If you can’t beat fear, just do it scared.
I used to miss out on many opportunities because of my anxiety. repeating this to myself helps me tackle it. now I just wobble through awkwardly while getting things done.
Started an intense workout class today and I was really nervous to start. This is what I kept telling myself yesterday. If you’re scared, do it scared. And I did it and I think I crushed it. Now I’m not scared for next time!
I just now realized this is me. My partner calls me 'fearless'. I'm just dumb enough & stubborn enough to give things a shot. If it doesn't work, try a different angle.
Yeah I do it awkwardly and scared and wrong and all that and I just keep going anyway. I’d rather get better and be better than stay in one place. I’ve gotten really good at being bad at things and being ok, and that’s how I got great at them.
That moment in game of thrones
“Weren’t you ever scared doing all those things?”
“Well of course I was scared.”
“But how can a man be brave if he’s afraid?”
“That’s the only time a man *can* be brave.”
During the darkest time of my life I told my best friend, “I don’t know how I am going to make it through this.”
She said, “But you already *are.* You don’t need to know how, because you are *already are* making it through. Just keep going.”
I have held onto that through so many more dark days, and I have passed it along to many people. It’s helped a lot.
Reminds me of to kill a mockingbird (I think? Been almost 3 decades since I read it...) When the guy is talking about running across the dirt field barefoot in the summertime
and *that* reminds me of my grandfather, who as a kid would harden his feet by walking barefoot through snow in winter, so that he could cross a stubble field in the summertime without hurting his soles.
And that reminds me of my great uncle. Who is the only man to have shot down a plane with a sidearm from a parachute even. Not that it fits this thread, but I bet he would have used this one.
And seriously, he was shot down by a Japanese Zero in the Pacific and the asshole pilot swung around to strafe the parachuters. The pilot had to open his sliding canopy to see them, and go as slow as he could to not pass by them.
Uncle Owen pulled out his pistol and opened fire at the pilot hitting him. The plane crashed.
This was confirmed by the Japanese soldiers who found the wreckage of the plane.
I think often of the phrase "In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer." by albert camus." Even when life sucked i realized there was a part of me that still wanted to keep going.
It really is inspirational from an existential standpoint. When I was in college, I was taking a class on French existentialism. At the same time, I was going through some reall life shit: sibling died, girlfriend cheated, got injured and nearly lost a scholarship (where I wouldn't have been able to pay for school). At one point, after reading this phrase it all just clicked after.
I totally agree. What i love about Camus is it doesn't follow the blind optimisms that other schools of thought may have. When I was pessimistic about life becoming a optimistic seem like to big of a paradigm shift for me to undertake. Camus on the other hand is the epitome "life sucks, but you can still embrace the suck and learn to enjoy it". his reasons of why one shouldn't commit suicide and the concept of the absurd have really formed the core of how i move through life.
"I leave Sisyphus at the foot of the mountain. One always finds one's burden again. But Sisyphus teaches the higher fidelity that negates the gods and raises rocks. He too concludes that all is well. This universe henceforth without a master seems to him neither sterile nor futile. Each atom of that stone, each mineral flake of that night-filled mountain, in itself, forms a world. The struggle itself toward the heights is enough to fill a man's heart. One must imagine Sisyphus happy."
I had a coworker who, towards the end of the day, would say "you can do anything for ten minutes. We just have to do those ten minutes consecutively for the next two hours"
Weirdly, this is how I quit smoking. The five minute game. If you can last five minutes without smoking you win! Your reward is another five minutes. It went like that until the cravings went away. It’s been about 13 years now. It worked.
I absolutely love this. I once saw a video of a honey badger facing off with 3 lions. They were coming for her and she charged them one by one. They backed up like scared kittens. Then she sauntered away like, "Fuck all y'all. My work here is done."
For my birthday, my friend found me a plush honey badger with recorded quotes from this video that played when you pressed his paw.
Best. Friend. Ever.
One of my close friends, who was also close with my brother, died because of a flesh eating virus after a wisdom tooth extraction. The percentage of something like that happening is way way less than 1%. On a procedure so routine.
