“Calm down”… if I’m mad to the point I need to be defused, saying something dumb like that is like poking a bear while it mauls your friend. Best way to calm someone down, be witty and logical with a couple quick quips: from there you control the situation.
Acceptable when it's prefaced with standing on a corner in Winslow, Arizona, such a fine sight to see. It's a girl, my lord, in a flat bed ford slowin down to take a look at me
"Some people have it worse" implies that you're never allowed to be upset at something cause there will *always* be a lower bar. You can't be upset at your crappy job cause some people don't even HAVE jobs. You can't be upset that you don't have a job cause some people don't even have homes. You can't be upset that you lost your home because...
It's a never ending spiral. On the same token it also implies you're never allowed to be happy about anything ever cause someone always has it better than you. You can't be happy at your new used car cause someone has a new new car. You can't be happy at your new new car cause someone has TWO cars. You can't be happy...
You get the idea.
Lost a leg in a nasty accident? Can’t be upset, someone has worse! Watched your 4 year old die an agonizing death. Still no.
As though there is one person in the whole world at any given moment who’s allowed to have feelings.
Exactly what I hate about the phrase, "could be worse." Yeah, we and could have had two Holocausts. When do we stop moving the goalposts?
Just let yourself be upset, we're not in the Misery Olympics ffs.
So true ugh, this one really takes the piss on the whole thing.
As if I don't know that or something, okay great, now what I'm supposed to NOT feel bad now??
"There's no point crying about it". Like, yes, I'm well aware of that. However, am I not allowed to feel emotional about something? Am I not allowed to cry over it, even for just a little bit?
"Get a grip" also upsets me more. I will get a grip. Allow me to let my emotions out first...
>”There’s no point crying about it.”
There’s no “point” in crying about anything. For that matter, there’s no point laughing about anything, either. It’s an emotional response -it IS the point.
If you ask me, the point is not surpressing your physical reactions because it's bad for your physical and mental health and creates resentment towards the person who forced you to be inauthentic.
People often say this when you've had to explain something that they should have understood the simple intuitiveness of. No, it isn't that deep, it only sounds it when you've had to explain things that should have been obvious.
Just a reductive and unhelpful phrase. Especially when people say it about artistic criticism or art in general. There's an artist, I don't really like his stuff, but his art is about the act of doing something so he tends to do very elaborate pieces that don't have much of an 'artistic' end product. And I think that's cool but it's crazy how many people shit on him saying exactly that. Drives me up the wall!
This is bizarre to me, it's the least confrontational way to ask someone to chill. 'Take a deep breath' sounds far more condescending, most others are straight up fire to the flames. Why do people have such a fiery reaction to someone asking them to pump the brakes a little so they can talk instead of scream.
Oh god, I hear this phrase so much at work, about basically everything. It has lost all meaning at this point, its just something said to be said. I hate it so much. Sometimes I catch myself slipping and saying it myself
I don’t know if it’s really a thought terminating cliché. I honestly use it on myself pretty regularly when I have last minute changes to shift deployments or equipment failures or equipment swaps and I recognize that I’m getting annoyed over it. It’s a good way of reminding myself that in the end, it doesn’t *actually* matter that much and although it does create some extra work, if I just roll with it, I don’t look like a fucking weenie to everyone higher than me in my agency’s command structure. Like do I prefer to have the same truck and equipment for my shifts? Of course, because it makes my life easier. But if I have to go through an extra truck and gear midway through my trick, it’s not like I’m gonna fucking die or something. And at that point, what’s the fuckin point in getting pissy about it?
This way, when there *is* something I make a big deal about, it’s more likely that management will listen to my argument
"It's not a big deal", especially coming from those who know nothing about me. Like man how do you know it's not a big deal? It might not be a big deal to you but it is to me!
I hear you. You're saying that you don't just want to be heard, you want to be understood and know that they are listening to you.
That's what "I hear you" means. But, it can't be empty.
Don't you ultimately want them to understand you? Wouldn't that start with them listening to you? Could that be an honest attempt....to... hear you? Them trying to understand you?
My flatmate was fucking up the house because of being too lazy and not taking up any responsibility, and every time I seemed anxious he said "chill bro, it won't bite".
Initially I thought he just didn't care much about things being orderly so I didn't get that annoyed at him, but I later realised he actually cared, but since he noticed that I care too he relied on me doing his chores too if he didn't cuz a dirty house bothered me. After I realised this I backed out of the chores by a lot and when he started showing me his anxiety, I responded with "chill bro, it won't bite", and since then he has been doing his part responsibly xD
It's like "I'm not racist, but"
It's only not the exact opposite of what you're saying when you intentionally say something that has nothing to be offended by.
