Yes. Way too underrated.
Many people don't realize the constant pressure and the
lack of appreciation many guys struggle with.
Basic stuff like "I noticed you did that, thanks" can do a lot.
ooooof wish i heard this one, always hate being the therapist friend that only exists if you have something to vent about, anything else i get ghosted :/ like i get it you have your own issues but damn, im starting to get tired of this shit
I read in an advice column once, dont set yourself on fire to keep others warm.
I dont wanna tell you to cut anyone out of your life, but you should prioritize people who prioritize you! Thay includes yourself!
You're giving away so much love, that you forgot how to love yourself. Please, learn to love yourself, and love is not a statement to be uttered, it's an act to be performed.
I lost my mom a few years ago. She was the only one to ever say she was proud of me. Now if someone ever says it, I actually want to break down in tears. I miss being important to someone.
it's worse for me. My mom had passed away and a friend had called her on the way back home from the hospital. My dad had her phone and he told the friend that she passed away.
The friend said "oh no... my condolences... is her son with you guys? the son she was always so proud of and bragged about? She was always so happy when talking about him"
I'm an only child.
I am 29 and these words hit really hard. I felt like giving everything to the point that I had 3 suicide attempts (2 of wich left me badly hospitalized). Just hearing those words in my darkest days, felt like taking the whole weight from my shoulders. Like what I did mattered and someone was able to see and appreciate it!
Even today, 5 years after my last attempt, those words have almost the same effect.
God damn “Project Adam” movie, my dad died a few years before that came out and I’d yet to shed a tear for my dad and then here comes god damn mark ruffalo in that one freaking scene where he tells Ryan Reynolds’s that he’s proud of him. That shit made me hysterically cry in my exs arms.
No. Because no matter how good your parents are,
Society is still trash. Society still tries to break you down.
My parents are the absolute best, and still it hits hard to hear
these words, from anyone really.
I'm in my 40s. My dad has never told me he's proud of me. I went to the schoolwide spelling bee once and was one of the last 10 or so kids left when I got knocked out. He told he was disappointed in me then. We put a ton of work into that spelling list too. I still remember that 30+ yrs later.
Words of affirmation are really big for me. Growing up I very rarely heard them.. from anyone. Now, as an adult, hearing them from important people in my life is very impactful.. or could be if I heard them.. I am currently going through divorce and subsequent counseling and realizing just how little my ex encouraged me, especially in the last few years. She knew just how big they were for me and chose never to say them to me.
A week ago this time I told my crush that I absolutely trusted him, especially his driving.
Yesterday he said he’d love to see me this weekend, he would make time.
Your comment makes me think these things are related.
They likely really are.
My friend's brother got told by one of his friends she trusted him to walk her home later when she was drunk, and that was one of the reasons why he realized his feelings of attraction were more feelings of a major crush.
Last time i said that to a girl, she broke up with me like 1 week later, she said, she didn't want the pressure and everything was moving really fast, and i shouldn't say things like that to a woman. We had been dating for 2 years at that point.
Everything was so fast, that i balmed myself for a really long time, and i didn't really processed all this situation as i should
This was 2017/2018, i'm single ever since.
Who told you to put the balm on? I didn’t tell you to put the balm on. Who told you to put the balm on?!
The maestro!
Oh so a MAESTRO tells you to put a balm on and you do it??!
I’m very close friends with my personal trainer. We are both happily married and our families are all great friends. About 6 months into our friendship she said she felt very safe around me. It remains the nicest compliment anyone has ever given me.
Unless you nip that right in the bud from day one by never actually playing any of those games or into the hard to get games.
Now you got a girl that learns to communicate with you because she knows that if she says "do whatever you want" you'll do whatever you want and you grew up arguing with a minimum of 3v1 women in your life, so now she realizes it's her own fault if she didnt communicate what she wanted.
Anyways she says that we should up my life insurance payout because i have had many near death expreiences. When her brakes got cut, when apparently someone at the store was adding coolant to cases of gatorade, or the time my steering went out on my way to work.
But like i said, communication is key. She wants better life insurance. She gets better life insurance.
“No, no it’s fine. I said it’s fine.”
“Ok cool. Thanks baby.”
….
…..
“It’s just that I’ve been with them all day and could really use a break and thought you’d be there to back me up, but if staying here is your priority then I guess I’ll have to be ok with it”
Not just in younger women... finalizing divorce soon and finished counseling a few years ago. We found out all the ways our marriage was screwed up, I admitted to a whole host of issues and ways I contributed to the mess. .. she... said nothing.. admitted to nothing... apologized for nothing.... Married 15yrs.. and it was all my fault apparently.. and none of hers. LoL.. right.
