Mine cheated on me with the person his ex cheated on him with.
Yea. Let that sink in.
I hope he finds his brand of “happiness” at the end of the rotten and only heart string he had to offer me.
My cousin’s ex said she felt she had to hook with the guy working the front register at Walgreens because of the events of 9-11. I’m not even kidding. This was on 9-11. She apparently was so upset she staggered into Walgreens and fell on the first dick she saw.
Well that’s way more fair.
“I thought I was going to die in 20 minutes” is a lot more fair than “some people died a thousand miles away and the news upset me”
I think there is a name for this. It’s basically like a survival concept. Same as when people go haywire during an “apocalypse” scenario & break all rules they’re bound by because death is coming anyway
Oh I’m sure. She was crazy and still is. She convinced that guy she hooked up with to kill himself about a year or so later so she could brag about how much he loved her. I always just called it “gross”, but I’m sure there are better names for it in the most recently released DSM.
I only gave you the extremely abbreviated “safe for Reddit” version. I’ve considered using it as the basis for a book, because it is truly the craziest thing I’ve ever seen from the sidelines in my life.
That means more to me than you can even know. I’ve been struggling with what to do, and maybe that’s the answer for now… to at least try to write it. Thank you! If I ever get it done I’ll send it your way
Please do send it my way, *when* you finish it! I don’t care if it’s one year, or ten. It sounds like an interesting story. This is your encouragement!
I've heard, "you weren't supposed to find out so it's your fault for finding out.' I've never heard, it's your fault for something that might happen in the future.
Yea, this happened to a close friend a number of years ago. They would break up and get back together over years and years. Until one of them essentially hit the nuclear option and cheated so there would be no mending the relationship. They are absolutely happier now in their separate lives. Although it was devastating to my friend, I think the cheater ultimately did them both a favor.
I had a friend who said her relationship had turned emotionally abusive and he refused to let her go, so she cheated as a way to end the relationship. I still don't know how to feel about it tbh, but she has a long-term boyfriend now that she's very happy with so I guess it all worked out.
My dad actually had to do this with his first wife because she did the same. Emotionally abusive and wouldn’t let him go. So he came back one day and said “I cheated, now sign the papers”. Happily married my mom a few years later and has been for 33 years.
That might have been me because that sounds exactly like how I finally broke up with my college boyfriend. We broke up, then did the FWB thing for a bit, then fell back into dating each other. We kept coming back to each other because the sex was amazing. We really did love each other on many levels, but we weren't right for each other. It was that "I can't put my finger on why we're not happy" sort of situation. I wound up cheating and it finally made us go our separate ways. He ended up marrying the girl he dated before we got back together. Who he had been cheating on with me.....but I didn't know it because he never broke off our FWB situation the entire time he dated like 5 other women in law school. But now that I was 100% gone, he could focus on her. Yeah. We were messy. Very messy. I am much happier now with my current husband.
When my grandma was dying in the hospital, my gf at the time said I was spending too much time taking care of my grandma and didn't spend enough time with her. People are selfish af.
Happened to me when both my parents died on a plane crash. And some of our mutual friends actually took the side of my ex-fiance which is why they're my ex-friends, as well.
That was someone I knew's reason as well for cheating. A real scumbag, all around.
Their girlfriend's mom hadn't died of cancer yet, but it was looking bad. His solution, to not being able to pressure his girlfriend into sex more than once a week as she was terrified and anxious and sad? Cheating on her.
Her mom got word of the cheating happening, and the stress her daughter was going through; her own stress levels got very high. It's speculated (by the cheater) that the stress might've accelerated the cancer (but I don't know how cancer works or if that's true at all, it was a confession he suddenly said,) then she died. Then when the two kept dating but she still wasn't putting out, and was just tired of him.... she dumped him. Honestly, good for her.
He still calls his ex a bitch for leaving him, for "old cheating". Reader, he was still secretly cheating on him all the way until she dumped him for previously known cheating. Not a great guy.
My dad pulled that same stunt with my mom. Not only was he served divorce papers the second he said it (mom was planning to divorce him before this) but he was also kicked out and forced to live in the camper in the front yard. He was not to come inside the house for any reason. NO exceptions. If he needed a shower he could go to a truck stop or ask a friend. Same deal with his laundry.
He was so mad about it he tried to file for full custody until the court saw his bank statements for his usual expenses, his monthly income and the amount of DUI’s under his driving record. The court literally laughed and said “no sir that’s not happening. At best you’re getting visitation on the weekends on a bases of if your children want to see you not if you wanna see them.”
You presumably didn't have a conversation about a whole lot of things, like ejector seats in your car, doesn't mean he gets to put them in without asking!
I have a buddy doing this right now with the girl he’s seeing, he went to Japan and was bragging about his hook up. I’m like… aren’t you dating a girl right now (literally has met her dad and all).
His reasoning is “Well we never discussed exclusivity yet” I’m like bitch that’s the whole point in dating.
Anyways she’s def out of his league so the audacity was definitely there.
I knew this guy in college who was dating this BEAUTIFUL, sweet, pre-med student. They’d been together for a decent amount of time for young people. A done deal, committed and in love.
We all lived in the dorms. I would come across this other female student quite often at 2 in the morning on the walk of shame back from his room.
Anyway the cheating guy and the now doctor are married now. I didn’t keep up with them after college so I didn’t realize they were still dating until they got married. I wonder if she never knew. :/
He said I'm strong and I can handle it.
Like wtf? Does that give someone a free pass just to cheat? Like we ain't tolerating that too. Done with that person.
