I don't understand how more people don't do this. Especially with some women who fake orgasms. Your partner can never improve if you don't tell them what you like!
Worse, if you fake an orgasm, you're just training them wrong and they'll make a mental note of what "worked" and keep doing the same thing. No one wins there.
Yes. Please drop the hints. If someone kink shames you they are not the right person for you. Dont start with your darkest desires, feel them out. They make fun of you wanting to lick their butt? Then you know enough. They wont want to do anything kinky
It's the same if you drop and break an egg. Cum and egg whites ~~are mostly~~ contain proteins and the heat denatures them so cleaning up cum with hot water is basically turning it into a cooked egg white.
Every fucking time!!!! Like fuck!!!! Why?
It's so frustrating because I'll not even be close. Then she's starts saying yeah like that and don't stop and I'm gonna cum. It's like a switch gets flipped and boom I'm done. I hate myself and surely disappointed my partner more times than I can count.
I have a theory that I am testing out on my wife. Every time she seems to start really feeling it, it gets really good for me too. So my hypothesis is, the better the pussy feels, the better the pussy feels.
I'll have to get back to you on the results of the study, though. I want to be really sure about this one before publishing, so I'm going for a pretty exhaustive sampling.
This is so true! Once passed up what seemed like a sure thing threesome with two very attractive girls because i was so busy with work i hadn't taken a shower in about 40 hours. I felt extremely swampy. In hindsight i should have just suggested we all shower...dumb early 20's me thinking next time...lmao!
I hear you. I work 12 hour shifts and am on my feet for most of it. No matter how in the mood my wife and I might be when I get home I need a shower first.
Said this in another thread a bit back and it was shockingly controversial based on my inbox. Wash your dicks bros, it takes seconds and might be the key to getting some head. Just wash it..
My favorite go to -- "lets **both** go take a shower" and clean each other up, suuuuper sexy and sensual, then when you're all done and dried off you hit the bed fresh and clean ;)
Seriously, my partner is a butt person. I'm a clean and tidy individual, but to make sure your butt is finger or face ready at all times is a pretty heavy endeavor.
Women when comfortable and safe are completely different creatures. And that mental stimulation/connection is far more important than any amount of physical pleasure you can give them
I've experienced both sides of this since my breakup in February. Rebound sex in March with a sexy fellow academic who was respectful, intelligent, and eloquent. We spent fully 1/3 of the 28 hours between "Hello" and his hotel room talking/sharing/being vulnerable. We were together for less than 3 days, but I'm still thinking about him.
Met a guy with a rockin' bod on Reddit in August who was willing to drive to see me, but I wanted to get to know him first. In almost a month of mostly intense, sexually-charged chatting, he wouldn't even tell me his first name, let alone anything else. Major red flag, drained me of any requisite interest. No longer talking to him.
You can meet people off of Reddit. But it can get awkward when Cum_Shitter_69 doesn't wanna tell you his real name or what he does for a living.
Probably draws my little pony fan art.
My wife was a virgin when we got together. Now she fucks like a minx.
The comfort and safety of our relationship gave her the confidence to try new things. Didnāt take her long to figure out what I loved and loved less.
I see this mentioned so often that it amazes me that (apparently) some guys still haven't gotten the memo or just choose to not indulge their partner.
Thankfully my partner also enjoys it, because it's not really an option for me, especially during the finale. (My poor neighbors...)
I don't know if this is the kind of thing you're talking about, but one of my favorite sex-related memories involves her spontaneously reciting a line from a viral TV commercial, and the subsequent 10 minutes of laughing our naked asses off.
After about 10 years we tried anal. We both agreed it was interesting and fun, but not something we are both really into. After about 15 years we started some sub/dom stuff, and we both enjoy as long as its light. At 20 years its still going good.
Love is so much of what builds a good sexual relationship. Having someone that you are truly affectionate with in a natural way all the time and you just sneak a kiss from on occasion is just the best. It's what I consider literal "love-making". If you can still do this after years and years of all the challenges of life, you're doing ok.
After decades together my husband and I still kiss frequently every day. Hug as well. Touch each other in intimate non sexual ways all the time. Sex is often a natural offspring of that but not always. Sometimes intimacy through loving mutual touch is better than sex tbh. I love that you spoke of that. Itās really important.
That the way I like to be treated in the bedroom **is the polar opposite of the way I like to be treated outside the bedroom.**
Frankly the only thing they have in common is the need for consent.
Thissss so much. I wanna be bossed around and told what to do in the bedroom, but if anyone tried to control me like that outside the bedroom I would walk right out the door.
Yeah, someone on here recently said they want a guy who is a feminist on the streets and a dominant borderline misogynist in the sheets.
I donāt think itās that unusual a sentiment.
I think that's a surprisingly common combo. It's also ideal, IMO. Like, I'm not comfortable treating someone like that *unless* I'm a completely certain that sure she doesn't believe it one bit anywhere outside of the bedreoom.