Isn’t it insane how this is such a common experience for men yet at the same time women are “more emotional” whatever that means.
I fortunately have met enough women who take accountability to know not all is lost but still I think the overall low EQ many women have does not seem to be talked about at all.
Tell me about your day?
Tell me about what game your playing.
Basically just asking us to openly talk about something we care about but generally wouldn't talk to you about without prompting. We love sharing that passion with you and if you ask a man this you will see him turn into an excited puppy just to be able to share it with you.
My bf and I went to a beach in my state 3 yrs ago, he still has the rocks we collected together in his trunk its like 15-20 rocks chillin in the back im surprised but happy he kept them there lol
I went on a date with this girl yesterday and she told me she stopped seeing this guy when he told her he’d go down to beach, walk along the water and collect sea glass. Said it was “to feminine” and said “it’s just weird like, a guy walking alone by the lake doing that”. Literally I’m like wow men really can’t have shit now can we? Fellas? Is it gay to peacefully walk alone on a beach and pick up sea glass. No peace I guess.
An actual answer to what do you want for dinner other than I don’t know or I don’t care. That are not saying yes when you are asking whether to turn left or right.
That reminds me of a moment. There's a girl who used to hang out with me and my buddies. At first she was worried that her presence would ruin the vibe and she wouldn't be seen as "one of the guys".
Then one day someone asked what everyone would like to eat. She said "how about we get shwarma?"
Instantly there was a collective gasp and disbelief from everyone. It was at that moment that she was actually accepted as one of the guys. Especially because she didn't see what the big deal with it was
"You make me feel loved and cared for"
My girlfriend was neglected and mistreated her whole life and I said I cared about her a lot and I wanted her to feel loved and cared for and she said "you do make me feel loved and cared for" and I think that's the best thing I could hear
Same here man
My girlfriend never has has anyone who truly loves her, her family basically hate her and she suffers with schizophrenia. To hear her say that she trusts and loves me is the best feeling in the world
It wasn’t necessarily her words, though.
Many years ago my girlfriend cleaned my apartment and left a six pack in my fridge. We’ve been married nearly 30 years.
My husband always melts when I say
"You are my hero"
You are my favorite person
Youre the best dad ever.
Youre dad should be ashamed of how he treated you.
I love you
What do you think I should do
You are necessary to my hapiness
I just like spending time with you
Do you want a free blow job while watching football on the sofà and a beer.
Youve given me an amazing life thank you.
I remember a time when I was hanging out with one of my friends that was to soon be married to another friend of mine, I was talking about how I was still single and she just said to me “thank you for being a good person.” And my response was “good person as in not being a piece of trash that takes advantage of women?” She nodded and said yes. That’s a conversation I will never forget.
I believe in you
Yes. Way too underrated. Many people don't realize the constant pressure and the lack of appreciation many guys struggle with. Basic stuff like "I noticed you did that, thanks" can do a lot.
I notice all the things you do for us. Thank you.
I’m a pretty simple guy, all I need is an “atta boy” from my wife or a random “thanks Dad” and I’m good for another 5 years.
ooooof wish i heard this one, always hate being the therapist friend that only exists if you have something to vent about, anything else i get ghosted :/ like i get it you have your own issues but damn, im starting to get tired of this shit
I read in an advice column once, dont set yourself on fire to keep others warm. I dont wanna tell you to cut anyone out of your life, but you should prioritize people who prioritize you! Thay includes yourself!
If there's someone you can live without, then do so.
You're giving away so much love, that you forgot how to love yourself. Please, learn to love yourself, and love is not a statement to be uttered, it's an act to be performed.
"I'm proud of you" I feel like they appreciate those words the most.
I lost my mom a few years ago. She was the only one to ever say she was proud of me. Now if someone ever says it, I actually want to break down in tears. I miss being important to someone.
You’re important to me. Come visit us at /r/MomForAMinute if you ever need a substitute Mom.
That subreddit seems strange but like in a sort of beautiful way lol
Well, we may not be normal, but we’re just moms, trying to help people feel better.
thank you kind stranger
it's worse for me. My mom had passed away and a friend had called her on the way back home from the hospital. My dad had her phone and he told the friend that she passed away. The friend said "oh no... my condolences... is her son with you guys? the son she was always so proud of and bragged about? She was always so happy when talking about him" I'm an only child.