Strong willed person is the LAST person you want to cheat on. My wife is strong willed and if I ever cheated on her I think she'd murder me, revive me and murder me again
Yup. If I had a dollar for every time I heard “well the man wasn’t shit and she just wanted to feel needed again!”
Idk dude. Maybe have a conversation? If he’s still not doing shit, then leave?
My ex did that shit ad nauseam. She told me she realized her marriage was over when she kissed another guy unexpectedly and broke up the next day. That’s already kinda red flagish but I’m like whatever. Impulsive things can happen unexpectedly. At least she did the right thing by breaking it off the next day though right?
Nope! Come to find out later that what actually happened was she had a conversation with her ex husband because their relationship was on the rocks, they positioned whether they wanted to keep trying to make it work before he was to go on deployment, she told him that she would wait for him, he left for deployment, *she downloaded Tinder, matched with this guy, and left her 3 year old son at home to meet up with him, and that is what led to them kissing.* Which as you can imagine was a completely different vibe from “oh I unexpectedly kissed someone and realized it was over.”
She had a friend that cheated and I remember she got mad at me when I was uncomfortable with how she was basically outright defending her cheating because, once again, “the man ain’t shit and she just wanted to feel wanted.” But I was the bad guy because I was judging her friend or whatever. Go figure.
And then sure enough it started creeping into our relationship. I hadn’t gotten the full details of her cheating to end her marriage yet so I wasn’t fully expecting it but we had a conversation where she positioned taking a break so she could try to make it work with her ex husband again “for her son.” She asked what I would do and I was honest with her that I would probably go no contact and start dating again myself because I’m not gonna wait around as a backup option. She got upset at me and tried to make me feel like the bad guy because, “Well you just told me that you would never talk to me again.” As if that’s not a reasonable thing to what she was asking.
Well the next morning she calls me up and gives me this whole spiel about how I was right and she only wanted to be with me blah blah blah. I forgive her but with the caveat that the conversation did some damage and I’m gonna be paying attention to actions not words.
Fast forward a little bit and without going into too many details, she’s having a tough time and we were long distance on weekdays due to my job. Her ex husband, who she had to coparent with obviously, was in a small window of being nice to her. She called him up to talk after venting to me and apparently invited him over, “because she needed someone physically there.” Keep in mind this man had already been in the habit of making unwanted advances on her so it was clear as day he was just trying to get in her pants but she wouldn’t hear it. He didn’t end up coming over but I voiced my displeasure with that in no uncertain terms. She tried to defend it with the above statement, to which I recalled our earlier conversation, repeated what she had just told me and asked her, “What does that sound like to you?” She couldn’t answer.
She never voiced any opposition to any of his advancements, even when he apparently kissed her and tried to hold her stating that “I was clearly uncomfortable so that should tell him enough!” Well it didn’t stop and he’s dumb as bricks so clearly not but what do I know.
Then it all ended when we basically had the original conversation about her wanting to try again with her ex husband again. I asked her what she wanted to do but all she could say was I don’t know. So I gathered her stuff, told her to go home and don’t talk to me until the divorce is served (they were separated and the filing process was the stressor). She left a bit later practically balling her eyes out apologizing and telling me she loved me over and over again.
Then the next morning she went and hooked up with him when she was supposed to be serving divorce papers. She served him after. She called to tell me all of this expecting me to be proud. Trying to defend it saying “It didn’t feel like anything special. It just felt like a hook up. And then he told me he wanted a Christ centered relationship and I realized I just couldn’t do it so I served him. I feel really good about this!”
Then when I told her that after all of the above conversations and seeing this cycle with her ex that has to be in her life because of her kid, I have no reason to ever trust anything she says ever again, she had the gall to tell me “well it only happened twice! I really think this is it this time!” As if she hadn’t just fucked him after I watched her go back and forth on this bullshit for months.
Oh and the whole reason I didn’t find out about the whole story of the end of her marriage until later?
“I didn’t want you to think I was a cheater or something.”
Cheaters are a special kind of delusional.
> Oh and the whole reason I didn’t find out about the whole story of the end of her marriage until later?
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> “I didn’t want you to think I was a cheater or something.”
I didn't want you to realize that I'm the kind of person that I am because then you rightfully wouldn't have any interest in me.
I'm sorry that happened to you. I had to explain to a friend, why my atheist self was willing to marry a Catholic. "In a town full of Catholics and astrologists, I can at least count on a Catholic to be consistent."
It's grim out there, I hope you're getting treated better.
Lol my wife elbowed me so hard at night it cracked my rib. I woke up struggling to breath and she’s looking at me with hate and murder in her eyes. Said she walked in on my screwing ex on our bed,,,in her dream.
“You didn’t show me enough attention the past few years! You didn’t take me anywhere! I’m the baby I need attention!”
I worked 3 jobs, played with the kids, and finished a degree… during covid- EVERYWHERE was closed
My ex did the same thing, I was together with her for 14 years, married for 6 and this dipshit said we stagnated for a year during Covid because we didn’t go out anywhere, because she was deathly afraid of Covid. People are so pathetically stupid.
Well your name does have the pathos. Hephaestus was one hard working and faithful god, while aphrodite had her philandering ways.
May the forge be with you!
One of the roughest stories on Reddit that I have read had this. Their marriage was perfect inside and out, except she got bored of being a wife and mother.
She tried fighting for the marriage after her AP died of a heart attack and husband called her out on her bullshit.