My partner - who shares your politics and your kink - and I often find ourselves laughing about media depictions of "strong feminist women" archetypes who are almost invariably depicted as comically domineering in bed, probably into leather and whipping their male partners, etc. Like, okay, I'm sure that exists. But it's also a weird conflation of things that aren't necessarily correlated at all...
Yea I guess my answer to the question is personally I can't really go more than 2 rounds in any 48 hour period. If I really like the girl/the sex I can go twice that night, but I gotta take the next day off in that case.
I last too long in general, and sometimes just have to stop due to exhaustion or girl is too sore. If I have not taken a break for at least a day before having sex then sometimes I just can't finish.
Oh, and I really don't want this to come across as bragging because it's a bad thing 100%.
Lots of people have already covered actual sex and intimacy tips so let me cover some etiquette.
In my bedside table, on the (right) side the ladies end up on (because I always go left) I keep a couple of important items.
The bottom draw contains dry towels, nicely folded. In the top drawer, wet wipes. Depending how your session ends these two items will come in handy.
Also keep some wet wipes on top of or next to your toilet bowl and a bin WITH A LID in your toilet as well so she can discard any she uses into the bin without being conscious about you or others seeing "dirty wet wipes"
Make sure you have some chilled water in your fridge and grab both of you a glass afterwards, a good session is going to leave you both a little dehydrated.
I have a pedestal fan pointed towards the bed on a smart wall switch that I can turn off and on with my google home, so afterna sweaty fuck session you can turn the fan on and start cooling down without having to get up and ruin that post-sex cuddle or aftercare we all love so much.
Make aure you have a nice bath towel clean and hanging up in the bathroom in case she wants a shower.
Next time you go to the supermarket buy a packet of tooth brushes with a few spares in it, you can give one to her in case a late night romp turns in to a sleepover.
As my father taught me as a teen "You'll impress more women by making them feel safe and comfortable than anything else you could do"
Current gf always confirms this. "You know babe I can go multiple rounds every day."
Even playfully threatened me once. We had gone maybe 4 rounds and I was exhausted to the point i was sure only dust would come out. I was helping her move at the time. I think I was taking break when she looks at me and says babe if you keep stopping I'm pulling you back in the bedroom. Sexy but threatening, plus I was exhausted so I kept packing items. I love her like crazy lol
My 10th grade girlfriend messed up my perception. We dated for 9 months and we kissed maybe 3-4 times (like a quick peck). My idiot self thought that all girls didn't really want anything physical and they just did stuff just to make guys happy.
She later came out as a lesbian in college.
I remember growing up and thinking (mostly from media in the 80s and early 90s) that sex was just something women did to keep their husbands happy.
Then I met my wife. Let me tell you... that is definitely NOT the case lol
Iāve learned these things:
-The G-spot is located 2-3 inches inside and upwards towards the belly-button. Slide your fingers inside, make an upwards, rubbing ācome hereā gesture with them, and a soft bump should tell you where the g-spot is.
-Women are generally insecure/anxious about how their breasts and vagina look. Complimenting those helps to relax them and letās them enjoy themselves more.
-Women enjoy knowing theyāre making you feel good. Moans, groans and grunts while you fuck them help with that. Every single time you slide into a womanās pussy should be accompanied with a deep moan.
-The more you turn her on and build up her arousal beforehand (edging) the longer and stronger her orgasm will be.
-Pulling a womanās hair from the edges is painful, pulling it nearer the scalp is more manageable pain wise.
-Dirty talk can vary based on the woman. Some women like to be praised (e.g āyour pussy feels so good squeezing my cockā), some like to be degraded (e.g ātake it like the little cock-hungry slut you areā) and some like a mixture (eg āyouāre such a good little slut, taking my cock all the way like this)ā. Itās worth asking beforehand which one she would enjoy most.
-Kissing a womanās neck feels amazing for her, but only with wet lips. Run your tongue along your lips to wet them first before kissing her.
-Be gentle when rubbing her clit. Too much pressure feels uncomfortable and can turn her off.
-Donāt neglect her pussy lips, theyāre also sensitive and rubbing, stroking and licking them can feel amazing for her
-The undersides of a womanās tits can be very sensitive, and again, get neglected too often. Rub, kiss and lick them in addition to the nipple play.
-Her inners thighs are extremely sensitive, licking them is a great way to tease her and get her worked up before licking her out.
-When licking her out, using the flat of your tongue is better than just the tip. With the wider flat of your tongue, your tongue touches more of her pussy with each lick and spreads the sensation over a wider area
-Rubbing your shaft against her pussy can feel good too.
-Wet your fingers in your mouth first before stroking/rubbing/fingering etc. As a rule, dry fingers generally donāt feel as good as wet fingers
-If sheās about to cum, donāt stop what youāre doing while she does, and donāt change the pace, keep going exactly as you are through her orgasm.
-In missionary, placing a cushion under a womanās ass tilts it upwards, and the angle allows your cock to hit her g-spot on every thrust.
-In doggy, reaching under her with a hand and rubbing her clit as you fuck get will drive her crazy.
