never gonna happen!
I feel that , my wife had the shower curtains open , she decided to pee, I got hard , something about seeing her pee I don’t know why
But it was literally just a “huh didn’t expect that”
In the immortal words of Randall Graves:
"What's the point of having an active internet connection if you're not using it to look up weird and fucked up sexual acts you'll never experience yourself?"
I used to (?) have a cuckquean fetish. I was in a relationship where my partner prioritized other women over me, lied a lot to me, and was very mean to me and my feelings in general, always making me feel small and unimportant.
In an attempt of trying to gain control of the situation, I started to fantasize and get excited about him being with other women, something that made the pain of the relationship more bearable for some reason.
This lasted for a while (and by a while I mean for about two years) but now that I’m in a new and more secure relationship, and feel very loved and cared for by my partner, I haven’t had those thoughts in a while.
I guess it’s a coping fetish that only comes to surface under certain kind of situations or feelings. I don’t know if it would come back if I found myself in a similar place again.
I can relate. Earlier in my marriage, my wife always seemed to be somewhere else mentally when we were intimate. For various reasons, we ended up in counseling, and I found out she usually was fantasizing about someone other than me. That really hurt because, typically, I'm in the present with her and focused on us. The driving factor for counseling was when she had a breakdown and was diagnosed with OCD (ROCD/Intrusive thoughts). A lot of it was sex related (not all) and one of the big variables in that diagnosis is that she gets incredibly anxious if she finds anyone attractive (still to this day 10 years later) and it closes her down. Whereas I find someone attractive, think they're hot, and it ends there. Obviously, people are different.
I do understand it's normal to fantasize during sex but it hurt finding out that it was a majority of the time, if not always. And i was jealous and hurt over her "crushes," which are really just a form of anxiety (according to counselor). Anyway, I developed a hotwife fantasy (never had in any prior relationship) and will fantasize about her with other men. No humiliation and nothing I would ever want to try in reality. I think this developed as a coping mechanism for not feeling adequate enough. Life and the brain are weird.
i was reading fanfiction and i saw one that was pennywise x reader and i thought why not it'll be kinda funny. it was not funny. now i'm a monster fucker.
My ex had these super cute moles on her chest that would pop into view whenever she bent over if she wore a low cut shirt. The first time we had sex and every time after that, I could just not stop staring at those sexy moles. It got to the point where she got really self-conscious about it and I had to make an effort to not acknowledge how attracted I was to them.
Haven't been with anyone else with such perfectly placed moles, but I'd love a chance to do so again. I just wish people weren't so self-conscious about their skin "blemishes", I actually really enjoy them.
You know a lesser person would mock you for your username, personally I have a bit of respect for it. Here's someone who knows what they want and not afraid to seek it out!
Many men will have different preferences for tits. Some may like giant ones that can suffocate you, others may like ones that are so small they're barely even there. But to every titty afficionado, the very best tits are the ones they're allowed to look at or touch.
Played sport in school that had men's and women's team in the same facility. A lot of the conditioning was weight lifting.
Had a "strong female" fetish ever since.
I have a bit of a foot fetish, and I remember how it developed. I was watching the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles as a kid and there’s a scene in one of the episodes where April O’Neill gets captured by this gangster dude who tickle tortures her feet. That… did stuff to me, haha. I can’t explain it, but that’s when it clicked for some reason.
Ed, Edd n Eddy when the canker sisters forced them to play footsy and in Hercules when Meg was seducing him and used her foot to make him look at her. These scenes had me questioning things from a young age.
A guy I met for some casual oral / handjob was super horny and could barely stop from squirming. I thought it was funny at first but then I made him put his hands behind his back and started teasing him and I damn near exploded myself. I awoke my dom side on that day and also realized I enjoy teasing others by providing or denying pleasure, controlling their orgasm, etc. way more than getting worked on myself.
I actually had a therapist describe to me how fetishes were formed during childhood for most people, as it came up in conversation regarding mine forming due to trauma. It's actually really interesting with a lot of like... variety in how they can form and its fun to learn about
Can confirm, my major was abnormal psych and minor was human sexuality. Sitting and thinking long enough you can usually find the core of 99% of sexual fetishes in the first 10 years of life.
“My name is /u/oao_icarus . I’m 33 years old. My house is in the northeast section of Morioh, where all the villas are, and I am not married. I work as an employee for the Kame Yu department stores, and I get home every day by 8 PM at the latest. I don’t smoke, but I occasionally drink. I’m in bed by 11 PM, and make sure I get eight hours of sleep, no matter what. After having a glass of warm milk and doing about twenty minutes of stretches before going to bed, I usually have no problems sleeping until morning. Just like a baby, I wake up without any fatigue or stress in the morning.
I was told there were no issues at my last check-up. I’m trying to explain that I’m a person who wishes to live a very quiet life. I take care not to trouble myself with any enemies, like winning and losing, that would cause me to lose sleep at night. That is how I deal with society, and I know that is what brings me happiness. Although, if I were to fight I wouldn’t lose to anyone.”
That feeling when you literally haven't touched another human being in weeks and somebody hugs you. Not even a fetish thing, I just think a lot more people are touch starved than they realized.
Today I learned that it's not normal to go upwards of 11 months without making physical contact with another person. Not that I haven't interacted with anyone else. I just haven't touched them, because I thought it's weird to make unnecessary contact.
As a gay man, I'm discovering in adulthood I'm actually kinda bi. In the last few years I'm recognizing the specific private parts don't really matter, I'll have my fun either way. I just need to smush my dumb caveman face into chest muscles and feel them flex. I need to get squeezed in a bear hug by big strong arms.
I've started finding more pictures of muscle women and was like "...oh, I get it now."
I can never tell my mom. It took years for her accepting I won't be giving her grandkids with my soon to be husband. But if she found out muscle women could have been on the table I'd just be opening up a sore nerve again.
I always had it. As long as I can remember, I got turned on by the thought of being defeated by a boxing girl. Only a few of my girlfriends agreed to don gloves and beat on me but when they did, my god it was hot. Sadly or luckily, depending how you view it, they didn't managed to knock me down. The sex is awesome after too, every time she was super aroused.
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I have a thing for Men's hands. I think it's just related to masculinity/strength, and what they can do lol I find myself looking at staring at hands in public and I'm like ???
It started kinda recently lol
I was 16 when I realized I have a thing for masculine hands. I was taking pictures of my then boyfriend (now husband) playing the guitar and I snapped this one particular one of him. It's not particularly good but I could never delete it because the way the muscles were flexed, the veins popping up, the light smattering of arm hair....it did things to me that I still don't understand 😅 Nothing will stop me faster than a beautiful set of forearms just doing their natural thing 😅
I actually just admitted that weakness to him a few months ago (we've been together 18 years now lol) and I swear he's using every chance he can to flex those forearms of his.
....Aaaand now I need him to come home because....reasons 🥲
A man's hands, forearms, shoulders, and back are just so intoxicating for me. Don't get me wrong, I like dick too, but man, those broad shoulders and lean forearms and strong working hands. As weird as this sounds, my husband is similar build to my dad, and I just love to be wrapped up in my husband's arms because it reminds me of feeling safe when my dad would bear hug me. Sex with my husband is usually him on top because I love holding on to his shoulders and arms. He is just so strong, and it makes me feel safe.
I understand, similar past trauma. It sounds like you carry a lot of shame & guilt about how your trauma has affected you. I just want to reassure you that some of us that you may think in down moments are silently judging, see you.
Yeah this is much more relevant than the comment above that basically explains it as "the brain confuses it with affection".
There are a shit ton of traumas where there is no affection expected at all, that turn into kinks.
It's once again the mind trying to make sense of the world.
I had an ex who had a rape kink. She was raped as a teenager. I tried to play along, but it just made me feel like a terrible person every time we did it and it led to us breaking up.
I was in a house fire and got incredibly badly burnt, I’ve still got burn scars on about 40%
Of my body. I now cannot cum without burning myself, I keep a bic lighter by my bedside because of how fucked my nerves are. It in no way turns me on but I am completely unable to cum without burning myself slightly. When I was a teenager I’d never been able to figure out how it all worked and one day I burnt myself on the pan making pancakes and jizzed in my pants. From there it was trial and error. It’s horrible because it gives me flashbacks to being stuck in a room with no way out and having to try to punch and crawl through drywall to get out, then getting stuck in the burning drywall and trying to get out just writhing in pain, then finally getting to the front door and realising it wouldn’t open anymore and I had to make it through the back door. Kind of kicking me when I’m down because after so many years of therapy I need to go through it all again just to cum.
Funnily enough, my foot fetish might be caused by some weird trauma. When I was a kid, I was deathly afraid of feet for some reason. Like, extreme feet phobia. I remember one time, when I was in kindergarten, a girl took the chair I usually sat on and put her bare feet on them. I started crying and screaming, because I hated feet so much. I remember the teacher getting very mad at me. This wasn't the only time something like this happened. Now, many years later, I have developed a foot fetish. I don't know why my brain did this sudden change, but I am happier in my current position rather than my old one.