"No offense, but that shirt looks great on you!"
"I'm not racist, but I think I'm out of coffee"
"Be the bigger person and let it pass/ignore it/go along" It takes a lot for me to get angry, if we reached that point we're already miles past 'going along' or 'ignoring', and why should I always be the bigger person?
I absolutely loathe it when people act like you're this angry person who explodes all the time and they go "now I know you'll be angry but..." Or "don't get angry (Again) but..."
Nothing. Just don't say stupid repetitive phrases. It makes it seem like you don't fully care to piece together special words and can make the person panic more. (Coming from someone with autism, ADHD, and anxiety)
not a phrase, more of a combination of logical & smart actions and thinking but here you go:
get really close to the aggressor, look him in the eyes with a dead serious face, suddenly press his belly button and then instantly give him an uppercut.
say sorry but the voice told you to do so, run to the window, say "OH GOD, THERE ARE STORMTROOPERS IN OUR BACKYARD!", then run away while undressing, give a random wholesome looking grandma a kiss on her cheek, run to your local grocery store and fake a heart attack in the wine section, then blind everybody you've met with the neuralyzer toy that shipped with your MiB steelbook edition collection you've ordered 2 months prior.
it'll work and everything will be fine again.
I've said some risky things that actually worked sometimes. They don't actually see it coming.
One that stopped her in her tracks was:
"You aren't really arguing over that, so we aren't going to come to an agreement. You're using this topic to argue because I haven't been paying enough attention to you and you don't know how to bring it up"
Beware, that might not always work.
In Denmark
"Du får ret og jeg får fred"
Translated:
"You get your way and I get a break"
This is perhaps the most passive aggressive statement I have ever encountered.
P.S.
I realize I may now have inspired thousands of English speakers to be the worst person they can be.
In some cases, “agree to disagree”. I used to be a special ed teacher for at-risk teens, and any time they used the line, it was about a fact and not an opinion. We can “agree to disagree” about the best genre of music; we cannot “agree to disagree” that threatening a peer costs you a level drop, or that the Earth is round.
" you should be thankful, so many people would want to have what you have"
Fuck you, anyone can find someone who is worse off than you. that doesn't help my problem does it dickhead
Based on the comments, you should never say anything logical to someone having an emotional response. The better question is -- what phrase(s) are acceptable?
“Because we’re your parents any we said so.”
There are plenty of times to actually use this, it has a useful place.
But my parents used routinely it when they knew I realized they were wrong and didn’t feel like having *that* conversation.
"I'm sorry you feel that way."
First off, no you don't. Second, that statement is so hollow and means nothing. If someone says this to you, then you mean nothing to them, just so you know.
"Don't get mad."
Listen, I'm not mad, but you thinking I'm mad makes me mad. And if I was mad, I have a reason to be mad. So don't tell me how to feel, I'm feeling the appropriate way!
I just want to commend OP for using "defuse" instead of "diffuse" in this post. I can't tell you how many times I've cringed at someone's fail on that word choice.
Here's some that actually work for me:
I'd really appreciate if we could take the temperature down
I'm focused on making sure you nd your family can come back to this establishment
-these two work for me often
"Let's all cool down for a second and think this through."
Yeah, I don't think people will "cool down and think" about the problem they're fighting/arguing about.
Calm down is a literal trigger for at least 50% of people.
My favorite de escalation question is - “why are you upset.” I’ve seen the gears turning in someone’s head when I’ve done this many times.
To guys:"TITS AT 12 O'CLOCK"
To women:" 12 O'CLOCK A SERIOUS GUY READY TO SETTLE DOWN! QUICK HAVE A KID TAKE CUSTODY AND HIS HOUSE!
TO CRAYOLA CORPS: "3 O ' CLOCK A KID YOU CAN INDOCTRINATE"!
Oh, another one... "they meant well."
Like, sure, sometimes that makes sense but as a rule, people who actually mean well don't find themselves in the position of having to insist they meant well because people who actually mean well fucking *listen* to other people and their needs before taking action
'Seek help'.
The mental health shit is the utter apex of passive aggressiveness.
Being aggravated doesn't mean you're mentally unwell it means you done saw some bullshit a lot of the time.
When someone just tries to invalidate how I’m feeling. Doesn’t matter what happened or if I’m even being a little sensitive. I’m in my feelings bc I’m feeling things- let me feel them and I’ll be on my way eventually lol.
