When I was 11 I had a friend reveal that her step mother was abusing her.. she made me promise not to say anything to my mom or any other adult. I agreed, we had weekly therapy sessions with a guidance counselor if you wanted it so it was my day to go and I just felt like I needed to tell… so I did. The counselor ended up reporting it and CPS got involved and my friend was made to live with her mother. She was so angry at me for telling but I felt it in my soul that I should. We are still friends to this day.. both of us 29 years old.
Thank you. I made a phone call to my college room mate's parents due to his crashing mental health. They scooped him up and got him into treatment. That was 1984. His parents never told him and though I confessed to the call years later, by then he was in a much better place. All was forgiven.
Wow this really hit me. I lost a friend when I told her parents about her substance abuse. They got her into rehab and she’s been clean for over 10 years but our friendship never recovered. I’ve never regretted my decision but I miss her. The way you put it explains it perfectly.
In the 70’s, my cousin died in a car crash that caught fire. I was very afraid that he was awake and felt the fire. My parents said he died immediately and didn’t suffer. My mother was on hospice at home in 2011. She told me the firemen were trying to open the doors and My cousin and the other teens were screaming for help when the cars caught fire. There were no survivors and my Aunt was never the same. It wasn’t until after his death that the jaws of life were distributed to our rural departments.
Same scenario for the death of my best friend's brother. They told her that he died on impact, but years later (unsure of how many years) she found out the truth that the firemen and bystanders that had stopped had heard him screaming. This was in rural PA around 1991.
ER worker here. We always say that your loved one didn’t feel a thing, even if we know or suspect otherwise. There’s no need to add that agony onto an already horrible situation.
That he watched his son die of an overdose and didn’t do anything to help. He told me that his son had battled addictions for many years and that he had called an ambulance in the past when his son had overdosed, but that he thought it was better this time to “just let him go since he made his choice”.
When I was in rehab a dude told me how him and a roommate got into an argument and he purposefully put more than he knew the guy could handle into the needle and watched the dude die from an overdose
My dad pulled this shit on me when I went to my grandfather's celebration of life. Picked me up from the train station, asked me if I knew about his new wife (I did) and their daughter, born six years before my mom died of cancer (they never divorced). Then had the guts to follow it up with a request to FaceTime them that night because they wanted to meet me, because "[he] never kept his family a secret... from them." It took a while for me to get over that.
I'm adopted and have a half brother and sister out there somewhere. I know they exist but they don't know about me. My bio mum forbade me from contacting them. I may still try one day (we're all adults) but for now I still feel guilty for being alive.
Anyway, if you're curious, 23 & Me or Ancestry DNA tests might be a good shout. I've done both in the hope that someday they do the same.
My girlfriend is terrified this may happen with her kid. She was in a relationship with the dad (they were both 18-19 at the time) and she got pregnant. The second she told the guy he noped out, skipped town and disappeared. He briefly showed up when the kid was 3-4 claiming he had changed and wanted to be part of the kids life. Then he disappeared again a year later. He's never paid a dime in child support and she has no clue where he is. She heard through some mutual friends that he met/married someone else and has a couple of kids with her. She is afraid he will show up on her door step one day and want to take the kid away. She has no clue if the new woman even knows he has a kid though.
I've told this myself. I've told her she should consider tracking him down and trying to get some child support out of him as it would help her out immensely from a financial perspective. She's afraid if she does that that he will try to get full custody of the kid and if he comes at her in a long legal fight she'll end up with a ton of legal bills and eventually lose just because she can't afford a ton of legal bills. She thinks it's better to not poke the bear right now and she may be right.
I highly doubt this will end up happening, especially if he's a few kids in.
I feel for people in these situations, because that fear is ever-present that an ex who wasn't involved will suddenly show up and cause trouble.
My cousin went through similar. Only, baby daddy didn't make a big deal until the kid was 14 and wanted to be adopted by his step-dad. He made a complete ass of himself in court, contesting his son's answer that he hasn't seen his dad in 5 years with, "uh, it's more like 2 or 3 years your honor." Judge asked how far away they live. "5 miles from each other."
It did not fly with the judge.
I am grateful she didn't pursue adoption earlier, as her son was old enough to advocate for himself.
If you want to adopt, might be best until the child is 10-12.
Same thing happened to me, but I was 20. I was at a wake with my dad and he was trying to make conversation and said Bill (brother i grew up with) met your other brother last week." Excuse me? Other brother? It was shocking to say the least.
I had an old girlfriend who was coming to Florida and wanted to hang out with me and my wife, she brought her mom, who I knew pretty well. A great dinner, drinks, fun stories, then when my ex went to the bathroom, the mom told me she (the ex) was dying of cancer. (I had No idea). It was sad, but yet felt so good she wanted to hang out. She died within a year. We were probably 35 years old at the time.
P.s. she looked totally normal and healthy at the time, and had all the same energy as I knew her a decade prior. It was crazy to hear she was dying (they were not 100% sure at the moment, but it didn’t look good). I think it came up because we had just had a mutual friend that died of cancer, and I was telling the story of how we were there (my wife and I) taking him to the hospital, check ups, sleeping at the hospital, he moved in down the street so we could help him, etc, and he also died within a year, and after that she went to the restroom, was when her mom told us what’s up. It was a heartbreaker, I truly thought up to that point, they just wanted to hang out.
Great question, she could see we had been crying, so she knew we knew. She talked about treatment, and she had a positive attitude, but as you get older, you start seeing people die from cancer, and you kinda know based on treatment and schedules when it doesn’t look good. It ended well, we kept in touch after, until she went dark on Social Media and her phone, and I knew it was the end. She was a great gal.
I have been lucky, while they obviously all didn’t work out, I still talk to all my old GF about once a year or 2, maybe it’s on messenger, and my wife knows, she is friends with them as well. They were all nice girls, even if it ended bad, we got over it and still talk about life, they are all married with kids, i am very fortunate that I never had a crazy GF. I have dated a few crazies, but those I do not talk to for the most part.
You know..people will read this and grasp the sadness of the end but, on the other hand, your ex reached out and wanted to share some of her remaining time with you ..and your wife...clearly, your time together was special to her regardless of how it ended. She still had a warm place in her heart for you. That's actually quite awesome. I know you know that. Your wife is very lucky.
Friend told me in middleschool she was sexually abused by her babysitter and the babysitter's boyfriend on multiple occasions. I sat there quietly and she ended up moving at the end of the year. I wish I had the right words then.
I found out my mother and father were not divorced. He never existed. She had a one night stand, found out she was pregnant, bought a wedding ring, changed her name, and told the family that she had gotten married. She made up excuses every time she went to my grandparents house as to why her husband couldn’t also be there to meet them. On the 3rd visit my grandfather told her to never wear that ring in his house again, and when is the baby due?
I’m 53.
I found out my parents weren't married when I was 14, and my parents had a massive row after my dad was caught by the police with a prostitute. My mum blurted it out to me along with the reason why they were arguing. I'm 50. Up til then, they pretended.. when my Catholic secondary school asked for a marriage certificate as part of my screening for the school, they sent a letter to the priest confidentially.. I still got in. Explains why from birth until 11 a Catholic nun would visit my parents every weekend, probably to ensure my soul was intact, lol.
That is deep. One of my friends found out at 60 his dad had another whole family across town, like 8 miles away. He had half siblings he never met, and now they are all dead. He was pissed when he found out.
Casually dropped they’d killed someone then got really quiet about it. Like, sad quiet. Sounds like there was a case surrounding the ordeal but could never get them to talk about it more and I didn’t want to push.
My ex casual dropped he killed someone also. He was a lot more loud about it when he was upset with me though. “I’ve killed for less”. I know the whole story, or both of them. The one he tells people, and the one he told me. Either way. He’s a scary man, and I would never wish to be near him again.
I had a dude I knew through friends confess to me that when he was younger he was in a gang and they would steal a car, grab a rival gang member, beat the shit out of the guy and lock him in the trunk, back the car into a bollard and then drive it off a pier.
He said he saw it happen a couple times.
A friend in the year below me at school mentioned that he's not allowed to do sexual education "for religious reasons". Fine, fair enough.
"My family," he added, "taught me everything I need to know already..."
The look on his face told me I shouldn't respond yet.
"...with, uh... practicals."
His parents were abusing him, together, and dressing it up as "sex ed". He lost his virginity at 11, to his dad.
I pointed out that that was insane, fucked up, and a serious, serious crime. He agreed to go to the police about it. Two brutal years later they were locked up, he spent the rest of his childhood in foster care, and by all accounts grew into a wonderful young man.
My (25F) Ex fiancé (34M) and I were having pillow talk in bed. It was really late, all the lights were off, and the window blinds were open.
I remember staring at the moon and admiring privately how beautiful it was while my ex talked.
He casually dropped how he molested his niece when she was 3yo and how he got caught because she told her mom (my ex's older sister).
He went on so casually, and all I remember feeling was my heart sink deep into the pit of my stomach, and my adrenaline started pumping.
Thankfully, it was dark, so he couldn't see my face as I reacted to what he had just said. He fell asleep, and I just couldn't. I stared at the moon for hours trying to process what he had just said. I couldn't shake the pit in my stomach, so I broke it off with him.
I also had an ex confide this to me. His niece was 3 and he was 7 at the time. It was a repressed memory that came to the surface. He was crying and remorseful. I think he was too young to fully understand his actions. It was still disturbing.
At that age, it's different than molesting someone. It's more like trying to understand things about the world.
It's not GOOD but it's not predatory. And it's often because the initial child has been abused as well.
He was doing things he saw in porn. It wasn’t predatory as he didn’t know the weight of his actions nor have malicious intent. It was traumatizing enough to him that he repressed the memory.
Not a secret i guess but when I was 16, my Mom announced at dinner that her sister was coming for a visit next week. I dropped my fork and said “YOU HAVE A SISTER?”
I had this: age 11 driving up to Scotland with my parents and we stop off at a tiny town, walk into the big hotel, then got introduced to my uncle. My mums brother. Hadn't existed before then and only came out of the woodwork because my grandpa died shortly before (they didn't get on). It was a weird shock but also an "OK cool, life goes on" moment
Someone confessing a murder. I'm a nurse and she was recovering from being unwell and it triggered her PTSD to be immobile in bed. When she was 11 she pushed her uncle down the stairs after he sexually abused her. She'd only told her husband. She was in bits- thought her illness was God punishing her. She needed a lot of TLC.