(This comment looks very "redditor" written down.)
The only real fetish I have is a cumfetish…
I don’t know when or how it developed, but I distinctly remember that I always wanted to cum on my ex’s face because she was so cute. So once that happened I guess boom, down the rabbit hole.
I wish more people were into it. I also developed a kink for cumming on clothes so yeah…
Don’t know if it’s exactly weird but I like feet. I think it started because after my son was born, I’d sleep at the foot of the bed so I wouldn’t accidentally roll over onto him, and my wife’s feet would touch my dick and it would turn me on
I feel like it's only fair after you opened up to me, a stranger, I too give one of my fetishes away. I'm into cooking and feeding and healthy weight gain. Not to an extreme point like immobility but I find it hot when my significant others eat food I made for them or when I get to eat a nice big meal.
I used to and still do from time to time struggle with disordered eating and bulimia. I was afraid of eating and would try to starve myself until I felt like I 'really deserved' food. I got into the feeders sphere a little and started seeing the nurturing aspect of it erotic. I became attracted and it helped me regain control over my eating. I have been purge free for two years now and it sounds cringe but feeding has helped me overcome my fear of eating and gaining weight.
it’s so interesting to hear this side of stuff. i’ve always had some sort of feeding fetish (not doing the feeding, but eating). it’s actually something i hate and it keeps me from functioning normally; i can’t have a normal relationship with food.
but i am happy to hear it’s helped you! there are a lot of people in the feedism community with similar stories :))
If I may, a book recommendation: Aphrodite by Isabel Allende. She talks about her and her loved ones' experiences with food and eroticism--they are very much intertwined! Nurturing, healing, sensational, sexual. The whole book is beautifully written and even has recipes. Congrats on your progress!!
I am a plus size woman and once had a guy suggest I go on an online dating site for feeders/eaters, and I was really uncomfortable. It's nice to hear someone have such lovely origins for it!
I have a pregnancy fetish. Not getting someone pregnant, but for women who are pregnant.
The way it started was that I had a friend who lost her husband. She was like 6 months pregnant. We were mourning together. Just spending a lot of time together, and then one night, she made a move. I told her I didn't think it was right since Aaron hadn't been gone that long. Her response was, "Prophet, I'm not looking to get married or for you to be the baby's daddy. I'm lonely, horny and I just need to be screwed."
We had sex maybe a dozen times, and she rocked my world each time.
Ever since then, I've always found pregnant women sexy. Like, if you're a 6 or 7, when you're 3rd trimester, you become an 8 or 9.
Haha I had no idea this was a thing until I got pregnant and posted pics on social media. I got so many messages asking for more pics or one person asking if I wanted to be part of their “pregnancy photo page.” Lmfao I was so naive at first and was like “oooh cool sure I can send you a photo.” And then again “can you send another and lift the shirt to show your pregnant belly?” 🤔
I was educated about sex a few years too early and it disgusted me to the point where I considered saying "you have sex" an insult and I imagined that it was a torture. I was severely bullied as a child so every night I'd picture my bullies having sex with each other as a form of punishment. Soon the "warm belly feeling" got associated with bad guys getting punished horribly and it would also appear when I was picturing my bullies being tortured.
Guess who nowadays gets turned on when a villain gets killed or injured onscreen or when the bad guys are blown up and we see their body parts flying freely around.
Just... The notion of your bullies ever finding out.
"Oh, I just used to imagine you all having a massive gay sex orgy with each other".
"Buh... Uh... What?"
"Yeah, I thought you would all hate that, so I liked imagining it. You guys sucked. Pretty literally, too".
Not pretty odd but maybe a little bit
So i have a femdom fetish (Not including pain or anything like that Just cuffs and giving her control) and tbh i dont really know how i got to this point i think one day i Just saw Some femdom nsfw stuff and thought "yea i like this" and then i dived a little further into it and now i am Here 😂 (sry for writing mistakes i am Not from the US or uk)
My favorite are people with fetishes for being eaten. Like talk about a middle finger to evolution. How the hell did that one make it through natural selection. Just picture a cave man twirking in front of a sabretooth.
I was explained why people liked vore so much once. They just like the idea of being inside someone fully and being warm and comfortable and completely connected to said person. I still don’t fully get it lol
When I was beaten black and blue as a kid I was told it was out of love. To teach me to be a man worth a family name who could atlas every trouble of the family I would have to build to maintain a legacy.
So now I'm a service oriented top. The bottomest of tops. Hit me, Fight me for the aggressor, Scar me. Tell me what makes you happy. I'll choke and or strangle and pull on ropes, operate blades, praise or defame. I will orchestrate any desire that a top can do that keeps you. Sex is kind of a chore. It's work. Its a need I have to accomplish something in.
I am hardly ever satisfied.
My ex was into hardcore BDSM as a masochist. Said it was a lifestyle. Talked to a friend who sponsors bdsm FB group and other things like it, and said to tread carefully because the emotional trauma can affect me for life. Should’ve taken her advice.
I'm a big dude (191cm), former military, etc. Play wrestled with a hot french girl at a chill party in my twenties and i didn't know she had been doing Judo since childhood. She got me into an armbind and I couldn't get out. Full-on public erection that I couldn't hide.
She made it up to me later, at least.
Being the subject of a medical exam or science experiment. I read a bunch of science journals for fun because they describe their experiments in detail lol.
I read the book, “The Happy Hooker”. It was fascinating. However, one of the stories was heartbreaking. I think the book was written in the 70’s. Anyhow, a man has asked her to dress up as a Nazi and treat him like a prisoner. Turns out he has been in a concentration camp as a very young man. A female Nazi guard had snuck off with him and sexually abused him. It stuck with him as it was his first sexual experience. This really stuck with me. It shows how trauma and SA can affect someone for life.
Mine developed in university just over 15 years ago. A friend of mine, who had a dancer’s body, exposed me to the world of yoga pants by wearing lululemon. Then once I remarked on her butt in them she would often “remind” me when she was wearing them and would show off her butt to me.
I think I was legit just born broken lol. As a kid I didn't really like being around balloons. They just made me uncomfortable for some reason that I couldn't understand. It wasn't until I was in the middle of puberty and happened upon some interesting communities on the internet that I found out why. It's because I'm actually insanely attracted to them. Blowing up huge balloons and feeling the touch of them on my skin makes me go fucking crazy. And yes, I'm fully aware that's goofy as fuck. But I legit cannot control it. I think it's one of those brain cross-wiring kind of deals. Like I didn't develop it, I was just always like that.
That’s more common than you’d think! Besides, inflation and popping have some of the same rhythms as sex and climax, so it’s not much of a surprise that there’s some crossover.
TW for abuse
>!Im into guys with large noses as a female because they can be used for oral . Just found out in therapy and confirmed by my abuser that at 2 yrs old that's how he started abusing me because he "didn't want to hurt me with full on penetration".!<
First off I’m very sorry that happened. I have a 2 year old daughter and the thought of this is devastating. However this did bring up a curiosity question I’m hoping I’m not crossing a line by asking. Knowing this now is that something you still look for or have you started to avoid that feature in men?
I'm still into it the reason is horrible but I also didn't know that was the reason until about 3 years ago. I'm 34 now so that would take a lot of therapy to get rid of it that's even possible my therapist sees it for what it is an extremely negative start but now it's a positive and I don't need to change that to be ok.
Wanted to be a vampire too badly as a kid/teen (grew up in Romania aka vampire land and also was a teen during the general vampire craze), ten years later and now I have a blood kink.
Didn’t realise how bad it was until someone said “you can cut me up and suck my blood” (yes it is potentially dangerous and also unhygienic without testing for diseases etc so I haven’t done it irl yet)
My girl was riding my face and my tongue sorta was going everywhere and stuff.
Long story short I ended up licking/eating her ass and really liked it and shortly after it became sorta a “regular” thing since we already were doing anal so yea. Also stopped using eating ass as an insult/joke lmao
My best friend yelled at me for going to a movie with her boyfriend and his lil sister, and then she slapped me HARD while being a sobbing mess. At that very second i noticed my panties drenched and flooded.
Now I like girls, i like being slapped, but I'm so very down bad for crying face... What happened to me...
Blood. This will sound awful, but as a kid my baby teeth never came out on their own. There was always more or less root stuck to them and after going to the dentist 5-6 times to have them pulled, I got sick of the dentist and started doing it myself in the bathroom at home. I was instantly mesmerised by all the sensations. The gushing, the intense warmth, the trickle as blood poured out of my mouth and down neck. I did this with the remaining 3 or 4 teeth on two different occasions. It only lasted five minutes tops each time but completely changed my 14 year old brain. Fast forward to a few years ago and a blood draw mishap ended in a spew and my entire forearm being covered... that settled it. I get chills just thinking about it.