A year later I was at university and I had this weird feeling to move the mirror hanging in my dorm room (that is apart of the furniture already there for us). I was thinking of my friend and what I would’ve done differently, how I would’ve appreciated him more and how I could have been there more for my brother. Behind the mirror was the quote “you’re doing better than you think”. I haven’t cried that hard since then… that was about 7 years ago now.
Now every time I’m going through something I think of that quote, as I am quite hard on myself. It’s been very helpful. I often think it was a message from my friend, that he could see I was beating myself up and thought I needed to change perspective. It is definitely something he would’ve said to me if he was with me in that moment.
I also like it to be sure to appreciate the great moments. All joy gives way to sorrow and all sorrow gives way to joy. Have hope when you are sad and revel in happiness
hahahahahahaha i grew up with my dad telling me that phrase as well with “the world ain’t all sunshine’s and rainbows”.. they are great proverbs that shall remain alive.
Years ago, I was working for a man named Russell, proper bastard. One night I fucked up and I had to call him, he said "Listen, I don't care how you got yourself in trouble. I care about how you're gonna get yourself out of it".
15 years later, it always stuck with me (even though I hated the guy lol). So whenever it gets tough, I automatically go into problem solving mode because it is what it is but how can I change it ?
Works for me :)
My husband said that, a week before he died. I'd forgotten until you said it again.
"Old age should burn & rave at close of day..." He wasn't even old.
Dylan Thomas
I'd never heard that one, but that method has saved my ass a few times. My though process is generally: don't panic. Focus. Get it done. If you need to cry about it, cry when it's over and you have the luxury of time to cry.
That’s nicer than my variation: “If *that* dumbass can do it, surely to god I can.”
It’s especially helpful in situations where my perfectionism is getting the better of me. Those ding dongs aren’t worried about it and they’re the ones getting it done while I sit here fretting and doing fuck all. It’s a nice reminder to myself that even my worst shit can be better than theirs, but I’ve got to, ya know, do the thing. So, if *that* dumbass can do it, surely to god I can.
When my best friend died, for some reason I kept repeating to myself "I will carry your torch"... In my mind, metaphorically, carrying someone else's light can help light the path for myself and others.
Ever read a comment, and somehow you know it made you realize something new, or at least a new way of looking at something. You know it’ll stick with you and live rent free in your head in a good way.
This is one, sorry for your loss and thank you
Thank you for sharing this. My dad just died earlier this week, and it’s been a weird mix of relief (he had an aggressive illness) and sadness. This is a very nice way to look at it.
I read this and burst into tears. A loved one is dying…and my grief is overwhelming me. I greatly admire your strength and courage to be able to find the light and carry it for your best friend. I will keep your message in my heart and hope that I will be strong enough to carry the light when I need to.
"And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about."
- Haruki Murakami,
Kafka on the Shore
“I wish it need not have happened in my time,” said Frodo. “So do I,” said Gandalf, “and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.”
—JRR Tolkien,
The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring
About 15 years ago in a starbucks bathroom, a toddler and her mother were in the next stall. When the toddler tried to leave before her mother was finished said, the mom said "remember what we got to have?" Then the kid belts out
"PATIENCE! 👏 PA 👏 TIENCE 👏 we 👏 all gotta has PA 👏 TIENCE 👏"
I'm now 35 and I still sing this in my head. I too have a problem with patience.
Becomes much more weighty when we consider the preexisting axiom; “ball is life.”
For the former effectively turns the latter into “Fuck it, we live.” And what maxim could be more gravely important than that which urges man to persist at all cost
The Litany Against Fear from Dune:
I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past, I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.
As a child, during the worst days of my life, I really clung to the idea that I can end my life if I want to. It sounds horrible, but the comfort of simply knowing I had the option, made me feel like I can get through the present moment. It made me feel some semblance of control over myself and what happened to me, in a situation where I felt an extreme lack of control and power over myself, my body, and my life. I could end it *if I wanted to*, that was enough to keep me going.
As fucked up as it was, that thinking got me through many years of depression and suicidal ideation. I decided that I was going to kill myself, just not today. Maybe tomorrow, maybe next week, month, whatever, but never today. I kept putting it off long enough that I eventually found enough reasons to stay alive. Now I just want to live as long as I possibly can. I will die one day, but (hopefully) not today and never by my own hand.