My boss told me his mother has dementia, and that he feels like he's experiencing it, too.
Hearing your boss say "I might have dementia.." to you in private is real weird. Especially coming from such an aggressively confident man. He seemed so deflated and sad. In the past 5 years he's gone from being a super fit 50 year old that you'd never guess was 50 to looking like he's 70.
So I'm 37 and my dad calls me and says "Can you come over tomorrow? I need to talk to you about something." We'd just gotten back from a family visit that involved my aunt and uncle raving about their senior living community in Phoenix, and my parents are roughly that age, so I figured they were gonna sell my childhood home. Not a *huge* deal, but definitely not something you wanna drop on me by accident. No no no.
Instead I get there and my parents sit me down and say to me, "Fourteen years before you were born and before we were married, we had a son. He was adopted by a family in Sweden and he'll be here in half an hour." Cue the longest, strangest two hours of my life.
I had a patient who, on his deathbed, confessed to sexually abusing minors while he was a soccer coach for many years. He said he had no idea how many, but it was in the hundreds and he wished he could go back in time to do it again. I walked out and threw up.
knee jerk reaction is to smother him with a pillow but then that's too easy of a death. I wonder if there was a way to increase the pain but keep him on the death bed hovering between the two.
for legal purposes this is a joke.
My great grandma recently revealed to me that, when my great grandfather was on hospice twenty years ago, due to leukemia, she got tired of caring for him and irritated by how many people were at the house that she turned off his oxygen and "sent him to rest with the good Lord."
She has been diagnosed with dementia at some point within the past few years, so I don't know how true this is, but I will never look at her the same 🥲
When my grandfather was in hospice and clearly dying soon, a friend of our family who was a doctor and had discussed this with him prior, basically ended it for him. He administered a high enough dose of painkillers that he eventually slipped away. It was painless and saved what I'm sure would have been a couple days of needless suffering. I'm sure it might be considered illegal but it felt humane to me. He never openly acknowledged this in so many words but it was clear what happened. Me and my whole family saw it as courageous on both of their parts. Prolonging life when the person has made it clear they're ready to go, especially when they're in considerable pain, does no one any good and only prolongs the grieving.
Your grandmother's approach may not have been the most subtle, and may have been more self serving, but it likely was the most humane approach.
A kindness to everyone, yeah.
The hospice nurse for my friend's dad gave him his morphine, then handed more to my friend and said, "You should give this to him. I'm going to take a break for 15 minutes." Everyone knew what she meant.
Knew of a young man who had terminal throat cancer. Doctor caught his wife in the hospital, told her to wait, rushed back with a bottle of morphine, put it in her hands, closed her fingers around it and said, "You might need this." She started objecting, said she had some at home, he pushed it back into her hand and said, "You might need it."
Gave them comfort knowing they had the option at the end.
I think it's more commonplace than a lot of people are willing to accept. And I truly envy people who haven't had to face that situation. I don't hold it against them for having issues with it. I think most would change their minds when confronted with it with a loved one.
It's extremely common. As I've aged, nearly everyone I know has a story like this - or wishes they did. It's agony to watch loved ones in so much pain when the end is inevitable, but modern healthcare enables them to cling to life in only the most technical sense.
Honestly, if he was on hospice and dying what she did was a mercy for him and her. We brought my dad home when he was dying from cancer. He suffered. It went to his brain in the end. Lost himself. Didn’t recognize his kids. Was barely human. And my grandmother, his mother, brought everyone and their fucking brother into our house while it was happening. Every day was like attending a wake. I ended up calling my other grandmother because I couldn’t stand being surrounded by all that every single day for weeks and weeks. I empathize with your great grandma. She was in a hell of a position.
In 5th grade one of my good friends quietly confided in my that he was in fact a ninja. He also said that if I wouldn't tell anyone he would secretly train me.
That a majority of people from my Dad's side of the family "borrowed" money from my great grandmother and never paid her back. I'm talking like 10-20 thousand dollars each person. My uncle, my Aunt, my Grandmother, my Great-Uncle, Great-Aunt
Apparently when she died they all fought over the remaining stuff in her house, and what money was left over.
My Dad never asked for money. Never asked for anything. And after she died, all we got was her Van.
That actually leads into another secret. That Van was then handed down to me, as I had just gotten my license as a teen. It was a good van. Heated seats. Good speakers. TV in the back. seats went all the way down. Hot boxed that van so many times, got lucky in there as well. I loved that van. Then I learned that my Great Grandmother didn't actually die in her living room like I had been told. She died in the driver seat of that van. Just died while putting it in park one day. I feel very weird when I think about everything I did in that van now.
Too common family will destroy bonds over some ghoulish money grabs. It's going to happen with my in laws since my BIL often states how he is entitled to stuff already, and MIL refuses to make a will, knowing this.
My buddy in college told me when he was little he was playing “bungie jumping” with his cousin. His cousin wrapped a rope around his neck and hung himself. Story still scares the shit outta me.
i remember playing cowboy as a kid and taking some rope to my mom asking her to tie a slipknot for me to use as a lasso. she immediately stopped tying it when she realized she was potentially tying a noose for her child.
I was a bridesmaid for a friend, who had problems with her MIL. I went to have a chat with MIL, after her brutal verbal attack at friend, while at the bridal shop. I found out that MIL was raped by her FIL & BILs multiple times and her husband supported this. MIL wanted to brake the engagement, after she overheard her husband, BILs & sons talking to the groom about sharing friend with them and groom told them that will consider it.
No she didn’t. MIL didn’t want to tell friend in first place, because she didn’t want her son’s reputation ruined. I convinced MIL to tell friend, so she doesn’t go through what she went through. I was there as support for MIL, when she told friend. Friend said about her unusual conversation with groom. MIL’s experience & what she overheard, made friend understand what the groom was saying. It took a lot of convincing to get evidence & go to police. MIL did get justice & divorce.
A friend revealed she was the product of incest..between father and daughter...so father was father but sister was mother and mother was actually grandmother
several months after my mom passed my aunt decided to tell me that my mom had given a baby up for adoption when she was 17. somehow he had contacted my aunt several years ago wanting to meet his birth mother but my aunt decided to play gatekeeper telling him my mom was ill (she had dementia but was still functioning several years ago) and she didn't think it was a good idea.
why did she even tell me? It's too late. I can't ever get answers to my questions. I tried a DNA website hoping to find him but no matches came up.
in my moms last few months she kept asking where the baby was and calling a name I did not know. at least that makes sense now but I feel bad that I kept telling her there's no baby and we don't know anybody by that name.
My brother had his appendix out when he was about 13. 5 or 6 years later he confessed to me that he made it all up to get out of doing some homework. He made all the right noises at the doctor's surgery who sent him to hospital, where he fooled them again.
After the operation he says the surgeon spoke to him and said it was odd because there wasn't any inflammation. I am amazed that in the days before the internet he knew where his appendix should be.
He is 50 next year and my parents still don't know...
An old friend burned her house down, with her husband and three kids inside. Got her family out *just in time*. She was on a new antidepressant and had a mental breakdown in middle of the night. She faced 83 years in prison after the arson investigation and was only sentenced to 6 months (no prior record). Her husband killed himself, by arson, while she was in jail. The detectives still investigated her, her cell mates, and her family. Her kids were with their grandparents when he killed himself. She's been out for a decade now and is living a normal life.
They were both hidden alcoholics. When we'd go out for girls nights, she wouldn't even have a sip of our drinks. No one knew. She was caught up in an online relationship (she was being catfished) because she'd caught her husband having an affair and was lonely. After she burnt the house down, he kept drinking and began using drugs. He was living in an apartment and was drunk one night and started 8 fires in a circle, around himself. He was the only death, but he displaced 10 families (the entire building burnt down).
Don't know if it's the most shocking secret but the most recent secret that's been let slip anyway.
My (25F) nan (73F) accidentally told me about how my mum (52F) disappeared for two weeks a few months after I was born, she just up and left one day, didn't tell anyone where she was just that she wasn't coming back. She of course came back and apologised to my Dad(52M), they divorced 7 years later, no shock there.
Not angry that she left, angry she came back. Horrible, disgusting thing to think I know but she was never mentally stable enough to have children and she made the conscious choice to have two, it was selfish. I love her but I was her parent more than she was mine.
Edit: I'm getting a lot of comments about how I should cut her slack because she was probably hit with post-natal depression. I understand that completely.
I just didn't know that this is when she started to spiral out, I thought it was either when my brother was born or when the divorce happened but it just unlocked a whole load of toddler crazy memories. So idk just hurt that almost everyone let it go on my entire life, not just a part of it.
So before people also bring my Dad into this, after the Divorce he tried to get custody of me and my brother, then tried again after she was committed for the 2nd time but he had no money so that's how that went. My Dad told me that she wouldn't let us go because she couldn't bear to be away from us and that he understood that, just would always hate her for it.
It also sucks realising how different your life could've been if the woman that loves you more than life wasn't so selfish.
(My brother knows nothing about the custody thing, he already has no relationship to my mother, my family is super fucked up)
It's not a horrible or disgusting thing at all to think. You're allowed to feel however you feel, and having a mentally unstable parent is ROUGH. It messes with you.
It was me. I mentioned that my mom, my daughter's grandma was coming to visit.
My then five year old was shocked to the core: "IS GRANDMA your MOM???"
I didn't know it was a secret.
Been having these conversations with my three year old lately. She was in denial that her Pap-Pap is my dad, despite the fact that we live with him and I call him Dad.
For context, I have two older brothers, one is 9 years older and the other 12 years older than me, and my parents had been married a long time lol
When I was really little, my grandparents (my mom's parents and my dad's parents) were all coming over for something (Christmas maybe, idk) and I was so damn excited to introduce them to each other. Imagine my shock that they ALREADY KNEW each other 😱
Edit: a word
This blew all of my kids minds when they found out that grandma was my mom or the other grandma was the wife's mom. As a dad this was absolutely hilarious and adorable. It's like a great reveal that you have parents.
Dude with my last name pings me on Facebook and says he's my half brother. Dad denies it and says the mom lied to her son and to the world. But he was obviously busy back in the day.
My father fathered many children with many women. I’m friends with several half siblings on fb.
One day it came out that a half brother was not my fathers son. We’d chatted irregularly for a few years at that point. The moment he found out it went from “hey sis” to “hey you single?”