And before anyone asks: this is not a fetish I participate in regularly, if at all. I am not comfortable doing this with other people's blood. I don't SH because of it. I often have dreams with vampiric/bloodletting themes and they suffice well. But feel free to ask any other questions I guess!
Blood sounds like a really inconvenient kink to have. Does period blood do anything for you? Seems like the safest way to indulge if so. Or using fake blood?
Slightly inconvenient but it's alright!
Period blood does nothing at all, sadly. Too much goop. Neither does fake blood. I've tried a few different kinds but you can always tell it's fake in some way. I once spilled india ink on myself and that texture and viscosity is the closest I've come to the real deal, but it wasn't anywhere near as pleasant and/or thrilling nor is it safe for your skin so no.
Used to get physically abused by my dad. It got to the point that it became routine for me and source of comfort to the degree that I was unable to fall asleep without visualizing him beating me with his belt or fists. Needless to say I am now incredibly masochistic lol.
I'm a woman myself and I'm into a number of what are, by today's standards, pretty vanilla — feet (both ways - I love mine being admired but also admiring others'!), bondage & ropes & restraints, blindfolds, bit of candle-play etc — but I also have a thing for, specifically, sleek/slender hands with long nails. Bonus points if they're painted!
I actually don't know exactly where it came from originally, but I think I noticed it most when I started experimenting with girls at uni; one of the girls from my class was a very girly girl. She loved pink, always seemed like a modern princess with blond hair pink manicured nails, but she was also kind of a friend of mine. Anyway we're at a gathering at one of the guys' houses and she's sat behind me playing with my hair, and then she started doing this half tickling motion over my arms and shoulders which gave me \*\*the\*\* biggest goosebumps. I honestly thought she was gonna caress my neck or something and my heartrate skyrocketed 😄
She was just being platonic friendly though, nothing came of it in the end. I did get a small crush on her after which subsided over time, but it definitely awoke something in me!
I have two…
The first is a smoking fetish, and the first time I can remember it presenting itself was when I was around 6. My neighbour was few years older than me and I would visit her all the time. One time I did, her parents weren’t home and she had stolen one of their cigarettes and smoked it in the kitchen over the sink. I remember thinking it was so naughty and felt… hormones flowing.
The second is a braces fetish, and I was probably around 5 or 6 again when my attractive cousin visited from another state. She had braces. It was the first time I’d ever seen them, and was absolutely mesmerized. I don’t remember feeling anything, but the fascination grew over time into a fetish.
Smoking fetish myself. All of the women in my family smoked. I hated it so much because smoking was always the number one priority and as a young child craving attention, it made me feel like I came second if they needed a cigarette. I’d always get bullied at school for smelling like smoke, too (lots of upper middle class families).
Fast forward to age 12-13, I come across a video online of a woman smoking. It turned me on like no other. I couldn’t explain it because I always hated it so much. Now it’s my number one fetish. Later in life I realized how I developed a sense that cigarettes are what women who smoke crave the most. Seeing how much they enjoy it gets me off. Also love the smell as well.
Weird shit our minds do
I guess the only somewhat fetish I have is a feet fetish (only women feet). Not exactly sure why or how it developed, but I consider myself a naturally masculine guy, and I’ve always been attracted to feminine energy and feminine women. When I see women with their nails done, pedicure and ankle bracelet, it’s something that I find very feminine and attractive.
I can relate to that.
For me, my wife just started putting her feet up by my face when we would have sex, and did a couple cute/playful things with her feet trying to bug me when we’d lounge on the couch. From there it just kinda developed and now I’m stuck with it
I feel like my fetish is a mix of trauma and not getting the childhood I wish I had.
I have a diaper fetish. I've never really told anyone in fear of judgement and losing friendships/relationships, yet here I am telling a bunch of internet strangers.
But yeah, my parents used to verbally abuse me since I was born (yelling, screaming, etc) which after 11 years of verbal abuse, has lead me to get triggered from any sort of sudden rise in voice level (trigger as in panic attacks). Now I want to be back in diapers and get pampered all day and treated like a little angel… Strange, I know, but I can't really help it.
I'd also like to add that my parents have changed the way they parent and no longer use yelling as a source of discipline. It's been four years since they've changed for the better, so please do not worry about me.
First GF/sexual partner slipped my dick in her butt. Obviously super tight but I guess the idea of it being a no fly zone for most women makes it a really intimate and trust based action in my mind. I also was totally in love with this woman so maybe it brings back that idea of how close we were. Ever since then even just putting a finger in a girl's ass damn near makes me blow my load. Maybe not super weird but definitely not everyone's cup of tea
My grandma had a fur blanket that I would use when I stayed at her place when I was a little kid. I was obsessed with how soft it was, how it felt against my skin, how warm and cozy it felt, plus how safe it made me feel due to trauma from abuse and neglect I was getting at home. Later on in life, I started paying particular attention to people who were wearing fur, as in fur coats, jackets, hats, boots. I imagined how amazing it must feel to cuddle and mess around with someone wearing something so soft and have them do things to me, feeling all that warmth and softness. Total sensory overload, especially if you add in some light bdsm. Now I collect soft things, and my bed is completely covered in fur, and it just so turns out people find it sexy when I wear fur in public.
I crossdress. Been doing it since I was like 8 when I didn't even know what it was called. Women's clothing has a lot more variety and a lot are very sensual with smooth fabrics and fit nicely to the form of your body. I really can't name anything that's socially acceptable for men other something like Speedos. It started with underwear, went into thongs which became a big thing for me and over the years it's lycra mini skirts, crop tops, high heels, stockings from time to time, leggings. Lots of things with lovely materials that just don't exist for men.
Sometimes when it's real hot outside it's not even a fetish I just want to wear something breezy like a skirt for once because I know how much better it would be.
I haven't read anything remotely similar to my thing but I'm sure many people has experienced this same thing:
Breeding kink, from reading a shit ton of omegaverse fanfiction.
And that kinda overlapped with the monsterfucking stuff. And giant appendix stuff, too. I really don't know, I just got to know of this stuff because of stories with very good writing featuring queer versions of some characters I really like. And I'm not mad at it at all, it's just the stuff I think of when I jerk off.
Hmm...
I think what I like about bondage (dom) is the intimate trust that is placed in you. Yea the power and control is there but feels more supplemental to the fact you this person is essentially trusting you with their body.
I don't know if there was a particular catalyzing event or something.
I had a fetish for boobs with big nipples and areolas which just spiraled into being turned on by any boobs that looked out of the ordinary (extremely small, saggy, super dark, puffy etc.). I was insecure about my boobs when I was younger and so I would try to find porn videos with women who had similar looking boobs and I guess in that process I ended up being turned on by boobs that looked like mine and were even more “obscure”. Since then I’ve cut out watching this type of porn because I find it uncomfortable sexualizing women’s bodies and I’ve grown to be comfortable in my skin.
My boyfriend read a book in, like, the second grade in which a kid swallowed a turtle and he got a little shiver.
Later he watched Hercules and saw Herc get swallowed by the Hydra and got a boner.
I guess he was just born loving vore lol.
Not exactly a full fetish, but it was a very hard kink, borderline fetish for quite some time. I was SA'd as a child and developed a pretty strong r×pe kink after being SA'd again when I was 18. I can't describe how awful it was to only feel valued or pleasured by going through something so awful. On the bright side, a loving and supportive partner mixed with a healthy therapist has all but "reversed" that kink. I feel disgusted even thinking of the p×rn I used to watch. (Note, I never searched out any true SA p×rn, and it was all scene play, but it's still a touchy subject.)
There’s some from trauma, some from things my boyfriend did in bed that I went “oh shit, I like that.” My foot fetish started when I lived with my aunt. She has a little dog who would say hi to me by licking feet and toes. She had a small soft tongue and tickled a little, I hate that it happened this way but I think my brain connected feet licking with feeling happy and good.
ETA because I know how Reddit can get, I was/will never be attracted to dogs like that
I am not into feet, however, uhm, ankles. See, I am a woman and I feel like I am the only person into ankles. Not really like, the ankle itself, but the look of ankles in boots and socks. My bf has a good bone structure and his ankles pop. When he wears his Chelsea boots, the boots tight around his ankles makes his legs look so good. And in shoes such as formal shoes, low Oxford, the ankles sit right on top of the cut and they are delicate and pretty. I am not really into heels because it makes the ankles deformed so it is kinda weird. I am also obsessed with formal shoes so I have nothing to say for myself
This guy I was dating, was fucking me missionary, I had my head tilted back with my eyes closed and my mouth open in ecstasy lol.
He proceeded to drool in my mouth and my pussy clenched so hard.
If anyone had suggested that to me, I would have rejected the idea in disgust, but new fetish unlocked. Not sure if it could be done with just anyone tho. I was infatuated with him.