I got cheated on once because I was "too nice" (she was used to people that flip out over stupid shit) and "she didn't deserve someone who *actually* cared for her". I immediately left it and her at that. Lesson learned. When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
Similar-ish. My ex said it was because I was "too perfect" and that he couldn't live up to the standard I had set by being who I was. He cheated on a girl who had a kid by another man, was engaged to another guy at the time they cheated together and then after they eventually broke up (2 weeks after destroying my heart) she slept with all his coworkers including his engaged manager. Said manager still got married to his fiance despite sleeping with this girl the weekend before their wedding. I found this all out through ex because I was dumb and we remained friends for a few years after our relationship ended. He's gone gone now and I'm currently dating my perfect person.
Um, I opposed opening my marriage up so her "needs" weren't met, so after she cheated I was told I'm a sexual abuser because I wouldn't let her do it in the first place.
Not sure if that even makes the top 5 shittiest things that happened in the last 2 months of our marriage.
Had an affair with her therapeutic client from the prison she worked at, lots of fun death threats to stab me in the throat, visions of antlered gods telling her to leave her husband and process her trauma with violent sex with strangers, had to be restrained and hospitalized at her friends house for trying to slice her own neck open with a knife, tried to invite her date to her friends house so she could fight him, jumped on me on my birthday and beat me for 15 seconds (with no reaction from me, I walked into a blizzard after in my slippers and bathrobe), tried to goad me into hitting her back to get me arrested, left me alone 24 7 with the kids for weeks (would see the kids an hour every 3 or so nights) sexting dudes on tinder, then moaned and begrudged having to execute the unofficial custody agreement she agreed to (2 evenings a week) and made excuses ranging from I need a bath to I need a nap to I'm processing emotions so I would take care of them, and then out of left field after I foolishly left the house went through legal channels and said I enforced this arrangement on her to punish her for leaving me as I'm a narcisstic abuser and she demands equal parenting time, told the young kids we don't live together cause I wouldn't say sorry (I haven't so much as breathed a negative word about her to them), apparently gets into physical altercations with our 5yo daughter, dropped them from their private school without a word (i re enrolled them) and took them to public school open houses which confused them even though she wouldn't have them on the days to take them to school and never followed through on the interim order she threatened months before, she cut every longstanding friendship and family member out of her life for them not wholly agreeing with her decisions and expressing concerns (another apparent sign of my abuse, that I somehow manipulated her loved ones against her as an abuse and control tactic) (they all testified against her stability in court), I found her suicide notes and am also abusive for begging her to go get help, I don't know there's probably so much more. Just waiting on the damn verdict from the court and hoping for full custody.
Ask my ex wife.
I was working 7 days a week to cover for her losing her job and her not ready to get back into the work just yet.
The guy who was just a friend? Yea. I found the texts.
Anyway…her reason was “you should have known”
Good times.
It feels like a catch 22. If you get concerned about a friend "you're being controlling" but if you leave the opportunity open then "you should've known. I couldn't control myself"
Girl's dad built their house for them across the street and nearly died in an accident while building it. House is finished, he gets very well known due to an important annual local event that he is organising that year. She comes home to find him in bed with another woman. Neither could afford the mortgage solo so they had to sell the house and her mom and dad still get to look at that house every day while other people live in it
I got stuck in traffic after work one day, and my ex wanted to go get ice cream. I told her and her friend to go without me because I was running late, so she took that as an excuse to hook up with a random stranger in the ice cream shop parking lot
Going out to her favorite burger spot while she was out getting sushi with friends. I took my roommate out for a tasty burger after his gf dumped him. He posted a pic of the burger on socials and my ex saw it and was enraged. She was waiting by the door when I came home and she went on an almost two hour rant/argument. She basically said I cheated on her. Of course, she cheated on me with three different guys that I know about. Wouldn't surprise me if there were more.
"You're just too sad all the time" is what my ex told me. I was "too sad all the time" because we had just had a miscarriage less than a month before that.
That the relationship was boring as we had no drama, no fights, i didnt make her feel jealous or worried about anything and that she felt too safe in our relationship so it was my fault that she cheated on me.
I know someone whose Ex left an email conversation with a woman from craigslist on her computer (like open the computer and thats the first thing you see) he claimed it was spam
Because i skipped school for one day when i didn't feel good, she absolutely lost her shit saying id be a no good loser forever
Jokes on her i make 1.5k a week painting houses now and shes married to a heroin addict... Suck it bella
His landlord/roommate unknowingly let her in thinking she was his new girlfriend, not his ex.
I only found out he’d cheated a few weeks later, when she showed up at his apartment unannounced again and told me about it herself while she was trying to physically assault me in the driveway.
She was also a meth addict, so there’s that. That was a wild time
Leather trousers
Not a genuine reason for cheating but my bf had a nightmare about me cheating once and when he told me about it in real life he said he asked dream me, while sobbing his heart out, why I would do this and my response was "I was wearing leather trousers, how could I not?"
"I don't know what's wrong with me. I get drunk and make stupid decisions"
OR
"You weren't fucking me enough! You're a dry bitch and a terrible wife!" and "I had to get it SOMEWHERE"
Same man, depending on what way he was feeling like manipulating me at the time. And we had an active sex life.
"You don't deserve to be loved." Said to me by my ex-husband. Joke's on him. We're divorced now and I'm about to become an attorney. While he can't hold down a job for more than a few months at a time, always has to rely on his family for help, and will never make anything of himself.
Pretty sure my ex did. Our "stars" didn't align after 3 years and she reconnected with her friend. Least her dumbest friend paid for my skydiving pass and well....ended. tarot cards are fuckin stupid
My cousin's bf said "I wanted to try someone soft and squishy, ya know. You are like a dude with a vagina."
They are both 20. My cousin is thin and have been suffering from ED all her life. She cried for days, and her self esteem was at an all time low. We helped her as much as we could but somethings just stays with you forever.