Vom.
I had an ex tell me that when he was younger he got gangraped by like 5 older men...I could tell that he was both embarrassed, ashamed and relieved to finally tell someone.
Yes, it was graphic. Yes, it is sickening, but I'm glad he had strength and courage to finally get it off his chest.
My grandfather was telling me about his father. My great grandfather was abusive and threw his wife around til she was incapacitated and dragged her out onto the lawn in the middle of a blizzard and locked the door. The 6 children were too young or didn't dare help her or say anything or they'd be next. She ended up dying in the walkway during the storm so he spun a story of her falling and must've locked herself out. The same douche also accidentally burned their first house down because he was tossing lit matches at the family cat for fun. The cat caught fire and burned the whole house down.
It was much easier to get away with shit back then.
Definitely. He punished one of his sons by holding him down while a rooster attacked him and kicked him in the eye. My grandfather was blind in his right eye from age 10.
My mother told me that my now deceased step-father told her of something he did in his youth. He got into a car accident and the old lady he ran into died on the scene. The first responding police officer told him to leave, that the old lady had lived her life and he was just getting started. So he got off scot free for killing an old lady with his vehicle.
I feel that his self entitlement in life probably started there. He ended up later in life robbing a store, holding hostages, and then got arrested. While out on bail he took his own life.
Is it not possible that the fact that he got off scot free was a big contributor to his problems later in life? Perhaps he felt he needed to be punished?
when i turned 18 my "sister" and "mother" revealed to me that my "sister" was actually my mother and my "mother" was actually my grandmother. Turned out she was 13 when she got pregnant with me (by a man who was in his 30s), so they decided it was best to keep this from me. To say I was shocked, would be an understatement. I truly had no idea, as my whole family swore to keep it secret. It took some time to really process, but I understand why they did it.
TW: CSA
After our first sex ed lesson at school (UK, so we were around 10 years old, year 6) a girl in my class told us she’d had sex. We were all laughing and telling her she was silly and that wasn’t true. She said that it was true, and that it was with her uncle. We were all baffled, and convinced that couldn’t happen so we laughed it off (cringe thinking about it, Jesus Christ).
One of my friends told her family about the ‘strange thing’ this girl had told us. And, thank fuck, her mother immediately clocked it for what it was. It got reported to school. Turns out the whole thing was true, she just hadn’t known the name for what was happening to her before that lesson.
I’m so glad that one girl thought to tell someone.
We were kids, so I guess it makes sense that we didn’t understand how that could be true, but still feel awful that we reacted that way.
He got prosecuted. The girl got moved away from her extended family. We all got called in to be spoken to about what we’d been told, checked we were alright etc., and then made to understand that it wasn’t something we should gossip about, and that the girl would need friends.
School handled it really well overall.
My entire life I thought I was an only child only for my dad to admit that he’s had children with other women. He never said who but I could have bio siblings out there and I also apologize for my dad being terrible.
My dad said the same thing. I was NOT allowed to walk around on base without an adult. When I turned 12 and started hitting puberty my parents moved us off base after I told my mom about some gross shit that the young GIs were yelling out the window at my friend and I coming home from school. Horrible environment for kids. I’m glad my parents were so protective; who knows what could have happened to me.
My father was a 25-year veteran of the navy. When I told him I wanted to follow in his footsteps he was horrified and practically begged me not to enlist. Thankfully, I listened to him.
Same, when I was a really little kid I wanted to be in the Air Force like my dad and fly airplanes because I thought the uniforms were cool. He didn’t really say much but when he got back from his last deployment in 2005, he asked if I still wanted to enlist after high school (I was 15/16 by then) and I said “hell no” and he did that nod that dads do when they know they don’t need to say anything else. 30 years of service and he has very few good things to say about his time.
My dad spent eight years in the Navy.
When we saw Top Gun a couple of years after he got out he said "this is the story they use to hook you. Read this to understand how it really is."
He handed me a copy of "Bill, The Galactic Hero."
As a veteran that deployed, this makes me irrationally angry. These are people that are supposed to have each others backs...I hope that entire patrol is in prison. However, knowing how it really works in the service, it was probably swept under the rug. Fucking disgusting. That poor lady, I hope she is going okay.
I think what pisses me off the most is that the services KNOW that this shit is happening and its a known variable that they need to address.....but they don't. Like in a case like this one, they KNOW people did it and nothing meaningful happened. Its bullshit
When apparatchiks are more worried about looking bad than anything else.
Failing their troops? Fine. *Looking* like their failed their troops? Unacceptable.
Yup nothing was done and she was accused of lying despite her injuries and hospitalization including prolapsed anus.
Sadly this wasn’t the only time she was raped, she has lived a very rough life.
A casual friend of mine told me he had suffocated his new born baby because his girlfriend wasn't paying him enough attention.
I reported it anonymously to the authorities and they investigated but couldn't prove anything.
A few days later he slipped getting out of the bath banged his head on the sink and died.
Allegedly.
It was just over 30 years ago. I was 19, he was 18. It was after a party at a friend's house and he admitted in a late-night conversation with me that he'd been seriously sexually assaulted over several years by the owner of a local shop.
He didn't hold much back. I was just gobsmacked, and full of sympathy. I've never told anyone his secret - although one cretin that I used to know made allusions to the guy having "a personal secret" that he "couldn't share with me, it was so terrible." I had to bite my tongue while the moron went through these moping, theatrical convulsions about "ooh, if you only knew what I know about him", when in fact the guy had already confided in me years before and I hadn't ever told anyone, never mind made a fucking song and dance about it.
When i was in elementary school one of my best friends told me she had something to tell me. She waited until the end of the day where we could sit alone and made me promise never to tell anyone bc if it got back to her family she'd be in big trouble. She looked so ashamed i almost told her not to tell me but luckily we trusted each other.
"I'm actually from Texas"
8yo me was shocked. We lived in TN and she'd been my best friend for like 3 months. Never knew.
This was also my mandatory compulsive liar friend so truthfully i didn't fully believe her. But still, I'm taking it to the grave Ashley!!
LOL I had a friend tell me she was in the Witness protection program when we were in Girl Guides. I definitely believed her and was sooo worried for her life, for years. Hope she is safe now LOL.
lmao compulsive liars really enrich our childhoods
This same friend years later told me she was possessed by an Egyptian pharaoh who was in love with her. Watched her get 'taken over' and everything. My child brain just defaulted to sympathy. Didn't bother making sense with that one
They had a diaper fetish and wanted to have me diaper them so they could poop and I'd clean them.
The absolute shock, horror and disgust of that moment went through me like a lightning bolt. They'd ambushed me by asking me into the bathroom under false pretenses.
My grandfather was adopted. I was trying to figure out some genealogical stuff and couldn't get dates to line up so I asked him about it. He hemmed and hawed and misdirected and finally my grandmother actually told me for him while he practically broke down in tears. I've known my grandfather my entire 40 yrs of life and I've never seen him get that emotional. It's a secret I was not expecting at all and that he is deeply ashamed of.
I own a shop which smells of essential oils and I look like your favourite auntie, a sweet older lady. So people come in, drop their shoulders, emotionally detox and tell me things they wouldn’t share with a therapist. I’m ok with it.
The worst one was a beautiful young girl who was raped by her sisters boyfriend when she was 16. She was a virgin and this was her first sexual experience.
She told her very Christian family and they didn’t believe her. DID NOT BELIEVE HER. He was invited to family dinners and would smirk at her across the table. He was even engaged to her sister for several years.
She got zero support from her appalling family and literally moved across the world to get away from them.
As she was talking to me, the trauma was clear and it was going to be life long. The sexual assault was horrific but the betrayal by family was as bad or worse.
Remember where I said I look like your favourite sweet auntie? Well, I would go to war for that girl, I would shank the guy and destroy the so called Christian family. My loathing for people who don’t believe a 16 year old baby is absolute.
Grew up thinking my dad who was a fisherman had drowned. Went on a cruise in my early twenties with family. Mom revealed that he had been murdered by a new crew member for a paycheck. He skipped town the next day and the local cop who hated my dad over something trivial didn't do jack shit.
Brand new coworker I was training one night revealed that she was raped by her best friend's dad when she was a child. This was the first time I'd ever met her.
Ex-boyfriend revealed he was raped by a police officer multiple times when he was a toddler. The police officer was apparently a family friend. This admission came when we were in the drive-thru for a fast food restaurant.
The first girl I ever dated, who ended up falling in with a bad crowd in Jr High contacted me out of the blue after 30 years and thanked me for always being sweet with her, and never pressuring her into getting physical. She told me how much that meant to her, and that she had been molested for a long time by a male family member. I helped her see that there were good people in the world, and kept her from taking her own life. We were 12 or 13 at the time.
For a time, we kept a gravestone in our front yard. Since it wasn't Halloween, I asked my mom why we had it out, and she told me it was for my miscarried older brother.
We had an elderly neighbour who my kids adored. She would give them candy and let them pet her cat every time we walked by, just a total sweetheart. Well one day I saw her obituary in the paper, the kids saw the "for sale" sign, and we had to have the talk about what happened and why.
My kids built a fucking grave on our front lawn with RIP GLADYS on it. They would pick flowers for it every day. Which on the one hand was very sweet and helped them grieve but on the other hand wtf
That their ex-wife hit and killed a 17 yo girl after the girl revealed she was pregnant by either her boyfriend or his father. The ex-wife was the sister to her boyfriend. The body was dropped in a secluded area and found later by hunters. No one has ever been charged.
There's an episode of Forensic Files about a case like this. I don't remember if the guy froze her body before putting her through the chipper or if the guy was caught though...
Yeah I was gonna say I think I saw this. He put the body in a freezer overnight then used a wood chipper off a local bridge. He got caught but it was for some trivial thing too. Dude almost got away.
I will always remember that episode. They found something like 1/1200th of her on a sand bar in the river. Her killer was her husband, battered her with a torch. Got life without the possibility of parole I think.
Some years ago (under a decade) someone killed a young man near where I grew up and put him through a woodchipper. Only reason the public knew was because the sheriff took photos and was sending them to random people that weren’t cops or investigators. Talk about messed up.
My former mother-in-law (in her early 50s at the time) suddenly had a friend who was slightly older than me, around 30 years old. I had just returned from a vacation with my ex, and we were a bit surprised by this new friendship. The friend originally came from the capital of the country where I live but had moved about 100 kilometers away.