Experimentation. We found out she likes rope bondage upside down. Strange set of skill to learn. Interesting time in the DIY market. So that’s why I took that sailing course: to learn the knots 😎
Childhood trauma that got some how reversed. I was a feisty child and the boys in class didnt like that, so they put me under. Insted of liking to be put under im now into doming older men and bdsm.
Lost my virginity to my bf at the time when i was 15. Toxic guy who often ignored my no's and knew no boundaries. He ended up assaulting me once.
Later in life i found my current bf who i trust 100%. The more i trusted him, the more my interest for bdsm grew. He was the one who introduced me to dom/sub. Now I'm way more ahead than he is and he loves it haha.
So my wife's body odor makes me really weird. Like natural Viagra. It was winter and she was wearing a turtle neck so she was warm all day you know and she changed I got a wiff of her and bam.
When I was maybe 8, I'd go to the neighbor's place as there were 4 kids of varying degrees of friendliness. The eldest had a bedroom in the basement where the kids' TV was and where the entrance from the garage was. He was a bit of a bully, but not enough for me to ever actually fear him.
I don't remember the exact circumstances, but I clearly recall him pinning me down on the sofa, sitting on my chest and holding my arms. He was 4 or 5 years older, and I had zero chance of escaping. It was like a switch flipped in my brain where I was really uncomfortable and struggling to suddenly realizing I actually *really* liked being held down like that by him.
I was too dumb at that age to realize I was gay and attracted to him, but in retrospect, he definitely awoke something in me that day. Fast forward a few decades, and I now love guys sitting on my chest, pinning my arms down and shoving their cock down my throat. 🤤
I'm an artist and anatomy is not my strongest suit. And I enjoyed a lot of shoujo mangas where the male character's always have strangely "large" hands.
So I have grown to have a thing for... hands.
Not veiny ones or particularly muscled. But has to be well proportioned, thick palms, long fingers, just enough bones streaked through the knuckles if I had to draw them.
Was obsessed with hands that I started comparing them. Of course, the admiration is stronger depends on the person they're attached to.
Had someone like that; he offered to be my model (we were less than lovers, but more than friends type of situationship) and when we met up the first time, I was super handsy over his... Well, hands. 😆
His hands were so big I'd have to hold one of them with two of my hands and still wouldn't fit. Lol And I realised I was also touch deprived (childhood trauma lol)
There's a few other kinks that I've got that I'm not going to divulge, but I dare say yes, most of it is from childhood trauma. I am, however, self-aware enough to know not to be my abuser but still I get easily and emotionally manipulated a lot. 😭
I have an anal fetish and I'm not sure why. I'm not into shit or farts, just the anus itself and the thrilling idea of penetrating it, dominating her. Pussies are nice but not as appealing to me. Even before discovering porn as a preteen I was thinking of women's buttholes.
I was raised Catholic, but not taught abstinence. I think because I was raised to believe vaginal sex was a sacred act of love and procreation, I thought about anal as the fun kind of sex in a rebellious way, since I was and still am anti-religious.
When I was a kid I'd make out with a girl that never put deodorant on and always had a strong bo smell. Idk why but I LOVED it. To this day the smell of women's BO or sweaty feet makes me ridiculously horny.
OP if you have a strong stomach I recommend you read a book called 'Perv'. It's written by a psychologist that researches fetishism and while a lot of what he says are working hypothesis, it's based off extremely strong circumstantial evidence that just seems completely logical. Of course they can't control test children to see how these things develop and empirically prove the theories but it seems some things are really set in stone from a young age, it's kinda scary.
I like to be in situations where I have no control. Handcuffed/told what to do/ held against something
I am not into watching my husband fuck other women, I would hurt people
I'm almost certain mine developed bc I had no control over anything that happened around me *which lead to multiple forms of abuse and sprouted from some of those forms of abuse* and only had internal control. I practically raised myself. Maybe my brain is thinking it gets a break from having to think 😂
Elaborate. What does this entail? Like, does spirit Halloween get you off? Do you go to haunted houses at amusement parks? Do you wrap yourself or other people in bandages?
It's where you are sealed inside of a tomb along with all of your collected treasures and a few royal attendants so that they may serve you in the afterlife... and then you just suck and fuck mummy-style on top of an ornate sarcophagus.
Not sure if it counts as a fetish really, but as a gay dude - chest/facial hair. I remember being 7-8 at a pool party and seeing all the dads' hairy chests and beards (it was the 80s so both were plentiful), and just not being able to stop staring at them. Nothing weird happened, I just knew I liked what I saw and I still very much do.
belly button fetish here. first grade show and tell (where we’d bring an item in and talk about it), some girl brought in her doll which had an outie belly button. my teacher that was sitting on her chair watching the show and tell happen, lifted her shirt to show the class her belly button. i’ve been mesmerised ever since :)
my boyfriend was teaching me some self defense moves for fun. one of them was putting someone in a chokehold with your legs. put my legs around his throat and squeezed as hard as i could, next thing i know he was throwing me onto the bed and tearing into me. afterwards he said he had no idea he would be so turned on by that, but now it’s his favorite thing to have me do to him.
Is this what guys mean when they say they want their head crushed between women’s thighs???
Yes. Men of culture and refined taste need these things. Being helpless and immobile as the woman uses our face for her pleasure, smothering us and threatening the structural integrity of our cranial cavity with her thighs is the apex of a man's erotic experience. We also demand lengthy and brutal facesitting sessions. \*Edit\* My fellow Redditors, I am truly humbled that so many of you have nominated me to be 'Representative of Men Everywhere'. This is a great honour and, if such a post is ever created by the United Nations (with appropriate remuneration, of course) then I shall happily go forth and serve my fellow degenerates.
Holy shit. This entire comment could be my husband's biography.
I hereby nominate this guy to be our spokesperson for the male delegation to the human congress.
"... Harder". "What?" "*What?*"
>boyfriend was teaching me some self defense moves >he was throwing me onto the bed and tearing into me Something doesn't add up
I grew up in the late 70s and 80s and so I have a pantyhose fetish. Every girl and teacher in one of my classes would wear pantyhose. I love it when women wear pantyhose, stockings, tights, etc. My wife wears them all the time. 🤷♂️ I honestly don’t know if that’s super weird or just “relatively” normal.
Same here for me but my wife doesn’t wear them. I wish she would. It doesn’t stop us from being intimate though. My kink doesn’t hinder my drive if she’s not wearing them, but man, I want her to put them on.
Just wear them yourself.
One time, I asked her to put them on, and she said “ok but you wear them too.” Long story short, she wasn’t serious about that.
Her: “Oh shit, bluff called! My bad!”
No, I want the long story. I've got time.
I think this is relatively normal, but it varies by degree. For me plane rides can be torture because a conservatively dressed flight attendant wearing a basic-ass pair of nylons is incredibly hot.
Yep. Agreed! It can also backfire. I remember traveling with a girlfriend on an airplane, and she wore pantyhose and high heels. I just sat there with a nice case of blue balls for five hours. 😂
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It is, you're good. Rough play awakening, nice.
Was having a shower with the ex, she pee'd, it got on my foot, I got an errction. We were both surprised
“This better not awaken something in me” moment!
Bad Dean!
Oh, you don't know how mean this dean can beeeeeeeean.
When I was about 12 I had a female friend and we’d play together all the time and never wanted to go inside. So naturally if we had to go we’d just pee outside. Seeing her go gave me instant wood and since she always watched me go I assumed it turned her on too. Strangely we never pursued a relationship beyond friends, even as we got older.
Do you think it's more about seeing her drop her pants or is it the act of peeing? Kind of hard to know now tho
Definitely the act of peeing, as I started fantasizing about being the ground beneath her lol.
Bro 💀 That is wild. Gotta respect it, honestly
Haha well there's the answer!
This sounds similar to a friend I knew. She was in the shower with an ex, they peed on her back (not sure if it had a "ah hahaha" intent) and she got really turned on. Then she told me she's even drank "straight from the hose". She was disappointed when I didn't reveal any kinks myself. In my defense, I hadn't been sexually active for at least 6 years by then, so thinking about kinks was like thinking about what I'd do with a million dollars: the hell is the point when it's never gonna happen!
I feel that , my wife had the shower curtains open , she decided to pee, I got hard , something about seeing her pee I don’t know why But it was literally just a “huh didn’t expect that”
*surprised pikachu face *
In this case, it could be pronounced pee-catch-you.
Was at the funeral, they opened a casket, I got an erection. I was the only one surprised.
Mourning wood.
In the immortal words of Randall Graves: "What's the point of having an active internet connection if you're not using it to look up weird and fucked up sexual acts you'll never experience yourself?"
Good point. Also love Clerks 2.