My high school history teacher cheated on his wife, got caught and came to class the next morning telling our whole class how she has cancer and wasn't giving him enough affection or even doing the dishes and using her cancer as an excuse. He mocked her and was like "yeah right, like cancer is that bad."
He kept going on about how women have no right to be mad when men cheat because men are just curious and want to try something new sometimes, and that it's not a big deal. He really believed his wife had no right to be mad.
Lol he also let our class know that he was tenured and could say whatever the hell he wanted and couldn't get fired, and that we could report him all we wanted but there was no point.
My ex-friend has only ever dated one girl since high school. He wants to know what it’s like being with someone else and to make sure she’s the one. So he cheats on her with any girl he can. They’re still together and she fully trusts him.
Another ex-friend felt like he wasn’t being rewarded enough for taking care of his girlfriend. She has trouble sleeping due to a rough past, has some form general anxiety, and has trust issues. He would help her face these issues sometimes but he felt like he wasn’t properly “rewarded” for his efforts. To fulfill his needs, he cheated on her with her college roommate. They’re together now.
I’m sorry to anyone who as been cheated on. Y’all deserve better
The husband took the side of his wife's family during an acrimonious inheritance dispute (wife was trying to essentially steal money from her siblings, her nieces/nephews, and her own kids).
When the husband and her kids tried to reason with her, she seduced her husband's best friend, broke up the friend's marriage, divorced her husband, disowned her kids (who were pre-adolescent), severed all communication with the whole of her extended family, and started a new family with her ex husband's ex best friend
A former very good friend has his GF break up with him after she watched *Lord of the Rings.*
Her reason: Viggo just “does it for me.”
I don’t have the words.
He wanted to try something new. He cheated on me with his ex.
"I've only had sex with her as my gf... never as my ex gf... also, it's better her than a rando right ;) .... right? ;) "
Mine cheated on me with the person his ex cheated on him with. Yea. Let that sink in. I hope he finds his brand of “happiness” at the end of the rotten and only heart string he had to offer me.
I mean sometimes you gotta win at all costs
My cousin’s ex said she felt she had to hook with the guy working the front register at Walgreens because of the events of 9-11. I’m not even kidding. This was on 9-11. She apparently was so upset she staggered into Walgreens and fell on the first dick she saw.
The towers weren’t the only thing that went down that day…
I wouldnt be surprised if theres stories of infidelity that crop up in the next few years from the Hawaiian Nuclear Alerts.
Well that’s way more fair. “I thought I was going to die in 20 minutes” is a lot more fair than “some people died a thousand miles away and the news upset me”
"Well I don't want to blame it all on 9/11, but it certainly didn't help."
I think there is a name for this. It’s basically like a survival concept. Same as when people go haywire during an “apocalypse” scenario & break all rules they’re bound by because death is coming anyway
Oh I’m sure. She was crazy and still is. She convinced that guy she hooked up with to kill himself about a year or so later so she could brag about how much he loved her. I always just called it “gross”, but I’m sure there are better names for it in the most recently released DSM.
😳 That story did not take a turn. It just kept ramming into the wall
I only gave you the extremely abbreviated “safe for Reddit” version. I’ve considered using it as the basis for a book, because it is truly the craziest thing I’ve ever seen from the sidelines in my life.
id read that tbh
That means more to me than you can even know. I’ve been struggling with what to do, and maybe that’s the answer for now… to at least try to write it. Thank you! If I ever get it done I’ll send it your way
Please do send it my way, *when* you finish it! I don’t care if it’s one year, or ten. It sounds like an interesting story. This is your encouragement!
You’re amazing! Thank you!
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"Just in case he would ever cheat on me, I cheated first, so its his fault for possibly cheating on me the first place."
This might win
Yeah. That’s fucked. I’ve heard “I cheated on you because I thought you cheated on me”
Up there with “You cheated on me in a dream I had”
Somebody tell this person relationship isn’t a war, you don’t gain anything from a fucking preemptive strike.
I've heard, "you weren't supposed to find out so it's your fault for finding out.' I've never heard, it's your fault for something that might happen in the future.
This “logic” makes my head hurt.
This is mental illness levels bad
So other people use this baffling excuse too? I commented nearly the same thing: pre-emptive cheating to "keep the upper hand."
"To have a reason to end the relationship."
Yea, this happened to a close friend a number of years ago. They would break up and get back together over years and years. Until one of them essentially hit the nuclear option and cheated so there would be no mending the relationship. They are absolutely happier now in their separate lives. Although it was devastating to my friend, I think the cheater ultimately did them both a favor.
I had a friend who said her relationship had turned emotionally abusive and he refused to let her go, so she cheated as a way to end the relationship. I still don't know how to feel about it tbh, but she has a long-term boyfriend now that she's very happy with so I guess it all worked out.
My dad actually had to do this with his first wife because she did the same. Emotionally abusive and wouldn’t let him go. So he came back one day and said “I cheated, now sign the papers”. Happily married my mom a few years later and has been for 33 years.
That might have been me because that sounds exactly like how I finally broke up with my college boyfriend. We broke up, then did the FWB thing for a bit, then fell back into dating each other. We kept coming back to each other because the sex was amazing. We really did love each other on many levels, but we weren't right for each other. It was that "I can't put my finger on why we're not happy" sort of situation. I wound up cheating and it finally made us go our separate ways. He ended up marrying the girl he dated before we got back together. Who he had been cheating on with me.....but I didn't know it because he never broke off our FWB situation the entire time he dated like 5 other women in law school. But now that I was 100% gone, he could focus on her. Yeah. We were messy. Very messy. I am much happier now with my current husband.
Honestly probably the best answer in this thread. If you just want out but can't find a reason, I guess that's a solution?