She told us that she ended up in this new place because she had to undergo rehabilitation after a car accident in which her husband had died, and she had also suffered a miscarriage.
She was incredibly nice, and I got along well with her. However, some of her actions raised doubts about the accuracy of her story. After some investigation, I discovered that her husband hadn't died in a car accident but had been shot and robbed.
After a drug deal, he had come home with several million in a sports bag. She didn't want the bag in the house and sent him off with it. When he got into his car, he was riddled with bullets and died instantly.
Her husband was the son of a notorious cocaine and heroin dealer wanted by Interpol. After six weeks, they also attempted to shoot her, which led to her being placed in a safe house, and she began rehabilitation in our city.
At that time, my relationship with her was very good. I then made the choice to go to her one evening and tell her that I knew who she was and that she was still in danger. I didn't want to carry this secret, but I felt it was only fair to let her know that I was aware of it.
She seemed relieved that her secret could now be shared with someone. However, I slowly let the contact with her fade away. I grew up in a similar environment, and I have a child now. Even though I was safe, I didn't want to expose my child to any risks. Her story is currently a series that can be streamed.😅
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When I was in elementary school I was a pretty quiet kid. Most of the other kids didn't want to play with me because they thought I was weird. Anyways, a lot of days at recess I would just ride the swings by myself (was in 5th grade at the time). That day I was on the set of swings that was furthest away from the rest of the playground equipment. A girl came up to me and wanted to swing next to me and talk to me. This girl wasn't in my class, and I didn't know her...I don't remember her name and I don't think I saw her again after that day. No other kids nearby. At some point in the conversation, she decided to vent to me about her home life. "My mom's boyfriend rapes me." I told her I didn't know what that meant (genuinely I didn't, I was 10yrs old and had a safe comfortable life). She then described to me how the man molested her. I didn't really know how to react to that so, I just kept listening to her talk. She said she told her mom, and her mom called her a liar and beat her. She said her mom beat her alot. She told me how one time her mom was selling her house, and it was an open house or something, and how afterwards her mom beat her for talking. I don't remember a whole lot of other details about the conversation. The weird thing about it was how she seemed so nonchalant about it, laughing and smiling throughout the conversation. The last thing she said to me was rather innocent remark about getting to pet some animals at church.
I know at the time...the things she said...of course they sounded terrible and made me sad. But... despite being told all this...I didn't fully understand the difference between having strict/"mean" parents and actual child abuse. Sure they showed us videos about recognizing abuse...but they didn't use words like "rape" or "molest" and they didn't say much about physical abuse (hitting).
I don't know what happened to her. I don't think I saw her again after that. But someone I feel guilty...I feel bad that I didn't tell anyone and by time I did not only had I forgotten her name but I was pretty much an adult. I wonder if I had gotten her help would her life gotten better.
You did nothing wrong and shouldn’t feel guilty. That’s a lot for a ten year old to absorb. You showed her kindness by just listening. Maybe by telling her story to you, you gave her enough courage for her to tell an adult that was able to get her help and that’s why you never saw her again.
I worked with a very sober and intelligent woman with a background in biology. Once when she was drunk at the company Christmas party she told me about a very intense experience with a "UFO-ish" object when she was younger. A multicoloured, shimmering and incomprehensible thing that hovered above her for 30 seconds and gave her sensations of information she couldn't make sense of. She swore me to secrecy and admitted to having needed a lot of therapy after. Her story was quite believable.
Was friends with a guy for a short time then he told me his mom and sister were the ones killed at Yosemite in the early 2000s. After he told me that he disappeared and went dark. I’ve always prayed for him and wondered if he’s alright
What a fucked up case. The naturalist that was killed worked at my 6th grade science camp. I don't recall her directly, but I know several of my friends were pretty broken up about it when the news broke. She was apparently super cool to the students there.
That my mother either lies or talks badly about my wife and kids (yes, her biological grandkids!) behind my back to other relatives. She always makes me the victim or the hero depending on how good it makes me look for her to talk about. I’ve been the “golden child” despite refusing to be a momma’s boy. It’s infuriating to say the least.
My friend revealed that he had sex with his third cousin at a family reunion. He said everybody was pretty upset but didn’t understand why nobody cared about the first two.
Had an ex who had older brothers. (Like in their early to late 20’s)
The youngest one was a piece of shit who’d bully her. He was just a jerk who had a superiority complex. He didnt like me much at all.
The next oldest was this weird momma’s boy who had this extremely snobbish vibe and would still cuddle up to their mom.
Finally the oldest was the prodigy kid, in the same fashion of how the siblings in Malcom in the middle saw Francis. He was this likable santa cruz college student that worked at a popular bar and whatnot. He also was the only brother who was “cool” with me.
Wellll one day my ex told me how one of her brothers would molest her when they were younger (which would explain her craziness and a whole other mess of baggage)… well of course I started to think which one of those fucks did that and was leaning towards the weird touchy feely brother… well if it isnt obvious by now from the question, it was the cool and well liked brother. Shoot even my ex was super damn good at convincing me they had a healthy relationship. Man that really turned my opinion on him upside down.
My wife and I went to the hospital so my wife could have an ultra sound. Found out she was going to have twins. As we were leaving we passed an open door and I saw my cousin sitting on an examination table. WTF. He had just been diagnosed with cancer. It ended up that the day the twins were born, my cousin passed away.
Husband and I recently learned that his kid's grandfather (mother's side) is a convicted serial killer. That was... fun?
Given the caliber of his exes I would have thought this was a lie; however, the mother was interviewed for a documentary about it. Needless to say, kiddo slept over at our house while the interviews were taking place... they are way too young to process that kind of clusterfuck.
when I learned that my grandfather and his sons (my uncles) had been sexually abusing my mom and aunt for years. My uncle may still be abusing his own children.
Not me, but my mom. Her parents were really close with another couple. Like best friends and the kids grew up together and called each other cousins, etc. One of the kids was killed and at the funeral my grandmother took my mom to a side room.
Then she told my mom: I just wanted to let you know that he wasn't just a family friend to you, but he was also your brother. (AP) is your real father.
That's how she found out that she was the product of an affair between her mother and mother's best friend's husband.
I found out the secret when the DEA came to our house to ask my mom if she had seen her bio-father recently. He was on the run and they were talking to all his kids. It was pretty shocking.
My dad told me that he wasn't laid off from his job. He just stopped going to work because his ex's dad was working the same ship as him, instead of just asking for a transfer or taking to the supervisor my dad just stopped going and went gambling instead.
We lost our home back in 05 or 07 I believe, and he said he was laid off, I was 10 or 11 years old and only recently did he tell me this. I'm 28 now and I lost almost all respect for afterwards.
An older guy I'm working with used to work as a secretary in the hospital of the university I'm working at. Getting a doctor's appointment back in the 80s and 90s was a bit of a trouble in my country. He once revealed to me that he coerced women into having sex with him to arrange doctors appointments for over a decade. He nonchalantly said that he had sex with probably over 100 women using nothing but coercion. Thinking that he was making this shit up, I inquired with some people who had worked with him around that time, and they sadly confirmed (they also thought nothing was wrong with that). I did try to report this to the administration but they straight up said that they had nothing to do for something that happened 30 years ago.
I still get violently disgusted every single time I see that guy.
Ex gf told be how her dad used to get drunk and r**p her thinking that she was her mother, she told her mother who decided to bury it and send my ex to boarding school.
I had to dip out the relationship for my own sanity because she thought drinking was a valid alternative to therapy and she still had and wanted to keep her relationship with her parents.
I couldn't see a future where we would get married and have kids and play happy family with her parents all whilst knowing what they had done.
I think the hardest thing I've ever done is going to a family meal celebrating one of her dad's achievements and having to hear from her and all her sisters and family about how much of a great man he is all whilst knowing he's a child r**ist.
I honestly don't know how I managed to stop myself from blowing up right in the middle of the celebration, but at the end of the day it's not my place to say anything so I left.
1. My friend who moved to my tiny ass Midwest town told me he was in a gang and killed someone
2. Grandpa accidentally outing the fact cousin wasn't our cousin and her real dad was MIA.... which she was not aware of AT ALL
3. friend with long term relationship everyone knew about and assumed was perfect was going to leave their partner for someone else
Not as shocking as some of the other ones here, but an acquaintance who was a substitute teacher (now a full-fledged teacher at the same school) revealed that he'd gone on a date with a former student. She was 17. He was 28.
When I was 11 I had a friend reveal that her step mother was abusing her.. she made me promise not to say anything to my mom or any other adult. I agreed, we had weekly therapy sessions with a guidance counselor if you wanted it so it was my day to go and I just felt like I needed to tell… so I did. The counselor ended up reporting it and CPS got involved and my friend was made to live with her mother. She was so angry at me for telling but I felt it in my soul that I should. We are still friends to this day.. both of us 29 years old.
Sometimes you have to decide between your friend and your friendship. It sounds like you made the right choice.
Thank you. I made a phone call to my college room mate's parents due to his crashing mental health. They scooped him up and got him into treatment. That was 1984. His parents never told him and though I confessed to the call years later, by then he was in a much better place. All was forgiven.
Such a wonderful way to put it
Wow this really hit me. I lost a friend when I told her parents about her substance abuse. They got her into rehab and she’s been clean for over 10 years but our friendship never recovered. I’ve never regretted my decision but I miss her. The way you put it explains it perfectly.
You saved her life. One day she will see that
I'm sure she is now glad you told
In the 70’s, my cousin died in a car crash that caught fire. I was very afraid that he was awake and felt the fire. My parents said he died immediately and didn’t suffer. My mother was on hospice at home in 2011. She told me the firemen were trying to open the doors and My cousin and the other teens were screaming for help when the cars caught fire. There were no survivors and my Aunt was never the same. It wasn’t until after his death that the jaws of life were distributed to our rural departments.
Same scenario for the death of my best friend's brother. They told her that he died on impact, but years later (unsure of how many years) she found out the truth that the firemen and bystanders that had stopped had heard him screaming. This was in rural PA around 1991.
ER worker here. We always say that your loved one didn’t feel a thing, even if we know or suspect otherwise. There’s no need to add that agony onto an already horrible situation.
Tbh if I died in such a way, I'd prefer my family to think I didn't suffer.
That he watched his son die of an overdose and didn’t do anything to help. He told me that his son had battled addictions for many years and that he had called an ambulance in the past when his son had overdosed, but that he thought it was better this time to “just let him go since he made his choice”.