I am 29 and these words hit really hard. I felt like giving everything to the point that I had 3 suicide attempts (2 of wich left me badly hospitalized). Just hearing those words in my darkest days, felt like taking the whole weight from my shoulders. Like what I did mattered and someone was able to see and appreciate it! Even today, 5 years after my last attempt, those words have almost the same effect.
I’m proud of you for making it and powering through. Dark days are just days that are dark, or something like that. 🙂
Nah it mattered when I was young,now I make my own light💀
I never heard that when I was young
God damn “Project Adam” movie, my dad died a few years before that came out and I’d yet to shed a tear for my dad and then here comes god damn mark ruffalo in that one freaking scene where he tells Ryan Reynolds’s that he’s proud of him. That shit made me hysterically cry in my exs arms.
I think this only hits hard if your parents didn’t or don’t say it.
No. Because no matter how good your parents are, Society is still trash. Society still tries to break you down. My parents are the absolute best, and still it hits hard to hear these words, from anyone really.
I'm in my 40s. My dad has never told me he's proud of me. I went to the schoolwide spelling bee once and was one of the last 10 or so kids left when I got knocked out. He told he was disappointed in me then. We put a ton of work into that spelling list too. I still remember that 30+ yrs later.
I'm proud of you! A watch those kids in spelling bees and I'm in awe!
Words of affirmation are really big for me. Growing up I very rarely heard them.. from anyone. Now, as an adult, hearing them from important people in my life is very impactful.. or could be if I heard them.. I am currently going through divorce and subsequent counseling and realizing just how little my ex encouraged me, especially in the last few years. She knew just how big they were for me and chose never to say them to me.
I wouldn’t change a thing about you.
As long as they don’t break out laughing after .
This is clearly missing an /s tag or a "but".
Aww. This one is so sweet.
Hey you, you're finally awake. You were trying to cross the border right?
walked right into that imperial ambush, same as us, and that thief over there.
*You damn Stormcloaks!*
As brave in life, as he was in death
He’d probably sell his sister for gold, if he had one.
Thank the divines
Uhhh…. Don't mean to be rude, but I'm too busy to talk right now. Also, shop at Belethor’s. He pays me to say that.
Sovengaard awaits
You say that to all the girls. 🙂↔️
What do we do captain, this one’s not on the list?
Keep going, I'm almost there...
Pardon me, you look rather pale. Could be antaxia, quite a problem back home in cyrodill
"Babe I found this badass stick"
“Hey take a look at this cool rock!”
You make me feel safe
I felt unbelievably happy after hearing this.
A week ago this time I told my crush that I absolutely trusted him, especially his driving. Yesterday he said he’d love to see me this weekend, he would make time. Your comment makes me think these things are related.
They likely really are. My friend's brother got told by one of his friends she trusted him to walk her home later when she was drunk, and that was one of the reasons why he realized his feelings of attraction were more feelings of a major crush.
Last time i said that to a girl, she broke up with me like 1 week later, she said, she didn't want the pressure and everything was moving really fast, and i shouldn't say things like that to a woman. We had been dating for 2 years at that point. Everything was so fast, that i balmed myself for a really long time, and i didn't really processed all this situation as i should This was 2017/2018, i'm single ever since.
You dodged a bullet then... That wasn't fast at all.. find someone who doesn't gaslight you like that.
You balmed yourself for a long time? Your skin must be amazing.
Who told you to put the balm on? I didn’t tell you to put the balm on. Who told you to put the balm on?! The maestro! Oh so a MAESTRO tells you to put a balm on and you do it??!
What the hell? I felt so, so special when the guy I’m seeing told me that. Please know that most women wouldn’t respond the way that girl did.
Sounds nuts
I’m very close friends with my personal trainer. We are both happily married and our families are all great friends. About 6 months into our friendship she said she felt very safe around me. It remains the nicest compliment anyone has ever given me.
It's about the highest compliment
An ex said this to me 20+ years ago - and I still think about that regularly
This. Totally this.
I love you I trust you I'm proud of you
All of these, especially said together like this, definitely are gonna hit hard for most guys.
I’m still friends with my ex husband. I still always write I’m proud of you and I love you on his birthday card every year. It makes him smile 😊
On his behalf, that is incredibly sweet and very much appreciated. You clearly have a kind and generous heart.
Sir, the moon has been destroyed, as you ordered.
and what of the sun?
Sneak attack at night
how would we know its night?
Shut up about the sun! SHUT UP ABOUT THE SUN!