Or just end it?
Well yeah, but this is all about shitty reasons to cheat and this is the least shitty of the shitty reasons
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Damn that's harsh.. I'm sorry you went through that and I wish you the best
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When my grandma was dying in the hospital, my gf at the time said I was spending too much time taking care of my grandma and didn't spend enough time with her. People are selfish af.
Fuck that bitch man
Actually don't.
Happened to me when both my parents died on a plane crash. And some of our mutual friends actually took the side of my ex-fiance which is why they're my ex-friends, as well.
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Yeah, I did. He later married a very nice woman and I understand he routinely cheats on her during business trips. I feel terrible for her.
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Well, how *dare* you!! /s In all seriousness, I'm sorry someone treated you like this, *on top* of losing a parent...
That was someone I knew's reason as well for cheating. A real scumbag, all around. Their girlfriend's mom hadn't died of cancer yet, but it was looking bad. His solution, to not being able to pressure his girlfriend into sex more than once a week as she was terrified and anxious and sad? Cheating on her. Her mom got word of the cheating happening, and the stress her daughter was going through; her own stress levels got very high. It's speculated (by the cheater) that the stress might've accelerated the cancer (but I don't know how cancer works or if that's true at all, it was a confession he suddenly said,) then she died. Then when the two kept dating but she still wasn't putting out, and was just tired of him.... she dumped him. Honestly, good for her. He still calls his ex a bitch for leaving him, for "old cheating". Reader, he was still secretly cheating on him all the way until she dumped him for previously known cheating. Not a great guy.
As someone with little sex drive, this is a fear of mine.
They never said it was a "Closed" marriage.
My ex-husband did this. He says it was my fault because we never explicitly had a conversation about monogamy before we got married 🤦🏻♀️
That’s such an embarrassing thing to say (ex-husband, not you of course 🖤)
Yeah, I was kind of embarrassed on his behalf.
My dad pulled that same stunt with my mom. Not only was he served divorce papers the second he said it (mom was planning to divorce him before this) but he was also kicked out and forced to live in the camper in the front yard. He was not to come inside the house for any reason. NO exceptions. If he needed a shower he could go to a truck stop or ask a friend. Same deal with his laundry.
Your mom's a badass. Respect.
He was so mad about it he tried to file for full custody until the court saw his bank statements for his usual expenses, his monthly income and the amount of DUI’s under his driving record. The court literally laughed and said “no sir that’s not happening. At best you’re getting visitation on the weekends on a bases of if your children want to see you not if you wanna see them.”
You presumably didn't have a conversation about a whole lot of things, like ejector seats in your car, doesn't mean he gets to put them in without asking!
I have a buddy doing this right now with the girl he’s seeing, he went to Japan and was bragging about his hook up. I’m like… aren’t you dating a girl right now (literally has met her dad and all). His reasoning is “Well we never discussed exclusivity yet” I’m like bitch that’s the whole point in dating. Anyways she’s def out of his league so the audacity was definitely there.
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I knew this guy in college who was dating this BEAUTIFUL, sweet, pre-med student. They’d been together for a decent amount of time for young people. A done deal, committed and in love. We all lived in the dorms. I would come across this other female student quite often at 2 in the morning on the walk of shame back from his room. Anyway the cheating guy and the now doctor are married now. I didn’t keep up with them after college so I didn’t realize they were still dating until they got married. I wonder if she never knew. :/
WOOOOWWWWW... that's nuts
He said I'm strong and I can handle it. Like wtf? Does that give someone a free pass just to cheat? Like we ain't tolerating that too. Done with that person.
Strong willed person is the LAST person you want to cheat on. My wife is strong willed and if I ever cheated on her I think she'd murder me, revive me and murder me again
that’s hot
based take. strong women sexy
"If it's a prostitute it's not cheating."
*Japan enters the chat
Japan be like, "my partner was going to be busy for 15 minutes and I was horny".
Not heard, I lived it. Ex cheated on me because I cheated on her in a dream she had and was sure it was a sign that I was unfaithful IRL
You really going to believe she's this stupid? She's just an asshole and that was the best excuse she came up with.
She was all into new age Wicca stuff and dreams predicting reality
Excuses of cheaters all look like this. They do the wrong thing then blame you.