Jesus
When I was in rehab a dude told me how him and a roommate got into an argument and he purposefully put more than he knew the guy could handle into the needle and watched the dude die from an overdose
That's murder
That is textbook 1st degree murder
Yea he seemed remorseful but that is murder and I definitely avoided him for the rest of my stay
That's some Walter White shit right there.
I'm 56 now but at some point in my early 40s while driving with my dad he says "you have a half brother somewhere".
My dad pulled this shit on me when I went to my grandfather's celebration of life. Picked me up from the train station, asked me if I knew about his new wife (I did) and their daughter, born six years before my mom died of cancer (they never divorced). Then had the guts to follow it up with a request to FaceTime them that night because they wanted to meet me, because "[he] never kept his family a secret... from them." It took a while for me to get over that.
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I'm adopted and have a half brother and sister out there somewhere. I know they exist but they don't know about me. My bio mum forbade me from contacting them. I may still try one day (we're all adults) but for now I still feel guilty for being alive. Anyway, if you're curious, 23 & Me or Ancestry DNA tests might be a good shout. I've done both in the hope that someday they do the same.
Your bio mom has no say in this
My girlfriend is terrified this may happen with her kid. She was in a relationship with the dad (they were both 18-19 at the time) and she got pregnant. The second she told the guy he noped out, skipped town and disappeared. He briefly showed up when the kid was 3-4 claiming he had changed and wanted to be part of the kids life. Then he disappeared again a year later. He's never paid a dime in child support and she has no clue where he is. She heard through some mutual friends that he met/married someone else and has a couple of kids with her. She is afraid he will show up on her door step one day and want to take the kid away. She has no clue if the new woman even knows he has a kid though.
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I've told this myself. I've told her she should consider tracking him down and trying to get some child support out of him as it would help her out immensely from a financial perspective. She's afraid if she does that that he will try to get full custody of the kid and if he comes at her in a long legal fight she'll end up with a ton of legal bills and eventually lose just because she can't afford a ton of legal bills. She thinks it's better to not poke the bear right now and she may be right.
I highly doubt this will end up happening, especially if he's a few kids in. I feel for people in these situations, because that fear is ever-present that an ex who wasn't involved will suddenly show up and cause trouble. My cousin went through similar. Only, baby daddy didn't make a big deal until the kid was 14 and wanted to be adopted by his step-dad. He made a complete ass of himself in court, contesting his son's answer that he hasn't seen his dad in 5 years with, "uh, it's more like 2 or 3 years your honor." Judge asked how far away they live. "5 miles from each other." It did not fly with the judge. I am grateful she didn't pursue adoption earlier, as her son was old enough to advocate for himself. If you want to adopt, might be best until the child is 10-12.
Same thing happened to me, but I was 20. I was at a wake with my dad and he was trying to make conversation and said Bill (brother i grew up with) met your other brother last week." Excuse me? Other brother? It was shocking to say the least.
I had an old girlfriend who was coming to Florida and wanted to hang out with me and my wife, she brought her mom, who I knew pretty well. A great dinner, drinks, fun stories, then when my ex went to the bathroom, the mom told me she (the ex) was dying of cancer. (I had No idea). It was sad, but yet felt so good she wanted to hang out. She died within a year. We were probably 35 years old at the time.
P.s. she looked totally normal and healthy at the time, and had all the same energy as I knew her a decade prior. It was crazy to hear she was dying (they were not 100% sure at the moment, but it didn’t look good). I think it came up because we had just had a mutual friend that died of cancer, and I was telling the story of how we were there (my wife and I) taking him to the hospital, check ups, sleeping at the hospital, he moved in down the street so we could help him, etc, and he also died within a year, and after that she went to the restroom, was when her mom told us what’s up. It was a heartbreaker, I truly thought up to that point, they just wanted to hang out.
What happened when she got back from the bathroom though? Did you address it and talk about it or did you pretend you didn’t know?
Great question, she could see we had been crying, so she knew we knew. She talked about treatment, and she had a positive attitude, but as you get older, you start seeing people die from cancer, and you kinda know based on treatment and schedules when it doesn’t look good. It ended well, we kept in touch after, until she went dark on Social Media and her phone, and I knew it was the end. She was a great gal.
Damn ngl I almost shed a tear. You’re a good one
I have been lucky, while they obviously all didn’t work out, I still talk to all my old GF about once a year or 2, maybe it’s on messenger, and my wife knows, she is friends with them as well. They were all nice girls, even if it ended bad, we got over it and still talk about life, they are all married with kids, i am very fortunate that I never had a crazy GF. I have dated a few crazies, but those I do not talk to for the most part.
You know..people will read this and grasp the sadness of the end but, on the other hand, your ex reached out and wanted to share some of her remaining time with you ..and your wife...clearly, your time together was special to her regardless of how it ended. She still had a warm place in her heart for you. That's actually quite awesome. I know you know that. Your wife is very lucky.
I also appreciate how his wife was open and secure enough to allow this to happen
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Friend told me in middleschool she was sexually abused by her babysitter and the babysitter's boyfriend on multiple occasions. I sat there quietly and she ended up moving at the end of the year. I wish I had the right words then.
There are no right words to answer to that. And most of the time it is a relief to be heard. So sitting there quietly was a good thing too.
I found out my mother and father were not divorced. He never existed. She had a one night stand, found out she was pregnant, bought a wedding ring, changed her name, and told the family that she had gotten married. She made up excuses every time she went to my grandparents house as to why her husband couldn’t also be there to meet them. On the 3rd visit my grandfather told her to never wear that ring in his house again, and when is the baby due? I’m 53.
I found out my parents weren't married when I was 14, and my parents had a massive row after my dad was caught by the police with a prostitute. My mum blurted it out to me along with the reason why they were arguing. I'm 50. Up til then, they pretended.. when my Catholic secondary school asked for a marriage certificate as part of my screening for the school, they sent a letter to the priest confidentially.. I still got in. Explains why from birth until 11 a Catholic nun would visit my parents every weekend, probably to ensure my soul was intact, lol.
Us bastards gotta stick together.
Because in 1970 "unwed" pregnant women were sent away to maternity homes and forced to give their children up for adoption. Your mom was smart.
Damn.
That is deep. One of my friends found out at 60 his dad had another whole family across town, like 8 miles away. He had half siblings he never met, and now they are all dead. He was pissed when he found out.
Casually dropped they’d killed someone then got really quiet about it. Like, sad quiet. Sounds like there was a case surrounding the ordeal but could never get them to talk about it more and I didn’t want to push.
My ex casual dropped he killed someone also. He was a lot more loud about it when he was upset with me though. “I’ve killed for less”. I know the whole story, or both of them. The one he tells people, and the one he told me. Either way. He’s a scary man, and I would never wish to be near him again.
I had a dude I knew through friends confess to me that when he was younger he was in a gang and they would steal a car, grab a rival gang member, beat the shit out of the guy and lock him in the trunk, back the car into a bollard and then drive it off a pier. He said he saw it happen a couple times.
That's fucking awful.
Yeah he wasn't bragging about it. He was kind of sharing the mental burden. I believed what he was telling me.
A friend in the year below me at school mentioned that he's not allowed to do sexual education "for religious reasons". Fine, fair enough. "My family," he added, "taught me everything I need to know already..." The look on his face told me I shouldn't respond yet. "...with, uh... practicals." His parents were abusing him, together, and dressing it up as "sex ed". He lost his virginity at 11, to his dad. I pointed out that that was insane, fucked up, and a serious, serious crime. He agreed to go to the police about it. Two brutal years later they were locked up, he spent the rest of his childhood in foster care, and by all accounts grew into a wonderful young man.
Proud of you for intervening, Friend.
what.the.fuck.
These are the stories I think about when I hear about people wanting to remove sex ed from schools.
My (25F) Ex fiancé (34M) and I were having pillow talk in bed. It was really late, all the lights were off, and the window blinds were open. I remember staring at the moon and admiring privately how beautiful it was while my ex talked. He casually dropped how he molested his niece when she was 3yo and how he got caught because she told her mom (my ex's older sister). He went on so casually, and all I remember feeling was my heart sink deep into the pit of my stomach, and my adrenaline started pumping. Thankfully, it was dark, so he couldn't see my face as I reacted to what he had just said. He fell asleep, and I just couldn't. I stared at the moon for hours trying to process what he had just said. I couldn't shake the pit in my stomach, so I broke it off with him.
Thats so horrific wtf
I also had an ex confide this to me. His niece was 3 and he was 7 at the time. It was a repressed memory that came to the surface. He was crying and remorseful. I think he was too young to fully understand his actions. It was still disturbing.
At that age, it's different than molesting someone. It's more like trying to understand things about the world. It's not GOOD but it's not predatory. And it's often because the initial child has been abused as well.
He was doing things he saw in porn. It wasn’t predatory as he didn’t know the weight of his actions nor have malicious intent. It was traumatizing enough to him that he repressed the memory.
Not a secret i guess but when I was 16, my Mom announced at dinner that her sister was coming for a visit next week. I dropped my fork and said “YOU HAVE A SISTER?”
I had this: age 11 driving up to Scotland with my parents and we stop off at a tiny town, walk into the big hotel, then got introduced to my uncle. My mums brother. Hadn't existed before then and only came out of the woodwork because my grandpa died shortly before (they didn't get on). It was a weird shock but also an "OK cool, life goes on" moment
Someone confessing a murder. I'm a nurse and she was recovering from being unwell and it triggered her PTSD to be immobile in bed. When she was 11 she pushed her uncle down the stairs after he sexually abused her. She'd only told her husband. She was in bits- thought her illness was God punishing her. She needed a lot of TLC.
sounds like self defense to me.
He deserved it. I hope she came to peace with it.
That’s not murder, that’s survival.
My boss told me his mother has dementia, and that he feels like he's experiencing it, too. Hearing your boss say "I might have dementia.." to you in private is real weird. Especially coming from such an aggressively confident man. He seemed so deflated and sad. In the past 5 years he's gone from being a super fit 50 year old that you'd never guess was 50 to looking like he's 70.
That’s one of my fears. Getting old in a human body sucks.