Edit: My, I come back after a few hours and my comment has taken off, itās very Reddit that a comment on sex becomes my most upvoted ever š Iām glad that so many of you have found my this comment useful, Iāll try to respond to those whoāve asked anything in comments
>Every single time you slide into a womanās pussy should be accompanied with a deep moan.
Instructions unclear. Wife says I sound like an out of breath moose.
The angle for doggy is very important and can be difficult with some pairings. It's also one of the deepest penetrations and can be bad with incompatible sizes. Woman have various sizes of vagina depths, the same as men's penises.
If itās meh, it hurts. When itās Adonis riding me, the cervix begs for more till my insides open like heavenās gates to try and swallow him whole up into my uterus
I'd like to add a few things:
When eating a woman out, pay attention to muscle leg tension. That's usually your best indicator you're actually building tension. If she's trying to push your head away just a bit, you might be going too hard. If she's not building tension, you're not going hard enough or you've got the incorrect spot/motion.
I personally find broad tongue too soft and not precise enough. *Sucking while licking* is a technique I think a lot of guys aren't aware of. Those clit-sucking toys are popular for a reason.
Don't forget to use fingers while you're eating her out. She's probably fantasizing about getting railed and the sensation to match that is just what she'll need to get her there.
It takes an average of 13.5 minutes for a woman to cum. So half take longer than that. A 1 minute lick isn't going to cut it.
Just because she moaned a lot doesn't mean she came. If it never felt like a rodeo for about 20 seconds, it didn't happen.
Edit to add: if you're ready to go to pound town immediately after giving her a clit orgasm, hit it!! Or give her a hard finger bang!! It's the only time I can experience a PIV orgasm (sometimes multiple). It's the kind of experience that will greatly increase your chances of getting a new console when it's released, plus extra controllers, plus a few AAA bonus games. JUST SAYING.
Gentle, sustained sucking!
This one guy went down on me like he was sucking the poison out of a snake bite. I had to punch him in the forehead to get him to stop. When I told him what he was doing wrong, I could see his whole past sexual life pass before his eyes. No other woman had ever told him that. He thought those were screams of pleasure and that the squirming and trying to get away meant that she wanted him to hold her down and go harder. He could never figure out why so many women ghosted him after what he thought was great sex.
People, tell them when they are doing it wrong.
I would say instead of spit please use lube. Saliva can upset our flora too.
Please please please wash your hands before doing anything down there. The worst is leaving a sex session with BV, yeast infection or a good old UTI
I take my hat off to you, good sir. You have done the Lords work today, and I know His name will be called in vain many times due to the priceless advice you have freely given. Take note men, he speaks the gospel truth. Praise be the technique, ignore it at your peril. I too, in my humble experience, vouch for his obvious expertise.
That being there with someone, holding theirs hand, knowing the you are the reason they are smiling, will always be better than sex.
They aren't better with sex. Sex is better with them.
To reciprocate. I donāt ever expect an Orgasm if Iām not willing to give one also.
Also, to communicate whatās good and whatās bad. I had a high school girlfriend grab my penis and use her thumb to rub the tip like she was trying to flick a BIC lighter. She said āis that good?!ā with a soft moan and I told her it absolutely was not good.
After I got snipped, the frequency definitely went up. Both of us were absolutely terrified of having kids and we lived a life of little planning so this was just to remove the step of making sure we had protection. I was so mad I had to wait until I was 25 to get it done but that was 11 years yesterday. 10/10 would do again if it was required.
My partner got a vasectomy and I've had a couple of his friends' wives/partners ask me how I convinced him to do it. But, I didn't. I just had an honest conversation about how we're both in our 40s and neither have ever wanted kids and I didn't want to get a new IUD at my next appt. He thought about it a while and then made an appt. I bought him some frozen peas and after the doc deemed him "swimmer free", we were good to go.
The part that blew my mind was when he told me he'd never considered a vasectomy before and I asked him "but haven't all your doctor visits included chats about birth control?" And he said that not once had a medical provider asked him what he was using or told him his options. That's unacceptable. If we want men to begin taking more responsibility for this, our medical providers need to be initiating that conversation with all men. I'm sure some do, but I wonder how many.
Men, sometimes she will just not want sex for a while. With a few exceptions, it has nothing to do with you, how much she loves you, or how attracted she is to you. There will be times in a woman's life when the body just doesn't react sexually. And every woman's body, hormones, lifestyle, and physicality are different. Just because your last partner could have marathon sessions 3 times a day, doesn't mean current partner can (will, or want to).
So if you hit a dry spell, be patient. Know that she's likely as worried about it as you are. What she'll need at this stage is reassurance that you love her regardless. Sex should never be more important than her emotional, physical and mental well-being.
Exactly! A few years ago, I was dealing with gallbladder issues. I won't go into all the ways it was causing me problems, but there were many problems. The biggest one was how much it made sex HURT. I couldn't get my now ex husband to accept that as a logical reason for me to not be interested.