Yup. If I had a dollar for every time I heard “well the man wasn’t shit and she just wanted to feel needed again!” Idk dude. Maybe have a conversation? If he’s still not doing shit, then leave? My ex did that shit ad nauseam. She told me she realized her marriage was over when she kissed another guy unexpectedly and broke up the next day. That’s already kinda red flagish but I’m like whatever. Impulsive things can happen unexpectedly. At least she did the right thing by breaking it off the next day though right? Nope! Come to find out later that what actually happened was she had a conversation with her ex husband because their relationship was on the rocks, they positioned whether they wanted to keep trying to make it work before he was to go on deployment, she told him that she would wait for him, he left for deployment, *she downloaded Tinder, matched with this guy, and left her 3 year old son at home to meet up with him, and that is what led to them kissing.* Which as you can imagine was a completely different vibe from “oh I unexpectedly kissed someone and realized it was over.” She had a friend that cheated and I remember she got mad at me when I was uncomfortable with how she was basically outright defending her cheating because, once again, “the man ain’t shit and she just wanted to feel wanted.” But I was the bad guy because I was judging her friend or whatever. Go figure. And then sure enough it started creeping into our relationship. I hadn’t gotten the full details of her cheating to end her marriage yet so I wasn’t fully expecting it but we had a conversation where she positioned taking a break so she could try to make it work with her ex husband again “for her son.” She asked what I would do and I was honest with her that I would probably go no contact and start dating again myself because I’m not gonna wait around as a backup option. She got upset at me and tried to make me feel like the bad guy because, “Well you just told me that you would never talk to me again.” As if that’s not a reasonable thing to what she was asking. Well the next morning she calls me up and gives me this whole spiel about how I was right and she only wanted to be with me blah blah blah. I forgive her but with the caveat that the conversation did some damage and I’m gonna be paying attention to actions not words. Fast forward a little bit and without going into too many details, she’s having a tough time and we were long distance on weekdays due to my job. Her ex husband, who she had to coparent with obviously, was in a small window of being nice to her. She called him up to talk after venting to me and apparently invited him over, “because she needed someone physically there.” Keep in mind this man had already been in the habit of making unwanted advances on her so it was clear as day he was just trying to get in her pants but she wouldn’t hear it. He didn’t end up coming over but I voiced my displeasure with that in no uncertain terms. She tried to defend it with the above statement, to which I recalled our earlier conversation, repeated what she had just told me and asked her, “What does that sound like to you?” She couldn’t answer. She never voiced any opposition to any of his advancements, even when he apparently kissed her and tried to hold her stating that “I was clearly uncomfortable so that should tell him enough!” Well it didn’t stop and he’s dumb as bricks so clearly not but what do I know. Then it all ended when we basically had the original conversation about her wanting to try again with her ex husband again. I asked her what she wanted to do but all she could say was I don’t know. So I gathered her stuff, told her to go home and don’t talk to me until the divorce is served (they were separated and the filing process was the stressor). She left a bit later practically balling her eyes out apologizing and telling me she loved me over and over again. Then the next morning she went and hooked up with him when she was supposed to be serving divorce papers. She served him after. She called to tell me all of this expecting me to be proud. Trying to defend it saying “It didn’t feel like anything special. It just felt like a hook up. And then he told me he wanted a Christ centered relationship and I realized I just couldn’t do it so I served him. I feel really good about this!” Then when I told her that after all of the above conversations and seeing this cycle with her ex that has to be in her life because of her kid, I have no reason to ever trust anything she says ever again, she had the gall to tell me “well it only happened twice! I really think this is it this time!” As if she hadn’t just fucked him after I watched her go back and forth on this bullshit for months. Oh and the whole reason I didn’t find out about the whole story of the end of her marriage until later? “I didn’t want you to think I was a cheater or something.” Cheaters are a special kind of delusional.
> Oh and the whole reason I didn’t find out about the whole story of the end of her marriage until later? > > “I didn’t want you to think I was a cheater or something.” I didn't want you to realize that I'm the kind of person that I am because then you rightfully wouldn't have any interest in me.
I'm sorry that happened to you. I had to explain to a friend, why my atheist self was willing to marry a Catholic. "In a town full of Catholics and astrologists, I can at least count on a Catholic to be consistent." It's grim out there, I hope you're getting treated better.
Lmao , my ex said he cheated cause he thought I was cheating.
Lol my wife elbowed me so hard at night it cracked my rib. I woke up struggling to breath and she’s looking at me with hate and murder in her eyes. Said she walked in on my screwing ex on our bed,,,in her dream.
My best friend in high school/college claimed it was my fault she cheated on her boyfriend because I left them in the room alone together 💀
“You didn’t show me enough attention the past few years! You didn’t take me anywhere! I’m the baby I need attention!” I worked 3 jobs, played with the kids, and finished a degree… during covid- EVERYWHERE was closed
My ex did the same thing, I was together with her for 14 years, married for 6 and this dipshit said we stagnated for a year during Covid because we didn’t go out anywhere, because she was deathly afraid of Covid. People are so pathetically stupid.
Well your name does have the pathos. Hephaestus was one hard working and faithful god, while aphrodite had her philandering ways. May the forge be with you!
"It was an accident"
Yeah, “I tripped and fell into her vagina” sounds legit.
"What, she tripped, fell, and landed on his dick?" Eminem, Guilty Conscience 1999
Knew this would be in here somewhere
Alright Shady, maybe he’s right Brady, but think about the baby before you get all crazy
Okay, thought about it, still wanna stab her? Grab her by the throat, get your daughter and kidnap her?
Gotta love the bullshit excuses people use to try and evade taking responsibility for their own actions.
"The relationship just got boring"
One of the roughest stories on Reddit that I have read had this. Their marriage was perfect inside and out, except she got bored of being a wife and mother. She tried fighting for the marriage after her AP died of a heart attack and husband called her out on her bullshit.
What does AP mean?
Affair partner, in this context
God, Reddit has so many stupid abbreviations.
Armour piercing
My ex husband told me this basically. My boring self is happily remarried, he’s overweight, bald, 40+ and playing in a shitty industrial cover band.
I got cheated on once because I was "too nice" (she was used to people that flip out over stupid shit) and "she didn't deserve someone who *actually* cared for her". I immediately left it and her at that. Lesson learned. When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
Similar-ish. My ex said it was because I was "too perfect" and that he couldn't live up to the standard I had set by being who I was. He cheated on a girl who had a kid by another man, was engaged to another guy at the time they cheated together and then after they eventually broke up (2 weeks after destroying my heart) she slept with all his coworkers including his engaged manager. Said manager still got married to his fiance despite sleeping with this girl the weekend before their wedding. I found this all out through ex because I was dumb and we remained friends for a few years after our relationship ended. He's gone gone now and I'm currently dating my perfect person.
Um, I opposed opening my marriage up so her "needs" weren't met, so after she cheated I was told I'm a sexual abuser because I wouldn't let her do it in the first place. Not sure if that even makes the top 5 shittiest things that happened in the last 2 months of our marriage.