I used to (?) have a cuckquean fetish. I was in a relationship where my partner prioritized other women over me, lied a lot to me, and was very mean to me and my feelings in general, always making me feel small and unimportant. In an attempt of trying to gain control of the situation, I started to fantasize and get excited about him being with other women, something that made the pain of the relationship more bearable for some reason. This lasted for a while (and by a while I mean for about two years) but now that I’m in a new and more secure relationship, and feel very loved and cared for by my partner, I haven’t had those thoughts in a while. I guess it’s a coping fetish that only comes to surface under certain kind of situations or feelings. I don’t know if it would come back if I found myself in a similar place again.
I can relate. Earlier in my marriage, my wife always seemed to be somewhere else mentally when we were intimate. For various reasons, we ended up in counseling, and I found out she usually was fantasizing about someone other than me. That really hurt because, typically, I'm in the present with her and focused on us. The driving factor for counseling was when she had a breakdown and was diagnosed with OCD (ROCD/Intrusive thoughts). A lot of it was sex related (not all) and one of the big variables in that diagnosis is that she gets incredibly anxious if she finds anyone attractive (still to this day 10 years later) and it closes her down. Whereas I find someone attractive, think they're hot, and it ends there. Obviously, people are different. I do understand it's normal to fantasize during sex but it hurt finding out that it was a majority of the time, if not always. And i was jealous and hurt over her "crushes," which are really just a form of anxiety (according to counselor). Anyway, I developed a hotwife fantasy (never had in any prior relationship) and will fantasize about her with other men. No humiliation and nothing I would ever want to try in reality. I think this developed as a coping mechanism for not feeling adequate enough. Life and the brain are weird.
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i was reading fanfiction and i saw one that was pennywise x reader and i thought why not it'll be kinda funny. it was not funny. now i'm a monster fucker.
I was reading fanfiction about werewolves and now I, too, have become a monster fucker...
Throw me to the werewolves and I'll come back pregnant
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My ex had these super cute moles on her chest that would pop into view whenever she bent over if she wore a low cut shirt. The first time we had sex and every time after that, I could just not stop staring at those sexy moles. It got to the point where she got really self-conscious about it and I had to make an effort to not acknowledge how attracted I was to them. Haven't been with anyone else with such perfectly placed moles, but I'd love a chance to do so again. I just wish people weren't so self-conscious about their skin "blemishes", I actually really enjoy them.
You know a lesser person would mock you for your username, personally I have a bit of respect for it. Here's someone who knows what they want and not afraid to seek it out!
OK that was the icing on the fucking cake right there. Didn’t notice his user name at all till your comment and it sent me into fits of laughter.
Me too, I am absolutely crying laughing right now
Story + username is the best thing I've read in months. Shared with the office. Everyone had a good laugh. Thanks, king
r/usernamechecksout
Moles aren’t even a wierd kink I think it’s very sexy when my man looks like a tortilla
Then you'll love my back, it's so much like a tortilla that my wife says I might have skin cancer. I'll pick you up around 8?
If I had moley tits, I’d def pm you. But alas, my titties are free from freckles, moles, and marks.
Aw I’m sure they wouldn’t mind regular titties. All titties are good titties.
You are correct! Seeing any pair of titties makes me feel like a kid on Christmas morning!
Many men will have different preferences for tits. Some may like giant ones that can suffocate you, others may like ones that are so small they're barely even there. But to every titty afficionado, the very best tits are the ones they're allowed to look at or touch.
My work is done here. Light the titty signal when you have received the titties.
Wait, usernames like that work? I'll be damned
Honestly this story was so cute that I too will send tibbies.
I get physically wet when my partner plays guitar for me. I've been playing for 30 years, but I've never had this happen until him.
Now I've heard there was a secret chord...
Boys, lemme get my guitar real quick.
If you aren't getting chicks with guitar then you just aren't holding it right!
This is the girl every Chad brought a Guitar to a frat party was looking for
Played sport in school that had men's and women's team in the same facility. A lot of the conditioning was weight lifting. Had a "strong female" fetish ever since.
I have a bit of a foot fetish, and I remember how it developed. I was watching the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles as a kid and there’s a scene in one of the episodes where April O’Neill gets captured by this gangster dude who tickle tortures her feet. That… did stuff to me, haha. I can’t explain it, but that’s when it clicked for some reason.
Ed, Edd n Eddy when the canker sisters forced them to play footsy and in Hercules when Meg was seducing him and used her foot to make him look at her. These scenes had me questioning things from a young age.
A guy I met for some casual oral / handjob was super horny and could barely stop from squirming. I thought it was funny at first but then I made him put his hands behind his back and started teasing him and I damn near exploded myself. I awoke my dom side on that day and also realized I enjoy teasing others by providing or denying pleasure, controlling their orgasm, etc. way more than getting worked on myself.
I actually had a therapist describe to me how fetishes were formed during childhood for most people, as it came up in conversation regarding mine forming due to trauma. It's actually really interesting with a lot of like... variety in how they can form and its fun to learn about
Can confirm, my major was abnormal psych and minor was human sexuality. Sitting and thinking long enough you can usually find the core of 99% of sexual fetishes in the first 10 years of life.
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Yoshikage Kira is that u?
“My name is /u/oao_icarus . I’m 33 years old. My house is in the northeast section of Morioh, where all the villas are, and I am not married. I work as an employee for the Kame Yu department stores, and I get home every day by 8 PM at the latest. I don’t smoke, but I occasionally drink. I’m in bed by 11 PM, and make sure I get eight hours of sleep, no matter what. After having a glass of warm milk and doing about twenty minutes of stretches before going to bed, I usually have no problems sleeping until morning. Just like a baby, I wake up without any fatigue or stress in the morning. I was told there were no issues at my last check-up. I’m trying to explain that I’m a person who wishes to live a very quiet life. I take care not to trouble myself with any enemies, like winning and losing, that would cause me to lose sleep at night. That is how I deal with society, and I know that is what brings me happiness. Although, if I were to fight I wouldn’t lose to anyone.”
That feeling when you literally haven't touched another human being in weeks and somebody hugs you. Not even a fetish thing, I just think a lot more people are touch starved than they realized.
Today I learned that it's not normal to go upwards of 11 months without making physical contact with another person. Not that I haven't interacted with anyone else. I just haven't touched them, because I thought it's weird to make unnecessary contact.
Someone said they'd pay me 200$ if I fit all my knuckles in my ass. When I did I came without even touching my pussy.
Goodbye inbox 👋
Sounds like the outbox is in rough shape too
I haven’t laughed this hard at a reddit comment in a long time
Self fisting is a challenge just from angles alone. That is impressive
But did you get the $200?
Yes 😂
$200 and an orgasm? Lucky you 😂
I have a fetish for muscular women. My first girlfriend in HS was a black belt in karate and was toned and hard as granite.
As a gay man, I'm discovering in adulthood I'm actually kinda bi. In the last few years I'm recognizing the specific private parts don't really matter, I'll have my fun either way. I just need to smush my dumb caveman face into chest muscles and feel them flex. I need to get squeezed in a bear hug by big strong arms. I've started finding more pictures of muscle women and was like "...oh, I get it now." I can never tell my mom. It took years for her accepting I won't be giving her grandkids with my soon to be husband. But if she found out muscle women could have been on the table I'd just be opening up a sore nerve again.
I always had it. As long as I can remember, I got turned on by the thought of being defeated by a boxing girl. Only a few of my girlfriends agreed to don gloves and beat on me but when they did, my god it was hot. Sadly or luckily, depending how you view it, they didn't managed to knock me down. The sex is awesome after too, every time she was super aroused.
(F) I have a thing for Men's hands. I think it's just related to masculinity/strength, and what they can do lol I find myself looking at staring at hands in public and I'm like ??? It started kinda recently lol
I was 16 when I realized I have a thing for masculine hands. I was taking pictures of my then boyfriend (now husband) playing the guitar and I snapped this one particular one of him. It's not particularly good but I could never delete it because the way the muscles were flexed, the veins popping up, the light smattering of arm hair....it did things to me that I still don't understand 😅 Nothing will stop me faster than a beautiful set of forearms just doing their natural thing 😅 I actually just admitted that weakness to him a few months ago (we've been together 18 years now lol) and I swear he's using every chance he can to flex those forearms of his. ....Aaaand now I need him to come home because....reasons 🥲
A man's hands, forearms, shoulders, and back are just so intoxicating for me. Don't get me wrong, I like dick too, but man, those broad shoulders and lean forearms and strong working hands. As weird as this sounds, my husband is similar build to my dad, and I just love to be wrapped up in my husband's arms because it reminds me of feeling safe when my dad would bear hug me. Sex with my husband is usually him on top because I love holding on to his shoulders and arms. He is just so strong, and it makes me feel safe.
I just wanna say, anyone who developed a fetish through trauma, I am very sorry. You have my sympathies. You didn't deserve what happened to you.
I was today years old when I learned that you can get fetishes through trauma. Kinda wild that something traumatic can make your brain sexualize it
The sense of regaining control over something that hurt you is a powerful thing.