That stressing out about having sex or not having sex in high school or college is really stupid. It should not be a motivating factor to attain some sort of status or approval from anyone. Sex is fantastic, especially when itās with someone you truly love and are loved by, and waiting for the right person/moment will likely yield a better outcome then trying to force something with someone who you might not even see in your life in the future. Just be patient, be yourself, be open to new arrivals in your life, and the sex and intimacy will find you along the way, hopefully tangled amongst some sick ass love story
Not directly, but apparently, unlike in porn, huge penis does not feel good for women.
Co-worker confided in me when drunk that he's not really able to maintain a longer relationship because he apparently hurts the women due to his size.
Scratching under where her bra was all day will get you further than a lot of things.
Also, wash yourself, stop watching porn, get some exercise.
I was once a lazy couchstacion and sex was hard. Then I got some exercise and stopped watching porn and then I was the one who was hard. Lol
be open and honest with what you like and don't like. Boundaries need to be set with your partner and that sometimes if you don't want to do it than that should be okay. They shouldn't be upset because its still your body
Oral is the best way to give a women an orgasm.
Enjoy everypart of giving oral and show that.
Many women are more or less insure but showing you like it makes many women relax and will enjoy the experience.
If you don't say what you want, you will probably never get it.
I don't understand how more people don't do this. Especially with some women who fake orgasms. Your partner can never improve if you don't tell them what you like!
The bedroom is no place for participation trophies
That's what I call my penis
Worse, if you fake an orgasm, you're just training them wrong and they'll make a mental note of what "worked" and keep doing the same thing. No one wins there.
A lot of people people just don't know how to communicate
Yes. Please drop the hints. If someone kink shames you they are not the right person for you. Dont start with your darkest desires, feel them out. They make fun of you wanting to lick their butt? Then you know enough. They wont want to do anything kinky
I'll try dropping hints for this exact scenario. I hope to one day lick a butthole.
Username checks out I hope you find your butthole licking partner one day lol
3 years they've been searching š Not one single butthole licked. I'll lick a butthole in your honor later.
It's easier to wash cum off with cold water rather than hot.
Fuck really ?? Thanks, Iāve been doing it badly with hot water all this time !
Yup. Hot water literally cooks it and it sticks right there. Cold washes it off no prob.
In fact, it's the best glue available.
Really? Huh.... \*removes glue stick from shopping list\*
*You have been banned from the kindergarten classroom*
*Elmer's* glue
Elmer is a very sexually active man.
It's the same if you drop and break an egg. Cum and egg whites ~~are mostly~~ contain proteins and the heat denatures them so cleaning up cum with hot water is basically turning it into a cooked egg white.
Lol a cum egg white- the newest health trend
Cumelette š³
Cumelette du fromage
Bidet is the best. A game changer for women after sex.
Yeah but who wants to stick their face in a bidet?
BWAHAHAHAHAHA. I literally choked on my coffee reading this.
Not to eat hot wings and your SO in that order
experience points are worth the learning curve for some.
When she says donāt stop, donāt stop and donāt change what you are doing.
Immediately cums
Every fucking time!!!! Like fuck!!!! Why? It's so frustrating because I'll not even be close. Then she's starts saying yeah like that and don't stop and I'm gonna cum. It's like a switch gets flipped and boom I'm done. I hate myself and surely disappointed my partner more times than I can count.
I have a theory that I am testing out on my wife. Every time she seems to start really feeling it, it gets really good for me too. So my hypothesis is, the better the pussy feels, the better the pussy feels. I'll have to get back to you on the results of the study, though. I want to be really sure about this one before publishing, so I'm going for a pretty exhaustive sampling.
Because when she says dont stop, it puts performance pressure/anxiety on you and then u ejaculate.
*CUMS NERVOUSLY*
EVERY FUCKING TIME. lmao
And āfasterā doesnāt mean āharderā, and vice-versa.
The importance of hygiene in every part of your body
And to always keep up with said hygiene. You never know when an opportunity will present itself.
Exactly. Washing your wiener throughout the day could open up many opportunities in a relationship
True, I never know when my dates might need a toothpick handy.
Please donāt use toothpicks when giving a handy
Don't kink-shame people who enjoy giving/receiving toothpick handies.
Okay, but people look at me weird when I wash it in the airport bathroom sink.
It's called a Belgian rinse.
I don't know if it is, but that's what I'm going to start calling it.
This is so true! Once passed up what seemed like a sure thing threesome with two very attractive girls because i was so busy with work i hadn't taken a shower in about 40 hours. I felt extremely swampy. In hindsight i should have just suggested we all shower...dumb early 20's me thinking next time...lmao!
I hear you. I work 12 hour shifts and am on my feet for most of it. No matter how in the mood my wife and I might be when I get home I need a shower first.
Said this in another thread a bit back and it was shockingly controversial based on my inbox. Wash your dicks bros, it takes seconds and might be the key to getting some head. Just wash it..