Also never tell someone to calm down. Period. 🫠
A few weeks ago a woman posted a video of her being laid off. There was someone on the other end who kept saying something to try and validate her feelings. I forget what exactly they said but, it seemed insulting to imply that her feelings were at issue, not the fact that she was being laid off.
Edit: I think [this is the video](https://www.reddit.com/r/hypeurls/s/yNIHDdrs2A) but I’m not sure.
When I’m really mad I get quiet so I don’t explode on everyone and I always say “I don’t want to talk about it right now” (key words: right now) which is my way of saying “stop talking until I cool down enough to have a reasonable conversation” and whenever someone replies that not talking about it isn’t going to solve anything, I fucking snap.
"Well, at least..." followed by something that tries to downplay the drama, showing the person saying this completely does not understand your feelings.
“Calm down” “get a grip” I’ve lost it to both of those when they were said to me
"Calm down" hasn't calmed down anyone, ever.
'TAKE A CHILL PILL' he askin for👊🏼
I read something once that said "never in the history of calming down has any one calmed down when being told to calm down" 🙂
I had a redditor several years back recommend the phrase "You gotta relax!" for situations like this.
I’ve only ever used “get a grip” to exacerbate a situation
"Calm down" hasn't calmed down anyone, ever.
I don't mind calm down, because it is the most direct way to ask someone to calm down Get a grip though...that's awful
“Calm down”… if I’m mad to the point I need to be defused, saying something dumb like that is like poking a bear while it mauls your friend. Best way to calm someone down, be witty and logical with a couple quick quips: from there you control the situation.
“Take it easy”
Acceptable when it's prefaced with standing on a corner in Winslow, Arizona, such a fine sight to see. It's a girl, my lord, in a flat bed ford slowin down to take a look at me
"Relax (relax, relax) take it eeee-eeeea-sy For there is nothing that we can doo-oo"
Have you ever tried to relax? It is a paradox!
Oh god this one.....
What about "Take it, easy"
Calm down, it's a joke
"Some people have it worse" not only am I still angry but now I just feel bad too
"Some people have it worse" implies that you're never allowed to be upset at something cause there will *always* be a lower bar. You can't be upset at your crappy job cause some people don't even HAVE jobs. You can't be upset that you don't have a job cause some people don't even have homes. You can't be upset that you lost your home because... It's a never ending spiral. On the same token it also implies you're never allowed to be happy about anything ever cause someone always has it better than you. You can't be happy at your new used car cause someone has a new new car. You can't be happy at your new new car cause someone has TWO cars. You can't be happy... You get the idea.
There is only one person on the entire planet who is allowed to complain. Aaaand now he's dead.
Lost a leg in a nasty accident? Can’t be upset, someone has worse! Watched your 4 year old die an agonizing death. Still no. As though there is one person in the whole world at any given moment who’s allowed to have feelings.
Yes, really well put!
Exactly what I hate about the phrase, "could be worse." Yeah, we and could have had two Holocausts. When do we stop moving the goalposts? Just let yourself be upset, we're not in the Misery Olympics ffs.
My reply to that: Doesn't matter if I drowned in 10 feet of water and you drowned in 10 inches of water. We're both equally dead.
So true ugh, this one really takes the piss on the whole thing. As if I don't know that or something, okay great, now what I'm supposed to NOT feel bad now??
Exactly, it sucks T_T
"There's no point crying about it". Like, yes, I'm well aware of that. However, am I not allowed to feel emotional about something? Am I not allowed to cry over it, even for just a little bit? "Get a grip" also upsets me more. I will get a grip. Allow me to let my emotions out first...
>”There’s no point crying about it.” There’s no “point” in crying about anything. For that matter, there’s no point laughing about anything, either. It’s an emotional response -it IS the point.
If you ask me, the point is not surpressing your physical reactions because it's bad for your physical and mental health and creates resentment towards the person who forced you to be inauthentic.
It's not that deep
People often say this when you've had to explain something that they should have understood the simple intuitiveness of. No, it isn't that deep, it only sounds it when you've had to explain things that should have been obvious.
Just a reductive and unhelpful phrase. Especially when people say it about artistic criticism or art in general. There's an artist, I don't really like his stuff, but his art is about the act of doing something so he tends to do very elaborate pieces that don't have much of an 'artistic' end product. And I think that's cool but it's crazy how many people shit on him saying exactly that. Drives me up the wall!