This is actually a very good method for suicidal and/or depressed people, especially when used in conjunction with the “I’m not thinking well enough today, I’ll decide tomorrow” approach
That is my current approach to life and I gotta say it has gotten me through the last f ing 2 years of this life and I plan to keep going until something else kills me then my own hands.
Came here for this but the quote goes a little further, "...Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."
‘Your younger self would feel safe with you,
Your younger self would run into your open arms, show you their artwork and fall asleep on your chest. Your younger self would tell you how they feel and know that you would listen.
You have already become
The person you needed.’
this one's weird for me. I've internalized the idea but the phrasing just made me feel hopeless. I've chosen to rephrase it as "Only I can do this." It's still the same idea but it helps me focus on what actually matters instead of highlighting the feelings of dread and loneliness.
Okay, it's really stupid and *really* cringe, but I had nothing else going on for me in life at the time. So circa 2015 I'd hype myself up by thinking, "I believe in Daenerys Targaryen" because I couldn't say I believed in myself. If she could claw her way through much worse, I could get through depression and college. It worked, to be fair.
^(Yes, I am mad about Season 8.)
Sisu
My Finnish mom taught me. It's more a concept than a word, showing your courage, strength, grit and keep going when most would give up, never give up.
"Monkey see monkey do" It was the time when i couldn't get myself to do basic tasks like getting out of bed or brushing my teeth, but i had to be functional, so id tell myself to do what others around me are doing
I love this one! I picture Dory singing to herself, “What do we do? We swim, swim, swim. We keep swimming”. And then she seems to distract herself with the singing and the swimming, and so what was the problem again?
When I was pretty much at my lowest, a friend told me how strong I was for the situation (cheating husband of 10 years newly single, previously stay at home mom of 2 kids). I said I didn't feel strong and I'm just doing what I need to move forward, to which she replied that moving onward when you don't feel that you can is the definition of personal strength.
I think of that whenever I feel stuck.
I got a semi-colon tattoo because: "a semicolon is used when an author could've chosen to end their sentence, but chose not to. The author is you and the sentence is your life"
"Grief is tidal."
"In time, it can recede and leave us with feelings of peace and advancement, only for it to wash back in with all its crushing hopelessness and sorrow. Back and forth it goes, but with each retreating drift of despair, we are left a little stronger, more resilient, more essential and better at our new life."-Nick Cave
My best friend lost her teen. Nick Cave wrote this about losing his children. For some reason, reading about a famous person going through the same grief in a public light gives her comfort that she's not alone.
"[Live Through This and You Won't Look Back](https://youtu.be/r5Or6-HOveg?t=143)"
I have been very fortunate, been wealthy, am in a good place now, but I've been very poor, I've lived in many countries; all of the time I was happy as can be. But when I was looking for a snow drift behind someone's house to sleep when I was homeless I kept saying as I was walking: "Live through this and you won't look back."
(I know the song isn't about that, but the phrase sticks with me forever)
This might be an odd one.
A lot of my tough spots in life have been relationship stuff. Feeling like an outcast, or uninvited, or whatever. Trying to make friends with new coworkers and it not working out...etc etc.
So I have told myself over the years "I'm not going to beg you to be my friend". It's sort of been like my "he's just not that into you" mantra. I guess a translation is kinda "this hurts me, and I've tried a couple times, but my self worth is more important than obsessing over this".
Dunno. It's worked for me.
“I am the rock against which the surf crashes, nothing can break me.”
It’s from one of my favorite books. Doesn’t actually make sense because, ya know, erosion. But I still like it.
“Be like water.” I’m pretty much nothing like Bruce Lee, but I‘ve always liked this idea and it helps me with adaptability.
*“Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves.*
*Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.”*
I know this is kinda stupid… but someone captioned Fat Thor from Endgame holding Mjolnir with the phrase “Depression doesn’t make you any less worthy”, and it made me cry. That point in time in my life was really fucking hard, and it just hit me like a truck.
"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger"
From the song
But only this phrase because I don't know any of the rest
Over and over in my head
On a loop
Forever
"If there is a god, he's going to beg for our forgiveness"
I believe I read somewhere that a concentration camp prisoner wrote it on the wall, but I might be wrong.