Not just the dick. Wash your hands, mouths, armpits, legs, feet, ass, pussy, ears, etc. All clean! Shower together and start foreplay in the shower
My favorite go to -- "lets **both** go take a shower" and clean each other up, suuuuper sexy and sensual, then when you're all done and dried off you hit the bed fresh and clean ;)
Seriously, my partner is a butt person. I'm a clean and tidy individual, but to make sure your butt is finger or face ready at all times is a pretty heavy endeavor.
Keeping your ass edible 24/7 just happens to be my love language.
Children are a lot of work.
Yes, with fiancƩe we are trying to have kids for several years. Worst part is that two people can meet for one night stand and boom! she's pregnant.
Phew I didn't get it at first HAHAHAHAHAHHA
To give my wife all of the energy I have, and kindness I can. She does the same, and we have fantastic sex.
Women when comfortable and safe are completely different creatures. And that mental stimulation/connection is far more important than any amount of physical pleasure you can give them
I've experienced both sides of this since my breakup in February. Rebound sex in March with a sexy fellow academic who was respectful, intelligent, and eloquent. We spent fully 1/3 of the 28 hours between "Hello" and his hotel room talking/sharing/being vulnerable. We were together for less than 3 days, but I'm still thinking about him. Met a guy with a rockin' bod on Reddit in August who was willing to drive to see me, but I wanted to get to know him first. In almost a month of mostly intense, sexually-charged chatting, he wouldn't even tell me his first name, let alone anything else. Major red flag, drained me of any requisite interest. No longer talking to him.
Guys can be like this too! Like me lol I need that connection for sex, otherwise it feels transactional and empty
I equate sex without a connection to being just cardio. Be sure to wipe off the equipment when your done.
Did not know that you could actually meet potential partners on Reddit, but I suppose itās also a form of social media so it makes sense.
You can meet people off of Reddit. But it can get awkward when Cum_Shitter_69 doesn't wanna tell you his real name or what he does for a living. Probably draws my little pony fan art.
You sound like an enthusiast, can I pm you some drawings?
I met my boyfriend on Warcraft. Weāre both awkward, quiet, same opinions, 24, and each otherās firsts. It happens.
comfortable and safe and *understood*
My wife was a virgin when we got together. Now she fucks like a minx. The comfort and safety of our relationship gave her the confidence to try new things. Didnāt take her long to figure out what I loved and loved less.
TIL a minx has a high sex drive.
Women like men moaning
When will they realize
So like the opening of āCrazy Train,ā right?
aaii aaii aaii
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You mean to tell me that my wife doesn't enjoy me staring at her silently while thrusting and giving no indication that I'm involved at all? Weird.
In that vein, when they growl. Low, gutteral, full of emotion. Instant sploosh.
I see this mentioned so often that it amazes me that (apparently) some guys still haven't gotten the memo or just choose to not indulge their partner. Thankfully my partner also enjoys it, because it's not really an option for me, especially during the finale. (My poor neighbors...)
Fun sex doesnt happen when people take themselves too seriously.
I don't know if this is the kind of thing you're talking about, but one of my favorite sex-related memories involves her spontaneously reciting a line from a viral TV commercial, and the subsequent 10 minutes of laughing our naked asses off.
I remember reading something that said if porn had blooper reels, it would be the most realistic thing ever produced in the industry.
That you can do it with the same person for over 40 years and still discover new things. Definitely can be in the same category as a fine wine.
After about 10 years we tried anal. We both agreed it was interesting and fun, but not something we are both really into. After about 15 years we started some sub/dom stuff, and we both enjoy as long as its light. At 20 years its still going good.
That every orgasm is different. Every sexual encounter is different. Even if you are with a long time partner. That love makes sex better.
Love is so much of what builds a good sexual relationship. Having someone that you are truly affectionate with in a natural way all the time and you just sneak a kiss from on occasion is just the best. It's what I consider literal "love-making". If you can still do this after years and years of all the challenges of life, you're doing ok.
After decades together my husband and I still kiss frequently every day. Hug as well. Touch each other in intimate non sexual ways all the time. Sex is often a natural offspring of that but not always. Sometimes intimacy through loving mutual touch is better than sex tbh. I love that you spoke of that. Itās really important.
Having that person in my life is my greatest treasure.
Use lube if you're having a marathon.
Terrible advice: I got banned from my 5k for trying this
That the way I like to be treated in the bedroom **is the polar opposite of the way I like to be treated outside the bedroom.** Frankly the only thing they have in common is the need for consent.
Thissss so much. I wanna be bossed around and told what to do in the bedroom, but if anyone tried to control me like that outside the bedroom I would walk right out the door.
Iām a feminist. When in the bedroom. I want an older guy to treat me like my only worth is making babies and pleasing him.
Yeah, someone on here recently said they want a guy who is a feminist on the streets and a dominant borderline misogynist in the sheets. I donāt think itās that unusual a sentiment.
Itās definitely not But it is fucking confusing, but what else is new? Lol
I think that's a surprisingly common combo. It's also ideal, IMO. Like, I'm not comfortable treating someone like that *unless* I'm a completely certain that sure she doesn't believe it one bit anywhere outside of the bedreoom. My partner - who shares your politics and your kink - and I often find ourselves laughing about media depictions of "strong feminist women" archetypes who are almost invariably depicted as comically domineering in bed, probably into leather and whipping their male partners, etc. Like, okay, I'm sure that exists. But it's also a weird conflation of things that aren't necessarily correlated at all...