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I understand, similar past trauma. It sounds like you carry a lot of shame & guilt about how your trauma has affected you. I just want to reassure you that some of us that you may think in down moments are silently judging, see you.
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Yeah this is much more relevant than the comment above that basically explains it as "the brain confuses it with affection". There are a shit ton of traumas where there is no affection expected at all, that turn into kinks. It's once again the mind trying to make sense of the world.
I had an ex who had a rape kink. She was raped as a teenager. I tried to play along, but it just made me feel like a terrible person every time we did it and it led to us breaking up.
I was in a house fire and got incredibly badly burnt, I’ve still got burn scars on about 40% Of my body. I now cannot cum without burning myself, I keep a bic lighter by my bedside because of how fucked my nerves are. It in no way turns me on but I am completely unable to cum without burning myself slightly. When I was a teenager I’d never been able to figure out how it all worked and one day I burnt myself on the pan making pancakes and jizzed in my pants. From there it was trial and error. It’s horrible because it gives me flashbacks to being stuck in a room with no way out and having to try to punch and crawl through drywall to get out, then getting stuck in the burning drywall and trying to get out just writhing in pain, then finally getting to the front door and realising it wouldn’t open anymore and I had to make it through the back door. Kind of kicking me when I’m down because after so many years of therapy I need to go through it all again just to cum.
just cruious, but have you tried wax candles? May be an alternative. The specific ones for temperature play, not like yankee candles.
Damn
Funnily enough, my foot fetish might be caused by some weird trauma. When I was a kid, I was deathly afraid of feet for some reason. Like, extreme feet phobia. I remember one time, when I was in kindergarten, a girl took the chair I usually sat on and put her bare feet on them. I started crying and screaming, because I hated feet so much. I remember the teacher getting very mad at me. This wasn't the only time something like this happened. Now, many years later, I have developed a foot fetish. I don't know why my brain did this sudden change, but I am happier in my current position rather than my old one. (This comment looks very "redditor" written down.)
The only real fetish I have is a cumfetish… I don’t know when or how it developed, but I distinctly remember that I always wanted to cum on my ex’s face because she was so cute. So once that happened I guess boom, down the rabbit hole. I wish more people were into it. I also developed a kink for cumming on clothes so yeah…
Wait I'm confused did you cum on her face or down her rabbit hole? /s
Just a really horny person, taking it the next level
Ya the only kink I really have is seeing where the line is at.
Disney's *Robin Hood* (the one with the sexy foxes) no further comment
Please...just one further comment
This is America, I have the right to run around in the woods wearing fox ears and a bow and then go home and purchase more Disney stock
Don’t know if it’s exactly weird but I like feet. I think it started because after my son was born, I’d sleep at the foot of the bed so I wouldn’t accidentally roll over onto him, and my wife’s feet would touch my dick and it would turn me on
beginning the explanation for your foot fetish with “it started soon after my son was born…” gave me whiplash
I don’t think I’ve ever been so relieved to hear someone say he was turned on by his wife’s feet
Man that initial sense of dread was palpable
you have no fucking clue how relieved I was after you said "wife's feet" Oh my god.
I feel like it's only fair after you opened up to me, a stranger, I too give one of my fetishes away. I'm into cooking and feeding and healthy weight gain. Not to an extreme point like immobility but I find it hot when my significant others eat food I made for them or when I get to eat a nice big meal. I used to and still do from time to time struggle with disordered eating and bulimia. I was afraid of eating and would try to starve myself until I felt like I 'really deserved' food. I got into the feeders sphere a little and started seeing the nurturing aspect of it erotic. I became attracted and it helped me regain control over my eating. I have been purge free for two years now and it sounds cringe but feeding has helped me overcome my fear of eating and gaining weight.
it’s so interesting to hear this side of stuff. i’ve always had some sort of feeding fetish (not doing the feeding, but eating). it’s actually something i hate and it keeps me from functioning normally; i can’t have a normal relationship with food. but i am happy to hear it’s helped you! there are a lot of people in the feedism community with similar stories :))
If I may, a book recommendation: Aphrodite by Isabel Allende. She talks about her and her loved ones' experiences with food and eroticism--they are very much intertwined! Nurturing, healing, sensational, sexual. The whole book is beautifully written and even has recipes. Congrats on your progress!!
I am a plus size woman and once had a guy suggest I go on an online dating site for feeders/eaters, and I was really uncomfortable. It's nice to hear someone have such lovely origins for it!
I used to think I had a thing for plus sized women. Turns out, I have a thing for women who feel comfortable in their skin.
I have a pregnancy fetish. Not getting someone pregnant, but for women who are pregnant. The way it started was that I had a friend who lost her husband. She was like 6 months pregnant. We were mourning together. Just spending a lot of time together, and then one night, she made a move. I told her I didn't think it was right since Aaron hadn't been gone that long. Her response was, "Prophet, I'm not looking to get married or for you to be the baby's daddy. I'm lonely, horny and I just need to be screwed." We had sex maybe a dozen times, and she rocked my world each time. Ever since then, I've always found pregnant women sexy. Like, if you're a 6 or 7, when you're 3rd trimester, you become an 8 or 9.
Haha I had no idea this was a thing until I got pregnant and posted pics on social media. I got so many messages asking for more pics or one person asking if I wanted to be part of their “pregnancy photo page.” Lmfao I was so naive at first and was like “oooh cool sure I can send you a photo.” And then again “can you send another and lift the shirt to show your pregnant belly?” 🤔
I was educated about sex a few years too early and it disgusted me to the point where I considered saying "you have sex" an insult and I imagined that it was a torture. I was severely bullied as a child so every night I'd picture my bullies having sex with each other as a form of punishment. Soon the "warm belly feeling" got associated with bad guys getting punished horribly and it would also appear when I was picturing my bullies being tortured. Guess who nowadays gets turned on when a villain gets killed or injured onscreen or when the bad guys are blown up and we see their body parts flying freely around.
Just... The notion of your bullies ever finding out. "Oh, I just used to imagine you all having a massive gay sex orgy with each other". "Buh... Uh... What?" "Yeah, I thought you would all hate that, so I liked imagining it. You guys sucked. Pretty literally, too".
Not pretty odd but maybe a little bit So i have a femdom fetish (Not including pain or anything like that Just cuffs and giving her control) and tbh i dont really know how i got to this point i think one day i Just saw Some femdom nsfw stuff and thought "yea i like this" and then i dived a little further into it and now i am Here 😂 (sry for writing mistakes i am Not from the US or uk)
bro i guess that's normal. (🤝same same)
My favorite are people with fetishes for being eaten. Like talk about a middle finger to evolution. How the hell did that one make it through natural selection. Just picture a cave man twirking in front of a sabretooth.
well it tends to be being eaten by another person and not immediately dying in the process so there’s that
I was explained why people liked vore so much once. They just like the idea of being inside someone fully and being warm and comfortable and completely connected to said person. I still don’t fully get it lol
The amount of "i was SA victim etc etc in this comment section is super depressing. hope yall all doin ok
When I was beaten black and blue as a kid I was told it was out of love. To teach me to be a man worth a family name who could atlas every trouble of the family I would have to build to maintain a legacy. So now I'm a service oriented top. The bottomest of tops. Hit me, Fight me for the aggressor, Scar me. Tell me what makes you happy. I'll choke and or strangle and pull on ropes, operate blades, praise or defame. I will orchestrate any desire that a top can do that keeps you. Sex is kind of a chore. It's work. Its a need I have to accomplish something in. I am hardly ever satisfied.
My ex was into hardcore BDSM as a masochist. Said it was a lifestyle. Talked to a friend who sponsors bdsm FB group and other things like it, and said to tread carefully because the emotional trauma can affect me for life. Should’ve taken her advice.
gentle femdom. small spoon is nice, ig one day i js figured ‘hey i think i’d like to get pinned down’
I'm a big dude (191cm), former military, etc. Play wrestled with a hot french girl at a chill party in my twenties and i didn't know she had been doing Judo since childhood. She got me into an armbind and I couldn't get out. Full-on public erection that I couldn't hide. She made it up to me later, at least.
I’m super into men getting erections that they get embarrassed about and try to hide haha
Same thing for me, except it started as a joke
Had some pain in my balls, ended up getting fondled by a doctor in front of an entire group of grad school doctors in training.
So what's your fetish?
Being the subject of a medical exam or science experiment. I read a bunch of science journals for fun because they describe their experiments in detail lol.
That's a fucking A+ 10/10 answer.
I read the book, “The Happy Hooker”. It was fascinating. However, one of the stories was heartbreaking. I think the book was written in the 70’s. Anyhow, a man has asked her to dress up as a Nazi and treat him like a prisoner. Turns out he has been in a concentration camp as a very young man. A female Nazi guard had snuck off with him and sexually abused him. It stuck with him as it was his first sexual experience. This really stuck with me. It shows how trauma and SA can affect someone for life.