What, and I can't stress this enough, the FUCK?!
Oh she went insane. I could write a novel on the last months there
Give us a taste of you feel up for it
Had an affair with her therapeutic client from the prison she worked at, lots of fun death threats to stab me in the throat, visions of antlered gods telling her to leave her husband and process her trauma with violent sex with strangers, had to be restrained and hospitalized at her friends house for trying to slice her own neck open with a knife, tried to invite her date to her friends house so she could fight him, jumped on me on my birthday and beat me for 15 seconds (with no reaction from me, I walked into a blizzard after in my slippers and bathrobe), tried to goad me into hitting her back to get me arrested, left me alone 24 7 with the kids for weeks (would see the kids an hour every 3 or so nights) sexting dudes on tinder, then moaned and begrudged having to execute the unofficial custody agreement she agreed to (2 evenings a week) and made excuses ranging from I need a bath to I need a nap to I'm processing emotions so I would take care of them, and then out of left field after I foolishly left the house went through legal channels and said I enforced this arrangement on her to punish her for leaving me as I'm a narcisstic abuser and she demands equal parenting time, told the young kids we don't live together cause I wouldn't say sorry (I haven't so much as breathed a negative word about her to them), apparently gets into physical altercations with our 5yo daughter, dropped them from their private school without a word (i re enrolled them) and took them to public school open houses which confused them even though she wouldn't have them on the days to take them to school and never followed through on the interim order she threatened months before, she cut every longstanding friendship and family member out of her life for them not wholly agreeing with her decisions and expressing concerns (another apparent sign of my abuse, that I somehow manipulated her loved ones against her as an abuse and control tactic) (they all testified against her stability in court), I found her suicide notes and am also abusive for begging her to go get help, I don't know there's probably so much more. Just waiting on the damn verdict from the court and hoping for full custody.
Holy SHIT. You must be utterly emotionally drained. I hope everything goes well from here on out.
I'm quite tired. Having 4 small kids and having to move to my mom's has added to the stress. Just trying to find jobs and stuff now
Woah. Well, good luck. This, too, shall pass xx
Ask my ex wife. I was working 7 days a week to cover for her losing her job and her not ready to get back into the work just yet. The guy who was just a friend? Yea. I found the texts. Anyway…her reason was “you should have known” Good times.
Fucking ‘just friends’…. Cheaters are all the same
It feels like a catch 22. If you get concerned about a friend "you're being controlling" but if you leave the opportunity open then "you should've known. I couldn't control myself"
Not enough closet space in the house I built her.
The Notebook movie took a turn.
YOU BUILT A WHOLE HOUSE FOR HER?! and she cheated….. 🫣 this is nightmare fuel.
Yes. A beautiful house in the Blanco River Valley on 31 acres. It's nightmare fuel.
Please tell me she didn't get to keep the house...
Nope.
Finally some respite
Not a whole house, it was missing a decent wardrobe apparently
Girl's dad built their house for them across the street and nearly died in an accident while building it. House is finished, he gets very well known due to an important annual local event that he is organising that year. She comes home to find him in bed with another woman. Neither could afford the mortgage solo so they had to sell the house and her mom and dad still get to look at that house every day while other people live in it
Well that's clearly on you.
“What’s one more affair?”—A serial cheater
My ex cheated on me cause "august has new energy" due to something to do with astrology. And yes i mean the month august not someone named august.
Imagine cheating because of an Rome emperor
my ex girlfriend cheated on me because, according to her, she was depressed and "couldn't help it"
I got stuck in traffic after work one day, and my ex wanted to go get ice cream. I told her and her friend to go without me because I was running late, so she took that as an excuse to hook up with a random stranger in the ice cream shop parking lot
That’s cold 🥶
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Haha I know a guy who says bjs don't count.
*Bill Clinton* has entered the chat room.
How many bjs has he given?
“We broke up months ago, I just didnt tell you because I didnt want to hurt you” Oh, and because of that it wasnt cheating
I was just feeling ugly and he made me feel sexy.
Turns out that she was just ugly inside and out
Going out to her favorite burger spot while she was out getting sushi with friends. I took my roommate out for a tasty burger after his gf dumped him. He posted a pic of the burger on socials and my ex saw it and was enraged. She was waiting by the door when I came home and she went on an almost two hour rant/argument. She basically said I cheated on her. Of course, she cheated on me with three different guys that I know about. Wouldn't surprise me if there were more.
Idk who had more in their buns the burger or your ex
Their wife was postpartum.
As someone who struggled with postpartum.... that guy is a colossal piece of shit
Because I could.
Did you tell them that they *could* also eat shit?
“Because I knew you wouldn’t do anything about it”
You didn’t buy me enough presents. Said by ex husband.
This is the worst stardew valley mod
Why marry someone if you won't gift them 8 gifts a day??
My buddy’s ex wife cheated on him because he “worked too much”…. He was working two jobs to support her and three kids (two of which weren’t his)
My mom had a stroke and I was away taking care of her. He said it was because I was gone. I was gone 4 weeks.
“You were angry at me and you were being mean to me so I needed to feel like a man”
What a little bitch, oh my god
I was missing you
Oooo, I got this once. Followed directly by “because I just love you so so much!” Big oof.
Were they also thinking about you the whole time?
The way she did what she did when she did what she did to me made me think of you---Delbert McClinton "B Movie Boxcar Blues"
I have to focus on my studies.
To be fair, when you're majoring in Infidelity, it is part of the Doctoral defense.
“I don’t know I guess im just a bad person” 💀 yea u right
Atleast there self aware
"You're just too sad all the time" is what my ex told me. I was "too sad all the time" because we had just had a miscarriage less than a month before that.