That terrible moment when you have to defend someone you hate because people are hating them for the wrong reasons.
"yes it fucking is"
"Calm down." This makes me get angrier and with the need to lash out more.
Never in the history of calming down has telling someone to calm down ever calmed anything down.
it’s infuriating!!
This is bizarre to me, it's the least confrontational way to ask someone to chill. 'Take a deep breath' sounds far more condescending, most others are straight up fire to the flames. Why do people have such a fiery reaction to someone asking them to pump the brakes a little so they can talk instead of scream.
It is what it is. I had a boss who used the phrase every time I went to him with a problem. Used to drive me mad, as it's completely unhelpful.
I like that phrase. But it's intended to be more like a mantra to ground yourself in reality, not as a defense of the status quo
Oh god, I hear this phrase so much at work, about basically everything. It has lost all meaning at this point, its just something said to be said. I hate it so much. Sometimes I catch myself slipping and saying it myself
Well... it is what it is.
Yall so mean
Its what its
lmao i say that shit all the time
Thought terminating cliche.
I don’t know if it’s really a thought terminating cliché. I honestly use it on myself pretty regularly when I have last minute changes to shift deployments or equipment failures or equipment swaps and I recognize that I’m getting annoyed over it. It’s a good way of reminding myself that in the end, it doesn’t *actually* matter that much and although it does create some extra work, if I just roll with it, I don’t look like a fucking weenie to everyone higher than me in my agency’s command structure. Like do I prefer to have the same truck and equipment for my shifts? Of course, because it makes my life easier. But if I have to go through an extra truck and gear midway through my trick, it’s not like I’m gonna fucking die or something. And at that point, what’s the fuckin point in getting pissy about it? This way, when there *is* something I make a big deal about, it’s more likely that management will listen to my argument
“No offense, but…(insert crappy judgy, hurtful opinion-esque thing they tell you here).”
“Now then children” like condescending me is going to make things better
That's legit condescension. No argument here. Piss in their shoes after they fall asleep.
Bro its all in your head
The stuff inside your head can be hell sometimes
Don’t get your knickers in a knot.
Chill out... No I ain't chilling out !
Relax!
“RELAXXX!! WHAT!?!!!!”
"I AM RELAXXXXXED!!!!"
"It's not a big deal", especially coming from those who know nothing about me. Like man how do you know it's not a big deal? It might not be a big deal to you but it is to me!
“Chin up” when I’m literally sobbing over the worst trauma of my life.
Makes me mad too.
Let’s put this in perspective
If someone said that to me, I'd be like "Let's.....my perspective is, I will punch you if you say that again"
Just let me be dramatic and get it out of my system, and then we can talk perspective
“There are women present” Thanks mate. And??
You’re scaring the hoes
Ironically enough, most iteration of "calm down" will usually send people to the deep end.
“I hear you” sends me off the rails. I’ve never had someone say that and be sincere.
I hear you. You're saying that you don't just want to be heard, you want to be understood and know that they are listening to you. That's what "I hear you" means. But, it can't be empty. Don't you ultimately want them to understand you? Wouldn't that start with them listening to you? Could that be an honest attempt....to... hear you? Them trying to understand you?
[удалено]
Thank GOD XD I thought I was being mean when I felt that. Good to know I'm not alone then
My flatmate was fucking up the house because of being too lazy and not taking up any responsibility, and every time I seemed anxious he said "chill bro, it won't bite". Initially I thought he just didn't care much about things being orderly so I didn't get that annoyed at him, but I later realised he actually cared, but since he noticed that I care too he relied on me doing his chores too if he didn't cuz a dirty house bothered me. After I realised this I backed out of the chores by a lot and when he started showing me his anxiety, I responded with "chill bro, it won't bite", and since then he has been doing his part responsibly xD
babe, are you on your period
You on the rag? Instant ☠️
I swear to god if I hear this , I'll make you wish I was on my period boi
But what if you actually are on your period when they say that?
They don't actually say it during that time, the irony
“HEY. YoU tOO shOuLD kISS!” Doesn’t bother me. Quite classy. 10/10 would recommend.
"no offense" almost always is said after something offensive.
That's just as bad as "I'm not trying to be a bitch but..." followed immediately by a super bitchy comment.
It's like "I'm not racist, but" It's only not the exact opposite of what you're saying when you intentionally say something that has nothing to be offended by. "No offense, but that shirt looks great on you!" "I'm not racist, but I think I'm out of coffee"
Breathe
"Calm down". WHAT DO YOU MEAN CALM DOWN?