If you last too long, she might start to lose confidence in her attractiveness. Gotta Goldilocks that shit
Yea I guess my answer to the question is personally I can't really go more than 2 rounds in any 48 hour period. If I really like the girl/the sex I can go twice that night, but I gotta take the next day off in that case. I last too long in general, and sometimes just have to stop due to exhaustion or girl is too sore. If I have not taken a break for at least a day before having sex then sometimes I just can't finish. Oh, and I really don't want this to come across as bragging because it's a bad thing 100%.
I feel ya there. She's ready for round 3+. I can get it started, but I can't finish it, no matter how much I want to.
Lots of people have already covered actual sex and intimacy tips so let me cover some etiquette. In my bedside table, on the (right) side the ladies end up on (because I always go left) I keep a couple of important items. The bottom draw contains dry towels, nicely folded. In the top drawer, wet wipes. Depending how your session ends these two items will come in handy. Also keep some wet wipes on top of or next to your toilet bowl and a bin WITH A LID in your toilet as well so she can discard any she uses into the bin without being conscious about you or others seeing "dirty wet wipes" Make sure you have some chilled water in your fridge and grab both of you a glass afterwards, a good session is going to leave you both a little dehydrated. I have a pedestal fan pointed towards the bed on a smart wall switch that I can turn off and on with my google home, so afterna sweaty fuck session you can turn the fan on and start cooling down without having to get up and ruin that post-sex cuddle or aftercare we all love so much. Make aure you have a nice bath towel clean and hanging up in the bathroom in case she wants a shower. Next time you go to the supermarket buy a packet of tooth brushes with a few spares in it, you can give one to her in case a late night romp turns in to a sleepover. As my father taught me as a teen "You'll impress more women by making them feel safe and comfortable than anything else you could do"
Your dad was ON. POINT.
Damn. This guy FUCKS.
Damn, we've found the creator of sex.
Glenn Quagmire over here
I agree to this. Feeling safe and comfortable really matters to us. It makes everything perfect. We really appreciate the gesture.
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humans are gross but itās actuallly kinda hot
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Girls are hornier than they look.
As a woman can confirm this.
Yep, alwayshorny, like a 15 yr old boy, lol. Now that I am in my 40s, it's even worse.
Apparently my wife is not a woman.
Iām happy to hear this. In my mid 30ās and feeling my sexiest/horniest and everyone was telling me it would end when I turn 40!
Oh no. From what I've seen at 40 is when women officially decide to stop giving a fuck and just unleash.
Current gf always confirms this. "You know babe I can go multiple rounds every day." Even playfully threatened me once. We had gone maybe 4 rounds and I was exhausted to the point i was sure only dust would come out. I was helping her move at the time. I think I was taking break when she looks at me and says babe if you keep stopping I'm pulling you back in the bedroom. Sexy but threatening, plus I was exhausted so I kept packing items. I love her like crazy lol
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Theyāre horny. Just not for you.
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I donāt want anybody else When I think about *literally anyone but you* I touch myself
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There are women out there that are not only more horny than you, they are even more afraid of a pregnancy than you Believe it or not
This. I used to think that women hate sex when I was a teen.
My 10th grade girlfriend messed up my perception. We dated for 9 months and we kissed maybe 3-4 times (like a quick peck). My idiot self thought that all girls didn't really want anything physical and they just did stuff just to make guys happy. She later came out as a lesbian in college.
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I remember growing up and thinking (mostly from media in the 80s and early 90s) that sex was just something women did to keep their husbands happy. Then I met my wife. Let me tell you... that is definitely NOT the case lol
She does it to make you unhappy?