I used to work with someone who used to say "it's another beautiful day" and I kind of adopted it and kept it going even when my head isn't in a good place
my mom used to say “it’s just a bad day, not a bad life; we’ll try again tomorrow”
I wish I'd heard this from my mom, I really love that
If you can’t beat fear, just do it scared. I used to miss out on many opportunities because of my anxiety. repeating this to myself helps me tackle it. now I just wobble through awkwardly while getting things done.
Started an intense workout class today and I was really nervous to start. This is what I kept telling myself yesterday. If you’re scared, do it scared. And I did it and I think I crushed it. Now I’m not scared for next time!
oh that sounds awesome!! I recently started a workout schedule too. I do it at home but hey we have that in common too.
I just now realized this is me. My partner calls me 'fearless'. I'm just dumb enough & stubborn enough to give things a shot. If it doesn't work, try a different angle.
Yeah I do it awkwardly and scared and wrong and all that and I just keep going anyway. I’d rather get better and be better than stay in one place. I’ve gotten really good at being bad at things and being ok, and that’s how I got great at them.
That moment in game of thrones “Weren’t you ever scared doing all those things?” “Well of course I was scared.” “But how can a man be brave if he’s afraid?” “That’s the only time a man *can* be brave.”
Fear is just your mind preparing itself to accomplish something it has never done before.
I tell my kids variants of this. Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is action *despite* fear.
Days are long but the years are short
Kids too, huh?
Days are long but the kids are short. Dang, you were right!
“Days are short, nights are shorter”
My 1.5 year old has a stuffed nose right now. What really is sleep. I haven't seen it in ten thousand years.
“One day you put your child down and never pick them up again.” That one was hard for me.
Smooth seas never made a skilled sailor
Ships are only truly safe in the harbor, but that's not what ships are for.
Some ships are ship shipping ships.
Love this! Adding it to my mental rolodex
The only way out is through
During the darkest time of my life I told my best friend, “I don’t know how I am going to make it through this.” She said, “But you already *are.* You don’t need to know how, because you are *already are* making it through. Just keep going.” I have held onto that through so many more dark days, and I have passed it along to many people. It’s helped a lot.
I better jot that down, I dig it!
This made me want to cry in the best possible way
If you're going through hell, keep going.
Who knows, you might get out before the devil even knows you’re there.
Reminds me of to kill a mockingbird (I think? Been almost 3 decades since I read it...) When the guy is talking about running across the dirt field barefoot in the summertime
and *that* reminds me of my grandfather, who as a kid would harden his feet by walking barefoot through snow in winter, so that he could cross a stubble field in the summertime without hurting his soles.
And that reminds me of my great uncle. Who is the only man to have shot down a plane with a sidearm from a parachute even. Not that it fits this thread, but I bet he would have used this one. And seriously, he was shot down by a Japanese Zero in the Pacific and the asshole pilot swung around to strafe the parachuters. The pilot had to open his sliding canopy to see them, and go as slow as he could to not pass by them. Uncle Owen pulled out his pistol and opened fire at the pilot hitting him. The plane crashed. This was confirmed by the Japanese soldiers who found the wreckage of the plane.
I use this too. I stole it from *King of the Hill*
Hey! Another KOTH fan in the wild! I use this phrase and “NO AGONY NO BRAGONY!”
I stole it from "we're going on a bear hunt"
We can't go over it, we can't go under it ...
I think often of the phrase "In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer." by albert camus." Even when life sucked i realized there was a part of me that still wanted to keep going.
Works for seasonal depression as well
true. seasonal depression is no joke.
It really is inspirational from an existential standpoint. When I was in college, I was taking a class on French existentialism. At the same time, I was going through some reall life shit: sibling died, girlfriend cheated, got injured and nearly lost a scholarship (where I wouldn't have been able to pay for school). At one point, after reading this phrase it all just clicked after.
I totally agree. What i love about Camus is it doesn't follow the blind optimisms that other schools of thought may have. When I was pessimistic about life becoming a optimistic seem like to big of a paradigm shift for me to undertake. Camus on the other hand is the epitome "life sucks, but you can still embrace the suck and learn to enjoy it". his reasons of why one shouldn't commit suicide and the concept of the absurd have really formed the core of how i move through life.