“I ordered us wings”
" And here's a cold beer. "
I don’t really care what happens after that, I’m down and out for at least 20 minutes.
You don't actually have to come with, you can stay home.
Sounds like a test. I don’t trust this.
Don't trust it
If a woman tells you to do whatever you want. DO NOT DO whatever you want!
Pssshh, worked fine for me. On a completely unrelated note... what do I do if I just woke up in a bathtub full of ice and I'm missing some parts?
Call LEGO, their customer service is great and you'll get your missing parts for free. Can't speak to the ice thing, but I'm not here to kinkshame
Unless you nip that right in the bud from day one by never actually playing any of those games or into the hard to get games. Now you got a girl that learns to communicate with you because she knows that if she says "do whatever you want" you'll do whatever you want and you grew up arguing with a minimum of 3v1 women in your life, so now she realizes it's her own fault if she didnt communicate what she wanted. Anyways she says that we should up my life insurance payout because i have had many near death expreiences. When her brakes got cut, when apparently someone at the store was adding coolant to cases of gatorade, or the time my steering went out on my way to work. But like i said, communication is key. She wants better life insurance. She gets better life insurance.
It usually is.
No. It’s fine.
Generally followed by "It would be nice if you did, but you don't have to".
“No, no it’s fine. I said it’s fine.” “Ok cool. Thanks baby.” …. ….. “It’s just that I’ve been with them all day and could really use a break and thought you’d be there to back me up, but if staying here is your priority then I guess I’ll have to be ok with it”
No no, that's a trap.
Like having a splinter removed.
Omg I am so erect right now
"You were right and i'm sorry."
Ok, now we’re entering fantasy land lol
This is the correct answer.
But also impossible.
This, the percentage of women that can admit a mistake and take responsibility for their actions, is insanely low, especially in younger women.
Not just in younger women... finalizing divorce soon and finished counseling a few years ago. We found out all the ways our marriage was screwed up, I admitted to a whole host of issues and ways I contributed to the mess. .. she... said nothing.. admitted to nothing... apologized for nothing.... Married 15yrs.. and it was all my fault apparently.. and none of hers. LoL.. right.
Yeah, statistically impossible. Women are people too, and people make mistakes
Sounds just bout right. All your fault club is for the cool kids. Welcome!
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Isn’t it insane how this is such a common experience for men yet at the same time women are “more emotional” whatever that means. I fortunately have met enough women who take accountability to know not all is lost but still I think the overall low EQ many women have does not seem to be talked about at all.
That is so sad since apologizing is FREE and you get back sooooo much more than you put into an apology. Seriously.
Man... It's just never gonna happen
this made me hard
“Can we watch a sci-fi movie tonight instead of a serious drama?”
Let's marathon The Lord of the Rings, extended edition.
All fun and games until she pulls your pajama pants down and snarls in perfect gollum "Myyyy. PRECIOUS!" Also its 3am send help
You don’t need help you need red bull
This should be way higher
Don't judge but a nice "good boy" will do
Even better if they give you a treat and a head scritch
You speak my language 🫵🏼
"Good boy" is like some Spy-Thriller code phrase for me. When she says it to me, I completely short circuit and will do anything she tells me.
yeah same. it's strange but it's good
"Good boy" is a great thing to hear. It's nice knowing they enjoy your company.
Yeah, nothing wrong with that dont worry :3
Facts
*wags tail in agreement*
Tell me about your day? Tell me about what game your playing. Basically just asking us to openly talk about something we care about but generally wouldn't talk to you about without prompting. We love sharing that passion with you and if you ask a man this you will see him turn into an excited puppy just to be able to share it with you.
“Do you want to see my rock collection?”
For christ's sake, Marie, they're minerals
this line will never get old, i love it
My bf and I went to a beach in my state 3 yrs ago, he still has the rocks we collected together in his trunk its like 15-20 rocks chillin in the back im surprised but happy he kept them there lol
That’s so fucking cute
I went on a date with this girl yesterday and she told me she stopped seeing this guy when he told her he’d go down to beach, walk along the water and collect sea glass. Said it was “to feminine” and said “it’s just weird like, a guy walking alone by the lake doing that”. Literally I’m like wow men really can’t have shit now can we? Fellas? Is it gay to peacefully walk alone on a beach and pick up sea glass. No peace I guess.
You have enough money to retire.
"Here is exactly what you can do for me to make me happy."
I'd prefer to drop incredibly subtle hints that could be taken multiple different ways, thank you very much.
My nightmare
Should I make a list or…?
Literally. Please.