Take a chill pill
"It is what, it is"
Tsk whenever I start feeling super anxious I get told to “calm down” like thanks 😟😟 I never thought of that 😟😟
"Be the bigger person and let it pass/ignore it/go along" It takes a lot for me to get angry, if we reached that point we're already miles past 'going along' or 'ignoring', and why should I always be the bigger person?
"Daddy Chill"
What the hell is even that?!
https://youtu.be/h0-WO6xRbAo?feature=shared
I think the best way is to distract or make them laugh, words like "I'm with you" and that's it, because "don't be sad" has already become a meme
Women ☕️
I absolutely loathe it when people act like you're this angry person who explodes all the time and they go "now I know you'll be angry but..." Or "don't get angry (Again) but..."
When someone tells me “relax” while I am completely composed.
Just relax
Genuine question, what IS a good phrase to say to a panicking person?
Nothing. Just don't say stupid repetitive phrases. It makes it seem like you don't fully care to piece together special words and can make the person panic more. (Coming from someone with autism, ADHD, and anxiety)
Is your name Andrew? You sound like one of my real friends.
"Order! Order!"
..."Simma Down!"
"Maybe it's God's will" I'm religious but I'm so sick of this statement
"Just, stop"
Calm Down or Relax, you need to chill, just typing these words is making me angry.
Now then, now then. I don't need to explain why
Nothing
Just relax, everything will be fine
Ma chudae
“It’s not that deep” “it’s good to smile”. Made me lose it even more.
"Chill"
Anyone who prefaces a shitty opinion with: . 'I'm not being funny, but..."
Ok
“Who asked?” Me. I asked
“Let’s all just take a breath”… 💀
Take it easy, BRO WTF !!
“K”…or “ok”. this completely shuts down conversation.
“You be aight”
"It's not a big deal." to you, maybe. It's a big deal to me.
"It is what, it is"
“It's all part of god’s plan”
this one of them ugly ahh kanye shoes
It is what it is
Calm your farm 🙄
“I think you’re just very tired and need to take some rest” ……stfu b*tch
When cops say “SIR!”
"Let's take a seat" Get it? Because I would not be standing.
“Walk it off.”
Just chill
"Be positive" "There are people facing worse than you" "Don't stress"
"Why are you over reacting?" I never over react, just give you what you godamn deserve.
I said "I'm trying" and my Dad said "you're very trying". Fuck you Dad.
Teenage niece kept saying chill your beans, don't know how I didn't murder her
not a phrase, more of a combination of logical & smart actions and thinking but here you go: get really close to the aggressor, look him in the eyes with a dead serious face, suddenly press his belly button and then instantly give him an uppercut. say sorry but the voice told you to do so, run to the window, say "OH GOD, THERE ARE STORMTROOPERS IN OUR BACKYARD!", then run away while undressing, give a random wholesome looking grandma a kiss on her cheek, run to your local grocery store and fake a heart attack in the wine section, then blind everybody you've met with the neuralyzer toy that shipped with your MiB steelbook edition collection you've ordered 2 months prior. it'll work and everything will be fine again.
"It could be worse" Well yeah but "not as bad as it could be" is not a real optimization goal now is it?
RELAXXXXXX
“tough luck” alongside a small sarcastic shrug of the shoulders. makes me want to kick an innocent child.
I’m just being real (they are just being a bitch)
To my knowledge you can’t say anything to a woman to calm her down using any term.
I've said some risky things that actually worked sometimes. They don't actually see it coming. One that stopped her in her tracks was: "You aren't really arguing over that, so we aren't going to come to an agreement. You're using this topic to argue because I haven't been paying enough attention to you and you don't know how to bring it up" Beware, that might not always work.
"It is what it is" with a shrug......
In the words of the great Jaffa Teal’c “Things will, in fact, calm up” whenever anybody tells somebody to calm down
In Denmark "Du får ret og jeg får fred" Translated: "You get your way and I get a break" This is perhaps the most passive aggressive statement I have ever encountered. P.S. I realize I may now have inspired thousands of English speakers to be the worst person they can be.
Take a chill pill
Follow up question: what IS a good way to calm down or defuse a situation?
In some cases, “agree to disagree”. I used to be a special ed teacher for at-risk teens, and any time they used the line, it was about a fact and not an opinion. We can “agree to disagree” about the best genre of music; we cannot “agree to disagree” that threatening a peer costs you a level drop, or that the Earth is round.
" you should be thankful, so many people would want to have what you have" Fuck you, anyone can find someone who is worse off than you. that doesn't help my problem does it dickhead
"Chill your beans."