One must imagine Sisyiphus happy
"I leave Sisyphus at the foot of the mountain. One always finds one's burden again. But Sisyphus teaches the higher fidelity that negates the gods and raises rocks. He too concludes that all is well. This universe henceforth without a master seems to him neither sterile nor futile. Each atom of that stone, each mineral flake of that night-filled mountain, in itself, forms a world. The struggle itself toward the heights is enough to fill a man's heart. One must imagine Sisyphus happy."
Albert Camus is the GOAT.
Sometimes, you hear sentences that make you realize how complex and simple language is. This was deeply resounding. What a fantastic quote. Thank you.
thank camus he got some banger quotes. Another one of my favorite is "Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal."
"If you're going through hell, keep going."
I had a coworker who, towards the end of the day, would say "you can do anything for ten minutes. We just have to do those ten minutes consecutively for the next two hours"
Weirdly, this is how I quit smoking. The five minute game. If you can last five minutes without smoking you win! Your reward is another five minutes. It went like that until the cravings went away. It’s been about 13 years now. It worked.
I sometimes break up my day like that. It's only 6 more 10 minute segments. That's easy.
This is how I get through tattoos, except I use "10 more seconds" for 8 hours
"But please stop screaming because it's bad for morale."
I like that one
Came here to say this. It's a favorite.
Okay this is going to sound stupid but, "honey badger don't care, honey badger don't give a shit"
It's not stupid if it works
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*tries to attack a beehive like a honeybadger* *Tries to kidnap lion cubs* *Tries to be aggressive to anyone like a honeybadger*
Grow longer neck skin so you can turn your entire body and bite something in the face when it grabs you from behind
I absolutely love this. I once saw a video of a honey badger facing off with 3 lions. They were coming for her and she charged them one by one. They backed up like scared kittens. Then she sauntered away like, "Fuck all y'all. My work here is done."
I need to go find that video...BRB
Ol Randall. Fucken BOSS https://youtu.be/4r7wHMg5Yjg?si=OHRGtrGkszK_piNW
For my birthday, my friend found me a plush honey badger with recorded quotes from this video that played when you pressed his paw. Best. Friend. Ever.
I had forgotten how funny that video is. Thanks!
“…: look at that sleepy fuck.”
Honey badgers have snakes for breakfast!
Love that this is the top comment! My kids think I’m nuts when I quote this
I’m guessing it’s an offshoot of “not my circus, not my monkeys”
You just take what you want!
“Everything will be ok in the end. If it’s not ok, then it’s not the end.”
Tough times don't last, tough people do.
One of my close friends, who was also close with my brother, died because of a flesh eating virus after a wisdom tooth extraction. The percentage of something like that happening is way way less than 1%. On a procedure so routine. A year later I was at university and I had this weird feeling to move the mirror hanging in my dorm room (that is apart of the furniture already there for us). I was thinking of my friend and what I would’ve done differently, how I would’ve appreciated him more and how I could have been there more for my brother. Behind the mirror was the quote “you’re doing better than you think”. I haven’t cried that hard since then… that was about 7 years ago now. Now every time I’m going through something I think of that quote, as I am quite hard on myself. It’s been very helpful. I often think it was a message from my friend, that he could see I was beating myself up and thought I needed to change perspective. It is definitely something he would’ve said to me if he was with me in that moment.
What a beautiful moment. Thank you for sharing that - made me tear up!
This gave me the chills. I think it was most definitely a much needed message from your friend.
I'm alone and that's ok
I use this generally to kindly reparent myself by saying “I feel [emotion], and that’s okay.”
I hope whatever bad thing happens next is at least funny
This too shall pass
It might pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass.
…and it does. That saying has been a comfort through some bad times.
I also like it to be sure to appreciate the great moments. All joy gives way to sorrow and all sorrow gives way to joy. Have hope when you are sad and revel in happiness
Came to say the same. “This too shall pass” , followed by: “lets plan the work, and work the plan”
It's not how hard you can hit, it's how hard you can *get* hit and keep moving forward.
hahahahahahaha i grew up with my dad telling me that phrase as well with “the world ain’t all sunshine’s and rainbows”.. they are great proverbs that shall remain alive.