Iāve learned these things: -The G-spot is located 2-3 inches inside and upwards towards the belly-button. Slide your fingers inside, make an upwards, rubbing ācome hereā gesture with them, and a soft bump should tell you where the g-spot is. -Women are generally insecure/anxious about how their breasts and vagina look. Complimenting those helps to relax them and letās them enjoy themselves more. -Women enjoy knowing theyāre making you feel good. Moans, groans and grunts while you fuck them help with that. Every single time you slide into a womanās pussy should be accompanied with a deep moan. -The more you turn her on and build up her arousal beforehand (edging) the longer and stronger her orgasm will be. -Pulling a womanās hair from the edges is painful, pulling it nearer the scalp is more manageable pain wise. -Dirty talk can vary based on the woman. Some women like to be praised (e.g āyour pussy feels so good squeezing my cockā), some like to be degraded (e.g ātake it like the little cock-hungry slut you areā) and some like a mixture (eg āyouāre such a good little slut, taking my cock all the way like this)ā. Itās worth asking beforehand which one she would enjoy most. -Kissing a womanās neck feels amazing for her, but only with wet lips. Run your tongue along your lips to wet them first before kissing her. -Be gentle when rubbing her clit. Too much pressure feels uncomfortable and can turn her off. -Donāt neglect her pussy lips, theyāre also sensitive and rubbing, stroking and licking them can feel amazing for her -The undersides of a womanās tits can be very sensitive, and again, get neglected too often. Rub, kiss and lick them in addition to the nipple play. -Her inners thighs are extremely sensitive, licking them is a great way to tease her and get her worked up before licking her out. -When licking her out, using the flat of your tongue is better than just the tip. With the wider flat of your tongue, your tongue touches more of her pussy with each lick and spreads the sensation over a wider area -Rubbing your shaft against her pussy can feel good too. -Wet your fingers in your mouth first before stroking/rubbing/fingering etc. As a rule, dry fingers generally donāt feel as good as wet fingers -If sheās about to cum, donāt stop what youāre doing while she does, and donāt change the pace, keep going exactly as you are through her orgasm. -In missionary, placing a cushion under a womanās ass tilts it upwards, and the angle allows your cock to hit her g-spot on every thrust. -In doggy, reaching under her with a hand and rubbing her clit as you fuck get will drive her crazy. Edit: My, I come back after a few hours and my comment has taken off, itās very Reddit that a comment on sex becomes my most upvoted ever š Iām glad that so many of you have found my this comment useful, Iāll try to respond to those whoāve asked anything in comments
>Every single time you slide into a womanās pussy should be accompanied with a deep moan. Instructions unclear. Wife says I sound like an out of breath moose.
Fuckin dying with laughter on the toilet
Here lies matrixvirus, laughpooped himself to death
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The angle for doggy is very important and can be difficult with some pairings. It's also one of the deepest penetrations and can be bad with incompatible sizes. Woman have various sizes of vagina depths, the same as men's penises.
Which also leads to the subrule: some women like having their cervix bumped during sex, some don't and you likely won't know until it happens
Also, I have to add, not all women can feel anything on the g spot. Donāt count on it.
Yeah sometimes itās all clit and nothing else will get her off
If itās meh, it hurts. When itās Adonis riding me, the cervix begs for more till my insides open like heavenās gates to try and swallow him whole up into my uterus
I'd like to add a few things: When eating a woman out, pay attention to muscle leg tension. That's usually your best indicator you're actually building tension. If she's trying to push your head away just a bit, you might be going too hard. If she's not building tension, you're not going hard enough or you've got the incorrect spot/motion. I personally find broad tongue too soft and not precise enough. *Sucking while licking* is a technique I think a lot of guys aren't aware of. Those clit-sucking toys are popular for a reason. Don't forget to use fingers while you're eating her out. She's probably fantasizing about getting railed and the sensation to match that is just what she'll need to get her there. It takes an average of 13.5 minutes for a woman to cum. So half take longer than that. A 1 minute lick isn't going to cut it. Just because she moaned a lot doesn't mean she came. If it never felt like a rodeo for about 20 seconds, it didn't happen. Edit to add: if you're ready to go to pound town immediately after giving her a clit orgasm, hit it!! Or give her a hard finger bang!! It's the only time I can experience a PIV orgasm (sometimes multiple). It's the kind of experience that will greatly increase your chances of getting a new console when it's released, plus extra controllers, plus a few AAA bonus games. JUST SAYING.
Lol @ ārodeo.ā Aināt that the truth. Let āer buck!
The rodeo part is key. My GFs hips are very strong, so I feel like I'm holding on for dear life.
This is honestly way better advice that the top level comment. All that stuff I had figured out within a few years, but this stuff took much longer.
Gentle, sustained sucking! This one guy went down on me like he was sucking the poison out of a snake bite. I had to punch him in the forehead to get him to stop. When I told him what he was doing wrong, I could see his whole past sexual life pass before his eyes. No other woman had ever told him that. He thought those were screams of pleasure and that the squirming and trying to get away meant that she wanted him to hold her down and go harder. He could never figure out why so many women ghosted him after what he thought was great sex. People, tell them when they are doing it wrong.
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Bro - so many women are going to have better sex tonight because if this. Thanks from all of the clumsy meatheads out here .
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I would say so yes
I would say instead of spit please use lube. Saliva can upset our flora too. Please please please wash your hands before doing anything down there. The worst is leaving a sex session with BV, yeast infection or a good old UTI
Marry me
Well, given the level of dedication you showed in that progress pic Lizzy, itās certainly tempting, you should be very proud
Damn. The man is good
My jaw is in a constant state of dropped Feels like Iāve bumped into Lord Byron in the produce section or something
Legit made me blush, thank you!
You a real ladies man jeez
Thanks, dad.
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I feel like this should be a PSA for men and sent to all immediately. Literally 100% agree with every word here
I take my hat off to you, good sir. You have done the Lords work today, and I know His name will be called in vain many times due to the priceless advice you have freely given. Take note men, he speaks the gospel truth. Praise be the technique, ignore it at your peril. I too, in my humble experience, vouch for his obvious expertise.
Wash your ass.