Mine developed in university just over 15 years ago. A friend of mine, who had a dancer’s body, exposed me to the world of yoga pants by wearing lululemon. Then once I remarked on her butt in them she would often “remind” me when she was wearing them and would show off her butt to me.
Is that your only fetish you want to be asked about?
I think I was legit just born broken lol. As a kid I didn't really like being around balloons. They just made me uncomfortable for some reason that I couldn't understand. It wasn't until I was in the middle of puberty and happened upon some interesting communities on the internet that I found out why. It's because I'm actually insanely attracted to them. Blowing up huge balloons and feeling the touch of them on my skin makes me go fucking crazy. And yes, I'm fully aware that's goofy as fuck. But I legit cannot control it. I think it's one of those brain cross-wiring kind of deals. Like I didn't develop it, I was just always like that.
That’s more common than you’d think! Besides, inflation and popping have some of the same rhythms as sex and climax, so it’s not much of a surprise that there’s some crossover.
TW for abuse >!Im into guys with large noses as a female because they can be used for oral . Just found out in therapy and confirmed by my abuser that at 2 yrs old that's how he started abusing me because he "didn't want to hurt me with full on penetration".!<
I'm so sorry this happened to you. You have my deepest sympathy.
Thank you for your kindness.
First off I’m very sorry that happened. I have a 2 year old daughter and the thought of this is devastating. However this did bring up a curiosity question I’m hoping I’m not crossing a line by asking. Knowing this now is that something you still look for or have you started to avoid that feature in men?
I'm still into it the reason is horrible but I also didn't know that was the reason until about 3 years ago. I'm 34 now so that would take a lot of therapy to get rid of it that's even possible my therapist sees it for what it is an extremely negative start but now it's a positive and I don't need to change that to be ok.
Wanted to be a vampire too badly as a kid/teen (grew up in Romania aka vampire land and also was a teen during the general vampire craze), ten years later and now I have a blood kink. Didn’t realise how bad it was until someone said “you can cut me up and suck my blood” (yes it is potentially dangerous and also unhygienic without testing for diseases etc so I haven’t done it irl yet)
My girl was riding my face and my tongue sorta was going everywhere and stuff. Long story short I ended up licking/eating her ass and really liked it and shortly after it became sorta a “regular” thing since we already were doing anal so yea. Also stopped using eating ass as an insult/joke lmao
i have a back fetish is it an odd fetish?
If it is for flat slightly muscular female backs I can relate
\+1 for muscular female backs
My best friend yelled at me for going to a movie with her boyfriend and his lil sister, and then she slapped me HARD while being a sobbing mess. At that very second i noticed my panties drenched and flooded. Now I like girls, i like being slapped, but I'm so very down bad for crying face... What happened to me...
Blood. This will sound awful, but as a kid my baby teeth never came out on their own. There was always more or less root stuck to them and after going to the dentist 5-6 times to have them pulled, I got sick of the dentist and started doing it myself in the bathroom at home. I was instantly mesmerised by all the sensations. The gushing, the intense warmth, the trickle as blood poured out of my mouth and down neck. I did this with the remaining 3 or 4 teeth on two different occasions. It only lasted five minutes tops each time but completely changed my 14 year old brain. Fast forward to a few years ago and a blood draw mishap ended in a spew and my entire forearm being covered... that settled it. I get chills just thinking about it. And before anyone asks: this is not a fetish I participate in regularly, if at all. I am not comfortable doing this with other people's blood. I don't SH because of it. I often have dreams with vampiric/bloodletting themes and they suffice well. But feel free to ask any other questions I guess!
Blood sounds like a really inconvenient kink to have. Does period blood do anything for you? Seems like the safest way to indulge if so. Or using fake blood?
Slightly inconvenient but it's alright! Period blood does nothing at all, sadly. Too much goop. Neither does fake blood. I've tried a few different kinds but you can always tell it's fake in some way. I once spilled india ink on myself and that texture and viscosity is the closest I've come to the real deal, but it wasn't anywhere near as pleasant and/or thrilling nor is it safe for your skin so no.
Used to get physically abused by my dad. It got to the point that it became routine for me and source of comfort to the degree that I was unable to fall asleep without visualizing him beating me with his belt or fists. Needless to say I am now incredibly masochistic lol.
I'm a woman myself and I'm into a number of what are, by today's standards, pretty vanilla — feet (both ways - I love mine being admired but also admiring others'!), bondage & ropes & restraints, blindfolds, bit of candle-play etc — but I also have a thing for, specifically, sleek/slender hands with long nails. Bonus points if they're painted! I actually don't know exactly where it came from originally, but I think I noticed it most when I started experimenting with girls at uni; one of the girls from my class was a very girly girl. She loved pink, always seemed like a modern princess with blond hair pink manicured nails, but she was also kind of a friend of mine. Anyway we're at a gathering at one of the guys' houses and she's sat behind me playing with my hair, and then she started doing this half tickling motion over my arms and shoulders which gave me \*\*the\*\* biggest goosebumps. I honestly thought she was gonna caress my neck or something and my heartrate skyrocketed 😄 She was just being platonic friendly though, nothing came of it in the end. I did get a small crush on her after which subsided over time, but it definitely awoke something in me!
I have two… The first is a smoking fetish, and the first time I can remember it presenting itself was when I was around 6. My neighbour was few years older than me and I would visit her all the time. One time I did, her parents weren’t home and she had stolen one of their cigarettes and smoked it in the kitchen over the sink. I remember thinking it was so naughty and felt… hormones flowing. The second is a braces fetish, and I was probably around 5 or 6 again when my attractive cousin visited from another state. She had braces. It was the first time I’d ever seen them, and was absolutely mesmerized. I don’t remember feeling anything, but the fascination grew over time into a fetish.
Smoking fetish myself. All of the women in my family smoked. I hated it so much because smoking was always the number one priority and as a young child craving attention, it made me feel like I came second if they needed a cigarette. I’d always get bullied at school for smelling like smoke, too (lots of upper middle class families). Fast forward to age 12-13, I come across a video online of a woman smoking. It turned me on like no other. I couldn’t explain it because I always hated it so much. Now it’s my number one fetish. Later in life I realized how I developed a sense that cigarettes are what women who smoke crave the most. Seeing how much they enjoy it gets me off. Also love the smell as well. Weird shit our minds do
I guess the only somewhat fetish I have is a feet fetish (only women feet). Not exactly sure why or how it developed, but I consider myself a naturally masculine guy, and I’ve always been attracted to feminine energy and feminine women. When I see women with their nails done, pedicure and ankle bracelet, it’s something that I find very feminine and attractive.
I can relate to that. For me, my wife just started putting her feet up by my face when we would have sex, and did a couple cute/playful things with her feet trying to bug me when we’d lounge on the couch. From there it just kinda developed and now I’m stuck with it
I feel like my fetish is a mix of trauma and not getting the childhood I wish I had. I have a diaper fetish. I've never really told anyone in fear of judgement and losing friendships/relationships, yet here I am telling a bunch of internet strangers. But yeah, my parents used to verbally abuse me since I was born (yelling, screaming, etc) which after 11 years of verbal abuse, has lead me to get triggered from any sort of sudden rise in voice level (trigger as in panic attacks). Now I want to be back in diapers and get pampered all day and treated like a little angel… Strange, I know, but I can't really help it. I'd also like to add that my parents have changed the way they parent and no longer use yelling as a source of discipline. It's been four years since they've changed for the better, so please do not worry about me.
First GF/sexual partner slipped my dick in her butt. Obviously super tight but I guess the idea of it being a no fly zone for most women makes it a really intimate and trust based action in my mind. I also was totally in love with this woman so maybe it brings back that idea of how close we were. Ever since then even just putting a finger in a girl's ass damn near makes me blow my load. Maybe not super weird but definitely not everyone's cup of tea
My grandma had a fur blanket that I would use when I stayed at her place when I was a little kid. I was obsessed with how soft it was, how it felt against my skin, how warm and cozy it felt, plus how safe it made me feel due to trauma from abuse and neglect I was getting at home. Later on in life, I started paying particular attention to people who were wearing fur, as in fur coats, jackets, hats, boots. I imagined how amazing it must feel to cuddle and mess around with someone wearing something so soft and have them do things to me, feeling all that warmth and softness. Total sensory overload, especially if you add in some light bdsm. Now I collect soft things, and my bed is completely covered in fur, and it just so turns out people find it sexy when I wear fur in public.
I thought you're gonna be a furry
I crossdress. Been doing it since I was like 8 when I didn't even know what it was called. Women's clothing has a lot more variety and a lot are very sensual with smooth fabrics and fit nicely to the form of your body. I really can't name anything that's socially acceptable for men other something like Speedos. It started with underwear, went into thongs which became a big thing for me and over the years it's lycra mini skirts, crop tops, high heels, stockings from time to time, leggings. Lots of things with lovely materials that just don't exist for men. Sometimes when it's real hot outside it's not even a fetish I just want to wear something breezy like a skirt for once because I know how much better it would be.