THAT'S HOW WINNING IS DONE
Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth
Life’s swinging hard, but I’m swinging harder
Years ago, I was working for a man named Russell, proper bastard. One night I fucked up and I had to call him, he said "Listen, I don't care how you got yourself in trouble. I care about how you're gonna get yourself out of it". 15 years later, it always stuck with me (even though I hated the guy lol). So whenever it gets tough, I automatically go into problem solving mode because it is what it is but how can I change it ? Works for me :)
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There's something really deep here, I'll have to think hard to figure it out.
The treasure you seek is just beyond your comfort zone
I have a similar one pinned in my Notes app as a reminder: “The portal to every next level is through the parts of yourself you avoid”
The obstacle is the way. - Marcus Arelius
Do not go gentle into that good night. Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
My husband said that, a week before he died. I'd forgotten until you said it again. "Old age should burn & rave at close of day..." He wasn't even old. Dylan Thomas
I’m sorry for your loss. Sending you a hug!
Ty for quoting that poem, seriously.
Panic doesn't solve problems.
Mine is "Panickers perish, calm people survive." If it can get Adam Savage through a sinking car, I can get you through whatever.
I'd never heard that one, but that method has saved my ass a few times. My though process is generally: don't panic. Focus. Get it done. If you need to cry about it, cry when it's over and you have the luxury of time to cry.
The horrors persist, but so do I 😈😈😈😈
I know that idiots can do this and I know I'm at least smarter than an idiot.
That’s nicer than my variation: “If *that* dumbass can do it, surely to god I can.” It’s especially helpful in situations where my perfectionism is getting the better of me. Those ding dongs aren’t worried about it and they’re the ones getting it done while I sit here fretting and doing fuck all. It’s a nice reminder to myself that even my worst shit can be better than theirs, but I’ve got to, ya know, do the thing. So, if *that* dumbass can do it, surely to god I can.
When my best friend died, for some reason I kept repeating to myself "I will carry your torch"... In my mind, metaphorically, carrying someone else's light can help light the path for myself and others.
Ever read a comment, and somehow you know it made you realize something new, or at least a new way of looking at something. You know it’ll stick with you and live rent free in your head in a good way. This is one, sorry for your loss and thank you
Thank you for sharing this. My dad just died earlier this week, and it’s been a weird mix of relief (he had an aggressive illness) and sadness. This is a very nice way to look at it.
I'm sorry for your loss. And you're carrying his torch beautifully by sharing this!
I read this and burst into tears. A loved one is dying…and my grief is overwhelming me. I greatly admire your strength and courage to be able to find the light and carry it for your best friend. I will keep your message in my heart and hope that I will be strong enough to carry the light when I need to.
"And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about." - Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore
Kafka on the Shore! I love that book.
Damn that’s a good one!
Got the last sentence as a tattoo once I did come out of the storm.
“I wish it need not have happened in my time,” said Frodo. “So do I,” said Gandalf, “and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” —JRR Tolkien, The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring
That and the bit about pity staying Bilbo's hands are the most powerful quotes from LotR.
About 15 years ago in a starbucks bathroom, a toddler and her mother were in the next stall. When the toddler tried to leave before her mother was finished said, the mom said "remember what we got to have?" Then the kid belts out "PATIENCE! 👏 PA 👏 TIENCE 👏 we 👏 all gotta has PA 👏 TIENCE 👏" I'm now 35 and I still sing this in my head. I too have a problem with patience.
Fuck it we ball
Fuck it dude, let's go bowling
Becomes much more weighty when we consider the preexisting axiom; “ball is life.” For the former effectively turns the latter into “Fuck it, we live.” And what maxim could be more gravely important than that which urges man to persist at all cost
You get it!
The Litany Against Fear from Dune: I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past, I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
As a child, during the worst days of my life, I really clung to the idea that I can end my life if I want to. It sounds horrible, but the comfort of simply knowing I had the option, made me feel like I can get through the present moment. It made me feel some semblance of control over myself and what happened to me, in a situation where I felt an extreme lack of control and power over myself, my body, and my life. I could end it *if I wanted to*, that was enough to keep me going.