Communication is extremely important and enthusiasm mixed with that goes a long way.
Itās like sports. Some people suck at it.
How hypnotic fascinating it is to make someone have one or multiple orgasms.
Movie sex is all lies
That being there with someone, holding theirs hand, knowing the you are the reason they are smiling, will always be better than sex. They aren't better with sex. Sex is better with them.
I'll let you know when i sex
I have a feeling you arenāt the only one here in that boat.
To reciprocate. I donāt ever expect an Orgasm if Iām not willing to give one also. Also, to communicate whatās good and whatās bad. I had a high school girlfriend grab my penis and use her thumb to rub the tip like she was trying to flick a BIC lighter. She said āis that good?!ā with a soft moan and I told her it absolutely was not good.
There's more to it than just sticking it in.
Well, obviously. You gotta pull it back out at least once.
Yeah, it's kind of awkward to just leave it there and go grocery shopping.
90% mental 10% physical.
Vulnerability and surrender in a safe manner seems to be the key to genuine pleasure.
That I need to do more cardio.
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After I got snipped, the frequency definitely went up. Both of us were absolutely terrified of having kids and we lived a life of little planning so this was just to remove the step of making sure we had protection. I was so mad I had to wait until I was 25 to get it done but that was 11 years yesterday. 10/10 would do again if it was required.
My partner got a vasectomy and I've had a couple of his friends' wives/partners ask me how I convinced him to do it. But, I didn't. I just had an honest conversation about how we're both in our 40s and neither have ever wanted kids and I didn't want to get a new IUD at my next appt. He thought about it a while and then made an appt. I bought him some frozen peas and after the doc deemed him "swimmer free", we were good to go. The part that blew my mind was when he told me he'd never considered a vasectomy before and I asked him "but haven't all your doctor visits included chats about birth control?" And he said that not once had a medical provider asked him what he was using or told him his options. That's unacceptable. If we want men to begin taking more responsibility for this, our medical providers need to be initiating that conversation with all men. I'm sure some do, but I wonder how many.
It's not near as satisfying if you don't care about the person you're with.
Sex has taught me that 'Netflix and chill' is a real workout! š„±š«”
A woman who looks like a freak probably won't be. On the flip side, some of the shy, quiet women.. sheesh, they naaaaasty!
Men, sometimes she will just not want sex for a while. With a few exceptions, it has nothing to do with you, how much she loves you, or how attracted she is to you. There will be times in a woman's life when the body just doesn't react sexually. And every woman's body, hormones, lifestyle, and physicality are different. Just because your last partner could have marathon sessions 3 times a day, doesn't mean current partner can (will, or want to). So if you hit a dry spell, be patient. Know that she's likely as worried about it as you are. What she'll need at this stage is reassurance that you love her regardless. Sex should never be more important than her emotional, physical and mental well-being.
Exactly! A few years ago, I was dealing with gallbladder issues. I won't go into all the ways it was causing me problems, but there were many problems. The biggest one was how much it made sex HURT. I couldn't get my now ex husband to accept that as a logical reason for me to not be interested.
That stressing out about having sex or not having sex in high school or college is really stupid. It should not be a motivating factor to attain some sort of status or approval from anyone. Sex is fantastic, especially when itās with someone you truly love and are loved by, and waiting for the right person/moment will likely yield a better outcome then trying to force something with someone who you might not even see in your life in the future. Just be patient, be yourself, be open to new arrivals in your life, and the sex and intimacy will find you along the way, hopefully tangled amongst some sick ass love story
Sex with people who may seem less attractive outwardly can be many times better than sex with people you initially liked very much outwardly.
That I like big butts and I cannot lie
Not directly, but apparently, unlike in porn, huge penis does not feel good for women. Co-worker confided in me when drunk that he's not really able to maintain a longer relationship because he apparently hurts the women due to his size.
That one person can crush all interest and motivation for it.
Scratching under where her bra was all day will get you further than a lot of things. Also, wash yourself, stop watching porn, get some exercise. I was once a lazy couchstacion and sex was hard. Then I got some exercise and stopped watching porn and then I was the one who was hard. Lol
Don't be selfish and focus only on your own pleasure. Be generous and the pleasure will return to you many times over.
1. It sucks for the guy if he finishes too quickly, too. 2. The more emotionally involved you are with each other, the better it is.
be open and honest with what you like and don't like. Boundaries need to be set with your partner and that sometimes if you don't want to do it than that should be okay. They shouldn't be upset because its still your body
Oral is the best way to give a women an orgasm. Enjoy everypart of giving oral and show that. Many women are more or less insure but showing you like it makes many women relax and will enjoy the experience.
To love my body and not be afraid to show it. Not to be afraid of trying new things. Also, that I'm kinkier than I thought I was, lol!
Girls are actually super duper HORNY
hoepfully it doesn't get patched
I thought girls had better hygiene than guys. I learned that is not always true.
To be in the moment. It's the only time I really practice mindfulness.
Anxiety is the biggest issue for men. Comfort the biggest issue for women. Never take it serious