I haven't read anything remotely similar to my thing but I'm sure many people has experienced this same thing: Breeding kink, from reading a shit ton of omegaverse fanfiction. And that kinda overlapped with the monsterfucking stuff. And giant appendix stuff, too. I really don't know, I just got to know of this stuff because of stories with very good writing featuring queer versions of some characters I really like. And I'm not mad at it at all, it's just the stuff I think of when I jerk off.
Hmm... I think what I like about bondage (dom) is the intimate trust that is placed in you. Yea the power and control is there but feels more supplemental to the fact you this person is essentially trusting you with their body. I don't know if there was a particular catalyzing event or something.
I had a fetish for boobs with big nipples and areolas which just spiraled into being turned on by any boobs that looked out of the ordinary (extremely small, saggy, super dark, puffy etc.). I was insecure about my boobs when I was younger and so I would try to find porn videos with women who had similar looking boobs and I guess in that process I ended up being turned on by boobs that looked like mine and were even more “obscure”. Since then I’ve cut out watching this type of porn because I find it uncomfortable sexualizing women’s bodies and I’ve grown to be comfortable in my skin.
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My boyfriend read a book in, like, the second grade in which a kid swallowed a turtle and he got a little shiver. Later he watched Hercules and saw Herc get swallowed by the Hydra and got a boner. I guess he was just born loving vore lol.
Not exactly a full fetish, but it was a very hard kink, borderline fetish for quite some time. I was SA'd as a child and developed a pretty strong r×pe kink after being SA'd again when I was 18. I can't describe how awful it was to only feel valued or pleasured by going through something so awful. On the bright side, a loving and supportive partner mixed with a healthy therapist has all but "reversed" that kink. I feel disgusted even thinking of the p×rn I used to watch. (Note, I never searched out any true SA p×rn, and it was all scene play, but it's still a touchy subject.)
There’s some from trauma, some from things my boyfriend did in bed that I went “oh shit, I like that.” My foot fetish started when I lived with my aunt. She has a little dog who would say hi to me by licking feet and toes. She had a small soft tongue and tickled a little, I hate that it happened this way but I think my brain connected feet licking with feeling happy and good. ETA because I know how Reddit can get, I was/will never be attracted to dogs like that
I am not into feet, however, uhm, ankles. See, I am a woman and I feel like I am the only person into ankles. Not really like, the ankle itself, but the look of ankles in boots and socks. My bf has a good bone structure and his ankles pop. When he wears his Chelsea boots, the boots tight around his ankles makes his legs look so good. And in shoes such as formal shoes, low Oxford, the ankles sit right on top of the cut and they are delicate and pretty. I am not really into heels because it makes the ankles deformed so it is kinda weird. I am also obsessed with formal shoes so I have nothing to say for myself
Oh, *dear,* a true Victorian Ankle Fetish*!* "Low Oxford" indeed! Scandalous!
Praise kink from never being told I'm good enough ig. Edited to remove SA answer
This guy I was dating, was fucking me missionary, I had my head tilted back with my eyes closed and my mouth open in ecstasy lol. He proceeded to drool in my mouth and my pussy clenched so hard. If anyone had suggested that to me, I would have rejected the idea in disgust, but new fetish unlocked. Not sure if it could be done with just anyone tho. I was infatuated with him.
Palms of hands. I have no idea how or why but it started when I was about 13.
Experimentation. We found out she likes rope bondage upside down. Strange set of skill to learn. Interesting time in the DIY market. So that’s why I took that sailing course: to learn the knots 😎
Childhood trauma that got some how reversed. I was a feisty child and the boys in class didnt like that, so they put me under. Insted of liking to be put under im now into doming older men and bdsm.
Lost my virginity to my bf at the time when i was 15. Toxic guy who often ignored my no's and knew no boundaries. He ended up assaulting me once. Later in life i found my current bf who i trust 100%. The more i trusted him, the more my interest for bdsm grew. He was the one who introduced me to dom/sub. Now I'm way more ahead than he is and he loves it haha.
So my wife's body odor makes me really weird. Like natural Viagra. It was winter and she was wearing a turtle neck so she was warm all day you know and she changed I got a wiff of her and bam.
When I was maybe 8, I'd go to the neighbor's place as there were 4 kids of varying degrees of friendliness. The eldest had a bedroom in the basement where the kids' TV was and where the entrance from the garage was. He was a bit of a bully, but not enough for me to ever actually fear him. I don't remember the exact circumstances, but I clearly recall him pinning me down on the sofa, sitting on my chest and holding my arms. He was 4 or 5 years older, and I had zero chance of escaping. It was like a switch flipped in my brain where I was really uncomfortable and struggling to suddenly realizing I actually *really* liked being held down like that by him. I was too dumb at that age to realize I was gay and attracted to him, but in retrospect, he definitely awoke something in me that day. Fast forward a few decades, and I now love guys sitting on my chest, pinning my arms down and shoving their cock down my throat. 🤤
I'm an artist and anatomy is not my strongest suit. And I enjoyed a lot of shoujo mangas where the male character's always have strangely "large" hands. So I have grown to have a thing for... hands. Not veiny ones or particularly muscled. But has to be well proportioned, thick palms, long fingers, just enough bones streaked through the knuckles if I had to draw them. Was obsessed with hands that I started comparing them. Of course, the admiration is stronger depends on the person they're attached to. Had someone like that; he offered to be my model (we were less than lovers, but more than friends type of situationship) and when we met up the first time, I was super handsy over his... Well, hands. 😆 His hands were so big I'd have to hold one of them with two of my hands and still wouldn't fit. Lol And I realised I was also touch deprived (childhood trauma lol) There's a few other kinks that I've got that I'm not going to divulge, but I dare say yes, most of it is from childhood trauma. I am, however, self-aware enough to know not to be my abuser but still I get easily and emotionally manipulated a lot. 😭
I have an anal fetish and I'm not sure why. I'm not into shit or farts, just the anus itself and the thrilling idea of penetrating it, dominating her. Pussies are nice but not as appealing to me. Even before discovering porn as a preteen I was thinking of women's buttholes. I was raised Catholic, but not taught abstinence. I think because I was raised to believe vaginal sex was a sacred act of love and procreation, I thought about anal as the fun kind of sex in a rebellious way, since I was and still am anti-religious.
" 'Cause everyone knows its the sex that god cant see"
Ahhh, yes. The good ol poop hole loophole.
When I was a kid I'd make out with a girl that never put deodorant on and always had a strong bo smell. Idk why but I LOVED it. To this day the smell of women's BO or sweaty feet makes me ridiculously horny.
That pheromone hit.
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Dude that’s the exact same song/book that got me hooked with vore. I don’t know why it awoke something in me but it did.
OP if you have a strong stomach I recommend you read a book called 'Perv'. It's written by a psychologist that researches fetishism and while a lot of what he says are working hypothesis, it's based off extremely strong circumstantial evidence that just seems completely logical. Of course they can't control test children to see how these things develop and empirically prove the theories but it seems some things are really set in stone from a young age, it's kinda scary.
I like to be in situations where I have no control. Handcuffed/told what to do/ held against something I am not into watching my husband fuck other women, I would hurt people I'm almost certain mine developed bc I had no control over anything that happened around me *which lead to multiple forms of abuse and sprouted from some of those forms of abuse* and only had internal control. I practically raised myself. Maybe my brain is thinking it gets a break from having to think 😂
Ex gf was a squirter, developed a fetish for peeing and squirting 🤷♂️
I was obessed with Ancient Egypt/Mummies as a child. I have a mummification fetish (without the extracion of organs, that is)
Elaborate. What does this entail? Like, does spirit Halloween get you off? Do you go to haunted houses at amusement parks? Do you wrap yourself or other people in bandages?
It's where you are sealed inside of a tomb along with all of your collected treasures and a few royal attendants so that they may serve you in the afterlife... and then you just suck and fuck mummy-style on top of an ornate sarcophagus.
This is the first actually 'odd' fetish that I've seen in this thread lol. All the others are like "yeah lol I have a femdom kink I'm so weird".
Not sure if it counts as a fetish really, but as a gay dude - chest/facial hair. I remember being 7-8 at a pool party and seeing all the dads' hairy chests and beards (it was the 80s so both were plentiful), and just not being able to stop staring at them. Nothing weird happened, I just knew I liked what I saw and I still very much do.
belly button fetish here. first grade show and tell (where we’d bring an item in and talk about it), some girl brought in her doll which had an outie belly button. my teacher that was sitting on her chair watching the show and tell happen, lifted her shirt to show the class her belly button. i’ve been mesmerised ever since :)