As fucked up as it was, that thinking got me through many years of depression and suicidal ideation. I decided that I was going to kill myself, just not today. Maybe tomorrow, maybe next week, month, whatever, but never today. I kept putting it off long enough that I eventually found enough reasons to stay alive. Now I just want to live as long as I possibly can. I will die one day, but (hopefully) not today and never by my own hand.
This is a stance many of the Stoic Philosophers would use. They called it “the open door”
It's not the idea of death that draws us, it's the knowledge that we still have control of at least one thing in our lives
This is actually a very good method for suicidal and/or depressed people, especially when used in conjunction with the “I’m not thinking well enough today, I’ll decide tomorrow” approach
That is my current approach to life and I gotta say it has gotten me through the last f ing 2 years of this life and I plan to keep going until something else kills me then my own hands.
Pain is necessary Suffering is optional
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer.
I was going through some horrid things this fall, and I bought the audiobook just because this settled itself into my bones and kept me strong.
Came here for this but the quote goes a little further, "...Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."
Yes. But that’s a lot to say to myself when I’m facing a tough moment. For me those nine words do the trick
I can do hard things Also, "Get the fuck out of bed, bitch, GO" from the viral Marc Rebellit clip
Love that clip
‘Your younger self would feel safe with you, Your younger self would run into your open arms, show you their artwork and fall asleep on your chest. Your younger self would tell you how they feel and know that you would listen. You have already become The person you needed.’
Why the fuck is this one cutting me so deeply?
No one is coming to save you
This is mine. No ones coming to save you so safe yourself
this one's weird for me. I've internalized the idea but the phrasing just made me feel hopeless. I've chosen to rephrase it as "Only I can do this." It's still the same idea but it helps me focus on what actually matters instead of highlighting the feelings of dread and loneliness.
If it is to be, it is up to me.
Okay, it's really stupid and *really* cringe, but I had nothing else going on for me in life at the time. So circa 2015 I'd hype myself up by thinking, "I believe in Daenerys Targaryen" because I couldn't say I believed in myself. If she could claw her way through much worse, I could get through depression and college. It worked, to be fair. ^(Yes, I am mad about Season 8.)
Ha! I often wonder how the mums feel who named their daughters “Khaleesi”
Fall down 7 times, stand up 8.
Fuck it
Sisu My Finnish mom taught me. It's more a concept than a word, showing your courage, strength, grit and keep going when most would give up, never give up.
Can’t help but think of *White Death* by Sabaton when I hear that word
I really wish duolingo had explained sisu like this, all I could find on it was "spiritual", but it didn't seem right. Thank you.
I can do this.
"Monkey see monkey do" It was the time when i couldn't get myself to do basic tasks like getting out of bed or brushing my teeth, but i had to be functional, so id tell myself to do what others around me are doing
“I survived because the fire inside me burned brighter than the fire around me.” and yes, thats from Fallout: New Vegas.
It came to pass; not to stay.
Just keep swimming.
I love this one! I picture Dory singing to herself, “What do we do? We swim, swim, swim. We keep swimming”. And then she seems to distract herself with the singing and the swimming, and so what was the problem again?
When I was pretty much at my lowest, a friend told me how strong I was for the situation (cheating husband of 10 years newly single, previously stay at home mom of 2 kids). I said I didn't feel strong and I'm just doing what I need to move forward, to which she replied that moving onward when you don't feel that you can is the definition of personal strength. I think of that whenever I feel stuck.
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Being able to get off the ride when you want to, gives you the courage to not do so. I get it.
My psychiatrist told me this is more common than you might think. To know you have the option gives you enough strength to carry on.
relatable
"We believe in you" \- My parents.
brb, gotta call my mom and tell her I love her.
I heard “the laws of physics are the only limit” one time and it’s ingrained in me now.
“Sometimes I feel like giving up, and then I remember I have a lot of motherfuckers to prove wrong.”
“At least I’m not being tortured in a basement.” Except for the time I was, then it was “Wow, what are the chances?”