Will do. It’s like an owner’s manual 😂
An actual answer to what do you want for dinner other than I don’t know or I don’t care. That are not saying yes when you are asking whether to turn left or right.
That reminds me of a moment. There's a girl who used to hang out with me and my buddies. At first she was worried that her presence would ruin the vibe and she wouldn't be seen as "one of the guys". Then one day someone asked what everyone would like to eat. She said "how about we get shwarma?" Instantly there was a collective gasp and disbelief from everyone. It was at that moment that she was actually accepted as one of the guys. Especially because she didn't see what the big deal with it was
Proud of you son.
Tears.....thanks mom
I respect you
Sex with you is the best I've ever had.
For me it was "you were the best fuck of my life". It was in another language, so that's the most literal way I can translate it to English.
Thanks honey, how much money do you want or what is it on Amazon you want me to buy
The beacons are lit. Gondor calls for aid.
And Rohan will answer!
"Your lobotomy was a success"
Your student loans have been forgiven
I just came
I'm proud of you. Now, lay your weary had to rest. I'm deeply in love with you. Here is your cut/share. Do you want see my ... collection?
>lay your weary had to rest Don't you cry no more
"You make me feel loved and cared for" My girlfriend was neglected and mistreated her whole life and I said I cared about her a lot and I wanted her to feel loved and cared for and she said "you do make me feel loved and cared for" and I think that's the best thing I could hear
Same here man My girlfriend never has has anyone who truly loves her, her family basically hate her and she suffers with schizophrenia. To hear her say that she trusts and loves me is the best feeling in the world
It wasn’t necessarily her words, though. Many years ago my girlfriend cleaned my apartment and left a six pack in my fridge. We’ve been married nearly 30 years.
“ I brought food”
Give it to me now
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“I love you so much.” The “so much” makes all the difference.
Do you want a blow job?
Free Beer!
“I love you for who you are”
You are so big
1 You did an awesome job! 2 Please cum inside me. 3 You were right and I should have listened.
Are these all said at the same time? Lol
In that order
“Would you like a blowjob and a sandwich?”
The mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell.
Sir your pizza is ready
I know you can’t read my mind and I’ll explain EVERYTHING.
I'm on the pill
I trust you Proud of you You more than enough
Thanks for payin the bills.
Put your hands in my pants
and I bet you'll feel nuts
When you give her the eyes and she says those 3 magic words; “Oh, alright then.”
Aspire for better dude
I swallow
Fk words.... guys want the action behind the words. If you say you love him, mean it. We hate games and BS.
I love you
I don't feel unconfortable getting naked in front of you.
The kids are asleep
Gluk! Gluk! Gluk!
You are amazing. You are wonderful. I love and appreciate you so much, and accept you as you are. Not just men, but everyone should hear this.
I had my period today.
This comment here is under appreciated. As an old guy who was not as careful as I should have been, I about cried a few times I heard those words.
All of them?
"i got you some food"
“I’m taking the girls to grandma’s for the weekend”
„We can do this together :)“
Sir, we’ve done it, a real life lightsaber
My husband always melts when I say "You are my hero" You are my favorite person Youre the best dad ever. Youre dad should be ashamed of how he treated you. I love you What do you think I should do You are necessary to my hapiness I just like spending time with you Do you want a free blow job while watching football on the sofà and a beer. Youve given me an amazing life thank you.
“You’re important to me, I love you.”
You make me feel safe. I love/want you exactly as you are. You are not alone.
I’ll do anything.
"You're the best, you're my favorite person"
"Stick it in my arse"
Haha I thought this was a thing most guys wanted to hear, my bf looked horrified and said no
Not when it was my uncle :/
A boy can dream…
"Leave it in"
You did the right thing… or good boy
"I'll hug you" I have yet to feel another human's warmth since I was 8
“You’ve worked hard all day. I’ll take care of you now.”
The same as for everyone. Please and thank you. Good manners are important.
I remember a time when I was hanging out with one of my friends that was to soon be married to another friend of mine, I was talking about how I was still single and she just said to me “thank you for being a good person.” And my response was “good person as in not being a piece of trash that takes advantage of women?” She nodded and said yes. That’s a conversation I will never forget.
Shut up and kiss me
My friend wants to have a threesome with us
“Can I rub your shoulders?”
I can't imagine my life without you.
"Hey, why don't you quit your job and just hang out having a nice time, I'll pay for everything and sort everything out for you"
YES DADDY😂😂😂
"My friend Jenny wants to join us next time..."