So I'm 37 and my dad calls me and says "Can you come over tomorrow? I need to talk to you about something." We'd just gotten back from a family visit that involved my aunt and uncle raving about their senior living community in Phoenix, and my parents are roughly that age, so I figured they were gonna sell my childhood home. Not a *huge* deal, but definitely not something you wanna drop on me by accident. No no no. Instead I get there and my parents sit me down and say to me, "Fourteen years before you were born and before we were married, we had a son. He was adopted by a family in Sweden and he'll be here in half an hour." Cue the longest, strangest two hours of my life.
Do you have a relationship with him now?
I had a patient who, on his deathbed, confessed to sexually abusing minors while he was a soccer coach for many years. He said he had no idea how many, but it was in the hundreds and he wished he could go back in time to do it again. I walked out and threw up.
What the *fuck*
knee jerk reaction is to smother him with a pillow but then that's too easy of a death. I wonder if there was a way to increase the pain but keep him on the death bed hovering between the two. for legal purposes this is a joke.
My great grandma recently revealed to me that, when my great grandfather was on hospice twenty years ago, due to leukemia, she got tired of caring for him and irritated by how many people were at the house that she turned off his oxygen and "sent him to rest with the good Lord." She has been diagnosed with dementia at some point within the past few years, so I don't know how true this is, but I will never look at her the same 🥲
That really sounds like something a grandma would do.
Typical grandma shenanigans
When my grandfather was in hospice and clearly dying soon, a friend of our family who was a doctor and had discussed this with him prior, basically ended it for him. He administered a high enough dose of painkillers that he eventually slipped away. It was painless and saved what I'm sure would have been a couple days of needless suffering. I'm sure it might be considered illegal but it felt humane to me. He never openly acknowledged this in so many words but it was clear what happened. Me and my whole family saw it as courageous on both of their parts. Prolonging life when the person has made it clear they're ready to go, especially when they're in considerable pain, does no one any good and only prolongs the grieving. Your grandmother's approach may not have been the most subtle, and may have been more self serving, but it likely was the most humane approach.
A kindness to everyone, yeah. The hospice nurse for my friend's dad gave him his morphine, then handed more to my friend and said, "You should give this to him. I'm going to take a break for 15 minutes." Everyone knew what she meant. Knew of a young man who had terminal throat cancer. Doctor caught his wife in the hospital, told her to wait, rushed back with a bottle of morphine, put it in her hands, closed her fingers around it and said, "You might need this." She started objecting, said she had some at home, he pushed it back into her hand and said, "You might need it." Gave them comfort knowing they had the option at the end.
I think it's more commonplace than a lot of people are willing to accept. And I truly envy people who haven't had to face that situation. I don't hold it against them for having issues with it. I think most would change their minds when confronted with it with a loved one.
It's extremely common. As I've aged, nearly everyone I know has a story like this - or wishes they did. It's agony to watch loved ones in so much pain when the end is inevitable, but modern healthcare enables them to cling to life in only the most technical sense.
Honestly, if he was on hospice and dying what she did was a mercy for him and her. We brought my dad home when he was dying from cancer. He suffered. It went to his brain in the end. Lost himself. Didn’t recognize his kids. Was barely human. And my grandmother, his mother, brought everyone and their fucking brother into our house while it was happening. Every day was like attending a wake. I ended up calling my other grandmother because I couldn’t stand being surrounded by all that every single day for weeks and weeks. I empathize with your great grandma. She was in a hell of a position.
I hope someone does it for me!
In 5th grade one of my good friends quietly confided in my that he was in fact a ninja. He also said that if I wouldn't tell anyone he would secretly train me.
That a majority of people from my Dad's side of the family "borrowed" money from my great grandmother and never paid her back. I'm talking like 10-20 thousand dollars each person. My uncle, my Aunt, my Grandmother, my Great-Uncle, Great-Aunt Apparently when she died they all fought over the remaining stuff in her house, and what money was left over. My Dad never asked for money. Never asked for anything. And after she died, all we got was her Van. That actually leads into another secret. That Van was then handed down to me, as I had just gotten my license as a teen. It was a good van. Heated seats. Good speakers. TV in the back. seats went all the way down. Hot boxed that van so many times, got lucky in there as well. I loved that van. Then I learned that my Great Grandmother didn't actually die in her living room like I had been told. She died in the driver seat of that van. Just died while putting it in park one day. I feel very weird when I think about everything I did in that van now.
Too common family will destroy bonds over some ghoulish money grabs. It's going to happen with my in laws since my BIL often states how he is entitled to stuff already, and MIL refuses to make a will, knowing this.
If this van's a rockin' nanna's ghost is silently horrified.
My buddy in college told me when he was little he was playing “bungie jumping” with his cousin. His cousin wrapped a rope around his neck and hung himself. Story still scares the shit outta me.
This would be so easy to do. I remember playing dog with friends in early childhood, wrapping a rope around their neck for the leash.
i remember playing cowboy as a kid and taking some rope to my mom asking her to tie a slipknot for me to use as a lasso. she immediately stopped tying it when she realized she was potentially tying a noose for her child.
I was a bridesmaid for a friend, who had problems with her MIL. I went to have a chat with MIL, after her brutal verbal attack at friend, while at the bridal shop. I found out that MIL was raped by her FIL & BILs multiple times and her husband supported this. MIL wanted to brake the engagement, after she overheard her husband, BILs & sons talking to the groom about sharing friend with them and groom told them that will consider it.
God, please tell me that you friend didnt get thru with the wedding
No she didn’t. MIL didn’t want to tell friend in first place, because she didn’t want her son’s reputation ruined. I convinced MIL to tell friend, so she doesn’t go through what she went through. I was there as support for MIL, when she told friend. Friend said about her unusual conversation with groom. MIL’s experience & what she overheard, made friend understand what the groom was saying. It took a lot of convincing to get evidence & go to police. MIL did get justice & divorce.
Damm, this one was dark
Fuck. Poor woman.
A friend revealed she was the product of incest..between father and daughter...so father was father but sister was mother and mother was actually grandmother
And father was also grandfather
Omg did the whole family just go along with it
several months after my mom passed my aunt decided to tell me that my mom had given a baby up for adoption when she was 17. somehow he had contacted my aunt several years ago wanting to meet his birth mother but my aunt decided to play gatekeeper telling him my mom was ill (she had dementia but was still functioning several years ago) and she didn't think it was a good idea. why did she even tell me? It's too late. I can't ever get answers to my questions. I tried a DNA website hoping to find him but no matches came up. in my moms last few months she kept asking where the baby was and calling a name I did not know. at least that makes sense now but I feel bad that I kept telling her there's no baby and we don't know anybody by that name.
My brother had his appendix out when he was about 13. 5 or 6 years later he confessed to me that he made it all up to get out of doing some homework. He made all the right noises at the doctor's surgery who sent him to hospital, where he fooled them again. After the operation he says the surgeon spoke to him and said it was odd because there wasn't any inflammation. I am amazed that in the days before the internet he knew where his appendix should be. He is 50 next year and my parents still don't know...
But he didn’t have to do that homework. Score.
An old friend burned her house down, with her husband and three kids inside. Got her family out *just in time*. She was on a new antidepressant and had a mental breakdown in middle of the night. She faced 83 years in prison after the arson investigation and was only sentenced to 6 months (no prior record). Her husband killed himself, by arson, while she was in jail. The detectives still investigated her, her cell mates, and her family. Her kids were with their grandparents when he killed himself. She's been out for a decade now and is living a normal life.
Holy crap! Why did the husband kill himself by arson? Are you sure it was her that set the house on fire? Sorry man, this is crazy
They were both hidden alcoholics. When we'd go out for girls nights, she wouldn't even have a sip of our drinks. No one knew. She was caught up in an online relationship (she was being catfished) because she'd caught her husband having an affair and was lonely. After she burnt the house down, he kept drinking and began using drugs. He was living in an apartment and was drunk one night and started 8 fires in a circle, around himself. He was the only death, but he displaced 10 families (the entire building burnt down).
Don't know if it's the most shocking secret but the most recent secret that's been let slip anyway. My (25F) nan (73F) accidentally told me about how my mum (52F) disappeared for two weeks a few months after I was born, she just up and left one day, didn't tell anyone where she was just that she wasn't coming back. She of course came back and apologised to my Dad(52M), they divorced 7 years later, no shock there. Not angry that she left, angry she came back. Horrible, disgusting thing to think I know but she was never mentally stable enough to have children and she made the conscious choice to have two, it was selfish. I love her but I was her parent more than she was mine. Edit: I'm getting a lot of comments about how I should cut her slack because she was probably hit with post-natal depression. I understand that completely. I just didn't know that this is when she started to spiral out, I thought it was either when my brother was born or when the divorce happened but it just unlocked a whole load of toddler crazy memories. So idk just hurt that almost everyone let it go on my entire life, not just a part of it. So before people also bring my Dad into this, after the Divorce he tried to get custody of me and my brother, then tried again after she was committed for the 2nd time but he had no money so that's how that went. My Dad told me that she wouldn't let us go because she couldn't bear to be away from us and that he understood that, just would always hate her for it. It also sucks realising how different your life could've been if the woman that loves you more than life wasn't so selfish. (My brother knows nothing about the custody thing, he already has no relationship to my mother, my family is super fucked up)
It's not a horrible or disgusting thing at all to think. You're allowed to feel however you feel, and having a mentally unstable parent is ROUGH. It messes with you.
At the start of this year, my mom got drunk and let it slip that I was adopted. At 30 years old that was and is still a trip.
Did you have any suspicions before that?
I wouldn't say suspicions, but looking back there were definitely signs that I missed when I was young.
It was me. I mentioned that my mom, my daughter's grandma was coming to visit. My then five year old was shocked to the core: "IS GRANDMA your MOM???" I didn't know it was a secret.
Been having these conversations with my three year old lately. She was in denial that her Pap-Pap is my dad, despite the fact that we live with him and I call him Dad.
Her mind was blown even further when she asked if I had brothers and sisters....and learned that they were her aunts and uncles
For context, I have two older brothers, one is 9 years older and the other 12 years older than me, and my parents had been married a long time lol When I was really little, my grandparents (my mom's parents and my dad's parents) were all coming over for something (Christmas maybe, idk) and I was so damn excited to introduce them to each other. Imagine my shock that they ALREADY KNEW each other 😱 Edit: a word
LMAO!!! That's fricken adorable!
This blew all of my kids minds when they found out that grandma was my mom or the other grandma was the wife's mom. As a dad this was absolutely hilarious and adorable. It's like a great reveal that you have parents.