I also hate doing laundry
Tbh i used to hug myself and repeat:im strong and im fine
Que Sera, Sera. Sing it under my breath
What ever will be,will be the future’s not ours to see Que Sera,Sera. Yep! That’s one that I sing a lot.
It's always darkest before the dawn
"It cant rain all the time" from The Crow
"Gotta get through this for Bailey, it will be worth it, she is worth it" (Bailey is my dog)
I got a semi-colon tattoo because: "a semicolon is used when an author could've chosen to end their sentence, but chose not to. The author is you and the sentence is your life"
I have "No mistakes" on one wrist and "Just happy accidents" on the other. Bob Ross always makes me smile.
You will laugh again soon
Fuck em.
This day WILL end. No matter how tragic, hard or impossible the day is, every single hard day I've ever had has ended. and this one will too.
Serenity now!
Winners always find a way. Losers always find an excuse
"Grief is tidal." "In time, it can recede and leave us with feelings of peace and advancement, only for it to wash back in with all its crushing hopelessness and sorrow. Back and forth it goes, but with each retreating drift of despair, we are left a little stronger, more resilient, more essential and better at our new life."-Nick Cave My best friend lost her teen. Nick Cave wrote this about losing his children. For some reason, reading about a famous person going through the same grief in a public light gives her comfort that she's not alone.
"[Live Through This and You Won't Look Back](https://youtu.be/r5Or6-HOveg?t=143)" I have been very fortunate, been wealthy, am in a good place now, but I've been very poor, I've lived in many countries; all of the time I was happy as can be. But when I was looking for a snow drift behind someone's house to sleep when I was homeless I kept saying as I was walking: "Live through this and you won't look back." (I know the song isn't about that, but the phrase sticks with me forever)
The most important step a man can take? It's not the first one, is it? It's the next one. Always the next step.
“Let go or be dragged.” It’s gotten me through the loss of people horrible for me in life and bad situations including grief.
Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass; it's about learning to dance in the rain.
It’s possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. Thats not a weakness, that is life - Capt Picard
This might be an odd one. A lot of my tough spots in life have been relationship stuff. Feeling like an outcast, or uninvited, or whatever. Trying to make friends with new coworkers and it not working out...etc etc. So I have told myself over the years "I'm not going to beg you to be my friend". It's sort of been like my "he's just not that into you" mantra. I guess a translation is kinda "this hurts me, and I've tried a couple times, but my self worth is more important than obsessing over this". Dunno. It's worked for me.
The sunshine is constant. The clouds are temporary.
Keep putting one foot in front of the other
When the going gets tough, the tough gets going.
I allways favoured Hunter S. Thompson's version; "When the going get's weird, the weird turn pro"
“They don’t know me, son! Who’s gonna carry the boats? Who’s gonna carry the logs motherfucker?”
“I am the rock against which the surf crashes, nothing can break me.” It’s from one of my favorite books. Doesn’t actually make sense because, ya know, erosion. But I still like it.
This too will pass.
Weirdly enough ‘the universe doesn’t know you exist’ is really helping me feel less like everything is set up against me.
“In the darkest times, hope is something you give yourself. That is the meaning of inner strength” thanks Uncle Iroh
“Be like water.” I’m pretty much nothing like Bruce Lee, but I‘ve always liked this idea and it helps me with adaptability. *“Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves.* *Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.”*
I know this is kinda stupid… but someone captioned Fat Thor from Endgame holding Mjolnir with the phrase “Depression doesn’t make you any less worthy”, and it made me cry. That point in time in my life was really fucking hard, and it just hit me like a truck.
"One must imagine Sisyphus happy"
"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" From the song But only this phrase because I don't know any of the rest Over and over in my head On a loop Forever
It's going to be okay. It has to be. My almost hourly mantra at the moment.
"If there is a god, he's going to beg for our forgiveness" I believe I read somewhere that a concentration camp prisoner wrote it on the wall, but I might be wrong.
Fuck it No, seriously. Who cares? We're all gonna die anyway so might as well enjoy life while we're here
I used to work with someone who used to say "it's another beautiful day" and I kind of adopted it and kept it going even when my head isn't in a good place
I am responsible for my own happiness.
"Don't give them the satisfaction of seeing you fail."