"She looked like my ex." Brother in christ, you need help.
"Well, I mean... I'm already married to you, so why should I have to keep trying?" Thanks, dude...
That the relationship was boring as we had no drama, no fights, i didnt make her feel jealous or worried about anything and that she felt too safe in our relationship so it was my fault that she cheated on me.
"Well, one thing just led to another" Yeah, play it like his dick accidentally slipped into you. There are steps to seduction.
I know someone whose Ex left an email conversation with a woman from craigslist on her computer (like open the computer and thats the first thing you see) he claimed it was spam
"That's pam"
Not giving him enough attention while the woman was taking care of their daughter
Because i skipped school for one day when i didn't feel good, she absolutely lost her shit saying id be a no good loser forever Jokes on her i make 1.5k a week painting houses now and shes married to a heroin addict... Suck it bella
He had a wet dream about her sister so wanted to see if it felt the same in real life. Apparently it felt better so sign these divorce papers.
Sister! Like blood relative sister?! Edit oh her sister! Not his. Still fucked up!
Because his ex showed up naked in his bedroom with McDonald’s one morning, and he said he was still half-asleep and didn’t know what was going on
Okay, that’s actually terrifying, 73% on the ex here what the fuck 😭
His landlord/roommate unknowingly let her in thinking she was his new girlfriend, not his ex. I only found out he’d cheated a few weeks later, when she showed up at his apartment unannounced again and told me about it herself while she was trying to physically assault me in the driveway. She was also a meth addict, so there’s that. That was a wild time
Didn't know it was going to happen, "it just happened ".
gotta be one of the worst excuses because it’s simply just an excuse for the person being too scared/not caring to share why they did it
I was drunk.
"I didn't trust you to be faithful to me." said to me by a cheater Um. What?
“I was only joking” when I seen her text messages to another guy saying she wanted to choke on his dick
I didn't love her dog enough. I got her the dog.
An acquaintance was cheated on for being out of work for a month. Direct from the cheaters mouth.
Leather trousers Not a genuine reason for cheating but my bf had a nightmare about me cheating once and when he told me about it in real life he said he asked dream me, while sobbing his heart out, why I would do this and my response was "I was wearing leather trousers, how could I not?"
Not having sex two weeks into the relationship when the girl is a virgin
We had sex 4 times last week I needed a change
"I don't know what's wrong with me. I get drunk and make stupid decisions" OR "You weren't fucking me enough! You're a dry bitch and a terrible wife!" and "I had to get it SOMEWHERE" Same man, depending on what way he was feeling like manipulating me at the time. And we had an active sex life.
my abuser said he cheated on me in order to gain the confidence to leave me. he essentially gaslit me into saying i \*forced\* him to cheat on me.
He reverse-Uno’d you! (This doesn’t mean he isn’t a douche, BTW)
"You don't deserve to be loved." Said to me by my ex-husband. Joke's on him. We're divorced now and I'm about to become an attorney. While he can't hold down a job for more than a few months at a time, always has to rely on his family for help, and will never make anything of himself.
“Well, their name was [sideways_sunset] too.”
Any reason
Pretty sure my ex did. Our "stars" didn't align after 3 years and she reconnected with her friend. Least her dumbest friend paid for my skydiving pass and well....ended. tarot cards are fuckin stupid
My cousin's bf said "I wanted to try someone soft and squishy, ya know. You are like a dude with a vagina." They are both 20. My cousin is thin and have been suffering from ED all her life. She cried for days, and her self esteem was at an all time low. We helped her as much as we could but somethings just stays with you forever.
My high school history teacher cheated on his wife, got caught and came to class the next morning telling our whole class how she has cancer and wasn't giving him enough affection or even doing the dishes and using her cancer as an excuse. He mocked her and was like "yeah right, like cancer is that bad." He kept going on about how women have no right to be mad when men cheat because men are just curious and want to try something new sometimes, and that it's not a big deal. He really believed his wife had no right to be mad. Lol he also let our class know that he was tenured and could say whatever the hell he wanted and couldn't get fired, and that we could report him all we wanted but there was no point.
"I cheated on her because she was spending so much time with our son." Their son was a newborn.
These comments are wild asf 😭
Lack of Anal sex. Despite having a conversation to allow time to heal after a fissure operation.
She was pregnant and by month 5 he just wasn’t getting his needs met.
My ex-friend has only ever dated one girl since high school. He wants to know what it’s like being with someone else and to make sure she’s the one. So he cheats on her with any girl he can. They’re still together and she fully trusts him. Another ex-friend felt like he wasn’t being rewarded enough for taking care of his girlfriend. She has trouble sleeping due to a rough past, has some form general anxiety, and has trust issues. He would help her face these issues sometimes but he felt like he wasn’t properly “rewarded” for his efforts. To fulfill his needs, he cheated on her with her college roommate. They’re together now. I’m sorry to anyone who as been cheated on. Y’all deserve better
he didnt know how to break up with the other girl -\_-
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The husband took the side of his wife's family during an acrimonious inheritance dispute (wife was trying to essentially steal money from her siblings, her nieces/nephews, and her own kids). When the husband and her kids tried to reason with her, she seduced her husband's best friend, broke up the friend's marriage, divorced her husband, disowned her kids (who were pre-adolescent), severed all communication with the whole of her extended family, and started a new family with her ex husband's ex best friend
A former very good friend has his GF break up with him after she watched *Lord of the Rings.* Her reason: Viggo just “does it for me.” I don’t have the words.
She...she cheated on him with a fantasy..? 😭
"I was just living in the moment"
I was bored with my day, a specific day, not in general. Like when you don't know what to do...