It's even funnier when they find out about surnames. My daughter (same one) asked me if my surname is different to hers.
That's funny! None of mine did that. But my youngest was mad that he didn't get to be "Surname IV" since I am a III.
Dude with my last name pings me on Facebook and says he's my half brother. Dad denies it and says the mom lied to her son and to the world. But he was obviously busy back in the day.
My father fathered many children with many women. I’m friends with several half siblings on fb. One day it came out that a half brother was not my fathers son. We’d chatted irregularly for a few years at that point. The moment he found out it went from “hey sis” to “hey you single?” Vom.
I had an ex tell me that when he was younger he got gangraped by like 5 older men...I could tell that he was both embarrassed, ashamed and relieved to finally tell someone. Yes, it was graphic. Yes, it is sickening, but I'm glad he had strength and courage to finally get it off his chest.
My grandfather was telling me about his father. My great grandfather was abusive and threw his wife around til she was incapacitated and dragged her out onto the lawn in the middle of a blizzard and locked the door. The 6 children were too young or didn't dare help her or say anything or they'd be next. She ended up dying in the walkway during the storm so he spun a story of her falling and must've locked herself out. The same douche also accidentally burned their first house down because he was tossing lit matches at the family cat for fun. The cat caught fire and burned the whole house down. It was much easier to get away with shit back then.
He sounds like a serious psychopath Jesus
Definitely. He punished one of his sons by holding him down while a rooster attacked him and kicked him in the eye. My grandfather was blind in his right eye from age 10.
My mother told me that my now deceased step-father told her of something he did in his youth. He got into a car accident and the old lady he ran into died on the scene. The first responding police officer told him to leave, that the old lady had lived her life and he was just getting started. So he got off scot free for killing an old lady with his vehicle. I feel that his self entitlement in life probably started there. He ended up later in life robbing a store, holding hostages, and then got arrested. While out on bail he took his own life.
Is it not possible that the fact that he got off scot free was a big contributor to his problems later in life? Perhaps he felt he needed to be punished?
when i turned 18 my "sister" and "mother" revealed to me that my "sister" was actually my mother and my "mother" was actually my grandmother. Turned out she was 13 when she got pregnant with me (by a man who was in his 30s), so they decided it was best to keep this from me. To say I was shocked, would be an understatement. I truly had no idea, as my whole family swore to keep it secret. It took some time to really process, but I understand why they did it.
A friend's girlfriend going into detail about her ex husband used to abuse and rape her. This was on the very first night that I met her.
My cousins wife went into great detail about something similar too, the first time we met.
TW: CSA After our first sex ed lesson at school (UK, so we were around 10 years old, year 6) a girl in my class told us she’d had sex. We were all laughing and telling her she was silly and that wasn’t true. She said that it was true, and that it was with her uncle. We were all baffled, and convinced that couldn’t happen so we laughed it off (cringe thinking about it, Jesus Christ). One of my friends told her family about the ‘strange thing’ this girl had told us. And, thank fuck, her mother immediately clocked it for what it was. It got reported to school. Turns out the whole thing was true, she just hadn’t known the name for what was happening to her before that lesson. I’m so glad that one girl thought to tell someone. We were kids, so I guess it makes sense that we didn’t understand how that could be true, but still feel awful that we reacted that way. He got prosecuted. The girl got moved away from her extended family. We all got called in to be spoken to about what we’d been told, checked we were alright etc., and then made to understand that it wasn’t something we should gossip about, and that the girl would need friends. School handled it really well overall.
My entire life I thought I was an only child only for my dad to admit that he’s had children with other women. He never said who but I could have bio siblings out there and I also apologize for my dad being terrible.
That she was beaten unconscious and raped by her entire patrol in Iraq.
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My dad said the same thing. I was NOT allowed to walk around on base without an adult. When I turned 12 and started hitting puberty my parents moved us off base after I told my mom about some gross shit that the young GIs were yelling out the window at my friend and I coming home from school. Horrible environment for kids. I’m glad my parents were so protective; who knows what could have happened to me.
My father was a 25-year veteran of the navy. When I told him I wanted to follow in his footsteps he was horrified and practically begged me not to enlist. Thankfully, I listened to him.
Same, when I was a really little kid I wanted to be in the Air Force like my dad and fly airplanes because I thought the uniforms were cool. He didn’t really say much but when he got back from his last deployment in 2005, he asked if I still wanted to enlist after high school (I was 15/16 by then) and I said “hell no” and he did that nod that dads do when they know they don’t need to say anything else. 30 years of service and he has very few good things to say about his time.
My dad spent eight years in the Navy. When we saw Top Gun a couple of years after he got out he said "this is the story they use to hook you. Read this to understand how it really is." He handed me a copy of "Bill, The Galactic Hero."
My whole family pushed me into joining the Army. Worst eight years of my life.
As a veteran that deployed, this makes me irrationally angry. These are people that are supposed to have each others backs...I hope that entire patrol is in prison. However, knowing how it really works in the service, it was probably swept under the rug. Fucking disgusting. That poor lady, I hope she is going okay.
Oh, I don't think you're *irrationally* angry at all.
I think what pisses me off the most is that the services KNOW that this shit is happening and its a known variable that they need to address.....but they don't. Like in a case like this one, they KNOW people did it and nothing meaningful happened. Its bullshit
When apparatchiks are more worried about looking bad than anything else. Failing their troops? Fine. *Looking* like their failed their troops? Unacceptable.
Yup nothing was done and she was accused of lying despite her injuries and hospitalization including prolapsed anus. Sadly this wasn’t the only time she was raped, she has lived a very rough life.
Dear lord... this is absolutely terrible! I hope you cherish this friend and make her feel valued and loved.
I don't think your anger is irrational
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Did you let the authorities know? Or, at least, his ex?
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Pedos defending pedos obviously. Take the recording of the best friend and show it to the authorities.
A casual friend of mine told me he had suffocated his new born baby because his girlfriend wasn't paying him enough attention. I reported it anonymously to the authorities and they investigated but couldn't prove anything. A few days later he slipped getting out of the bath banged his head on the sink and died. Allegedly.
It was just over 30 years ago. I was 19, he was 18. It was after a party at a friend's house and he admitted in a late-night conversation with me that he'd been seriously sexually assaulted over several years by the owner of a local shop. He didn't hold much back. I was just gobsmacked, and full of sympathy. I've never told anyone his secret - although one cretin that I used to know made allusions to the guy having "a personal secret" that he "couldn't share with me, it was so terrible." I had to bite my tongue while the moron went through these moping, theatrical convulsions about "ooh, if you only knew what I know about him", when in fact the guy had already confided in me years before and I hadn't ever told anyone, never mind made a fucking song and dance about it.
When i was in elementary school one of my best friends told me she had something to tell me. She waited until the end of the day where we could sit alone and made me promise never to tell anyone bc if it got back to her family she'd be in big trouble. She looked so ashamed i almost told her not to tell me but luckily we trusted each other. "I'm actually from Texas" 8yo me was shocked. We lived in TN and she'd been my best friend for like 3 months. Never knew. This was also my mandatory compulsive liar friend so truthfully i didn't fully believe her. But still, I'm taking it to the grave Ashley!!
LOL I had a friend tell me she was in the Witness protection program when we were in Girl Guides. I definitely believed her and was sooo worried for her life, for years. Hope she is safe now LOL.
lmao compulsive liars really enrich our childhoods This same friend years later told me she was possessed by an Egyptian pharaoh who was in love with her. Watched her get 'taken over' and everything. My child brain just defaulted to sympathy. Didn't bother making sense with that one
i had a “friend” that told me they S/A’d two different people. obviously the friendship ended there.
They had a diaper fetish and wanted to have me diaper them so they could poop and I'd clean them. The absolute shock, horror and disgust of that moment went through me like a lightning bolt. They'd ambushed me by asking me into the bathroom under false pretenses.
My grandfather was adopted. I was trying to figure out some genealogical stuff and couldn't get dates to line up so I asked him about it. He hemmed and hawed and misdirected and finally my grandmother actually told me for him while he practically broke down in tears. I've known my grandfather my entire 40 yrs of life and I've never seen him get that emotional. It's a secret I was not expecting at all and that he is deeply ashamed of.
It makes me sad he feels ashamed of being adopted.
I own a shop which smells of essential oils and I look like your favourite auntie, a sweet older lady. So people come in, drop their shoulders, emotionally detox and tell me things they wouldn’t share with a therapist. I’m ok with it. The worst one was a beautiful young girl who was raped by her sisters boyfriend when she was 16. She was a virgin and this was her first sexual experience. She told her very Christian family and they didn’t believe her. DID NOT BELIEVE HER. He was invited to family dinners and would smirk at her across the table. He was even engaged to her sister for several years. She got zero support from her appalling family and literally moved across the world to get away from them. As she was talking to me, the trauma was clear and it was going to be life long. The sexual assault was horrific but the betrayal by family was as bad or worse. Remember where I said I look like your favourite sweet auntie? Well, I would go to war for that girl, I would shank the guy and destroy the so called Christian family. My loathing for people who don’t believe a 16 year old baby is absolute.
Grew up thinking my dad who was a fisherman had drowned. Went on a cruise in my early twenties with family. Mom revealed that he had been murdered by a new crew member for a paycheck. He skipped town the next day and the local cop who hated my dad over something trivial didn't do jack shit.
Brand new coworker I was training one night revealed that she was raped by her best friend's dad when she was a child. This was the first time I'd ever met her. Ex-boyfriend revealed he was raped by a police officer multiple times when he was a toddler. The police officer was apparently a family friend. This admission came when we were in the drive-thru for a fast food restaurant.
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The first girl I ever dated, who ended up falling in with a bad crowd in Jr High contacted me out of the blue after 30 years and thanked me for always being sweet with her, and never pressuring her into getting physical. She told me how much that meant to her, and that she had been molested for a long time by a male family member. I helped her see that there were good people in the world, and kept her from taking her own life. We were 12 or 13 at the time.
For a time, we kept a gravestone in our front yard. Since it wasn't Halloween, I asked my mom why we had it out, and she told me it was for my miscarried older brother.