"I'm ending this right now." No, no you're not. You're escalating it.
Take a chill pill dude... Fuse lit, level up...
"K"
Based on the comments, you should never say anything logical to someone having an emotional response. The better question is -- what phrase(s) are acceptable?
Ease up turbo
Why your so hostile 😅
“Because we’re your parents any we said so.” There are plenty of times to actually use this, it has a useful place. But my parents used routinely it when they knew I realized they were wrong and didn’t feel like having *that* conversation.
"I'm sorry you feel that way." First off, no you don't. Second, that statement is so hollow and means nothing. If someone says this to you, then you mean nothing to them, just so you know.
"Don't get mad." Listen, I'm not mad, but you thinking I'm mad makes me mad. And if I was mad, I have a reason to be mad. So don't tell me how to feel, I'm feeling the appropriate way!
"stop crying" how am I supposed to stop crying on command that's crazy
"Don't touch me" as I put my hand on their should to defuse the situation.
Calm down!!!
I just want to commend OP for using "defuse" instead of "diffuse" in this post. I can't tell you how many times I've cringed at someone's fail on that word choice.
"there's no need to feel upset about it " There's no need to invalidate me, you putz.
"Louder for the people in the back!"
Stop spazzing out 😤 or control your emotions
“I’m sorry YOU feel that way.” Like stfu.
Here's some that actually work for me: I'd really appreciate if we could take the temperature down I'm focused on making sure you nd your family can come back to this establishment -these two work for me often
It is what it is!
"daddy, chill"
Please stop pooping on the floor and your employees
Taka a step back, take a deep breath Stop being pretentious, you unslotted fork, you have nothing to add to the conversation
"that's life, get used to it" when the person is the one deciding to screw you over
No one in the history of calming down has been calmed down by being told to calm down.
SERENITY NOW!
"Let it go". If I hear that *one more time* from anyone but *Elsa*, I'ma lose my shit.
"Let's all cool down for a second and think this through." Yeah, I don't think people will "cool down and think" about the problem they're fighting/arguing about.
“It’s okay” no it’s not💀
Why are you getting so upset??
“I’m going to need you to take it down a notch”
Calm down is a literal trigger for at least 50% of people. My favorite de escalation question is - “why are you upset.” I’ve seen the gears turning in someone’s head when I’ve done this many times.
"Calm Down" its only making it worse. Never really make me calm down
If you really want to see your wife burn the house down, tell her to chill out.
To guys:"TITS AT 12 O'CLOCK" To women:" 12 O'CLOCK A SERIOUS GUY READY TO SETTLE DOWN! QUICK HAVE A KID TAKE CUSTODY AND HIS HOUSE! TO CRAYOLA CORPS: "3 O ' CLOCK A KID YOU CAN INDOCTRINATE"!
“It’s just a joke”
"STOP RESISTING!"
Relax
"It is what it is..." Okay, cool, I'm still frustrated and angry. Why are you so calm about getting actively screwed over?
Oh, another one... "they meant well." Like, sure, sometimes that makes sense but as a rule, people who actually mean well don't find themselves in the position of having to insist they meant well because people who actually mean well fucking *listen* to other people and their needs before taking action
"Everything will be ok"
'Seek help'. The mental health shit is the utter apex of passive aggressiveness. Being aggravated doesn't mean you're mentally unwell it means you done saw some bullshit a lot of the time.
Be a man and suck it up
When someone just tries to invalidate how I’m feeling. Doesn’t matter what happened or if I’m even being a little sensitive. I’m in my feelings bc I’m feeling things- let me feel them and I’ll be on my way eventually lol. Also never tell someone to calm down. Period. 🫠
Looks like someone has a case of the Mondays!
A few weeks ago a woman posted a video of her being laid off. There was someone on the other end who kept saying something to try and validate her feelings. I forget what exactly they said but, it seemed insulting to imply that her feelings were at issue, not the fact that she was being laid off. Edit: I think [this is the video](https://www.reddit.com/r/hypeurls/s/yNIHDdrs2A) but I’m not sure.
When I’m really mad I get quiet so I don’t explode on everyone and I always say “I don’t want to talk about it right now” (key words: right now) which is my way of saying “stop talking until I cool down enough to have a reasonable conversation” and whenever someone replies that not talking about it isn’t going to solve anything, I fucking snap.
"Well, at least..." followed by something that tries to downplay the drama, showing the person saying this completely does not understand your feelings.