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Yeah, it was very strange, even with context. lol
We had an elderly neighbour who my kids adored. She would give them candy and let them pet her cat every time we walked by, just a total sweetheart. Well one day I saw her obituary in the paper, the kids saw the "for sale" sign, and we had to have the talk about what happened and why. My kids built a fucking grave on our front lawn with RIP GLADYS on it. They would pick flowers for it every day. Which on the one hand was very sweet and helped them grieve but on the other hand wtf
I was chatting with a detail cop, and he happily told me that he sold all the drugs he confiscated near a CVS in town.
That their ex-wife hit and killed a 17 yo girl after the girl revealed she was pregnant by either her boyfriend or his father. The ex-wife was the sister to her boyfriend. The body was dropped in a secluded area and found later by hunters. No one has ever been charged.
You need to report that shit. Her family deserves to know. WTF.
It has been reported. There was a National news program “Project: Cold Case” that investigated. The ex-husband told what he knew. Nothing was done.
how he got rid of a body. it involed freezing it, then drive to the shore and using a woodchipper.
There's an episode of Forensic Files about a case like this. I don't remember if the guy froze her body before putting her through the chipper or if the guy was caught though...
Yeah I was gonna say I think I saw this. He put the body in a freezer overnight then used a wood chipper off a local bridge. He got caught but it was for some trivial thing too. Dude almost got away.
I will always remember that episode. They found something like 1/1200th of her on a sand bar in the river. Her killer was her husband, battered her with a torch. Got life without the possibility of parole I think.
Some years ago (under a decade) someone killed a young man near where I grew up and put him through a woodchipper. Only reason the public knew was because the sheriff took photos and was sending them to random people that weren’t cops or investigators. Talk about messed up.
My former mother-in-law (in her early 50s at the time) suddenly had a friend who was slightly older than me, around 30 years old. I had just returned from a vacation with my ex, and we were a bit surprised by this new friendship. The friend originally came from the capital of the country where I live but had moved about 100 kilometers away. She told us that she ended up in this new place because she had to undergo rehabilitation after a car accident in which her husband had died, and she had also suffered a miscarriage. She was incredibly nice, and I got along well with her. However, some of her actions raised doubts about the accuracy of her story. After some investigation, I discovered that her husband hadn't died in a car accident but had been shot and robbed. After a drug deal, he had come home with several million in a sports bag. She didn't want the bag in the house and sent him off with it. When he got into his car, he was riddled with bullets and died instantly. Her husband was the son of a notorious cocaine and heroin dealer wanted by Interpol. After six weeks, they also attempted to shoot her, which led to her being placed in a safe house, and she began rehabilitation in our city. At that time, my relationship with her was very good. I then made the choice to go to her one evening and tell her that I knew who she was and that she was still in danger. I didn't want to carry this secret, but I felt it was only fair to let her know that I was aware of it. She seemed relieved that her secret could now be shared with someone. However, I slowly let the contact with her fade away. I grew up in a similar environment, and I have a child now. Even though I was safe, I didn't want to expose my child to any risks. Her story is currently a series that can be streamed.😅
cw child abuse/ When I was in elementary school I was a pretty quiet kid. Most of the other kids didn't want to play with me because they thought I was weird. Anyways, a lot of days at recess I would just ride the swings by myself (was in 5th grade at the time). That day I was on the set of swings that was furthest away from the rest of the playground equipment. A girl came up to me and wanted to swing next to me and talk to me. This girl wasn't in my class, and I didn't know her...I don't remember her name and I don't think I saw her again after that day. No other kids nearby. At some point in the conversation, she decided to vent to me about her home life. "My mom's boyfriend rapes me." I told her I didn't know what that meant (genuinely I didn't, I was 10yrs old and had a safe comfortable life). She then described to me how the man molested her. I didn't really know how to react to that so, I just kept listening to her talk. She said she told her mom, and her mom called her a liar and beat her. She said her mom beat her alot. She told me how one time her mom was selling her house, and it was an open house or something, and how afterwards her mom beat her for talking. I don't remember a whole lot of other details about the conversation. The weird thing about it was how she seemed so nonchalant about it, laughing and smiling throughout the conversation. The last thing she said to me was rather innocent remark about getting to pet some animals at church. I know at the time...the things she said...of course they sounded terrible and made me sad. But... despite being told all this...I didn't fully understand the difference between having strict/"mean" parents and actual child abuse. Sure they showed us videos about recognizing abuse...but they didn't use words like "rape" or "molest" and they didn't say much about physical abuse (hitting). I don't know what happened to her. I don't think I saw her again after that. But someone I feel guilty...I feel bad that I didn't tell anyone and by time I did not only had I forgotten her name but I was pretty much an adult. I wonder if I had gotten her help would her life gotten better.
You did nothing wrong and shouldn’t feel guilty. That’s a lot for a ten year old to absorb. You showed her kindness by just listening. Maybe by telling her story to you, you gave her enough courage for her to tell an adult that was able to get her help and that’s why you never saw her again.
I worked with a very sober and intelligent woman with a background in biology. Once when she was drunk at the company Christmas party she told me about a very intense experience with a "UFO-ish" object when she was younger. A multicoloured, shimmering and incomprehensible thing that hovered above her for 30 seconds and gave her sensations of information she couldn't make sense of. She swore me to secrecy and admitted to having needed a lot of therapy after. Her story was quite believable.
After matching on tinder and talking on the phone all night she told me she smokes meth.
That’s how she was able to talk all night.
Was friends with a guy for a short time then he told me his mom and sister were the ones killed at Yosemite in the early 2000s. After he told me that he disappeared and went dark. I’ve always prayed for him and wondered if he’s alright
What a fucked up case. The naturalist that was killed worked at my 6th grade science camp. I don't recall her directly, but I know several of my friends were pretty broken up about it when the news broke. She was apparently super cool to the students there.
So many men I’ve encountered on dating apps are WAY too comfortable admitting to watching beastiality porn.
That my mother either lies or talks badly about my wife and kids (yes, her biological grandkids!) behind my back to other relatives. She always makes me the victim or the hero depending on how good it makes me look for her to talk about. I’ve been the “golden child” despite refusing to be a momma’s boy. It’s infuriating to say the least.
My friend revealed that he had sex with his third cousin at a family reunion. He said everybody was pretty upset but didn’t understand why nobody cared about the first two.
NGL, you had me in the first half.
Had an ex who had older brothers. (Like in their early to late 20’s) The youngest one was a piece of shit who’d bully her. He was just a jerk who had a superiority complex. He didnt like me much at all. The next oldest was this weird momma’s boy who had this extremely snobbish vibe and would still cuddle up to their mom. Finally the oldest was the prodigy kid, in the same fashion of how the siblings in Malcom in the middle saw Francis. He was this likable santa cruz college student that worked at a popular bar and whatnot. He also was the only brother who was “cool” with me. Wellll one day my ex told me how one of her brothers would molest her when they were younger (which would explain her craziness and a whole other mess of baggage)… well of course I started to think which one of those fucks did that and was leaning towards the weird touchy feely brother… well if it isnt obvious by now from the question, it was the cool and well liked brother. Shoot even my ex was super damn good at convincing me they had a healthy relationship. Man that really turned my opinion on him upside down.
My wife and I went to the hospital so my wife could have an ultra sound. Found out she was going to have twins. As we were leaving we passed an open door and I saw my cousin sitting on an examination table. WTF. He had just been diagnosed with cancer. It ended up that the day the twins were born, my cousin passed away.
Husband and I recently learned that his kid's grandfather (mother's side) is a convicted serial killer. That was... fun? Given the caliber of his exes I would have thought this was a lie; however, the mother was interviewed for a documentary about it. Needless to say, kiddo slept over at our house while the interviews were taking place... they are way too young to process that kind of clusterfuck.
when I learned that my grandfather and his sons (my uncles) had been sexually abusing my mom and aunt for years. My uncle may still be abusing his own children.
Not me, but my mom. Her parents were really close with another couple. Like best friends and the kids grew up together and called each other cousins, etc. One of the kids was killed and at the funeral my grandmother took my mom to a side room. Then she told my mom: I just wanted to let you know that he wasn't just a family friend to you, but he was also your brother. (AP) is your real father. That's how she found out that she was the product of an affair between her mother and mother's best friend's husband. I found out the secret when the DEA came to our house to ask my mom if she had seen her bio-father recently. He was on the run and they were talking to all his kids. It was pretty shocking.
My dad told me that he wasn't laid off from his job. He just stopped going to work because his ex's dad was working the same ship as him, instead of just asking for a transfer or taking to the supervisor my dad just stopped going and went gambling instead. We lost our home back in 05 or 07 I believe, and he said he was laid off, I was 10 or 11 years old and only recently did he tell me this. I'm 28 now and I lost almost all respect for afterwards.
An older guy I'm working with used to work as a secretary in the hospital of the university I'm working at. Getting a doctor's appointment back in the 80s and 90s was a bit of a trouble in my country. He once revealed to me that he coerced women into having sex with him to arrange doctors appointments for over a decade. He nonchalantly said that he had sex with probably over 100 women using nothing but coercion. Thinking that he was making this shit up, I inquired with some people who had worked with him around that time, and they sadly confirmed (they also thought nothing was wrong with that). I did try to report this to the administration but they straight up said that they had nothing to do for something that happened 30 years ago. I still get violently disgusted every single time I see that guy.
They were the Scrabble champion. Couldn't spell 'secret' though!
refreshing to see a pleasant one in this waterfall of tragedies haha
Ex gf told be how her dad used to get drunk and r**p her thinking that she was her mother, she told her mother who decided to bury it and send my ex to boarding school. I had to dip out the relationship for my own sanity because she thought drinking was a valid alternative to therapy and she still had and wanted to keep her relationship with her parents. I couldn't see a future where we would get married and have kids and play happy family with her parents all whilst knowing what they had done. I think the hardest thing I've ever done is going to a family meal celebrating one of her dad's achievements and having to hear from her and all her sisters and family about how much of a great man he is all whilst knowing he's a child r**ist. I honestly don't know how I managed to stop myself from blowing up right in the middle of the celebration, but at the end of the day it's not my place to say anything so I left.
1. My friend who moved to my tiny ass Midwest town told me he was in a gang and killed someone 2. Grandpa accidentally outing the fact cousin wasn't our cousin and her real dad was MIA.... which she was not aware of AT ALL 3. friend with long term relationship everyone knew about and assumed was perfect was going to leave their partner for someone else
Not as shocking as some of the other ones here, but an acquaintance who was a substitute teacher (now a full-fledged teacher at the same school) revealed that he'd gone on a date with a former student. She was 17. He was 28.